Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

nycbt · nycbt

I have talk to my sponsor and she has told me that I am doing better. I can actually feel the progress of my strength. I am not giving in as of yet. He is getting nervous because he is losing control. I have been told since he is losing control he is going to be getting worse. So I should prepare myself. I am goin...

hudsond · hudsond

Well, My a came home last night and said he had started using again. I kinda figured he had because you can always tell--you know that definite attitude change. He has been using for a week. I had tried to be calm all last week, even though I could feel that he was probably messing up-I didn't...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Roomies, I've really been struggling with the whole concept of turning things over to God. It seems I'm afraid that if I do that I won't be able to micro-manage, control, and monitor the situation. LOL. But, seriously, giving up control is scary. I realized last week that while turning it ove...

kissers · kissers

I have been through too many tumultuous relationships in the past several years. My relationship before the last one was lasted for two years. It lasted two years because I did all the work, so there really wasn't a relationship. I remember him always showing up late(up to 2 hrs late) when we had plans....

kissers · kissers

Hi All! I found this website yesterday, so I thought I would share it with all of you....(especially Lauren Ashley) http://www.teras-wish.com/index.htm

Scottishgirl · Scottishgirl

well it's Tuesday night, this is usually one of my good night, cause my husband usually doesn't get drunk on mondays or tuesdays. but lo and behold here we go again. again he called to say it was someone else's fault, they dragged him to the bar.. thing is we have NO money, like nothing. i gavehim our last b...

hopefortoday · hopefortoday

It has been "one of those weeks" at work. When I got into the office and checked my email on Monday, I assembled a list of things my manager had sent my way that I thought would be reasonable to accomplish this week. But as usual, on Tuesday, he slipped something another report he needed in. And on Wednes...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

The Victim Trap The belief that life has to be hard and difficult in the belief that makes a martyr.We can change our negative beliefs about life, and whether we have the power to stop our pain and take care of ourselves.We aren't helpless. We can solve our problems. We do have power - not to change or...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

I just thought I'd share this..I received it in an email..and like it..hope u do too enjoy... I've never made a fortune, and it's probably too late now. But I don't worry about that much, I'm happy anyhow And as I go along life's way, I'm reaping better than I sowed. I'm drinking from...

gardengal · gardengal

Here are some thoughts I have to inspire you to keep moving forward. But nothing is going to ring more true than your own carefully chosen words. So think about where you want to go---physically, spiritually, mentally------your "choice". Once you've decided, write it down and now you have a simple a...

kitty · kitty

Molecularly science tells us, we are all the same. The same molecules that make up the table & chair, are also the tree, the universe & a human being - just in different "arrangements".

They say we are made in God's image: I believe this to mean that we have the power...

debilyn · debilyn

I have had something troubling me for a month and am at my wits end. Been doing every bit of footwork I can find. I have been hear a lot of years so i am sure many know me pretty well since am such a blabber mouth, open person. It is personal so if you are willing to problem solve with me, I really ...

Barbara · Barbara

Is either less important than the other? I feel that letting people know that youre taking care of your physical self is more accepted than taking are of your emotional self. How can we make that other part just as important?

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

When I came to Al-Anon I had no peace in my life. My faith was hidden from me. My love was a slowly dying ember hidden under the ashes of my life. What did I have left? I entered the chat room here that first day and told my story, how I was so miserable, on the verge of a divorce, didn...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

xxxx...im pissed off right now..I told my gpa if he can take me to an alanon meeting..and he bitched saying do i have to go everyday I told them how much it meant to me...Without it I have nothing..bc my grandparents don't understand they are too old,and already set in their ways I am actually crying rig...

Barbara · Barbara

and having to do all this crap? They're drinking is THEIR problem. Why cant THEY get help and not come back to us until THEY'RE better? why is it US having to go get help? WE're already being punished living with this crap why arent THEY doing something about it and getting help?

Evilynn · Evilynn

This is hard for me,to admit I am failing and that this relationship that I tried to save is not good for me or him. My boyfriend is an alcoholic. I guess I learned this behavior because my mother is also an alcoholic and my father tries to control her, me and everyone else he knows. He has joined the program...

UncleLou · UncleLou

Thank you all for your support and empathy while I'm going through this. I really was at a point where I didn't care if I lived or not, but not at the point of considering taking my own life. I know these feelings will pass. One thing I heard about us alcoholics; our emotional development stops about the...

nycbt · nycbt

When I first meet my husband 6 yrs ago I did everything with him. I really didn't go any where didn't have any girlfriends at all. Only really had too guy friends and that was really it. Then this year I went to an Alanon online meeting and started to chat with my now best friend and we were seeing that we were...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday I have started to do a log on how many times I am calling my husband. I wanted to call him 8 times and I end up calling him 4 of those times. When I logged all the times and the reason I was like wow that is alot of times. However I am proud fo my self for only calling him 4 so I cut down on the calls by half. O...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday my husband has asked me about taking the car so he could go to the srap yaurd. I said no so he punished me. His son had to go to somewhere and my husband didn't want to take the ride but it is his grown son and the neighborhood isn't the nicest so he came. But he punish me the whole time. He started to ar...

Kim · Kim

First, I would like to thnak you all for your posts. I had decided while I was in the attorney's office that I would give it unitl after the holidays to say anything. I had also mentioned it in conversations with my A, that maybe we should consider a formal separation he said to me: "if you d...

Barbara · Barbara

another sick day! and he's planning on taking Thurs too because of a doctor apt! what a lazy ass - how do i go about finding a lawyer? and in MA do they get 50/50? cos thats the only thing holding me back! why should get 50% of my retirement?

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

A.A. Thought for the Day I am less sensitive and my feelings are less easily hurt. I no longer take myself so seriously. It didn't used to take much to insult me, to feel that I had been slighted or left on the outside. What happens to me now is not so important. One cause of our drinking was that we could...

Lani · Lani

Hi Friends, During Hurricane Wilma I was forced to listen to radio (snortle) and happened upon a show about people who suck the living daylights out of you and why. Thought this missive would be something you might find valuable to think about and add to your...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

November 15 Letting Go "Take my will and my life. Guide me in my recovery. Show me how to live."Basic Text p. 25 How do we begin the process of letting our Higher Power guide our lives? When we seek advice about situations that trouble us, we often find that our Higher Power works through others. Wh...

Satori · Satori

Here, On-line, we are lucky if we see a face But ultimately know, we are in the right place Here, we offer each other love and support Even if we have nothing to share or report Here, On-line, in this global, universal web A Guiding Voice is heard; our prayers are said Here, we learn...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - November 15 When I heard "Let Go and Let God" for the first time, it didn't make sense to me. Let go of what? And let God do what? The little I did understand was the futility of my efforts to try to control other people, places, and things. Al-Anon told me I could turn m...

sg · sg

Last night I went to a meeting....it isn't my homegroup, but it is a good group of people w/a very serious meeting. I was the last to read/speak. It was so enlightening to sit and listen to people. When it came time for my turn, I asked if it was okay if I skipped a reading and commented on the readings be...

Satori · Satori

Another great email I received from a friend in recovery....Hope you enjoy the share. Ten Guidelines from God... Effective Immediately, Please be aware that there are changes YOU need to make in YOUR life. These changes need to be completed in order that I may fulfill My promises to you to...

chrissy · chrissy

tonight amanda was in religion and they made her make a god bowl out of clay. they told her that it was hers to ask god to help her with her needs. just like the god bad or box that we use here. they also told her that she had to forgive herself before she can forgive someone e...

chrissy · chrissy

we'll i am starting my job today and i am leaving now. i just wanted to thank my friends here, for all your love and support i will not be able to be on in the day:( but i will be on at night:) so i will talk to you later hugs :) chrissy

Feather · Feather

Hi! I have heard of a high rate of incidence between alcoholism and mental illness, especially depression and bipolar disorder. Does anyone have any knowledge or experience of this or do you think it may simply be a coincidence. My binge A has been diagnosed with...

Mandi · Mandi

Hello all....i feel like i haven't been here or talked to my friends in recovery in months. As a matter of fact, when i enter the chat room now, i no longer recognize anyone and very few say hello. But i wanted to share the progress that i feel i have made. I have moved up to a new position at wo...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I had to leave my husband again over the weekend. We have only been back together for 2 months and I really thought it was going to work. My husband is an active a and he got violent this weekend. I don't know what is going on with him. I have suspected that he is using drugs or drin...

Kim · Kim

Went to see the lawyer today and it went very well. Apparently, according to the attorney b/c I've been a smart cookie and have put nothing in his name, I'm pretty well protected. The house was mine before we married and all he would be entitled to is how much the house has appreciated in the course...

marmare · marmare

I at times, start future tripping, is what I call it, worrying about things that haven't happened because of the histroy of my yesterdays...I started looking at quotes and found one that I really like, wanted to share...it has to do with staying in the present, letting yesterday go and not worrying ab...

TLC2 · TLC2

A's son called today and I said I wasn't sure when he(A) would be back. Immediatly, he asks, "today?" In other words, has he gone on a binge? Does the wondering ever end? It seems that there is always that doubt in our minds, even when things are going good. Maybe we should all just take one day a...

hopefortoday · hopefortoday

I was reading on these boards the other day and someone said something like thank god I'm not perfect, then what would I do? For some reason that stuck in my head and I got to thinking on the way home from work this weekend about how my hp didn't make me perfect. It makes sense I would mess up quite a bit as I w...

Donna · Donna

Well, while my alcoholic husband was/is up at his usual watering hole today, his mother stopped by to pick up some fundraiser items she ordered from our boys. The topic switched and I felt my mouth utter .." What can I do to stop him from going to the bar?" She must have thought I was just maki...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

I really miss my brother a whole lot..He is 3 years younger than me. He lives with my father..He should not be there.My dad is very manipulative and abusive.I have called children services,but my dad has threatened my brother to be quiet or he will kill me,or someone else.The system is soo corrupt.My d...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I'm having another one of those mornings where I wake up and notice "things" that the kids have/haven't done again. The one thing that really got my goat was seeing the toilet in the girls' bathroom plugged up - someone didn't flush or when they did it got plugged and they didn't bother to use the p...

Mars · Mars

i compleatly lost it.yet again my partner was moaning about my son [ who is 17 and a good boy but lazy] it was just abit too much for me . my temper escaped from me . normaly i am very laid back but it was just before i went to work . since i am the wage earner . i work hard but i can not do every thing. anyway th...

kitty · kitty

I went to therapy today, it was awesome. I brought my mother along & we had a 2 hour session. We talked a lot... & I wanted my therapist to know where I'm coming from & what I'm dealing with, with my mother. They connected it was wonderful. The therapist did say s...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

You are reading from God Grant Me . . . Turn your wounds into wisdom. OPRAH WINFREY We’ve all been hurt. We all carry scars from the healing of wounds—big ones and small ones. In early recovery, we think about those wounds and how we got them and what we might have done differently if we could do it all ove...

marmare · marmare

Thanks to Al-Anon I was able to be compassionate when my A finally showed up last night around 7:30 or so. When he started crying about how sorry he was for hurting me. That he now realizes how much more important his marriage is than the drugs and alcohol. That he has told me when he re...

Jeannie · Jeannie

((((((((((Lou)))))) Are you alright? I have been thinking about you, worrying about you and praying for you all day. If you have seen the replies to your post, you will see that many others feel the same way. Please let us know how you are doing. Lots of supporting thoughts coming your way. ...

Scottishgirl · Scottishgirl

Well this is the first time I have visited this website and thank goodness I have found it. It is just comforting to know that I am not the only person going through this. I'm not even sure if I have the right to be here or not. When I read what everyone else has written, it makes my problems seem trivial. I am a...

bobump · bobump

I used to write much more in HS. I can only think of one other poem I wrote in the last 10 years at least. My Straight Jacket Paralyzed by Leukophobia This jacket is the color of a blinding blizzard white out The jacket protects you from yourself and pr...

sunny1 · sunny1

Good Morning to you. Wow! what a weekend. If I could sum it up in just one word, it would be "Powerful". I have been given the gift of "Excellence". I can not really express fully the energy that I have found. This was a "Tell the Truth" weekend. Be real, the on...

nycbt · nycbt

Surpising I had a nice weekend. There was no taking off and disappearing for a while. In the morning since he can't drive my car I drove him to the work place. He noticed when he got out of the car and didn't have his phone. The old me would of drove home right away and get the phone so I could call him. The new me...

kitty · kitty

Wow, just in the last few days, I have noticed the inspirational meetings & witnessing growth in our individual programs... God eludes us, is mystical in how HP works through us & touches us all through each other. We are all messengers of God, Angels on Earth, transforming. ...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

You are reading from God Grant Me . . . We cannot think first and act afterward. From the moment of birth we are immersed in action, and can only fitfully guide it by taking thought.ALFRED NORTH WHITEHEAD There’s a good reason that one of the slogans we use most in recovery is this one: Think. We are alwa...

AlaMom · AlaMom

I had the great opportunity to attend the MA AA convention this past weekend. The Alanon program included a spiritual walk. Although I had heard of them before I have never been involved with one. What a truly special thing. For someone like me with trust issues it was a real...

gardengal · gardengal

Even those of us who can identify the problem as active alcoholism probably have no idea what to do about it. We only know that we have tried lots of things that didnt work, We may have poured liquor out, hidden it, hidden money that might pay for it, even taken a few drinks ourselves in order to leave less f...

chrissy · chrissy

my husband is suppose to be moving back today he is coming after his appointment at 3 pm. now i have had serveral talks with my daughter & so has her real father & she was fine with him coming home . she is fine when she gets everything she wants or when she spends time with her boyfrien...

sg · sg

One day at a time, right? Last night my A. took me out to a very nice dinner at the Olive Garden. We actually talked and shared some laughs. It has been what I have longed for for so long. He seemed so different. The man I remembered. Quite the difference from last weekend when he got drunk and made a...

UncleLou · UncleLou

She told me she was distancing herself from the other guy. She told our friend that she broke it off with him and he didn’t take it too well. I believed her. I set myself up. Last weekend I gave her space and let her have time alone with the kids. I hardly spoke to her all week. I thought that’s what she wante...

Satori · Satori

During my meditation this morning I drifted back a few years…okay…A LOT of years…lol I had a friend in High School that was also known as a bully. She lived two doors down from my house, so we hung out. She had what I would call a love/hate relationship with me. There were w...

marmare · marmare

Well, he finally called. I did good, I am not angry just very hurt. He is on his way home, slept in his car and then went to a friends. I stated very calmly that the "we" is not fixable until his fixes the things in his life that he readily admits he is embarassed, ashamed, and angry with h...

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	doing better (Preview) I have talk to my sponsor and she has told me that I am doing better. I can actually feel the progress of my strength. I am not giving in as of yet. He is getting nervous because he is losing control. I have been told since he is losing control he is going to be getting worse. So I should prepare myself. I am goin...	nycbt	5	553	Nov 16, 2005 by marmare
	Here I go again (Preview) Well, My a came home last night and said he had started using again. I kinda figured he had because you can always tell--you know that definite attitude change. He has been using for a week. I had tried to be calm all last week, even though I could feel that he was probably messing up-I didn't...	hudsond	4	566	Nov 16, 2005 by marmare
	Leaning on HP (Preview) Roomies, I've really been struggling with the whole concept of turning things over to God. It seems I'm afraid that if I do that I won't be able to micro-manage, control, and monitor the situation. LOL. But, seriously, giving up control is scary. I realized last week that while turning it ove...	BlueCloud	6	594	Nov 16, 2005 by hudsond
	I Don't Live There Anymore (Preview) I have been through too many tumultuous relationships in the past several years. My relationship before the last one was lasted for two years. It lasted two years because I did all the work, so there really wasn't a relationship. I remember him always showing up late(up to 2 hrs late) when we had plans....	kissers	5	548	Nov 16, 2005 by marmare
	Great website (Preview) Hi All! I found this website yesterday, so I thought I would share it with all of you....(especially Lauren Ashley) http://www.teras-wish.com/index.htm	kissers	2	562	Nov 16, 2005 by marmare
	here we go again (Preview) well it's Tuesday night, this is usually one of my good night, cause my husband usually doesn't get drunk on mondays or tuesdays. but lo and behold here we go again. again he called to say it was someone else's fault, they dragged him to the bar.. thing is we have NO money, like nothing. i gavehim our last b...	Scottishgirl	6	514	Nov 16, 2005 by marmare
	doing what is in front of me to do (Preview) It has been "one of those weeks" at work. When I got into the office and checked my email on Monday, I assembled a list of things my manager had sent my way that I thought would be reasonable to accomplish this week. But as usual, on Tuesday, he slipped something another report he needed in. And on Wednes...	hopefortoday	1	562	Nov 16, 2005 by nycbt
	language of letting go......victim trap (Preview) The Victim Trap The belief that life has to be hard and difficult in the belief that makes a martyr.We can change our negative beliefs about life, and whether we have the power to stop our pain and take care of ourselves.We aren't helpless. We can solve our problems. We do have power - not to change or...	rosie light shines	0	612	Nov 16, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Love never gives up,never loses faith,and is always hopeful,and endures (Preview) I just thought I'd share this..I received it in an email..and like it..hope u do too enjoy... I've never made a fortune, and it's probably too late now. But I don't worry about that much, I'm happy anyhow And as I go along life's way, I'm reaping better than I sowed. I'm drinking from...	Lauren ashley	4	785	Nov 16, 2005 by cdb
	HOW TO MOVE FORWARD......... (Preview) Here are some thoughts I have to inspire you to keep moving forward. But nothing is going to ring more true than your own carefully chosen words. So think about where you want to go---physically, spiritually, mentally------your "choice". Once you've decided, write it down and now you have a simple a...	gardengal	4	565	Nov 16, 2005 by cdb
	the science of God, the Divine Plan (Preview) Molecularly science tells us, we are all the same. The same molecules that make up the table & chair, are also the tree, the universe & a human being - just in different "arrangements". They say we are made in God's image: I believe this to mean that we have the power...	kitty	4	645	Nov 16, 2005 by cdb
	Need guidance (Preview) I have had something troubling me for a month and am at my wits end. Been doing every bit of footwork I can find. I have been hear a lot of years so i am sure many know me pretty well since am such a blabber mouth, open person. It is personal so if you are willing to problem solve with me, I really ...	debilyn	3	528	Nov 16, 2005 by cdb
	why is it easier to work on our physical self rather than our emotional self? (Preview) Is either less important than the other? I feel that letting people know that youre taking care of your physical self is more accepted than taking are of your emotional self. How can we make that other part just as important?	Barbara	3	866	Nov 16, 2005 by cdb
	Hope (Preview) When I came to Al-Anon I had no peace in my life. My faith was hidden from me. My love was a slowly dying ember hidden under the ashes of my life. What did I have left? I entered the chat room here that first day and told my story, how I was so miserable, on the verge of a divorce, didn...	kismetstrand	6	629	Nov 16, 2005 by marmare
	I can't take this... (Preview) xxxx...im pissed off right now..I told my gpa if he can take me to an alanon meeting..and he bitched saying do i have to go everyday I told them how much it meant to me...Without it I have nothing..bc my grandparents don't understand they are too old,and already set in their ways I am actually crying rig...	Lauren ashley	7	560	Nov 16, 2005 by canadianguy
	why since its THEM being assholes is it US being punished (Preview) and having to do all this crap? They're drinking is THEIR problem. Why cant THEY get help and not come back to us until THEY'RE better? why is it US having to go get help? WE're already being punished living with this crap why arent THEY doing something about it and getting help?	Barbara	12	560	Nov 16, 2005 by WakingUp
	I am new and I have so much to learn (Preview) This is hard for me,to admit I am failing and that this relationship that I tried to save is not good for me or him. My boyfriend is an alcoholic. I guess I learned this behavior because my mother is also an alcoholic and my father tries to control her, me and everyone else he knows. He has joined the program...	Evilynn	10	784	Nov 16, 2005 by leo
	Re: UncleLou are you Okay? (Preview) Thank you all for your support and empathy while I'm going through this. I really was at a point where I didn't care if I lived or not, but not at the point of considering taking my own life. I know these feelings will pass. One thing I heard about us alcoholics; our emotional development stops about the...	UncleLou	10	958	Nov 16, 2005 by leo
	I used to do everything with him (Preview) When I first meet my husband 6 yrs ago I did everything with him. I really didn't go any where didn't have any girlfriends at all. Only really had too guy friends and that was really it. Then this year I went to an Alanon online meeting and started to chat with my now best friend and we were seeing that we were...	nycbt	3	557	Nov 15, 2005 by Kim
	Logging my calls (Preview) Yesterday I have started to do a log on how many times I am calling my husband. I wanted to call him 8 times and I end up calling him 4 of those times. When I logged all the times and the reason I was like wow that is alot of times. However I am proud fo my self for only calling him 4 so I cut down on the calls by half. O...	nycbt	3	420	Nov 15, 2005 by marmare
	I am stronger (Preview) Yesterday my husband has asked me about taking the car so he could go to the srap yaurd. I said no so he punished me. His son had to go to somewhere and my husband didn't want to take the ride but it is his grown son and the neighborhood isn't the nicest so he came. But he punish me the whole time. He started to ar...	nycbt	3	507	Nov 15, 2005 by marmare
	Telling him about the lawyer visit (Preview) First, I would like to thnak you all for your posts. I had decided while I was in the attorney's office that I would give it unitl after the holidays to say anything. I had also mentioned it in conversations with my A, that maybe we should consider a formal separation he said to me: "if you d...	Kim	2	394	Nov 15, 2005 by Jeannie
	Its time to kick his ass out! (Preview) another sick day! and he's planning on taking Thurs too because of a doctor apt! what a lazy ass - how do i go about finding a lawyer? and in MA do they get 50/50? cos thats the only thing holding me back! why should get 50% of my retirement?	Barbara	5	666	Nov 15, 2005 by rosie light shines
	AA thought.....God DOES have me covered (Preview) A.A. Thought for the Day I am less sensitive and my feelings are less easily hurt. I no longer take myself so seriously. It didn't used to take much to insult me, to feel that I had been slighted or left on the outside. What happens to me now is not so important. One cause of our drinking was that we could...	rosie light shines	0	586	Nov 15, 2005 by rosie light shines
	ENERGY VAMPIRES (Preview) Hi Friends, During Hurricane Wilma I was forced to listen to radio (snortle) and happened upon a show about people who suck the living daylights out of you and why. Thought this missive would be something you might find valuable to think about and add to your...	Lani	6	506	Nov 15, 2005 by Lani
	"God guide me in my recovery" (Preview) November 15 Letting Go "Take my will and my life. Guide me in my recovery. Show me how to live."Basic Text p. 25 How do we begin the process of letting our Higher Power guide our lives? When we seek advice about situations that trouble us, we often find that our Higher Power works through others. Wh...	rosie light shines	0	351	Nov 15, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Here, On-line... (Preview) Here, On-line, we are lucky if we see a face But ultimately know, we are in the right place Here, we offer each other love and support Even if we have nothing to share or report Here, On-line, in this global, universal web A Guiding Voice is heard; our prayers are said Here, we learn...	Satori	11	649	Nov 15, 2005 by nycbt
	i wish life would STOP kicking my butt (Preview) Hope for Today - November 15 When I heard "Let Go and Let God" for the first time, it didn't make sense to me. Let go of what? And let God do what? The little I did understand was the futility of my efforts to try to control other people, places, and things. Al-Anon told me I could turn m...	rosie light shines	0	520	Nov 15, 2005 by rosie light shines
	The Power of a F2F meeting (Preview) Last night I went to a meeting....it isn't my homegroup, but it is a good group of people w/a very serious meeting. I was the last to read/speak. It was so enlightening to sit and listen to people. When it came time for my turn, I asked if it was okay if I skipped a reading and commented on the readings be...	sg	5	677	Nov 15, 2005 by Lanchas
	Effective Immediately.... (Preview) Another great email I received from a friend in recovery....Hope you enjoy the share. Ten Guidelines from God... Effective Immediately, Please be aware that there are changes YOU need to make in YOUR life. These changes need to be completed in order that I may fulfill My promises to you to...	Satori	4	717	Nov 15, 2005 by toto12
	amanda's religion class (Preview) tonight amanda was in religion and they made her make a god bowl out of clay. they told her that it was hers to ask god to help her with her needs. just like the god bad or box that we use here. they also told her that she had to forgive herself before she can forgive someone e...	chrissy	4	392	Nov 15, 2005 by Dolphin123
	new job:) (Preview) we'll i am starting my job today and i am leaving now. i just wanted to thank my friends here, for all your love and support i will not be able to be on in the day:( but i will be on at night:) so i will talk to you later hugs :) chrissy	chrissy	8	418	Nov 15, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Is there a link? (Preview) Hi! I have heard of a high rate of incidence between alcoholism and mental illness, especially depression and bipolar disorder. Does anyone have any knowledge or experience of this or do you think it may simply be a coincidence. My binge A has been diagnosed with...	Feather	5	625	Nov 15, 2005 by Jeannie
	Breakthrough (Preview) Hello all....i feel like i haven't been here or talked to my friends in recovery in months. As a matter of fact, when i enter the chat room now, i no longer recognize anyone and very few say hello. But i wanted to share the progress that i feel i have made. I have moved up to a new position at wo...	Mandi	3	617	Nov 15, 2005 by debilyn
	I had to leave again (Preview) I had to leave my husband again over the weekend. We have only been back together for 2 months and I really thought it was going to work. My husband is an active a and he got violent this weekend. I don't know what is going on with him. I have suspected that he is using drugs or drin...	JulieLynn	7	659	Nov 15, 2005 by JulieLynn
	i saw the lawyer today (Preview) Went to see the lawyer today and it went very well. Apparently, according to the attorney b/c I've been a smart cookie and have put nothing in his name, I'm pretty well protected. The house was mine before we married and all he would be entitled to is how much the house has appreciated in the course...	Kim	7	618	Nov 15, 2005 by debilyn
	Quote (Preview) I at times, start future tripping, is what I call it, worrying about things that haven't happened because of the histroy of my yesterdays...I started looking at quotes and found one that I really like, wanted to share...it has to do with staying in the present, letting yesterday go and not worrying ab...	marmare	4	504	Nov 15, 2005 by debilyn
	wondering? (Preview) A's son called today and I said I wasn't sure when he(A) would be back. Immediatly, he asks, "today?" In other words, has he gone on a binge? Does the wondering ever end? It seems that there is always that doubt in our minds, even when things are going good. Maybe we should all just take one day a...	TLC2	4	439	Nov 15, 2005 by debilyn
	second guessing (Preview) I was reading on these boards the other day and someone said something like thank god I'm not perfect, then what would I do? For some reason that stuck in my head and I got to thinking on the way home from work this weekend about how my hp didn't make me perfect. It makes sense I would mess up quite a bit as I w...	hopefortoday	3	593	Nov 15, 2005 by kitty
	Told his mother.. (Preview) Well, while my alcoholic husband was/is up at his usual watering hole today, his mother stopped by to pick up some fundraiser items she ordered from our boys. The topic switched and I felt my mouth utter .." What can I do to stop him from going to the bar?" She must have thought I was just maki...	Donna	6	723	Nov 14, 2005 by canadianguy
	I miss him... (Preview) I really miss my brother a whole lot..He is 3 years younger than me. He lives with my father..He should not be there.My dad is very manipulative and abusive.I have called children services,but my dad has threatened my brother to be quiet or he will kill me,or someone else.The system is soo corrupt.My d...	Lauren ashley	2	732	Nov 14, 2005 by nikkilou
	Choices, Attitude Adjustment, Balance (Preview) I'm having another one of those mornings where I wake up and notice "things" that the kids have/haven't done again. The one thing that really got my goat was seeing the toilet in the girls' bathroom plugged up - someone didn't flush or when they did it got plugged and they didn't bother to use the p...	kismetstrand	8	485	Nov 14, 2005 by Jeannie
	he fell off!! (Preview) i compleatly lost it.yet again my partner was moaning about my son [ who is 17 and a good boy but lazy] it was just abit too much for me . my temper escaped from me . normaly i am very laid back but it was just before i went to work . since i am the wage earner . i work hard but i can not do every thing. anyway th...	Mars	3	864	Nov 14, 2005 by Jeannie
	today was GREAT (Preview) I went to therapy today, it was awesome. I brought my mother along & we had a 2 hour session. We talked a lot... & I wanted my therapist to know where I'm coming from & what I'm dealing with, with my mother. They connected it was wonderful. The therapist did say s...	kitty	5	579	Nov 14, 2005 by marmare
	i am POWERLESS (Preview) You are reading from God Grant Me . . . Turn your wounds into wisdom. OPRAH WINFREY We’ve all been hurt. We all carry scars from the healing of wounds—big ones and small ones. In early recovery, we think about those wounds and how we got them and what we might have done differently if we could do it all ove...	rosie light shines	1	363	Nov 14, 2005 by April
	Thanks to Al-Anon (Preview) Thanks to Al-Anon I was able to be compassionate when my A finally showed up last night around 7:30 or so. When he started crying about how sorry he was for hurting me. That he now realizes how much more important his marriage is than the drugs and alcohol. That he has told me when he re...	marmare	9	720	Nov 14, 2005 by gknee
	UncleLou are you okay? (Preview) ((((((((((Lou)))))) Are you alright? I have been thinking about you, worrying about you and praying for you all day. If you have seen the replies to your post, you will see that many others feel the same way. Please let us know how you are doing. Lots of supporting thoughts coming your way. ...	Jeannie	5	662	Nov 14, 2005 by debilyn
	the same old thing (Preview) Well this is the first time I have visited this website and thank goodness I have found it. It is just comforting to know that I am not the only person going through this. I'm not even sure if I have the right to be here or not. When I read what everyone else has written, it makes my problems seem trivial. I am a...	Scottishgirl	7	628	Nov 14, 2005 by Evilynn
	reading Lauren's poems inspired me to write (Preview) I used to write much more in HS. I can only think of one other poem I wrote in the last 10 years at least. My Straight Jacket Paralyzed by Leukophobia This jacket is the color of a blinding blizzard white out The jacket protects you from yourself and pr...	bobump	4	576	Nov 14, 2005 by jonibaloni21
	wow...what a weekend! (Preview) Good Morning to you. Wow! what a weekend. If I could sum it up in just one word, it would be "Powerful". I have been given the gift of "Excellence". I can not really express fully the energy that I have found. This was a "Tell the Truth" weekend. Be real, the on...	sunny1	2	643	Nov 14, 2005 by Karilynn
	Nice weekend (Preview) Surpising I had a nice weekend. There was no taking off and disappearing for a while. In the morning since he can't drive my car I drove him to the work place. He noticed when he got out of the car and didn't have his phone. The old me would of drove home right away and get the phone so I could call him. The new me...	nycbt	3	487	Nov 14, 2005 by captcodee
	Inspiring Each Other, Growth (Preview) Wow, just in the last few days, I have noticed the inspirational meetings & witnessing growth in our individual programs... God eludes us, is mystical in how HP works through us & touches us all through each other. We are all messengers of God, Angels on Earth, transforming. ...	kitty	3	586	Nov 14, 2005 by rosie light shines
	God grant me the ability to THINK B4 i act (Preview) You are reading from God Grant Me . . . We cannot think first and act afterward. From the moment of birth we are immersed in action, and can only fitfully guide it by taking thought.ALFRED NORTH WHITEHEAD There’s a good reason that one of the slogans we use most in recovery is this one: Think. We are alwa...	rosie light shines	0	336	Nov 14, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Spiritual Walk (Preview) I had the great opportunity to attend the MA AA convention this past weekend. The Alanon program included a spiritual walk. Although I had heard of them before I have never been involved with one. What a truly special thing. For someone like me with trust issues it was a real...	AlaMom	1	754	Nov 14, 2005 by Satori
	CAME TO FIND OUT HWO TO GET THE "A' TO STOP DRINKING (Preview) Even those of us who can identify the problem as active alcoholism probably have no idea what to do about it. We only know that we have tried lots of things that didnt work, We may have poured liquor out, hidden it, hidden money that might pay for it, even taken a few drinks ourselves in order to leave less f...	gardengal	3	1268	Nov 14, 2005 by nycbt
	im am so fricken pissed (Preview) my husband is suppose to be moving back today he is coming after his appointment at 3 pm. now i have had serveral talks with my daughter & so has her real father & she was fine with him coming home . she is fine when she gets everything she wants or when she spends time with her boyfrien...	chrissy	11	713	Nov 14, 2005 by nycbt
	Afraid of being taken for a fool again (Preview) One day at a time, right? Last night my A. took me out to a very nice dinner at the Olive Garden. We actually talked and shared some laughs. It has been what I have longed for for so long. He seemed so different. The man I remembered. Quite the difference from last weekend when he got drunk and made a...	sg	7	664	Nov 14, 2005 by nycbt
	God, just let me die (Preview) She told me she was distancing herself from the other guy. She told our friend that she broke it off with him and he didn’t take it too well. I believed her. I set myself up. Last weekend I gave her space and let her have time alone with the kids. I hardly spoke to her all week. I thought that’s what she wante...	UncleLou	19	933	Nov 14, 2005 by gardengal
	I don't want to fight you! (Preview) During my meditation this morning I drifted back a few years…okay…A LOT of years…lol I had a friend in High School that was also known as a bully. She lived two doors down from my house, so we hung out. She had what I would call a love/hate relationship with me. There were w...	Satori	5	884	Nov 14, 2005 by lildee
	5pm (Preview) Well, he finally called. I did good, I am not angry just very hurt. He is on his way home, slept in his car and then went to a friends. I stated very calmly that the "we" is not fixable until his fixes the things in his life that he readily admits he is embarassed, ashamed, and angry with h...	marmare	3	405	Nov 14, 2005 by WakingUp
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