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I am in a really tough spot right now. I have money in the joint savings account that is from the wedding and he is pressuring me into giving him 2000 dollars. I have said no. Now he wants me to take out a loan and I don't want do that. But he is mental draining me. He is pushing me in a corner of trying to wear me down. He wants me to snap and I am getting to that point. I feel this is going to be an arguement until he destories all the things that I work for or even my sanity. I think this might be a subject that won't die. I need suggestion on how to remain calm and stick to my grounds. When I said no he wants to know why. I am his wife I should do it. He got me really angry yesterday and I started to get angry. But I remve myself and called my sponsor which helped.
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Hey everyone watch me grow. I go thru good & bad times. each day i am getting stronger.
Manipulation! Aren't they so smart. Just keep saying No, walk away, let him know if he asks you a thousand times the answer is no. He will eventually give up, of course my A gets angry first....calls me names or accuses me of being selfish, I just figure that's his opionion and he is entitled to it.
NO MEANS NO!!! You do not agree with his choice and so you do not want to give him the money. End of story. He will be mad, he will want to fight, but think of him throughing you a hot patato, would you catch it, probably not. so dont catch the S*** he is tossing to you. Do not take any thing he says to you personally, it is his issue not yours. Wife or no wife. You are an individual. dont let him bully you. you are doing great my friend. Stand strong, I will continue to pray for you.
I willl be away from the comp now till sunday night, so keep posting and hang in there. I look forward to chatting with you soon.
I think you are doing what you think is best, so I think that is wise.
I know from personal experience that once you step in between what an "A" wants and his/her getting that, the "A" can be relentless until he/she gets it.
Stay strong, your husband is doing what "As" do best.
Much Love,
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"Today's problems can not be solved if we still think the way we did when we created them" -Albert Einstein
