Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

browneyes · browneyes

Hey everyone-Happy New Year to you all!! I have been away for a while but thought I would catch up. Today I got a call from my husband saying he is going back to jail for driving under the influence. He has been awake for over five days and has been shooting it, too. So it wasn't really a surpr...

nycbt · nycbt

When I first meet my husband I didn't want to leave his side for any amount of time. I would call him all the time. He would do his stuff drink/drug I thought if I would give him attention that he would stop doing all the nonsense. Well then I went on depression meds some work some didn't I wanted to cha...

krise · krise

My husband has been in recovery for a little over a year now . . . he is an acoholic and addict. I met him when he was clean, then he started using again, and now he's clean again. It's been an up and down roller coaster. When he first became sober again, he was loving and close and talked w...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Our Greatest Need "We eventually redefine our beliefs and understanding to the point where we see that our greatest need is for knowledge of God's will for us and the strength to carry that out"Basic Text p. 46When we first arrived in NA, we had all kinds of ideas of what we needed. Some of us set our s...

marmare · marmare

The holidays were good to me. My brother surprised my mom for Christmas. It had been over 20 years since he spent Christmas Day with her. It was nice to have him home. My A has been behaving himself. He did drink champange on New Year's Eve. But that has been it s...

jcon · jcon

Hey all, Trying to log onto chat site and its not working...keep getting server messages w/ *** underneath in chat section. Any and all help is appreciated. jcon

Jule_cat21 · Jule_cat21

Dear Maria, Flora and others Thanks for your replies to my message! I have an honest question for this board because it is something I have wondered about for a long time. There seems to be a common thread throughout all your messages: "Go to meetings and focus on YOU." ...

confused · confused

Things are going ok today. I set a few goals for myself: to take down the Christmas decorations and tree and then clean the main floor of the house. I am almost done, the snow day is helping, cannot go anywhere, snowed in at the moment. I tend to go, go, go, I suppose it is avoidance. My husband calls a co...

allison · allison

How do I find a alanon meeting in my area?.....TY,Allison

Jule_cat21 · Jule_cat21

I learned that my a husband did something else on new years eve that he doesn't remember and wouldn't be happy to hear that he did and I was shocked to hear myself. My best girlfriend told me last night that he slapped her butt, and he did it really hard. ...

pixel04 · pixel04

I remember walking to church with my mother once when I was little, and she was fuming about something. I remember wondering how she couldn't just DECIDE to be happy, like I was. I didn't know then that happiness is a choice, and she wasn't ready to make it yet. That same kid who used to wonder why my moth...

Cyn · Cyn

So I am in Chicago visiting my high school roommate and having a blast - of course like always I dont want to go home. This is my home away from home. I have SO many friends that I have met through my friend over the years by coming out here that welcome me with open arms everytime I come back.&nb...

tea2 · tea2

It's www.mipchat.net if you are having trouble with the other -I hope it works -- Edited by tea2 at 15:41, 2006-01-03

Barbara · Barbara

I dont hear at the Sat morn meeting I attend how to get a Sponsor. What do we do once we get one? Do we pour out our heart n soul? Do we talk on the phone/internet/F2F? Please explain it all. And how do we get past that feeling of "oh, they dont want to bother w/me so Im not going to start"?

sandie123 · sandie123

Man, like the bridge, was designed to carry the load of the moment, not the combined weight of a year at once. --William A. Ward When trouble tumbles down on us, we are easily overwhelmed. We see problems facing us in the future, and mountains of work to do. We look at the past and see the pain and str...

Emafer · Emafer

Hi there, I'm new here. My father is my qualifier. I started al- anon about 4 years ago, but I haven't been working my program for long time. I just started going to meetings again, but I thought this might be a good place to share my support. In any case, I've fallen for another alcoholic. I'm trying d...

Carly · Carly

My boyfriend is going into rehab because he is drinking excessively. I don't know how I am going to cope with his absence. I know it sounds extremely selfish. I love this man and he is my everything. I have no idea what the typical time stay is. I want him to get clean, to stop drinking but I’m so upset that he...

hopeful · hopeful

i would like to know how you keep it in the moment and be grateful with all that i have been blessed with rather than focusing on the past and future. i feel quite positive today and would like to delight in the present moment with my daughter.I would like to see my life as a blessing rather than a tragedy or a...

Kim · Kim

Today went well. Tonight is going well. Had dinner. Talked a little but not too much as to overwhelm either of us. He's done his own laundry. Taken care of his own business. Tomorrow he'll be gone and I won't speak to him for a while. I'm nervous about that, but I'll have to do it. It'll give me...

kitty · kitty

Someone jogged my memory in chat last night... made me recall an aspect of my Silva training... Belief ~ faith ~ expectancy. This is the way to think when you want to actualize something. Kinda like "fake it 'til you make it" or "act as if it has already been given t...

nycbt · nycbt

I am hanging out with my friend who helped me fix my laptop. I called my husband an he is hanging out with his friend who does drugs but there is of couse nothing I can do. However there is a pit in my stomach that I am nervous on what is happen an how it will be at home. What should i do about it? -- Edited by nycb...

kitty · kitty

I thought something interesting came up in chat late last night, I was saying some ppl can get "addicted" to rage. It is like any other thing ~ it is like being 'hooked on love' or constantly saving someone else or being in a constant state of fear or pain. You can escape your deeper feelings by al...

Emmie11 · Emmie11

I have not been able to log in all day-- is it just me (am I terminally unique) or has anyone else been experiencing problems?? Emmie

bob6502 · bob6502

GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING January 4, 2006 7:00 pm EST - MIP Chatroom Chair: SenoraBob - CoChair: Cabecka OLD BUSINESS 1. Approval of Minutes - December, 2005 2. a) Meeting Schedule and Request for Volunteers b) Posting Meeting Schedule and Gui...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I hope you all had a safe and peaceful new Year. I also hope 2006 brings Joy< peace and happiness to all of you and yours. This past ten days have been so draining, and so enlightening. I have done so much thinking, some good and some bad, and dealt with so many emotions, mine, my childrens, my husband...

Lola24015 · Lola24015

At midnight on New Years Eve, the twins were in bed & my 'a' & I were watching the countdown, he smoking pot of course & on pills. When midnight came, we said Happy New Year to each other & went to bed in seperate rooms. I can't help but wonder with or without rehab (something...

Emafer · Emafer

Is anyone else of the mind that it can't be done right unless it was hard? For example. I fequently cook and throw dinner parties. I make everything from scratch. From pie crust to pasta sauce, I start everything with fresh ingredientes. I feel like it's not good enough for my friends unless I slaved. Li...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

January 2 Take a deep breath and talk to God "Sometimes when we pray, a remarkable thing happens: We find the means, ways, and energies to perform tasks far beyond our capacities."Basic Text p. 44Coping successfully with life's minor annoyances and frustrations is sometimes the most difficul...

Barbara · Barbara

Coming out of Curves this morn as a member friend was arriving. Gave me a hug. Now that Ive posted it on the boards the other night they seem to be coming to me. Also article in the paper the other day on the power of hugs. May this be the year to hug! It may not be from the person Im most looking to receive one f...

kitty · kitty

So I had a few ideas today about this most recent love affair of mine... there were subtle signs on the wall. I don't know. A man is short with you & it makes you want to chase him. This is what I have heard all of my life as a Southern girl... make the man chase you, hang u...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Upon this new year, I just wanted to say a "thank you" to John, and all others who provide service on this board.... I don't know everyone, but you know who you are.... The meeting organizers, all the people who faithfully help and assist.... This is a great board, and takes many goo...

Kim · Kim

Hello all: My A is leaving detox today after 11 days. His bed date for rehab is the 3rd (tomorrow) and he has to report at 8 am. He could have stayed in and gone straight through..under normal circumstances he would've been given a half day pass to take care of business before entering, however,...

Barbara · Barbara

OMG! What do I have to do? be rude and kick these ppl out of my house? I ask what time they're done and they keep going on and on and on and on. One of the guys has been here since 9am YESTERDAY! ahhhhhh I want my house back to the normal chaos!

maresie · maresie

Admittedly I no longer share with my boyfriend my desire to celebrate anything. He has so long sabataged my dreams or mired them in some calamity with his desire to drink. I had a lot of fear over New Years that he would go out and drink and get a dui. He did not do that. Instead he does his crash at home stuff,...

mebjk · mebjk

Today after church, a woman who is older than I am came up to me, and when I told her I was so tired after a long autumn of moving to a new house, lots of responsibilities over the holidays, and that I keep asking God to help me with my being tired, she said: "Stop!" She was reminding me to stop what I am doing to g...

nycbt · nycbt

It has been nice couple of days just chilling in the house. Been on the internet the past of days which is cool. I am happy that i will be able to be part of the martlon because i been shown a new way to go if there is a problem.

confused · confused

My a just left. He came up to have dinner with the boys and I . We actually had a nice conversation in which I was not constantly looking/listening for the manipulation. I even told him how I felt about he manipulations he had tried this week and how all it accomplished was giving me more conviction that he...

Barbara · Barbara

Anyways get sooo afraid/scared (dont really know the word) of the holidays that they are really glad to have things get back to their chaotic normal?

Jule_cat21 · Jule_cat21

2006 had a better start last night than new year's eve. Yesterday I wrote about my husband's bad new year scene at my friend's party. He had insulted someone at the party and then he became extremely difficult and wouldn't come home with me. He wasn't physical, but it had the potential t...

doxie · doxie

Hi, I just wanted to wish everyone a Happy 2006. May it be all that we want and expect it to be. I am new here. Been to chat a few times and attended a lot of the New Years Marathon meetings. Learned a lot. I am making a goal to become more familiar with and use the 12 Steps and work them. I don't have a f2f me...

Barbara · Barbara

a hug? but maybe thats being too selfish? Sometimes I just wish I could have a hug

Cyn · Cyn

I have been feeling off the last 3 days - dont really know what it is. I know I have felt anger towards my ex, sadness, confusion, doubt, the whole gammut...but I cant shake it off very well the past few days. I dont really even know what was really going on in his life when I walked away - I was 90...

Diva · Diva

On the 21st of December, I went to court, along with my A, and divorced him. We will stay together as partners,hopefully for life, but I feel so relieved now that I will no longer be financially responsible for his actions. He is sober now, but I know that sooner or later he will take a three-day binge agai...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Today is New Years.... I just went to pick up my great Grandma.I am soo close to her.She is the best.When I got there to help my grandpa put her in the car...she did not know who I was.I had a tear rolling down.As we were driving in the car..she constantly repeated the word red and black,and said her numbe...

kmondo77 · kmondo77

Good Evening. This is my first time posting here. Mom just admitted tonight that she has a drinking problem and needs help. She has been drinking heavily for over 10 years. While I am VERY excited about this I am also very scared and confused. I want to be able to support her and help her the best I ca...

Jennifer · Jennifer

It's been a long but fairly nice weekend, I have learned I am stronger than I thought and even if I fall backwards into bad habits I can see the light faster than I ever thought possible if I take the time to look at myself and be kind to myself. A few days before New Years Eve my A asked me if he could make me di...

Tammy · Tammy

It is hard to believe that it is 2006. 2005 was a very difficult year. In many ways, I was sick and needed surgery, my husband ( an alcoholic ) and I seperated twice, and my job has become more stressful than ever. I can say that in 2005 I began finding myself. In July I found this site and began working on me...

lilleah · lilleah

I am so disgusted with my A! the only thing that keeps me from losing it is the fact that I KNOW I don't want to stay in this relationship, and I am doing what I can to work on leaving it. He came home last night so drunk! he tried to fight b/c he knew I was mad, and as mad as I really was, and as disgusted, I tried HAR...

Jule_cat21 · Jule_cat21

a real nightmare. My friends threw a new year's eve party. My husband drank too much (he's an alcoholic who recently thought he could try drinking sociably). He overdid it and he made a scene. I was and am horribly embarrassed and upset. Then when ...

recoverkhristy · recoverkhristy

Hi all, I wont be available for the next two Sunday meetings. I alt for Megan and need someone to replace me due to the fact I am going to be in the hospital. The dates are Jan 8th and the 15th. Thanks!!!

chrissy · chrissy

hi everyone , i just wanted to wish all of you & your families a very happy & healthy new year!! hopefully 2006 will be a better year for us all.

hugs chrissy -- Edited by chrissy at 23:10, 2005-12-31

kissers · kissers

Hi everyone! I have always wanted to open my own business, but never did anything about it. Well, about six months ago I applied for a women's entreprenuer program. They had 110 applicants. All of the applicants had to go to a screening. Only 10 would be chosen to go through the program. I kept praying. T...

Barbara · Barbara

Took my One Day At A Time book to Church with me this morning. When I have a few mins before Mass starts I read the page for the day. There was a line in today's that says "where we are today is exactly where our higher power would have us be". I read that while in Church! People I know from Curves & work...

nmike · nmike

Hi all, This time last year I was such a mess and so discouraged. This year it has been the best holiday. No expectations and very low keyed. My two boys came home from college. I just told them that I didn't have much planned or purchased. They said fine. Since their dad moved to another state, I l...

kitty · kitty

I just had a thought ~ after this "cyber fight" I have been in with my mother this week - she had the nerve to tell me, when I just had majorly distrubing news - that she "hasn't been happy with my behaviour for quite some time" ~ well I hit the roof!!! For this passed month I have been her buffer with the "A" ~...

leo · leo

Hi just want to make sure you and your menagerie at Eden are okay and hope you have a great 2006. Luv Leo xx

Maria123 · Maria123

As the new year approaches, I no longer live in ignorant bliss that this day symbolizes great things will happen nor do I live in dread that this day will be a continuation of the drudgery of the past. I walk along side each of you who have touched my lives innumerably and for which I am so grat...

lilleah · lilleah

I have decided I want out of my relationship with my A. I have been thinking about it and going back and forth on it for quite some time now, but tonight my decision was clear. He said he was going out after work, and I asked him if he could wait until tomorrow, he said point blank "no" I was shocked. I do...

seachange · seachange

Hi Everyone! Just want to share with you what I received in my e-mail from Hazelden this morning. Some good reminders to take even the New Year one day at a time! Best to all, ~seachange Today's thought is: Reflection for the Day In the old days, I saw everything in terms of for...

lilleah · lilleah

I don't get why my A says he is going out, and when I ask him not to, goes anyway, THEN calls me and wakes me up to tell me he is going to another bar. Why bother to call? He didn't care that I didn't want him to go in the first place, so why wake me to tell me where he is going? He says "I am just trying to be a nice guy"....

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Husband in prison (Preview) Hey everyone-Happy New Year to you all!! I have been away for a while but thought I would catch up. Today I got a call from my husband saying he is going back to jail for driving under the influence. He has been awake for over five days and has been shooting it, too. So it wasn't really a surpr...	browneyes	7	533	Jan 4, 2006 by Dolphin123
	look back (Preview) When I first meet my husband I didn't want to leave his side for any amount of time. I would call him all the time. He would do his stuff drink/drug I thought if I would give him attention that he would stop doing all the nonsense. Well then I went on depression meds some work some didn't I wanted to cha...	nycbt	2	433	Jan 4, 2006 by captcodee
	is sobriety any better???? (Preview) My husband has been in recovery for a little over a year now . . . he is an acoholic and addict. I met him when he was clean, then he started using again, and now he's clean again. It's been an up and down roller coaster. When he first became sober again, he was loving and close and talked w...	krise	9	702	Jan 4, 2006 by athena12
	scared of god's will for me??? (Preview) Our Greatest Need "We eventually redefine our beliefs and understanding to the point where we see that our greatest need is for knowledge of God's will for us and the strength to carry that out"Basic Text p. 46When we first arrived in NA, we had all kinds of ideas of what we needed. Some of us set our s...	rosie light shines	5	648	Jan 4, 2006 by leo
	Need pick me up (Preview) The holidays were good to me. My brother surprised my mom for Christmas. It had been over 20 years since he spent Christmas Day with her. It was nice to have him home. My A has been behaving himself. He did drink champange on New Year's Eve. But that has been it s...	marmare	8	699	Jan 4, 2006 by leo
	Having Puter problems (Preview) Hey all, Trying to log onto chat site and its not working...keep getting server messages w/ *** underneath in chat section. Any and all help is appreciated. jcon	jcon	1	392	Jan 4, 2006 by just me
	I don't get the focus on ourselves part (Preview) Dear Maria, Flora and others Thanks for your replies to my message! I have an honest question for this board because it is something I have wondered about for a long time. There seems to be a common thread throughout all your messages: "Go to meetings and focus on YOU." ...	Jule_cat21	10	606	Jan 3, 2006 by Jeannie
	ok for today (Preview) Things are going ok today. I set a few goals for myself: to take down the Christmas decorations and tree and then clean the main floor of the house. I am almost done, the snow day is helping, cannot go anywhere, snowed in at the moment. I tend to go, go, go, I suppose it is avoidance. My husband calls a co...	confused	1	418	Jan 3, 2006 by Jennifer
	quick question (Preview) How do I find a alanon meeting in my area?.....TY,Allison	allison	1	437	Jan 3, 2006 by Jennifer
	should I tell him? (Preview) I learned that my a husband did something else on new years eve that he doesn't remember and wouldn't be happy to hear that he did and I was shocked to hear myself. My best girlfriend told me last night that he slapped her butt, and he did it really hard. ...	Jule_cat21	7	618	Jan 3, 2006 by Jule_cat21
	Step one (Preview) I remember walking to church with my mother once when I was little, and she was fuming about something. I remember wondering how she couldn't just DECIDE to be happy, like I was. I didn't know then that happiness is a choice, and she wasn't ready to make it yet. That same kid who used to wonder why my moth...	pixel04	5	541	Jan 3, 2006 by Emafer
	Sometimes you get what you need without knowing it (Preview) So I am in Chicago visiting my high school roommate and having a blast - of course like always I dont want to go home. This is my home away from home. I have SO many friends that I have met through my friend over the years by coming out here that welcome me with open arms everytime I come back.&nb...	Cyn	4	412	Jan 3, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Chat Room (Preview) It's www.mipchat.net if you are having trouble with the other -I hope it works -- Edited by tea2 at 15:41, 2006-01-03	tea2	0	413	Jan 3, 2006 by tea2
	please explain to me how to get a sponsor (Preview) I dont hear at the Sat morn meeting I attend how to get a Sponsor. What do we do once we get one? Do we pour out our heart n soul? Do we talk on the phone/internet/F2F? Please explain it all. And how do we get past that feeling of "oh, they dont want to bother w/me so Im not going to start"?	Barbara	6	566	Jan 3, 2006 by Diane43
	Hope this helps others today…. I sure needed it (Preview) Man, like the bridge, was designed to carry the load of the moment, not the combined weight of a year at once. --William A. Ward When trouble tumbles down on us, we are easily overwhelmed. We see problems facing us in the future, and mountains of work to do. We look at the past and see the pain and str...	sandie123	5	502	Jan 3, 2006 by Diane43
	I Love Alcoholics (Preview) Hi there, I'm new here. My father is my qualifier. I started al- anon about 4 years ago, but I haven't been working my program for long time. I just started going to meetings again, but I thought this might be a good place to share my support. In any case, I've fallen for another alcoholic. I'm trying d...	Emafer	13	672	Jan 3, 2006 by Emafer
	please help (Preview) My boyfriend is going into rehab because he is drinking excessively. I don't know how I am going to cope with his absence. I know it sounds extremely selfish. I love this man and he is my everything. I have no idea what the typical time stay is. I want him to get clean, to stop drinking but I’m so upset that he...	Carly	6	477	Jan 3, 2006 by Dolphin123
	living in the present (Preview) i would like to know how you keep it in the moment and be grateful with all that i have been blessed with rather than focusing on the past and future. i feel quite positive today and would like to delight in the present moment with my daughter.I would like to see my life as a blessing rather than a tragedy or a...	hopeful	2	479	Jan 3, 2006 by lin0606
	minute by minute (Preview) Today went well. Tonight is going well. Had dinner. Talked a little but not too much as to overwhelm either of us. He's done his own laundry. Taken care of his own business. Tomorrow he'll be gone and I won't speak to him for a while. I'm nervous about that, but I'll have to do it. It'll give me...	Kim	2	427	Jan 3, 2006 by megan
	Expecting the Positive (Preview) Someone jogged my memory in chat last night... made me recall an aspect of my Silva training... Belief ~ faith ~ expectancy. This is the way to think when you want to actualize something. Kinda like "fake it 'til you make it" or "act as if it has already been given t...	kitty	4	417	Jan 3, 2006 by bobump
	dealing (Preview) I am hanging out with my friend who helped me fix my laptop. I called my husband an he is hanging out with his friend who does drugs but there is of couse nothing I can do. However there is a pit in my stomach that I am nervous on what is happen an how it will be at home. What should i do about it? -- Edited by nycb...	nycbt	4	459	Jan 3, 2006 by bobump
	Rage-a-hol & Altered Consciousness (Preview) I thought something interesting came up in chat late last night, I was saying some ppl can get "addicted" to rage. It is like any other thing ~ it is like being 'hooked on love' or constantly saving someone else or being in a constant state of fear or pain. You can escape your deeper feelings by al...	kitty	5	549	Jan 3, 2006 by bobump
	Chat Room difficulty (Preview) I have not been able to log in all day-- is it just me (am I terminally unique) or has anyone else been experiencing problems?? Emmie	Emmie11	7	494	Jan 2, 2006 by John_R
	GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING (Preview) GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING January 4, 2006 7:00 pm EST - MIP Chatroom Chair: SenoraBob - CoChair: Cabecka OLD BUSINESS 1. Approval of Minutes - December, 2005 2. a) Meeting Schedule and Request for Volunteers b) Posting Meeting Schedule and Gui...	bob6502	0	481	Jan 2, 2006 by bob6502
	Tough week (Preview) I hope you all had a safe and peaceful new Year. I also hope 2006 brings Joy< peace and happiness to all of you and yours. This past ten days have been so draining, and so enlightening. I have done so much thinking, some good and some bad, and dealt with so many emotions, mine, my childrens, my husband...	Jeannie	6	443	Jan 2, 2006 by whitie
	New Year's Eve (Preview) At midnight on New Years Eve, the twins were in bed & my 'a' & I were watching the countdown, he smoking pot of course & on pills. When midnight came, we said Happy New Year to each other & went to bed in seperate rooms. I can't help but wonder with or without rehab (something...	Lola24015	3	399	Jan 2, 2006 by Lola24015
	The Hard Way vs. The Easy Way (Preview) Is anyone else of the mind that it can't be done right unless it was hard? For example. I fequently cook and throw dinner parties. I make everything from scratch. From pie crust to pasta sauce, I start everything with fresh ingredientes. I feel like it's not good enough for my friends unless I slaved. Li...	Emafer	3	550	Jan 2, 2006 by Emafer
	learning to back off and RELEASE (Preview) January 2 Take a deep breath and talk to God "Sometimes when we pray, a remarkable thing happens: We find the means, ways, and energies to perform tasks far beyond our capacities."Basic Text p. 44Coping successfully with life's minor annoyances and frustrations is sometimes the most difficul...	rosie light shines	0	443	Jan 2, 2006 by rosie light shines
	another hug for me today (Preview) Coming out of Curves this morn as a member friend was arriving. Gave me a hug. Now that Ive posted it on the boards the other night they seem to be coming to me. Also article in the paper the other day on the power of hugs. May this be the year to hug! It may not be from the person Im most looking to receive one f...	Barbara	3	386	Jan 2, 2006 by Emafer
	Lessons in Love, nvr end (Preview) So I had a few ideas today about this most recent love affair of mine... there were subtle signs on the wall. I don't know. A man is short with you & it makes you want to chase him. This is what I have heard all of my life as a Southern girl... make the man chase you, hang u...	kitty	4	463	Jan 2, 2006 by maresie
	Thanks to all... (Preview) Upon this new year, I just wanted to say a "thank you" to John, and all others who provide service on this board.... I don't know everyone, but you know who you are.... The meeting organizers, all the people who faithfully help and assist.... This is a great board, and takes many goo...	canadianguy	6	505	Jan 2, 2006 by horselover58
	scared and nervous (Preview) Hello all: My A is leaving detox today after 11 days. His bed date for rehab is the 3rd (tomorrow) and he has to report at 8 am. He could have stayed in and gone straight through..under normal circumstances he would've been given a half day pass to take care of business before entering, however,...	Kim	7	514	Jan 2, 2006 by maresie
	Isnt New Years Eve over yet? (Preview) OMG! What do I have to do? be rude and kick these ppl out of my house? I ask what time they're done and they keep going on and on and on and on. One of the guys has been here since 9am YESTERDAY! ahhhhhh I want my house back to the normal chaos!	Barbara	4	414	Jan 2, 2006 by maresie
	New Years let down (Preview) Admittedly I no longer share with my boyfriend my desire to celebrate anything. He has so long sabataged my dreams or mired them in some calamity with his desire to drink. I had a lot of fear over New Years that he would go out and drink and get a dui. He did not do that. Instead he does his crash at home stuff,...	maresie	3	458	Jan 2, 2006 by maresie
	A bit of wisdom for me today... (Preview) Today after church, a woman who is older than I am came up to me, and when I told her I was so tired after a long autumn of moving to a new house, lots of responsibilities over the holidays, and that I keep asking God to help me with my being tired, she said: "Stop!" She was reminding me to stop what I am doing to g...	mebjk	3	698	Jan 2, 2006 by tea2
	Nice day (Preview) It has been nice couple of days just chilling in the house. Been on the internet the past of days which is cool. I am happy that i will be able to be part of the martlon because i been shown a new way to go if there is a problem.	nycbt	1	359	Jan 2, 2006 by Flora123
	a nice visit (Preview) My a just left. He came up to have dinner with the boys and I . We actually had a nice conversation in which I was not constantly looking/listening for the manipulation. I even told him how I felt about he manipulations he had tried this week and how all it accomplished was giving me more conviction that he...	confused	3	420	Jan 2, 2006 by Flora123
	a feeling of calmness now that the holidays are over (Preview) Anyways get sooo afraid/scared (dont really know the word) of the holidays that they are really glad to have things get back to their chaotic normal?	Barbara	0	587	Jan 2, 2006 by Barbara
	better news (Preview) 2006 had a better start last night than new year's eve. Yesterday I wrote about my husband's bad new year scene at my friend's party. He had insulted someone at the party and then he became extremely difficult and wouldn't come home with me. He wasn't physical, but it had the potential t...	Jule_cat21	5	434	Jan 2, 2006 by Flora123
	Beginning Again (Preview) Hi, I just wanted to wish everyone a Happy 2006. May it be all that we want and expect it to be. I am new here. Been to chat a few times and attended a lot of the New Years Marathon meetings. Learned a lot. I am making a goal to become more familiar with and use the 12 Steps and work them. I don't have a f2f me...	doxie	6	453	Jan 2, 2006 by doxie
	ever wish you had someone to give you (Preview) a hug? but maybe thats being too selfish? Sometimes I just wish I could have a hug	Barbara	6	559	Jan 2, 2006 by Jeannie
	Really confused.... (Preview) I have been feeling off the last 3 days - dont really know what it is. I know I have felt anger towards my ex, sadness, confusion, doubt, the whole gammut...but I cant shake it off very well the past few days. I dont really even know what was really going on in his life when I walked away - I was 90...	Cyn	6	642	Jan 2, 2006 by Jeannie
	Well, I've done it! (Preview) On the 21st of December, I went to court, along with my A, and divorced him. We will stay together as partners,hopefully for life, but I feel so relieved now that I will no longer be financially responsible for his actions. He is sober now, but I know that sooner or later he will take a three-day binge agai...	Diva	12	646	Jan 2, 2006 by Jeannie
	Angel of Death...I am afraid I may loose her (Preview) Today is New Years.... I just went to pick up my great Grandma.I am soo close to her.She is the best.When I got there to help my grandpa put her in the car...she did not know who I was.I had a tear rolling down.As we were driving in the car..she constantly repeated the word red and black,and said her numbe...	Lauren ashley	6	801	Jan 2, 2006 by maresie
	Daughter of alcholic (Preview) Good Evening. This is my first time posting here. Mom just admitted tonight that she has a drinking problem and needs help. She has been drinking heavily for over 10 years. While I am VERY excited about this I am also very scared and confused. I want to be able to support her and help her the best I ca...	kmondo77	7	581	Jan 2, 2006 by maresie
	Happy New Year everyone! (Preview) It's been a long but fairly nice weekend, I have learned I am stronger than I thought and even if I fall backwards into bad habits I can see the light faster than I ever thought possible if I take the time to look at myself and be kind to myself. A few days before New Years Eve my A asked me if he could make me di...	Jennifer	0	393	Jan 2, 2006 by Jennifer
	2006 The year of CHANGE (Preview) It is hard to believe that it is 2006. 2005 was a very difficult year. In many ways, I was sick and needed surgery, my husband ( an alcoholic ) and I seperated twice, and my job has become more stressful than ever. I can say that in 2005 I began finding myself. In July I found this site and began working on me...	Tammy	4	429	Jan 2, 2006 by bcanuck
	disgusted (Preview) I am so disgusted with my A! the only thing that keeps me from losing it is the fact that I KNOW I don't want to stay in this relationship, and I am doing what I can to work on leaving it. He came home last night so drunk! he tried to fight b/c he knew I was mad, and as mad as I really was, and as disgusted, I tried HAR...	lilleah	4	455	Jan 2, 2006 by Jule_cat21
	last night was terrible (Preview) a real nightmare. My friends threw a new year's eve party. My husband drank too much (he's an alcoholic who recently thought he could try drinking sociably). He overdid it and he made a scene. I was and am horribly embarrassed and upset. Then when ...	Jule_cat21	7	616	Jan 2, 2006 by Jule_cat21
	Need someone to alt for me! (Preview) Hi all, I wont be available for the next two Sunday meetings. I alt for Megan and need someone to replace me due to the fact I am going to be in the hospital. The dates are Jan 8th and the 15th. Thanks!!!	recoverkhristy	1	423	Jan 2, 2006 by tea2
	happy new year (Preview) hi everyone , i just wanted to wish all of you & your families a very happy & healthy new year!! hopefully 2006 will be a better year for us all. hugs chrissy -- Edited by chrissy at 23:10, 2005-12-31	chrissy	5	408	Jan 2, 2006 by chrissy
	Miracles are happening (Preview) Hi everyone! I have always wanted to open my own business, but never did anything about it. Well, about six months ago I applied for a women's entreprenuer program. They had 110 applicants. All of the applicants had to go to a screening. Only 10 would be chosen to go through the program. I kept praying. T...	kissers	3	527	Jan 1, 2006 by chrissy
	"where we are today is exactly where our higher power would have us be" (Preview) Took my One Day At A Time book to Church with me this morning. When I have a few mins before Mass starts I read the page for the day. There was a line in today's that says "where we are today is exactly where our higher power would have us be". I read that while in Church! People I know from Curves & work...	Barbara	6	556	Jan 1, 2006 by mebjk
	The Gift of Alanon (Preview) Hi all, This time last year I was such a mess and so discouraged. This year it has been the best holiday. No expectations and very low keyed. My two boys came home from college. I just told them that I didn't have much planned or purchased. They said fine. Since their dad moved to another state, I l...	nmike	4	501	Jan 1, 2006 by pixel04
	Pearls Among Swine (Preview) I just had a thought ~ after this "cyber fight" I have been in with my mother this week - she had the nerve to tell me, when I just had majorly distrubing news - that she "hasn't been happy with my behaviour for quite some time" ~ well I hit the roof!!! For this passed month I have been her buffer with the "A" ~...	kitty	3	568	Jan 1, 2006 by bobump
	debilyn (Preview) Hi just want to make sure you and your menagerie at Eden are okay and hope you have a great 2006. Luv Leo xx	leo	1	396	Jan 1, 2006 by TLC2
	Thank You and Happy New Year (Preview) As the new year approaches, I no longer live in ignorant bliss that this day symbolizes great things will happen nor do I live in dread that this day will be a continuation of the drudgery of the past. I walk along side each of you who have touched my lives innumerably and for which I am so grat...	Maria123	8	490	Jan 1, 2006 by Lauren ashley
	Need some prayers (Preview) I have decided I want out of my relationship with my A. I have been thinking about it and going back and forth on it for quite some time now, but tonight my decision was clear. He said he was going out after work, and I asked him if he could wait until tomorrow, he said point blank "no" I was shocked. I do...	lilleah	12	526	Jan 1, 2006 by Diane43
	Happy New Day! (Preview) Hi Everyone! Just want to share with you what I received in my e-mail from Hazelden this morning. Some good reminders to take even the New Year one day at a time! Best to all, ~seachange Today's thought is: Reflection for the Day In the old days, I saw everything in terms of for...	seachange	1	515	Jan 1, 2006 by maresie
	I don't understand (Preview) I don't get why my A says he is going out, and when I ask him not to, goes anyway, THEN calls me and wakes me up to tell me he is going to another bar. Why bother to call? He didn't care that I didn't want him to go in the first place, so why wake me to tell me where he is going? He says "I am just trying to be a nice guy"....	lilleah	7	524	Jan 1, 2006 by maresie
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