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Lately, even talking to a drunk person is real annoying to me. Do they know how stupid they look and sound? And do they realize that when they are talking to someone, the person listening is probably so preoccupied with how drunk they are that they arent even listening. My dad calls me in the middle of the day to ask if we are prepared for Tropical Strom Katrina, and he is obviously drunk. And it's only around 1-2pm. He usually starts drinking around noon but he isnt normally "drunk" by then. Obviously he started earlier or he's been really pounding them back. And he's being his normally obnoxious self. Trying to joke with me and when I dont role on the floor laughing at what is, not funny, to me, he thinks I'm throwing a "tude" as he calls it. I remember growing up, hearing that all the time. We would have a party at the house (and we had these all the time) and if me and my sister didnt have an ear to ear smile on our face the whole time, then we had attitudes. I mean who walks around with a fricken smile all the time, my face gets tired. And now that I'm grown up I call him on it, he tells me to "chill" and I tell him to "chill". If he's more worried about if I'm having fun then how could he be having fun. What does it matter if I'm having fun or not. Is it really that big of a deal. I've had people come over and be in a bad mood, or my "A" brother in law who comes over and if I tell him not to do something with my son, he pouts the whole time, and I just ignore them. Because it's not a big deal to me if they arent having fun, I could care less, as long as I'm having fun. Let them sit there with a frown, who are they hurting. And when I'm around my dad I'm not even frowning, I'm just not hysterically laughing the whole fricken time. Is anyone elses "A" like that. My "A" husband isnt. As long as he's having fun(drunk) he doesnt even notice if anyone else is. It's just my dad, and also when my dad gets drunk, he forgets that I'm an adult and actually, I'm a parent now too. And he trys to treat me like I'm 12 again and make me emotionally bow down to his "authority". Which, of course, never works anymore and I"ll call him on it everytime. And then he plays the whole wounded,"Oh Kim's taking me personally again, I'm only trying to joke with her and she's getting mad at me, oh poor me" AHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!! Does he know that he does this? does he realize? and if he does, does he realize how infuriating it is? And my sister hates it too, we both get so annoyed. Who else is just plain annoyed?
I am with you.. My husband is my A and he has embarassed me so many times while drunk. Saying things over and over.. Slurring words.. Once, while on a cruise, he got so drunk fell off a stool in the casino. I was so embarassed i tried to get him to leave and he wouldnt so I left him.. About an hour later the security had to deliver him back to the room.. I was SOOOOO embarassed. I wanted to JUMP overboard. Needless to say he passed out.. Oh, and by the way it was only 3pm in the afternoon..
I am with you Kimmie, I get so annoyed .. I just want to scream !!
My husband is an alcoholic who has been sober now for about 16 months. He has never acted that way, but HIS dad, who is not an A, acts that way. My father in law sprayed some poison oak next to our house a few months back, and told my husband not to mess with it, HE'D take care of killing it (lol). Well, my husband, trying to be helpful, was cleaning out the gutters Sunday and thought the poison oak was dead (looked to be). So he started yanking it out. That night, his arms were itching, and now, Thursday, we had to go to the doctor to get something to relieve the itching ALL OVER. Anyway, I took some stuff that I had picked up at the store to his work yesterday (he works with his parents at a family business), and he wasn't there. So I told his mom to give it to him, for the itching. Well, apparently he didn't tell his parents about it, knowing they'd flip out that he had it. I didn't know this, and when he got home last night, he told me that his dad was just ranting about how he TOLD him NOT to mess with it! My husband is 45, by the way.... AAAARRRGGGGGHHHHHH!
Anyway, his dad has the behavior of the alcoholic, like the control thing, but doesn't drink. Maybe that's why my husband felt he had to drink.....lol.
I have alot of patience for my "A", however I have no patience for his "A" brothers or any other "A" for that matter. But is brothers, I have one second of patience and that is it. His brothers think it is oh so funny to comment on how big my breasts are, which is something I hate and try very hard to wear clothes that hide there size. I just leave the room, or leave my "A" at their home(s). I refuse to put up with it, and I shouldn't have to, and niether should you.
Much Love,
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omg...isn't the constant repeating just annoying??? I hear the same stories over and over again and it drives me crazy sometimes. I have gotten to the point where I will finish his sentences telling him he already told it to me. He gets this bewildered look on his face like I am a mind reader or something! lol
I hear what you are saying about them being an embarassment. Many times I have just wanted to bury my head out of embarrassment. Of course, when sober and I would tell him what he did he laughs..thinking it is funny.
