Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Apple Pie · Apple Pie

I just wanted to let you all know that I did go see the counselor, and she was helpful... mostly just a good ear and helping me to see how I was feeling-- more or less I'd tell her something and she'd say "you must of been very disapointed" (sad, angry, etc) and I would say "yes--" and she also asked "what can I...

UncleLou · UncleLou

Help me understand something about the flip side of the disease of Alcoholism. After 14 years of marriage (while drinking) I checked myself into a rehab 2 years ago. When I went in my wife was very, very angry. So angry, in fact, my councilors, upon meeting her, suggested that I stay at the rehab for 2 m...

lin0606 · lin0606

Saw this on another forum I go to, thought some of you might like it. Ten Guidelines From God Effective immediately, please be aware that there are changes YOU need to make in YOUR life. These changes need to be completed in order that I may fulfill My promises to you to grant you peace, joy and ha...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, I received another funny at work and wanted to share it with you all! THE THIMBLE One day, when a seamstress was sewing while sitting close to a river, her thimble fell into the river. When she cried out, the Lord appeared and asked, "My d...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] i got a hot lead on a park-for-fee place...checked it out and it turned out to be a bust..the scenic drive to get there was one of the best rainy day adventures i've had yet! It is very strange literally being inside a cloud that high up. the diversity of the scenery on the trip down w...

kimmie · kimmie

Why is it that when my "A" has a full night of drinking and puts away more than 18 beers, the next morning he wakes up and says "Oh, I think I'm coming down with something". Is that an alcoholic thing, because every "A" I know says that when they are hungover. Do they actually believe th...

cdb · cdb

Hello Princess, I heard it was your birthday on Thursday. I hope I heard right :) If so, Have a very happy birthday~ cdb :)

dori · dori

Hey gang, I finished a week at work so far doing very well.Some of you asked a few things so I will answer them in here.My recovery is comeing still doing meetings and meeting with sponsor.I am still seeing doctors and am sleeping now.The kids are back in school and working part time.Yes...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hey guys its OK if you want to give ESH....... *******this is taken from a "language of letting go" daily reminder, my take The Freedom of Surrender This is the surrender step. Once we surrender, we become free to take care of ourselve, with the assistance of our Higher Po...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I have not posted in a few days. Everyone's experiences and knowledge in this message board really challenges me to think about myself and keep going. It's hard for me to make F/F meetings, so this has served as a substitute. My a was in the hospital for the last three days. ...

Karl G · Karl G

Can anyone give me their views on Time Shares? Does anyone think it is helpful to have a time keeper or not in a group of 20 to 30 people if the meeting runs for 50 minutes? Thank you Karl

Tammy · Tammy

I havent posted for almost a week .. However, have really been trying to focus on me. Boy, it is really hard loving an alcoholic. Life has been okay here, my A went about 5 days without a drink. Then today while on the boat you guessed it he came home and had been drinking. After we everyone cam...

Heather1 · Heather1

Does anyone ever think that it's ironic the way we all seek help in Alanon, with therapists, etc. when in fact our A's continue on with their lives drinking and drugging with no concern for us (or themselves). I'm guessing that most of us are kind, loving, caring people (who Love our A's very much), bu...

kitty · kitty

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It is so difficult for me, to think of myself. Once I even bein to try... (big sigh) I feel selfish. Guilt wrecks my mind - and I always 'prided' myself on not being *e...

tullemars · tullemars

I got angry when she drank again lastnight. What a waste of energy. I am disapointed in myself for not acting better. I know she can't help it. I do so well most of the time. I feel I let everyone down when I let it get the better of me. I feel good Today. I know that I would be better off with out h...

mizcathi · mizcathi

Episode 3: My husband and I got home from work last Friday to both my son and his waif of an alcoholic girlfriend packed up and gone. I leave for work earlier than my husband, who apparently told them that if they weren't packed up and out by the time we got home, he'd let the Fairfax police handle t...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, Can you all help me out and say a pray for me that I will have patience and understanding with my "A". He is using as I type this. I am okay, I know this is today and tomorrow is a different day. But I want to rage at him. I know that isn't good for wither one of us. I am off to call my sponsor...

Siverhusk · Siverhusk

I have a bit of a dilemma, I think I do know what the right thing is to do but just want to get a few opinions. My A is supposed to be going to outpatient treatment, he is still using, not as much but is still using. He had to go to court last Thursday for a fight that he had gotten into with my son, the cour...

Kim · Kim

Hello everyone. This weekend was a completely disaster, and one I knew was coming. After admitting to smoking pot 6 months ago and "claiming" to get back on the wagon (although it was painfully clear that he wasn't) I went to Florida for a few days to visit my best friend who is currently goingthorugh...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

this is my *entry* on this hope for today message Hope for Today - August 17 I was excited when I came to Al-Anon and found the Twelve Steps. I felt as if I finally had permission to live life my way, but instead I found myself using the program to dissect other...

melanieL · melanieL

Hi I hope u dont mind me posting to you, but have read some of your posts and think you can help me understand something . I was married to my ex-A for 12 years during which time he had several affairs and drunk on and off throughout. He eventually left me and my 3 children to move in with anoth...

jj · jj

Today is my first year aniversary. Eleven years together though. So here I am on my pitty pot feeling sorry for myself as he did not even have the decincy (sp?) to whish me a happy aniversary. Of course I am angry and hurt. I just thought that no matter how little his attempts are to mak...

marmare · marmare

It was a busy weekend, I am glad to be back at work where I can slow down just a bit. (Blessing) I ran and dropped of children (blessing) here and there Saturday morning and then We had a funeral, (My A's best friend's father, I had posted about earlier), the fellowship (blessing)&nb...

princess433 · princess433

HOW DO YOU STAY STRONG? I CAN NEVER FIND THE ANSWER TO THAT QUESTION. MOST OF THE TIME I AM SO STRONG, NOT JUST FOR ME NUT FOR EVERYBODY. SOMETIMES I JUST GO CRY ON MY FRIENDS SHOULDER. I LOVE MY FRIENDS I DONT EVEN HAVE TO TELL THEM HOW I AM FEALING BECAUSE THEY CAN TELL IT IN MY EYES. LIFE SUCKS SOMETIMES. I GET...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi everyone, I have a few question. Everyone says wait six months before you make any big changes. Well my six months are up. I'm very confused. My A is sober now just got his six month chip. I though once he got sober everthing would be just fine. Well things are soooo...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, Has anyone heard form cdb? Do we know how she is doing?

haximon · haximon

[[[ room ]]] further update... it's been a wild, raucous 10 days...i'm taking a slow day because of heavy soreness from all that walking and the exhaustion from trying to get affairs in order... please send money orders rather than anything as i have no bank account and post office is very c...

eileen · eileen

I've been to a couple face to face meetings and I've been readin the posts on here for a few days. I have been too shy to speak up in the meetings so far and so I thought I'd run some things from in my head past you guys. First of all why am I here? I have a 'qualifier'-my boyfriend who drinks every d...

princess433 · princess433

why that every time that i get mad at my alcoholic mom that 5 minutes later i feal guilty. i feal so not powerful, its like she has a power over me. how do i control these fealings? much love- princess433

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, I previously posted in "My Addictions" that I have started the "South Beach Diet", and this means a very strict first two weeks. I have completed one week so far unscathed

. Last night when my "A" came home from work I started dinner and just immediately became depressed. I didn't wa...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

I received this at work today and wanted to share it with you all: A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with his hair fashionably coifed and shaved perfectly applied, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. H...

kimmie · kimmie

Well my "A" and I have been doing real well lately. He knows about Alanon and he is real supportive. Night before last his brothers wife called and left a messgae real late about his brother (also an alcoholic-but hasnt admitted it yet). I guess they had a big fight tha...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] I have a new temporary address... Mike Rolfe 111 NW Burnside Portland, OR 97209 Fro those wishing to help me, you have no idea of my gratitude!! Please don't send cash; too risky to carry too much here. The transit pass information is at http://www.trimet.org/ I do have a...

marmare · marmare

My son, Tom, who lives in AZ called this afternoon. They had taken his wife, Lisa, to the OB/GYN, the doctor told her that she is dilated to 3, go home, get her bag, drop the other kids off at the sitters and return to the hospital. They also sent her with an oxygen tank. She has cy...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I have been struggling with my feelings all weekend. Sometimes feeling positive about my decision about leaving my husband and sometimes feeling that maybe I made a mistake. I shared in a post a few days ago about leaving my husband 11 days ago. I took a stand after having insults h...

flora123 · flora123

My son developed a psychosis. Believe it to be through use of cannabis. He would not accept help, tried everything available, had him committed tomental unit. He is not stupid, nor a fool, perhaps in top 10% of intelligence quota. Finally, he accepted drugs. Breakthrough, so I thought, but...

toto12 · toto12

I have a question about meeting behaviour. In our group there is one member who repeatedly talks about death in all forms and in vivid detail. Every week. Not in USA. I feel this is no help. He is obviously hurting, but it's painful to listen I try to go to the bathroom wh...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

I got this at work and hoped it would give you all a laugh!

On the first day God created the dog. God said, "Sit all day by the door of your house and bark at anyone who comes in or walks past. I will give you a life span of twenty years." The dog said, "That's too long to be barking. Gi...

shimo · shimo

Came across this poem while going threw some of my papers. Wanted to share it although I am unable to tell you the author as it was not written on the paper. Hope you enjoy! COMES THE DAWN After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a...

megan · megan

Hello from vacation. I am staying in New Branfels TX for a weekend of fun with my sister and a few of her friends. Today we tubed the Guadalupe River. We had a raft with our lunch in coolers tied to the raft in an inner tube One friend was in the raft with his son. ...

david62 · david62

Hi Everyone, I had a little thing happen to me Friday that was one of those lightning strike moments for me that I would like to share with you. On Thursday, I had reason to call a tech support person within the company whom I work for in regards to a problem with a printer. This person and I have k...

dori · dori

Hey, I got a part time job at alanon start tomorrow thanks for all the prayers.

Belongtome · Belongtome

I guess this past week I haven't been following my own good sense, and I'm falling apart at the seams again. Can't sleep for wondering how to get all the work done, and how to pay the bills, etc. Haven't done my yoga regularly, and I'm not eating properly. It's hard to slow myself down, and...

jj · jj

Lastnight my husband crossed a line that almost made me snap!!! He came home drunk of course and gave my son's kitten away to his driver. I am angry with him as he had absolutly no right to do this!! I wanted to yell but didn't and I feel really bad for my son. I know that we could get the ki...

mom to 2 · mom to 2

He's been in rehab now for 4 days. I'm going tomorrow for family day. I've barely seen my husband in 2 months. We've been together for 21 years. In case you don't know my story--he went to rehab in March for 30 days---3000 miles away from where we live. Since, he has spiraled to a place that...

A Grateful Member · Dolphin123

Hello All, I am a grateful member of alanon, and a grateful member of this board. I wanted to drop a quick thanks to everyone who replied to my posts this week, especially this weekend. You all helped me to remember my program, and work on me. I got through a hard time because of all of you. I am forever g...

sanddie · sanddie

I was reading some posts and it occured to me that as much as we are able to detach when we are involved in unhealthy relationships, we also choose to deny our needs. When we say we detach... does that solve the problem we feel inside of wanting our husband, wives, significant others to love us as we...

jj · jj

The kitten issue has been resolved. The couple that took the kitten hom did phone and drop him off before dinner time. This was none of my doing as it was not my situation to fix. I did tell hubby in the morning that he did owe our son an apology as it was a very wrong thing to do. Then from there...

debilyn · debilyn

wow, don't be shy girl!! lol this was a great thought provoking post. Thank you for sharing so very much! My scoundrel A has been gone really since he had the brain surgery in 99. Lost his years of sobriety, AA, ability to love, ability to be him anymore, lost his ability to be able to be in recov...

lildee · lildee

Well today was the second day after the addict relapsed and he's been doing what he should but in his efforts to get honest with himself and the world he is unloading his story to me. Anyway the whole story that he gave me in my previous post "Reality of Relapse " is all pure unadulterated bull. No...

flora123 · flora123

Sorry, so angry, I posted twice - couldn't see the first one for the red mist lol -- Edited by flora123 at 20:05, 2005-08-14

FoggyMac · FoggyMac

What do you do when your A is about to get into a car and drive? I know you can't give advice, but what do you guys do? I offer to take him where he needs to go or pick something up for him. I don't know what the right thing to do is, but I couldn't live with myself if he killed someone if I could in any way prevent it....

Maria123 · Maria123

For me it's the little things and this list really spoke to me. I thought I would share this with all of you.

20 reasons to rejoice: 1. A hug from your kids 2. Stopping after one piece of chocolate (o.k. maybe two) 3. A full moon (I like lightning and thunder storms too) ...

mother of three · mother of three

I am new to this board. I really need some advice on how to deal with my husband, who stopped drinking cold turkey almost eleven years ago. I knew he liked to drink when we got married, but we were in our early 20's and most of our friends would go out to a bar to socialize on the weekend...

lildee · lildee

Cunning and baffling as this disease is, the reality of relapse at any time hit home yesterday. After 22 months clean my addict relapsed into oblivion. Today was his departed father's birthday. So he had gone to the cemetery to pay respects .... at least that is what I was told. He left the house at 7AM...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello all, The definition of insanity: Doing the same thing over and over expecting different results.

My "A" and I have been having a stressful week, and not really noticing the toll that was beeing taken on us. We had a celebration on Friday that concluded the stress filled week. Last...

marmare · marmare

I just talked to my A. On Fridays he deposits his check in the bank, I left him a voice mail this morning telling him, take his weekly money and the extra amount I needed for the week, a donation for the family of the funeral we will attend tomorrow, and his haircut money. I call the bank and est...

princess433 · princess433

I have a question: Is it true that if you have alcoholic parents that you will be an alcoholic as well? I wonder about the answer to this question everyday and it is driving me crazy! Please reply.

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello all, I am sitting here replying to more posts than I ever have. My "A" has pur car and is not answering his cell. It could be nothing, or it could mean no good. The last time I talked to him he said don't worrh honey I am not doing anything stupid, hmmmmmmmmm funny I wasn't even thinking he was until he...

afmom03 · afmom03

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Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Feeling better (Preview) I just wanted to let you all know that I did go see the counselor, and she was helpful... mostly just a good ear and helping me to see how I was feeling-- more or less I'd tell her something and she'd say "you must of been very disapointed" (sad, angry, etc) and I would say "yes--" and she also asked "what can I...	Apple Pie	2	393	Aug 19, 2005 by Tammy
	She left me for an active alcoholic (Preview) Help me understand something about the flip side of the disease of Alcoholism. After 14 years of marriage (while drinking) I checked myself into a rehab 2 years ago. When I went in my wife was very, very angry. So angry, in fact, my councilors, upon meeting her, suggested that I stay at the rehab for 2 m...	UncleLou	9	679	Aug 19, 2005 by kimmie
	Guidelines from God (Preview) Saw this on another forum I go to, thought some of you might like it. Ten Guidelines From God Effective immediately, please be aware that there are changes YOU need to make in YOUR life. These changes need to be completed in order that I may fulfill My promises to you to grant you peace, joy and ha...	lin0606	4	587	Aug 19, 2005 by kathy570
	The Thimble :-) (Preview) Hello All, I received another funny at work and wanted to share it with you all! THE THIMBLE One day, when a seamstress was sewing while sitting close to a river, her thimble fell into the river. When she cried out, the Lord appeared and asked, "My d...	Dolphin123	2	420	Aug 19, 2005 by kathy570
	haxigonian IX (Preview) [[ room ]] i got a hot lead on a park-for-fee place...checked it out and it turned out to be a bust..the scenic drive to get there was one of the best rainy day adventures i've had yet! It is very strange literally being inside a cloud that high up. the diversity of the scenery on the trip down w...	haximon	7	471	Aug 19, 2005 by gardengal
	"I think I'm coming down with something" (Preview) Why is it that when my "A" has a full night of drinking and puts away more than 18 beers, the next morning he wakes up and says "Oh, I think I'm coming down with something". Is that an alcoholic thing, because every "A" I know says that when they are hungover. Do they actually believe th...	kimmie	6	731	Aug 19, 2005 by sg
	Happy Birthday Princess :) (Preview) Hello Princess, I heard it was your birthday on Thursday. I hope I heard right :) If so, Have a very happy birthday~ cdb :)	cdb	6	505	Aug 18, 2005 by Lanchas
	CHECKING IN (Preview) Hey gang, I finished a week at work so far doing very well.Some of you asked a few things so I will answer them in here.My recovery is comeing still doing meetings and meeting with sponsor.I am still seeing doctors and am sleeping now.The kids are back in school and working part time.Yes...	dori	2	408	Aug 18, 2005 by debilyn
	freedom of step three (Preview) hey guys its OK if you want to give ESH....... *******this is taken from a "language of letting go" daily reminder, my take The Freedom of Surrender This is the surrender step. Once we surrender, we become free to take care of ourselve, with the assistance of our Higher Po...	rosie light shines	0	399	Aug 18, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Try to stay calm during crisis (Preview) I have not posted in a few days. Everyone's experiences and knowledge in this message board really challenges me to think about myself and keep going. It's hard for me to make F/F meetings, so this has served as a substitute. My a was in the hospital for the last three days. ...	twinmom2	2	573	Aug 18, 2005 by twinmom2
	Time Shares (Preview) Can anyone give me their views on Time Shares? Does anyone think it is helpful to have a time keeper or not in a group of 20 to 30 people if the meeting runs for 50 minutes? Thank you Karl	Karl G	1	430	Aug 18, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Taking Care of ME (Preview) I havent posted for almost a week .. However, have really been trying to focus on me. Boy, it is really hard loving an alcoholic. Life has been okay here, my A went about 5 days without a drink. Then today while on the boat you guessed it he came home and had been drinking. After we everyone cam...	Tammy	2	447	Aug 18, 2005 by Dolphin123
	The Irony of our Lives (Preview) Does anyone ever think that it's ironic the way we all seek help in Alanon, with therapists, etc. when in fact our A's continue on with their lives drinking and drugging with no concern for us (or themselves). I'm guessing that most of us are kind, loving, caring people (who Love our A's very much), bu...	Heather1	5	497	Aug 17, 2005 by Annie
	how to be selfish? (Preview) k It is so difficult for me, to think of myself. Once I even bein to try... (big sigh) I feel selfish. Guilt wrecks my mind - and I always 'prided' myself on not being *e...	kitty	3	428	Aug 17, 2005 by Annie
	OOPS I did it again (Preview) I got angry when she drank again lastnight. What a waste of energy. I am disapointed in myself for not acting better. I know she can't help it. I do so well most of the time. I feel I let everyone down when I let it get the better of me. I feel good Today. I know that I would be better off with out h...	tullemars	3	420	Aug 17, 2005 by Tammy
	Latest installment of "My son's little alcoholic houseguest" (Preview) Episode 3: My husband and I got home from work last Friday to both my son and his waif of an alcoholic girlfriend packed up and gone. I leave for work earlier than my husband, who apparently told them that if they weren't packed up and out by the time we got home, he'd let the Fairfax police handle t...	mizcathi	3	743	Aug 17, 2005 by mizcathi
	Help. (Preview) Hello All, Can you all help me out and say a pray for me that I will have patience and understanding with my "A". He is using as I type this. I am okay, I know this is today and tomorrow is a different day. But I want to rage at him. I know that isn't good for wither one of us. I am off to call my sponsor...	Dolphin123	5	392	Aug 17, 2005 by cdb
	Would you make the call? (Preview) I have a bit of a dilemma, I think I do know what the right thing is to do but just want to get a few opinions. My A is supposed to be going to outpatient treatment, he is still using, not as much but is still using. He had to go to court last Thursday for a fight that he had gotten into with my son, the cour...	Siverhusk	9	518	Aug 17, 2005 by Jazz
	help please (Preview) Hello everyone. This weekend was a completely disaster, and one I knew was coming. After admitting to smoking pot 6 months ago and "claiming" to get back on the wagon (although it was painfully clear that he wasn't) I went to Florida for a few days to visit my best friend who is currently goingthorugh...	Kim	4	453	Aug 17, 2005 by jj
	"hope for today" minding my own business (Preview) this is my entry on this hope for today message Hope for Today - August 17 I was excited when I came to Al-Anon and found the Twelve Steps. I felt as if I finally had permission to live life my way, but instead I found myself using the program to dissect other...	rosie light shines	0	437	Aug 17, 2005 by rosie light shines
	UncleLou need ur help (Preview) Hi I hope u dont mind me posting to you, but have read some of your posts and think you can help me understand something . I was married to my ex-A for 12 years during which time he had several affairs and drunk on and off throughout. He eventually left me and my 3 children to move in with anoth...	melanieL	6	446	Aug 17, 2005 by melanieL
	hurting today (Preview) Today is my first year aniversary. Eleven years together though. So here I am on my pitty pot feeling sorry for myself as he did not even have the decincy (sp?) to whish me a happy aniversary. Of course I am angry and hurt. I just thought that no matter how little his attempts are to mak...	jj	4	408	Aug 17, 2005 by fiona123
	Attitude of Gratitude (Preview) It was a busy weekend, I am glad to be back at work where I can slow down just a bit. (Blessing) I ran and dropped of children (blessing) here and there Saturday morning and then We had a funeral, (My A's best friend's father, I had posted about earlier), the fellowship (blessing)&nb...	marmare	3	434	Aug 17, 2005 by fiona123
	HOW DO YOU STAY STRONG??? (Preview) HOW DO YOU STAY STRONG? I CAN NEVER FIND THE ANSWER TO THAT QUESTION. MOST OF THE TIME I AM SO STRONG, NOT JUST FOR ME NUT FOR EVERYBODY. SOMETIMES I JUST GO CRY ON MY FRIENDS SHOULDER. I LOVE MY FRIENDS I DONT EVEN HAVE TO TELL THEM HOW I AM FEALING BECAUSE THEY CAN TELL IT IN MY EYES. LIFE SUCKS SOMETIMES. I GET...	princess433	5	506	Aug 16, 2005 by lildee
	confused (Preview) Hi everyone, I have a few question. Everyone says wait six months before you make any big changes. Well my six months are up. I'm very confused. My A is sober now just got his six month chip. I though once he got sober everthing would be just fine. Well things are soooo...	nikkilou	5	431	Aug 16, 2005 by lildee
	CDB (Preview) Hi all, Has anyone heard form cdb? Do we know how she is doing?	Dolphin123	2	401	Aug 16, 2005 by Dolphin123
	haxigonian VIII (Preview) [[[ room ]]] further update... it's been a wild, raucous 10 days...i'm taking a slow day because of heavy soreness from all that walking and the exhaustion from trying to get affairs in order... please send money orders rather than anything as i have no bank account and post office is very c...	haximon	2	486	Aug 16, 2005 by cdb
	Hi I'm new (Preview) I've been to a couple face to face meetings and I've been readin the posts on here for a few days. I have been too shy to speak up in the meetings so far and so I thought I'd run some things from in my head past you guys. First of all why am I here? I have a 'qualifier'-my boyfriend who drinks every d...	eileen	6	614	Aug 16, 2005 by ray07047
	Why (Preview) why that every time that i get mad at my alcoholic mom that 5 minutes later i feal guilty. i feal so not powerful, its like she has a power over me. how do i control these fealings? much love- princess433	princess433	3	385	Aug 16, 2005 by Maria123
	The tables have turned! (Preview) Hello All, I previously posted in "My Addictions" that I have started the "South Beach Diet", and this means a very strict first two weeks. I have completed one week so far unscathed. Last night when my "A" came home from work I started dinner and just immediately became depressed. I didn't wa...	Dolphin123	2	483	Aug 16, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Bank Deposit (Preview) I received this at work today and wanted to share it with you all: A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with his hair fashionably coifed and shaved perfectly applied, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. H...	Dolphin123	1	393	Aug 16, 2005 by lmt123
	Doing really well... (Preview) Well my "A" and I have been doing real well lately. He knows about Alanon and he is real supportive. Night before last his brothers wife called and left a messgae real late about his brother (also an alcoholic-but hasnt admitted it yet). I guess they had a big fight tha...	kimmie	1	469	Aug 16, 2005 by Dolphin123
	haxigonian VII (Preview) [[ room ]] I have a new temporary address... Mike Rolfe 111 NW Burnside Portland, OR 97209 Fro those wishing to help me, you have no idea of my gratitude!! Please don't send cash; too risky to carry too much here. The transit pass information is at http://www.trimet.org/ I do have a...	haximon	7	505	Aug 16, 2005 by kathy570
	Prayer request (Preview) My son, Tom, who lives in AZ called this afternoon. They had taken his wife, Lisa, to the OB/GYN, the doctor told her that she is dilated to 3, go home, get her bag, drop the other kids off at the sitters and return to the hospital. They also sent her with an oxygen tank. She has cy...	marmare	6	414	Aug 16, 2005 by browneyes
	Looking for words of encouragement (Preview) I have been struggling with my feelings all weekend. Sometimes feeling positive about my decision about leaving my husband and sometimes feeling that maybe I made a mistake. I shared in a post a few days ago about leaving my husband 11 days ago. I took a stand after having insults h...	JulieLynn	8	557	Aug 16, 2005 by clover6425
	Anger (Preview) My son developed a psychosis. Believe it to be through use of cannabis. He would not accept help, tried everything available, had him committed tomental unit. He is not stupid, nor a fool, perhaps in top 10% of intelligence quota. Finally, he accepted drugs. Breakthrough, so I thought, but...	flora123	5	425	Aug 15, 2005 by flora123
	meeting contribution?? (Preview) I have a question about meeting behaviour. In our group there is one member who repeatedly talks about death in all forms and in vivid detail. Every week. Not in USA. I feel this is no help. He is obviously hurting, but it's painful to listen I try to go to the bathroom wh...	toto12	2	526	Aug 15, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Explanation of Life (Preview) I got this at work and hoped it would give you all a laugh! On the first day God created the dog. God said, "Sit all day by the door of your house and bark at anyone who comes in or walks past. I will give you a life span of twenty years." The dog said, "That's too long to be barking. Gi...	Dolphin123	4	491	Aug 15, 2005 by Dolphin123
	COMES THE DAWN (Preview) Came across this poem while going threw some of my papers. Wanted to share it although I am unable to tell you the author as it was not written on the paper. Hope you enjoy! COMES THE DAWN After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a...	shimo	3	495	Aug 15, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Taking care of myself (Preview) Hello from vacation. I am staying in New Branfels TX for a weekend of fun with my sister and a few of her friends. Today we tubed the Guadalupe River. We had a raft with our lunch in coolers tied to the raft in an inner tube One friend was in the raft with his son. ...	megan	8	495	Aug 15, 2005 by megan
	Accepting Amends (Preview) Hi Everyone, I had a little thing happen to me Friday that was one of those lightning strike moments for me that I would like to share with you. On Thursday, I had reason to call a tech support person within the company whom I work for in regards to a problem with a printer. This person and I have k...	david62	6	523	Aug 15, 2005 by Peggy7
	job (Preview) Hey, I got a part time job at alanon start tomorrow thanks for all the prayers.	dori	4	439	Aug 15, 2005 by Belongtome
	Feeling guilt (Preview) I guess this past week I haven't been following my own good sense, and I'm falling apart at the seams again. Can't sleep for wondering how to get all the work done, and how to pay the bills, etc. Haven't done my yoga regularly, and I'm not eating properly. It's hard to slow myself down, and...	Belongtome	6	412	Aug 15, 2005 by Belongtome
	Crossing a line (Preview) Lastnight my husband crossed a line that almost made me snap!!! He came home drunk of course and gave my son's kitten away to his driver. I am angry with him as he had absolutly no right to do this!! I wanted to yell but didn't and I feel really bad for my son. I know that we could get the ki...	jj	4	479	Aug 15, 2005 by agatha
	husband in rehab--again (Preview) He's been in rehab now for 4 days. I'm going tomorrow for family day. I've barely seen my husband in 2 months. We've been together for 21 years. In case you don't know my story--he went to rehab in March for 30 days---3000 miles away from where we live. Since, he has spiraled to a place that...	mom to 2	5	489	Aug 14, 2005 by megan
	A Grateful Member (Preview) Hello All, I am a grateful member of alanon, and a grateful member of this board. I wanted to drop a quick thanks to everyone who replied to my posts this week, especially this weekend. You all helped me to remember my program, and work on me. I got through a hard time because of all of you. I am forever g...	Dolphin123	0	361	Aug 14, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Do We REALLY get on with life? (Preview) I was reading some posts and it occured to me that as much as we are able to detach when we are involved in unhealthy relationships, we also choose to deny our needs. When we say we detach... does that solve the problem we feel inside of wanting our husband, wives, significant others to love us as we...	sanddie	8	515	Aug 14, 2005 by kitty
	HP at work/ kitten back (Preview) The kitten issue has been resolved. The couple that took the kitten hom did phone and drop him off before dinner time. This was none of my doing as it was not my situation to fix. I did tell hubby in the morning that he did owe our son an apology as it was a very wrong thing to do. Then from there...	jj	1	398	Aug 14, 2005 by Dolphin123
	response to do we really go on..... (Preview) wow, don't be shy girl!! lol this was a great thought provoking post. Thank you for sharing so very much! My scoundrel A has been gone really since he had the brain surgery in 99. Lost his years of sobriety, AA, ability to love, ability to be him anymore, lost his ability to be able to be in recov...	debilyn	1	609	Aug 14, 2005 by sanddie
	The Lie of a Lifetime (Preview) Well today was the second day after the addict relapsed and he's been doing what he should but in his efforts to get honest with himself and the world he is unloading his story to me. Anyway the whole story that he gave me in my previous post "Reality of Relapse " is all pure unadulterated bull. No...	lildee	7	478	Aug 14, 2005 by lildee
	Anger (Preview) Sorry, so angry, I posted twice - couldn't see the first one for the red mist lol -- Edited by flora123 at 20:05, 2005-08-14	flora123	0	390	Aug 14, 2005 by flora123
	Drunk driving (Preview) What do you do when your A is about to get into a car and drive? I know you can't give advice, but what do you guys do? I offer to take him where he needs to go or pick something up for him. I don't know what the right thing to do is, but I couldn't live with myself if he killed someone if I could in any way prevent it....	FoggyMac	7	571	Aug 14, 2005 by Weez
	20 reasons to rejoice (Preview) For me it's the little things and this list really spoke to me. I thought I would share this with all of you. 20 reasons to rejoice: 1. A hug from your kids 2. Stopping after one piece of chocolate (o.k. maybe two) 3. A full moon (I like lightning and thunder storms too) ...	Maria123	2	463	Aug 14, 2005 by david62
	I believe my husband is a dry drunk (Preview) I am new to this board. I really need some advice on how to deal with my husband, who stopped drinking cold turkey almost eleven years ago. I knew he liked to drink when we got married, but we were in our early 20's and most of our friends would go out to a bar to socialize on the weekend...	mother of three	7	2224	Aug 14, 2005 by browneyes
	Thr Reality of Relapse (Preview) Cunning and baffling as this disease is, the reality of relapse at any time hit home yesterday. After 22 months clean my addict relapsed into oblivion. Today was his departed father's birthday. So he had gone to the cemetery to pay respects .... at least that is what I was told. He left the house at 7AM...	lildee	4	663	Aug 14, 2005 by browneyes
	Insanity (Preview) Hello all, The definition of insanity: Doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. My "A" and I have been having a stressful week, and not really noticing the toll that was beeing taken on us. We had a celebration on Friday that concluded the stress filled week. Last...	Dolphin123	2	677	Aug 14, 2005 by browneyes
	I am so mad..... (Preview) I just talked to my A. On Fridays he deposits his check in the bank, I left him a voice mail this morning telling him, take his weekly money and the extra amount I needed for the week, a donation for the family of the funeral we will attend tomorrow, and his haircut money. I call the bank and est...	marmare	6	492	Aug 14, 2005 by browneyes
	Is it true? (Preview) I have a question: Is it true that if you have alcoholic parents that you will be an alcoholic as well? I wonder about the answer to this question everyday and it is driving me crazy! Please reply.	princess433	6	643	Aug 14, 2005 by afglin
	Faith (Preview) Hello all, I am sitting here replying to more posts than I ever have. My "A" has pur car and is not answering his cell. It could be nothing, or it could mean no good. The last time I talked to him he said don't worrh honey I am not doing anything stupid, hmmmmmmmmm funny I wasn't even thinking he was until he...	Dolphin123	2	491	Aug 13, 2005 by kitty
	getting started (Preview)    It	afmom03	2	471	Aug 13, 2005 by debilyn
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