Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

mebjk · mebjk

My family is mostly gone now, and my husband and I have no children. The family we really have left is my sister, who is one of my qualifiers. After many, many years I have finally accepted that the relationship she and i have is going to be the one we have forever, as sad as that makes me. For most of my life I f...

Alone · Alone

I'm new here, I went to the 12 step forum and read step one, I get that I am powerless over my A's drinking but why am I powerless over the effect it has on me? If I could change how the things he does and says while drinking effects me then maybe my life wouldn't feell like it's spinning out of control.&...

confused · confused

It is amazing how an alcoholic cannot understand that everything they are saying is working against the purpose for which they are saying it. The discahrge came through yesterday. I went ahead with lunch plans with a fried before going to pick up my husband. He had been indesicisive about when he woul...

angelinme908 · angelinme908

I was reading over posts and noted that someone was told it is better to not make any changes in the first 6 months of being in Alanon. I heartily agree but find that I have no choice in the matter of changes in my own life. I wish that 6 months of recovery could have passed before these changes b...

Lindy · Lindy

What a surprise; my husband was drinking himself stupid again over the Christmas weekend. At least there was no fighting or screaming. On Saturday night we went to a Christmas party. He can't just drink a little, have some good conversation, etc. He has to drink until he's obnoxious and he started pic...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

TUESDAY , DECEMBER 27, 2005 You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=1271>. Near the Top I know you're tired. I know you feel overwhelmed. You may feel as though this crisis, this problem, this hard time will last forever.It won...

gardengal · gardengal

I am interested in how the men in the treatment center reacted to recieving the cards?...........Thank you ,,,,,,,,,,,,gardengal

Joycie · Joycie

well first of all my parents are both A's and divorced, this year I was with my mama for christmas, and this year, my dad didn't even call me, on christmas eve or christmas day. I am so totally hurt by that, I mean maybe he just forgot or maybe he took a turn for the worst I dont know what do... I dont know anythi...

nycbt · nycbt

java is not working.

Robinks · Robinks

Hi I didn't share this in the meeting but I have another resentment. My step son's showed up yesterday with no gifts. They are 22 and 24 years old and have jobs and money and perfectly capable of bringing gifts. This year I bugged my husband until he bought and wrapped one gift for them. I won't do that next...

AlaMom · AlaMom

I sincerely hope that everyone was able to find some peace during the stress of Christmas. Now that the new year is fast approaching (where did the last one go?) so many of us make annual resolutions. I while trying to find a topic to chair on for my f2f tonight had a thought I wanted to shar...

beans · beans

So my A says he has stopped drinking (like where and when have I heard THAT before?!) And he expects everything to be just hunky-dory between us. I know from past experience that things will be okay, peaceful for a bit and then just as I start to relax--BAM--he'll be back drinking and all he...

Cyn · Cyn

Ok - so I went back to my parents house last night and spent it with my family because I realized how important my niece is to me and that my parents were not going to control that relationship either by making my night miserable. It was an empowering feeling to know I could have gone home and just enj...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

today was just messed up. last night (well this morning) 2am or so a decided to stop buy while totally strung out on coke. he just wanted to use the phone. i was amazingly calm. i said you are on coke and he said yes. he said i just need the phone. so he used the phone to call balance on credit card, wanted more c...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well my mom called and is not coming over tonight. said she wont get back into town till later. im sad about this. i thought id at least get to see someone today. she says she'll come over tomorrow. but i was really looking forward to seeing her. but now its another night of staying up all night then when i ca...

hopeful · hopeful

I have an endless list of thing s i am grateful for. Firstly Iam gratefuul for my higher power for loving me unconditionally even when my life seemed doomed. I am grateful for this fellowshop for its many gifts it has brought my way such as the serenity prayer which seems very handy whenever fears...

sandie123 · sandie123

I am not sure why I am so stubborned? My Christmas went surprisingly well but today I am going to possibly mess that up. I am going to my aunt’s house and my cousin, who abused me for many years, will be there. I want to go to see some of my cousins however I know from my child within there is a lot of fear abo...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

A.A. Thought for the Day I need the A.A. principles for the development of the buried life within me, that good life, which I had misplaced, but which I found again in this fellowship. This life within me is developing slowly but surely, with many setbacks, many mistakes, many failures, but still...

confused · confused

Not doing so great right now and I cannot get in to the chat. My husband will probaby be discharged today. He asked if I would pick him up. I had told myself that if he was not going into treatment, I would not do this. I did not tell him that in advance and now don't know what to do. He is not coming home, except t...

WorriedOne · WorriedOne

I was dating my A for almost 2 years. It took me probably 8 months or more to begin to even allow myself to think that he had a problem. I guess I was in total denial...he seemed to be the perfect guy for me at first and I fell fast and hard....I'm in my 30s, so falling for someone like that doesn't...

Rebecca · Rebecca

where do i start..... ..... trying to get throu this xmas was the worst ever! trying to pretend i was happy and carefree when my mind was going round in circles. all i kept thinking was how different last xmas was. ..when my then boyf. arrived on xmas night at 8 after telling me he was staying at...

Cyn · Cyn

I am bawling in my office on Christmas Day because I am realizing how incredibly emotionally screwed up my entire life has been. I am only recently realizing I have been emotionally abused my entire life - and my heart hurts so much. I know I am strong enough to be ok with myself - getting str...

sunny1 · sunny1

Hi all wow when you have no expectations it is amazing what can happen. The past few days have been really great for me and my children. Im blessed to be an active member of Alanon. with the tools that I have been learning, they have helped me to achieve the peace that I was looking fo...

Jennifer · Jennifer

My A came home after my long weekend I wanted alone and I can honestly say I was not as happy to see him as I thought I would be, I am not unhappy he is here ... just a strange numbness. It's a new feeling. I am praying to my HP to keep me standing and to give me the strength needed to let myself and him live in peace....

leo · leo

Hi hope you guys can help I need some direction. Because I don't have al-anon here I am winging it a bit sometimes. I do still see the d/a counsellor for me once a month and I have a lady now writing to me from al-anon in another state but need help with the day to day things. My A hus...

Robinks · Robinks

Sorry I missed your leaving. Send me a private message and I will give you my email address so we can stay in touch. Take Care

megan · megan

For 14 years I celebrated Christmas the same way. My husband and I would share our gifts, I would prepare a turkey dinner and bake cookies and we shared the day together, isolated from our family and friends. And by 4pm Christmas day my alcoholic husband would be passed out drunk...

Cyn · Cyn

Now that I have been involved with Alanon for the past month - my eyes are opening up SOOOO widely its amazing. I am sitting at my parents house for Christmas - been here since yesterday making cookies for my coworkers (they have an enormous kitchen) and watching the interaction between my fight...

pattyann1963 · pattyann1963

chat room wont let me in,just getting a blank page,i dont know whats going on.

confused · confused

Christmas day was not as bad as I had thougth it would be. We got up and went to sunrise service and then came home and opened some gifts. My sister in law made a special trip to come up to give me a gift even though I would be seeing her later and we do secret santa with my in-laws, she had bought the gift just to b...

flumpy · flumpy

HIYA ALL

. SORRY TO SOUND SO 'ME ME ME' BUT I JUST WONDERD IF ANY OF YOU HAD ANY GOOD ADVICE FOR SOMEONE WITH DEPRESSION, TIP'S ON WHAT TO DO ECT, AS I HAVE JUST BEEN TOLD THAT I AM INFACT SUFFERING WITH 'DEPRESSION'! AND NOT TOO KEEN ON TAKING MEDICATION FOR IT IF I CAN AVOID IT. ANY HELP/...

Rosesarered · Rosesarered

Good morning everyone, I am new here,but not new to alcoholism. I the wife of an alcoholic for 33years.I am hoping to make friends here. I have 5 grown children,and 8 grandkids..all live out of state from us.I am hoping to be able to understand the disease,and get over the anger and hurt I have over my hus...

confused · confused

The day is finally upon us. My sons and I went to church service last night and I cried through the entire thing. I hope I did not embarass my sons. It seems to be the place that I let go and cry, uncontrollably. Very few people there no what is going on and only the pastor knows where my A is today, sooo god only...

Kim · Kim

Christmas Eve, which had been traditionally my holiday to do (I'm Italian and since my mother's death I had taken over the fish feast)...but this year we decided to go out to dinner and at first Iwas upset...then I realized it would give me a much needed break, which it was. MY parents had wanted to me to s...

onlyacousin · onlyacousin

I'm spending some of my holidays with my cousins. Big time problems. Cousin A is a registered nurse. Cousin B is a double amputee, thanks to a rare condition known as necrotizing fasciitis (a.k.a. "flesh-eating bacteria"). She's lucky to be alive, and Cousin A is the reason she's alive. Cousin A is a v...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i had a nice nap but woke up and realized that my situation is real. im here alone on friggin xmas eve. all family members on my a's side have been phoning here and showing up here to drop off presents. i havent said anything yet that he isnt here anymore. im feeling very lonely right now. i tried to call my fr...

captcodee · captcodee

Alright, this is the way it is. Tonight is Christmas Eve, I have two small children. I am a freak who doesn't want to do any christmas. I know there were women posting here that were upset that they couldn't give their children Christmas, well, then come and trade places with me. My Husband...

Joycie · Joycie

I am so close to just giving up, I am tired of living with alcoholic parents, my dad is in recovery, and my mom is an alky she just won't addmit it yet, hpoefully one day she will...I try so hard to cope with everything around here, I am quiet and out of the way, I just don't knw what to do, what to say, I want to he...

Alan · Alan

Thanx I am Jewish & my wife (qualifier) has celebrated Xmas her entire life. When her folks were still alive we would visit with our young kids & gourge on opening presents. This is how most of our family xmas's have also been. This year we discussed & agreed o...

sandie123 · sandie123

Christmas has been very different this year for me. First and formost my husband, my A, in not in the house. Second, On Christmas Eve we had my daughter's boyfrined's family over for dinner, before church. I don't host very often so I was real nervous. I only messed up 2 of the four things I cooke...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

yesterday i was going back and forth in my mind if i did the right things in asking my a to get out of my life. i definatly know i did make the right choice. today when i spoke to him i asked when he was coming to get his familie's gifts that were here and he just screamed at me the whole time and said he didnt care t...

Feather · Feather

Hi All! Now it is Boxing Day here and and I am loving it! A day to simply relax, everyone can just help themselves to left-overs if and when they are hungry. I wasn't able to sleep in this morning, as my eldest daughter had to start work at 9am but one advantage was that I was able to pick up s...

Fairierose · Fairierose

I am new here. I want to tell my guy (who is an alcoholic) that I do not love him anymore and want him to move out but I hate being that mean to him; especially this time of year. We have been together for a year and a half. He didn't drink for awhile and when he started he didn't drink much but now it is all the time...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

im very proud of myself. my a tried to manipulate me into staying here for the night. i almost caved in but then stood my ground. also did not get angry. everytime i spoke with him i remained calm. i feel wonderful.

cloud · cloud

Hey all cloud here hope you are all well that dang santa by damn did not bring me a new pc but I will have it up and running soon my brother is working on it!!! Blue, Bob, Josey, Dave, Kiss, TT, Mastiff, My smore girl LOL U know who u are, Megan, CDB, Goat boy He he and All and my swan Maria I love and miss u so much no... >

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

This morning a few minutes ago I tried to get into the chat room and the only thing that keeps popping up is "alanon chat: channel by invitation only" or something like that. What's going on with the chat room?

toto12 · toto12

Hi John, Did you do something? Well, chatroom is working now. Danke Oz, whoever, wherever you are (behind the curtain???) toto

toto12 · toto12

Hi John, Downloaded new java version and restarted but that isn't the problem, evidently. Lets me in just for meeting (your time morning meeting) Tried later to reenter and got server messages again. same thing yesterday. and now?? help???! thank you for answering and t...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, I'm not sure if I will have time to post later. So I figured I would do it now. Have to get ready for the 4pm childrens mass. I wish all of you who celebrate Christmas, Hanuka, Kwanza or any of the Holidays, wonderful holidays. Enjoy the holidays and the time with your families. Thois...

Kim · Kim

I didn't think it would happen, I have little faith, but he's still there. The last time he didn't last 24 hours. When he checked in, he saw his chart and the date. It said 8/14. He cried and said it made him realize if he would've stayed he might be home now, for Christmas. However, his option...

Cyn · Cyn

Ok since coming to Alanon - I've been learning to stand up for myself and not allow people to abuse me and to set boundaries. Well today I snapped. I was at my parents house and I couldnt take it anymore. While I was posting another post before - the sink erupted at my house. My fa...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

can someone tell me what mirc is?

iona54 · iona54

Dear John, is there a prob with mirc and java at the mo for this alanon chat room? Hugs Iona54

toto12 · toto12

Hi When i try to go into the chat room, i get nothing, just a screen on which it says "server messages" Where are you? Does this happen on Christmas? Little computer elves? help again John, oh great oz toto

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

why isnt the chatroom letting me in? i need it so much right now.

hail · hail

Hi, I'm Holly. I am experiencing an extremely difficult time in my life right now. I have been married to my husband for one year (on 12/11, to be exact), and it's been an up and down journey for both of us. He has been in outpatient recovery treatment programs twice (pr...

KathyS · KathyS

I wanted to just take a moment and wish each and everyone of you a Happy Holiday. Everyone of you here is important to me, both the new members and the long time ones. You are all a part of my recovery and I thank you for that. I pray this year ahead brings us all health, happiness and proserity. ...

Jill · Jill

I stayed in town this year. My husband (the Hindu) has no history of celebrating Christmas other than what I have shown him. This year we're doing what I like. The parties were over the past few weeks. Cooking was minimal, but we shopped for almost-prepared food and finished cooking it at home. Great id...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

im so hurt right now by everything. my a didnt come home yet and its quarter after nine pm. its supposed to be our christmas together. im supposed to go out of town tomarow to see relatives but now i cant face them. i tried to talk about this in chatroom but felt like no one cares. what do i do? i literaally fee...

leo · leo

Hi everyone thinking of you all the clock has just struck 12.00am in Australia so Merry Xmas wherever you are. For those of you on your own you are not alone with all your friends here. Best wishes. Luv Leo x

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	boundaries with family (Preview) My family is mostly gone now, and my husband and I have no children. The family we really have left is my sister, who is one of my qualifiers. After many, many years I have finally accepted that the relationship she and i have is going to be the one we have forever, as sad as that makes me. For most of my life I f...	mebjk	2	254	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	totally exhausted (Preview) I'm new here, I went to the 12 step forum and read step one, I get that I am powerless over my A's drinking but why am I powerless over the effect it has on me? If I could change how the things he does and says while drinking effects me then maybe my life wouldn't feell like it's spinning out of control.&...	Alone	6	302	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	it did not go so well (Preview) It is amazing how an alcoholic cannot understand that everything they are saying is working against the purpose for which they are saying it. The discahrge came through yesterday. I went ahead with lunch plans with a fried before going to pick up my husband. He had been indesicisive about when he woul...	confused	3	392	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	Wait 6 months!?! (Preview) I was reading over posts and noted that someone was told it is better to not make any changes in the first 6 months of being in Alanon. I heartily agree but find that I have no choice in the matter of changes in my own life. I wish that 6 months of recovery could have passed before these changes b...	angelinme908	6	331	Dec 28, 2005 by angelinme908
	Another alcoholic Christmas at my house (Preview) What a surprise; my husband was drinking himself stupid again over the Christmas weekend. At least there was no fighting or screaming. On Saturday night we went to a Christmas party. He can't just drink a little, have some good conversation, etc. He has to drink until he's obnoxious and he started pic...	Lindy	5	416	Dec 28, 2005 by maresie
	long share on "climbing the mountain" (Preview) *TUESDAY , DECEMBER 27, 2005 You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=1271>.* Near the Top** I know you're tired. I know you feel overwhelmed. You may feel as though this crisis, this problem, this hard time will last forever.It won...	rosie light shines	1	472	Dec 28, 2005 by leo
	John, interested to know about the cards?? (Preview) I am interested in how the men in the treatment center reacted to recieving the cards?...........Thank you ,,,,,,,,,,,,gardengal	gardengal	0	293	Dec 28, 2005 by gardengal
	Sad Sad christmas (Preview) well first of all my parents are both A's and divorced, this year I was with my mama for christmas, and this year, my dad didn't even call me, on christmas eve or christmas day. I am so totally hurt by that, I mean maybe he just forgot or maybe he took a turn for the worst I dont know what do... I dont know anythi...	Joycie	8	631	Dec 28, 2005 by Karilynn
	not working (Preview) java is not working.	nycbt	1	269	Dec 28, 2005 by chris52
	More Resentments (Preview) Hi I didn't share this in the meeting but I have another resentment. My step son's showed up yesterday with no gifts. They are 22 and 24 years old and have jobs and money and perfectly capable of bringing gifts. This year I bugged my husband until he bought and wrapped one gift for them. I won't do that next...	Robinks	10	334	Dec 28, 2005 by Robinks
	Resolutions (Preview) I sincerely hope that everyone was able to find some peace during the stress of Christmas. Now that the new year is fast approaching (where did the last one go?) so many of us make annual resolutions. I while trying to find a topic to chair on for my f2f tonight had a thought I wanted to shar...	AlaMom	3	235	Dec 28, 2005 by Barbara
	How to start over--again? (Preview) So my A says he has stopped drinking (like where and when have I heard THAT before?!) And he expects everything to be just hunky-dory between us. I know from past experience that things will be okay, peaceful for a bit and then just as I start to relax--BAM--he'll be back drinking and all he...	beans	4	320	Dec 28, 2005 by abbyal
	Not sure how I feel about it all (Preview) Ok - so I went back to my parents house last night and spent it with my family because I realized how important my niece is to me and that my parents were not going to control that relationship either by making my night miserable. It was an empowering feeling to know I could have gone home and just enj...	Cyn	4	261	Dec 28, 2005 by mebjk
	what a day (Preview) today was just messed up. last night (well this morning) 2am or so a decided to stop buy while totally strung out on coke. he just wanted to use the phone. i was amazingly calm. i said you are on coke and he said yes. he said i just need the phone. so he used the phone to call balance on credit card, wanted more c...	notsonew1111	2	262	Dec 27, 2005 by maresie
	i want this day to be over (Preview) well my mom called and is not coming over tonight. said she wont get back into town till later. im sad about this. i thought id at least get to see someone today. she says she'll come over tomorrow. but i was really looking forward to seeing her. but now its another night of staying up all night then when i ca...	notsonew1111	5	740	Dec 27, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Gratitude (Preview) I have an endless list of thing s i am grateful for. Firstly Iam gratefuul for my higher power for loving me unconditionally even when my life seemed doomed. I am grateful for this fellowshop for its many gifts it has brought my way such as the serenity prayer which seems very handy whenever fears...	hopeful	3	282	Dec 27, 2005 by rosie light shines
	heading into dangerous territiory (Preview) I am not sure why I am so stubborned? My Christmas went surprisingly well but today I am going to possibly mess that up. I am going to my aunt’s house and my cousin, who abused me for many years, will be there. I want to go to see some of my cousins however I know from my child within there is a lot of fear abo...	sandie123	4	310	Dec 27, 2005 by rosie light shines
	you BET i am worthy!!!!! (Preview) A.A. Thought for the Day I need the A.A. principles for the development of the buried life within me, that good life, which I had misplaced, but which I found again in this fellowship. This life within me is developing slowly but surely, with many setbacks, many mistakes, many failures, but still...	rosie light shines	1	214	Dec 27, 2005 by notsonew1111
	it will always control me (Preview) Not doing so great right now and I cannot get in to the chat. My husband will probaby be discharged today. He asked if I would pick him up. I had told myself that if he was not going into treatment, I would not do this. I did not tell him that in advance and now don't know what to do. He is not coming home, except t...	confused	7	324	Dec 27, 2005 by notsonew1111
	New to loving an A.... (Preview) I was dating my A for almost 2 years. It took me probably 8 months or more to begin to even allow myself to think that he had a problem. I guess I was in total denial...he seemed to be the perfect guy for me at first and I fell fast and hard....I'm in my 30s, so falling for someone like that doesn't...	WorriedOne	8	441	Dec 27, 2005 by lin0606
	This xmas was the worst by far!! (Preview) where do i start..... ..... trying to get throu this xmas was the worst ever! trying to pretend i was happy and carefree when my mind was going round in circles. all i kept thinking was how different last xmas was. ..when my then boyf. arrived on xmas night at 8 after telling me he was staying at...	Rebecca	7	570	Dec 27, 2005 by Joycie
	Never knew how messed up I was (Preview) I am bawling in my office on Christmas Day because I am realizing how incredibly emotionally screwed up my entire life has been. I am only recently realizing I have been emotionally abused my entire life - and my heart hurts so much. I know I am strong enough to be ok with myself - getting str...	Cyn	3	366	Dec 27, 2005 by maresie
	what a christmas (Preview) Hi all wow when you have no expectations it is amazing what can happen. The past few days have been really great for me and my children. Im blessed to be an active member of Alanon. with the tools that I have been learning, they have helped me to achieve the peace that I was looking fo...	sunny1	2	260	Dec 27, 2005 by maresie
	Where I am today (Preview) My A came home after my long weekend I wanted alone and I can honestly say I was not as happy to see him as I thought I would be, I am not unhappy he is here ... just a strange numbness. It's a new feeling. I am praying to my HP to keep me standing and to give me the strength needed to let myself and him live in peace....	Jennifer	1	288	Dec 27, 2005 by maresie
	direction (Preview) Hi hope you guys can help I need some direction. Because I don't have al-anon here I am winging it a bit sometimes. I do still see the d/a counsellor for me once a month and I have a lady now writing to me from al-anon in another state but need help with the day to day things. My A hus...	leo	11	355	Dec 27, 2005 by Jennifer
	Ricksgirl (Preview) Sorry I missed your leaving. Send me a private message and I will give you my email address so we can stay in touch. Take Care	Robinks	0	230	Dec 27, 2005 by Robinks
	Christmas past and present (Preview) For 14 years I celebrated Christmas the same way. My husband and I would share our gifts, I would prepare a turkey dinner and bake cookies and we shared the day together, isolated from our family and friends. And by 4pm Christmas day my alcoholic husband would be passed out drunk...	megan	7	299	Dec 27, 2005 by pixel04
	Realizations during Christmas (Preview) Now that I have been involved with Alanon for the past month - my eyes are opening up SOOOO widely its amazing. I am sitting at my parents house for Christmas - been here since yesterday making cookies for my coworkers (they have an enormous kitchen) and watching the interaction between my fight...	Cyn	3	400	Dec 27, 2005 by pixel04
	help i cant get in chat room (Preview) chat room wont let me in,just getting a blank page,i dont know whats going on.	pattyann1963	1	286	Dec 26, 2005 by notsonew1111
	need to follow through for me (Preview) Christmas day was not as bad as I had thougth it would be. We got up and went to sunrise service and then came home and opened some gifts. My sister in law made a special trip to come up to give me a gift even though I would be seeing her later and we do secret santa with my in-laws, she had bought the gift just to b...	confused	2	274	Dec 26, 2005 by notsonew1111
	DEPRESSION (Preview) HIYA ALL. SORRY TO SOUND SO 'ME ME ME' BUT I JUST WONDERD IF ANY OF YOU HAD ANY GOOD ADVICE FOR SOMEONE WITH DEPRESSION, TIP'S ON WHAT TO DO ECT, AS I HAVE JUST BEEN TOLD THAT I AM INFACT SUFFERING WITH 'DEPRESSION'! AND NOT TOO KEEN ON TAKING MEDICATION FOR IT IF I CAN AVOID IT. ANY HELP/...	flumpy	19	618	Dec 26, 2005 by WorriedOne
	New here (Preview) Good morning everyone, I am new here,but not new to alcoholism. I the wife of an alcoholic for 33years.I am hoping to make friends here. I have 5 grown children,and 8 grandkids..all live out of state from us.I am hoping to be able to understand the disease,and get over the anger and hurt I have over my hus...	Rosesarered	7	301	Dec 26, 2005 by Rebecca
	I will make it through today! (Preview) The day is finally upon us. My sons and I went to church service last night and I cried through the entire thing. I hope I did not embarass my sons. It seems to be the place that I let go and cry, uncontrollably. Very few people there no what is going on and only the pastor knows where my A is today, sooo god only...	confused	6	353	Dec 26, 2005 by maresie
	Christmas was good (Preview) Christmas Eve, which had been traditionally my holiday to do (I'm Italian and since my mother's death I had taken over the fish feast)...but this year we decided to go out to dinner and at first Iwas upset...then I realized it would give me a much needed break, which it was. MY parents had wanted to me to s...	Kim	5	284	Dec 26, 2005 by canadianguy
	Newbie: Drug, alcohol dependency, & Christmas (Preview) I'm spending some of my holidays with my cousins. Big time problems. Cousin A is a registered nurse. Cousin B is a double amputee, thanks to a rare condition known as necrotizing fasciitis (a.k.a. "flesh-eating bacteria"). She's lucky to be alive, and Cousin A is the reason she's alive. Cousin A is a v...	onlyacousin	4	291	Dec 26, 2005 by onlyacousin
	this is getting hard (Preview) i had a nice nap but woke up and realized that my situation is real. im here alone on friggin xmas eve. all family members on my a's side have been phoning here and showing up here to drop off presents. i havent said anything yet that he isnt here anymore. im feeling very lonely right now. i tried to call my fr...	notsonew1111	6	384	Dec 26, 2005 by maresie
	The TRUTH about Captcodee (Preview) Alright, this is the way it is. Tonight is Christmas Eve, I have two small children. I am a freak who doesn't want to do any christmas. I know there were women posting here that were upset that they couldn't give their children Christmas, well, then come and trade places with me. My Husband...	captcodee	8	601	Dec 26, 2005 by maresie
	Whats the point... (Preview) I am so close to just giving up, I am tired of living with alcoholic parents, my dad is in recovery, and my mom is an alky she just won't addmit it yet, hpoefully one day she will...I try so hard to cope with everything around here, I am quiet and out of the way, I just don't knw what to do, what to say, I want to he...	Joycie	8	355	Dec 26, 2005 by maresie
	Small thing? why so sad, whats my part? (Preview) Thanx I am Jewish & my wife (qualifier) has celebrated Xmas her entire life. When her folks were still alive we would visit with our young kids & gourge on opening presents. This is how most of our family xmas's have also been. This year we discussed & agreed o...	Alan	5	279	Dec 26, 2005 by maresie
	Christmas (Preview) Christmas has been very different this year for me. First and formost my husband, my A, in not in the house. Second, On Christmas Eve we had my daughter's boyfrined's family over for dinner, before church. I don't host very often so I was real nervous. I only messed up 2 of the four things I cooke...	sandie123	2	227	Dec 26, 2005 by maresie
	i did the right thing (Preview) yesterday i was going back and forth in my mind if i did the right things in asking my a to get out of my life. i definatly know i did make the right choice. today when i spoke to him i asked when he was coming to get his familie's gifts that were here and he just screamed at me the whole time and said he didnt care t...	notsonew1111	1	274	Dec 26, 2005 by maresie
	Merry Xmas from Australia! (Preview) Hi All! Now it is Boxing Day here and and I am loving it! A day to simply relax, everyone can just help themselves to left-overs if and when they are hungry. I wasn't able to sleep in this morning, as my eldest daughter had to start work at 9am but one advantage was that I was able to pick up s...	Feather	6	235	Dec 26, 2005 by maresie
	What to do?? (Preview) I am new here. I want to tell my guy (who is an alcoholic) that I do not love him anymore and want him to move out but I hate being that mean to him; especially this time of year. We have been together for a year and a half. He didn't drink for awhile and when he started he didn't drink much but now it is all the time...	Fairierose	5	355	Dec 26, 2005 by maresie
	progress made here (Preview) im very proud of myself. my a tried to manipulate me into staying here for the night. i almost caved in but then stood my ground. also did not get angry. everytime i spoke with him i remained calm. i feel wonderful.	notsonew1111	3	273	Dec 26, 2005 by maresie
	hey all my loves!!!!!! (Preview) Hey all cloud here hope you are all well that dang santa by damn did not bring me a new pc but I will have it up and running soon my brother is working on it!!! Blue, Bob, Josey, Dave, Kiss, TT, Mastiff, My smore girl LOL U know who u are, Megan, CDB, Goat boy He he and All and my swan Maria I love and miss u so much no... >	cloud	5	428	Dec 26, 2005 by bob6502
	Invitation only to get into chat room??? (Preview) This morning a few minutes ago I tried to get into the chat room and the only thing that keeps popping up is "alanon chat: channel by invitation only" or something like that. What's going on with the chat room?	DanaAngel	1	302	Dec 26, 2005 by Flora123
	update for John on chatroom (Preview) Hi John, Did you do something? Well, chatroom is working now. Danke Oz, whoever, wherever you are (behind the curtain???) toto	toto12	0	222	Dec 26, 2005 by toto12
	server messages again, John help (Preview) Hi John, Downloaded new java version and restarted but that isn't the problem, evidently. Lets me in just for meeting (your time morning meeting) Tried later to reenter and got server messages again. same thing yesterday. and now?? help???! thank you for answering and t...	toto12	2	251	Dec 26, 2005 by Flora123
	Holiday message (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm not sure if I will have time to post later. So I figured I would do it now. Have to get ready for the 4pm childrens mass. I wish all of you who celebrate Christmas, Hanuka, Kwanza or any of the Holidays, wonderful holidays. Enjoy the holidays and the time with your families. Thois...	Jeannie	6	255	Dec 26, 2005 by Karilynn
	my A has been inside three days (Preview) I didn't think it would happen, I have little faith, but he's still there. The last time he didn't last 24 hours. When he checked in, he saw his chart and the date. It said 8/14. He cried and said it made him realize if he would've stayed he might be home now, for Christmas. However, his option...	Kim	3	265	Dec 26, 2005 by Karilynn
	A plea for help!!! (Preview) Ok since coming to Alanon - I've been learning to stand up for myself and not allow people to abuse me and to set boundaries. Well today I snapped. I was at my parents house and I couldnt take it anymore. While I was posting another post before - the sink erupted at my house. My fa...	Cyn	8	372	Dec 26, 2005 by Vermont635
	question (Preview) can someone tell me what mirc is?	notsonew1111	1	266	Dec 25, 2005 by bcanuck
	john? (Preview) Dear John, is there a prob with mirc and java at the mo for this alanon chat room? Hugs Iona54	iona54	1	322	Dec 25, 2005 by John
	server messages?Oz?John? (Preview) Hi When i try to go into the chat room, i get nothing, just a screen on which it says "server messages" Where are you? Does this happen on Christmas? Little computer elves? help again John, oh great oz toto	toto12	3	284	Dec 25, 2005 by John
	i need the chatroom (Preview) why isnt the chatroom letting me in? i need it so much right now.	notsonew1111	3	246	Dec 25, 2005 by notsonew1111
	New to board...my story. (Preview) Hi, I'm Holly. I am experiencing an extremely difficult time in my life right now. I have been married to my husband for one year (on 12/11, to be exact), and it's been an up and down journey for both of us. He has been in outpatient recovery treatment programs twice (pr...	hail	5	292	Dec 25, 2005 by hail
	Happy Holidays to All (Preview) I wanted to just take a moment and wish each and everyone of you a Happy Holiday. Everyone of you here is important to me, both the new members and the long time ones. You are all a part of my recovery and I thank you for that. I pray this year ahead brings us all health, happiness and proserity. ...	KathyS	3	295	Dec 25, 2005 by Karilynn
	Simple Holidays (Preview) I stayed in town this year. My husband (the Hindu) has no history of celebrating Christmas other than what I have shown him. This year we're doing what I like. The parties were over the past few weeks. Cooking was minimal, but we shopped for almost-prepared food and finished cooking it at home. Great id...	Jill	2	312	Dec 25, 2005 by Alan
	can somebody please help me? (Preview) im so hurt right now by everything. my a didnt come home yet and its quarter after nine pm. its supposed to be our christmas together. im supposed to go out of town tomarow to see relatives but now i cant face them. i tried to talk about this in chatroom but felt like no one cares. what do i do? i literaally fee...	notsonew1111	4	388	Dec 25, 2005 by Diane43
	hi everyone (Preview) Hi everyone thinking of you all the clock has just struck 12.00am in Australia so Merry Xmas wherever you are. For those of you on your own you are not alone with all your friends here. Best wishes. Luv Leo x	leo	5	268	Dec 25, 2005 by Diane43
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