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Took my A to rehab this morning. It was a sad and happy morning. I cried as I left, but was in a surprisingly good mood today. I think alot of it had to do with my own ability to let go. I let go to some extent four months ago when I made him leave. I was happy today because I was able to keep it together all this time. I was happy today that I spent last night without anger and I told you so's but with love and understanding and detachment. I was happy today that I was able not to feel any anxiety about not speaking with him for the next few weeks. I was happy today that we spent the nicest night together than we have in probably a year. I was happy today that I have shown myself progress. I was happy today that I found my HP. I was happy today that could share this on this board. Thanks again.
Such a cool post..... Regardless of what the future holds for you, him, or you two as a couple - embrace that feeling you have today, as you have every right to feel good about today!! Well done!
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
Awesome job! Take this time for you, knowing that he is somewhere safe and getting help. So glad that you were able to have a nice visit before he went in.
I feel good for you, I see both of you making progress. This may be a rough time for you because of the unknowns involved in his recovery and the misunderstandings you may unknowingly run into because you two are in such different emotional places right now. I know this from first hand experience, and it destroyed my marriage. If I can help guide you through some of this, please let me know. I am more than willing to help another couple get through early sobriety together. I can only offer my ES&H, but maybe I can present things from the 'other side' that you may have no idea about as it's going on.
I wish that someone with experience had helped my wife (and me) through that period, it may have saved us a lot of heartache. Unfortunatly, most of the advice she was given was "protect yourself at all cost" and "how much more will you put up with this." She let the hurts of the past and fear of the future interfere with the present. She never let recovery happen in it's own time because of this, and we are both regretting it today. I'm not saying that I didn't make mistakes, but I was so wrapped up in my recovery, I didn't understand what she was going through at the time either.
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