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Freetime · Freetime

The author of today's page was easily hurt by other people's anger or negative moods. It helped to realize that the other person's words or tone were really about what was going on inside that person. The author realized that extreme sensitivity was based on the belief that "I am the focus of everyone...

joker · joker

Its been awhile since I posted. I have been reading on line here and my thinking is a bit saner. Reading and being in recovery makes a difference for the better. December will be 2 years since I last seen the abf. It seems like a lifetime ago. When I look back, its a true miracle I was not killed or seriously i...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

& I will take them. I am so grateful that no matter what, God I can handle anything. I am so grateful that this is gratitude month where I am from & it certainly doesn't hurt to be grateful. Even if you don't know what gratitude is or where it comes from, I can tell you that I learned to be grateful whe...

Aloha · Aloha

I wanted to share this - I heard a speaker, Tom B. share this little joke at a talk a few days ago. He said his sponsor once informed him that a laurel is something that you wear on your head. So when you're resting (sitting) on your laurels, you essentially have your head up your... ahem. lol I thought that...

amisfitlife · amisfitlife

My boyfriend has been an addict and alcoholic off and on for 14 years. He has had past stints in rehab and stints in jail. He had been clean 9 months this time. For the first time it felt different like he had truly hit rock bottom. Friday evening he went no contact and still has not surfaced. I have been at...

KT2015 · KT2015

Hi There MIP peeps Things had been trucking along pretty well in our household until yesterday. Yesterday my AH was talking about making a bigger purchase for himself and he mentioned using his bonus money for it. About 4 months or so ago we had a bit of upheaval when he asked me to figure out where all...

JerryF · JerryF

And hopefully only a day only. Geez gonna go sit on my HP's lap and just be quiet and still and hopeful. The majority of people around me are upset and pissed and I am powerless. So what do I gotta do? If I am powerless...turn it over and let it go and not do anything to excite while dodging the flying ob...

Lyne · Lyne

The choice of insanity vs sanity is the topic for the reading on Monday, 11/11. Repeating the same behavior over and over and expecting different results is described as an insane way to live. Looking at Step 3, Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him, c...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

What is the purpose of the blue permalink thing in the upper right corner of our posts? Thanks - TT

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the power of......writing! The writer describes how freeing it is to get thoughts down on paper. It is a form of self reflection, a way to get to know ourselves better, a way to vent when things are difficult and celebrate when lifes moments are good. I wo...

Painful · Painful

Am new to this. I've been with my boyfriend for 14 years and we have kids together. When he drinks he becomes a bully to all of us. We try to walk away but he follows us and keeps bring up are flaws. I know we should not argue with him but we get so mad, frustrated and want to hurt him like he is hurting us. It's alw...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading talks about the disease of alcoholism, and that it is classified as a family disease. It affects not only the drinker but those o us who care about him or her as well. The writer suggests that or some of us, our thinking that's been passed down from generations befor...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... I am back from the northern city. Going there was my goal-set for the year- present for myself. This time i did not isolate- but stayed with friends- in a warm comfortable space. One of my long term goals is to be part of a process- that places ACA D-F in a comfortable spot- between Alanon, AA...

kalotaxidi · kalotaxidi

This past year has been a whirlwind with my pregnancy causing my husband to go off the deep end, a new baby, 3 rehabs, and now a new discovery of infidelity. He was away from the house for 5 months over the summer/early fall, and I let him back in after I saw that he was back to his old self and 3 months sober. Th...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's page in One Day At A Time In Al-Anon distinguishes between self-love and love of self. In the author's terms, self-love means a big ego and lack of empathy, while love of self reflects the Biblical phrase "Love thy neighbor as thyself." Only when we value ourselves can we truly love others. R...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Yesterday was very action-packed! I am only going to say all of this to put it in print! I had the most craziest day yesterday! First I went to a big box store twice in 2 different cities. But to step back, I was in the first store in line behind my husband. There was an I-phone right on the end of the line sitti...

hotrod · hotrod

https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t66021917/step-11-11-1/

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author reflects on Step 5: Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. The author wondered about the "exact nature" of their wrongs - was it the negative actions they took, or something else? For the author, t...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Just had to share this language of letting go November 5 This is so cool I had to share it The relationship just was not working out, and I wanted it so badly. I kept thinking if I just made myself look better, if I just try to be more loving, kind, then he or she would love me. I turned myself inside out to be so...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C Reading for 11/5 speaks about the importance of examining our motives. it suggests that many times we speak in order to change another or to manipulate them into what we want. The reading suggests that having the courage to look closely at ourselves in order to uncover what we sa...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone: There are two concepts that strike me from todays reading. First, that we can only be concerned with ourselves and that other peoples behavior (or any of us trying to control it) will not affect our serenity. The sentence that sticks out to me along these lines is: Serenity is a...

JerryF · JerryF

And my wife and I are having fun supporting the growth. Great Grand-Son this time...cutie baby and looks like his Mommy. We are picking out infant cloths and stuff to send so that they know we are involving with it and sharing love. This part of the family doesn't drink or use...Yeeeehaw!! Thank y...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 11/4, talks about the importance of acceptance, especially when dealing with unpleasant realities. The writer learned to have alternative plans ready when they could not count on the alcoholic to come through. By allowing acceptance, the author could give themself cho...

mamalioness · mamalioness

One day at a time in Al-Anon, October 24 Author talks about going to a meeting and hearing many members complaining and moaning about not having what they felt entitled to, or about the alcoholics behavior and generally about their sorry lot in life One brave person spoke up: he or she said that you know...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ...went to my closest f@f Alanon meeting last night. There was one other person there; a different person from last time. It was a great meeting; much better than a one-person meeting, which anyone can do at home. Being November the topic was Step 11. I had already shared on Step 1...

Seahorse7 · Seahorse7

Hello. Years since Ive been here. Sadly my AH has not chosen to help himself all this time and I cannot even raise the topic or it ends up in a horrible fight. Hes getting worse. I just keep my mouth shut and try not to engage but its eating me up. I have chronic anxiety. Im desperately lonely and I know I need s...

Lyne · Lyne

Finding this solution opens many avenues for me, another alanon blessing. Lyne

Temple · Temple

It didn't work, but for those stalwarts still with me, last post on other subject line is "I've got a plan and a great surgeon, and a middle path."

DavidG · DavidG

This younger man appeared on my doorstep. At a vital time of my life. His mum and dad had taken me in and supported me. But i know Fr. was a problem drinker. He was a priest in the Anglican Church. A double binder for a lot of people. He had eventually killed himself... I spent a day with K. He had been only ch...

mamalioness · mamalioness

a nice officer who didn't even know about the call till about 2hrs. ago, came....she tried to, in spite of her paralysis, tried to protect me....we walked her out to the truck and I fell apart.....I totally lost it...............I MISS HER.....I WANNA die!!!1 this hurts so bad....she was my best fri...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author talks about how to tame racing thoughts, and compares it to a horse racing out of control and not obeying the rider's commands. For the horse, repeating the same command louder and louder does not work. The author learned to stop the horse, get his attention, and start again. How c...

Skorpi · Skorpi

With apologies for the lateness of today's post: In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author reflects on the way they have made choices throughout their life. Upon reflection, the author realized that most of their choices had been made as a reaction to fear. (An appropriate topic for th...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I remember growing up. My parents were both problem drinkers. There was always a lot of arguing and sometimes fighting which almost always resulted in my mother getting the crap kicked out of her. This always meant a trip to the hotel for us, or sometimes we would go visit my aunt. She lived on a farm. I le...

Chicagopilot · Chicagopilot

After a few weeks of separation from my wife I have decided it is time to get myself to some meetings. My question is would I benefit from Al-anon meetings even though she is a cocaine and opioid abuser? Finding a nar-anon meeting is proving to be much more difficult than an Alanon meeting. It seems to me...

Lyne · Lyne

For Monday, 10/28, the author discusses their attitudes towards others, both negative and positive. They note when they accept someone unconditionally, they feel safer. On the other hand, when defensive and impatient, the author expects others to be unkind to them. The writer says its in thei...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Haven't been around much recently. I was sick a while ago, bad cold, it got really bad one day so i went to the hospital with the hopes of getting some heavy duty antibiotics. They didn't let me leave for 6 days. Turns out I had pneumonia in both lungs and was suffering a side effect of one of my diabetes med...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today October 29 speaks about being sensitive and blaming others for our feelings. The reading provides an example of someone who has taken a woman's inventory about her weight which enraged the person , who pointed out their concerns. the person who had taken issue wi...

expat78 · expat78

I'm new to Al-Anon. My husband is an alcoholic and is currently in a 28 day rehab program and has just finished his first week. He left after one day previously, but checked himself back in. I'm an American living in his home country of Ireland (we met in the states and moved back three years ago). We have t...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author shares that, when they first came to Al-Anon, they heard some people say that they were grateful to be involved with an alcoholic. Naturally, the author thought these people were crazy. Weren't the alcoholics the cause of everyone's problems in Al-Anon? And yet, the a...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Working a program is hard work, it isnt easy becoming aware of yourself. It was not easy for me to stop blaming everything about myself on my parents, and my ex alcoholic husband after getting away from all my abusers, I took time alone with my kids in tow and went to al-anon meetings, found a sponsor and w...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

My adult daughter who has been to rehab 7 times and sober living twice, got engaged to a heavy drinker about 6 months ago, after dating for almost 4 years. He has been witness to 3 of her relapses, two of which have required 30 day rehabs. Since the engagement, she has relapsed again, and appears they both...

DavidG · DavidG

I used to hear: "I am my own worst enemy!" That is about self-sabotage. And I have seen it in other often- where it is much easier to detect. But in myself- pernicious! I have seen myself in East Texas- admittedly in a stressful situation- trying to put diesel in a petrol rental car. Admittedly the co...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all, I hear people talking about stormy seas- and I use these images too. My life fell apart when i was in school. My history teacher had an MA. He told me I was capable of being a University Lecturer. So i high have been smarter than him. Or, more likely had more opportunity than he ha...

Chicagopilot · Chicagopilot

I see a lot of use of acronyms here and being new to the board I am not sure what they all mean. Is there any place that has them all listed?

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. We have colder weather this morning, the start of the last season of 4...as I sit here and reflect on my day and my life, it dawned on me that Today is a great day for an attitude of gratitude. I am grateful for a program of recovery that gives me a variety of tools to use to live life on life'...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ...there are two aspects to this share... ...along the way sharing has become second nature to me. It has bought me out of my shell. It has given me discipline, over time. But I still love doing it, and I always shall. I know- in the beginning- I didn't cause it, can't control it, an...

Fedora · Fedora

Hi there. Tonight I did something totally out of character for me. But it felt fairly liberating. AH and I were having yet another round of the same fight we've had for decades. When he got tired of what I had to say he went to get a drink out of the fridge. And then I got tired of that. So I went right behind him...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how our self esteem can be affected after having lived with alcoholism. Dealing with the disease is a sure way to stamp down any sense of confidence and self worth. The writer describes how over time, attending meetings, finding a sponsor, were all way...

DavidG · DavidG

"With the help of Alanon friends. sponsor, literature, and our Higher Power, we learn to distinguish the real from the imagined, the harm from the legitimate boundary, the deed from the fallible doer- and perhaps we can eventually polish the tarnish past into a treasured antique. Many of us feel...

Temple · Temple

That went really well. One of the sites in question was smaller than I heard the first time, by a factor of 10 The procedure((s) were hardly painful at all. And the nurse said even if--they aren't likely to recommend chemo or radiation in my case. So that is great--Even if, I won't have to arm-wrestle...

mamalioness · mamalioness

What a hard life

mamalioness · mamalioness

My old doggie's back legs gave out on her AGAIN and this time there is no fixing it I can't get her into my truck and I can't afford (with no job, still) a huge vet bill to euthanize, so I called the animal shelter and they will help me....Sad, I can't hold her while she passes, but I am medicating her with my an...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author found that being too passive was a defect of character: letting things happen to them, rather than taking action. It was the best they knew how to do at the time, but harm was done. Now, the way they make amends is to stop practicing the defect. They take action in all areas of life, and tak...

Temple · Temple

Thanks to everyone for the love and prayers. Please keep them coming. I am still expecting a miraculous outcome. I am to have two biopsies in another two weeks. And I'll have tiny titanium markers inserted. That cracked me up. Here's hoping, and praying, that DDH can suck it up and not throw any t...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... I no longer live the life of a victim- at least I don't think so. My first ten years of Alanon were unstructured sharing. It felt like everyone sponsored everyone else, within the group. And I was around when sponsorship came into vogue- and i got a sponsor. What happened that ther...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Happy Thursday to one and all. Today's reading compares the process of recovery to the peeling of an onion or the growth of a birch tree. In both scenarios, there is a process of growth, shedding, healing, etc. We peel away a layer at a time with an onion, often shedding a few tears a...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Todays entry talks about examining a common place familiar phrase. A lot of times we are told to meditate on it, or take it apart and explore it. We are advised to stand in our own light, how clearly the picture emerges of our shadowing our own happiness by mistaken thinking. Maybe we should just stand ou...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares that, while sobriety brings change, it doesn't take away all the problems. The author was sure that the nightmare was over once the alcholic became sober. Instead, the alcoholic accused, insulted, and attacked, becoming verbally abusive...

a4l · a4l

Progressive, alcoholism is progressive. Things are bad here. The alcoholic mother is at the height of her lifelong irresponsibly selfish and foul natured best. I'm torn between wanting to cut and run or have her committed. I can't believe my life sees me faced with the burden of someone who is me...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hi Everyone!!! Wish I had good news on my part, but last week I lost 1/2 of my income , losing my largest client. I am clinging to my program and my HP and a few trusted recovery mates and close family/friends , doing affirmations, yoga, casting burden to my HP within me, I'm doing it ALL to fight off the fear...

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	Courage to Change, November 14 (Preview) The author of today's page was easily hurt by other people's anger or negative moods. It helped to realize that the other person's words or tone were really about what was going on inside that person. The author realized that extreme sensitivity was based on the belief that "I am the focus of everyone...	Freetime	3	1583	Nov 15, 2019 by DavidG
	Changes (Preview) Its been awhile since I posted. I have been reading on line here and my thinking is a bit saner. Reading and being in recovery makes a difference for the better. December will be 2 years since I last seen the abf. It seems like a lifetime ago. When I look back, its a true miracle I was not killed or seriously i...	joker	3	2155	Nov 15, 2019 by Bo
	blessings just keep coming! (Preview) & I will take them. I am so grateful that no matter what, God I can handle anything. I am so grateful that this is gratitude month where I am from & it certainly doesn't hurt to be grateful. Even if you don't know what gratitude is or where it comes from, I can tell you that I learned to be grateful whe...	Hoot Nanny	3	577	Nov 14, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Resting on your laurels (Preview) I wanted to share this - I heard a speaker, Tom B. share this little joke at a talk a few days ago. He said his sponsor once informed him that a laurel is something that you wear on your head. So when you're resting (sitting) on your laurels, you essentially have your head up your... ahem. lol I thought that...	Aloha	2	2350	Nov 12, 2019 by Iamhere
	Relapse (Preview) My boyfriend has been an addict and alcoholic off and on for 14 years. He has had past stints in rehab and stints in jail. He had been clean 9 months this time. For the first time it felt different like he had truly hit rock bottom. Friday evening he went no contact and still has not surfaced. I have been at...	amisfitlife	4	3395	Nov 12, 2019 by Bo
	touched a nerve (Preview) Hi There MIP peeps Things had been trucking along pretty well in our household until yesterday. Yesterday my AH was talking about making a bigger purchase for himself and he mentioned using his bonus money for it. About 4 months or so ago we had a bit of upheaval when he asked me to figure out where all...	KT2015	6	2314	Nov 12, 2019 by 2HP
	One of those days (Preview) And hopefully only a day only. Geez gonna go sit on my HP's lap and just be quiet and still and hopeful. The majority of people around me are upset and pissed and I am powerless. So what do I gotta do? If I am powerless...turn it over and let it go and not do anything to excite while dodging the flying ob...	JerryF	13	2384	Nov 11, 2019 by JerryF
	C2C, 11/11 (Preview) The choice of insanity vs sanity is the topic for the reading on Monday, 11/11. Repeating the same behavior over and over and expecting different results is described as an insane way to live. Looking at Step 3, Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him, c...	Lyne	3	1466	Nov 11, 2019 by Iamhere
	Site Question (Preview) What is the purpose of the blue permalink thing in the upper right corner of our posts? Thanks - TT	tiredtonite	2	1820	Nov 11, 2019 by tiredtonite
	Hope for Today Nov 10 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the power of......writing! The writer describes how freeing it is to get thoughts down on paper. It is a form of self reflection, a way to get to know ourselves better, a way to vent when things are difficult and celebrate when lifes moments are good. I wo...	yanksfan51	4	843	Nov 10, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Don't know what to do (Preview) Am new to this. I've been with my boyfriend for 14 years and we have kids together. When he drinks he becomes a bully to all of us. We try to walk away but he follows us and keeps bring up are flaws. I know we should not argue with him but we get so mad, frustrated and want to hurt him like he is hurting us. It's alw...	Painful	10	6905	Nov 10, 2019 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change 11/7 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading talks about the disease of alcoholism, and that it is classified as a family disease. It affects not only the drinker but those o us who care about him or her as well. The writer suggests that or some of us, our thinking that's been passed down from generations befor...	Iamhere	5	638	Nov 9, 2019 by Maresie888
	Time out is time well spent... (Preview) Hi y'all... I am back from the northern city. Going there was my goal-set for the year- present for myself. This time i did not isolate- but stayed with friends- in a warm comfortable space. One of my long term goals is to be part of a process- that places ACA D-F in a comfortable spot- between Alanon, AA...	DavidG	0	4016	Nov 9, 2019 by DavidG
	Cheating and where to go from here (Preview) This past year has been a whirlwind with my pregnancy causing my husband to go off the deep end, a new baby, 3 rehabs, and now a new discovery of infidelity. He was away from the house for 5 months over the summer/early fall, and I let him back in after I saw that he was back to his old self and 3 months sober. Th...	kalotaxidi	12	5017	Nov 9, 2019 by Bo
	ODAT 11/8 (Preview) Today's page in One Day At A Time In Al-Anon distinguishes between self-love and love of self. In the author's terms, self-love means a big ego and lack of empathy, while love of self reflects the Biblical phrase "Love thy neighbor as thyself." Only when we value ourselves can we truly love others. R...	Freetime	4	4272	Nov 8, 2019 by Iamhere
	2 good deeds & one event w/ anxiety! (Preview) Yesterday was very action-packed! I am only going to say all of this to put it in print! I had the most craziest day yesterday! First I went to a big box store twice in 2 different cities. But to step back, I was in the first store in line behind my husband. There was an I-phone right on the end of the line sitti...	Hoot Nanny	5	3705	Nov 8, 2019 by Bo
	Step 11 posted (Preview) https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t66021917/step-11-11-1/	hotrod	5	6526	Nov 7, 2019 by JerryF
	Courage to Change November 6 (Preview) In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author reflects on Step 5: Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. The author wondered about the "exact nature" of their wrongs - was it the negative actions they took, or something else? For the author, t...	Skorpi	4	3093	Nov 6, 2019 by Iamhere
	Just had to share this language of letting go November 5 (Preview) Just had to share this language of letting go November 5 This is so cool I had to share it The relationship just was not working out, and I wanted it so badly. I kept thinking if I just made myself look better, if I just try to be more loving, kind, then he or she would love me. I turned myself inside out to be so...	mamalioness	3	3872	Nov 6, 2019 by mamalioness
	C2 C Reading 11-5 (Preview) The C2C Reading for 11/5 speaks about the importance of examining our motives. it suggests that many times we speak in order to change another or to manipulate them into what we want. The reading suggests that having the courage to look closely at ourselves in order to uncover what we sa...	hotrod	7	642	Nov 5, 2019 by Wolfie55
	Nov 3 Hope for Today (Preview) Good morning Everyone: There are two concepts that strike me from todays reading. First, that we can only be concerned with ourselves and that other peoples behavior (or any of us trying to control it) will not affect our serenity. The sentence that sticks out to me along these lines is: Serenity is a...	yanksfan51	6	1971	Nov 5, 2019 by Maresie888
	The family continues to grow (Preview) And my wife and I are having fun supporting the growth. Great Grand-Son this time...cutie baby and looks like his Mommy. We are picking out infant cloths and stuff to send so that they know we are involving with it and sharing love. This part of the family doesn't drink or use...Yeeeehaw!! Thank y...	JerryF	9	2629	Nov 5, 2019 by Iamhere
	C2C, 11/4 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 11/4, talks about the importance of acceptance, especially when dealing with unpleasant realities. The writer learned to have alternative plans ready when they could not count on the alcoholic to come through. By allowing acceptance, the author could give themself cho...	Lyne	6	4987	Nov 5, 2019 by Maresie888
	One day at a time in Al-Anon, October 24 (Preview) One day at a time in Al-Anon, October 24 Author talks about going to a meeting and hearing many members complaining and moaning about not having what they felt entitled to, or about the alcoholics behavior and generally about their sorry lot in life One brave person spoke up: he or she said that you know...	mamalioness	12	3918	Nov 5, 2019 by mamalioness
	A catch-up share, and when is enough sharing enough...? (Preview) Hi y'all... ...went to my closest f@f Alanon meeting last night. There was one other person there; a different person from last time. It was a great meeting; much better than a one-person meeting, which anyone can do at home. Being November the topic was Step 11. I had already shared on Step 1...	DavidG	1	3425	Nov 4, 2019 by Freetime
	Al-Anon for atheists and introverts (Preview) Hello. Years since Ive been here. Sadly my AH has not chosen to help himself all this time and I cannot even raise the topic or it ends up in a horrible fight. Hes getting worse. I just keep my mouth shut and try not to engage but its eating me up. I have chronic anxiety. Im desperately lonely and I know I need s...	Seahorse7	10	6118	Nov 3, 2019 by Seahorse7
	11/4 continued (Preview) Finding this solution opens many avenues for me, another alanon blessing. Lyne	Lyne	0	2495	Nov 3, 2019 by Lyne
	tried to change subject to "Never mind-got back to bus board. (Preview) It didn't work, but for those stalwarts still with me, last post on other subject line is "I've got a plan and a great surgeon, and a middle path."	Temple	5	7311	Nov 3, 2019 by Temple
	I drained my battery- but glad of it... Steps 10, 11 and 12... (Preview) This younger man appeared on my doorstep. At a vital time of my life. His mum and dad had taken me in and supported me. But i know Fr. was a problem drinker. He was a priest in the Anglican Church. A double binder for a lot of people. He had eventually killed himself... I spent a day with K. He had been only ch...	DavidG	1	4773	Nov 3, 2019 by Lyne
	SHE's gone (Preview) a nice officer who didn't even know about the call till about 2hrs. ago, came....she tried to, in spite of her paralysis, tried to protect me....we walked her out to the truck and I fell apart.....I totally lost it...............I MISS HER.....I WANNA die!!!1 this hurts so bad....she was my best fri...	mamalioness	31	4460	Nov 2, 2019 by mamalioness
	C2C, November 1 (Preview) Today's author talks about how to tame racing thoughts, and compares it to a horse racing out of control and not obeying the rider's commands. For the horse, repeating the same command louder and louder does not work. The author learned to stop the horse, get his attention, and start again. How c...	Freetime	6	795	Nov 2, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change October 31 (Preview) With apologies for the lateness of today's post: In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author reflects on the way they have made choices throughout their life. Upon reflection, the author realized that most of their choices had been made as a reaction to fear. (An appropriate topic for th...	Skorpi	2	1882	Nov 1, 2019 by Lyne
	The Cage (Preview) I remember growing up. My parents were both problem drinkers. There was always a lot of arguing and sometimes fighting which almost always resulted in my mother getting the crap kicked out of her. This always meant a trip to the hotel for us, or sometimes we would go visit my aunt. She lived on a farm. I le...	Wolfie55	5	4134	Nov 1, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Meeting help (Preview) After a few weeks of separation from my wife I have decided it is time to get myself to some meetings. My question is would I benefit from Al-anon meetings even though she is a cocaine and opioid abuser? Finding a nar-anon meeting is proving to be much more difficult than an Alanon meeting. It seems to me...	Chicagopilot	10	871	Oct 31, 2019 by Freetime
	C2C, 10/28 (Preview) For Monday, 10/28, the author discusses their attitudes towards others, both negative and positive. They note when they accept someone unconditionally, they feel safer. On the other hand, when defensive and impatient, the author expects others to be unkind to them. The writer says its in thei...	Lyne	5	3973	Oct 31, 2019 by Maresie888
	Life Just Happens (Preview) Haven't been around much recently. I was sick a while ago, bad cold, it got really bad one day so i went to the hospital with the hopes of getting some heavy duty antibiotics. They didn't let me leave for 6 days. Turns out I had pneumonia in both lungs and was suffering a side effect of one of my diabetes med...	Wolfie55	10	4205	Oct 30, 2019 by Wolfie55
	C2C reading 10-29 (Preview) The C2C reading for today October 29 speaks about being sensitive and blaming others for our feelings. The reading provides an example of someone who has taken a woman's inventory about her weight which enraged the person , who pointed out their concerns. the person who had taken issue wi...	hotrod	7	2610	Oct 30, 2019 by Maresie888
	For those that left... ah leaving (Preview) I'm new to Al-Anon. My husband is an alcoholic and is currently in a 28 day rehab program and has just finished his first week. He left after one day previously, but checked himself back in. I'm an American living in his home country of Ireland (we met in the states and moved back three years ago). We have t...	expat78	6	6690	Oct 30, 2019 by Aloha
	Courage to Change October 30 (Preview) In today's reading, the author shares that, when they first came to Al-Anon, they heard some people say that they were grateful to be involved with an alcoholic. Naturally, the author thought these people were crazy. Weren't the alcoholics the cause of everyone's problems in Al-Anon? And yet, the a...	Skorpi	4	1098	Oct 30, 2019 by Iamhere
	A work in progress (Preview) Working a program is hard work, it isnt easy becoming aware of yourself. It was not easy for me to stop blaming everything about myself on my parents, and my ex alcoholic husband after getting away from all my abusers, I took time alone with my kids in tow and went to al-anon meetings, found a sponsor and w...	Breakingfree	10	997	Oct 30, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Abusive situation- Advice needed! (Preview) My adult daughter who has been to rehab 7 times and sober living twice, got engaged to a heavy drinker about 6 months ago, after dating for almost 4 years. He has been witness to 3 of her relapses, two of which have required 30 day rehabs. Since the engagement, she has relapsed again, and appears they both...	Buckeye Girl	4	5141	Oct 29, 2019 by mamalioness
	Freedom from fear... (Preview) I used to hear: "I am my own worst enemy!" That is about self-sabotage. And I have seen it in other often- where it is much easier to detect. But in myself- pernicious! I have seen myself in East Texas- admittedly in a stressful situation- trying to put diesel in a petrol rental car. Admittedly the co...	DavidG	5	3822	Oct 29, 2019 by DavidG
	On a tightrope...??? (Preview) Hi y'all, I hear people talking about stormy seas- and I use these images too. My life fell apart when i was in school. My history teacher had an MA. He told me I was capable of being a University Lecturer. So i high have been smarter than him. Or, more likely had more opportunity than he ha...	DavidG	4	2382	Oct 29, 2019 by Maresie888
	Acronyms (Preview) I see a lot of use of acronyms here and being new to the board I am not sure what they all mean. Is there any place that has them all listed?	Chicagopilot	2	4019	Oct 29, 2019 by hotrod
	Great Day for an Attitude of Gratitude (Preview) Good morning MIP. We have colder weather this morning, the start of the last season of 4...as I sit here and reflect on my day and my life, it dawned on me that Today is a great day for an attitude of gratitude. I am grateful for a program of recovery that gives me a variety of tools to use to live life on life'...	Iamhere	14	2824	Oct 28, 2019 by Aloha
	The 3 "C"s... looking forwards... (Preview) Hi y'all... ...there are two aspects to this share... ...along the way sharing has become second nature to me. It has bought me out of my shell. It has given me discipline, over time. But I still love doing it, and I always shall. I know- in the beginning- I didn't cause it, can't control it, an...	DavidG	3	4195	Oct 28, 2019 by Aloha
	not a good moment, but I'm so sick of being the sane one. (Preview) Hi there. Tonight I did something totally out of character for me. But it felt fairly liberating. AH and I were having yet another round of the same fight we've had for decades. When he got tired of what I had to say he went to get a drink out of the fridge. And then I got tired of that. So I went right behind him...	Fedora	9	2137	Oct 28, 2019 by Aloha
	Hope for Today Oct 27 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how our self esteem can be affected after having lived with alcoholism. Dealing with the disease is a sure way to stamp down any sense of confidence and self worth. The writer describes how over time, attending meetings, finding a sponsor, were all way...	yanksfan51	4	2382	Oct 27, 2019 by hotrod
	Towards the end of the middle steps... (Preview) "With the help of Alanon friends. sponsor, literature, and our Higher Power, we learn to distinguish the real from the imagined, the harm from the legitimate boundary, the deed from the fallible doer- and perhaps we can eventually polish the tarnish past into a treasured antique. Many of us feel...	DavidG	3	653	Oct 27, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hot Puppies! (Preview) That went really well. One of the sites in question was smaller than I heard the first time, by a factor of 10 The procedure((s) were hardly painful at all. And the nurse said even if--they aren't likely to recommend chemo or radiation in my case. So that is great--Even if, I won't have to arm-wrestle...	Temple	7	935	Oct 27, 2019 by Maresie888
	Gosh life is so hard (Preview) What a hard life	mamalioness	10	820	Oct 25, 2019 by mamalioness
	I know this isn't Al-anon, but the pain is (Preview) My old doggie's back legs gave out on her AGAIN and this time there is no fixing it I can't get her into my truck and I can't afford (with no job, still) a huge vet bill to euthanize, so I called the animal shelter and they will help me....Sad, I can't hold her while she passes, but I am medicating her with my an...	mamalioness	14	4363	Oct 25, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change, 10/25 (Preview) Today's author found that being too passive was a defect of character: letting things happen to them, rather than taking action. It was the best they knew how to do at the time, but harm was done. Now, the way they make amends is to stop practicing the defect. They take action in all areas of life, and tak...	Freetime	6	750	Oct 25, 2019 by hotrod
	Thanks everyone (Preview) Thanks to everyone for the love and prayers. Please keep them coming. I am still expecting a miraculous outcome. I am to have two biopsies in another two weeks. And I'll have tiny titanium markers inserted. That cracked me up. Here's hoping, and praying, that DDH can suck it up and not throw any t...	Temple	13	5566	Oct 25, 2019 by Maresie888
	Getting off the pity pot... when...??? (Preview) Hi y'all... I no longer live the life of a victim- at least I don't think so. My first ten years of Alanon were unstructured sharing. It felt like everyone sponsored everyone else, within the group. And I was around when sponsorship came into vogue- and i got a sponsor. What happened that ther...	DavidG	15	6931	Oct 24, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 10/24 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Happy Thursday to one and all. Today's reading compares the process of recovery to the peeling of an onion or the growth of a birch tree. In both scenarios, there is a process of growth, shedding, healing, etc. We peel away a layer at a time with an onion, often shedding a few tears a...	Iamhere	4	1476	Oct 24, 2019 by mamalioness
	One day at a time in Alanon October 23 (Preview) Todays entry talks about examining a common place familiar phrase. A lot of times we are told to meditate on it, or take it apart and explore it. We are advised to stand in our own light, how clearly the picture emerges of our shadowing our own happiness by mistaken thinking. Maybe we should just stand ou...	mamalioness	3	2827	Oct 24, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change October 23 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author shares that, while sobriety brings change, it doesn't take away all the problems. The author was sure that the nightmare was over once the alcholic became sober. Instead, the alcoholic accused, insulted, and attacked, becoming verbally abusive...	Skorpi	6	679	Oct 24, 2019 by Aloha
	Pretty depressed. (Preview) Progressive, alcoholism is progressive. Things are bad here. The alcoholic mother is at the height of her lifelong irresponsibly selfish and foul natured best. I'm torn between wanting to cut and run or have her committed. I can't believe my life sees me faced with the burden of someone who is me...	a4l	15	6757	Oct 23, 2019 by KT2015
	HELLO Everyone!!! Its been a long time!!! (Preview) Hi Everyone!!! Wish I had good news on my part, but last week I lost 1/2 of my income , losing my largest client. I am clinging to my program and my HP and a few trusted recovery mates and close family/friends , doing affirmations, yoga, casting burden to my HP within me, I'm doing it ALL to fight off the fear...	mamalioness	28	7248	Oct 23, 2019 by mamalioness
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