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notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well my a told me today he will probably have a drink well he is out, even though a week ago he went to an addictions counsellor and made the desicion to quit drinking? huh? i know i cant make him drink. i know im not the cause of it and i cant control it but im not willing to live with this desease in my life anymo...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Hi everyone, I am just trying to gain some perspective on why I'm this way. When I was young, my heart's desire was to be an artist. My dysfunctional family poo-pooed this , as , they put it, you can't make a living as an artist. So I gradually stopped doing any art as I tended to life's ongoing journey, ma...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

this morning i had a plan set out for today, to get things organized around here and watch some movies with my a. later he would watch the big football game. he said a couple of weeks ago an old friend of his that he cut off from his life, his parents invited my a over to watch the game. they are too alcoholics....

Rebecca · Rebecca

hi guys, i went to a family day at the rehab centre last sunday where my ex-boyf. is currently in his 5th week of treatment. i really shouldn't have gone because i was totally emotionally unstable by the time i left. some people might say i should have been signed in there myself. i had to sit in a room ful...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I did not do very well yesterday. The day started out well. I had done most of the prep work for dinner the night before. Joey wasn't going to the game, so I could cook the turkey in the morning. I had asked my husband if he could come here at noon, since he is coming to dinner, as Joey had to leave and I am afra...

flumpy · flumpy

Dear John a.k.a OP_Present, Why am I getting these e-mails from you? I have replied to some posts here. I will only reply or post if it is of interest to myself, or something that is close to my heart. As I asked the other day, I am not entierly sure as to how you got my e-mail address but......

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

bad news all. i didnt succeed in quitting smoking. but i will keep on trying. my goal is to quit before christmas. i think it was so spontaneous i wasnt ready. i really hope i can get there and just do it. i really hate smoking. so good luck to me and to all of you who are taking the step to quit as well. and ty to t...

sandie123 · sandie123

I got this today and thought it might hit others as it hit me: The Concert When the house lights dimmed and the concert was about to begin, the mother returned to her seat and discovered that the child was missing. Suddenly, the curtains parted and spotlights focused on the impr...

NightWatcher · NightWatcher

Sorry to do this all .. but due to some changes in my life... I will not be able to chair the Saturday night meetings....... I would still like to help out... are either the morning or evening on Sunday in need of someone to chair..... Please contact me and let me know

sg · sg

I detched quite awhile ago from my A., started living my life and making decisions for the best of me and the kids. Got to the point, after trying everything else in life for 3 yrs, to ask him to leave. I was happy and content w/the decision to spend time apart and work on healing/recovery for me and the kids...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I have a friend I work with who is a Born Again Christian. We worked together at the beach all summer and had many discussions about the Bible, Alanon, our children our HP's as we each knew them and our alcoholic husbands. She is divorced from hers, but he is still her childrens father. She had asked me t...

Barbara · Barbara

A husband finally told his A friend that he cant pickup/bring him home every week couple times a week. Husband just twice sank money into his car for repairs. I had been warning him that this would happen for the past few months but he needed to find out on his own. Normally I would have paid these bills off...

marmare · marmare

Hi to all, and a belated Thanksgiving Wish... We all had such an enjoyable day yesterday. My A has 18 sober days! This is the first holiday since I can't remember when that he was sober. He actually ran to the store twice before 11am yesterday for me. LOL My mom had a...

hadit · hadit

Hi everyone, I have been writing here to let everyone know what is going on with my a. As I posted yesterday, he has been giving me a hard time on the phone leaving nasty messages and voicemails. Everytime he calls, I don't answer. Messages are basically all the same: accusing, blaming,...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Giving up is not giving in, nor is it failing. It is no longer needing to be right. --Anonymous When someone tells us a riddle, we may give up if we don't know the answer. We give up because we are tired of trying to get it, or because we are eager to find out what it is. Giving up in other situations, may be...

FreeOfTheBottle · FreeOfTheBottle

Hey there, ya'll. Got this in an email tonight and it really gave me something to think about. It reminded me to quit dwelling on the A being in jail, to quit dwelling on the fact that he wrecked my car and as of Monday I will have no vehicle (insurance company totaled it and are comin...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

I am alone I sit in a room full of people, and still I stare at the wall I have no close friends…all are acquaintances I am scared to trust, for my heart will not survive another hurt I am alone,for nobody understands me They see me as content, full of life, and soo vibrant I am not like...

New Member · Joann54

Hello Everyone, I wanted to share my story with you. I am just starting to realize that I need some support.. I can't deal with my "A" alone anymore. Came here for some guidance on how to start caring for myself. I have been with him for 8 yrs. Some days are wonderful. He is my best f...

new member · Michele

Hello everyone. I signed up here a few weeks ago, but so far I've just been "lurking." I got an email today from someone who asked me to participate. Guess it's time. I've been going to meetings here since June. I cried like a baby at the first meeting and completely embarassed myself, but found so mu...

Barbara · Barbara

Well I finally have a smile on my face today and its all because of chocolate cake! lol Another friend of my husbands just showed up and he brought chocolate cake! yummmmmmmmmmmmmmm Happy Thanksgiving everyone

Barbara · Barbara

Besides having tags for children, our Church is giving us the option to buy for recovering addicts. What would you put in a woman's Christmas present bag?

bobump · bobump

Well we all show up at the church and the door is locked so we head down to the local diner. One our groups spouse was there as he had the day off Friday. He looks down at the diner placemat. Blessing's Auto Service......antique and new cars, towing and recovery, 24hr service with a day and ni...

wille · wille

Hello 2 all, My favorite song is playing - it is calling all angels .My ex brings it to my awareness - those a-s lol he got busted dui - I already told him to walk. To walk was our negotiated when we were out drinking. I was home - he wanted his turn and due to this wonderful space (alanon) I knew to...

New member · jenna

Hi everyone. I'm new to this...I've recently come to terms with the fact that I'm an adult child of alcoholics and unfortunately there is no alanon meetings in my community. So, it's a HUGE relief to find a place to go to share...even if it's online

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Keep It Simple It’s going to be a long hard drag, but we’ll make it. ---Janis Jopin Some people start each day with a groan. They act like staying sober is no fun at all. They may have turned over their illness to their Higher Power. But they haven’t yet turned over their will and their life. They don’t se...

sandy · sandy

Hi , Well, here I am again all distraught and upset. I went for my yearly checkup with the doctor and got a bad report. He said my CA levels were up. Now I've been going for test after test looking for cancer. Of course some of them takes weeks to get in. So far they have...

megan · megan

I attended my first alkathon on Thanksgiving evening with my friend. There was alanon participation. Unfortunately by the time we got there alanon was over and it was just AA. (My brother who did dinner had a broken oven and the turkey was done late) So we stayed for the AA meetings. T...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, I called my sponser tonight, and went and met her for coffee. I don't get to see her as often as I like. Seems I am always running. I told her I would make time during the Holidays to talk with her and she reminded me that I needed to care for me. She said I look tired and frazzled. I brought her up to spee...

Cyn · Cyn

Hi, I cant tell you if you should or shouldnt leave your A but I do know what a little bit of time dealing with mine has done to me over the past two months. About writing him a letter - after reading many of these posts on this site - I agree with alot that is said. The drug is what is controlling...

kitty · kitty

So they say, what's good for the goose is good the for the gander (did I sp that correctly?) I have seen my therapist 3 times - & I went to the lawyer's ofc w/ my mother. They both basically said the same thing... my therapist (wonderful Sicilian woman) sd, "don't throw pearls among...

leo · leo

Hi guys need a bit of strength here yesterday my A came home from work asked for a lift to the shops and to me looked like he had been drinking. I was on my way out and told him that I would drop him off but he needed to remember that I had told him I would not be running him around(he has no licence). He said...

chrissy · chrissy

hi everyone i want to thank you all for all your love and support you are so wonderful you are great friends! i have so much to be thankful for:) i have my family & my friends. i have my family back . my husband is doing great my daughter is back to calling him d...

michimoon · michimoon

hi everyone i have posted before back in august and wouldn't you know it my pc crashed the next day. since then i have a new lease on life. i read so many of your postings and i have to tell you..roller coasters..highs..lows..there is so many out there going through what i go through everyday, that...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I have barely been home a day and when my mom and dad picked me up at the bus station my mom was drunk!

Tonight my mom and dad are drunk and my grandfather is drinking heavily and the situation of him getting back to the hotel may be hellish like last year, which resulted in me b...

TLC2 · TLC2

For the first time in more years than I can remember, I have been getting excited about the coming season, even with the wondering... Just shoved it aside, and went on with my preperations. My daughter and family are coming home, I've even started writing cards.( I haven't done that in a lonnngggg time...

John · John

Turn your speakers on and check me out.. doin' da Al-Anon Wiggle for ya's! John Doin' Da Al-Anon Wiggle for All is friends!

Robinks · Robinks

Just wanted you to know that I love you and support you always. I hope you are doing better soon, it is ok to feel sad. RobinKS

sg · sg

This morning my A. and I sat down and talked. He said he didn't know where he was going to go (since I asked him to leave). We talked about how it isn't necessarily a relapse in drinking that concerns me, it is his attitude and how he treats me and the kids-esp. the 15 yr old. The daughter had to go to baske...

hadit · hadit

Last week he tells me he wants to stop drinking, etc. Not that I totally believed it but theres always that glimmer of hope some of us still hold on to. Yesterday, I spent the day at my daughters for Thanksgiving and had a great time with family and friends. He was not there. As I am leaving my daughters, he c...

Rod A 49 · Rod A 49

Hi All, well, I had a chance to put some Al-anon to the test over the holiday. My roomate and "A" with his incredible timing decided to go on a binge Wednesday evening and he didn't come home. We were supposed to spend the Thanksgiving holiday with his sister. I've only met her...

Diva · Diva

Thanksgiving Day already. Where did the year go???? I hope each of you has made a forward step or two in your recovery program this year. And now that we are at the beginning of the holiday season, I wish each of you a Merry Christmas, Happy Channukah, Delightful Kwanzaa..whatever suits your fancy to ce...

kitty · kitty

This morning my mother out of the blue, picked up a book that has been in her bathroom for nearly 8 months or more cd: Beyond the Influence, Understanding & Defeatting Alcoholism by Katherine Ketcham & Wm. F. Asbury. I have always told her about a "trick" I use with books, as I collect r...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Don't know if anyone remembers the "Potato Chip Dance" story that went around as a forward, but I found it tonight on this website. Good one to read when you are so damn frustrated/mad and do not know what to do. www.dodgenet.com/~tzingale/occaison/frame.htm

(May...

chrissy · chrissy

i had a great day!! my daughter wasn't well enough to go to the parade. it was so cold, so we watched it on tv. but we went to our friends house in the city for dinner. it was very nice. there was wine & beer there which i was shocked because my friend is a recovering a too...

Mars · Mars

bless my partner , he got up and out of bed earliy [ well for him ] to come and view a dead wale that was on the beach near our home . i am so pleased he did this . one because my son and i really really wanted to see it , and i want to build memories that are not to do with booze in any way . also ther was a chance he would b...

liliana · liliana

hi my name is Lil. I am new to the boards. I am not new to Al-anon though. I have gone to meetings since 1996. I stopped going about 3 1/2 years ago because it got alittle too gossipy for me. My husband was active in AA at the time and we split up for about 5 months and there was alot of...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hello everyone, Happy Thanksgiving to my family here. I am greatful for all the love and support you have shown me. Right now my family is snoozing, kitty included. I just got up from a nap. This has been the most blessed, and wondrful day. My A is sober, and he was bouncing around the house this m...

Kim · Kim

I am on a rollercoaster of emotions....I had called a few times. He called back a few times. I had his phone still.....I guess it was my way of controlling him for one last moment. He called for it....I wanted to throw it in the trash as it was the symbol of the betrayal in my eyes. I nstead I drove it to him and...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Roomies, I grew up in an alcoholic home. We had a lot of 12-step/self-help literature around and I read a lot with an eye towards how we could solve our family problems. Quite frequently, I would come up with what I considered a *brilliant* solution to a problem and then be heartbroken when noone else...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

THANKS to all of you who were nice to write me in my time of need......here is the update...it was perfect for this AA thought for today........ A.A. Thought for the Day I no longer refuse to do anything because I cannot do it to perfection. Many of us alcoholics use the excuse of no...

captcodee · captcodee

The alcoholic/addict in my life didn't come home last night. He was too drunk to hit the train. The old me would have hopped in the car at 11:30 at night and gone across the city to get him, fuming and resentful all the way. I would have had a fight with a drunk on the phone, trying to MAKE him f...

twopoodles · twopoodles

Hi everyone, this is my first post and I wanted to post in the form of a dear john letter, I have recently broken up with my partner, who is addicted to narcotics and I am in alot of pain and confused. I hope you don't mind my post. Please bear with me. Dear John, Right now I am feeling very sad, an...

mamareich · mamareich

hi. i just wanted to share this. i have recently gone back to step one and began again after a year and a half. i thought i would start with being honest with myself. so here goes........ Alone. I am sick to God damn death of being alone. I am always alone. Here with you or in a crowded place or on a freew...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i am finally doing the best thing that i could ever do for myself. tonight im having my last cigarette. (i hope) ive never quit before so i hope im one of the lucky ones that only has to do it once. im going on the patch and will wean off that when i am ready. this is a huge step for me. before i never cared to quit b...

sunny1 · sunny1

Good Evening all, It was 2 weeks ago now and I was off to what I thought would be a retreat weekend, Well was I surprised to find out that it was a self awarness course. The course has 4 Steps. That was step 1. Now this weekend is step 2. I think I was able to receive the me...

sallyb · sallyb

Last night we were at home. My a got up and prepared to leave the house at 11:00 p.m. He said he was going to get a beer, did I want anything? Hmm. Um.... no. I didn't want anything. I thanked him for telling me the truth about why he was leaving and to...

whitie · whitie

I'm truly counting my blessings this Thanksgiving. Number 1 on my list is Ala-non and all the supportive people I've come across in the program. Number 2 is the relationship I've built with my HP (thanks to Ala-non). Number 3 are two very close friends that have seen me at my worst over the last couple...

sunny1 · sunny1

Have a great Thanksgiving my fellow friends.... I live in Canada but in honor of all of you, I will remeber to be thankful today aswell. Every single person deserves peace and harmoney. Enjoy your dinners... Love Sunny1

Kim · Kim

Just came back from a crying jag with my therapist. I have reached the inner circle of hell in the past two days...not sleeping, not eating just meandering through a thousand thoughts of "WHY". There is an answer. He is an addict. There is another answer. Because I am co-dependent...

Jeannie · Jeannie

(((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))) Of all the things in my life I am grateful for, at the top of the list is all of you. I wish you all a wonderful thanksgiving. Hopefully a day of peace, goodtimes, family and friends. No matter what tomorrow brings any of us, Friday is another day. ...

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	no progress (Preview) well my a told me today he will probably have a drink well he is out, even though a week ago he went to an addictions counsellor and made the desicion to quit drinking? huh? i know i cant make him drink. i know im not the cause of it and i cant control it but im not willing to live with this desease in my life anymo...	notsonew1111	1	424	Nov 27, 2005 by twopoodles
	How do I"paint" over the tapes? (Preview) Hi everyone, I am just trying to gain some perspective on why I'm this way. When I was young, my heart's desire was to be an artist. My dysfunctional family poo-pooed this , as , they put it, you can't make a living as an artist. So I gradually stopped doing any art as I tended to life's ongoing journey, ma...	jonibaloni21	6	486	Nov 27, 2005 by Jeannie
	im so mad (Preview) this morning i had a plan set out for today, to get things organized around here and watch some movies with my a. later he would watch the big football game. he said a couple of weeks ago an old friend of his that he cut off from his life, his parents invited my a over to watch the game. they are too alcoholics....	notsonew1111	2	552	Nov 27, 2005 by cdb
	Sudden Realization (Preview) hi guys, i went to a family day at the rehab centre last sunday where my ex-boyf. is currently in his 5th week of treatment. i really shouldn't have gone because i was totally emotionally unstable by the time i left. some people might say i should have been signed in there myself. i had to sit in a room ful...	Rebecca	17	578	Nov 27, 2005 by Rebecca
	I didn't do so well, (Preview) I did not do very well yesterday. The day started out well. I had done most of the prep work for dinner the night before. Joey wasn't going to the game, so I could cook the turkey in the morning. I had asked my husband if he could come here at noon, since he is coming to dinner, as Joey had to leave and I am afra...	Jeannie	10	691	Nov 27, 2005 by Jill
	taking part (Preview) Dear John a.k.a OP_Present, Why am I getting these e-mails from you? I have replied to some posts here. I will only reply or post if it is of interest to myself, or something that is close to my heart. As I asked the other day, I am not entierly sure as to how you got my e-mail address but......	flumpy	5	374	Nov 27, 2005 by Barbara
	poo poo on me (Preview) bad news all. i didnt succeed in quitting smoking. but i will keep on trying. my goal is to quit before christmas. i think it was so spontaneous i wasnt ready. i really hope i can get there and just do it. i really hate smoking. so good luck to me and to all of you who are taking the step to quit as well. and ty to t...	notsonew1111	6	582	Nov 27, 2005 by kitty
	Keep On Playing.... (Preview) I got this today and thought it might hit others as it hit me: The Concert When the house lights dimmed and the concert was about to begin, the mother returned to her seat and discovered that the child was missing. Suddenly, the curtains parted and spotlights focused on the impr...	sandie123	3	475	Nov 27, 2005 by tea2
	Chairing (Preview) Sorry to do this all .. but due to some changes in my life... I will not be able to chair the Saturday night meetings....... I would still like to help out... are either the morning or evening on Sunday in need of someone to chair..... Please contact me and let me know	NightWatcher	2	378	Nov 27, 2005 by tea2
	he's happy, I'm not (Preview) I detched quite awhile ago from my A., started living my life and making decisions for the best of me and the kids. Got to the point, after trying everything else in life for 3 yrs, to ask him to leave. I was happy and content w/the decision to spend time apart and work on healing/recovery for me and the kids...	sg	9	784	Nov 27, 2005 by sg
	My HP watching over me (Preview) I have a friend I work with who is a Born Again Christian. We worked together at the beach all summer and had many discussions about the Bible, Alanon, our children our HP's as we each knew them and our alcoholic husbands. She is divorced from hers, but he is still her childrens father. She had asked me t...	Jeannie	3	461	Nov 27, 2005 by bobump
	life is good w/my A (for now) (Preview) A husband finally told his A friend that he cant pickup/bring him home every week couple times a week. Husband just twice sank money into his car for repairs. I had been warning him that this would happen for the past few months but he needed to find out on his own. Normally I would have paid these bills off...	Barbara	3	646	Nov 27, 2005 by bobump
	What a diffent experience (Preview) Hi to all, and a belated Thanksgiving Wish... We all had such an enjoyable day yesterday. My A has 18 sober days! This is the first holiday since I can't remember when that he was sober. He actually ran to the store twice before 11am yesterday for me. LOL My mom had a...	marmare	3	661	Nov 27, 2005 by Karilynn
	He's starting to really scare me (Preview) Hi everyone, I have been writing here to let everyone know what is going on with my a. As I posted yesterday, he has been giving me a hard time on the phone leaving nasty messages and voicemails. Everytime he calls, I don't answer. Messages are basically all the same: accusing, blaming,...	hadit	6	444	Nov 27, 2005 by Karilynn
	giving up is not failure (Preview) *Giving up is not giving in, nor is it failing. It is no longer needing to be right. --Anonymous* When someone tells us a riddle, we may give up if we don't know the answer. We give up because we are tired of trying to get it, or because we are eager to find out what it is. Giving up in other situations, may be...	rosie light shines	2	392	Nov 27, 2005 by megan
	Create This Day (Preview) Hey there, ya'll. Got this in an email tonight and it really gave me something to think about. It reminded me to quit dwelling on the A being in jail, to quit dwelling on the fact that he wrecked my car and as of Monday I will have no vehicle (insurance company totaled it and are comin...	FreeOfTheBottle	5	452	Nov 27, 2005 by megan
	I am afraid...and alone (Preview) I am alone I sit in a room full of people, and still I stare at the wall I have no close friends…all are acquaintances I am scared to trust, for my heart will not survive another hurt I am alone,for nobody understands me They see me as content, full of life, and soo vibrant I am not like...	Lauren ashley	7	521	Nov 27, 2005 by angelinme908
	New Member (Preview) Hello Everyone, I wanted to share my story with you. I am just starting to realize that I need some support.. I can't deal with my "A" alone anymore. Came here for some guidance on how to start caring for myself. I have been with him for 8 yrs. Some days are wonderful. He is my best f...	Joann54	9	388	Nov 27, 2005 by whitie
	new member (Preview) Hello everyone. I signed up here a few weeks ago, but so far I've just been "lurking." I got an email today from someone who asked me to participate. Guess it's time. I've been going to meetings here since June. I cried like a baby at the first meeting and completely embarassed myself, but found so mu...	Michele	6	465	Nov 27, 2005 by marmare
	Thank God for chocolate cake! lol (Preview) Well I finally have a smile on my face today and its all because of chocolate cake! lol Another friend of my husbands just showed up and he brought chocolate cake! yummmmmmmmmmmmmmm Happy Thanksgiving everyone	Barbara	2	561	Nov 26, 2005 by Jeannie
	Christmas giving tree at Church (Preview) Besides having tags for children, our Church is giving us the option to buy for recovering addicts. What would you put in a woman's Christmas present bag?	Barbara	4	478	Nov 26, 2005 by Jeannie
	This made us all laugh at our Friday F2F ... (Preview) Well we all show up at the church and the door is locked so we head down to the local diner. One our groups spouse was there as he had the day off Friday. He looks down at the diner placemat. Blessing's Auto Service......antique and new cars, towing and recovery, 24hr service with a day and ni...	bobump	3	371	Nov 26, 2005 by Jeannie
	spiritual moment (Preview) Hello 2 all, My favorite song is playing - it is calling all angels .My ex brings it to my awareness - those a-s lol he got busted dui - I already told him to walk. To walk was our negotiated when we were out drinking. I was home - he wanted his turn and due to this wonderful space (alanon) I knew to...	wille	3	370	Nov 26, 2005 by Jeannie
	New member (Preview) Hi everyone. I'm new to this...I've recently come to terms with the fact that I'm an adult child of alcoholics and unfortunately there is no alanon meetings in my community. So, it's a HUGE relief to find a place to go to share...even if it's online	jenna	1	335	Nov 26, 2005 by Jeannie
	change IS a long hard drag (Preview) Keep It Simple It’s going to be a long hard drag, but we’ll make it. ---Janis Jopin Some people start each day with a groan. They act like staying sober is no fun at all. They may have turned over their illness to their Higher Power. But they haven’t yet turned over their will and their life. They don’t se...	rosie light shines	0	334	Nov 26, 2005 by rosie light shines
	I can't do this anymore (Preview) Hi , Well, here I am again all distraught and upset. I went for my yearly checkup with the doctor and got a bad report. He said my CA levels were up. Now I've been going for test after test looking for cancer. Of course some of them takes weeks to get in. So far they have...	sandy	9	631	Nov 26, 2005 by KathyS
	Thanksgiving Alkathon (Preview) I attended my first alkathon on Thanksgiving evening with my friend. There was alanon participation. Unfortunately by the time we got there alanon was over and it was just AA. (My brother who did dinner had a broken oven and the turkey was done late) So we stayed for the AA meetings. T...	megan	4	444	Nov 26, 2005 by shimo
	Starting over!!!!!!!!!!! (Preview) Hi, I called my sponser tonight, and went and met her for coffee. I don't get to see her as often as I like. Seems I am always running. I told her I would make time during the Holidays to talk with her and she reminded me that I needed to care for me. She said I look tired and frazzled. I brought her up to spee...	Jeannie	4	516	Nov 26, 2005 by TLC2
	Response to Twopoodles (Preview) Hi, I cant tell you if you should or shouldnt leave your A but I do know what a little bit of time dealing with mine has done to me over the past two months. About writing him a letter - after reading many of these posts on this site - I agree with alot that is said. The drug is what is controlling...	Cyn	2	361	Nov 26, 2005 by Rebecca
	I wear my heart on my sleeve (Preview) So they say, what's good for the goose is good the for the gander (did I sp that correctly?) I have seen my therapist 3 times - & I went to the lawyer's ofc w/ my mother. They both basically said the same thing... my therapist (wonderful Sicilian woman) sd, "don't throw pearls among...	kitty	6	1527	Nov 26, 2005 by WakingUp
	worn out and manipulated (Preview) Hi guys need a bit of strength here yesterday my A came home from work asked for a lift to the shops and to me looked like he had been drinking. I was on my way out and told him that I would drop him off but he needed to remember that I had told him I would not be running him around(he has no licence). He said...	leo	4	454	Nov 26, 2005 by rosie light shines
	happy thanksgiving:) (Preview) hi everyone i want to thank you all for all your love and support you are so wonderful you are great friends! i have so much to be thankful for:) i have my family & my friends. i have my family back . my husband is doing great my daughter is back to calling him d...	chrissy	1	376	Nov 26, 2005 by ESH
	one more time (Preview) hi everyone i have posted before back in august and wouldn't you know it my pc crashed the next day. since then i have a new lease on life. i read so many of your postings and i have to tell you..roller coasters..highs..lows..there is so many out there going through what i go through everyday, that...	michimoon	2	356	Nov 26, 2005 by ESH
	How does one stay calm when surrounded by As? (Preview) I have barely been home a day and when my mom and dad picked me up at the bus station my mom was drunk! Tonight my mom and dad are drunk and my grandfather is drinking heavily and the situation of him getting back to the hotel may be hellish like last year, which resulted in me b...	Lanchas	8	641	Nov 26, 2005 by Lanchas
	As I was sitting on my pitty pot today... (Preview) For the first time in more years than I can remember, I have been getting excited about the coming season, even with the wondering... Just shoved it aside, and went on with my preperations. My daughter and family are coming home, I've even started writing cards.( I haven't done that in a lonnngggg time...	TLC2	2	498	Nov 26, 2005 by Barbara
	John's Al-Anon Wiggle (Preview) Turn your speakers on and check me out.. doin' da Al-Anon Wiggle for ya's! John Doin' Da Al-Anon Wiggle for All is friends!	John	7	507	Nov 26, 2005 by Dolphin123
	TiredTonight (Preview) Just wanted you to know that I love you and support you always. I hope you are doing better soon, it is ok to feel sad. RobinKS	Robinks	0	532	Nov 25, 2005 by tiredtonite
	ask mom (Preview) This morning my A. and I sat down and talked. He said he didn't know where he was going to go (since I asked him to leave). We talked about how it isn't necessarily a relapse in drinking that concerns me, it is his attitude and how he treats me and the kids-esp. the 15 yr old. The daughter had to go to baske...	sg	4	390	Nov 25, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	Starting To Hate Him More Than The Disease (Preview) Last week he tells me he wants to stop drinking, etc. Not that I totally believed it but theres always that glimmer of hope some of us still hold on to. Yesterday, I spent the day at my daughters for Thanksgiving and had a great time with family and friends. He was not there. As I am leaving my daughters, he c...	hadit	5	724	Nov 25, 2005 by iona54
	Thanksgiving (Preview) Hi All, well, I had a chance to put some Al-anon to the test over the holiday. My roomate and "A" with his incredible timing decided to go on a binge Wednesday evening and he didn't come home. We were supposed to spend the Thanksgiving holiday with his sister. I've only met her...	Rod A 49	4	364	Nov 25, 2005 by kitty
	The holiday season (speaking politically correctly) (Preview) Thanksgiving Day already. Where did the year go???? I hope each of you has made a forward step or two in your recovery program this year. And now that we are at the beginning of the holiday season, I wish each of you a Merry Christmas, Happy Channukah, Delightful Kwanzaa..whatever suits your fancy to ce...	Diva	4	458	Nov 25, 2005 by kitty
	love & acceptance - how to help an A (Preview) This morning my mother out of the blue, picked up a book that has been in her bathroom for nearly 8 months or more cd: Beyond the Influence, Understanding & Defeatting Alcoholism by Katherine Ketcham & Wm. F. Asbury. I have always told her about a "trick" I use with books, as I collect r...	kitty	1	454	Nov 25, 2005 by dori
	"Potato Chip Dance" Story site (Preview) Don't know if anyone remembers the "Potato Chip Dance" story that went around as a forward, but I found it tonight on this website. Good one to read when you are so damn frustrated/mad and do not know what to do. www.dodgenet.com/~tzingale/occaison/frame.htm (May...	wallsal55	3	1193	Nov 25, 2005 by chrissy
	i had a great day! (Preview) i had a great day!! my daughter wasn't well enough to go to the parade. it was so cold, so we watched it on tv. but we went to our friends house in the city for dinner. it was very nice. there was wine & beer there which i was shocked because my friend is a recovering a too...	chrissy	4	518	Nov 25, 2005 by chrissy
	As big as a whale (Preview) bless my partner , he got up and out of bed earliy [ well for him ] to come and view a dead wale that was on the beach near our home . i am so pleased he did this . one because my son and i really really wanted to see it , and i want to build memories that are not to do with booze in any way . also ther was a chance he would b...	Mars	2	502	Nov 25, 2005 by kitty
	my a is in a rage lately (Preview) hi my name is Lil. I am new to the boards. I am not new to Al-anon though. I have gone to meetings since 1996. I stopped going about 3 1/2 years ago because it got alittle too gossipy for me. My husband was active in AA at the time and we split up for about 5 months and there was alot of...	liliana	6	487	Nov 25, 2005 by notsonew1111
	A hopeful Thanksgiving (Preview) Hello everyone, Happy Thanksgiving to my family here. I am greatful for all the love and support you have shown me. Right now my family is snoozing, kitty included. I just got up from a nap. This has been the most blessed, and wondrful day. My A is sober, and he was bouncing around the house this m...	Karilynn	2	596	Nov 25, 2005 by marmare
	trying to let go (Preview) I am on a rollercoaster of emotions....I had called a few times. He called back a few times. I had his phone still.....I guess it was my way of controlling him for one last moment. He called for it....I wanted to throw it in the trash as it was the symbol of the betrayal in my eyes. I nstead I drove it to him and...	Kim	4	504	Nov 25, 2005 by jaja
	Sobriety from Fighting. ES&H Needed. (Preview) Roomies, I grew up in an alcoholic home. We had a lot of 12-step/self-help literature around and I read a lot with an eye towards how we could solve our family problems. Quite frequently, I would come up with what I considered a brilliant solution to a problem and then be heartbroken when noone else...	BlueCloud	3	912	Nov 24, 2005 by nmike
	UPdate on lost doggie (Preview) THANKS to all of you who were nice to write me in my time of need......here is the update...it was perfect for this AA thought for today........ A.A. Thought for the Day I no longer refuse to do anything because I cannot do it to perfection. Many of us alcoholics use the excuse of no...	rosie light shines	2	528	Nov 24, 2005 by Robinks
	I find peace amid the chaos (Preview) The alcoholic/addict in my life didn't come home last night. He was too drunk to hit the train. The old me would have hopped in the car at 11:30 at night and gone across the city to get him, fuming and resentful all the way. I would have had a fight with a drunk on the phone, trying to MAKE him f...	captcodee	3	601	Nov 24, 2005 by bobump
	Dear John (Preview) Hi everyone, this is my first post and I wanted to post in the form of a dear john letter, I have recently broken up with my partner, who is addicted to narcotics and I am in alot of pain and confused. I hope you don't mind my post. Please bear with me. Dear John, Right now I am feeling very sad, an...	twopoodles	5	461	Nov 24, 2005 by twopoodles
	honesty....... (Preview) hi. i just wanted to share this. i have recently gone back to step one and began again after a year and a half. i thought i would start with being honest with myself. so here goes........ Alone. I am sick to God damn death of being alone. I am always alone. Here with you or in a crowded place or on a freew...	mamareich	2	615	Nov 24, 2005 by abbyal
	doing something for me (Preview) i am finally doing the best thing that i could ever do for myself. tonight im having my last cigarette. (i hope) ive never quit before so i hope im one of the lucky ones that only has to do it once. im going on the patch and will wean off that when i am ready. this is a huge step for me. before i never cared to quit b...	notsonew1111	4	646	Nov 24, 2005 by Vermont635a
	step 2 (Preview) Good Evening all, It was 2 weeks ago now and I was off to what I thought would be a retreat weekend, Well was I surprised to find out that it was a self awarness course. The course has 4 Steps. That was step 1. Now this weekend is step 2. I think I was able to receive the me...	sunny1	1	398	Nov 24, 2005 by captcodee
	Getting Easier! (Preview) Last night we were at home. My a got up and prepared to leave the house at 11:00 p.m. He said he was going to get a beer, did I want anything? Hmm. Um.... no. I didn't want anything. I thanked him for telling me the truth about why he was leaving and to...	sallyb	2	496	Nov 24, 2005 by captcodee
	oh so Thankful (Preview) I'm truly counting my blessings this Thanksgiving. Number 1 on my list is Ala-non and all the supportive people I've come across in the program. Number 2 is the relationship I've built with my HP (thanks to Ala-non). Number 3 are two very close friends that have seen me at my worst over the last couple...	whitie	1	599	Nov 24, 2005 by kismetstrand
	US Thanksgiving.... (Preview) Have a great Thanksgiving my fellow friends.... I live in Canada but in honor of all of you, I will remeber to be thankful today aswell. Every single person deserves peace and harmoney. Enjoy your dinners... Love Sunny1	sunny1	2	318	Nov 24, 2005 by browneyes
	Hello all (Preview) Just came back from a crying jag with my therapist. I have reached the inner circle of hell in the past two days...not sleeping, not eating just meandering through a thousand thoughts of "WHY". There is an answer. He is an addict. There is another answer. Because I am co-dependent...	Kim	4	453	Nov 24, 2005 by browneyes
	I wish each and every one of you.... (Preview) (((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))) Of all the things in my life I am grateful for, at the top of the list is all of you. I wish you all a wonderful thanksgiving. Hopefully a day of peace, goodtimes, family and friends. No matter what tomorrow brings any of us, Friday is another day. ...	Jeannie	5	364	Nov 24, 2005 by browneyes
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