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kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Woohoo, yes it is that time of year when the Steps begin again in our Thursday night meetings!! And this year I get to sit back and relax while someone else chairs... heehee... *grin*. I love this step... it is the foundation cornerstone of my program and I find I revisit it over and over a...

hudsond · hudsond

I have been trying to take things one day at a time. My husband has good days and bad days. More good than bad and while I am thankful for that, I don't think I appreciate it as much as I should. I get aggravated when I see a "slip" coming and especially when he (if he would think about it fo...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Today's thought is: Forgiving others - Releasing the past There is a general reluctance on the part of most people to forgive old injuries. Some of us wasted lots of time brooding about old wrongs done to us or trying to get even for some past injustice. But the only way we can ever really get even i...

kat4u · kat4u

Is anyone having problems with entering the chat room, or am I the only one? It changes constantly and tonite was the worst. The room had a totally different "look" to it, and absolutely no way could I get in? What is going on with it? I'm really about ready to give it up. I really like the alanon group too, a...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i know my posts of late have been reflective of my grief....well yeah, comming to terms with the total loss IS a hard thing to accept......but there IS more to me than just that....i CAN forgive...i CAN give up resentments....i CAN do more than just be angry at my perp....sure!!! till i ge...

doxie · doxie

I am being tested and to see how well I put the alanon princliples to work. I am trying to figure out how to best take care of me after a disappointing admission from my A. It is going to have some uncomfortable consequences for him. I want to keep it from making me crazy and figure out how to NOT let it make m...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hi guys just to pass on this little bit of friendly advice... in my anger and hate filled state a while back...i was walking throu a bookstore lost in my own thoughts when i had the urge to glance to my left... at eye level a book stared back at me it was called.. "Chicken Soup for the Soul"... the...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hey this is for JOHN! how did the xmas cards go with the guys in MIP in Wilmington? i had to send a New Years Card instead of xmas one coz i missed that post. culd you please let us know...... did they receive many...and were they pleased. i hope they cheered them up! thanks rebecca xxx ...

maresie · maresie

I have to say the financial stuff with me is really coming to a head. My boyfriend should really declare bankruptcy for his medical issues. Meantime he is content to act out, feel sorry for himself and lean on me time and time again. Last Novemeber he declared that he broke his foot on the job, woul...

mia66 · mia66

Well, I have put myself back in an unacceptable intolerable situation. I am not sure how to dig my way back out of the muck. I left my husband of 10 years in 1995. His cocaine use escalated to a dangerous level and after years of attending alanon I finally found the strength to get myself and our 2 c...

GSDGIRL36 · GSDGIRL36

My husband went to rehab today. It's been extremely difficult on the kids (who think he went on a trip...they are little). It's been harder on my husband than anyone, he loves those kids so much and misses them, I just keep telling him it's a positive thing in the long run. In a way, I wish he'd just come hom...

browneyes · browneyes

Hi guys Thank you my friends for responding to me, i just started crying , I don't know why. I'm just feeling pretty overwhelmed with trying to figure it all out. And it means a lot to me for you all to support me. I hate feeling like this. like i just want someone to take care of...

just me · just me

I need help with boundaries. Does anyone have experience with an A who constantly uses the visitation with the kids to manipulate? Mine keeps making changes to the visitation schedule based on his situation. 1 year and 4 jobs later I am tired of this crap! He expects me to ju...

Sweetpea950 · Sweetpea950

Christmas eve, our grown daughter tried to commit suicide while she was drinking. She has done this several times before....she lives in another state and I feel helpless to help her at times like this. She lost a baby five years ago, and it seems she has lost all hope now too. She is...

debilyn · debilyn

thank you for the post, I missed it. Now I am dealing with my one hundred and five year and nine mo. old gma. She has now gone bananas. It is pretty tiriring. We are doing our best to keep a sense of humor. She is a crack up. We write all the things down she says. says she has her boobs in the bedroom.....

Jule_cat21 · Jule_cat21

I've been thinking. I think the reason I have been so devastated with shame since my A husband's impropriety on New Years in front of our friends was the fact that my bubble of "pretend superbness in a peaceful marriage" has burst. I have known for years, deep in my heart...

Kim · Kim

Took my A to rehab this morning. It was a sad and happy morning. I cried as I left, but was in a surprisingly good mood today. I think alot of it had to do with my own ability to let go. I let go to some extent four months ago when I made him leave. I was happy today because I was able to keep it together all th...

gardengal · gardengal

One of the main symptoms of my disease is a sense of uncertaintity and confusion. This is especially true when I have to make a decision about something that is full of emotion, which for me is just about everything, Setting a boundary with a friend, standing up for myself on the job, staying home...

Emafer · Emafer

How do you guys deal with boredom. For me, it's when my mind starts to wander and I end up too in my head. Unfortunately I happen to have a job that requires very little of my mental capacity. I spend a lot of the day attempting to "look busy". So, a lot of my days are actually spent with "The Committee" or obse...

megan · megan

This morning I got a phone call early in the morning. I don't like these as usually it means trouble. It was my husband. He said that he was at his new job a half hour early and thought he would call me. He has not worked in 3 years 11 months! My opinion? He was an alcoholic of the kind that w...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello everyone, Not feeling very proud of myself today, because of the added vet bills and holiday stuff this year my A and I agreed that we would put our Christmas checks from parents in towards household bills. This is the broken promise and lie I found out about right before the holiday, he c...

maresie · maresie

I had a conversation with my boss this morning part of being willing to show up in my life. I realise I would rather take his inventory than mine and part of this compulsive taking everyone else's inventory is willfulness on my part. Last summer I got willing to do work I would not normally do (the area I li...

sas · sas

I am new to this message board as of yesterday and have found a lot of good help here already. I have lately had a problem with being stuck in my head, stuck in my own thoughts, and I can't seem to get away from them. Everything and nearly everyone is triggering me. I don't really know wh...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

I made this topic today at the meeting...."Fear of Letting Go" I thought I would share it one here as well for those who could not make it to the meeting... This is truly i find my worst fear of all.I don't know why,but something always holds me back from letting go.Letting go of the past is especia...

browneyes · browneyes

Hey everyone-Happy New Year to you all!! I have been away for a while but thought I would catch up. Today I got a call from my husband saying he is going back to jail for driving under the influence. He has been awake for over five days and has been shooting it, too. So it wasn't really a surpr...

nycbt · nycbt

When I first meet my husband I didn't want to leave his side for any amount of time. I would call him all the time. He would do his stuff drink/drug I thought if I would give him attention that he would stop doing all the nonsense. Well then I went on depression meds some work some didn't I wanted to cha...

krise · krise

My husband has been in recovery for a little over a year now . . . he is an acoholic and addict. I met him when he was clean, then he started using again, and now he's clean again. It's been an up and down roller coaster. When he first became sober again, he was loving and close and talked w...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Our Greatest Need "We eventually redefine our beliefs and understanding to the point where we see that our greatest need is for knowledge of God's will for us and the strength to carry that out"Basic Text p. 46When we first arrived in NA, we had all kinds of ideas of what we needed. Some of us set our s...

marmare · marmare

The holidays were good to me. My brother surprised my mom for Christmas. It had been over 20 years since he spent Christmas Day with her. It was nice to have him home. My A has been behaving himself. He did drink champange on New Year's Eve. But that has been it s...

jcon · jcon

Hey all, Trying to log onto chat site and its not working...keep getting server messages w/ *** underneath in chat section. Any and all help is appreciated. jcon

Jule_cat21 · Jule_cat21

Dear Maria, Flora and others Thanks for your replies to my message! I have an honest question for this board because it is something I have wondered about for a long time. There seems to be a common thread throughout all your messages: "Go to meetings and focus on YOU." ...

confused · confused

Things are going ok today. I set a few goals for myself: to take down the Christmas decorations and tree and then clean the main floor of the house. I am almost done, the snow day is helping, cannot go anywhere, snowed in at the moment. I tend to go, go, go, I suppose it is avoidance. My husband calls a co...

allison · allison

How do I find a alanon meeting in my area?.....TY,Allison

Jule_cat21 · Jule_cat21

I learned that my a husband did something else on new years eve that he doesn't remember and wouldn't be happy to hear that he did and I was shocked to hear myself. My best girlfriend told me last night that he slapped her butt, and he did it really hard. ...

pixel04 · pixel04

I remember walking to church with my mother once when I was little, and she was fuming about something. I remember wondering how she couldn't just DECIDE to be happy, like I was. I didn't know then that happiness is a choice, and she wasn't ready to make it yet. That same kid who used to wonder why my moth...

Cyn · Cyn

So I am in Chicago visiting my high school roommate and having a blast - of course like always I dont want to go home. This is my home away from home. I have SO many friends that I have met through my friend over the years by coming out here that welcome me with open arms everytime I come back.&nb...

tea2 · tea2

It's www.mipchat.net if you are having trouble with the other -I hope it works -- Edited by tea2 at 15:41, 2006-01-03

Barbara · Barbara

I dont hear at the Sat morn meeting I attend how to get a Sponsor. What do we do once we get one? Do we pour out our heart n soul? Do we talk on the phone/internet/F2F? Please explain it all. And how do we get past that feeling of "oh, they dont want to bother w/me so Im not going to start"?

sandie123 · sandie123

Man, like the bridge, was designed to carry the load of the moment, not the combined weight of a year at once. --William A. Ward When trouble tumbles down on us, we are easily overwhelmed. We see problems facing us in the future, and mountains of work to do. We look at the past and see the pain and str...

Emafer · Emafer

Hi there, I'm new here. My father is my qualifier. I started al- anon about 4 years ago, but I haven't been working my program for long time. I just started going to meetings again, but I thought this might be a good place to share my support. In any case, I've fallen for another alcoholic. I'm trying d...

Carly · Carly

My boyfriend is going into rehab because he is drinking excessively. I don't know how I am going to cope with his absence. I know it sounds extremely selfish. I love this man and he is my everything. I have no idea what the typical time stay is. I want him to get clean, to stop drinking but I’m so upset that he...

hopeful · hopeful

i would like to know how you keep it in the moment and be grateful with all that i have been blessed with rather than focusing on the past and future. i feel quite positive today and would like to delight in the present moment with my daughter.I would like to see my life as a blessing rather than a tragedy or a...

Kim · Kim

Today went well. Tonight is going well. Had dinner. Talked a little but not too much as to overwhelm either of us. He's done his own laundry. Taken care of his own business. Tomorrow he'll be gone and I won't speak to him for a while. I'm nervous about that, but I'll have to do it. It'll give me...

kitty · kitty

Someone jogged my memory in chat last night... made me recall an aspect of my Silva training... Belief ~ faith ~ expectancy. This is the way to think when you want to actualize something. Kinda like "fake it 'til you make it" or "act as if it has already been given t...

nycbt · nycbt

I am hanging out with my friend who helped me fix my laptop. I called my husband an he is hanging out with his friend who does drugs but there is of couse nothing I can do. However there is a pit in my stomach that I am nervous on what is happen an how it will be at home. What should i do about it? -- Edited by nycb...

kitty · kitty

I thought something interesting came up in chat late last night, I was saying some ppl can get "addicted" to rage. It is like any other thing ~ it is like being 'hooked on love' or constantly saving someone else or being in a constant state of fear or pain. You can escape your deeper feelings by al...

Emmie11 · Emmie11

I have not been able to log in all day-- is it just me (am I terminally unique) or has anyone else been experiencing problems?? Emmie

bob6502 · bob6502

GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING January 4, 2006 7:00 pm EST - MIP Chatroom Chair: SenoraBob - CoChair: Cabecka OLD BUSINESS 1. Approval of Minutes - December, 2005 2. a) Meeting Schedule and Request for Volunteers b) Posting Meeting Schedule and Gui...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I hope you all had a safe and peaceful new Year. I also hope 2006 brings Joy< peace and happiness to all of you and yours. This past ten days have been so draining, and so enlightening. I have done so much thinking, some good and some bad, and dealt with so many emotions, mine, my childrens, my husband...

Lola24015 · Lola24015

At midnight on New Years Eve, the twins were in bed & my 'a' & I were watching the countdown, he smoking pot of course & on pills. When midnight came, we said Happy New Year to each other & went to bed in seperate rooms. I can't help but wonder with or without rehab (something...

Emafer · Emafer

Is anyone else of the mind that it can't be done right unless it was hard? For example. I fequently cook and throw dinner parties. I make everything from scratch. From pie crust to pasta sauce, I start everything with fresh ingredientes. I feel like it's not good enough for my friends unless I slaved. Li...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

January 2 Take a deep breath and talk to God "Sometimes when we pray, a remarkable thing happens: We find the means, ways, and energies to perform tasks far beyond our capacities."Basic Text p. 44Coping successfully with life's minor annoyances and frustrations is sometimes the most difficul...

Barbara · Barbara

Coming out of Curves this morn as a member friend was arriving. Gave me a hug. Now that Ive posted it on the boards the other night they seem to be coming to me. Also article in the paper the other day on the power of hugs. May this be the year to hug! It may not be from the person Im most looking to receive one f...

kitty · kitty

So I had a few ideas today about this most recent love affair of mine... there were subtle signs on the wall. I don't know. A man is short with you & it makes you want to chase him. This is what I have heard all of my life as a Southern girl... make the man chase you, hang u...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Upon this new year, I just wanted to say a "thank you" to John, and all others who provide service on this board.... I don't know everyone, but you know who you are.... The meeting organizers, all the people who faithfully help and assist.... This is a great board, and takes many goo...

Kim · Kim

Hello all: My A is leaving detox today after 11 days. His bed date for rehab is the 3rd (tomorrow) and he has to report at 8 am. He could have stayed in and gone straight through..under normal circumstances he would've been given a half day pass to take care of business before entering, however,...

Barbara · Barbara

OMG! What do I have to do? be rude and kick these ppl out of my house? I ask what time they're done and they keep going on and on and on and on. One of the guys has been here since 9am YESTERDAY! ahhhhhh I want my house back to the normal chaos!

maresie · maresie

Admittedly I no longer share with my boyfriend my desire to celebrate anything. He has so long sabataged my dreams or mired them in some calamity with his desire to drink. I had a lot of fear over New Years that he would go out and drink and get a dui. He did not do that. Instead he does his crash at home stuff,...

mebjk · mebjk

Today after church, a woman who is older than I am came up to me, and when I told her I was so tired after a long autumn of moving to a new house, lots of responsibilities over the holidays, and that I keep asking God to help me with my being tired, she said: "Stop!" She was reminding me to stop what I am doing to g...

nycbt · nycbt

It has been nice couple of days just chilling in the house. Been on the internet the past of days which is cool. I am happy that i will be able to be part of the martlon because i been shown a new way to go if there is a problem.

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Step One Meeting Tonight! (Preview) Woohoo, yes it is that time of year when the Steps begin again in our Thursday night meetings!! And this year I get to sit back and relax while someone else chairs... heehee... grin. I love this step... it is the foundation cornerstone of my program and I find I revisit it over and over a...	kismetstrand	1	592	Jan 5, 2006 by bobump
	Wondering (Preview) I have been trying to take things one day at a time. My husband has good days and bad days. More good than bad and while I am thankful for that, I don't think I appreciate it as much as I should. I get aggravated when I see a "slip" coming and especially when he (if he would think about it fo...	hudsond	3	613	Jan 5, 2006 by Emafer
	long share---having trouble with forgiveness??? (Preview) Today's thought is: Forgiving others - Releasing the past There is a general reluctance on the part of most people to forgive old injuries. Some of us wasted lots of time brooding about old wrongs done to us or trying to get even for some past injustice. But the only way we can ever really get even i...	rosie light shines	8	806	Jan 5, 2006 by kat4u
	Lot of problems with chat (Preview) Is anyone having problems with entering the chat room, or am I the only one? It changes constantly and tonite was the worst. The room had a totally different "look" to it, and absolutely no way could I get in? What is going on with it? I'm really about ready to give it up. I really like the alanon group too, a...	kat4u	4	591	Jan 5, 2006 by kat4u
	there is MORE to me than this danged old anger/grief (Preview) i know my posts of late have been reflective of my grief....well yeah, comming to terms with the total loss IS a hard thing to accept......but there IS more to me than just that....i CAN forgive...i CAN give up resentments....i CAN do more than just be angry at my perp....sure!!! till i ge...	rosie light shines	3	515	Jan 5, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Struggling a bit and need to vent just a little (Preview) I am being tested and to see how well I put the alanon princliples to work. I am trying to figure out how to best take care of me after a disappointing admission from my A. It is going to have some uncomfortable consequences for him. I want to keep it from making me crazy and figure out how to NOT let it make m...	doxie	2	568	Jan 5, 2006 by rosie light shines
	"Chicken Soup For The Soul".... (Preview) hi guys just to pass on this little bit of friendly advice... in my anger and hate filled state a while back...i was walking throu a bookstore lost in my own thoughts when i had the urge to glance to my left... at eye level a book stared back at me it was called.. "Chicken Soup for the Soul"... the...	Rebecca	0	930	Jan 5, 2006 by Rebecca
	MIP xmas cards...any news?? (Preview) hey this is for JOHN! how did the xmas cards go with the guys in MIP in Wilmington? i had to send a New Years Card instead of xmas one coz i missed that post. culd you please let us know...... did they receive many...and were they pleased. i hope they cheered them up! thanks rebecca xxx ...	Rebecca	2	648	Jan 5, 2006 by Rebecca
	the financial stuff (Preview) I have to say the financial stuff with me is really coming to a head. My boyfriend should really declare bankruptcy for his medical issues. Meantime he is content to act out, feel sorry for himself and lean on me time and time again. Last Novemeber he declared that he broke his foot on the job, woul...	maresie	5	715	Jan 5, 2006 by sas
	Right Back Where I Started (Preview) Well, I have put myself back in an unacceptable intolerable situation. I am not sure how to dig my way back out of the muck. I left my husband of 10 years in 1995. His cocaine use escalated to a dangerous level and after years of attending alanon I finally found the strength to get myself and our 2 c...	mia66	4	628	Jan 5, 2006 by lin0606
	The first step (Preview) My husband went to rehab today. It's been extremely difficult on the kids (who think he went on a trip...they are little). It's been harder on my husband than anyone, he loves those kids so much and misses them, I just keep telling him it's a positive thing in the long run. In a way, I wish he'd just come hom...	GSDGIRL36	4	675	Jan 5, 2006 by GSDGIRL36
	Overwhelmed (Preview) Hi guys Thank you my friends for responding to me, i just started crying , I don't know why. I'm just feeling pretty overwhelmed with trying to figure it all out. And it means a lot to me for you all to support me. I hate feeling like this. like i just want someone to take care of...	browneyes	3	625	Jan 5, 2006 by fiona123
	boundaries (Preview) I need help with boundaries. Does anyone have experience with an A who constantly uses the visitation with the kids to manipulate? Mine keeps making changes to the visitation schedule based on his situation. 1 year and 4 jobs later I am tired of this crap! He expects me to ju...	just me	8	643	Jan 4, 2006 by butterfly6
	Depression over the holidays (Preview) Christmas eve, our grown daughter tried to commit suicide while she was drinking. She has done this several times before....she lives in another state and I feel helpless to help her at times like this. She lost a baby five years ago, and it seems she has lost all hope now too. She is...	Sweetpea950	6	999	Jan 4, 2006 by Sweetpea950
	hi leo (Preview) thank you for the post, I missed it. Now I am dealing with my one hundred and five year and nine mo. old gma. She has now gone bananas. It is pretty tiriring. We are doing our best to keep a sense of humor. She is a crack up. We write all the things down she says. says she has her boobs in the bedroom.....	debilyn	3	605	Jan 4, 2006 by whitie
	Letting the illusion go (Preview) I've been thinking. I think the reason I have been so devastated with shame since my A husband's impropriety on New Years in front of our friends was the fact that my bubble of "pretend superbness in a peaceful marriage" has burst. I have known for years, deep in my heart...	Jule_cat21	8	741	Jan 4, 2006 by Jennifer
	he went in!!!!! (Preview) Took my A to rehab this morning. It was a sad and happy morning. I cried as I left, but was in a surprisingly good mood today. I think alot of it had to do with my own ability to let go. I let go to some extent four months ago when I made him leave. I was happy today because I was able to keep it together all th...	Kim	10	888	Jan 4, 2006 by GSDGIRL36
	HOW TO HANDLE MY BOUTS OF FEAR AN INDICISIONS (Preview) One of the main symptoms of my disease is a sense of uncertaintity and confusion. This is especially true when I have to make a decision about something that is full of emotion, which for me is just about everything, Setting a boundary with a friend, standing up for myself on the job, staying home...	gardengal	5	594	Jan 4, 2006 by sas
	Boredom? (Preview) How do you guys deal with boredom. For me, it's when my mind starts to wander and I end up too in my head. Unfortunately I happen to have a job that requires very little of my mental capacity. I spend a lot of the day attempting to "look busy". So, a lot of my days are actually spent with "The Committee" or obse...	Emafer	5	614	Jan 4, 2006 by Emafer
	Hope (Preview) This morning I got a phone call early in the morning. I don't like these as usually it means trouble. It was my husband. He said that he was at his new job a half hour early and thought he would call me. He has not worked in 3 years 11 months! My opinion? He was an alcoholic of the kind that w...	megan	9	638	Jan 4, 2006 by browneyes
	Help with resentment (Preview) Hello everyone, Not feeling very proud of myself today, because of the added vet bills and holiday stuff this year my A and I agreed that we would put our Christmas checks from parents in towards household bills. This is the broken promise and lie I found out about right before the holiday, he c...	Jennifer	4	697	Jan 4, 2006 by maresie
	I'd rather take his inventory than mine (Preview) I had a conversation with my boss this morning part of being willing to show up in my life. I realise I would rather take his inventory than mine and part of this compulsive taking everyone else's inventory is willfulness on my part. Last summer I got willing to do work I would not normally do (the area I li...	maresie	4	663	Jan 4, 2006 by maresie
	I'm stuck in my head. Help! (Preview) I am new to this message board as of yesterday and have found a lot of good help here already. I have lately had a problem with being stuck in my head, stuck in my own thoughts, and I can't seem to get away from them. Everything and nearly everyone is triggering me. I don't really know wh...	sas	7	1409	Jan 4, 2006 by sas
	""FEARS OF LETTING GO"" A COMMON THING WE ALL SHARE (Preview) I made this topic today at the meeting...."Fear of Letting Go" I thought I would share it one here as well for those who could not make it to the meeting... This is truly i find my worst fear of all.I don't know why,but something always holds me back from letting go.Letting go of the past is especia...	Lauren ashley	9	992	Jan 4, 2006 by nycbt
	Husband in prison (Preview) Hey everyone-Happy New Year to you all!! I have been away for a while but thought I would catch up. Today I got a call from my husband saying he is going back to jail for driving under the influence. He has been awake for over five days and has been shooting it, too. So it wasn't really a surpr...	browneyes	7	643	Jan 4, 2006 by Dolphin123
	look back (Preview) When I first meet my husband I didn't want to leave his side for any amount of time. I would call him all the time. He would do his stuff drink/drug I thought if I would give him attention that he would stop doing all the nonsense. Well then I went on depression meds some work some didn't I wanted to cha...	nycbt	2	552	Jan 4, 2006 by captcodee
	is sobriety any better???? (Preview) My husband has been in recovery for a little over a year now . . . he is an acoholic and addict. I met him when he was clean, then he started using again, and now he's clean again. It's been an up and down roller coaster. When he first became sober again, he was loving and close and talked w...	krise	9	821	Jan 4, 2006 by athena12
	scared of god's will for me??? (Preview) Our Greatest Need "We eventually redefine our beliefs and understanding to the point where we see that our greatest need is for knowledge of God's will for us and the strength to carry that out"Basic Text p. 46When we first arrived in NA, we had all kinds of ideas of what we needed. Some of us set our s...	rosie light shines	5	759	Jan 4, 2006 by leo
	Need pick me up (Preview) The holidays were good to me. My brother surprised my mom for Christmas. It had been over 20 years since he spent Christmas Day with her. It was nice to have him home. My A has been behaving himself. He did drink champange on New Year's Eve. But that has been it s...	marmare	8	806	Jan 4, 2006 by leo
	Having Puter problems (Preview) Hey all, Trying to log onto chat site and its not working...keep getting server messages w/ *** underneath in chat section. Any and all help is appreciated. jcon	jcon	1	499	Jan 4, 2006 by just me
	I don't get the focus on ourselves part (Preview) Dear Maria, Flora and others Thanks for your replies to my message! I have an honest question for this board because it is something I have wondered about for a long time. There seems to be a common thread throughout all your messages: "Go to meetings and focus on YOU." ...	Jule_cat21	10	723	Jan 3, 2006 by Jeannie
	ok for today (Preview) Things are going ok today. I set a few goals for myself: to take down the Christmas decorations and tree and then clean the main floor of the house. I am almost done, the snow day is helping, cannot go anywhere, snowed in at the moment. I tend to go, go, go, I suppose it is avoidance. My husband calls a co...	confused	1	546	Jan 3, 2006 by Jennifer
	quick question (Preview) How do I find a alanon meeting in my area?.....TY,Allison	allison	1	549	Jan 3, 2006 by Jennifer
	should I tell him? (Preview) I learned that my a husband did something else on new years eve that he doesn't remember and wouldn't be happy to hear that he did and I was shocked to hear myself. My best girlfriend told me last night that he slapped her butt, and he did it really hard. ...	Jule_cat21	7	738	Jan 3, 2006 by Jule_cat21
	Step one (Preview) I remember walking to church with my mother once when I was little, and she was fuming about something. I remember wondering how she couldn't just DECIDE to be happy, like I was. I didn't know then that happiness is a choice, and she wasn't ready to make it yet. That same kid who used to wonder why my moth...	pixel04	5	659	Jan 3, 2006 by Emafer
	Sometimes you get what you need without knowing it (Preview) So I am in Chicago visiting my high school roommate and having a blast - of course like always I dont want to go home. This is my home away from home. I have SO many friends that I have met through my friend over the years by coming out here that welcome me with open arms everytime I come back.&nb...	Cyn	4	532	Jan 3, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Chat Room (Preview) It's www.mipchat.net if you are having trouble with the other -I hope it works -- Edited by tea2 at 15:41, 2006-01-03	tea2	0	504	Jan 3, 2006 by tea2
	please explain to me how to get a sponsor (Preview) I dont hear at the Sat morn meeting I attend how to get a Sponsor. What do we do once we get one? Do we pour out our heart n soul? Do we talk on the phone/internet/F2F? Please explain it all. And how do we get past that feeling of "oh, they dont want to bother w/me so Im not going to start"?	Barbara	6	677	Jan 3, 2006 by Diane43
	Hope this helps others today…. I sure needed it (Preview) Man, like the bridge, was designed to carry the load of the moment, not the combined weight of a year at once. --William A. Ward When trouble tumbles down on us, we are easily overwhelmed. We see problems facing us in the future, and mountains of work to do. We look at the past and see the pain and str...	sandie123	5	601	Jan 3, 2006 by Diane43
	I Love Alcoholics (Preview) Hi there, I'm new here. My father is my qualifier. I started al- anon about 4 years ago, but I haven't been working my program for long time. I just started going to meetings again, but I thought this might be a good place to share my support. In any case, I've fallen for another alcoholic. I'm trying d...	Emafer	13	785	Jan 3, 2006 by Emafer
	please help (Preview) My boyfriend is going into rehab because he is drinking excessively. I don't know how I am going to cope with his absence. I know it sounds extremely selfish. I love this man and he is my everything. I have no idea what the typical time stay is. I want him to get clean, to stop drinking but I’m so upset that he...	Carly	6	584	Jan 3, 2006 by Dolphin123
	living in the present (Preview) i would like to know how you keep it in the moment and be grateful with all that i have been blessed with rather than focusing on the past and future. i feel quite positive today and would like to delight in the present moment with my daughter.I would like to see my life as a blessing rather than a tragedy or a...	hopeful	2	598	Jan 3, 2006 by lin0606
	minute by minute (Preview) Today went well. Tonight is going well. Had dinner. Talked a little but not too much as to overwhelm either of us. He's done his own laundry. Taken care of his own business. Tomorrow he'll be gone and I won't speak to him for a while. I'm nervous about that, but I'll have to do it. It'll give me...	Kim	2	546	Jan 3, 2006 by megan
	Expecting the Positive (Preview) Someone jogged my memory in chat last night... made me recall an aspect of my Silva training... Belief ~ faith ~ expectancy. This is the way to think when you want to actualize something. Kinda like "fake it 'til you make it" or "act as if it has already been given t...	kitty	4	514	Jan 3, 2006 by bobump
	dealing (Preview) I am hanging out with my friend who helped me fix my laptop. I called my husband an he is hanging out with his friend who does drugs but there is of couse nothing I can do. However there is a pit in my stomach that I am nervous on what is happen an how it will be at home. What should i do about it? -- Edited by nycb...	nycbt	4	601	Jan 3, 2006 by bobump
	Rage-a-hol & Altered Consciousness (Preview) I thought something interesting came up in chat late last night, I was saying some ppl can get "addicted" to rage. It is like any other thing ~ it is like being 'hooked on love' or constantly saving someone else or being in a constant state of fear or pain. You can escape your deeper feelings by al...	kitty	5	700	Jan 3, 2006 by bobump
	Chat Room difficulty (Preview) I have not been able to log in all day-- is it just me (am I terminally unique) or has anyone else been experiencing problems?? Emmie	Emmie11	7	610	Jan 2, 2006 by John_R
	GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING (Preview) GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING January 4, 2006 7:00 pm EST - MIP Chatroom Chair: SenoraBob - CoChair: Cabecka OLD BUSINESS 1. Approval of Minutes - December, 2005 2. a) Meeting Schedule and Request for Volunteers b) Posting Meeting Schedule and Gui...	bob6502	0	599	Jan 2, 2006 by bob6502
	Tough week (Preview) I hope you all had a safe and peaceful new Year. I also hope 2006 brings Joy< peace and happiness to all of you and yours. This past ten days have been so draining, and so enlightening. I have done so much thinking, some good and some bad, and dealt with so many emotions, mine, my childrens, my husband...	Jeannie	6	559	Jan 2, 2006 by whitie
	New Year's Eve (Preview) At midnight on New Years Eve, the twins were in bed & my 'a' & I were watching the countdown, he smoking pot of course & on pills. When midnight came, we said Happy New Year to each other & went to bed in seperate rooms. I can't help but wonder with or without rehab (something...	Lola24015	3	506	Jan 2, 2006 by Lola24015
	The Hard Way vs. The Easy Way (Preview) Is anyone else of the mind that it can't be done right unless it was hard? For example. I fequently cook and throw dinner parties. I make everything from scratch. From pie crust to pasta sauce, I start everything with fresh ingredientes. I feel like it's not good enough for my friends unless I slaved. Li...	Emafer	3	668	Jan 2, 2006 by Emafer
	learning to back off and RELEASE (Preview) January 2 Take a deep breath and talk to God "Sometimes when we pray, a remarkable thing happens: We find the means, ways, and energies to perform tasks far beyond our capacities."Basic Text p. 44Coping successfully with life's minor annoyances and frustrations is sometimes the most difficul...	rosie light shines	0	547	Jan 2, 2006 by rosie light shines
	another hug for me today (Preview) Coming out of Curves this morn as a member friend was arriving. Gave me a hug. Now that Ive posted it on the boards the other night they seem to be coming to me. Also article in the paper the other day on the power of hugs. May this be the year to hug! It may not be from the person Im most looking to receive one f...	Barbara	3	498	Jan 2, 2006 by Emafer
	Lessons in Love, nvr end (Preview) So I had a few ideas today about this most recent love affair of mine... there were subtle signs on the wall. I don't know. A man is short with you & it makes you want to chase him. This is what I have heard all of my life as a Southern girl... make the man chase you, hang u...	kitty	4	560	Jan 2, 2006 by maresie
	Thanks to all... (Preview) Upon this new year, I just wanted to say a "thank you" to John, and all others who provide service on this board.... I don't know everyone, but you know who you are.... The meeting organizers, all the people who faithfully help and assist.... This is a great board, and takes many goo...	canadianguy	6	617	Jan 2, 2006 by horselover58
	scared and nervous (Preview) Hello all: My A is leaving detox today after 11 days. His bed date for rehab is the 3rd (tomorrow) and he has to report at 8 am. He could have stayed in and gone straight through..under normal circumstances he would've been given a half day pass to take care of business before entering, however,...	Kim	7	618	Jan 2, 2006 by maresie
	Isnt New Years Eve over yet? (Preview) OMG! What do I have to do? be rude and kick these ppl out of my house? I ask what time they're done and they keep going on and on and on and on. One of the guys has been here since 9am YESTERDAY! ahhhhhh I want my house back to the normal chaos!	Barbara	4	522	Jan 2, 2006 by maresie
	New Years let down (Preview) Admittedly I no longer share with my boyfriend my desire to celebrate anything. He has so long sabataged my dreams or mired them in some calamity with his desire to drink. I had a lot of fear over New Years that he would go out and drink and get a dui. He did not do that. Instead he does his crash at home stuff,...	maresie	3	573	Jan 2, 2006 by maresie
	A bit of wisdom for me today... (Preview) Today after church, a woman who is older than I am came up to me, and when I told her I was so tired after a long autumn of moving to a new house, lots of responsibilities over the holidays, and that I keep asking God to help me with my being tired, she said: "Stop!" She was reminding me to stop what I am doing to g...	mebjk	3	808	Jan 2, 2006 by tea2
	Nice day (Preview) It has been nice couple of days just chilling in the house. Been on the internet the past of days which is cool. I am happy that i will be able to be part of the martlon because i been shown a new way to go if there is a problem.	nycbt	1	458	Jan 2, 2006 by Flora123
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