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Feelinglostanddesperate · Feelinglostanddesperate

Hello All, This is my first time posting. A few years back my family and I found out that my brother was an alcoholic. He is still and always will be an alcoholic, but he is in a very bad state currently. Just about a year ago he and his new wife split up, they sold their home, and he moved in with my parents wit...

texas yankee · texas yankee

Maybe I'm getting old and overly critical, but I'm wondering about a few things I've seen happening lately in a couple of the F2F meetings I go to - thanks in advance for any guidance. 1 - sharing that goes on, and on, and on, and on . . . . - I know sometimes people are burdened and feel the need to unload in a s...

andromeda · andromeda

So, change happens right? UGH.......A few weeks ago my company announced they will be doing layoffs, which were to start last week. I was on vacation last week and was getting all the bad news updates whenever I had cell service. They laid off 600 people. My department is always short staffed so we di...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for October 1 speaks about the FACT THAT OFTEN WE FIND our thoughts racing through our minds recalling broken promises which simply helps to generate fear and anxiety . We are familiar with this chaos and one that we recognize. it is a single that our lives have become unmanag...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP and Happy Thursday. The reading today is about compassion and how many of us arrive no entirely certain what it is. By process of elimination, we do know it is NOT: Seeking Revenge, Holding Grudges, Calling Names, Screaming or Throwing Things in Anger. Many of us find that we had r...

Fedora · Fedora

How to you practice detachment when you live in the same house, sleep in the same bed? My spouse is experiencing the effects of his disease (career and property wise) and he started making noises about killing himself. Last night when all this got going, I tried to mentally prepare myself. I couldn't r...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's author reflects on the importance of service work in their own recovery program. The author shares that they find it essential to their recovery to help their Al-Anon home group by accepting various responsibilities needed to keep things running smoothly. One of the benefits o...

Lyne · Lyne

Reading for Monday, 9/30: The writer reflects upon Just for Today, trying something new! The day can be about learning something new about oneself, and whether one fails or succeedssomething can still be learned. You can try changing a behavior pattern or having a different response. This day c...

KT2015 · KT2015

Yesterday I caught myself. I caught myself being "irritable and unreasonable without knowing it". A few years ago my sponsor and I discussed how I know when my life is unmanageable. at that point I identified it's when I am not taking care of myself. Then I added recently when I find myself getting...

Lil99 · Lil99

Hello everyone, At the moment I'm in a bit of a dilemma, so I've been asking for guidance from my Higher Power and praying for his will (not my will). However I'm really struggling to hear the answers, I don't know if I'm just deaf to it or missing the point. How do you know where/when your Higher Power is...

hotrod · hotrod

The O DAT reading for today,September 24 speaks about the importance of using the tools of the program in order to change our thinking. It points out that this is not an easy task indeed nothing is more difficul tin life. AA literature suggests that if we stopped throwing aroind blame . we can take...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I shouldn't say back again; I never really left, I just haven't been sharing, been reading, the equivalent of listening. Nancy and I have been attending a face-to-face meeting once a week, does us a lot of good. Well, it does ME a lot of good, you'd have to ask HER if it's helping her. I'm getting up there i...

Temple · Temple

I never thought I'd have to worry about this. Nothing in the family since 3 generations back. But then I did have roughly a gazillion chest X-rays last December. Saw a new, really nice doctor yesterday. Hubs had been waiting for 6 months to see him, had an appt. Tuesday and asked if he'd see me (he didn't...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the power of our relationship with our Higher Power. Specifically, the writer notes that after realizing he has difficulties in his intimate relationship with his wife, he realizes that what is really missing is his spiritual connection to his hig...

DavidG · DavidG

... Claiming my space- "in the rooms" and claiming my space in the world. In the alcoholic home the boundaries are blurred- and sometimes non-existent. Chaos and crisis... ...and sometimes, calm. I went to my nearest f2f meeting and there was another person there. I reflect- that in this neck of t...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I think things have finally settled down for the most part there are still some things to address and I will .. at least I feel like I'm moving in the right direction .. OMG .. what a nightmare all this has been lately there's obviously some money lesson here and I'm really trying which is super frustratin...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi Y'all... Tradition 5- is about the purpose of Alanon. I needed to look at this this morning and meditate on the meaning. Much Of the time I am content to post and reflect on readings from out three readers. Today I am able to read and think clearly- to absorb the meaning of things. The old me u...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I very near and dear friend's adult child is struggling with addiction and has been for a while. AC at home for now and there is an intervention being staged, don't know how that's going to workout I just pray that my friend is able to let go and let God with the situation and she's willing to accept if h...

Freetime · Freetime

Tomorrow's reading in Courage to Change speaks about physical abuse. Al-Anon recognizes that decisions about staying or leaving relationships are up to the individual. But it also emphasizes our personal responsibility to take care of ourselves and to be honest about our situation. We can be p...

hotrod · hotrod

https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com/t65922748/group-conscience-on-guidelines-for-posting/

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's C2C, the author shares that they find themselves taking the third step (Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.) over and over again. However, they usually wait until they are overwhelmed before turning the overwhelming pro...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP family and Happy Thursday. Today's reading discusses feelings and how our gentle program suggests that feelings are neither good nor bad - they are simply just a part of who we are. The writer believed that anger, resentment, jealousy and fear were 'bad' feelings when first coming...

cmarsh4 · cmarsh4

My husband and I have been married for 30 plus years. He was a highly functional alcoholic for 20 years. He still went to work, he was never physically abusive and was a good father. In the last few years his drinking got worse and worse. I quit wanting to go places with him because he always insisted...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Hello hope everyone having a great day! My ah is back to his drinking its been 4 months now and it seams the lies he told 3 years ago he seams to repeat the same lies for his reasonings example: im late because someone didnt come to work on time I would believe it but every day 2 hours late!! Why cant the alcoho...

cfgc1215 · cfgc1215

Hello. I am new here and I am in need of some advice. A quick background: I am 32 and my partner is 28. I met my partner almost 2 years ago, and I didn't know off the bat he was an alcoholic. I come from an entire family of alcoholics, but it is something I just didn't figure out until a few months into our relatio...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I am honored to share this day of birth with Jerry, my brother from another mother! I am humbled to share this day with you and am sending your blessed birthday wishes from my place in this grand world to your island that you love and cherish. Thank you for being part of my chosen recovery family - make it...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 9/23, speaks about the authors character defect of responding in kind-insults with insults, rudeness with rudeness, etc. But they learned they could choose to respond with courtesy, and detach from the negative behavior. They did not have to lower their own standards. T...

Wndrwmn · Wndrwmn

Hope everyone is having a good evening. It has been awhile since I was last on here. A few things have happened, I am facing a dilema. I will have to make a decision. I met a wonderful man who is kind and considerate of me. We started out as friends but have really gotten to know each other better. He wants t...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

So I guess this is going to be a vent-session. This is in regards to my Ex-husband's text that I received at work today. Pertinent back-story: We are on friendly terms. He texts me a lot. As long as he is working his program (as far as I can tell), I don't mind returning texts, sharing funny jokes/stories e...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi Y'all... I have had a love-hate relationship with my higher power... well just surges of anger and old gunk surfacing- and getting in the way of my vision... Sometimes i took down the first word- in the serenity prayer- and made it a direct petition. Sometimes I replace the first word with the wo...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning everyone- Todays reading is about recognizing that we may not be comfortable around our own family members. We may find it difficult or even painful to confide in them. We may realize that although we love our family, it might be necessary to limit or completely restrict our time around t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares why they keep coming back to Al-Anon. When the author was new to Al-Anon, they would say "I'm better off now than I was before" I came to the program, I'll keep coming back. When they became frustrated by all the changes they wanted to make in them...

a4l · a4l

But feelings are not facts. I feel like that for this hour. For this evening. Logically I see that this is not so. Realistically I just see more work piling up for me to plow through and I get so overwhelmed at the thought of it. My go to response for many years In the face of overwhelming-ness (lol excuse th...

danyell · danyell

Do all alcoholics lie?? Is this just another one of the typical side effects that come along with it??? The lying is about to make me go crazy. We have been working so hard to rebuild our marriage, rebuild our life and our family. The one thing I ask is for honesty. I am beginning to wonder if he is e...

Lostandscared · Lostandscared

I am to the point of planning on finally going to a meeting tomorrow after work. I have to tell AH something about why Im not going to be home right after work so figure I should tell him what Im doing. Any advice on how to bring it up? Hes not violent so its not that Im scared of him I just dont know how to bring it...

Freetime · Freetime

Good morning, MIP friends! It's still morning where I live. In today's reading, the author says that writing gratitude lists planted a seed -- but did not really improve their negative thinking. Eventually they learned to experience gratitude for little accomplishments they made in everyday l...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's reading is about Step 8. The reading suggests that reviewing our step inventory (4th Step) can help refresh our memories. We can ask ourselves about situations where our defects were present and consider adding names that we've not previously thought of. We can also look at folks on o...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello MIP Family Just a Note to Let ya's know I'm Still Kicking, Still Sober (8yrs 10 Months, & 16days to be exact :D), and Still Working my Program the Best I Can... One Day at a Time :) Many Wonderful and Not So Wonderful things have happened for me this Year, and Some in the Eyes of Addiction and Some...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today is a day where words escape me. I am having some trouble getting the words out. I really need to write to my cousin on this computer but I really don't have a clue what to say to her either. I am not complacent, discouraged or depressed. I just need some time to think things over & access what it is t...

Aloha · Aloha

When I'm getting squirrely I know that it's because I'm starting back down that path of self-will again. Let me preface this with the fact that I don't have any high drama going on in my life. If anything, this is to prove to others than even when you think all your problems are solved - you're not around ac...

hotrod · hotrod

he ODAT reading for Tuesday, September 17 speaks about the importance of working the 12 steps every day regardless of whether we are dealing with alcoholism . The reading suggests that we replace the word alcohol with the name of my problem and move forward it says that we do have power god given t...

Rglaspie · Rglaspie

Hi, my name is Riderck, my experiences are growing up with a mother who was an alcoholic. Any the interactions and experiences I endured during our alcohol-fueled interactions. Has affected how I interact and discipline my children. I am curious to see if others who have similar backgrounds. Are w...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 9/16, looks at how our negative thinking, and expected poor outcomes, may not necessarily come true. In fact, a very persistent feeling is just a feeling, not a prophecy. The author says that a positive outcome is just as likely as a negative one. The author suggests we trus...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Sooo .. lol .. my X does the right thing and pays support it's currently sitting at the distribution center waiting for release .. it's not being released at the moment and no one knows why. The conversations that have taken place make me LOL out loud because it's just so typical of this situation with t...

HappyToe · HappyToe

https://alanon.activeboard.com/t65878307/where-my-story-began/.

HappyToe · HappyToe

So I was gonna try to go in order with my story and try to relay my history with addiction. But me and my fiancee, my ah, are having some strife. A little back story that I plan to elaborate on in a later post is this. Roughly a year ago she decided to separate and leave me and take our kids to our homestate and aw...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the power in making amends. The writer describes the feeling when someone else in his/her alanon group has made amends toward him/her. The impression was of the humility and strength it took to offer an amends. The writer then describes how much st...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I feel a little bit of grief but not a lot. I guess his being in AA is not as effective as maybe another death might be more painful. I know that this person was trying to stay as healthy as possible. He was taking walks daily for quite awhile & just had a heart attack while he was walking. He died a week ago...

andromeda · andromeda

Hello everyone! So, our company is in budget cuts and I am in a position where I am not in fear of losing my job. Our department is growing. I am a good networker and in the past 1.5 years I've put feelers out to different departments and have made friends across very different groups at my company. It'...

Freetime · Freetime

The reading for September 13 speaks about making the best use of each moment of the day. With just 24 hours in a day to spend, the author talks about using those hours to grow and improve -- applying tools of the program to what is happening. And, a brand new 24 hours can begin at any moment, which helps wh...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about the three A(s) - Awareness, Acceptance and Action. Often when we have problems or changes in our lives, we experience awareness. Acceptance follows, and then action. We often experience discomfort with new found awareness, and most of us are eager to...

HappyToe · HappyToe

Hello again everyone. I'd like to share part of my story. Fortunately for me, it is not the horror story many people have suffered. Though there are parts that I think are rough but worth expressing. My mother gave birth to me in Ohio. My father was never informed of her pregnancy and that is the extent of...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about working the 4th step. Step 4 is making a searching and fearless moral inventory of myself. The author shares that throughout their step 4 work, they experienced a nagging feeling that they were not doing the 4th step right. With the help of their HP, the auth...

HappyToe · HappyToe

Hey everyone. I'm new to the boards. I'm not sure if this will post. The first post I made didn't make it through. I'm a male in my mid 30s and live in the northern part of the USA. I have a fiancee and we have been together for 13+ years. We have 2 boys ages 4 and 8. She is my alcoholic, but I grew up with alcoholic...

bud · bud

I was doing ok until this morning when I found out the my daughter's husband and family ganged up on her and bullied her mercilessly until she broke down the night before their wedding. (wedding was last night) This was over the parent's friend who wanted to bring a date. The parents had invited 90% of th...

New Member · Becks

Hello, I am not too sure how this works, first time to Al-Anon and was looking for someone to chat with. I have heard how much this program can help, I am doing this for myself as well as my loved one. I need help to understand what they are going through. Thanks!

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for Tuesday, September 10 speaks about how we tend to use denial in order to survive in the world. The reading points out that we lie to ourselves in order to feel safe and when we begin to get honest using the Al-Anon tools we find honesty is the best way to face life the reading points out t...

bud · bud

This morning I received an email from the corporate business lawyer demanding people come to work or resign within the obligations of their contract. It was sent to everyone. It had threatening tones. Apparently the business owner changed his mind since he sent a farewell and letter and that the bus...

Jen61 · Jen61

I am starting the steps. I am unclear exactly what questions I should be answering for step 1. Some questions I have read are: Do I accept that I am powerless over alcohol and that our lives ad become unmanageable? List 10 things I am powerless of What does powerless mean to meHow can I let go of trying to...

joker · joker

I read the step boards and these words written by another member, shook me to my core: When AGF relapsed I felt the responsibility to be strong for her, to maintain myself like a pillar so that she would have an anchor... I have spent way too much energy and life analyzing THEIR problem. How they should...

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	How to deal with a very tough and scary situation (Preview) Hello All, This is my first time posting. A few years back my family and I found out that my brother was an alcoholic. He is still and always will be an alcoholic, but he is in a very bad state currently. Just about a year ago he and his new wife split up, they sold their home, and he moved in with my parents wit...	Feelinglostanddesperate	8	2434	Oct 3, 2019 by Bo
	F2F meeting dynamics - outside the bounds of Al Anon? (Preview) Maybe I'm getting old and overly critical, but I'm wondering about a few things I've seen happening lately in a couple of the F2F meetings I go to - thanks in advance for any guidance. 1 - sharing that goes on, and on, and on, and on . . . . - I know sometimes people are burdened and feel the need to unload in a s...	texas yankee	15	2439	Oct 3, 2019 by Iamhere
	UPDATE ON THE JOB (Preview) So, change happens right? UGH.......A few weeks ago my company announced they will be doing layoffs, which were to start last week. I was on vacation last week and was getting all the bad news updates whenever I had cell service. They laid off 600 people. My department is always short staffed so we di...	andromeda	11	5307	Oct 3, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	C2C Reading 10-01 (Preview) The C2C reading for October 1 speaks about the FACT THAT OFTEN WE FIND our thoughts racing through our minds recalling broken promises which simply helps to generate fear and anxiety . We are familiar with this chaos and one that we recognize. it is a single that our lives have become unmanag...	hotrod	4	1608	Oct 3, 2019 by bud
	Courage to Change 10/3 (Preview) Good morning MIP and Happy Thursday. The reading today is about compassion and how many of us arrive no entirely certain what it is. By process of elimination, we do know it is NOT: Seeking Revenge, Holding Grudges, Calling Names, Screaming or Throwing Things in Anger. Many of us find that we had r...	Iamhere	6	399	Oct 3, 2019 by bud
	Detachment when you are in the same house? (Preview) How to you practice detachment when you live in the same house, sleep in the same bed? My spouse is experiencing the effects of his disease (career and property wise) and he started making noises about killing himself. Last night when all this got going, I tried to mentally prepare myself. I couldn't r...	Fedora	20	3506	Oct 2, 2019 by Bo
	Courage to change October 2 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's author reflects on the importance of service work in their own recovery program. The author shares that they find it essential to their recovery to help their Al-Anon home group by accepting various responsibilities needed to keep things running smoothly. One of the benefits o...	Skorpi	2	451	Oct 2, 2019 by Lyne
	C2C, 9/30 (Preview) Reading for Monday, 9/30: The writer reflects upon Just for Today, trying something new! The day can be about learning something new about oneself, and whether one fails or succeedssomething can still be learned. You can try changing a behavior pattern or having a different response. This day c...	Lyne	4	4016	Oct 1, 2019 by DavidG
	recognizing when my life has become unmanagable (Preview) Yesterday I caught myself. I caught myself being "irritable and unreasonable without knowing it". A few years ago my sponsor and I discussed how I know when my life is unmanageable. at that point I identified it's when I am not taking care of myself. Then I added recently when I find myself getting...	KT2015	5	937	Oct 1, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Asking for guidance (Preview) Hello everyone, At the moment I'm in a bit of a dilemma, so I've been asking for guidance from my Higher Power and praying for his will (not my will). However I'm really struggling to hear the answers, I don't know if I'm just deaf to it or missing the point. How do you know where/when your Higher Power is...	Lil99	8	2984	Oct 1, 2019 by Lil99
	ODAT 9-24 (Preview) The O DAT reading for today,September 24 speaks about the importance of using the tools of the program in order to change our thinking. It points out that this is not an easy task indeed nothing is more difficul tin life. AA literature suggests that if we stopped throwing aroind blame . we can take...	hotrod	3	1376	Sep 30, 2019 by mamalioness
	Back again.... (Preview) I shouldn't say back again; I never really left, I just haven't been sharing, been reading, the equivalent of listening. Nancy and I have been attending a face-to-face meeting once a week, does us a lot of good. Well, it does ME a lot of good, you'd have to ask HER if it's helping her. I'm getting up there i...	Wolfie55	7	885	Sep 30, 2019 by mamalioness
	Well Rats! (Preview) I never thought I'd have to worry about this. Nothing in the family since 3 generations back. But then I did have roughly a gazillion chest X-rays last December. Saw a new, really nice doctor yesterday. Hubs had been waiting for 6 months to see him, had an appt. Tuesday and asked if he'd see me (he didn't...	Temple	15	4441	Sep 30, 2019 by mamalioness
	Hope for Today Sept 29 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the power of our relationship with our Higher Power. Specifically, the writer notes that after realizing he has difficulties in his intimate relationship with his wife, he realizes that what is really missing is his spiritual connection to his hig...	yanksfan51	6	797	Sep 30, 2019 by mamalioness
	A table-top step 10... (Preview) ... Claiming my space- "in the rooms" and claiming my space in the world. In the alcoholic home the boundaries are blurred- and sometimes non-existent. Chaos and crisis... ...and sometimes, calm. I went to my nearest f2f meeting and there was another person there. I reflect- that in this neck of t...	DavidG	1	3495	Sep 30, 2019 by hotrod
	Finally settling down .. (Preview) I think things have finally settled down for the most part there are still some things to address and I will .. at least I feel like I'm moving in the right direction .. OMG .. what a nightmare all this has been lately there's obviously some money lesson here and I'm really trying which is super frustratin...	SerenityRUS	9	4149	Sep 30, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Tradition 5... (Preview) Hi Y'all... Tradition 5- is about the purpose of Alanon. I needed to look at this this morning and meditate on the meaning. Much Of the time I am content to post and reflect on readings from out three readers. Today I am able to read and think clearly- to absorb the meaning of things. The old me u...	DavidG	4	3085	Sep 29, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Prayers Please ... (Preview) I very near and dear friend's adult child is struggling with addiction and has been for a while. AC at home for now and there is an intervention being staged, don't know how that's going to workout I just pray that my friend is able to let go and let God with the situation and she's willing to accept if h...	SerenityRUS	13	3300	Sep 28, 2019 by andromeda
	C2C, September 27 - Personal Safety (Preview) Tomorrow's reading in Courage to Change speaks about physical abuse. Al-Anon recognizes that decisions about staying or leaving relationships are up to the individual. But it also emphasizes our personal responsibility to take care of ourselves and to be honest about our situation. We can be p...	Freetime	4	4135	Sep 27, 2019 by Lyne
	Business Board (Preview) https://mipbusiness.activeboard.com/t65922748/group-conscience-on-guidelines-for-posting/	hotrod	0	2992	Sep 26, 2019 by hotrod
	Courage to Change September 25 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's C2C, the author shares that they find themselves taking the third step (Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.) over and over again. However, they usually wait until they are overwhelmed before turning the overwhelming pro...	Skorpi	8	3667	Sep 26, 2019 by bud
	Courage to Change 9/26 (Preview) Good morning MIP family and Happy Thursday. Today's reading discusses feelings and how our gentle program suggests that feelings are neither good nor bad - they are simply just a part of who we are. The writer believed that anger, resentment, jealousy and fear were 'bad' feelings when first coming...	Iamhere	4	1300	Sep 26, 2019 by bud
	It seems I am struggling more with his recovery than the 20 years of addiction (Preview) My husband and I have been married for 30 plus years. He was a highly functional alcoholic for 20 years. He still went to work, he was never physically abusive and was a good father. In the last few years his drinking got worse and worse. I quit wanting to go places with him because he always insisted...	cmarsh4	9	3751	Sep 25, 2019 by Bo
	History repeats (Preview) Hello hope everyone having a great day! My ah is back to his drinking its been 4 months now and it seams the lies he told 3 years ago he seams to repeat the same lies for his reasonings example: im late because someone didnt come to work on time I would believe it but every day 2 hours late!! Why cant the alcoho...	Wisdom67	8	1836	Sep 24, 2019 by Bo
	New here - need advice - partner hiding alcohol (Preview) Hello. I am new here and I am in need of some advice. A quick background: I am 32 and my partner is 28. I met my partner almost 2 years ago, and I didn't know off the bat he was an alcoholic. I come from an entire family of alcoholics, but it is something I just didn't figure out until a few months into our relatio...	cfgc1215	11	1340	Sep 23, 2019 by canadianguy
	Happy Birthday Jerry! (Preview) I am honored to share this day of birth with Jerry, my brother from another mother! I am humbled to share this day with you and am sending your blessed birthday wishes from my place in this grand world to your island that you love and cherish. Thank you for being part of my chosen recovery family - make it...	Iamhere	17	3768	Sep 23, 2019 by canadianguy
	C2C, 9/23 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 9/23, speaks about the authors character defect of responding in kind-insults with insults, rudeness with rudeness, etc. But they learned they could choose to respond with courtesy, and detach from the negative behavior. They did not have to lower their own standards. T...	Lyne	3	1933	Sep 23, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Decisions... (Preview) Hope everyone is having a good evening. It has been awhile since I was last on here. A few things have happened, I am facing a dilema. I will have to make a decision. I met a wonderful man who is kind and considerate of me. We started out as friends but have really gotten to know each other better. He wants t...	Wndrwmn	10	4102	Sep 23, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Had my serenity shattered today, need the calm of MIP! ( 1 2 ) (Preview) So I guess this is going to be a vent-session. This is in regards to my Ex-husband's text that I received at work today. Pertinent back-story: We are on friendly terms. He texts me a lot. As long as he is working his program (as far as I can tell), I don't mind returning texts, sharing funny jokes/stories e...	PosiesandPuppies	45	5610	Sep 22, 2019 by Maresie888
	Step 12 to Step One... right round the clock... (Preview) Hi Y'all... I have had a love-hate relationship with my higher power... well just surges of anger and old gunk surfacing- and getting in the way of my vision... Sometimes i took down the first word- in the serenity prayer- and made it a direct petition. Sometimes I replace the first word with the wo...	DavidG	4	1913	Sep 22, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Sept 22 (Preview) Good Morning everyone- Todays reading is about recognizing that we may not be comfortable around our own family members. We may find it difficult or even painful to confide in them. We may realize that although we love our family, it might be necessary to limit or completely restrict our time around t...	yanksfan51	5	374	Sep 22, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change September 18 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares why they keep coming back to Al-Anon. When the author was new to Al-Anon, they would say "I'm better off now than I was before" I came to the program, I'll keep coming back. When they became frustrated by all the changes they wanted to make in them...	Skorpi	7	757	Sep 21, 2019 by Maresie888
	Feeling as if everything falls apart (Preview) But feelings are not facts. I feel like that for this hour. For this evening. Logically I see that this is not so. Realistically I just see more work piling up for me to plow through and I get so overwhelmed at the thought of it. My go to response for many years In the face of overwhelming-ness (lol excuse th...	a4l	11	1705	Sep 21, 2019 by Maresie888
	How to deal with the lying? (Preview) Do all alcoholics lie?? Is this just another one of the typical side effects that come along with it??? The lying is about to make me go crazy. We have been working so hard to rebuild our marriage, rebuild our life and our family. The one thing I ask is for honesty. I am beginning to wonder if he is e...	danyell	25	10495	Sep 21, 2019 by Maresie888
	Telling AH about Meetings (Preview) I am to the point of planning on finally going to a meeting tomorrow after work. I have to tell AH something about why Im not going to be home right after work so figure I should tell him what Im doing. Any advice on how to bring it up? Hes not violent so its not that Im scared of him I just dont know how to bring it...	Lostandscared	11	3691	Sep 21, 2019 by Maresie888
	C2C September 20 -- Gratitude (Preview) Good morning, MIP friends! It's still morning where I live. In today's reading, the author says that writing gratitude lists planted a seed -- but did not really improve their negative thinking. Eventually they learned to experience gratitude for little accomplishments they made in everyday l...	Freetime	4	523	Sep 21, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change 9/19 (Preview) Tomorrow's reading is about Step 8. The reading suggests that reviewing our step inventory (4th Step) can help refresh our memories. We can ask ourselves about situations where our defects were present and consider adding names that we've not previously thought of. We can also look at folks on o...	Iamhere	5	2009	Sep 21, 2019 by bud
	Hello Family...Back again :) (Preview) Hello MIP Family Just a Note to Let ya's know I'm Still Kicking, Still Sober (8yrs 10 Months, & 16days to be exact :D), and Still Working my Program the Best I Can... One Day at a Time :) Many Wonderful and Not So Wonderful things have happened for me this Year, and Some in the Eyes of Addiction and Some...	Jozie	19	4040	Sep 19, 2019 by mamalioness
	don't know what to say? (Preview) Today is a day where words escape me. I am having some trouble getting the words out. I really need to write to my cousin on this computer but I really don't have a clue what to say to her either. I am not complacent, discouraged or depressed. I just need some time to think things over & access what it is t...	Hoot Nanny	2	1822	Sep 18, 2019 by Lyne
	Getting squirrely (Preview) When I'm getting squirrely I know that it's because I'm starting back down that path of self-will again. Let me preface this with the fact that I don't have any high drama going on in my life. If anything, this is to prove to others than even when you think all your problems are solved - you're not around ac...	Aloha	10	5249	Sep 17, 2019 by Maresie888
	odat READING 9-17 (Preview) he ODAT reading for Tuesday, September 17 speaks about the importance of working the 12 steps every day regardless of whether we are dealing with alcoholism . The reading suggests that we replace the word alcohol with the name of my problem and move forward it says that we do have power god given t...	hotrod	6	657	Sep 17, 2019 by Iamhere
	Parenting Skills (Preview) Hi, my name is Riderck, my experiences are growing up with a mother who was an alcoholic. Any the interactions and experiences I endured during our alcohol-fueled interactions. Has affected how I interact and discipline my children. I am curious to see if others who have similar backgrounds. Are w...	Rglaspie	3	3203	Sep 17, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	C2C, 9/16 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 9/16, looks at how our negative thinking, and expected poor outcomes, may not necessarily come true. In fact, a very persistent feeling is just a feeling, not a prophecy. The author says that a positive outcome is just as likely as a negative one. The author suggests we trus...	Lyne	5	607	Sep 16, 2019 by Iamhere
	Forehead smack (Preview) Sooo .. lol .. my X does the right thing and pays support it's currently sitting at the distribution center waiting for release .. it's not being released at the moment and no one knows why. The conversations that have taken place make me LOL out loud because it's just so typical of this situation with t...	SerenityRUS	13	1942	Sep 16, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	More of my story - Becoming me (Preview) https://alanon.activeboard.com/t65878307/where-my-story-began/.	HappyToe	2	5342	Sep 16, 2019 by Maresie888
	Something current. (Preview) So I was gonna try to go in order with my story and try to relay my history with addiction. But me and my fiancee, my ah, are having some strife. A little back story that I plan to elaborate on in a later post is this. Roughly a year ago she decided to separate and leave me and take our kids to our homestate and aw...	HappyToe	6	2671	Sep 16, 2019 by Maresie888
	Hope for Today Sept 15 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the power in making amends. The writer describes the feeling when someone else in his/her alanon group has made amends toward him/her. The impression was of the humility and strength it took to offer an amends. The writer then describes how much st...	yanksfan51	5	433	Sep 15, 2019 by Iamhere
	when someone in the program dies? (Preview) I feel a little bit of grief but not a lot. I guess his being in AA is not as effective as maybe another death might be more painful. I know that this person was trying to stay as healthy as possible. He was taking walks daily for quite awhile & just had a heart attack while he was walking. He died a week ago...	Hoot Nanny	4	2867	Sep 14, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	CAREER ADVICE (Preview) Hello everyone! So, our company is in budget cuts and I am in a position where I am not in fear of losing my job. Our department is growing. I am a good networker and in the past 1.5 years I've put feelers out to different departments and have made friends across very different groups at my company. It'...	andromeda	19	2864	Sep 14, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change, Friday 9/13 (Preview) The reading for September 13 speaks about making the best use of each moment of the day. With just 24 hours in a day to spend, the author talks about using those hours to grow and improve -- applying tools of the program to what is happening. And, a brand new 24 hours can begin at any moment, which helps wh...	Freetime	5	1071	Sep 13, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 9/12 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about the three A(s) - Awareness, Acceptance and Action. Often when we have problems or changes in our lives, we experience awareness. Acceptance follows, and then action. We often experience discomfort with new found awareness, and most of us are eager to...	Iamhere	5	2753	Sep 13, 2019 by Iamhere
	Where my story began (Preview) Hello again everyone. I'd like to share part of my story. Fortunately for me, it is not the horror story many people have suffered. Though there are parts that I think are rough but worth expressing. My mother gave birth to me in Ohio. My father was never informed of her pregnancy and that is the extent of...	HappyToe	10	1837	Sep 11, 2019 by HappyToe
	Courage to Change September 11 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about working the 4th step. Step 4 is making a searching and fearless moral inventory of myself. The author shares that throughout their step 4 work, they experienced a nagging feeling that they were not doing the 4th step right. With the help of their HP, the auth...	Skorpi	2	3338	Sep 11, 2019 by Iamhere
	New here (Preview) Hey everyone. I'm new to the boards. I'm not sure if this will post. The first post I made didn't make it through. I'm a male in my mid 30s and live in the northern part of the USA. I have a fiancee and we have been together for 13+ years. We have 2 boys ages 4 and 8. She is my alcoholic, but I grew up with alcoholic...	HappyToe	13	1180	Sep 11, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Is this on my side of the street? (Preview) I was doing ok until this morning when I found out the my daughter's husband and family ganged up on her and bullied her mercilessly until she broke down the night before their wedding. (wedding was last night) This was over the parent's friend who wanted to bring a date. The parents had invited 90% of th...	bud	11	5040	Sep 10, 2019 by mamalioness
	New Member (Preview) Hello, I am not too sure how this works, first time to Al-Anon and was looking for someone to chat with. I have heard how much this program can help, I am doing this for myself as well as my loved one. I need help to understand what they are going through. Thanks!	Becks	8	3149	Sep 10, 2019 by mamalioness
	C2C Reading 9=10 (Preview) The C2C reading for Tuesday, September 10 speaks about how we tend to use denial in order to survive in the world. The reading points out that we lie to ourselves in order to feel safe and when we begin to get honest using the Al-Anon tools we find honesty is the best way to face life the reading points out t...	hotrod	7	5595	Sep 10, 2019 by mamalioness
	held hostage at work– support please (Preview) This morning I received an email from the corporate business lawyer demanding people come to work or resign within the obligations of their contract. It was sent to everyone. It had threatening tones. Apparently the business owner changed his mind since he sent a farewell and letter and that the bus...	bud	27	12875	Sep 10, 2019 by mamalioness
	Step 1 (Preview) I am starting the steps. I am unclear exactly what questions I should be answering for step 1. Some questions I have read are: Do I accept that I am powerless over alcohol and that our lives ad become unmanageable? List 10 things I am powerless of What does powerless mean to meHow can I let go of trying to...	Jen61	10	1905	Sep 10, 2019 by bud
	STEP 1 (Preview) I read the step boards and these words written by another member, shook me to my core: When AGF relapsed I felt the responsibility to be strong for her, to maintain myself like a pillar so that she would have an anchor... I have spent way too much energy and life analyzing THEIR problem. How they should...	joker	9	873	Sep 10, 2019 by hotrod
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