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Teen Speaker Second Try
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There will be a teen speaker coming to the family teen room tonight at 8pm est to speak for us. A 20 minute share. I hope you will come and give him your support. You are all invited to join us. See ya there!
At www.12stepforums.net in the familyteen chatroom
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Torn
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Hey Friends
Need some honest advise here. My ex's current girlfriend is having a baby in 6 weeks. This child will be my daughters half sibling. I have the upmost respect for his girlfriend...she is great with my daughter and treats her like her own when shes there for visits.&nb...
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The Interview With God....
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Have you've watched this video? It is beautiful. Follow the link, make sure your speakers are on and click on View Presentation. :)
http://www.theinterviewwithgod.com/
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Mom coming home!!!1
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Mom coming home thought i would share that with yas yay!!!!!! -- Edited by kerry5 at 09:10, 2005-03-31
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I am Terrified & Being Attacked
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I am even afraid to say very much about what has been happening to me (since Tuesday)... I beg of you my friends ask HP to protect me... my ex threatened to kill me so many times I cannot even recall, he told me hundreds of times to kill myself (in the bathtub so it wouldn't be hard or too messy to...
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when is the time change?
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do we set the clocks back tonight?
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Really good song!!
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This is a really good song. I really like it. It reminds me of my mom, the alcoholic in my life. Do u like it?
Kelly Clarkson Because Of You I will not make the same mistakes that you did I will not let myself cause my heart so much misery I will not break the way you did You fell so hard I learned the hard way, to...
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fear sucks!! but its normal
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There is nothing so moving--not even acts of love or hate--as the discovery that one is not alone. --Robert Ardrey
Our fears are normal. Some of us fear going to a new school and making new friends. Taking an important test causes jitters in the bravest looking person. Maybe staying alone in the ho...
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i shall begin again and again
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Clear Thinking
Strive for clear thinking. Many of us have had our thinking clouded by denial. Some of us have even lost faith in ourselves because we've spent a degree of time in denial. But losing faith in our thinking isn't going to help us. What we need to lose faith in is denial.We didn't resort t...
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Thanks for being here for me :)
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If I didn't have you guys, I would surely maybe cease to exist. Sad but true. You are my lifeline and so far have never failed me. Maybe a person with chronic pain and depression shouldn't be here at his chatroom but here I am. I am going to attend a 5 week mental health program starting wednesday to h...
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Read this its my poems
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Can You Feel My Pain?
I’m in my room lying on my bed
There are so many thoughts running through my head
I wipe the tears running down
I ask God why and frown
I go to my drawer and get the knife
God’s tells me please don’t take your life
I shut the door and close my eyes
Sudden...
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Sick and Tired
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You know what I am sick and tired of???
*the fact that my husband, my A, can go out and do whatever / whenever he wants without any regard to our kids or me
*the fact that he can go out and get drunk to get away from his problems
*the fact that I have to do EVERYTHING around this house to make it run
*th...
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my first boundary
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It might seem alittle silly to talk about this but I set up my first boundary. Yesterday this girl wanted to order Chinese I said ok and then when we were figuring it all out she did not include the tip. I ask her why she didn't want to give a tip so she said they earn money why should she pay. So I thought it over...
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detaching...regrouping
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Hope for Today - October 29 Before I came into Al-Anon, I took disparagingcomments to heart. I believed them and found myself wondering what was wrong with me. Even asI became older, I carried inside the person who grew up with alcoholic parents and endured the abuse that accompanied the disease. A...
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Where do I start?
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Hi,
I have come to the point where I just need to get out of my marriage. I'm 48 yrs. old and have 2 children at home, ages 13 and 7, boys. My husband & I have been married for 16 yrs. He is an alcohol & in the past (as far as I know, a drug abuser-coke & pot. He has been of...
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Friendly reminder
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Hi roomies!
Just a friendly reminder that for all of those who are DAYLIGHT SAVINGS TIME, don't forget to set your clocks back 1 hour before you turn in for the night. We all get an extra hour of sleep tonight. Enjoy the extra hour. What this does to the chat room times, I have no idea. I still ha...
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Its my life not yours
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My differentiate World
I live in a world that is different from yours
We live and think differently
I am an extrovert and you sit all alone introverted
We are so diverse yet so linked together
We are like one person with multiple personalities
We see each other as differ...
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this is going to sound nuts
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i had this really freaky dream my wedding band was broken and distorted my husband swears he was faithful now i am not so sure do any of you believe in dreams? years ago when i was with my ex i went to visit my sick grandmother & i had a dream he cheated on me and later i found out he did. i know i sound c...
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Growth and Gratitude
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Last night I went to a different face to face meeting. I met my friend (we met on MIP) and we went to dinner and then to her regular meeting.
What a difference from my regular meeting. People were more open, shared more, and actually laughed. It was refreshing.
The best part was before my f...
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I really need help dealing with this
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I thought I was OK with the divorce. I didn’t like it, never wanted it, but was beginning to accept it. Then she hit me with the tears and sadness about how she screwed things up, she’s so sorry for the way she treated me and the things she did, she didn’t understand till recently what I was going through i...
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YESTERDAY
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Yesterday moring wasn't so great but it turn into a good night though. My friend came down and we had dinner and went to a meeting. My husband went to his first AA meeting since August or July. So it turned out to be a good day.
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sucky day!!! NEED hugs/ encouragment
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You are reading from the book Food for Thought </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=33>.
Food Is Not Home
Breaking abstinence may be an attempt to go home emotionally. Since we associate food, and especially certain foods, with early experience, we may turn to food when we crave th...
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MOre POems of MIne
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My Own Life
Living a lie is how I live
Trust no one unless an issue they give
I live in my own little world
I have been hurt more than you can imagine, or even care
People don’t understand, and look and me and just stare
I pray to my angel up above to take me home because I feel so alone
Wi...
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Fortune Cookie
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I had take-away Chinese food tonight. My fortune cookie said: "God will help you overcome any difficulty". I have been eating Chinese Food for 40 years and never found a religious message in one before. This is just a little too wierd for me!
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it`s all about him
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my partner asked in a very caring manner would you like to veiw your post`s . i thought he was being sweet and lovely. NO he just wanted me to read his post on the A.A. site . he is such a attention seeker. his post was very well written!!!, although a bit random. he also recived a phone call from a chap in A.A. w...
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Brain Cramps
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Hello Roomies,
I got this at work hope it gives you a giggle, this is not meant to upset anyone.
(On September 17, 1994, Alabama's Heather Whitestone was selected as Miss America 1995.) Question: If you could live forever, would you and why? Answer: "I would not...
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The Old Farmers Advice
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* Your fences need to be horse-high, pig-tight and bull-strong. * Keep skunks and bankers and lawyers at a distance. * Life is simpler when you plow around the stump. * A bumble bee is considerably faster than a John Deere tractor. * Words that soak into your ea...
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I need a voice of reason
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Hi all. I've been lurking here for a while, but this is my first post. I really need a voice of reason. I need someone to tell me to get a grip.
Here's my problem: I'm the wife of a recovering alcoholic. He's been sober for three years now. He's heavily involved in AA. He's so heavily involved in AA that I fe...
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Talking to your A
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How do you talk to an A? My husband hasn't drank in 20 years so I am pretty sure that he is sober. He has chosen to "amputate" the relationship. I just can't talk to him on any level. We still have mutual finances, possessions, etc. He at first said that he didn't want to have anything to do with me for a year. N...
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Be Still, And Know That I Am God
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I came across this on the internet and wanted to share it with everyone...
"God, what do you mean to be still and know you are God?"
My child, what I mean is: Though the earth be removed, Though the waters thereof roar and be troubled, Though the mountains shake with swelling, Though the win...
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My family afterwards...
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Hi everyone and thank you for taking the time to read my post.
I'm 33 years old, happily married for 14 years (nov 1) , together almost 19. My husband and I have 3 children. Today is his 6th month anniversary in recovery and I'm more proud of him than you can imagine. However, there is something that I am h...
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Megan I have a question.
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Hi Megan,
You always seem to be bale to answer the question on how Isabella is doing, and I am curious.
How is she doing?
Send her our love, please.
And thank you for playing messenger, I am grateful that she is able to have you as a becaon of alanon hope.
Much Love,
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My poems
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My life as A prisoner
I live my life as a prisoner, and I cannot escape
I’m trapped inside myself
With no where to go no where to hide
I don’t know how many nights I screamed and cried
Nobody seems to ever care
I’m all alone once again
Everything is so serene
Silence is murdering m...
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setting default on message board
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is there a way i can set the default to always show me posts in the order they were modified? So most current replies are near the top of the page?
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It hurts so bad
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It hurts so bad to know that people I considered friends and my mother-in-law are talking about me behind my back. I called her and confronted her tonight and she said she thought it was horrible to leave the way I did (while my husband was at work and the baby was at the beach with the in-laws).&nbs...
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Finances
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OK so we're suppose to let "them" figure things out for themselves, make their own mistakes, etc - but what happens when it affects the family? Before DH was out for 8wks recuperating (from kidney removal) he had been calling in sick (maybe once a month) on Fridays due to overdrinking (he wont admit tha...
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Mind Games
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Boy does my alcoholic husband love playing them.
How do I not fall victim?
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Read a book By James Frey
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I read a book last week by James Frey titled, A Million Little Pieces. He was an addict/alcoholic and jouraled his rehab experience. It helped so much to see addiction from another point of view. I saw him today on Oprak and I think he has been wonderfully successful with his recove...
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leaving DS in Gods hands - going away for wknd
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A friend heard that I joined Curves, joined Church and went to an Al-Anon meeting. She invited me for a Girls Weekend away to chill. I'll enjoy the time shopping, having lunch out, chatting, etc. We're leaving Fri at noontime and returning Sun morn (told her I want to be back in time for Church).
DH wil...
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This program works if you work it but.....
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It isn't an easy journey! My daughter seems to be doing well even though she is living with her now out of prison newest boyfriend who was in prison for 3 years for intervenious drugs,,,grrrr. Trying not to make that my issue. Thank god she doens't bring him to the house. HIs dad and brother...
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Do you believe in Post Traumatic
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I was wondering if anyone else even though your not daily involved with an Active A still suffers from nightmares and images that pop into your head as memories of events. I know it is often referred to as post traumatic disorder. Sometimes I'm just sitting watching tv or driving home and...
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who are the most experienced names on this message board?
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Im starting to recognize a few of the same names on posts, etc.
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update
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Hi Everyone!!!!
I have read some posts but am still behind, the ones I have read seems everyone is working hard at taking care of themselves!!!!
This last week has been interesting. My A came home on the 16th with certain conditions. I feel comfortable with the decisi...
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pls help me stop complaining about DH to DS
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as I know its not helping DS
Everytime DH begins drinking I say to DS "well your father is at it again" His response "Yes, Mom I know"
I know I need to act like the adult here. DS knows whats going on without me making it blatent.
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how do you let your A know youre going to Al-Anon?
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Recently joined Curves - didnt tell A till the next day.
Recently joined another Church - again didnt tell A till the next day
Went to an Al-Anon meeting but told A I went shopping. Well I cant keep "shopping" every week for 3hours! How do I tell him Im going to Al-Anon? (and why are those meetings alwa...
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Online chair needed for Friday AM (10/28)
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Hello -I am asking if someone would fill in for me for this Friday's am meeting (10/28)
I have a doctors appointment at this exact time and will be unable to do it. Thank you to whoever will be able to fill in. Apologize for this inconvenience, I only found out now. Tea2
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mountains or mole hills?
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Problems have only the size and the power that you give them. --S. H.
We will not be free from all difficulties today, or during any period of our lives. But we have the personal power to eliminate the threat, the sting of any challenge. But it's our vision of circumstances that gives them their inte...
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Feeling good
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Hello all,
I have been struggling this week because I have plans this weekend that don't include my family. All weekend. I am attending an alanon function on Saturday. Sunday I am going to a frineds house because she is having some sort of party were you get to try lotions and perfumes and stuff like th...
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Life
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Hi roomies!
For any of you who have not been to: www.hazeldon.org it's worth a look. Sign up for the daily gift. Some of them are quite remarkable. This was today's. Hope you like it.
"Life
Make each day count! Give yourself to everydawn of renewed hope. Look for love, forgiveness, and right...
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i am sad today...another grief cycle
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Subject: Meditation: A Resting Place Daily Reflections, page 137
After writing down my character defects, I was unwilling to talk about them, and decided it was time to stop carrying this burden alone. I needed to confess those defects to someone else... Step Five provided m...
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GOT HELP
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Yesterday I came home and my husband didn't seem right. He was acting funny. He was talking funny well any way, after a while his adult son and I had enough of this behavior. He didn't know where he was and stuff like that. I end up calling my online sponsor. In the mean time I was like baby sitting him, it rea...
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I pour his booze down the sink
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every week Im pouring 16 oz (from 1/2gal bottle) of vodka down the sink and replacing his bottle with water. Been doing this for lets say about 10yrs now. He's never questioned me - how can he not know? We have a now 13yr at home. When he was little I wouldnt want him home w/Dad drinking. At least this way I wo...
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I think I've learned One thing
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And that is to try and take care of me. So I'm learning. I'm taking baby steps. My A is very important to me. My A is difficult. My A is my source of income. My A USED to be my life. I'm so confused now. Society thinks life is so easy. "Oh just move out and leave." Well it's not. I don't know. Can someone enlighten...
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thank you everyone
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hi
thank you for your support, its really appriated,
i feel a bit better tonight.
many thanks
jean
take care
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abstaining from bad relationships
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Abstaining from Harmful Relationships
Habit sometimes locks us into relationships, which are not in our best interest. It is easy to mistake dependency for love. When we stop overeating compulsively, we can evaluate our attachments to other people with greater clarity and perception than w...
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emotional subriety
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Emotional Sobriety "If we examine every disturbance we have, great or small, we will find at the root of it some unhealthy dependency and its consequent unhealthy demand. Let us, with God's help, continually surrender these hobbling liabilities. Then we can be set free to live and love; we may then b...
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Anne Frank and my gratitude
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Whoever is happy will make others happy, too. --Anne Frank
Anne Frank had good reason to be unhappy, full of fear, and deeply discouraged. Years of her life were spent in a small apartment hiding from the Nazis who wanted to destroy her and her family. Yet even in this little hiding place she had hap...
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like to thank MEGAN AND LUCY
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I WOULD LIKE TO THANK TWO IMPORTANT PEOPLE HERE ONLINE LUCY AND MEGAN FOR ALL THERE HELP.
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I went back to Church last Christmas season
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for about 6wks during Advent. Once Christmas arrived I stopped going to Church.
Now that I joined a different Catholic Church Im going for the AA aspect too, not just the Christmas season. I believe the pastor is a recovering alcoholic. He works at a rehab also. His sermons speak sometimes of alcoho...
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party`s
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i am a great believer in a bit of planning. my partner has done so well 54 days sober . but the christmas season of party`s will be with us soon. we have been out a few times .he has been tempted but has resisted so far but alcohol is a cunning seducer that calls. And we have a few social/ work party`s to go too. i...
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