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Perceptions can make a huge difference
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Heard something great at a meeting today
When I look at a cobblestone, I can see either a stubling block or a stepping stone. The only difference is MY perception. And sometimes that makes all the difference in the world
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New and overwhelmed
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After a year of living together and what I thought was almost a year sober, my A is now in inpatient treatment. Turns out he relapsed around 3 months ago and had been hiding it and lying, all along being emotionally abusive and totally shutting me out. He started drinking the week my cousin (who was my bes...
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Thank You
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Great thought provoking posts on here!! Just wanted to take the time to thank each and every one of you for sharing!!
Lots of love,
Kis
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misconceptions by 'Earth People'
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I was at an AA meeting today and a woman was breaking down in tears as she read "How it works" at the start of the meeting. She later shared that she had recently picked up, and expressed how defeated she felt. The miserable thoughts that these feelings of hopelessness and uselessness would never go away...
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update on me
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I start college on August 27, 2005. Any comments or suggestions are welcome.
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Baby Update
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I AM A GRANDMA!!!! Miss Miya entered the world at 10:59am on August 17th. She weighed 5lbs 3 oz and is 17inches long. Mom and baby are fine. The other two kids are pretty excited to have a sister, although Kayla thinks it's her mommy's sister, not hers.....won't she be surprised whe...
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Letter From Heaven
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This was read at the Popes Memorial Service, and the priest that spoke at my mother's service read it for her. I thought you may like it if you have or are dealing with a loss :)
Letter From Heaven
To my dearest family and friends, some things I'd like to say But first of all, to let you kn...
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teaching myself how to love ME
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i put this post on the end of my "forgiveness" post and didn't mean to....i intended to start a new post......this is pretty cool...
hey you all...know what my sponser suggested to me??????
i was telling her that i felt my anger was my frustration at all the old horrible messeges he progra...
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sometimes its OK not to be able to forgive
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this is my take on another board about it being "ok to angry/pissed off/unable to forgive certain evil" this was my take i have been reading and praying and of COURSE working the program, asking the SOURCE for wisdom and here is my take on the forgiveness thing On Wednesday, Dennis Ra...
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Response to Letter from Heaven
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I found this today thought some of you might like this one too i sure did. No worries my last post on this lol .
We received your letter from heaven above, and we were sure it was written with all of your love.
You asked us not to be unhappy because you're out of sight, well, yo...
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I am new to this
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Hi my name is malissa. I am 29 years old i have been married to my A husband for 7 years. I really enjoy this site I've been to the chat room for Al-anon very nice people in there . I hope I can find help here to. I know I will . I would like to start working on my steps soon but when i went in to the 12 mes...
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Ever second guess if it really is your HP?
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I have been talking to a lot of my friends in recovery and we were talking about how sometimes we second guess our HP working in our lives..."Is it really my HP's hands that I'm seeing or is it just coincidence?"
::raises hand:: That happens to me often. Something will come up and I will get this thoug...
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Need help with step work
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I have a question for my step 6 work that I need help with. It is on step 6 and I have not heard a lot of discussion about step six.
What have you heard about how others worked step six?
Were entirerly ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
Can some of you tell me how you di...
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I'm so frustrated with myself
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I feel so frustrated with myself. I posted here about leaving my husband a couple of weeks ago. I had not heard from him and needed to contact him about the utility bills that had not been paid that were in my name. It took alot for me to work up the nerve to call because I wa...
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Want to share this with all of you
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This was sent to me and I want to share this with all of thoes who read it.
Love in recovery JJ
"A Good Recipie"
Fold two hands together,
And express a dash of sorrow
Marinate it overnight,
And work on it tomorrow.
Chop one grudge in tiny pieces,
Add several cups of love...
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Feeling better
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I just wanted to let you all know that I did go see the counselor, and she was helpful... mostly just a good ear and helping me to see how I was feeling-- more or less I'd tell her something and she'd say "you must of been very disapointed" (sad, angry, etc) and I would say "yes--" and she also asked "what can I...
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She left me for an active alcoholic
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Help me understand something about the flip side of the disease of Alcoholism. After 14 years of marriage (while drinking) I checked myself into a rehab 2 years ago. When I went in my wife was very, very angry. So angry, in fact, my councilors, upon meeting her, suggested that I stay at the rehab for 2 m...
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Guidelines from God
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Saw this on another forum I go to, thought some of you might like it.
Ten Guidelines From God
Effective immediately, please be aware that there are changes YOU need to make in YOUR life. These changes need to be completed in order that I may fulfill My promises to you to grant you peace, joy and ha...
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The Thimble :-)
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Hello All, I received another funny at work and wanted to share it with you all!
THE THIMBLE One day, when a seamstress was sewing while sitting close to a river, her thimble fell into the river. When she cried out, the Lord appeared and asked, "My d...
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haxigonian IX
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[[ room ]]
i got a hot lead on a park-for-fee place...checked it out and it turned out to be a bust..the scenic drive to get there was one of the best rainy day adventures i've had yet! It is very strange literally being inside a cloud that high up. the diversity of the scenery on the trip down w...
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"I think I'm coming down with something"
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Why is it that when my "A" has a full night of drinking and puts away more than 18 beers, the next morning he wakes up and says "Oh, I think I'm coming down with something". Is that an alcoholic thing, because every "A" I know says that when they are hungover. Do they actually believe th...
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Happy Birthday Princess :)
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Hello Princess,
I heard it was your birthday on Thursday. I hope I heard right :) If so, Have a very happy birthday~ cdb :)
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CHECKING IN
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Hey gang,
I finished a week at work so far doing very well.Some of you asked a few things so I will answer them in here.My recovery is comeing still doing meetings and meeting with sponsor.I am still seeing doctors and am sleeping now.The kids are back in school and working part time.Yes...
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freedom of step three
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hey guys its OK if you want to give ESH.......
*******this is taken from a "language of letting go" daily reminder, my take
The Freedom of Surrender This is the surrender step. Once we surrender,
we become free to take care of ourselve, with
the assistance of our Higher Po...
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Try to stay calm during crisis
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I have not posted in a few days. Everyone's experiences and knowledge in this message board really challenges me to think about myself and keep going. It's hard for me to make F/F meetings, so this has served as a substitute.
My a was in the hospital for the last three days. ...
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Time Shares
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Can anyone give me their views on Time Shares?
Does anyone think it is helpful to have a time keeper or not in a group of 20 to 30 people if the meeting runs for 50 minutes?
Thank you
Karl
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Taking Care of ME
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I havent posted for almost a week .. However, have really been trying to focus on me.
Boy, it is really hard loving an alcoholic.
Life has been okay here, my A went about 5 days without a drink. Then today while on the boat you guessed it he came home and had been drinking. After we everyone cam...
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The Irony of our Lives
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Does anyone ever think that it's ironic the way we all seek help in Alanon, with therapists, etc. when in fact our A's continue on with their lives drinking and drugging with no concern for us (or themselves).
I'm guessing that most of us are kind, loving, caring people (who Love our A's very much), bu...
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how to be selfish?
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It is so difficult for me, to think of myself. Once I even bein to try... (big sigh) I feel selfish.
Guilt wrecks my mind - and I always 'prided' myself on not being *e...
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OOPS I did it again
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I got angry when she drank again lastnight.
What a waste of energy.
I am disapointed in myself for not acting better.
I know she can't help it.
I do so well most of the time.
I feel I let everyone down when I let it get the better of me.
I feel good Today.
I know that I would be better off with out h...
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Latest installment of "My son's little alcoholic houseguest"
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Episode 3:
My husband and I got home from work last Friday to both my son and his waif of an alcoholic girlfriend packed up and gone. I leave for work earlier than my husband, who apparently told them that if they weren't packed up and out by the time we got home, he'd let the Fairfax police handle t...
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Help.
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Hello All,
Can you all help me out and say a pray for me that I will have patience and understanding with my "A". He is using as I type this.
I am okay, I know this is today and tomorrow is a different day. But I want to rage at him. I know that isn't good for wither one of us.
I am off to call my sponsor...
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Would you make the call?
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I have a bit of a dilemma, I think I do know what the right thing is to do but just want to get a few opinions.
My A is supposed to be going to outpatient treatment, he is still using, not as much but is still using. He had to go to court last Thursday for a fight that he had gotten into with my son, the cour...
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help please
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Hello everyone.
This weekend was a completely disaster, and one I knew was coming. After admitting to smoking pot 6 months ago and "claiming" to get back on the wagon (although it was painfully clear that he wasn't) I went to Florida for a few days to visit my best friend who is currently goingthorugh...
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"hope for today" minding my own business
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this is my *entry* on this hope for today message
Hope for Today - August 17 I was excited when I came to Al-Anon and found the Twelve Steps. I felt as if I finally had permission to live life my way, but instead I found myself using the program to dissect other...
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UncleLou need ur help
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Hi I hope u dont mind me posting to you, but have read some of your posts and think you can help me understand something .
I was married to my ex-A for 12 years during which time he had several affairs and drunk on and off throughout. He eventually left me and my 3 children to move in with anoth...
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hurting today
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Today is my first year aniversary. Eleven years together though. So here I am on my pitty pot feeling sorry for myself as he did not even have the decincy (sp?) to whish me a happy aniversary. Of course I am angry and hurt. I just thought that no matter how little his attempts are to mak...
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Attitude of Gratitude
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It was a busy weekend, I am glad to be back at work where I can slow down just a bit. (Blessing) I ran and dropped of children (blessing) here and there Saturday morning and then We had a funeral, (My A's best friend's father, I had posted about earlier), the fellowship (blessing)&nb...
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HOW DO YOU STAY STRONG???
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HOW DO YOU STAY STRONG? I CAN NEVER FIND THE ANSWER TO THAT QUESTION. MOST OF THE TIME I AM SO STRONG, NOT JUST FOR ME NUT FOR EVERYBODY. SOMETIMES I JUST GO CRY ON MY FRIENDS SHOULDER. I LOVE MY FRIENDS I DONT EVEN HAVE TO TELL THEM HOW I AM FEALING BECAUSE THEY CAN TELL IT IN MY EYES. LIFE SUCKS SOMETIMES. I GET...
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confused
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Hi everyone,
I have a few question. Everyone says wait six months before you make any big changes. Well my six months are up. I'm very confused. My A is sober now just got his six month chip. I though once he got sober everthing would be just fine. Well things are soooo...
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CDB
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Hi all,
Has anyone heard form cdb? Do we know how she is doing?
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haxigonian VIII
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[[[ room ]]]
further update...
it's been a wild, raucous 10 days...i'm taking a slow day because of heavy soreness from all that walking and the exhaustion from trying to get affairs in order...
please send money orders rather than anything as i have no bank account and post office is very c...
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Hi I'm new
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I've been to a couple face to face meetings and I've been readin the posts on here for a few days. I have been too shy to speak up in the meetings so far and so I thought I'd run some things from in my head past you guys. First of all why am I here? I have a 'qualifier'-my boyfriend who drinks every d...
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Why
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why that every time that i get mad at my alcoholic mom that 5 minutes later i feal guilty. i feal so not powerful, its like she has a power over me. how do i control these fealings?
much love-
princess433
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The tables have turned!
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Hello All,
I previously posted in "My Addictions" that I have started the "South Beach Diet", and this means a very strict first two weeks. I have completed one week so far unscathed. Last night when my "A" came home from work I started dinner and just immediately became depressed. I didn't wa...
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Bank Deposit
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I received this at work today and wanted to share it with you all:
A 92-year-old, petite, well-poised and proud man, who is fully dressed each morning by eight o'clock, with his hair fashionably coifed and shaved perfectly applied, even though he is legally blind, moved to a nursing home today. H...
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Doing really well...
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Well my "A" and I have been doing real well lately. He knows about Alanon and he is real supportive. Night before last his brothers wife called and left a messgae real late about his brother (also an alcoholic-but hasnt admitted it yet). I guess they had a big fight tha...
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haxigonian VII
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[[ room ]]
I have a new temporary address...
Mike Rolfe
111 NW Burnside
Portland, OR 97209
Fro those wishing to help me, you have no idea of my gratitude!! Please don't send cash; too risky to carry too much here.
The transit pass information is at http://www.trimet.org/
I do have a...
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Prayer request
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My son, Tom, who lives in AZ called this afternoon. They had taken his wife, Lisa, to the OB/GYN, the doctor told her that she is dilated to 3, go home, get her bag, drop the other kids off at the sitters and return to the hospital. They also sent her with an oxygen tank. She has cy...
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Looking for words of encouragement
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I have been struggling with my feelings all weekend. Sometimes feeling positive about my decision about leaving my husband and sometimes feeling that maybe I made a mistake. I shared in a post a few days ago about leaving my husband 11 days ago. I took a stand after having insults h...
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Anger
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My son developed a psychosis. Believe it to be through use of cannabis. He would not accept help, tried everything available, had him committed tomental unit.
He is not stupid, nor a fool, perhaps in top 10% of intelligence quota.
Finally, he accepted drugs. Breakthrough, so I thought, but...
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meeting contribution??
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I have a question about meeting behaviour. In our group there is one member who repeatedly talks about death in all forms and in vivid detail. Every week. Not in USA. I feel this is no help. He is obviously hurting, but it's painful to listen I try to go to the bathroom wh...
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Explanation of Life
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I got this at work and hoped it would give you all a laugh!
On the first day God created the dog. God said, "Sit all day by the door of your house and bark at anyone who comes in or walks past. I will give you a life span of twenty years."
The dog said, "That's too long to be barking. Gi...
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COMES THE DAWN
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Came across this poem while going threw some of my papers. Wanted to share it although I am unable to tell you the author as it was not written on the paper. Hope you enjoy!
COMES THE DAWN
After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a...
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Taking care of myself
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Hello from vacation. I am staying in New Branfels TX for a weekend of fun with my sister and a few of her friends.
Today we tubed the Guadalupe River.
We had a raft with our lunch in coolers tied to the raft in an inner tube
One friend was in the raft with his son.
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megan
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Accepting Amends
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Hi Everyone,
I had a little thing happen to me Friday that was one of those lightning strike moments for me that I would like to share with you.
On Thursday, I had reason to call a tech support person within the company whom I work for in regards to a problem with a printer. This person and I have k...
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david62
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job
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Hey,
I got a part time job at alanon start tomorrow thanks for all the prayers.
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dori
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Feeling guilt
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I guess this past week I haven't been following my own good sense, and I'm falling apart at the seams again. Can't sleep for wondering how to get all the work done, and how to pay the bills, etc. Haven't done my yoga regularly, and I'm not eating properly.
It's hard to slow myself down, and...
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Crossing a line
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Lastnight my husband crossed a line that almost made me snap!!! He came home drunk of course and gave my son's kitten away to his driver. I am angry with him as he had absolutly no right to do this!! I wanted to yell but didn't and I feel really bad for my son. I know that we could get the ki...
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jj
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husband in rehab--again
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He's been in rehab now for 4 days.
I'm going tomorrow for family day.
I've barely seen my husband in 2 months. We've been together for 21 years.
In case you don't know my story--he went to rehab in March for 30 days---3000 miles away from where we live.
Since, he has spiraled to a place that...
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