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Peggy7


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Anger is a normal emotion and all of us feel angry every now and then. If


you use it well, anger can be the fuel that drives effective and useful


action. But if you use it badly, it can result in needless pain, destruction


and frustration.


How you express your anger is especially important if you have children


around, because whether you like it or not, they will use you as a role


model as they learn how to handle their own strong feelings.


Even if you were raised around people who routinely blew up and lost control


of themselves whenever they got mad at each other, you can learn to do it


differently yourself.


When you feel that your rights are being ignored or that someone is treating


you with disrespect, assert yourself calmly, politely, but firmly. When you


do, you will be giving your children a wonderful example to follow and you


will feel good about your ability to take control of your feelings instead


of letting them take control of you.

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Dolphin123


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Thanks for the post Peggy, sometimes I feel guilty for getting angry. Then I ask myself why do I feel guilty. I wouldn't feel guilty for any other feeling. It is all in how I react.


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hey peggy,  i think god/ hp  gave us anger because there ARE folks who are going to abuse/disrespect et, al and  "healthy anger"  is  NECESSARY....stuffing it like i did for SO long only got me sickand   out of control raging until i could discharge all that  "stuffed" anger as well as the NEW anger that  life can bring/cause you......


i know if i am  more angry than "current"  stimulus deserves,  i know it is OLD anger and i get my tennis racquet and beat the chair till i am exhausted  and i feel  discharged.......AS i thaw out old  / stuffed emotions, i am finding i had a TON of unresolved ANGER   OUTRAGE....adn TONS of grief....one by one, i am discharging these emotions so i can get up to "current"  and than work the steps, et al to  keep it on a   "one day at a time basis"   thank you for this  great share, i needed to  see this.....peace rosie



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Maria123


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(((((Peggy)))))


What a wonderful share!  As a child who lived with an angry man, it was tough.  I had no good role models.


It breaks my heart to see people treating other people (especially spouses) so badly.


Keep posting,


love ya,


Maria



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