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Kim


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Sat night and I ain't got nobody


Well, my friend cancelled tonight so another night alone. I'm a little disappointed and restless.  There really isn't anything else for me to do, so I guess it's just me and the dog again. It's kinda depressing.  I am trying really hard to keep on track. Focus on myself, not give in to things. I made a little bit of money at the yard sale today, I'll do something special with it. Tomorrow I'm going to take care of my yard, got the leaf blower from my dad and I'll do it myself. The weekend nights are hard though.  This morning I noticed that my A had called last night at 12:04 am. I was fast asleep. Talked to him today and asked why did you call? He couldn't sleep. Geez.  Thanks. As I try to keep focused, keep being OK with being by myself, not giving in to calling him...he just has to override everything. I know he was calling to "check" on me. See if I was home.  It just irritates me to no end. But, tonight again, I will not feel sorry for myself that I am home alone on a Sat night. I'll relax with the dog and rest up for tomorrow's activities. I'm lonely,  but hopefully with time things will change.



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Read your title where you said


Saturday night and I ain't got nobody


and what came to my mine was redoing the second line


Except for my friends her in alanon.


Come join the online meeting for some fellowship and maybe you'll get lucky and hear what you need to hear tonight !  Happens for me alot.


Bob



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Bob said it :)


We usually chat with each other, take in a meeting online, and get a lot of laughs from each other.  It's pretty comforting to me also.  Cause I hate going out to bars.


Here's the link if you are interested:


http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html


Welcome to MIP


Maria123



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My friend's ex (A) calls around midnight, 1am, 2am. She asked her therapist why he does that. The therapist said it's because he's a narcissist and it's all about his needs. She almost fell off the chair when she was told this. She has met someone else after working on herself. He is wonderful so far. The time will come when we are ready.


Time to dance!!!!


Another Saturday night and I ain't got nobody
I've got some money 'cause I just got paid
Now, how I wish I had someone to talk to
I'm in an awful way

I got in town a month ago
I seen a lot of girls since then
If I could meet 'em I could get 'em
But as yet I haven't met 'em
That's how I'm in the state I'm in

Oh,
Another Saturday night and I ain't got nobody
I've got some money 'cause I just got paid
Now, how I wish I had someone to talk to
I'm in an awful way


Another fella told me
He had a sister who looked just fine
Instead of bein' my deliv'rance
She had a strange resemblance
To a cat named Frankenstein

Ooh, la,
Another Saturday night and I ain't got nobody
I've got some money 'cause I just got paid
Now, how I wish I had someone to talk to
I'm in an awful way


It's hard on a fella
When he don't know his way around
If I don't find me a honey
To help me spend my money
I'm gonna have to blow this town

Oh, no
Another Saturday night and I ain't got nobody
I've got some money 'cause I just got paid
Now, how I wish I had someone to talk to
I'm in an awful way



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Kim


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Thanks Kissers:


I've been singing it in my head since I wrote that title, but I always get stuck.....lol....now I have a ll the words!



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Kim,

How about Saturaday night and I'm enjoying my solitude. There is no harder lesson than lonliness. There is however great strength in solitude. Once you learn the difference you will feel much differently. Nobody likes being lonely. But being alone can be a blessing in disguise. I work retail, and this time of year I relish my down time. It's a time to regroup, and relax. You'll get to that point. Just hang in there. You're doing just fine.

Live strong,
Karilynn

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Kim


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I am trying. It's not easy....but hopefully I'll get there. It's a matter of being comfortable in my own skin sometimes. It's funny, my A would always say that about himself that that's why he got high sometimes..and since the A is my drug of choice, I have been no different. However, I am working on me now....I am determined to work at finding things that I like, that help me and that make me feel good about myself. I've decided that this week is me week. I have set some goals, put them on the refrigerator this way I see them everyday. I have broken them down so they are not overwhelming and unattainable. Mostly they will keep me focused on me. So sat night was planning night. No to sound too Scarlett, but tomorrow is another day.

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Hi Kim,


I just came back to an empty house. My A moved out in June. I have spent many Saturday nights alone. I live in a rural area and everyone is gone for the weekend. I was soooo lonely at first. I figured that I needed a strategy if this was the way it was going to be. I just let the dogs in. I treat myself really good. I call a friend, find a good book, plan a neat meal for myself. I know that it will only be one night and that things will pick up on Sunday when everyone returns.


We are not alone and we always have our higher power to look over us. We have each other in Alanon. And sometimes we have to just embrace our loneliness. This too shall pass.


In support,


Nancy


PS I just added a kitten to the collection.



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