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Barbara · Barbara

My A doesnt fool around on me My A doesnt gamble My A doesnt drive drunk My A doesnt do cocaine My A doesnt hit me/us My A sits in the finished basement and drinks. I watch him get drunk. When I hear other peoples stories I think my A isnt that bad so why do I need to go to F2F to hear their stories? Can a...

captcodee · captcodee

The last two days have been a true test to my program. I am sure many of you have heard me brag that I have found a great place of serenity, even though my husband is still drinking/using. That peaceful place has been challenged very hard the last two days. I try very hard to remember that I am n...

sunny1 · sunny1

Hi all, Well Im off on a weekend retreat, leaving tonight at 6pm my time. I was given a list of items to bring with me and was told to think about one topic that I would like to focus on. That's a hard one for me....I have so many things that I would like to change, improve or think about....

kitty · kitty

Almighty Master, Physician of our Souls bodies, You alone are prompt to defend us; quickly visit Your suffering servant Mother Earth. In Your mercy, deliver us all from sickness, bitterness, pain, suffering, relapse & poor choices. Heal us now, so that we may sing p...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Ok all, I got this at work and it made me laugh. Some of us share the same sense of humor, so I am hoping that I do not offend anyone. All hair removal methods have tricked women with their promises of easy, painless removal - The epilady, scissors, razors, Nair and now...the...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

I am soo kinda happy because I have been going to my moms house for the past three days..I haven't seen her since summer time. I refused to see her because she chose to drink,and I just did not want to be a part of it.. The first two days i was kinda like w/e im gonna c my mom..today we actually had...

Kim · Kim

I started the day worrying about my A. I ended my day doing things for me. I had taken the day off...started like Isaid calling my A and worrying about where he slept last night...byt the time he called me back this afternoon I had thought over things and realized I have nothing good to say to him rig...

cedarpines · cedarpines

Hey folks, Just an update - haven't been on for awhile - if I have, it's been short to catch a meeting. I'm going crazy getting ready to move - going through stuff -OM gosh - where does it all come from? I've managed to mostly clean daughter's room - get stuffed animals & keepsakes into...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Well, I don't know if I'm really following the program or not, to me this is my way of detaching, but I wrote my A an email tonite. Last night, I called him to ask him a question and we talked for a few minutes and then he said hey I'm gonna go , I'm not much on talking on the phone, so see ya later. I said okeeee....

chrissy · chrissy

my husband just called said he left his moms already for today. he doent start work until 830am i heard a radio so i knew he was not home. he said he wants to come home he won't do it again he misses me. the two of us are so torn i am so drained i went to bed so early. i could have slept until 7 but the phone wok...

sallyb · sallyb

I remembered today that I used to think I was lucky to be living my life. The last time I thought that was far too long ago. I want to feel that way again, I think I am ready.

captcodee · captcodee

It is so windy here today. I come from a very windy place, but recently moved away. I have been feeling very lonesome, but not able to go home.

As I sit here I suddenly hear the rush of the wind through a small crack in my office window. (How blessed I am that I have a win...

Magpie · Magpie

Hi everyone, I really think that I will not be able to continue to live like this (with an active A) for the long term. I have a good job, have family close by for support, and I could do it on my own if I finally make that decision. I think the biggest thing concerning me right now is wha...

chrissy · chrissy

every friday i go through the same crappy nightmare. will he screw up again? i know with all the scary stuff i went through with amanda ,that i should relax. i went to sleep and woke up with such a migraine & i havent heard from my a since 1130:pm he said he would call me when he got to his mom...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

You know when I first met my husband over three years ago I can remember a time I couldn't wait to get home to him. I wanted to spend every waking hour with him. It's not like that anymore and I feel such guilt. I love my husband but so much has happened and I'm still harboring some resentment...

Diane43 · Diane43

Hi Everyone, When alcoholism affects our lives, it is very difficult to stay calm, so I thought I would share this. I know for myself I need to fear less and not worry about the future. Commandments for calm living: Thou shalt not worry, for worry is the most unproductive of all huma...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

I am so very mixed up or something. since my friend Donna died, I can't get with the program, I can't sit still, I can't stay in a meeting for the full time, I'm bored, I'm fidgeting, I'm restless. I think why her? why not me? I am just about to EXPLODE!!!! I can't get the feelings out, no one will listen and ca...

Satori · Satori

Just received this in an email from another friend in recovery...you may enjoy it too. I asked God to take away my habit. God said, No. It is not for me to take away, but for you to give it up. I asked God to make my handicapped child whole. God said, No. His Spirit is whole, his body is only tempora...

Barbara · Barbara

Seems alot of my thinking has been step related even though Im not "officially" working the steps. Is it actually a mix? different times doing different steps?

Kim · Kim

So, this morning I try to call him about driving him to rehab...I was home waiting...although I am sick as well with a viral thing and was out from work yesterday so i was home but had to go in for a meeting today after 12...He didn't answer the phone and of course I thought the worst. 10 minutes later I get a c...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

last night i looked over my diary from over the past two years. the only stuff i ever wrote in it was all the lousy stuff my a did to me and how lousy i felt and how my life was so wrong. the thoughts of when i was suicidal. basically the whole thing was written about my a and how i let everything he ever did make me...

nycbt · nycbt

I have some growing pains going on inside me. My sponsor who I love to death is helping me but it is hard to do. I am going to do what she asks me because I want to get better. Like writing done all my obessives thought. I am planning on getting a notebook because I have alot of obessive thoughts. Writing down e...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

^Lucy · ^Lucy

The drama of other people's problems can be very distracting, but in Al-Anon we discover that the problem does not lie solely within another person, the problem lies within us. The behavior of a friend, spouse, child, sibling, parent may have led us to alanon but we soon realize that o...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

In previous post I talked about leaving my husband and being gone for 6weeks. I have since returned. While cleaning the house I came across a receipt for oxycodone written to a lady I believe works with my husband in our bedroom. There was also a message on our answering machine that my hus...

sunny1 · sunny1

good morning all, okay so heres the deal, I can not let this one go.... yesterday I posted about the dog, Im going to a retret this weekend and my bf was having issues about where the dog is going. thx to all your comments I have decided to give him to my brother and wife, who are real dog lovers, th...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Belonging And Connecting We have powerful desires to belong and to connect with a special someone. We inherited a model for marriage and relationships that has remained largely unchanged for over 50 years. That traditional model was never intended to integrate our individual needs with th...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

A SENSE OF BELONGING Perhaps one of the greatest rewards of meditation and prayer is the sense of belonging that comes to us. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 105 That's what it is -- belonging! After a session of meditation I knew that the feeling I was experiencing was a sense of belonging b...

Barbara · Barbara

central MA?

Kim · Kim

I'm having a hard time since he didn't go to rehab. I'm sick to my stomach. I didn't think it would be affecting me this way. I'm angry at him, the insurance companies and a variety of others....but mostly I am angry at myself. I am obsessing again....worried about about every little thing he does. I feel...

captcodee · captcodee

This is an important part of the suggested closing in alanon. "Take what you like, and leave the rest" Many people in recovery, weather it be Alanon, or AA, or any program, are coming from a terrible place, a place where we all were once ourselves. It is hard to break some of the nasty di...

hudsond · hudsond

Things are going o.k. I'm just not in a good mood this week. My a hasn't gone to meetings this week because he is very busy with work. I understand this, but I am still frustrateda and scared, because when he doesn't go that gets his stinkin' thinkin' going again. He gets grouc...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Beliefs about Money I was starting a new job for a corporation. I was good at what I did for a living. The personnel manager and I were down to the details of employment, and he asked me how much money I believed I deserved. I thought about it and came up with a figure of $400 a month. This was back in the...

tea2 · tea2

Hello - I will be unable to do this Friday's AM meeting. I am posting this as a friendly reminder and a "Thank You" to whoever takes over

Have a Great Day, Wishes, Tea2

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

I have to go to therapy right now............grrrr i fuckin hate therapy..its boring and my therapist is a bitch..she bitched that I go to alanon..and not alateen..I said well at least I am going somewhere to help me....I told her I wanted a new therapist,and shes like why..I said just becau...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i just read a bunch of replies to someones post about what life was like living with an active a. many people said that they live separate lives from their a and are happy. so my question is are all of you just existing in a relationship? or are your need actually being fullfilled? is there still intimacy?...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, Everytime someone is asked about what one thing they would like to change in the world, most people answer "World Peace". That is all well and good, but I would say "a cure for alcoholism/addiction". A belief I have is that curing that would have a domino affect and many issues we have would go a...

chrissy · chrissy

Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (Alcohol Dependence) by Debra Wood, RNDefinition Alcohol abuse is a disease that involves desire for alcohol and continuing to drink even when faced with alcohol-related job, legal, social, health, or family problems. Alcohol abuse can progress to alcoholism...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi all, I have a quesiton. I read alot about gob bag or god box. What is it how do you use it? I don't let go enough wondering if this would help me. Thanks Nikkilou.

nycbt · nycbt

This is when it is the hardest time is when he is so sweet. You think to yourself wow this is going to be a good day. He doesn't seem to be getting into trouble today. So you let your guard down and then there you go you are in the same mess again.

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Accepting Love Many of us have worked too hard to make relationships work; sometimes those relationships didn't have a chance because the other person was unavailable or refused to participate.To compensate for the other person's unavailability, we worked too hard. We may have done all or mo...

kitty · kitty

Ok, so my 'rents made a truce... the A promised to disclose where & when he was going, to be discreet - she told him to do wtvr he wanted. Last night he was still saying, promising everything, not be lying or drinking. But my mom has friends that are his associates that have already sd otherwi...

megan · megan

Today is my anniversary. 14 years married. It will, if all goes according to plan, be the last anniversay of my marriage in which I am married to my husband. I feel sad, lonely and tired. i will not call him. After the dirt throwing Sunday morning he has called several times, I don't answer and he...

Barbara · Barbara

and I think I just realized what I was doing - which is what got me here in the first place. DH lost a kidney beginning of August. Doc found a large cancer lump so they removed it. DS & I went to FL shortly after Husbands operation (day before he was released - this was ok w/all). A few wks after we return...

chrissy · chrissy

hi guys it me again ,i got a phone call from the woman i am going to be watching her son she said she wouldn't need me until next month because the girl she had didnt know when she was leaving. so i said ok just let me know don't worry i will still do it. i hung up and i was so depressed . i wrote anothe...

sg · sg

So the A. asks me if we can "talk". Something he hardly ever does. We go into a closed room and he asks me "You're planning on leaving, right?" My response...."One of us will be leaving". He's not happy (which I didn't expect him to be). He tells me how now is the time that...

sunny1 · sunny1

Hello all, Funny thing, I realized my own progress lastnight and today. I have been having a situation with my boyfriend. He works away 21 days then is home for 7. We do not live together and have only been in a relationship for 10ms. When I met him I was scard to death of do...

Barbara · Barbara

taking son away this wknd to a hotel w/indoor wavepool - will have my 1st massage while there. Learning not to wait for others to help me celebrate. Will return Sun (after I take son to my birthday lunch) and ask A to take his A friend home. That boundary I will ask for as its "my special day"

nycbt · nycbt

I am upset about what happen last night. I had to take away a car key which was the easy part part. Not giving it back is going to be a hard part. I have to stand my ground. I always give to him. This is going to be hard for me.

sallyb · sallyb

I am coming to terms with my alcoholic fiance and have recently learned about detachment through local Al-Anon meetings and Al-Anon literature. The point (in my mind) of having a spouse is to have someone in life to share experiences with, someone to love and who will love me in...

sunny1 · sunny1

Thank you for your words about my dog, I have added another post if you could read it. Anyone else got comments about my situation, I would be intereseted to hear? Topic....my progress Sunny1

gknee · gknee

Here's the latest pickle I've gotten myself into.... Last week at our marriage counselling session, I agreed to put up with my A smoking pot at his friend's house--as long as he left it there, didn't do it elsewhere,etc. This was our "experiment". I knew that when we left the appointment that he...

sunny1 · sunny1

I know that we are here due to the desiese of A, but this came to me via a friend who's cousin is in jail right now, and the wife is slowly dying. I have researched this terrible drug to be more aware, this poem is a hard reality. Hope you dont mind me sharing it, sorry if it offends anyone. Sunny1:s...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday I drove home from my parents excited to see Rick. When I got home from work I patiently wanted for him to come home. Didn't call all day. We went to vote. I had no idea who to really vote for but voted. Then around 7:00 he told me that he had to starighten out the mes he made on Sunday and that he would b...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Thanks to everyone who posted replies to my "Can't Shake this one off" post. It really helped to hear different perspectives. I confronted my "a" with how I was feeling. I simply told him that I could appreciate his fear about losing me because I'm overweight, but I could not toler...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, Back in the beginning of October I had to get a new Driver's License and I did that. Well in my area they give you a paper license and then mail you a plastic one about two weeks later. So I got my plastic one about mid-October and took it to work to make a copy for work for the insurance so I can drive a w...

cdb · cdb

I am blessed with so many things and it is so wonderful when a person can feel and see these things. These things may not be easy now for me with my mom and dad's failing health but I see the blessings in it and am embracing them now. Alzheimer's is still an awful horrible disease and for me espe...

canadianguy · canadianguy

And I think EVERYONE associated with it should accept a well deserved hug and pat on the back... I find it quite amazing, to see the love and caring of so many people here - reaching out to those in need, even ignoring or looking past their anger and words - and recognizing it for what it is.... The...

nycbt · nycbt

I meet my husband six yrs ago and been married for about 15 months. At that time he was getting out of jail for drug problems. He was doing drugs and drinking. I went through alot of voliet times with him. We would actually physical wrestle on the group, yell scream push each other. My husband is a very verb...

bob6502 · bob6502

Dear Friends, I was reminded recently about compassion for the alcoholic. This was something that I knew about but had not put into practice for a while. I had become angry and resentful towards the alcoholics in my life for the damage they had caused me. I was angry at the diseas...

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	anyone else with the "at home" drinker? (Preview) My A doesnt fool around on me My A doesnt gamble My A doesnt drive drunk My A doesnt do cocaine My A doesnt hit me/us My A sits in the finished basement and drinks. I watch him get drunk. When I hear other peoples stories I think my A isnt that bad so why do I need to go to F2F to hear their stories? Can a...	Barbara	6	984	Nov 11, 2005 by bcanuck
	Not sure if I am okay (Preview) The last two days have been a true test to my program. I am sure many of you have heard me brag that I have found a great place of serenity, even though my husband is still drinking/using. That peaceful place has been challenged very hard the last two days. I try very hard to remember that I am n...	captcodee	3	601	Nov 11, 2005 by WakingUp
	My Journal.... (Preview) Hi all, Well Im off on a weekend retreat, leaving tonight at 6pm my time. I was given a list of items to bring with me and was told to think about one topic that I would like to focus on. That's a hard one for me....I have so many things that I would like to change, improve or think about....	sunny1	5	390	Nov 11, 2005 by leo
	a prayer for all of us (Preview) Almighty Master, Physician of our Souls bodies, You alone are prompt to defend us; quickly visit Your suffering servant Mother Earth. In Your mercy, deliver us all from sickness, bitterness, pain, suffering, relapse & poor choices. Heal us now, so that we may sing p...	kitty	1	546	Nov 11, 2005 by kitty
	Waxing! (Funny) (Preview) Ok all, I got this at work and it made me laugh. Some of us share the same sense of humor, so I am hoping that I do not offend anyone. All hair removal methods have tricked women with their promises of easy, painless removal - The epilady, scissors, razors, Nair and now...the...	Dolphin123	12	3245	Nov 11, 2005 by kitty
	I tried...... (Preview) I am soo kinda happy because I have been going to my moms house for the past three days..I haven't seen her since summer time. I refused to see her because she chose to drink,and I just did not want to be a part of it.. The first two days i was kinda like w/e im gonna c my mom..today we actually had...	Lauren ashley	4	733	Nov 11, 2005 by bubbles1990
	The rest of the day was about me (Preview) I started the day worrying about my A. I ended my day doing things for me. I had taken the day off...started like Isaid calling my A and worrying about where he slept last night...byt the time he called me back this afternoon I had thought over things and realized I have nothing good to say to him rig...	Kim	4	625	Nov 11, 2005 by bubbles1990
	Moving out & Moving On (Preview) Hey folks, Just an update - haven't been on for awhile - if I have, it's been short to catch a meeting. I'm going crazy getting ready to move - going through stuff -OM gosh - where does it all come from? I've managed to mostly clean daughter's room - get stuffed animals & keepsakes into...	cedarpines	3	985	Nov 11, 2005 by bubbles1990
	email to my A (Preview) Well, I don't know if I'm really following the program or not, to me this is my way of detaching, but I wrote my A an email tonite. Last night, I called him to ask him a question and we talked for a few minutes and then he said hey I'm gonna go , I'm not much on talking on the phone, so see ya later. I said okeeee....	jonibaloni21	2	409	Nov 11, 2005 by bubbles1990
	my a just called at 530am (Preview) my husband just called said he left his moms already for today. he doent start work until 830am i heard a radio so i knew he was not home. he said he wants to come home he won't do it again he misses me. the two of us are so torn i am so drained i went to bed so early. i could have slept until 7 but the phone wok...	chrissy	6	718	Nov 10, 2005 by marmare
	The beauty of every day (Preview) I remembered today that I used to think I was lucky to be living my life. The last time I thought that was far too long ago. I want to feel that way again, I think I am ready.	sallyb	2	522	Nov 10, 2005 by marmare
	Do you like the wind?? (Preview) It is so windy here today. I come from a very windy place, but recently moved away. I have been feeling very lonesome, but not able to go home. As I sit here I suddenly hear the rush of the wind through a small crack in my office window. (How blessed I am that I have a win...	captcodee	2	778	Nov 10, 2005 by Karilynn
	Question about custody arrangements for those separated from A with kids (Preview) Hi everyone, I really think that I will not be able to continue to live like this (with an active A) for the long term. I have a good job, have family close by for support, and I could do it on my own if I finally make that decision. I think the biggest thing concerning me right now is wha...	Magpie	5	690	Nov 10, 2005 by bcanuck
	i feel like ive been beaten up friday sucks (Preview) every friday i go through the same crappy nightmare. will he screw up again? i know with all the scary stuff i went through with amanda ,that i should relax. i went to sleep and woke up with such a migraine & i havent heard from my a since 1130:pm he said he would call me when he got to his mom...	chrissy	8	759	Nov 10, 2005 by UncleLou
	Does It Get Any Better??? (Preview) You know when I first met my husband over three years ago I can remember a time I couldn't wait to get home to him. I wanted to spend every waking hour with him. It's not like that anymore and I feel such guilt. I love my husband but so much has happened and I'm still harboring some resentment...	JulieLynn	7	497	Nov 10, 2005 by ODAT
	Commandments for calm living (Preview) Hi Everyone, When alcoholism affects our lives, it is very difficult to stay calm, so I thought I would share this. I know for myself I need to fear less and not worry about the future. Commandments for calm living: Thou shalt not worry, for worry is the most unproductive of all huma...	Diane43	6	931	Nov 10, 2005 by Kim
	I'm Not Alright (Preview) I am so very mixed up or something. since my friend Donna died, I can't get with the program, I can't sit still, I can't stay in a meeting for the full time, I'm bored, I'm fidgeting, I'm restless. I think why her? why not me? I am just about to EXPLODE!!!! I can't get the feelings out, no one will listen and ca...	jonibaloni21	10	959	Nov 10, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	God said, No. (Preview) Just received this in an email from another friend in recovery...you may enjoy it too. I asked God to take away my habit. God said, No. It is not for me to take away, but for you to give it up. I asked God to make my handicapped child whole. God said, No. His Spirit is whole, his body is only tempora...	Satori	4	667	Nov 10, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	can you actually be working the steps w/out formally realizing youre doing so? (Preview) Seems alot of my thinking has been step related even though Im not "officially" working the steps. Is it actually a mix? different times doing different steps?	Barbara	7	909	Nov 10, 2005 by Jeannie
	so he didn't go to rehab... (Preview) So, this morning I try to call him about driving him to rehab...I was home waiting...although I am sick as well with a viral thing and was out from work yesterday so i was home but had to go in for a meeting today after 12...He didn't answer the phone and of course I thought the worst. 10 minutes later I get a c...	Kim	4	809	Nov 10, 2005 by Jeannie
	a way to let go of the past (Preview) last night i looked over my diary from over the past two years. the only stuff i ever wrote in it was all the lousy stuff my a did to me and how lousy i felt and how my life was so wrong. the thoughts of when i was suicidal. basically the whole thing was written about my a and how i let everything he ever did make me...	notsonew1111	4	493	Nov 10, 2005 by sunny1
	Growing PAINS (Preview) I have some growing pains going on inside me. My sponsor who I love to death is helping me but it is hard to do. I am going to do what she asks me because I want to get better. Like writing done all my obessives thought. I am planning on getting a notebook because I have alot of obessive thoughts. Writing down e...	nycbt	2	525	Nov 10, 2005 by nmike
	dont wait (Preview)	notsonew1111	1	396	Nov 10, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Gossip and Backstabbing- Yes, this means U (Preview) The drama of other people's problems can be very distracting, but in Al-Anon we discover that the problem does not lie solely within another person, the problem lies within us. The behavior of a friend, spouse, child, sibling, parent may have led us to alanon but we soon realize that o...	^Lucy	12	994	Nov 10, 2005 by ^Lucy
	I need some input (Preview) In previous post I talked about leaving my husband and being gone for 6weeks. I have since returned. While cleaning the house I came across a receipt for oxycodone written to a lady I believe works with my husband in our bedroom. There was also a message on our answering machine that my hus...	JulieLynn	10	511	Nov 10, 2005 by cidboy
	the dog.... (Preview) good morning all, okay so heres the deal, I can not let this one go.... yesterday I posted about the dog, Im going to a retret this weekend and my bf was having issues about where the dog is going. thx to all your comments I have decided to give him to my brother and wife, who are real dog lovers, th...	sunny1	6	426	Nov 10, 2005 by Diva
	belonging and connecting....what do YOU guys think??? (Preview) Belonging And Connecting We have powerful desires to belong and to connect with a special someone. We inherited a model for marriage and relationships that has remained largely unchanged for over 50 years. That traditional model was never intended to integrate our individual needs with th...	rosie light shines	3	530	Nov 10, 2005 by notsonew1111
	damn it!! i DO belong (Preview) A SENSE OF BELONGING Perhaps one of the greatest rewards of meditation and prayer is the sense of belonging that comes to us. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 105 That's what it is -- belonging! After a session of meditation I knew that the feeling I was experiencing was a sense of belonging b...	rosie light shines	1	640	Nov 10, 2005 by kitty
	anyone on here from Massachusetts? (Preview) central MA?	Barbara	3	548	Nov 10, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Anger has got a hold on me (Preview) I'm having a hard time since he didn't go to rehab. I'm sick to my stomach. I didn't think it would be affecting me this way. I'm angry at him, the insurance companies and a variety of others....but mostly I am angry at myself. I am obsessing again....worried about about every little thing he does. I feel...	Kim	5	712	Nov 10, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Take what you like, and leave the rest (Preview) This is an important part of the suggested closing in alanon. *"Take what you like, and leave the rest"* Many people in recovery, weather it be Alanon, or AA, or any program, are coming from a terrible place, a place where we all were once ourselves. It is hard to break some of the nasty di...	captcodee	4	1803	Nov 10, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Tired and have the blahs (Preview) Things are going o.k. I'm just not in a good mood this week. My a hasn't gone to meetings this week because he is very busy with work. I understand this, but I am still frustrateda and scared, because when he doesn't go that gets his stinkin' thinkin' going again. He gets grouc...	hudsond	4	404	Nov 10, 2005 by hudsond
	BOY, i am really showing you all my heart!!! would love ESH (Preview) Beliefs about Money I was starting a new job for a corporation. I was good at what I did for a living. The personnel manager and I were down to the details of employment, and he asked me how much money I believed I deserved. I thought about it and came up with a figure of $400 a month. This was back in the...	rosie light shines	1	618	Nov 10, 2005 by kitty
	Friday,11/11 OP Needed for AM Meeting (Preview) Hello - I will be unable to do this Friday's AM meeting. I am posting this as a friendly reminder and a "Thank You" to whoever takes over Have a Great Day, Wishes, Tea2	tea2	0	345	Nov 10, 2005 by tea2
	this sux (Preview) I have to go to therapy right now............grrrr i fuckin hate therapy..its boring and my therapist is a bitch..she bitched that I go to alanon..and not alateen..I said well at least I am going somewhere to help me....I told her I wanted a new therapist,and shes like why..I said just becau...	Lauren ashley	11	694	Nov 10, 2005 by Christy
	question to all who have stayed (Preview) i just read a bunch of replies to someones post about what life was like living with an active a. many people said that they live separate lives from their a and are happy. so my question is are all of you just existing in a relationship? or are your need actually being fullfilled? is there still intimacy?...	notsonew1111	12	889	Nov 10, 2005 by nycbt
	If I had one wish (Preview) Hi all, Everytime someone is asked about what one thing they would like to change in the world, most people answer "World Peace". That is all well and good, but I would say "a cure for alcoholism/addiction". A belief I have is that curing that would have a domino affect and many issues we have would go a...	Dolphin123	4	703	Nov 10, 2005 by nycbt
	i know we probaly know this already but may be it could help (Preview) Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (Alcohol Dependence) by Debra Wood, RNDefinition Alcohol abuse is a disease that involves desire for alcohol and continuing to drink even when faced with alcohol-related job, legal, social, health, or family problems. Alcohol abuse can progress to alcoholism...	chrissy	2	685	Nov 10, 2005 by chrissy
	quick ????? (Preview) Hi all, I have a quesiton. I read alot about gob bag or god box. What is it how do you use it? I don't let go enough wondering if this would help me. Thanks Nikkilou.	nikkilou	3	627	Nov 10, 2005 by abbyal
	THIS IS THE HARD TIME (Preview) This is when it is the hardest time is when he is so sweet. You think to yourself wow this is going to be a good day. He doesn't seem to be getting into trouble today. So you let your guard down and then there you go you are in the same mess again.	nycbt	4	645	Nov 10, 2005 by sunny1
	accepting love...HEALTHY love!!! (Preview) Accepting Love Many of us have worked too hard to make relationships work; sometimes those relationships didn't have a chance because the other person was unavailable or refused to participate.To compensate for the other person's unavailability, we worked too hard. We may have done all or mo...	rosie light shines	1	462	Nov 10, 2005 by kitty
	I am back to HATRED, god help me (Preview) Ok, so my 'rents made a truce... the A promised to disclose where & when he was going, to be discreet - she told him to do wtvr he wanted. Last night he was still saying, promising everything, not be lying or drinking. But my mom has friends that are his associates that have already sd otherwi...	kitty	11	609	Nov 10, 2005 by rosie light shines
	wedding anniversary/feeling low (Preview) Today is my anniversary. 14 years married. It will, if all goes according to plan, be the last anniversay of my marriage in which I am married to my husband. I feel sad, lonely and tired. i will not call him. After the dirt throwing Sunday morning he has called several times, I don't answer and he...	megan	16	933	Nov 10, 2005 by nmike
	was having trouble facing the fact that what I thought should be As bottom wasnt his bottom (Preview) and I think I just realized what I was doing - which is what got me here in the first place. DH lost a kidney beginning of August. Doc found a large cancer lump so they removed it. DS & I went to FL shortly after Husbands operation (day before he was released - this was ok w/all). A few wks after we return...	Barbara	5	722	Nov 9, 2005 by nikkilou
	re my god bag the power of hp (Preview) hi guys it me again ,i got a phone call from the woman i am going to be watching her son she said she wouldn't need me until next month because the girl she had didnt know when she was leaving. so i said ok just let me know don't worry i will still do it. i hung up and i was so depressed . i wrote anothe...	chrissy	6	408	Nov 9, 2005 by nikkilou
	How does one accomplish this?? part 2 (Preview) So the A. asks me if we can "talk". Something he hardly ever does. We go into a closed room and he asks me "You're planning on leaving, right?" My response...."One of us will be leaving". He's not happy (which I didn't expect him to be). He tells me how now is the time that...	sg	4	484	Nov 9, 2005 by canadianguy
	Progress for me (Preview) Hello all, Funny thing, I realized my own progress lastnight and today. I have been having a situation with my boyfriend. He works away 21 days then is home for 7. We do not live together and have only been in a relationship for 10ms. When I met him I was scard to death of do...	sunny1	7	542	Nov 9, 2005 by notsonew1111
	celebrating my 48th bday w/out my A husband (Preview) taking son away this wknd to a hotel w/indoor wavepool - will have my 1st massage while there. Learning not to wait for others to help me celebrate. Will return Sun (after I take son to my birthday lunch) and ask A to take his A friend home. That boundary I will ask for as its "my special day"	Barbara	8	720	Nov 9, 2005 by chrissy
	ME (Preview) I am upset about what happen last night. I had to take away a car key which was the easy part part. Not giving it back is going to be a hard part. I have to stand my ground. I always give to him. This is going to be hard for me.	nycbt	3	525	Nov 9, 2005 by Kim
	Detachment? (Preview) I am coming to terms with my alcoholic fiance and have recently learned about detachment through local Al-Anon meetings and Al-Anon literature. The point (in my mind) of having a spouse is to have someone in life to share experiences with, someone to love and who will love me in...	sallyb	15	668	Nov 9, 2005 by notsonew1111
	attn diva (Preview) Thank you for your words about my dog, I have added another post if you could read it. Anyone else got comments about my situation, I would be intereseted to hear? Topic....my progress Sunny1	sunny1	1	631	Nov 9, 2005 by Diva
	what would u do? (Preview) Here's the latest pickle I've gotten myself into.... Last week at our marriage counselling session, I agreed to put up with my A smoking pot at his friend's house--as long as he left it there, didn't do it elsewhere,etc. This was our "experiment". I knew that when we left the appointment that he...	gknee	4	600	Nov 9, 2005 by Jeannie
	what a drug....!! (Preview) I know that we are here due to the desiese of A, but this came to me via a friend who's cousin is in jail right now, and the wife is slowly dying. I have researched this terrible drug to be more aware, this poem is a hard reality. Hope you dont mind me sharing it, sorry if it offends anyone. Sunny1:s...	sunny1	4	492	Nov 9, 2005 by nycbt
	LAST NIGHT (Preview) Yesterday I drove home from my parents excited to see Rick. When I got home from work I patiently wanted for him to come home. Didn't call all day. We went to vote. I had no idea who to really vote for but voted. Then around 7:00 he told me that he had to starighten out the mes he made on Sunday and that he would b...	nycbt	4	498	Nov 9, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Feeling some relief (Preview) Thanks to everyone who posted replies to my "Can't Shake this one off" post. It really helped to hear different perspectives. I confronted my "a" with how I was feeling. I simply told him that I could appreciate his fear about losing me because I'm overweight, but I could not toler...	twinmom2	4	417	Nov 9, 2005 by captcodee
	Funny thing happened at my meeting last night (Preview) Hi all, Back in the beginning of October I had to get a new Driver's License and I did that. Well in my area they give you a paper license and then mail you a plastic one about two weeks later. So I got my plastic one about mid-October and took it to work to make a copy for work for the insurance so I can drive a w...	Dolphin123	1	626	Nov 9, 2005 by captcodee
	I am blessed :) (Preview) I am blessed with so many things and it is so wonderful when a person can feel and see these things. These things may not be easy now for me with my mom and dad's failing health but I see the blessings in it and am embracing them now. Alzheimer's is still an awful horrible disease and for me espe...	cdb	4	733	Nov 9, 2005 by Emmie11
	What a cool board this is.... (Preview) And I think EVERYONE associated with it should accept a well deserved hug and pat on the back... I find it quite amazing, to see the love and caring of so many people here - reaching out to those in need, even ignoring or looking past their anger and words - and recognizing it for what it is.... The...	canadianguy	6	512	Nov 9, 2005 by Barbara
	WHY SO HARD (Preview) I meet my husband six yrs ago and been married for about 15 months. At that time he was getting out of jail for drug problems. He was doing drugs and drinking. I went through alot of voliet times with him. We would actually physical wrestle on the group, yell scream push each other. My husband is a very verb...	nycbt	2	638	Nov 9, 2005 by Dolphin123
	The Disease Concept (Preview) Dear Friends, I was reminded recently about compassion for the alcoholic. This was something that I knew about but had not put into practice for a while. I had become angry and resentful towards the alcoholics in my life for the damage they had caused me. I was angry at the diseas...	bob6502	6	561	Nov 9, 2005 by Barbara
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