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Who am I to judge other people? Have I proved by my great success in life that I know all the answers? Exactly the opposite. Until I came into A.A., my life could be called a failure. I made all the mistakes one could make. I took all the wrong roads there were to take. On the basis of my record, am I a fit person to be a judge of other people? Hardly. In A.A. I have learned not to judge people. I am so often wrong. Let the results of what they do judge them. It's not up to me. Am I less harsh in my judgment of people?
#####ROSIE....oh yeah, i did judge others....like who am i to judge ANYone???? but i did....that part of me is really decreasing...the judging others part.......and yes, until AA/ alanon/ coda/ acoa (i am 4 time 12Stepper), my life WAS a failure....i was belly up when i came here....i had given up, but not the good STEP 1 way, i had given up hope....i had despaired.....instead of having the first 3 steps to *give up/in/over to* i was going for another suicide attempt..and i think this one would have worked...i had it WELL planned...but a little guy who would be my first sponser, got me into recovery........my life was a total disaster...oh i *looked good* on the outside, but inside??? i was a disaster.....i made SO many bad choices, due to my mental and emotional disabilities....i don't know how i made it this far....... so am i fit to judge others????? no!!! even people who attack me, i just set boundary and distance myself...i don't judge them as being *this or that*....i let it go......*live and let live*.....THAT much i have learned in recovery..........i let people make their own karma.....if they have done wrong, let them work out their consequences themselves....it is NOT my inventory, NOT my karma.........i have really progressed in this area...i used to judge EVERYONE!!!!! now???? i mind my own business...and if their business interfers with mine in a negative way??? i use my gift of BOUNDARIES!!!!!!!
Meditation of the Day
In our time of meditation, we again seem to hear: "Come unto me, all ye that are weary and heavy laden, and I will give you rest." Again and again we seem to hear God saying this to us "Come unto me" for the solution of every problem, for the overcoming of every temptation, for the calming of every fear, for all our need, physical, mental, or spiritual, but mostly "come unto me" for the strength we need to live with peace of mind and the power to be useful and effective...........Prayer for the DayI pray that I may go to God today for those things, which I need to help me live. I pray that I may find real peace of mind.
######ROSIE.........last night after the meet, which was pretty cool, i decided to *dump my stuff* onto my hp......my yoke is heavy so i traded it for my hp's yoke........its hard for me to look at any outside diety, so i look within to my *christ within* and even that is dificult at times....my trust issues run DEEEEP!!!! but i am willing to *come unto the creator* for i am weary and i am tired!!!! fighting this has gotten me NO where..........pushing too hard on my recovery , thinking i have to PUSH to get results...trying to *force* the issue (recovering) instead of just doing my work....letting go and letting God, is wearing me out.....i have cut down on the number of "boards" i post on......i have cut down on forsaking me to help others....i have to meet my needs/ take care of me first....than reach out as i have the ability to do.....but i had an awakening last night talking to my sponser, and listening at the meet.....that i am NOT alone....there IS help....i DON"T have to push this recovery business.....DO my work....TRUST in the process.....and ENJOY the ride......thank you DONE!!!!
Generally I'm not a very judgemental person. I would get frustrated when my a would drive by a house that was in disrepair and say "How can they live like that, they really should fix that".
That could me someday, something could go drastically wrong and my house would fall into disrepair. How can we judge someone for not having the money to fix there house?
But................Maybe this was the mirror who's reflection I ignored. I'm very good at judging people that I'm not close to, but once your in my emotional comfort zone I can become critical and judgemental. Some of that is from built up, undealt with resentments, others is the pompous attitude that my was was right.
Maybe if I treat those closest to me that I treat farthest from me, my life would be improved.
Thanks for making me think.
Bob
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You are a perfect child of God and God and I love you just the way you are! (added by me...in that special alanon way)
