Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

david62 · david62

Hi Everyone! I was digging through my desk at work this week and came across something I had saved a few years back. It was a little one page writing done by Robert Fulgrum. As I read it again, after so many years and so many changes in my life, it had so much meaning to me now. And it jus...

gardengal · gardengal

Detachment is one of the most valuable techniques Alanon offers those of us who seek to reclaim ourselves. Simply put, detachment means to separate ourselves emotionally and spiritually from other people. If someone we love had the flu and cancelled plans with us, most of us would underst...

sanddie · sanddie

After sharing, posts with a few of you lately in which we talked about the importance of God in our lives, I wanted to give you the lyrics to a song that is truly amazing, inspiring and basically tells it like it is-- There's only ONE truth, once we are confident with knowing that trut...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

my esh on beattie's "relationship" daily reminder...from the "language of letting go" AUGUST 20 >Honesty in Relationships > >We can be honest and direct about our boundaries in relationships >and about the parameters of a particular relationship....

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

SORRY THIS IS SO LONG.......i got kinda "carried away"...... Hope for Today - August 20 Steps One, Two, and Three opened doors to profound and meaningful changes. The effects of being raised in an alcoholic family seemed as fixed in me as my eye co...

sanddie · sanddie

This is in response to a post that I wanted to share with everyone here..... I completely understand your concept of patience with people who are struggling, but I would like to add perception as a child of God. Yes, we all should have compassion and love as Jesus did and ye...

Maria123 · Maria123

When You Come Back To Me Again by Garth Brooks There's a ship out On the ocean At the mercy of the sea It's been tossed about Lost and broken Wandering aimlessly And God somehow You know that ship is me 'Cause there's a lighthouse In the harbor Shining faithfully Pouring its light out Across the water Fo...

lildee · lildee

This is a pretty raw post but great reminders for us all:- Hello I am your Disease..... Just a little reminder so you won't forget. I Am Your Disease I Hate meetings...I Hate higher powers...I Hate anyone who has a program. To all who come in contact with me, I wish you death and I wi...

jj · jj

I went to an AA meeting tonight(not my first) well it was a good meeting and I felt as though I was meant to be there kind of like a home. Comfort!!! well I don't know about any of you but I have found it easier for me to talk to friends from AA more openly and I always feel more grounded after I call...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] I just had my aid meeting. They gave me $100 in food stamps good until Sept. 9, leads on jobs and low-cost housing. My caseworker couldn't have been nicer about it :) After Sept. 9, food stamps go up to $149. Infinite gratitude to those who have helped whether with money orders or just s...

UncleLou · UncleLou

Heard something great at a meeting today When I look at a cobblestone, I can see either a stubling block or a stepping stone. The only difference is MY perception. And sometimes that makes all the difference in the world Uncle Lou

Cessie · Cessie

After a year of living together and what I thought was almost a year sober, my A is now in inpatient treatment. Turns out he relapsed around 3 months ago and had been hiding it and lying, all along being emotionally abusive and totally shutting me out. He started drinking the week my cousin (who was my bes...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Great thought provoking posts on here!! Just wanted to take the time to thank each and every one of you for sharing!! Lots of love, Kis

UncleLou · UncleLou

I was at an AA meeting today and a woman was breaking down in tears as she read "How it works" at the start of the meeting. She later shared that she had recently picked up, and expressed how defeated she felt. The miserable thoughts that these feelings of hopelessness and uselessness would never go away...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I start college on August 27, 2005. Any comments or suggestions are welcome. Lanchas

marmare · marmare

I AM A GRANDMA!!!! Miss Miya entered the world at 10:59am on August 17th. She weighed 5lbs 3 oz and is 17inches long. Mom and baby are fine. The other two kids are pretty excited to have a sister, although Kayla thinks it's her mommy's sister, not hers.....won't she be surprised whe...

kerry5 · kerry5

This was read at the Popes Memorial Service, and the priest that spoke at my mother's service read it for her. I thought you may like it if you have or are dealing with a loss :) Letter From Heaven To my dearest family and friends, some things I'd like to say But first of all, to let you kn...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i put this post on the end of my "forgiveness" post and didn't mean to....i intended to start a new post......this is pretty cool... hey you all...know what my sponser suggested to me?????? i was telling her that i felt my anger was my frustration at all the old horrible messeges he progra...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

this is my take on another board about it being "ok to angry/pissed off/unable to forgive certain evil" this was my take i have been reading and praying and of COURSE working the program, asking the SOURCE for wisdom and here is my take on the forgiveness thing On Wednesday, Dennis Ra...

kerry5 · kerry5

I found this today thought some of you might like this one too i sure did. No worries my last post on this lol . We received your letter from heaven above, and we were sure it was written with all of your love. You asked us not to be unhappy because you're out of sight, well, yo...

malissa29 · malissa29

Hi my name is malissa. I am 29 years old i have been married to my A husband for 7 years. I really enjoy this site I've been to the chat room for Al-anon very nice people in there

. I hope I can find help here to. I know I will

. I would like to start working on my steps soon but when i went in to the 12 mes...

sg · sg

I have been talking to a lot of my friends in recovery and we were talking about how sometimes we second guess our HP working in our lives..."Is it really my HP's hands that I'm seeing or is it just coincidence?" ::raises hand:: That happens to me often. Something will come up and I will get this thoug...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I have a question for my step 6 work that I need help with. It is on step 6 and I have not heard a lot of discussion about step six. What have you heard about how others worked step six? Were entirerly ready to have God remove all these defects of character. Can some of you tell me how you di...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I feel so frustrated with myself.

I posted here about leaving my husband a couple of weeks ago. I had not heard from him and needed to contact him about the utility bills that had not been paid that were in my name. It took alot for me to work up the nerve to call because I wa...

jj · jj

This was sent to me and I want to share this with all of thoes who read it. Love in recovery JJ "A Good Recipie" Fold two hands together, And express a dash of sorrow Marinate it overnight, And work on it tomorrow. Chop one grudge in tiny pieces, Add several cups of love...

Apple Pie · Apple Pie

I just wanted to let you all know that I did go see the counselor, and she was helpful... mostly just a good ear and helping me to see how I was feeling-- more or less I'd tell her something and she'd say "you must of been very disapointed" (sad, angry, etc) and I would say "yes--" and she also asked "what can I...

UncleLou · UncleLou

Help me understand something about the flip side of the disease of Alcoholism. After 14 years of marriage (while drinking) I checked myself into a rehab 2 years ago. When I went in my wife was very, very angry. So angry, in fact, my councilors, upon meeting her, suggested that I stay at the rehab for 2 m...

lin0606 · lin0606

Saw this on another forum I go to, thought some of you might like it. Ten Guidelines From God Effective immediately, please be aware that there are changes YOU need to make in YOUR life. These changes need to be completed in order that I may fulfill My promises to you to grant you peace, joy and ha...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, I received another funny at work and wanted to share it with you all! THE THIMBLE One day, when a seamstress was sewing while sitting close to a river, her thimble fell into the river. When she cried out, the Lord appeared and asked, "My d...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] i got a hot lead on a park-for-fee place...checked it out and it turned out to be a bust..the scenic drive to get there was one of the best rainy day adventures i've had yet! It is very strange literally being inside a cloud that high up. the diversity of the scenery on the trip down w...

kimmie · kimmie

Why is it that when my "A" has a full night of drinking and puts away more than 18 beers, the next morning he wakes up and says "Oh, I think I'm coming down with something". Is that an alcoholic thing, because every "A" I know says that when they are hungover. Do they actually believe th...

cdb · cdb

Hello Princess, I heard it was your birthday on Thursday. I hope I heard right :) If so, Have a very happy birthday~ cdb :)

dori · dori

Hey gang, I finished a week at work so far doing very well.Some of you asked a few things so I will answer them in here.My recovery is comeing still doing meetings and meeting with sponsor.I am still seeing doctors and am sleeping now.The kids are back in school and working part time.Yes...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hey guys its OK if you want to give ESH....... *******this is taken from a "language of letting go" daily reminder, my take The Freedom of Surrender This is the surrender step. Once we surrender, we become free to take care of ourselve, with the assistance of our Higher Po...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I have not posted in a few days. Everyone's experiences and knowledge in this message board really challenges me to think about myself and keep going. It's hard for me to make F/F meetings, so this has served as a substitute. My a was in the hospital for the last three days. ...

Karl G · Karl G

Can anyone give me their views on Time Shares? Does anyone think it is helpful to have a time keeper or not in a group of 20 to 30 people if the meeting runs for 50 minutes? Thank you Karl

Tammy · Tammy

I havent posted for almost a week .. However, have really been trying to focus on me. Boy, it is really hard loving an alcoholic. Life has been okay here, my A went about 5 days without a drink. Then today while on the boat you guessed it he came home and had been drinking. After we everyone cam...

Heather1 · Heather1

Does anyone ever think that it's ironic the way we all seek help in Alanon, with therapists, etc. when in fact our A's continue on with their lives drinking and drugging with no concern for us (or themselves). I'm guessing that most of us are kind, loving, caring people (who Love our A's very much), bu...

kitty · kitty

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It is so difficult for me, to think of myself. Once I even bein to try... (big sigh) I feel selfish. Guilt wrecks my mind - and I always 'prided' myself on not being *e...

tullemars · tullemars

I got angry when she drank again lastnight. What a waste of energy. I am disapointed in myself for not acting better. I know she can't help it. I do so well most of the time. I feel I let everyone down when I let it get the better of me. I feel good Today. I know that I would be better off with out h...

mizcathi · mizcathi

Episode 3: My husband and I got home from work last Friday to both my son and his waif of an alcoholic girlfriend packed up and gone. I leave for work earlier than my husband, who apparently told them that if they weren't packed up and out by the time we got home, he'd let the Fairfax police handle t...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, Can you all help me out and say a pray for me that I will have patience and understanding with my "A". He is using as I type this. I am okay, I know this is today and tomorrow is a different day. But I want to rage at him. I know that isn't good for wither one of us. I am off to call my sponsor...

Siverhusk · Siverhusk

I have a bit of a dilemma, I think I do know what the right thing is to do but just want to get a few opinions. My A is supposed to be going to outpatient treatment, he is still using, not as much but is still using. He had to go to court last Thursday for a fight that he had gotten into with my son, the cour...

Kim · Kim

Hello everyone. This weekend was a completely disaster, and one I knew was coming. After admitting to smoking pot 6 months ago and "claiming" to get back on the wagon (although it was painfully clear that he wasn't) I went to Florida for a few days to visit my best friend who is currently goingthorugh...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

this is my *entry* on this hope for today message Hope for Today - August 17 I was excited when I came to Al-Anon and found the Twelve Steps. I felt as if I finally had permission to live life my way, but instead I found myself using the program to dissect other...

melanieL · melanieL

Hi I hope u dont mind me posting to you, but have read some of your posts and think you can help me understand something . I was married to my ex-A for 12 years during which time he had several affairs and drunk on and off throughout. He eventually left me and my 3 children to move in with anoth...

jj · jj

Today is my first year aniversary. Eleven years together though. So here I am on my pitty pot feeling sorry for myself as he did not even have the decincy (sp?) to whish me a happy aniversary. Of course I am angry and hurt. I just thought that no matter how little his attempts are to mak...

marmare · marmare

It was a busy weekend, I am glad to be back at work where I can slow down just a bit. (Blessing) I ran and dropped of children (blessing) here and there Saturday morning and then We had a funeral, (My A's best friend's father, I had posted about earlier), the fellowship (blessing)&nb...

princess433 · princess433

HOW DO YOU STAY STRONG? I CAN NEVER FIND THE ANSWER TO THAT QUESTION. MOST OF THE TIME I AM SO STRONG, NOT JUST FOR ME NUT FOR EVERYBODY. SOMETIMES I JUST GO CRY ON MY FRIENDS SHOULDER. I LOVE MY FRIENDS I DONT EVEN HAVE TO TELL THEM HOW I AM FEALING BECAUSE THEY CAN TELL IT IN MY EYES. LIFE SUCKS SOMETIMES. I GET...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi everyone, I have a few question. Everyone says wait six months before you make any big changes. Well my six months are up. I'm very confused. My A is sober now just got his six month chip. I though once he got sober everthing would be just fine. Well things are soooo...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, Has anyone heard form cdb? Do we know how she is doing?

haximon · haximon

[[[ room ]]] further update... it's been a wild, raucous 10 days...i'm taking a slow day because of heavy soreness from all that walking and the exhaustion from trying to get affairs in order... please send money orders rather than anything as i have no bank account and post office is very c...

eileen · eileen

I've been to a couple face to face meetings and I've been readin the posts on here for a few days. I have been too shy to speak up in the meetings so far and so I thought I'd run some things from in my head past you guys. First of all why am I here? I have a 'qualifier'-my boyfriend who drinks every d...

princess433 · princess433

why that every time that i get mad at my alcoholic mom that 5 minutes later i feal guilty. i feal so not powerful, its like she has a power over me. how do i control these fealings? much love- princess433

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, I previously posted in "My Addictions" that I have started the "South Beach Diet", and this means a very strict first two weeks. I have completed one week so far unscathed

. Last night when my "A" came home from work I started dinner and just immediately became depressed. I didn't wa...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

I received this at work today and wanted to share it with you all: A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with his hair fashionably coifed and shaved perfectly applied, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. H...

kimmie · kimmie

Well my "A" and I have been doing real well lately. He knows about Alanon and he is real supportive. Night before last his brothers wife called and left a messgae real late about his brother (also an alcoholic-but hasnt admitted it yet). I guess they had a big fight tha...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] I have a new temporary address... Mike Rolfe 111 NW Burnside Portland, OR 97209 Fro those wishing to help me, you have no idea of my gratitude!! Please don't send cash; too risky to carry too much here. The transit pass information is at http://www.trimet.org/ I do have a...

marmare · marmare

My son, Tom, who lives in AZ called this afternoon. They had taken his wife, Lisa, to the OB/GYN, the doctor told her that she is dilated to 3, go home, get her bag, drop the other kids off at the sitters and return to the hospital. They also sent her with an oxygen tank. She has cy...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I have been struggling with my feelings all weekend. Sometimes feeling positive about my decision about leaving my husband and sometimes feeling that maybe I made a mistake. I shared in a post a few days ago about leaving my husband 11 days ago. I took a stand after having insults h...

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	Learned in Kindergarten (Preview) Hi Everyone! I was digging through my desk at work this week and came across something I had saved a few years back. It was a little one page writing done by Robert Fulgrum. As I read it again, after so many years and so many changes in my life, it had so much meaning to me now. And it jus...	david62	8	840	Aug 21, 2005 by bob6502
	DETACHMENT (Preview) Detachment is one of the most valuable techniques Alanon offers those of us who seek to reclaim ourselves. Simply put, detachment means to separate ourselves emotionally and spiritually from other people. If someone we love had the flu and cancelled plans with us, most of us would underst...	gardengal	2	564	Aug 21, 2005 by rosie light shines
	For those who are confused about choices that I've shared with lately.... (Preview) After sharing, posts with a few of you lately in which we talked about the importance of God in our lives, I wanted to give you the lyrics to a song that is truly amazing, inspiring and basically tells it like it is-- There's only ONE truth, once we are confident with knowing that trut...	sanddie	0	709	Aug 21, 2005 by sanddie
	relationships (Preview) my esh on beattie's "relationship" daily reminder...from the "language of letting go" AUGUST 20 >Honesty in Relationships > >We can be honest and direct about our boundaries in relationships >and about the parameters of a particular relationship....	rosie light shines	0	726	Aug 21, 2005 by rosie light shines
	a real fist fight with SHAME (Preview) SORRY THIS IS SO LONG.......i got kinda "carried away"...... Hope for Today - August 20 Steps One, Two, and Three opened doors to profound and meaningful changes. The effects of being raised in an alcoholic family seemed as fixed in me as my eye co...	rosie light shines	3	521	Aug 21, 2005 by rosie light shines
	earth person or child of God analogy (Preview) This is in response to a post that I wanted to share with everyone here..... I completely understand your concept of patience with people who are struggling, but I would like to add perception as a child of God. Yes, we all should have compassion and love as Jesus did and ye...	sanddie	2	762	Aug 21, 2005 by sanddie
	Songs that speak to me (Preview) When You Come Back To Me Again by Garth Brooks There's a ship out On the ocean At the mercy of the sea It's been tossed about Lost and broken Wandering aimlessly And God somehow You know that ship is me 'Cause there's a lighthouse In the harbor Shining faithfully Pouring its light out Across the water Fo...	Maria123	5	617	Aug 21, 2005 by AlaMom
	Hello I am your disease.... (Preview) This is a pretty raw post but great reminders for us all:- Hello I am your Disease..... Just a little reminder so you won't forget. I Am Your Disease I Hate meetings...I Hate higher powers...I Hate anyone who has a program. To all who come in contact with me, I wish you death and I wi...	lildee	6	1148	Aug 21, 2005 by lildee
	AA for JJ?? (Preview) I went to an AA meeting tonight(not my first) well it was a good meeting and I felt as though I was meant to be there kind of like a home. Comfort!!! well I don't know about any of you but I have found it easier for me to talk to friends from AA more openly and I always feel more grounded after I call...	jj	2	762	Aug 20, 2005 by cdb
	haxigonian X (Preview) [[ room ]] I just had my aid meeting. They gave me $100 in food stamps good until Sept. 9, leads on jobs and low-cost housing. My caseworker couldn't have been nicer about it :) After Sept. 9, food stamps go up to $149. *Infinite gratitude to those who have helped whether with money orders or just s...*	haximon	11	562	Aug 20, 2005 by wille
	Perceptions can make a huge difference (Preview) Heard something great at a meeting today When I look at a cobblestone, I can see either a stubling block or a stepping stone. The only difference is MY perception. And sometimes that makes all the difference in the world Uncle Lou	UncleLou	1	656	Aug 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	New and overwhelmed (Preview) After a year of living together and what I thought was almost a year sober, my A is now in inpatient treatment. Turns out he relapsed around 3 months ago and had been hiding it and lying, all along being emotionally abusive and totally shutting me out. He started drinking the week my cousin (who was my bes...	Cessie	6	533	Aug 20, 2005 by confused
	Thank You (Preview) Great thought provoking posts on here!! Just wanted to take the time to thank each and every one of you for sharing!! Lots of love, Kis	kismetstrand	3	464	Aug 20, 2005 by tea2
	misconceptions by 'Earth People' (Preview) I was at an AA meeting today and a woman was breaking down in tears as she read "How it works" at the start of the meeting. She later shared that she had recently picked up, and expressed how defeated she felt. The miserable thoughts that these feelings of hopelessness and uselessness would never go away...	UncleLou	7	808	Aug 20, 2005 by sanddie
	update on me (Preview) I start college on August 27, 2005. Any comments or suggestions are welcome. Lanchas	Lanchas	4	781	Aug 20, 2005 by kismetstrand
	Baby Update (Preview) I AM A GRANDMA!!!! Miss Miya entered the world at 10:59am on August 17th. She weighed 5lbs 3 oz and is 17inches long. Mom and baby are fine. The other two kids are pretty excited to have a sister, although Kayla thinks it's her mommy's sister, not hers.....won't she be surprised whe...	marmare	4	492	Aug 20, 2005 by browneyes
	Letter From Heaven (Preview) This was read at the Popes Memorial Service, and the priest that spoke at my mother's service read it for her. I thought you may like it if you have or are dealing with a loss :) Letter From Heaven To my dearest family and friends, some things I'd like to say But first of all, to let you kn...	kerry5	12	744	Aug 20, 2005 by Christy
	teaching myself how to love ME (Preview) i put this post on the end of my "forgiveness" post and didn't mean to....i intended to start a new post......this is pretty cool... hey you all...know what my sponser suggested to me?????? i was telling her that i felt my anger was my frustration at all the old horrible messeges he progra...	rosie light shines	0	658	Aug 19, 2005 by rosie light shines
	sometimes its OK not to be able to forgive (Preview) this is my take on another board about it being "ok to angry/pissed off/unable to forgive certain evil" this was my take i have been reading and praying and of COURSE working the program, asking the SOURCE for wisdom and here is my take on the forgiveness thing On Wednesday, Dennis Ra...	rosie light shines	10	859	Aug 19, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Response to Letter from Heaven (Preview) I found this today thought some of you might like this one too i sure did. No worries my last post on this lol . We received your letter from heaven above, and we were sure it was written with all of your love. You asked us not to be unhappy because you're out of sight, well, yo...	kerry5	1	823	Aug 19, 2005 by tea2
	I am new to this (Preview) Hi my name is malissa. I am 29 years old i have been married to my A husband for 7 years. I really enjoy this site I've been to the chat room for Al-anon very nice people in there . I hope I can find help here to. I know I will . I would like to start working on my steps soon but when i went in to the 12 mes...	malissa29	6	619	Aug 19, 2005 by shimo
	Ever second guess if it really is your HP? (Preview) I have been talking to a lot of my friends in recovery and we were talking about how sometimes we second guess our HP working in our lives..."Is it really my HP's hands that I'm seeing or is it just coincidence?" ::raises hand:: That happens to me often. Something will come up and I will get this thoug...	sg	6	631	Aug 19, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Need help with step work (Preview) I have a question for my step 6 work that I need help with. It is on step 6 and I have not heard a lot of discussion about step six. What have you heard about how others worked step six? Were entirerly ready to have God remove all these defects of character. Can some of you tell me how you di...	jrtjosey	8	701	Aug 19, 2005 by jrtjosey
	I'm so frustrated with myself (Preview) I feel so frustrated with myself. I posted here about leaving my husband a couple of weeks ago. I had not heard from him and needed to contact him about the utility bills that had not been paid that were in my name. It took alot for me to work up the nerve to call because I wa...	JulieLynn	4	603	Aug 19, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Want to share this with all of you (Preview) This was sent to me and I want to share this with all of thoes who read it. Love in recovery JJ "A Good Recipie" Fold two hands together, And express a dash of sorrow Marinate it overnight, And work on it tomorrow. Chop one grudge in tiny pieces, Add several cups of love...	jj	3	569	Aug 19, 2005 by shimo
	Feeling better (Preview) I just wanted to let you all know that I did go see the counselor, and she was helpful... mostly just a good ear and helping me to see how I was feeling-- more or less I'd tell her something and she'd say "you must of been very disapointed" (sad, angry, etc) and I would say "yes--" and she also asked "what can I...	Apple Pie	2	427	Aug 19, 2005 by Tammy
	She left me for an active alcoholic (Preview) Help me understand something about the flip side of the disease of Alcoholism. After 14 years of marriage (while drinking) I checked myself into a rehab 2 years ago. When I went in my wife was very, very angry. So angry, in fact, my councilors, upon meeting her, suggested that I stay at the rehab for 2 m...	UncleLou	9	713	Aug 19, 2005 by kimmie
	Guidelines from God (Preview) Saw this on another forum I go to, thought some of you might like it. Ten Guidelines From God Effective immediately, please be aware that there are changes YOU need to make in YOUR life. These changes need to be completed in order that I may fulfill My promises to you to grant you peace, joy and ha...	lin0606	4	620	Aug 19, 2005 by kathy570
	The Thimble :-) (Preview) Hello All, I received another funny at work and wanted to share it with you all! THE THIMBLE One day, when a seamstress was sewing while sitting close to a river, her thimble fell into the river. When she cried out, the Lord appeared and asked, "My d...	Dolphin123	2	477	Aug 19, 2005 by kathy570
	haxigonian IX (Preview) [[ room ]] i got a hot lead on a park-for-fee place...checked it out and it turned out to be a bust..the scenic drive to get there was one of the best rainy day adventures i've had yet! It is very strange literally being inside a cloud that high up. the diversity of the scenery on the trip down w...	haximon	7	498	Aug 19, 2005 by gardengal
	"I think I'm coming down with something" (Preview) Why is it that when my "A" has a full night of drinking and puts away more than 18 beers, the next morning he wakes up and says "Oh, I think I'm coming down with something". Is that an alcoholic thing, because every "A" I know says that when they are hungover. Do they actually believe th...	kimmie	6	844	Aug 19, 2005 by sg
	Happy Birthday Princess :) (Preview) Hello Princess, I heard it was your birthday on Thursday. I hope I heard right :) If so, Have a very happy birthday~ cdb :)	cdb	6	537	Aug 18, 2005 by Lanchas
	CHECKING IN (Preview) Hey gang, I finished a week at work so far doing very well.Some of you asked a few things so I will answer them in here.My recovery is comeing still doing meetings and meeting with sponsor.I am still seeing doctors and am sleeping now.The kids are back in school and working part time.Yes...	dori	2	440	Aug 18, 2005 by debilyn
	freedom of step three (Preview) hey guys its OK if you want to give ESH....... *******this is taken from a "language of letting go" daily reminder, my take The Freedom of Surrender This is the surrender step. Once we surrender, we become free to take care of ourselve, with the assistance of our Higher Po...	rosie light shines	0	426	Aug 18, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Try to stay calm during crisis (Preview) I have not posted in a few days. Everyone's experiences and knowledge in this message board really challenges me to think about myself and keep going. It's hard for me to make F/F meetings, so this has served as a substitute. My a was in the hospital for the last three days. ...	twinmom2	2	597	Aug 18, 2005 by twinmom2
	Time Shares (Preview) Can anyone give me their views on Time Shares? Does anyone think it is helpful to have a time keeper or not in a group of 20 to 30 people if the meeting runs for 50 minutes? Thank you Karl	Karl G	1	455	Aug 18, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Taking Care of ME (Preview) I havent posted for almost a week .. However, have really been trying to focus on me. Boy, it is really hard loving an alcoholic. Life has been okay here, my A went about 5 days without a drink. Then today while on the boat you guessed it he came home and had been drinking. After we everyone cam...	Tammy	2	502	Aug 18, 2005 by Dolphin123
	The Irony of our Lives (Preview) Does anyone ever think that it's ironic the way we all seek help in Alanon, with therapists, etc. when in fact our A's continue on with their lives drinking and drugging with no concern for us (or themselves). I'm guessing that most of us are kind, loving, caring people (who Love our A's very much), bu...	Heather1	5	529	Aug 17, 2005 by Annie
	how to be selfish? (Preview) k It is so difficult for me, to think of myself. Once I even bein to try... (big sigh) I feel selfish. Guilt wrecks my mind - and I always 'prided' myself on not being *e...	kitty	3	481	Aug 17, 2005 by Annie
	OOPS I did it again (Preview) I got angry when she drank again lastnight. What a waste of energy. I am disapointed in myself for not acting better. I know she can't help it. I do so well most of the time. I feel I let everyone down when I let it get the better of me. I feel good Today. I know that I would be better off with out h...	tullemars	3	447	Aug 17, 2005 by Tammy
	Latest installment of "My son's little alcoholic houseguest" (Preview) Episode 3: My husband and I got home from work last Friday to both my son and his waif of an alcoholic girlfriend packed up and gone. I leave for work earlier than my husband, who apparently told them that if they weren't packed up and out by the time we got home, he'd let the Fairfax police handle t...	mizcathi	3	814	Aug 17, 2005 by mizcathi
	Help. (Preview) Hello All, Can you all help me out and say a pray for me that I will have patience and understanding with my "A". He is using as I type this. I am okay, I know this is today and tomorrow is a different day. But I want to rage at him. I know that isn't good for wither one of us. I am off to call my sponsor...	Dolphin123	5	421	Aug 17, 2005 by cdb
	Would you make the call? (Preview) I have a bit of a dilemma, I think I do know what the right thing is to do but just want to get a few opinions. My A is supposed to be going to outpatient treatment, he is still using, not as much but is still using. He had to go to court last Thursday for a fight that he had gotten into with my son, the cour...	Siverhusk	9	547	Aug 17, 2005 by Jazz
	help please (Preview) Hello everyone. This weekend was a completely disaster, and one I knew was coming. After admitting to smoking pot 6 months ago and "claiming" to get back on the wagon (although it was painfully clear that he wasn't) I went to Florida for a few days to visit my best friend who is currently goingthorugh...	Kim	4	491	Aug 17, 2005 by jj
	"hope for today" minding my own business (Preview) this is my entry on this hope for today message Hope for Today - August 17 I was excited when I came to Al-Anon and found the Twelve Steps. I felt as if I finally had permission to live life my way, but instead I found myself using the program to dissect other...	rosie light shines	0	469	Aug 17, 2005 by rosie light shines
	UncleLou need ur help (Preview) Hi I hope u dont mind me posting to you, but have read some of your posts and think you can help me understand something . I was married to my ex-A for 12 years during which time he had several affairs and drunk on and off throughout. He eventually left me and my 3 children to move in with anoth...	melanieL	6	540	Aug 17, 2005 by melanieL
	hurting today (Preview) Today is my first year aniversary. Eleven years together though. So here I am on my pitty pot feeling sorry for myself as he did not even have the decincy (sp?) to whish me a happy aniversary. Of course I am angry and hurt. I just thought that no matter how little his attempts are to mak...	jj	4	436	Aug 17, 2005 by fiona123
	Attitude of Gratitude (Preview) It was a busy weekend, I am glad to be back at work where I can slow down just a bit. (Blessing) I ran and dropped of children (blessing) here and there Saturday morning and then We had a funeral, (My A's best friend's father, I had posted about earlier), the fellowship (blessing)&nb...	marmare	3	456	Aug 17, 2005 by fiona123
	HOW DO YOU STAY STRONG??? (Preview) HOW DO YOU STAY STRONG? I CAN NEVER FIND THE ANSWER TO THAT QUESTION. MOST OF THE TIME I AM SO STRONG, NOT JUST FOR ME NUT FOR EVERYBODY. SOMETIMES I JUST GO CRY ON MY FRIENDS SHOULDER. I LOVE MY FRIENDS I DONT EVEN HAVE TO TELL THEM HOW I AM FEALING BECAUSE THEY CAN TELL IT IN MY EYES. LIFE SUCKS SOMETIMES. I GET...	princess433	5	539	Aug 16, 2005 by lildee
	confused (Preview) Hi everyone, I have a few question. Everyone says wait six months before you make any big changes. Well my six months are up. I'm very confused. My A is sober now just got his six month chip. I though once he got sober everthing would be just fine. Well things are soooo...	nikkilou	5	452	Aug 16, 2005 by lildee
	CDB (Preview) Hi all, Has anyone heard form cdb? Do we know how she is doing?	Dolphin123	2	423	Aug 16, 2005 by Dolphin123
	haxigonian VIII (Preview) [[[ room ]]] further update... it's been a wild, raucous 10 days...i'm taking a slow day because of heavy soreness from all that walking and the exhaustion from trying to get affairs in order... please send money orders rather than anything as i have no bank account and post office is very c...	haximon	2	522	Aug 16, 2005 by cdb
	Hi I'm new (Preview) I've been to a couple face to face meetings and I've been readin the posts on here for a few days. I have been too shy to speak up in the meetings so far and so I thought I'd run some things from in my head past you guys. First of all why am I here? I have a 'qualifier'-my boyfriend who drinks every d...	eileen	6	643	Aug 16, 2005 by ray07047
	Why (Preview) why that every time that i get mad at my alcoholic mom that 5 minutes later i feal guilty. i feal so not powerful, its like she has a power over me. how do i control these fealings? much love- princess433	princess433	3	411	Aug 16, 2005 by Maria123
	The tables have turned! (Preview) Hello All, I previously posted in "My Addictions" that I have started the "South Beach Diet", and this means a very strict first two weeks. I have completed one week so far unscathed. Last night when my "A" came home from work I started dinner and just immediately became depressed. I didn't wa...	Dolphin123	2	508	Aug 16, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Bank Deposit (Preview) I received this at work today and wanted to share it with you all: A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with his hair fashionably coifed and shaved perfectly applied, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. H...	Dolphin123	1	434	Aug 16, 2005 by lmt123
	Doing really well... (Preview) Well my "A" and I have been doing real well lately. He knows about Alanon and he is real supportive. Night before last his brothers wife called and left a messgae real late about his brother (also an alcoholic-but hasnt admitted it yet). I guess they had a big fight tha...	kimmie	1	504	Aug 16, 2005 by Dolphin123
	haxigonian VII (Preview) [[ room ]] I have a new temporary address... Mike Rolfe 111 NW Burnside Portland, OR 97209 Fro those wishing to help me, you have no idea of my gratitude!! Please don't send cash; too risky to carry too much here. The transit pass information is at http://www.trimet.org/ I do have a...	haximon	7	568	Aug 16, 2005 by kathy570
	Prayer request (Preview) My son, Tom, who lives in AZ called this afternoon. They had taken his wife, Lisa, to the OB/GYN, the doctor told her that she is dilated to 3, go home, get her bag, drop the other kids off at the sitters and return to the hospital. They also sent her with an oxygen tank. She has cy...	marmare	6	436	Aug 16, 2005 by browneyes
	Looking for words of encouragement (Preview) I have been struggling with my feelings all weekend. Sometimes feeling positive about my decision about leaving my husband and sometimes feeling that maybe I made a mistake. I shared in a post a few days ago about leaving my husband 11 days ago. I took a stand after having insults h...	JulieLynn	8	600	Aug 16, 2005 by clover6425
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