Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

chrissy · chrissy

every friday i go through the same crappy nightmare. will he screw up again? i know with all the scary stuff i went through with amanda ,that i should relax. i went to sleep and woke up with such a migraine & i havent heard from my a since 1130:pm he said he would call me when he got to his mom...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

You know when I first met my husband over three years ago I can remember a time I couldn't wait to get home to him. I wanted to spend every waking hour with him. It's not like that anymore and I feel such guilt. I love my husband but so much has happened and I'm still harboring some resentment...

Diane43 · Diane43

Hi Everyone, When alcoholism affects our lives, it is very difficult to stay calm, so I thought I would share this. I know for myself I need to fear less and not worry about the future. Commandments for calm living: Thou shalt not worry, for worry is the most unproductive of all huma...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

I am so very mixed up or something. since my friend Donna died, I can't get with the program, I can't sit still, I can't stay in a meeting for the full time, I'm bored, I'm fidgeting, I'm restless. I think why her? why not me? I am just about to EXPLODE!!!! I can't get the feelings out, no one will listen and ca...

Satori · Satori

Just received this in an email from another friend in recovery...you may enjoy it too. I asked God to take away my habit. God said, No. It is not for me to take away, but for you to give it up. I asked God to make my handicapped child whole. God said, No. His Spirit is whole, his body is only tempora...

Barbara · Barbara

Seems alot of my thinking has been step related even though Im not "officially" working the steps. Is it actually a mix? different times doing different steps?

Kim · Kim

So, this morning I try to call him about driving him to rehab...I was home waiting...although I am sick as well with a viral thing and was out from work yesterday so i was home but had to go in for a meeting today after 12...He didn't answer the phone and of course I thought the worst. 10 minutes later I get a c...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

last night i looked over my diary from over the past two years. the only stuff i ever wrote in it was all the lousy stuff my a did to me and how lousy i felt and how my life was so wrong. the thoughts of when i was suicidal. basically the whole thing was written about my a and how i let everything he ever did make me...

nycbt · nycbt

I have some growing pains going on inside me. My sponsor who I love to death is helping me but it is hard to do. I am going to do what she asks me because I want to get better. Like writing done all my obessives thought. I am planning on getting a notebook because I have alot of obessive thoughts. Writing down e...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

^Lucy · ^Lucy

The drama of other people's problems can be very distracting, but in Al-Anon we discover that the problem does not lie solely within another person, the problem lies within us. The behavior of a friend, spouse, child, sibling, parent may have led us to alanon but we soon realize that o...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

In previous post I talked about leaving my husband and being gone for 6weeks. I have since returned. While cleaning the house I came across a receipt for oxycodone written to a lady I believe works with my husband in our bedroom. There was also a message on our answering machine that my hus...

sunny1 · sunny1

good morning all, okay so heres the deal, I can not let this one go.... yesterday I posted about the dog, Im going to a retret this weekend and my bf was having issues about where the dog is going. thx to all your comments I have decided to give him to my brother and wife, who are real dog lovers, th...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Belonging And Connecting We have powerful desires to belong and to connect with a special someone. We inherited a model for marriage and relationships that has remained largely unchanged for over 50 years. That traditional model was never intended to integrate our individual needs with th...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

A SENSE OF BELONGING Perhaps one of the greatest rewards of meditation and prayer is the sense of belonging that comes to us. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 105 That's what it is -- belonging! After a session of meditation I knew that the feeling I was experiencing was a sense of belonging b...

Barbara · Barbara

central MA?

Kim · Kim

I'm having a hard time since he didn't go to rehab. I'm sick to my stomach. I didn't think it would be affecting me this way. I'm angry at him, the insurance companies and a variety of others....but mostly I am angry at myself. I am obsessing again....worried about about every little thing he does. I feel...

captcodee · captcodee

This is an important part of the suggested closing in alanon. "Take what you like, and leave the rest" Many people in recovery, weather it be Alanon, or AA, or any program, are coming from a terrible place, a place where we all were once ourselves. It is hard to break some of the nasty di...

hudsond · hudsond

Things are going o.k. I'm just not in a good mood this week. My a hasn't gone to meetings this week because he is very busy with work. I understand this, but I am still frustrateda and scared, because when he doesn't go that gets his stinkin' thinkin' going again. He gets grouc...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Beliefs about Money I was starting a new job for a corporation. I was good at what I did for a living. The personnel manager and I were down to the details of employment, and he asked me how much money I believed I deserved. I thought about it and came up with a figure of $400 a month. This was back in the...

tea2 · tea2

Hello - I will be unable to do this Friday's AM meeting. I am posting this as a friendly reminder and a "Thank You" to whoever takes over

Have a Great Day, Wishes, Tea2

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

I have to go to therapy right now............grrrr i fuckin hate therapy..its boring and my therapist is a bitch..she bitched that I go to alanon..and not alateen..I said well at least I am going somewhere to help me....I told her I wanted a new therapist,and shes like why..I said just becau...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i just read a bunch of replies to someones post about what life was like living with an active a. many people said that they live separate lives from their a and are happy. so my question is are all of you just existing in a relationship? or are your need actually being fullfilled? is there still intimacy?...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, Everytime someone is asked about what one thing they would like to change in the world, most people answer "World Peace". That is all well and good, but I would say "a cure for alcoholism/addiction". A belief I have is that curing that would have a domino affect and many issues we have would go a...

chrissy · chrissy

Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (Alcohol Dependence) by Debra Wood, RNDefinition Alcohol abuse is a disease that involves desire for alcohol and continuing to drink even when faced with alcohol-related job, legal, social, health, or family problems. Alcohol abuse can progress to alcoholism...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi all, I have a quesiton. I read alot about gob bag or god box. What is it how do you use it? I don't let go enough wondering if this would help me. Thanks Nikkilou.

nycbt · nycbt

This is when it is the hardest time is when he is so sweet. You think to yourself wow this is going to be a good day. He doesn't seem to be getting into trouble today. So you let your guard down and then there you go you are in the same mess again.

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Accepting Love Many of us have worked too hard to make relationships work; sometimes those relationships didn't have a chance because the other person was unavailable or refused to participate.To compensate for the other person's unavailability, we worked too hard. We may have done all or mo...

kitty · kitty

Ok, so my 'rents made a truce... the A promised to disclose where & when he was going, to be discreet - she told him to do wtvr he wanted. Last night he was still saying, promising everything, not be lying or drinking. But my mom has friends that are his associates that have already sd otherwi...

megan · megan

Today is my anniversary. 14 years married. It will, if all goes according to plan, be the last anniversay of my marriage in which I am married to my husband. I feel sad, lonely and tired. i will not call him. After the dirt throwing Sunday morning he has called several times, I don't answer and he...

Barbara · Barbara

and I think I just realized what I was doing - which is what got me here in the first place. DH lost a kidney beginning of August. Doc found a large cancer lump so they removed it. DS & I went to FL shortly after Husbands operation (day before he was released - this was ok w/all). A few wks after we return...

chrissy · chrissy

hi guys it me again ,i got a phone call from the woman i am going to be watching her son she said she wouldn't need me until next month because the girl she had didnt know when she was leaving. so i said ok just let me know don't worry i will still do it. i hung up and i was so depressed . i wrote anothe...

sg · sg

So the A. asks me if we can "talk". Something he hardly ever does. We go into a closed room and he asks me "You're planning on leaving, right?" My response...."One of us will be leaving". He's not happy (which I didn't expect him to be). He tells me how now is the time that...

sunny1 · sunny1

Hello all, Funny thing, I realized my own progress lastnight and today. I have been having a situation with my boyfriend. He works away 21 days then is home for 7. We do not live together and have only been in a relationship for 10ms. When I met him I was scard to death of do...

Barbara · Barbara

taking son away this wknd to a hotel w/indoor wavepool - will have my 1st massage while there. Learning not to wait for others to help me celebrate. Will return Sun (after I take son to my birthday lunch) and ask A to take his A friend home. That boundary I will ask for as its "my special day"

nycbt · nycbt

I am upset about what happen last night. I had to take away a car key which was the easy part part. Not giving it back is going to be a hard part. I have to stand my ground. I always give to him. This is going to be hard for me.

sallyb · sallyb

I am coming to terms with my alcoholic fiance and have recently learned about detachment through local Al-Anon meetings and Al-Anon literature. The point (in my mind) of having a spouse is to have someone in life to share experiences with, someone to love and who will love me in...

sunny1 · sunny1

Thank you for your words about my dog, I have added another post if you could read it. Anyone else got comments about my situation, I would be intereseted to hear? Topic....my progress Sunny1

gknee · gknee

Here's the latest pickle I've gotten myself into.... Last week at our marriage counselling session, I agreed to put up with my A smoking pot at his friend's house--as long as he left it there, didn't do it elsewhere,etc. This was our "experiment". I knew that when we left the appointment that he...

sunny1 · sunny1

I know that we are here due to the desiese of A, but this came to me via a friend who's cousin is in jail right now, and the wife is slowly dying. I have researched this terrible drug to be more aware, this poem is a hard reality. Hope you dont mind me sharing it, sorry if it offends anyone. Sunny1:s...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday I drove home from my parents excited to see Rick. When I got home from work I patiently wanted for him to come home. Didn't call all day. We went to vote. I had no idea who to really vote for but voted. Then around 7:00 he told me that he had to starighten out the mes he made on Sunday and that he would b...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Thanks to everyone who posted replies to my "Can't Shake this one off" post. It really helped to hear different perspectives. I confronted my "a" with how I was feeling. I simply told him that I could appreciate his fear about losing me because I'm overweight, but I could not toler...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, Back in the beginning of October I had to get a new Driver's License and I did that. Well in my area they give you a paper license and then mail you a plastic one about two weeks later. So I got my plastic one about mid-October and took it to work to make a copy for work for the insurance so I can drive a w...

cdb · cdb

I am blessed with so many things and it is so wonderful when a person can feel and see these things. These things may not be easy now for me with my mom and dad's failing health but I see the blessings in it and am embracing them now. Alzheimer's is still an awful horrible disease and for me espe...

canadianguy · canadianguy

And I think EVERYONE associated with it should accept a well deserved hug and pat on the back... I find it quite amazing, to see the love and caring of so many people here - reaching out to those in need, even ignoring or looking past their anger and words - and recognizing it for what it is.... The...

nycbt · nycbt

I meet my husband six yrs ago and been married for about 15 months. At that time he was getting out of jail for drug problems. He was doing drugs and drinking. I went through alot of voliet times with him. We would actually physical wrestle on the group, yell scream push each other. My husband is a very verb...

bob6502 · bob6502

Dear Friends, I was reminded recently about compassion for the alcoholic. This was something that I knew about but had not put into practice for a while. I had become angry and resentful towards the alcoholics in my life for the damage they had caused me. I was angry at the diseas...

hadit · hadit

What is wrong with me? Why do I have hopes and dreams and disappointments. I am so sick of this crap. I went out shopping with my ex the a. He had called last Saturday night asking me if I wanted to go shopping with him Monday evening, spend some time together. He called me...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - November 9 I grew up affected by someone else's drinking. I seldom knew what was good for me, yet I knew what was best for others and didn't hesitate to tell them. I didn't know what I enjoyed doing for fun, but I could tell you what activities the alcoholic enjoyed. I feared o...

Barbara · Barbara

Thinking of trying my 2nd Al-Anon meeting (this time around). Tonight at 730. Someone please give me the push I need - thanks I went to 1 3wks ago but didnt return.

kitty · kitty

Each & every day we can change our attitudes, thoughts, actons in a split second. In a moment we can change & we keep moving into the future of new moments where we have a choice to make a change! (from Collective Soul, "in a moment")... "we can wake up & be laughing,...

Barbara · Barbara

How do you know when to blame the alcoholism? Im seeing trails in my husband that would happen in other non-alcoholics too. How do you know whats the alcoholism? whats "being a man"? and whats just being a plain ole jerk?

healing today · healing today

another great website is www.gettingthemsober.com

Barbara · Barbara

just wondering

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Ok today i went to my moms house..We had a very good time,but she drank the whole time I was there.. I did not like that,but she said it was just wine. I know its not hard liquor,but she does have a problem I want her to realize she is missing out on my entire childhood,and that I won't be a ki...

Cathy · Cathy

Hey Kathy, I shared about my A and you asked me how I'm doing. I'm doing ok. I really am. Everyday is a tough chore for me. It really is. But to live with an alcoholic and for him to really want to try is also a blessing. Thank you so much for being concerned. We all have problems and some days we think our proble...

chrissy · chrissy

http://www.unityworldhq.org/JDF/IamThere.html ;

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

THOUGHT "There is no place in active life on which thought is negligible." -- T. S. Eliot It is not a crime to think. It is not a sin to have a brain. To think is human. However, so much of my past thinking was destructive and negative. The disease of addiction permeated every aspect of...

kissers · kissers

I always put everyone in my life first. If a friend was having a difficult time, I would neglect my stuff to take care of them. This goes back to my childhood, taking care of my parent's stuff instead of mine. This is self-inflicted abuse. When I got into Alanon and started to take care of me, some of my frie...

hopefortoday · hopefortoday

I went to a meeting last night where the topic was "pray for the stranger." I got to thinking how to me very often the strangers I pray for are my own family. The people closest to me whom alcohol and drugs have twisted around and turned into people I don't know. This past weekend I sat across the table fro...

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	i feel like ive been beaten up friday sucks (Preview) every friday i go through the same crappy nightmare. will he screw up again? i know with all the scary stuff i went through with amanda ,that i should relax. i went to sleep and woke up with such a migraine & i havent heard from my a since 1130:pm he said he would call me when he got to his mom...	chrissy	8	741	Nov 10, 2005 by UncleLou
	Does It Get Any Better??? (Preview) You know when I first met my husband over three years ago I can remember a time I couldn't wait to get home to him. I wanted to spend every waking hour with him. It's not like that anymore and I feel such guilt. I love my husband but so much has happened and I'm still harboring some resentment...	JulieLynn	7	454	Nov 10, 2005 by ODAT
	Commandments for calm living (Preview) Hi Everyone, When alcoholism affects our lives, it is very difficult to stay calm, so I thought I would share this. I know for myself I need to fear less and not worry about the future. Commandments for calm living: Thou shalt not worry, for worry is the most unproductive of all huma...	Diane43	6	917	Nov 10, 2005 by Kim
	I'm Not Alright (Preview) I am so very mixed up or something. since my friend Donna died, I can't get with the program, I can't sit still, I can't stay in a meeting for the full time, I'm bored, I'm fidgeting, I'm restless. I think why her? why not me? I am just about to EXPLODE!!!! I can't get the feelings out, no one will listen and ca...	jonibaloni21	10	920	Nov 10, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	God said, No. (Preview) Just received this in an email from another friend in recovery...you may enjoy it too. I asked God to take away my habit. God said, No. It is not for me to take away, but for you to give it up. I asked God to make my handicapped child whole. God said, No. His Spirit is whole, his body is only tempora...	Satori	4	655	Nov 10, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	can you actually be working the steps w/out formally realizing youre doing so? (Preview) Seems alot of my thinking has been step related even though Im not "officially" working the steps. Is it actually a mix? different times doing different steps?	Barbara	7	866	Nov 10, 2005 by Jeannie
	so he didn't go to rehab... (Preview) So, this morning I try to call him about driving him to rehab...I was home waiting...although I am sick as well with a viral thing and was out from work yesterday so i was home but had to go in for a meeting today after 12...He didn't answer the phone and of course I thought the worst. 10 minutes later I get a c...	Kim	4	797	Nov 10, 2005 by Jeannie
	a way to let go of the past (Preview) last night i looked over my diary from over the past two years. the only stuff i ever wrote in it was all the lousy stuff my a did to me and how lousy i felt and how my life was so wrong. the thoughts of when i was suicidal. basically the whole thing was written about my a and how i let everything he ever did make me...	notsonew1111	4	453	Nov 10, 2005 by sunny1
	Growing PAINS (Preview) I have some growing pains going on inside me. My sponsor who I love to death is helping me but it is hard to do. I am going to do what she asks me because I want to get better. Like writing done all my obessives thought. I am planning on getting a notebook because I have alot of obessive thoughts. Writing down e...	nycbt	2	494	Nov 10, 2005 by nmike
	dont wait (Preview)	notsonew1111	1	360	Nov 10, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Gossip and Backstabbing- Yes, this means U (Preview) The drama of other people's problems can be very distracting, but in Al-Anon we discover that the problem does not lie solely within another person, the problem lies within us. The behavior of a friend, spouse, child, sibling, parent may have led us to alanon but we soon realize that o...	^Lucy	12	981	Nov 10, 2005 by ^Lucy
	I need some input (Preview) In previous post I talked about leaving my husband and being gone for 6weeks. I have since returned. While cleaning the house I came across a receipt for oxycodone written to a lady I believe works with my husband in our bedroom. There was also a message on our answering machine that my hus...	JulieLynn	10	498	Nov 10, 2005 by cidboy
	the dog.... (Preview) good morning all, okay so heres the deal, I can not let this one go.... yesterday I posted about the dog, Im going to a retret this weekend and my bf was having issues about where the dog is going. thx to all your comments I have decided to give him to my brother and wife, who are real dog lovers, th...	sunny1	6	412	Nov 10, 2005 by Diva
	belonging and connecting....what do YOU guys think??? (Preview) Belonging And Connecting We have powerful desires to belong and to connect with a special someone. We inherited a model for marriage and relationships that has remained largely unchanged for over 50 years. That traditional model was never intended to integrate our individual needs with th...	rosie light shines	3	517	Nov 10, 2005 by notsonew1111
	damn it!! i DO belong (Preview) A SENSE OF BELONGING Perhaps one of the greatest rewards of meditation and prayer is the sense of belonging that comes to us. TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 105 That's what it is -- belonging! After a session of meditation I knew that the feeling I was experiencing was a sense of belonging b...	rosie light shines	1	626	Nov 10, 2005 by kitty
	anyone on here from Massachusetts? (Preview) central MA?	Barbara	3	513	Nov 10, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Anger has got a hold on me (Preview) I'm having a hard time since he didn't go to rehab. I'm sick to my stomach. I didn't think it would be affecting me this way. I'm angry at him, the insurance companies and a variety of others....but mostly I am angry at myself. I am obsessing again....worried about about every little thing he does. I feel...	Kim	5	699	Nov 10, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Take what you like, and leave the rest (Preview) This is an important part of the suggested closing in alanon. *"Take what you like, and leave the rest"* Many people in recovery, weather it be Alanon, or AA, or any program, are coming from a terrible place, a place where we all were once ourselves. It is hard to break some of the nasty di...	captcodee	4	1783	Nov 10, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Tired and have the blahs (Preview) Things are going o.k. I'm just not in a good mood this week. My a hasn't gone to meetings this week because he is very busy with work. I understand this, but I am still frustrateda and scared, because when he doesn't go that gets his stinkin' thinkin' going again. He gets grouc...	hudsond	4	389	Nov 10, 2005 by hudsond
	BOY, i am really showing you all my heart!!! would love ESH (Preview) Beliefs about Money I was starting a new job for a corporation. I was good at what I did for a living. The personnel manager and I were down to the details of employment, and he asked me how much money I believed I deserved. I thought about it and came up with a figure of $400 a month. This was back in the...	rosie light shines	1	604	Nov 10, 2005 by kitty
	Friday,11/11 OP Needed for AM Meeting (Preview) Hello - I will be unable to do this Friday's AM meeting. I am posting this as a friendly reminder and a "Thank You" to whoever takes over Have a Great Day, Wishes, Tea2	tea2	0	333	Nov 10, 2005 by tea2
	this sux (Preview) I have to go to therapy right now............grrrr i fuckin hate therapy..its boring and my therapist is a bitch..she bitched that I go to alanon..and not alateen..I said well at least I am going somewhere to help me....I told her I wanted a new therapist,and shes like why..I said just becau...	Lauren ashley	11	682	Nov 10, 2005 by Christy
	question to all who have stayed (Preview) i just read a bunch of replies to someones post about what life was like living with an active a. many people said that they live separate lives from their a and are happy. so my question is are all of you just existing in a relationship? or are your need actually being fullfilled? is there still intimacy?...	notsonew1111	12	857	Nov 10, 2005 by nycbt
	If I had one wish (Preview) Hi all, Everytime someone is asked about what one thing they would like to change in the world, most people answer "World Peace". That is all well and good, but I would say "a cure for alcoholism/addiction". A belief I have is that curing that would have a domino affect and many issues we have would go a...	Dolphin123	4	667	Nov 10, 2005 by nycbt
	i know we probaly know this already but may be it could help (Preview) Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (Alcohol Dependence) by Debra Wood, RNDefinition Alcohol abuse is a disease that involves desire for alcohol and continuing to drink even when faced with alcohol-related job, legal, social, health, or family problems. Alcohol abuse can progress to alcoholism...	chrissy	2	668	Nov 10, 2005 by chrissy
	quick ????? (Preview) Hi all, I have a quesiton. I read alot about gob bag or god box. What is it how do you use it? I don't let go enough wondering if this would help me. Thanks Nikkilou.	nikkilou	3	615	Nov 10, 2005 by abbyal
	THIS IS THE HARD TIME (Preview) This is when it is the hardest time is when he is so sweet. You think to yourself wow this is going to be a good day. He doesn't seem to be getting into trouble today. So you let your guard down and then there you go you are in the same mess again.	nycbt	4	631	Nov 10, 2005 by sunny1
	accepting love...HEALTHY love!!! (Preview) Accepting Love Many of us have worked too hard to make relationships work; sometimes those relationships didn't have a chance because the other person was unavailable or refused to participate.To compensate for the other person's unavailability, we worked too hard. We may have done all or mo...	rosie light shines	1	394	Nov 10, 2005 by kitty
	I am back to HATRED, god help me (Preview) Ok, so my 'rents made a truce... the A promised to disclose where & when he was going, to be discreet - she told him to do wtvr he wanted. Last night he was still saying, promising everything, not be lying or drinking. But my mom has friends that are his associates that have already sd otherwi...	kitty	11	597	Nov 10, 2005 by rosie light shines
	wedding anniversary/feeling low (Preview) Today is my anniversary. 14 years married. It will, if all goes according to plan, be the last anniversay of my marriage in which I am married to my husband. I feel sad, lonely and tired. i will not call him. After the dirt throwing Sunday morning he has called several times, I don't answer and he...	megan	16	912	Nov 10, 2005 by nmike
	was having trouble facing the fact that what I thought should be As bottom wasnt his bottom (Preview) and I think I just realized what I was doing - which is what got me here in the first place. DH lost a kidney beginning of August. Doc found a large cancer lump so they removed it. DS & I went to FL shortly after Husbands operation (day before he was released - this was ok w/all). A few wks after we return...	Barbara	5	702	Nov 9, 2005 by nikkilou
	re my god bag the power of hp (Preview) hi guys it me again ,i got a phone call from the woman i am going to be watching her son she said she wouldn't need me until next month because the girl she had didnt know when she was leaving. so i said ok just let me know don't worry i will still do it. i hung up and i was so depressed . i wrote anothe...	chrissy	6	395	Nov 9, 2005 by nikkilou
	How does one accomplish this?? part 2 (Preview) So the A. asks me if we can "talk". Something he hardly ever does. We go into a closed room and he asks me "You're planning on leaving, right?" My response...."One of us will be leaving". He's not happy (which I didn't expect him to be). He tells me how now is the time that...	sg	4	470	Nov 9, 2005 by canadianguy
	Progress for me (Preview) Hello all, Funny thing, I realized my own progress lastnight and today. I have been having a situation with my boyfriend. He works away 21 days then is home for 7. We do not live together and have only been in a relationship for 10ms. When I met him I was scard to death of do...	sunny1	7	501	Nov 9, 2005 by notsonew1111
	celebrating my 48th bday w/out my A husband (Preview) taking son away this wknd to a hotel w/indoor wavepool - will have my 1st massage while there. Learning not to wait for others to help me celebrate. Will return Sun (after I take son to my birthday lunch) and ask A to take his A friend home. That boundary I will ask for as its "my special day"	Barbara	8	709	Nov 9, 2005 by chrissy
	ME (Preview) I am upset about what happen last night. I had to take away a car key which was the easy part part. Not giving it back is going to be a hard part. I have to stand my ground. I always give to him. This is going to be hard for me.	nycbt	3	484	Nov 9, 2005 by Kim
	Detachment? (Preview) I am coming to terms with my alcoholic fiance and have recently learned about detachment through local Al-Anon meetings and Al-Anon literature. The point (in my mind) of having a spouse is to have someone in life to share experiences with, someone to love and who will love me in...	sallyb	15	654	Nov 9, 2005 by notsonew1111
	attn diva (Preview) Thank you for your words about my dog, I have added another post if you could read it. Anyone else got comments about my situation, I would be intereseted to hear? Topic....my progress Sunny1	sunny1	1	594	Nov 9, 2005 by Diva
	what would u do? (Preview) Here's the latest pickle I've gotten myself into.... Last week at our marriage counselling session, I agreed to put up with my A smoking pot at his friend's house--as long as he left it there, didn't do it elsewhere,etc. This was our "experiment". I knew that when we left the appointment that he...	gknee	4	586	Nov 9, 2005 by Jeannie
	what a drug....!! (Preview) I know that we are here due to the desiese of A, but this came to me via a friend who's cousin is in jail right now, and the wife is slowly dying. I have researched this terrible drug to be more aware, this poem is a hard reality. Hope you dont mind me sharing it, sorry if it offends anyone. Sunny1:s...	sunny1	4	455	Nov 9, 2005 by nycbt
	LAST NIGHT (Preview) Yesterday I drove home from my parents excited to see Rick. When I got home from work I patiently wanted for him to come home. Didn't call all day. We went to vote. I had no idea who to really vote for but voted. Then around 7:00 he told me that he had to starighten out the mes he made on Sunday and that he would b...	nycbt	4	485	Nov 9, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Feeling some relief (Preview) Thanks to everyone who posted replies to my "Can't Shake this one off" post. It really helped to hear different perspectives. I confronted my "a" with how I was feeling. I simply told him that I could appreciate his fear about losing me because I'm overweight, but I could not toler...	twinmom2	4	357	Nov 9, 2005 by captcodee
	Funny thing happened at my meeting last night (Preview) Hi all, Back in the beginning of October I had to get a new Driver's License and I did that. Well in my area they give you a paper license and then mail you a plastic one about two weeks later. So I got my plastic one about mid-October and took it to work to make a copy for work for the insurance so I can drive a w...	Dolphin123	1	614	Nov 9, 2005 by captcodee
	I am blessed :) (Preview) I am blessed with so many things and it is so wonderful when a person can feel and see these things. These things may not be easy now for me with my mom and dad's failing health but I see the blessings in it and am embracing them now. Alzheimer's is still an awful horrible disease and for me espe...	cdb	4	714	Nov 9, 2005 by Emmie11
	What a cool board this is.... (Preview) And I think EVERYONE associated with it should accept a well deserved hug and pat on the back... I find it quite amazing, to see the love and caring of so many people here - reaching out to those in need, even ignoring or looking past their anger and words - and recognizing it for what it is.... The...	canadianguy	6	499	Nov 9, 2005 by Barbara
	WHY SO HARD (Preview) I meet my husband six yrs ago and been married for about 15 months. At that time he was getting out of jail for drug problems. He was doing drugs and drinking. I went through alot of voliet times with him. We would actually physical wrestle on the group, yell scream push each other. My husband is a very verb...	nycbt	2	627	Nov 9, 2005 by Dolphin123
	The Disease Concept (Preview) Dear Friends, I was reminded recently about compassion for the alcoholic. This was something that I knew about but had not put into practice for a while. I had become angry and resentful towards the alcoholics in my life for the damage they had caused me. I was angry at the diseas...	bob6502	6	549	Nov 9, 2005 by Barbara
	Tired of being a fool (Preview) What is wrong with me? Why do I have hopes and dreams and disappointments. I am so sick of this crap. I went out shopping with my ex the a. He had called last Saturday night asking me if I wanted to go shopping with him Monday evening, spend some time together. He called me...	hadit	3	649	Nov 9, 2005 by gknee
	i can choose what kind of me i am gonna have (Preview) Hope for Today - November 9 I grew up affected by someone else's drinking. I seldom knew what was good for me, yet I knew what was best for others and didn't hesitate to tell them. I didn't know what I enjoyed doing for fun, but I could tell you what activities the alcoholic enjoyed. I feared o...	rosie light shines	0	595	Nov 9, 2005 by rosie light shines
	ok guys I need the push - tonights the night (Preview) Thinking of trying my 2nd Al-Anon meeting (this time around). Tonight at 730. Someone please give me the push I need - thanks I went to 1 3wks ago but didnt return.	Barbara	6	742	Nov 9, 2005 by Dolphin123
	a new moment/day (Preview) Each & every day we can change our attitudes, thoughts, actons in a split second. In a moment we can change & we keep moving into the future of new moments where we have a choice to make a change! (from Collective Soul, "in a moment")... "we can wake up & be laughing,...	kitty	2	557	Nov 9, 2005 by Dolphin123
	how do you know whats the alcoholism? whats just being a man? and whats being a jerk? (Preview) How do you know when to blame the alcoholism? Im seeing trails in my husband that would happen in other non-alcoholics too. How do you know whats the alcoholism? whats "being a man"? and whats just being a plain ole jerk?	Barbara	10	761	Nov 9, 2005 by kitty
	great website (Preview) another great website is www.gettingthemsober.com	healing today	1	445	Nov 9, 2005 by chrissy
	anyone ever attend those Al-Anon conventions at hotels? (Preview) just wondering	Barbara	8	2940	Nov 9, 2005 by lin0606
	I just need to think,and stop being vulnerable (Preview) Ok today i went to my moms house..We had a very good time,but she drank the whole time I was there.. I did not like that,but she said it was just wine. I know its not hard liquor,but she does have a problem I want her to realize she is missing out on my entire childhood,and that I won't be a ki...	Lauren ashley	2	407	Nov 9, 2005 by kitty
	Kathy S (Preview) Hey Kathy, I shared about my A and you asked me how I'm doing. I'm doing ok. I really am. Everyday is a tough chore for me. It really is. But to live with an alcoholic and for him to really want to try is also a blessing. Thank you so much for being concerned. We all have problems and some days we think our proble...	Cathy	1	475	Nov 9, 2005 by KathyS
	i am there my cousin sent this to me (Preview) http://www.unityworldhq.org/JDF/IamThere.html ;	chrissy	3	406	Nov 8, 2005 by nikkilou
	TODAY, i can change my stinking thinking (Preview) THOUGHT "There is no place in active life on which thought is negligible." -- T. S. Eliot It is not a crime to think. It is not a sin to have a brain. To think is human. However, so much of my past thinking was destructive and negative. The disease of addiction permeated every aspect of...	rosie light shines	1	651	Nov 8, 2005 by kitty
	Taking Care of Yourself & Consequences (Preview) I always put everyone in my life first. If a friend was having a difficult time, I would neglect my stuff to take care of them. This goes back to my childhood, taking care of my parent's stuff instead of mine. This is self-inflicted abuse. When I got into Alanon and started to take care of me, some of my frie...	kissers	3	596	Nov 8, 2005 by Feather
	pray for the stranger (Preview) I went to a meeting last night where the topic was "pray for the stranger." I got to thinking how to me very often the strangers I pray for are my own family. The people closest to me whom alcohol and drugs have twisted around and turned into people I don't know. This past weekend I sat across the table fro...	hopefortoday	1	605	Nov 8, 2005 by Lauren ashley
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