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I brought dinner (gourmet Italian from their favorite restaurant). I had also brought local corn from the farmer by my new place.
I went to my sister-in laws mothers condo.
My brother was there, upstairs with his MIL.
She is dying, has cancer that came back after a 20 year remission and it has spread to her bones. She has not eaten in 2 weeks
My brother has been staying with her and running the hospice nurses and the LPN and managing the household.
My sister in law does not have as much vacation (my brother is a weatherman on TV and has a good contract J)
It was tense over dinner
We talked not lightly but of the realities of a very dire situation.
I have sent dinner every night since my brother told me 2 weeks ago, and I sent my sister from texas up to help last week as she and my brother are very close.
My brother looks haunted, his wife stressed and wild and it reminds me of 6 years ago when my mother slowly and painfully died of pancreatic cancer.
So, please keep my brother and his wife and his Mil in your prayers
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Megan
If you want things you never had you need to do things you have never done
It hurts me deeply to know how much you are going through, and that those you love are in so much pain.
You and your family and extended family are often in my thoughts and prayers.
You have done so much for so many people, I just know that things are going to get better for you. People reap what they sow, whether good or bad. You have done so much good for so many people that it is bound to come back to you in blessings in your life.
You have a good job where you are treated well, you have a loving family, and your health, soon I pray you will have happiness and peace also.
I am sorry to hear of your pain during your mother's illness. My father died a few years ago of bladder cancer. He refused treatment and instead relied on "natural remedies". He lived for five years afterwards, from age 79 - 84 during which he suffered several surgeries to reduce the size of the tumor. He could not get rid of it with his natural cures, but they kept it from mestaticizing for many years. He finally died when the tumor invaded his kidneys. It was a long painful process but my sister and I stayed by his side night and day for the last two weeks of his life. Even though it was difficult for us, it was a blessing to be able to comfort him like he had done for us so many times in our life. Many times when we felt that we could not go on, a friend or family member would visit and remind us that we were in their prayers, that knowledge really sustained us.
Please tell your brother and his wife and family that many people have been touched by your kind deeds and the love that you show to so many and we are keeping you and your loved ones in our prayers.
What a loving gesture to send them dinner everyday! I remember that during those times it was difficult to find time to leave and prepare or eat a meal, we often thought that during that time our father would need us and we would be gone. When friends brought us a meal it was a great help.
I don't know if this will help, but I once read that cancer patients benefit from the super concentrated nutrients found in juiced foods. This only works with FRESH juice, it deteriorates every moment it is exposed to air. I read that carrot juice is the most beneficial and easy to digest.
Prayers for you right now megan. ((((((((hugs)))))) Life sure gets tough when it comes to death and dying. Prayers are so powerful at that time. You got them from me! cdb
(((((((((((((((((((((Megan)))))))))))))))) Prayers to you and your extended family god bless you are such a great person I am lucky to have you touch my life as are so many others here we love you!!!!!!!!!!!!! Always cloud
I am sorry for your hurt -- being powerless is very tough. Your brother and sister-in-law, however, are so very fortunate to have such a wonderful, loving sister that you are. As you said HP has you in a position where you can lighten their load a bit.
What a gift you are! I shall pray for all of you.
Maria
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