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Cathy · Cathy

I'm really tired of living in a drunken world. I say drunken world because my b/f is my world and drunk most days. When we met I was just as bad. I've seen him burn himself and cut himself. Why do I still love him? Because when he's sober he's the best thing in the world. Anyway.....not sure how long I can do th...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello all! I am back and don't anticipate being gone again like that. Hope you all are doing well. Much Love,

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

In His Own Individual Right (taken from the book Came To Believe) Spirituality is an awakening- or is it all the loose ends woven together into a mellow fabric? It's understanding- or is it all the knowledge one need ever know? It's freedom- If you consider fear slavery. Its confide...

sanddie · sanddie

I just wanted to share my response to Rosie's thread, Learning to Trust... These posts are awesome! Thank you and Thank God for his grace, mercy, comfort and peace to get us through. :) As you, I am aware of "the devils parlor". I believe that is how you put it.&n...

Cathy · Cathy

A drunk thinks the world revolves around them? Why? I think I know why but can't accept it. Living in a drunk world really sucks so I guess it's time to get out. The drunk in my life wonders what my problem is? Hell..............maybe I have the problem. I know I don't. I know what I need to do. I don't even kn...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i always see the words coda and halt in posts and chat what do these stand for?

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

...words are more powerful than perhaps anyone suspects, and once deeply engraved in a child's mind, they are not easily eradicated. --May Sarton How burdened we became, as little girls, with the labels applied by parents, teachers, even school chums. We believe about ourselves what others t...

chrissy · chrissy

my daughters father won't stop propositioning me. he figures that i am lonely and he can get his way back in remember he is married. i would never ever ruin my marriage for anyone. he called like 6 am this morning and i wasn't even awake. i got scared & answered the phone. he tol...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Self-knowledge and self-improvement are very difficult for most people. It usually needs great courage and long struggle. --Abraham Maslow This is a simple program but it isn't easy. We cannot take the principles we learn and thereby possess them as if we were taking a class or reading a book. W...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. --D. H. Lawrence Sometimes when we feel sorry for ourselves we will sit alone in our bedroom. We may even feel so down in the dumps that we decide to stay there, indulging in self-pity, thinking about how the world is against us. However, if we use our imagina...

kitty · kitty

After all the praying I did yesterday @ my folk's home (& I Blessed it)... today driving over there I got a rush of ecstacy, pure joy & I actually cried a little it was so overwhelming & I realized I do not have to seek to love anyone --- I mean, up to yesterday, I kept calling mys...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Learning to Trust Again Many of us have trust issues.Some of us tried long and hard to trust untrustworthy people. Over and again, we believed lies and promises never to be kept. Some of us tried to trust people for the impossible; for instance, trusting a practicing alcoholic not to drink again....

chrissy · chrissy

my x called 3x more today on my cell & when i saw it was him i gave my daughter the phone to answer it and i let her talk to him.

my husband came & took us to bowling. my daughter took her boy friend. we had a great time and she kissed my husband , high fived when she got a strike or he did to...

WakingUp · WakingUp

I'm just noticing today how screwed up my thinking is. I recently started a new job with a new supervisor, which was a wonderful thing because it allowed me to get away from a rageaholic boss in my previous position. I seem to have carried over my lack of confidence and fear of authority int...

shimo · shimo

I am unable to honor my commitment to chair the Monday morning Al-Anon meeting. I have an appointment with the rhuematologist and will not be returning home in time to chair. Thank you very much to whom ever might be able to chair for me on Monday.&nbs...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Love Takes Time Love takes time. It needs a history of giving and receiving, laughing and crying... Love never promises instant gratification, only ultimate fulfillment. Love means believing in someone, in something. It supposes a willingness to struggle, to work, to suffer, and to rej...

chrissy · chrissy

today met my a for lunch. all week long he asked are you coming for lunch on friday . today was such a cold damp day i just wanted to stay in bed. but i went anyway he fixed my car,did an oil change & everthing that he though my car needed & paid f...

sanddie · sanddie

So is there a difference? Being alone vs' being lonely-- I believe there is.... There are often times I am lonely because I work, take care of my children, go to school and have no social life, no husband/no boyfriend, my friends are busy so I have those days that I feel lonely...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I have to do a research paper and i decided to do it on Children of Alcoholics but I'm not sure what aspect I should do it on since this is such a broad subject. If you have any ideas let me know, ASAP! Lanchas

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hey you all, i must be chaning/ improving/ healing...becuz this "take" on the Hope for Today was totally from my first thoughts...... Hope for Today - October 22 Making amends isn't about apologizing for every problem. It's about figuring out how a relationshi...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well i just got home from work and my house is a disaster. he did not take any of his stuff but had people here while i wasnt home. im so angry and hurt right now. i dont even know what to write on here about. i just know i should to help me through this. i am a zombie right now. i dont know what to think. he left all h...

tea2 · tea2

“Enabling” To quote from "Courage to Change", page 32. “If I choose to stop contributing to the problem, I do so because it seems to be the right thing to do, something that will help me to feel better about myself. When I change my behavior, the behavior of those around me may also change, but th...

marmare · marmare

Oh my goodness, if you read my postings you know how wonderful my mom is. Today was one of the days she frustrated me to no end. She always calls me at work in the morning on Mondays and Fridays....(no boss in on those days, Mom's 82 and likes a schedule) So she asked what I was doing after work....

nmike · nmike

Hi all, Thanks for your continued support and insight when I post. I think that my HP is working at little for me. I was listening to an Alanon tape and she said that meetings (read message board) are not necessarily for saying how it is but how it can be. This is what has happened for me. My cat died la...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, In a previouse post someone had posted that the best thing to do was apologize and not expect an apology in return. That is was a loving thing to do, to forgive without being asked to. Here is a big problem of mine. I seem to be expected to apologize for everything. If my husband and his parents had t...

browneyes · browneyes

Hi guys Hope you are all well. Thought I would post and let everyone know that my daughter finally got a spot in the after school daycare so I can now start working. And yesterday I interviewed and got a job at the first place. Yay! I start in the next week. The problem is now I am having t...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

faith in the "process" hi everyone, i usually do my shares on the "dailys" taken off the NA/ AA/ Hazeldon , however today i am going to do a share on MY daily....."faith in the process" this is my own journal on having "blind faith in the process"....... as i have traversed in my r...

pixel04 · pixel04

Thanks to everyone for responding to my post yesterday - I really appreicate it. After I posted last night, I remembered there was a meeting nearby, and I decided to go (all those meetings where I've heard "if you're thinking about going to a meeting you should probably go" kicked in for me.. lol)....

recoverkhristy · recoverkhristy

In alot of ways in my life I keep doing the same things, the same way, and expecting different outcomes! Duh. Thats the definition of insanity. When am I going to learn? I hope soon because I am driving myself crazy!! My reaction to situations dont help either. I spend too much money and get stressed out w...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

everything was wonderful between me and my a the past two weeks. last night everything changed again. he went out drinking/drugging and didnt come home. today he told me his is sick of living like this and wont quit drinking. so i told him if your really unhappy then leave. he said fine, just like that. h...

Satori · Satori

Hello Everyone - I am survivor of child sexual abuse by my father. On Dec. 10, 1994, similar to a day an addict would choose not to use again, I chose a day to no longer be a victim but a survivor. Having been educated in many avenues of recovery up to that point, I embraced the 12-step progra...

nycbt · nycbt

I am angry with what happen last night. I work very hard on my tempter. I did well I didn't call him that much which was a good thing. I didn't go running after him which was another good thing. I didn't cry when he left. But I did snap and I end up hitting him lightly. But I yelled I lost it. I am mad that I am going...

Ratchie · Ratchie

The following is a quote from the book "The Four Agreements" by Miguel Ruiz "The limit of your self-abuse is exactly the limit that you will tolerate from someone else. If someone abuses you a little more than you abuse yourself, you will probably walk away from that person. But if some...

Christy · Christy

I am responsible for... from "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie I am responsible for myself. I am responsible for leading or not living my life. I am responsible for tending to my spiritual, emotional, physical, and financial well-being. I am responsible for identifying...

sanddie · sanddie

I can't sleep-- too much going on. My ex had me in court today to continue to keep the relationship going in anyway possible since our divorce 9 years ago. We have kids, so he uses the kids to get to me... Ok, so I got through that concept, so now he uses any means to bring me into court to financially sabotage...

nycbt · nycbt

Last night was not a good night.Well at the job he was working out he ws very arguementive. Then it started when he wanted to take my car while was at my meeting. In the begin I didn't want him too but I thought how much trouble can he get into a hour. I told him I wanted him to be back in an hour. When I came out he w...

hudsond · hudsond

Thank you so much for all of your prayers yesterday. It was a good day. I kept the computer on this website all day. I tried not to worry and did pretty good. When I did begin to worry I would say a prayer and try to let it go. When I got home--he was home and sober. I was so ha...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi all, I'm feeling down so i came here to vent a little. I just did my check book and I'm short minus -$28.00. I know it not much but something going to bounce. I've been looking around the house for short change and found some only $10 left to find. ...

pixel04 · pixel04

I've been having some trouble in my marriage lately. I have talked about it with my sponsor, and at her suggestion I've sought outside help to help me figure out how to handle it. I've never done anything like this before, and I'm not confortable with it. I've searched around and seen a few people and s...

hudsond · hudsond

I am not looking forward to today. I am extrememly worried about my a. We got a letter in the mail yesterday about his latest law stuff. They want to make a deal, but it isn't a good deal. He was upset, but acted alright to begin with. By 1:00 this morning he was all down and...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

j this daily, i really needed.....last night was *nighmare on elm street* for me...with my A and NA brother, flipping out........ Detaching with Love Sometimes people we love do things we don't like or approve of. We react. They react. Before long, we're all reacting to eac...

sg · sg

blech...what a night. A. was suppose to go to work out of town and our daughter had wanted to plan a bday party for 14 of her friends while he was gone. Bon fire, scarey movies, pizza and sleep over. Plan was since the A. is rather impatient, tempermental and so unhappy damn near all of the time that we w...

bcraindrop70 · bcraindrop70

Hi all I am new here. I have been married to my A for 7 years (together for 12). We have had a very roller coaster relationship as most of us have. In 2002 we seperated for a period of 10 mos. He went in to a rehab program, and I went back to him. He was still an active A but t...

bd · bd

Hey Gals & Guy's Going to see my parents this weekend as I posted before. For some reason I feel this calm. Even though I'm disappointed because they never call and when I get there my dad will be sitting drunk in his van. I just really miss them. Even if they are both disf...

jj · jj

If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of the Twelve Steps, our lives will be transformed. We will become mature, responsible individuals with a great capacity for joy, fulfillment, and wonder. Though we may never be perfect, continued spiritual progress...

nycbt · nycbt

My dad signed himself into a rehab this weekend. It is the 4th attempt at this. I spent some time with my mom because I didn't want her to get lonely. My mom is a strong person. She is going to have to go to a program which maybe she will then end up going into alanon as well. I can only hope. But I am happy f...

Cathy · Cathy

What a beautiful mastiff you have. Here are my two. Hopefully it'll work. :)

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Group, I have not posted in quite a while. I guess I have strayed from working program, but have still been focusing on changes to myself. I have recently been working on refinancing my home to lower my monthly cost of living expenses. I believe I had posted previously that...

marmare · marmare

It's been three days since my A returned home. I thought when he came home he would come back with a chip on his shoulder, he didn't. He returned home very humble. He shared how he missed me, even though he said he didn't, he said he was hurt and wanted to hurt me back. (this is the...

Cathy · Cathy

Hello, I hope I'm in the right place. My b/f is an alcoholic and I'm trying to deal with it. I'd love to talk with others who are going through the same thing. Thank You. Cathy

warramra · warramra

Hi. I have been reading through and trying to decide if I should post or not. Normally not very good on these boards. I am a sober A in recovery (11 yrs) married to an A who is in the middle of a relapse after 12 yrs. He started drinking sometime this summer with me clueing in sometime in early Sept. I have...

hadit · hadit

Hi everyone, Thank you all for your input in my last two posts. As always they were very helpful and insightful. More importantly, they made me think about decisions I have to make in my own life to benefit me. Wow, I just realized what I said in that last statement...I put me first! I thin...

nycbt · nycbt

If you are willing to sponsor someone please put you name down. Maybe we can hook people up so they will have good matches and helps everyone. There is alot of people including me that are looking for online sponsors. -- Edited by nycbt at 13:49, 2005-10-18

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - October 20 In my first Al-Anon meeting, I listened intently to other people share. One woman spoke of feeling as if she were in a dark and lonely place, like the bottom of a well. The tools of the program helped her see the light at the top of the well, but it was still going to be a t...

mastiff · mastiff

hi all, had a bit of a hard night last night with my a. I got a bit jelous and fearful when he decided he was going to take a day off work right before we go on vaction in Nov. The reason he wanted to take a day off is to do a favor for a sponsee of his.... the reason i got jelous and fearful is bec...

WakingUp · WakingUp

Went to Al-Anon last night feeling pretty good. No new crises in our home this week etc. After listening for awhile, though, I didn't feel as happy. There was one reading in particular that they real regularly at this meeting from one of the pieces of literature (I think it was in my...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Not Just Another Customer Service Call Customer: Okay, I'm done. LOVE has started installing itself automatically. Is that normal? Service Rep: Yes it is. You should receive a message that says it will reinstall for the life of your HEART. Do you see that message? Customer: Yes I do. Is it completely...

debilyn · debilyn

She has been by his side thru it all. Until she saw the man she loved turn into a 70 pound man. He died this morning. please say a prayer for our sheila in England and her A. send her love, love yous,debilyn

kerry5 · kerry5

There is a alateen speaker coming to speak for the teens on Sunday at 8pm est in the Family TEEn chatroom. You are all welcome to come and give him your support and listen to a teen thats been in recovery for a long time.. I can't wait... I hope you will come give your support Thanks ke...

jj · jj

Tonight I lost my temper with my A husband. I was fumming mad when he got home but rather than saying any thing or yelling like I would have before alanon I just left. I did hang up on him earlier and when I did actually loose my temper let him know that his deception did anger me... It cou...

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	I need to vent (Preview) I'm really tired of living in a drunken world. I say drunken world because my b/f is my world and drunk most days. When we met I was just as bad. I've seen him burn himself and cut himself. Why do I still love him? Because when he's sober he's the best thing in the world. Anyway.....not sure how long I can do th...	Cathy	10	679	Oct 24, 2005 by nycbt
	Back Again (Preview) Hello all! I am back and don't anticipate being gone again like that. Hope you all are doing well. Much Love,	Dolphin123	5	538	Oct 24, 2005 by nycbt
	spirituality (Preview) In His Own Individual Right (taken from the book Came To Believe) Spirituality is an awakening- or is it all the loose ends woven together into a mellow fabric? It's understanding- or is it all the knowledge one need ever know? It's freedom- If you consider fear slavery. Its confide...	notsonew1111	0	590	Oct 24, 2005 by notsonew1111
	World vs Eternity in response to trusting again... (Preview) I just wanted to share my response to Rosie's thread, Learning to Trust... These posts are awesome! Thank you and Thank God for his grace, mercy, comfort and peace to get us through. :) As you, I am aware of "the devils parlor". I believe that is how you put it.&n...	sanddie	3	621	Oct 23, 2005 by sanddie
	Why is it............. (Preview) A drunk thinks the world revolves around them? Why? I think I know why but can't accept it. Living in a drunk world really sucks so I guess it's time to get out. The drunk in my life wonders what my problem is? Hell..............maybe I have the problem. I know I don't. I know what I need to do. I don't even kn...	Cathy	3	1016	Oct 23, 2005 by nmike
	definitions please (Preview) i always see the words coda and halt in posts and chat what do these stand for?	notsonew1111	2	363	Oct 23, 2005 by notsonew1111
	"name calling" (Preview) *...words are more powerful than perhaps anyone suspects, and once deeply engraved in a child's mind, they are not easily eradicated. --May Sarton* How burdened we became, as little girls, with the labels applied by parents, teachers, even school chums. We believe about ourselves what others t...	rosie light shines	1	832	Oct 23, 2005 by canadianguy
	help new problem with daughters father (Preview) my daughters father won't stop propositioning me. he figures that i am lonely and he can get his way back in remember he is married. i would never ever ruin my marriage for anyone. he called like 6 am this morning and i wasn't even awake. i got scared & answered the phone. he tol...	chrissy	17	595	Oct 23, 2005 by rosie light shines
	reaping what i sew in the 12Steps (Preview) *Self-knowledge and self-improvement are very difficult for most people. It usually needs great courage and long struggle. --Abraham Maslow* This is a simple program but it isn't easy. We cannot take the principles we learn and thereby possess them as if we were taking a class or reading a book. W...	rosie light shines	0	484	Oct 23, 2005 by rosie light shines
	focusing on the SOLUTION (Preview) *I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. --D. H. Lawrence* Sometimes when we feel sorry for ourselves we will sit alone in our bedroom. We may even feel so down in the dumps that we decide to stay there, indulging in self-pity, thinking about how the world is against us. However, if we use our imagina...	rosie light shines	0	509	Oct 23, 2005 by rosie light shines
	ecstatic joy (Preview) After all the praying I did yesterday @ my folk's home (& I Blessed it)... today driving over there I got a rush of ecstacy, pure joy & I actually cried a little it was so overwhelming & I realized I do not have to seek to love anyone --- I mean, up to yesterday, I kept calling mys...	kitty	2	355	Oct 23, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Learning to trust again (Preview) Learning to Trust Again Many of us have trust issues.Some of us tried long and hard to trust untrustworthy people. Over and again, we believed lies and promises never to be kept. Some of us tried to trust people for the impossible; for instance, trusting a practicing alcoholic not to drink again....	rosie light shines	2	549	Oct 23, 2005 by rosie light shines
	hi guys just wanted to let you lnow about my day (Preview) my x called 3x more today on my cell & when i saw it was him i gave my daughter the phone to answer it and i let her talk to him. my husband came & took us to bowling. my daughter took her boy friend. we had a great time and she kissed my husband , high fived when she got a strike or he did to...	chrissy	7	827	Oct 23, 2005 by chrissy
	Sick Thinking (Preview) I'm just noticing today how screwed up my thinking is. I recently started a new job with a new supervisor, which was a wonderful thing because it allowed me to get away from a rageaholic boss in my previous position. I seem to have carried over my lack of confidence and fear of authority int...	WakingUp	2	526	Oct 23, 2005 by WakingUp
	CHAIRPERSON MONDAY AM MTG (Preview) I am unable to honor my commitment to chair the Monday morning Al-Anon meeting. I have an appointment with the rhuematologist and will not be returning home in time to chair. Thank you very much to whom ever might be able to chair for me on Monday.&nbs...	shimo	1	398	Oct 23, 2005 by kerry5
	love takes time (Preview) Love Takes Time Love takes time. It needs a history of giving and receiving, laughing and crying... Love never promises instant gratification, only ultimate fulfillment. Love means believing in someone, in something. It supposes a willingness to struggle, to work, to suffer, and to rej...	rosie light shines	3	322	Oct 23, 2005 by Karilynn
	i'm flipping out it's friday the night he usally disapears (Preview) today met my a for lunch. all week long he asked are you coming for lunch on friday . today was such a cold damp day i just wanted to stay in bed. but i went anyway he fixed my car,did an oil change & everthing that he though my car needed & paid f...	chrissy	6	438	Oct 23, 2005 by Diva
	Being Alone vs' Being Lonely (Preview) So is there a difference? Being alone vs' being lonely-- I believe there is.... There are often times I am lonely because I work, take care of my children, go to school and have no social life, no husband/no boyfriend, my friends are busy so I have those days that I feel lonely...	sanddie	8	734	Oct 23, 2005 by Diva
	College work Ideas? (Preview) I have to do a research paper and i decided to do it on Children of Alcoholics but I'm not sure what aspect I should do it on since this is such a broad subject. If you have any ideas let me know, ASAP! Lanchas	Lanchas	8	336	Oct 22, 2005 by Lanchas
	FINALLY i can "erase his name" (Preview) hey you all, i must be chaning/ improving/ healing...becuz this "take" on the Hope for Today was totally from my first thoughts...... Hope for Today - October 22 Making amends isn't about apologizing for every problem. It's about figuring out how a relationshi...	rosie light shines	2	918	Oct 22, 2005 by kitty
	alone now (Preview) well i just got home from work and my house is a disaster. he did not take any of his stuff but had people here while i wasnt home. im so angry and hurt right now. i dont even know what to write on here about. i just know i should to help me through this. i am a zombie right now. i dont know what to think. he left all h...	notsonew1111	6	814	Oct 22, 2005 by nmike
	Enabling/for today (Preview) “Enabling” To quote from "Courage to Change", page 32. “If I choose to stop contributing to the problem, I do so because it seems to be the right thing to do, something that will help me to feel better about myself. When I change my behavior, the behavior of those around me may also change, but th...	tea2	2	593	Oct 22, 2005 by Flora123
	Friday (Preview) Oh my goodness, if you read my postings you know how wonderful my mom is. Today was one of the days she frustrated me to no end. She always calls me at work in the morning on Mondays and Fridays....(no boss in on those days, Mom's 82 and likes a schedule) So she asked what I was doing after work....	marmare	6	537	Oct 22, 2005 by Dolphin123
	how it can be ...... (Preview) Hi all, Thanks for your continued support and insight when I post. I think that my HP is working at little for me. I was listening to an Alanon tape and she said that meetings (read message board) are not necessarily for saying how it is but how it can be. This is what has happened for me. My cat died la...	nmike	5	446	Oct 22, 2005 by browneyes
	Confused (Preview) Hi, In a previouse post someone had posted that the best thing to do was apologize and not expect an apology in return. That is was a loving thing to do, to forgive without being asked to. Here is a big problem of mine. I seem to be expected to apologize for everything. If my husband and his parents had t...	Jeannie	11	650	Oct 22, 2005 by browneyes
	News (Preview) Hi guys Hope you are all well. Thought I would post and let everyone know that my daughter finally got a spot in the after school daycare so I can now start working. And yesterday I interviewed and got a job at the first place. Yay! I start in the next week. The problem is now I am having t...	browneyes	7	330	Oct 22, 2005 by browneyes
	TODAY, i will have faith in the process (Preview) faith in the "process" hi everyone, i usually do my shares on the "dailys" taken off the NA/ AA/ Hazeldon , however today i am going to do a share on MY daily....."faith in the process" this is my own journal on having "blind faith in the process"....... as i have traversed in my r...	rosie light shines	3	557	Oct 22, 2005 by kitty
	Faith (Preview) Thanks to everyone for responding to my post yesterday - I really appreicate it. After I posted last night, I remembered there was a meeting nearby, and I decided to go (all those meetings where I've heard "if you're thinking about going to a meeting you should probably go" kicked in for me.. lol)....	pixel04	3	338	Oct 21, 2005 by recoverkhristy
	Doing the same things expecting different outcomes= insanity (Preview) In alot of ways in my life I keep doing the same things, the same way, and expecting different outcomes! Duh. Thats the definition of insanity. When am I going to learn? I hope soon because I am driving myself crazy!! My reaction to situations dont help either. I spend too much money and get stressed out w...	recoverkhristy	6	444	Oct 21, 2005 by recoverkhristy
	need some support (Preview) everything was wonderful between me and my a the past two weeks. last night everything changed again. he went out drinking/drugging and didnt come home. today he told me his is sick of living like this and wont quit drinking. so i told him if your really unhappy then leave. he said fine, just like that. h...	notsonew1111	4	689	Oct 21, 2005 by canadianguy
	11 years recovery and now on the other end (Preview) Hello Everyone - I am survivor of child sexual abuse by my father. On Dec. 10, 1994, similar to a day an addict would choose not to use again, I chose a day to no longer be a victim but a survivor. Having been educated in many avenues of recovery up to that point, I embraced the 12-step progra...	Satori	11	712	Oct 21, 2005 by rosie light shines
	I am angry (Preview) I am angry with what happen last night. I work very hard on my tempter. I did well I didn't call him that much which was a good thing. I didn't go running after him which was another good thing. I didn't cry when he left. But I did snap and I end up hitting him lightly. But I yelled I lost it. I am mad that I am going...	nycbt	7	405	Oct 21, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Abuse / Self-Abuse (Preview) The following is a quote from the book "The Four Agreements" by Miguel Ruiz "The limit of your self-abuse is exactly the limit that you will tolerate from someone else. If someone abuses you a little more than you abuse yourself, you will probably walk away from that person. But if some...	Ratchie	7	707	Oct 21, 2005 by kitty
	I am responsible for... (Preview) I am responsible for... from "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie I am responsible for myself. I am responsible for leading or not living my life. I am responsible for tending to my spiritual, emotional, physical, and financial well-being. I am responsible for identifying...	Christy	5	415	Oct 21, 2005 by nmike
	Just When We Think We Have It All Worked Out.... (Preview) I can't sleep-- too much going on. My ex had me in court today to continue to keep the relationship going in anyway possible since our divorce 9 years ago. We have kids, so he uses the kids to get to me... Ok, so I got through that concept, so now he uses any means to bring me into court to financially sabotage...	sanddie	9	547	Oct 21, 2005 by Satori
	Last night (Preview) Last night was not a good night.Well at the job he was working out he ws very arguementive. Then it started when he wanted to take my car while was at my meeting. In the begin I didn't want him too but I thought how much trouble can he get into a hour. I told him I wanted him to be back in an hour. When I came out he w...	nycbt	4	625	Oct 21, 2005 by nycbt
	Thanks/ wondering (Preview) Thank you so much for all of your prayers yesterday. It was a good day. I kept the computer on this website all day. I tried not to worry and did pretty good. When I did begin to worry I would say a prayer and try to let it go. When I got home--he was home and sober. I was so ha...	hudsond	3	529	Oct 21, 2005 by Jeannie
	having a bad morning (Preview) Hi all, I'm feeling down so i came here to vent a little. I just did my check book and I'm short minus -$28.00. I know it not much but something going to bounce. I've been looking around the house for short change and found some only $10 left to find. ...	nikkilou	3	303	Oct 21, 2005 by Emmie11
	just a little scared (Preview) I've been having some trouble in my marriage lately. I have talked about it with my sponsor, and at her suggestion I've sought outside help to help me figure out how to handle it. I've never done anything like this before, and I'm not confortable with it. I've searched around and seen a few people and s...	pixel04	7	466	Oct 21, 2005 by lin0606
	trying not to worry (Preview) I am not looking forward to today. I am extrememly worried about my a. We got a letter in the mail yesterday about his latest law stuff. They want to make a deal, but it isn't a good deal. He was upset, but acted alright to begin with. By 1:00 this morning he was all down and...	hudsond	3	403	Oct 21, 2005 by kitty
	BAAAD night last night with my A/NA brother (Preview) *j this daily, i really needed.....last night was nighmare on elm street* for me...with my A and NA brother, flipping out........ Detaching with Love** Sometimes people we love do things we don't like or approve of. We react. They react. Before long, we're all reacting to eac...	rosie light shines	4	473	Oct 20, 2005 by kitty
	We're just miserable (Preview) blech...what a night. A. was suppose to go to work out of town and our daughter had wanted to plan a bday party for 14 of her friends while he was gone. Bon fire, scarey movies, pizza and sleep over. Plan was since the A. is rather impatient, tempermental and so unhappy damn near all of the time that we w...	sg	10	595	Oct 20, 2005 by sg
	Where do I go from here? (Preview) Hi all I am new here. I have been married to my A for 7 years (together for 12). We have had a very roller coaster relationship as most of us have. In 2002 we seperated for a period of 10 mos. He went in to a rehab program, and I went back to him. He was still an active A but t...	bcraindrop70	4	476	Oct 20, 2005 by leo
	This Weekend (Preview) Hey Gals & Guy's Going to see my parents this weekend as I posted before. For some reason I feel this calm. Even though I'm disappointed because they never call and when I get there my dad will be sitting drunk in his van. I just really miss them. Even if they are both disf...	bd	2	322	Oct 20, 2005 by leo
	A share from survival to recovery (Preview) If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of the Twelve Steps, our lives will be transformed. We will become mature, responsible individuals with a great capacity for joy, fulfillment, and wonder. Though we may never be perfect, continued spiritual progress...	jj	1	563	Oct 20, 2005 by Peggy7
	MY DAD (Preview) My dad signed himself into a rehab this weekend. It is the 4th attempt at this. I spent some time with my mom because I didn't want her to get lonely. My mom is a strong person. She is going to have to go to a program which maybe she will then end up going into alanon as well. I can only hope. But I am happy f...	nycbt	7	475	Oct 20, 2005 by Flora123
	This is for Mastiff (Preview) What a beautiful mastiff you have. Here are my two. Hopefully it'll work. :)	Cathy	7	429	Oct 20, 2005 by dogscribe
	Coming out of my hole (Preview) Hello Group, I have not posted in quite a while. I guess I have strayed from working program, but have still been focusing on changes to myself. I have recently been working on refinancing my home to lower my monthly cost of living expenses. I believe I had posted previously that...	twinmom2	5	492	Oct 20, 2005 by twinmom2
	No Crisis (Preview) It's been three days since my A returned home. I thought when he came home he would come back with a chip on his shoulder, he didn't. He returned home very humble. He shared how he missed me, even though he said he didn't, he said he was hurt and wanted to hurt me back. (this is the...	marmare	5	397	Oct 20, 2005 by nycbt
	I'm new here. (Preview) Hello, I hope I'm in the right place. My b/f is an alcoholic and I'm trying to deal with it. I'd love to talk with others who are going through the same thing. Thank You. Cathy	Cathy	21	528	Oct 20, 2005 by nycbt
	New Here (Preview) Hi. I have been reading through and trying to decide if I should post or not. Normally not very good on these boards. I am a sober A in recovery (11 yrs) married to an A who is in the middle of a relapse after 12 yrs. He started drinking sometime this summer with me clueing in sometime in early Sept. I have...	warramra	10	436	Oct 20, 2005 by nycbt
	My Decision List & Thank You's (Preview) Hi everyone, Thank you all for your input in my last two posts. As always they were very helpful and insightful. More importantly, they made me think about decisions I have to make in my own life to benefit me. Wow, I just realized what I said in that last statement...I put me first! I thin...	hadit	5	481	Oct 20, 2005 by kitty
	PEOPLE THAT ARE WILLING TO SPONSOR (Preview) If you are willing to sponsor someone please put you name down. Maybe we can hook people up so they will have good matches and helps everyone. There is alot of people including me that are looking for online sponsors. -- Edited by nycbt at 13:49, 2005-10-18	nycbt	3	355	Oct 20, 2005 by hudsond
	transferring the focus onto me (Preview) Hope for Today - October 20 In my first Al-Anon meeting, I listened intently to other people share. One woman spoke of feeling as if she were in a dark and lonely place, like the bottom of a well. The tools of the program helped her see the light at the top of the well, but it was still going to be a t...	rosie light shines	0	365	Oct 20, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Trying to work my program (Preview) hi all, had a bit of a hard night last night with my a. I got a bit jelous and fearful when he decided he was going to take a day off work right before we go on vaction in Nov. The reason he wanted to take a day off is to do a favor for a sponsee of his.... the reason i got jelous and fearful is bec...	mastiff	7	457	Oct 20, 2005 by WakingUp
	Not Doing As Well As I Thought (Preview) Went to Al-Anon last night feeling pretty good. No new crises in our home this week etc. After listening for awhile, though, I didn't feel as happy. There was one reading in particular that they real regularly at this meeting from one of the pieces of literature (I think it was in my...	WakingUp	5	515	Oct 20, 2005 by WakingUp
	not just an ordinary service call (Preview) Not Just Another Customer Service Call Customer: Okay, I'm done. LOVE has started installing itself automatically. Is that normal? Service Rep: Yes it is. You should receive a message that says it will reinstall for the life of your HEART. Do you see that message? Customer: Yes I do. Is it completely...	rosie light shines	3	335	Oct 20, 2005 by shimo
	An A dies, but not alone (Preview) She has been by his side thru it all. Until she saw the man she loved turn into a 70 pound man. He died this morning. please say a prayer for our sheila in England and her A. send her love, love yous,debilyn	debilyn	18	688	Oct 20, 2005 by jonibaloni21
	Family Teen Support (Preview) There is a alateen speaker coming to speak for the teens on Sunday at 8pm est in the Family TEEn chatroom. You are all welcome to come and give him your support and listen to a teen thats been in recovery for a long time.. I can't wait... I hope you will come give your support Thanks ke...	kerry5	2	338	Oct 19, 2005 by Maria123
	HP Stuff (Preview) Tonight I lost my temper with my A husband. I was fumming mad when he got home but rather than saying any thing or yelling like I would have before alanon I just left. I did hang up on him earlier and when I did actually loose my temper let him know that his deception did anger me... It cou...	jj	2	569	Oct 19, 2005 by TLC2
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