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Not a happy Sunday for me, but thanks to program Im not insane or codependent either. I also gave up the doormat club which my A hates. Its nothing new, it started last night and carried into this morning. Im stronger and coping better. I feel sad but Im OK too. My A says very hurtful things that at least now I understand are just said our of anger and frustration. I speak my truth but do not blurt things out to hurt or embarrass. Im using my tools, the Serenity Prayer and the 3 cs. Im going to be fine. I will walk outside with my dogs and enjoy the cloudy, cool, and breezy weather we are having at the moment. I can be OK no matter what the A is doing. Amen. Lyne
Good for you!! I'm out and about this morning we are headed for a big cooldown 80something lol. It's beautiful today!!
Keep taking care of you Lyne nice program work!!!
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
(((((Lyne)))))
Sending you love, Lyne. I am sorry that today is not the best day for you.
But (and this is a big but!),
You are really working your program to it's fullest here with this post! Kudos for you! Give those pups a hug for me & throw them a ball (or two!).
Keep keepin' on!
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"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
(((Lyne))) - I too am sending you positive thoughts and prayers....I love the awareness you have in your share and hear you about the sadness, frustrations, etc. I often forget 'me' and my basic self-care when I am distracted by the antics of others - hoping you've been really good to you today - you deserve it!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Sending hugs to you Lyne. I can relate to not being part of the doormat club anymore lol. I like the wording of that. Hang in there. I admire your recovery and I hope today is a better day.
Lyne, I'm sorry that yesterday was a rough one for you. Those days certainly pop up and when things have been on an even keel, it throws me....because I am hit with how nasty it feels. You are working such a strong program and have such great self-awareness. Good for you and thank you for sharing with us. Every post helps us all!
I have a supervisor at one of my jobs .
Every day it is this unrelenting spewing of negativity
This negativity is not addresses to me
I avoid her as much as I can .
Nevertheless there is no doubt she is much much worse
I put up with this kind of behavior in the ExA for years
Now I have little tolerance for it
That doesnt mean I say or do anything that will get me in trouble. I do not
But I was an u requited doormat for this kind of dumping all the time
Maresie
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