Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

ShellyM · ShellyM

So I turned off the magic $$$ supply for my husband...who is mostly sober, but as of late, not always. He has cirrhosis/end stage liver disease. He is not able to work. When I turned off the money fountain, which was big deal he had no money no job I have money and good job.. he decided to start selling expen...

joker · joker

Just wanted to provide an update. Since the abf had the talk with me last week, he seems to have changed his tune again. Yesterday, he said to me, don't worry about anything, everything is good. I just said ok and did not respond any further. Since we had the talk and he did says me and my daughter should fin...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 11 speaks about joining Al-Anon family groups and by dong so having finally" found a second family". In his new family we are accepted, just as we are. We don't have to pretend or wear a mask over our feelings. We can speak freely and know that our words will not lea...

Taraxacum · Taraxacum

Hello, I'm new to this group and just starting my alanon journey. Thank you for helping me sift through my thoughts and feelings. My husband is an alcoholic and though he has been dry for long stretches he has a lot of denial and does not want any kind of formal treatment or support in staying sober long te...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am proof that miracles happen. I was so lost & didn't even know it. Whenever I use the program for solutions to my problems, I am in tune to the blessings that often occur w o me always being aware. It is funny how all I have to do is open my eyes to see what is in front of me. So, I don't have to struggle as mu...

joker · joker

I found a lawyer for the house. I will be making an appointment next week to deal with the house. I will be doing what I can to protect me right now. I will be nice to BF, kind, but I will no longer be there for him anymore. Like I was told, let lawyer know, he had given you a lifestyle and money, which he deposit...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

You know I keep thinking I wonder if I'm going to win this mondo jackpot that is brewing based upon the financial craziness that is going on in my life. It's not awful .. it's not great however it could always be better. So I was suppose to get an automatic deposit to my checking account this week. For so...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This has been a week to remember after both of my program friends have had surgery on the same day. They are both recovering pretty well...It takes time. One had cataract surgery & the other had a hysterectomy. I am grateful to call them both friends & I love them dearly. So, I have to wait for my c...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

today, i think i stretched the technique of 'say what u mean and mean what u say' . Guypal is coming over and i was real shoert with him and im going to apologize as soon as he gets here. Not to get too detailed, being stronger now makes me brutally honest, more so than i ever was. I see my value[ despite my prob...

clhiod · clhiod

Hi everyone. I have been dating an alcoholic for five years, living together for about a year and a half. He went to rehab briefly in 2013 - only ten days. Got a DUI in fall of 2014 and spent December 2014 in rehab. For 2015, he was completely sober. Attended AA and a separate therapist, and everything was g...

joker · joker

My abf is still sober, 3 months and not working a program as he works in camp and all he does is work and sleep for up to 3 weeks at a time and then off work for 3 days and then back at work again. Since he got sober, its been a roller coaster. One day he has this plan, next day its this plan, and this plan. It constan...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 9. talk about our usual habit of looking outside of ourselves for approval. It points out that our projects may be very successful.but we do not feel good about anything unless it is acknowledged by others. It suggests that everyone does need an occasional pat on the ba...

Jerry F · Jerry F

However just for the day I am putting myself on a prayer list as necessary. The hotel my wife and I work at is closing shop at the end of the month and for the minute we don't have an idea "what's next"?? Its too early I know as we are still in the hotel mode and affected by the bad economy too. H...

missmeliss · missmeliss

My stupid broken foot is becoming a depressing reality rather than a novel reason to say"OMG can you believe this annoying thing that's happened?". I missed my first week of summer school due to not being able to walk. I'm less than thrilled about that. I haven't yet allowed myself to cons...

savannah7070 · savannah7070

So, I moved myself and my two daughters out of our home 4 weeks ago and peace beyond all understanding came rushing over the 3 of us! That was until my AH decided to dry out and sober up. When he is sober he is spot on husband and father whom I dearly love! But, now that he's been sober without the help of AA for 2...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

im in my apartment and except for some bugs[roaches to work out.its pretty cool.i breathe smoke fee potfree vodka free air. i can do what i want and only answer to myself.alot of details need to be taken care of but YEAH for me.alanon meeting only 10 mins by bus on same line away.i even met a pre marriage fr...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

I had a super day today. Went for job interview at place i want to work, just 5 mins away. Cross your fingers for me pals... Did grocery shopping,came home on bus. listened to some awesome tunes. did some couponing. waiting to see if new male friend hee hee calls. Im going to make dinner for him tomorow nit...

sosick79 · sosick79

Let me first start by saying that I have just created an account to ask for help because I am so ashamed of what I have done that I don't want to tell my sponsor. I am actually in NarAnon, but there is no NarAnon board here, so I hope this is ok. The steps are the same, so I figure maybe you can offer some advice...

needabreak · needabreak

Hi Everyone, I have gotten to the point where I just need to find a sponsor and work the program. I don't know if this is possible online. I have tried to go to meetings in my area (there are only 2 a week) but I can't find the location of one of them and I am not getting enough support where I am at. I had a sponso...

LaceyD26 · LaceyD26

Hi everyone, as you can see from the subject I'm new here and just starting out on my journey to try and help myself after all the problems I have had in dealing with my mother since a young age. I guess I just need to know that I'm not the only one out there dealing with these issues and I'm hoping to be able t...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 8 speaks about the slogan,"Letting Go and Letting God. " It points out that once we finally understand how truly powerless,we are, we can then pick up the slogan and truly let go of our fear, anxiety, and constant need to control by turning it all over to HP and...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 7, speaks about the Just For Today pamphlet. . It points out that the suggestion that "Just for today we will have a quiet half hour all by ourselves to relax, is a very important recommendation. The reading acknowledges " How simple it sounds"!!! &quo...

Hopefully Optimistic · Hopefully Optimistic

I used to have an account here, but lost the password so I started a new one. My husband is an active functioning alcoholic and we have 3 young children. He has been active with a 2 year stretch of sobriety almost 8 years ago. I call him functioning because no one can tell he's an alcoholic, it is always i...

Doingmybest · Doingmybest

To begin, I have been married for over 20 years to a very serious AH. He had one (dry) period of 6 months several years ago and has been "sober" for the last nine months (working the program for the first time). He and I had become quite the love/hate relationship with a few weeks of half way d...

Doingmybest · Doingmybest

As I was reading another post today, I saw a statement about having the courage to face the things we have been hiding away. (This is not an exact quote). For me, I find that secrets are like a a slow spreading poison. They damage everyone and I don't do well with them. My biggest issue is that I don't ofte...

Hopefull15 · Hopefull15

This is.the most access/time Ive had to post on here and to take in all of the wonderful shares and suggestions. Ive eluded in previous posts that my AH and I are waring over money right now. He's lost several jobs in a very short timespan leaving me to struggle to keep things afloat for our family of 4. He'...

Jill · Jill

Whoever was the focus of my obsessions and frantic dancing to manipulate the outcome does not matter. I arrived at AlAnon completely in the middle of my own maladaptive behavior. My formula was to try harder doing and thinking my ineffectual way. It is I who needed help here. I am my own AlAnon qualifi...

ChipsAreFalling · ChipsAreFalling

I posted this on another forum but wanted your ESH as well. This is so hard for me to do! My AH is trying to get sober again (supposedly) and is on day 6 I think. I'm somewhat skeptical obviously but trying to support him. My problem is the jerky behavior is still an issue - another shut-down just happened th...

Hopefull15 · Hopefull15

Just had a revelation....When thinking back on the timeline of just the most recent events of deterioration in my family (not including what has transpired over the years in total)...Im am absolutly blown away at what felt like an eternity was really only events that transpired over a 12 month perio...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

So im moving out tomorrow . . My stbexah cheated multiple times over many years. Is begging for forgivenes, bla bla and saying he will change. We are proceeding with the divorce. My 11 yp daughter the love if my life blames me. "why cant you forgive. . What did he do. . ". . Shes knows of his drink...

KennyFenderjazz · KennyFenderjazz

Hi Everyone, The wife had what I hoped was a slip about a month-and-a-half ago. She bought a vodka bottle at the drugstore, and downed most of it a day later. I caught her in the garage trying to get more in the morning. It scared the daylights out of her, she was on the phone at 3 AM trying to raise her spon...

ShellyM · ShellyM

I have been to 5 meetings so far. I know that I am here to stay. Things finally reached the point where I had nowhere to turn but to myself - thank God. I've been working very hard at following the steps and reading the literature and attending the meeting near my home. From what I have learned, a lot of pro...

Hopefull15 · Hopefull15

He keeps coming home (after a full day of drinking) talking sh** and being a jerk. The more I ignore the more he keeps at it with little things like burning my pots trying to cook (for the second time in 24 hrs) Cant call my sponsor right now because I would need to leave the kids home alone with him in order to...

Foothold · Foothold

After six months of increasingly bad drinking and poor responsibility, last month we told my adult son that he could not return to live with us once he had left rehab (his third rehab in 2015). I have a good counselor and a supportive husband and family, but tonight it's late, everyone's asleep, and I'm...

EarlyBird · EarlyBird

My AH has been working to stay sober since April, with a relapse in August. He swears that he hasn't had a drink since I caught him last, in August. I'm trying really hard to believe him. Although, nights like last night is making it very difficult. He will have a night or two each week - usually the sam...

mjferg · mjferg

I will not let this latest news shatter me. I cried this morning,but now I am determined to help my daughter as much as I can.Her husband is going to prison for molesting my granddaughter,there is proof in his text messages. She is left with a terrible financial burden,she may lose her home,it isn't fai...

Joy2flow · Joy2flow

Good morning - my first post here - trying to wrap my head around my situation and not feeling like I'm getting very far. I'm scared and finding it hard to admit he is an AH. I'm angry - really angry that i'm having to deal with any of this. Is that normal? I think I still love my AH but at the same time I feel...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 6 reminds us that in between meetings we must keep in close touch with other Al-Anon members by telephone. Sharing Al-Anon recovery by telephone allows me to reach out to someone else and talk things over ton reason things out. .I must remember that the person I'm talki...

KT2015 · KT2015

I really like the just for today poem. I wrote it out and read it often. The part that really gets me is the part about "just for today I will take my luck as it comes and try to fit myself to it". It gets me because it wss such a forign concept to me. I've been waking up each morning and saying this to m...

mjferg · mjferg

As I sit here and type I am shaking,my granddaughter is telling the truth, she was molested.The family is coming together to support my daughter and my granddaughter,my heart is aching for my daughter,what a terrible thing to be betrayed like that by her husband,I can't imagine the pain.She is filin...

Carmel 15 · Carmel 15

My partner has now been out of rehab 3 weeks and I notice his behaviors are very similar as before he went in. He is not attending any meetings or seeing any workers just reading his workbooks he says and making statements he will never drink again as he is now cured of that he is 100% sure. He is going witho...

lounap23 · lounap23

My GF has been in AA and sober for about 19 days. Is it ok to tell her I am proud of her? Or is there a way to communicate that and be supportive to her?

redhead805 · redhead805

I'm very concerned with my live in boyfriends drinking and I feel like I'm at the end of my rope. He's 31 and has been drinking every day for the last ten years, most days around 30 drinks. I'm so sad and frustrated and I don't know what to do. I love him so much...I want to help him, but sometimes I don't kn...

mjferg · mjferg

Just when things seemed to be getting better I get the most shocking news.My granddaughter went to the police and told them her stepfather,my daughter's husband, has been molesting her since she was 10 years old!!!He has been arrested and his statement was released on the news,he said,"It may...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Christmas Day, as I mentioned, ended up being an ABF-free affair. I decided I didn't want to spend hours and $$ going to see his family, he felt I'd stopped him from seeing his family (although he could have gotten in the car with his brother...whom he lives with!!) and things were thus kind of strained b...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

i was sitting in my new but roach ridden apartment tonite and feeling so werid. its like 24 yrs of living with my xah justlike slammed shut,walled up and seems so strange now that im gone from the situation. i dont get any calls from my xah and it feels so unreal or surreal and that is a puzzling and sometime...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- and Happy New Year! I hope 2016 is off to a good start for everybody. Today's reading of a focus on our phrase: "... in Al-Anon we discover that no situation is really hopeless". Like the writer, the first time I heard that spoken at a meeting I thought, 'well of cours...

tortuga · tortuga

Dear MIP i have been off the boards for quite some time, for I discovered the spiritual path that works well for me, and I wanted to be in the present and maybe look into the future, thats why I didn't come back much here to share, for I needed to make peace with the past and be silent about it, i was so happy and...

Jazzie18 · Jazzie18

I lost it on my AH who has been sober for going on 7 months. Found a nip in his jacket pocket. I know I should have stopped and thought before reacting but it just pissed me off so much and I had to show it to him and ask him what this was. His immediate response was that he had been cleaning out the garage and f...

Rinn · Rinn

Also I have been telling my brother about alanon for years. He has seen this crazy change in me... ( you know peace and a one day at a time attitude.) Anyway he calls for advice sometimes and yesterday I told him you know you just need to accept your relationship (a healthy one, after being in an unhealthy...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I started my journey 30 years today! I am blessed to have stuck w/ the program! I don't know how many of you celebrate your recovery dates. I hope this post will make you remember when it was that you started your journey to wellness. This program works. My first meeting was very low-key. I had been to AA me...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Happy New Year to each of you within my MIP family. It's a new day in a new year and I am always grateful to be alive. There is something about a 'new start' that brings peace to me, and I am hoping to hold on to that one moment at a time, one day at a time. So, I thought - what better way to start a new year than a po...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 4 speaks about the tools of the program and haw simple. they can be. The reading talks about a person first coming into the program.,seeing everyone with some degree of serenity and asking how can I accomplish the same. The answer is; go to meetings, share when you can, work...

psychszsd · psychszsd

My fiance is titrating off of methadone. He has become very distant and disconnected, depressed and anxious. He seems to just want to do his own thing. I am very supportive but this is really wearing me down. I have been a cushion for him for over a year, never pushing too hard, but lately I'm always upset...

sunflowers271 · sunflowers271

Hi! I am a Pre-K teacher at a Private Center and was working my last day of 2015 on Wednesday, Dec. 29 when my sister called me in hysterics. I am well aware of her issue with alcoholism and how bad it has been for at least 6 weeks. She has had issues with substance abuse in the past and has been in rehab sever...

justme1900 · justme1900

I have been in and out of Alanon since I was 19 years old. More in than out thank God. Though I had a major relapse 5 years ago but got myself back into the rooms. I had relocated to a new state for a Job and started going back to Alanon face to face meetings and I just didn't feel comfortable at...

HopeForJoy · HopeForJoy

Hello. I like reading through forums. I feel much similar issues. I am so confused right now, My AH and I have many children together, he comes home almost drunk every night only to finish off till he fall asleep sitting up then wakes between 2-4 am to grab another beer. It is very strong IPA beers that he l...

Mattie · Mattie

I thought by now that I was an old-timer who knows the ropes. I also got off easy in the alcoholism department, if you call any of the insanity and chaos easy. But I mean that my A has always been a binge drinker, so there are periods of non-drinking in between the episodes, sometimes months long. And he'...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for January 3 suggests that we should take the time to realize that we are writing our life story with every single second of each day. It suggests that if we want to see the movie (of our life) move in a positive direction, maybe we need to make some changes. We can do nothing to chan...

Bethany66 · Bethany66

I know this is probably a medical question, but I am concerned. Lately my AH is twitching while he sleeps to the point that it keeps me awake. It seems to be shortly after consuming large quantities of alcohol and coming to bed. The tremors last only a second but I watch his body twitch and his hands cle...

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	Serenity.. Where are you???? (Preview) So I turned off the magic $$$ supply for my husband...who is mostly sober, but as of late, not always. He has cirrhosis/end stage liver disease. He is not able to work. When I turned off the money fountain, which was big deal he had no money no job I have money and good job.. he decided to start selling expen...	ShellyM	4	624	Jan 11, 2016 by hotrod
	unreal what an alcoholic will say (Preview) Just wanted to provide an update. Since the abf had the talk with me last week, he seems to have changed his tune again. Yesterday, he said to me, don't worry about anything, everything is good. I just said ok and did not respond any further. Since we had the talk and he did says me and my daughter should fin...	joker	5	643	Jan 11, 2016 by YARNCRAZY
	Courage to Change Reading 1-11-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 11 speaks about joining Al-Anon family groups and by dong so having finally" found a second family". In his new family we are accepted, just as we are. We don't have to pretend or wear a mask over our feelings. We can speak freely and know that our words will not lea...	hotrod	4	733	Jan 11, 2016 by Taraxacum
	Help me think through healthy boundaries (Preview) Hello, I'm new to this group and just starting my alanon journey. Thank you for helping me sift through my thoughts and feelings. My husband is an alcoholic and though he has been dry for long stretches he has a lot of denial and does not want any kind of formal treatment or support in staying sober long te...	Taraxacum	13	880	Jan 11, 2016 by Taraxacum
	miracles do happen... just saying.ðŸ˜Š (Preview) I am proof that miracles happen. I was so lost & didn't even know it. Whenever I use the program for solutions to my problems, I am in tune to the blessings that often occur w o me always being aware. It is funny how all I have to do is open my eyes to see what is in front of me. So, I don't have to struggle as mu...	Hoot Nanny	3	638	Jan 10, 2016 by Iamhere
	quick update (Preview) I found a lawyer for the house. I will be making an appointment next week to deal with the house. I will be doing what I can to protect me right now. I will be nice to BF, kind, but I will no longer be there for him anymore. Like I was told, let lawyer know, he had given you a lifestyle and money, which he deposit...	joker	4	632	Jan 10, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	There are days and there are days .. lol (Preview) You know I keep thinking I wonder if I'm going to win this mondo jackpot that is brewing based upon the financial craziness that is going on in my life. It's not awful .. it's not great however it could always be better. So I was suppose to get an automatic deposit to my checking account this week. For so...	SerenityRUS	8	674	Jan 10, 2016 by Mirandac
	what a week it has been (Preview) This has been a week to remember after both of my program friends have had surgery on the same day. They are both recovering pretty well...It takes time. One had cataract surgery & the other had a hysterectomy. I am grateful to call them both friends & I love them dearly. So, I have to wait for my c...	Hoot Nanny	3	612	Jan 10, 2016 by Lyne
	todai i overdid alanon (Preview) today, i think i stretched the technique of 'say what u mean and mean what u say' . Guypal is coming over and i was real shoert with him and im going to apologize as soon as he gets here. Not to get too detailed, being stronger now makes me brutally honest, more so than i ever was. I see my value[ despite my prob...	YARNCRAZY	4	669	Jan 10, 2016 by Jerry F
	breaking up with alcoholic after relapse - any hope? (Preview) Hi everyone. I have been dating an alcoholic for five years, living together for about a year and a half. He went to rehab briefly in 2013 - only ten days. Got a DUI in fall of 2014 and spent December 2014 in rehab. For 2015, he was completely sober. Attended AA and a separate therapist, and everything was g...	clhiod	9	3096	Jan 9, 2016 by Heisenberg
	reality is painful (Preview) My abf is still sober, 3 months and not working a program as he works in camp and all he does is work and sleep for up to 3 weeks at a time and then off work for 3 days and then back at work again. Since he got sober, its been a roller coaster. One day he has this plan, next day its this plan, and this plan. It constan...	joker	3	640	Jan 9, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change Reading 1-9-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 9. talk about our usual habit of looking outside of ourselves for approval. It points out that our projects may be very successful.but we do not feel good about anything unless it is acknowledged by others. It suggests that everyone does need an occasional pat on the ba...	hotrod	3	2091	Jan 9, 2016 by Iamhere
	This isn't new for us as we discuss it often... (Preview) However just for the day I am putting myself on a prayer list as necessary. The hotel my wife and I work at is closing shop at the end of the month and for the minute we don't have an idea "what's next"?? Its too early I know as we are still in the hotel mode and affected by the bad economy too. H...	Jerry F	14	695	Jan 9, 2016 by Jerry F
	It is what it is. (Preview) My stupid broken foot is becoming a depressing reality rather than a novel reason to say"OMG can you believe this annoying thing that's happened?". I missed my first week of summer school due to not being able to walk. I'm less than thrilled about that. I haven't yet allowed myself to cons...	missmeliss	4	703	Jan 9, 2016 by Mirandac
	Oh the guilt!!!! What is wrong with me?! (Preview) So, I moved myself and my two daughters out of our home 4 weeks ago and peace beyond all understanding came rushing over the 3 of us! That was until my AH decided to dry out and sober up. When he is sober he is spot on husband and father whom I dearly love! But, now that he's been sober without the help of AA for 2...	savannah7070	10	676	Jan 9, 2016 by Hopefull15
	in myapartment (Preview) im in my apartment and except for some bugs[roaches to work out.its pretty cool.i breathe smoke fee potfree vodka free air. i can do what i want and only answer to myself.alot of details need to be taken care of but YEAH for me.alanon meeting only 10 mins by bus on same line away.i even met a pre marriage fr...	YARNCRAZY	8	690	Jan 9, 2016 by Jen61
	Good Day today (Preview) I had a super day today. Went for job interview at place i want to work, just 5 mins away. Cross your fingers for me pals... Did grocery shopping,came home on bus. listened to some awesome tunes. did some couponing. waiting to see if new male friend hee hee calls. Im going to make dinner for him tomorow nit...	YARNCRAZY	4	355	Jan 9, 2016 by Hopefull15
	Feel sick to my stomach (Preview) Let me first start by saying that I have just created an account to ask for help because I am so ashamed of what I have done that I don't want to tell my sponsor. I am actually in NarAnon, but there is no NarAnon board here, so I hope this is ok. The steps are the same, so I figure maybe you can offer some advice...	sosick79	6	645	Jan 8, 2016 by Mirandac
	hardly coping and constantly worried (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have gotten to the point where I just need to find a sponsor and work the program. I don't know if this is possible online. I have tried to go to meetings in my area (there are only 2 a week) but I can't find the location of one of them and I am not getting enough support where I am at. I had a sponso...	needabreak	5	782	Jan 8, 2016 by Mirandac
	new here (Preview) Hi everyone, as you can see from the subject I'm new here and just starting out on my journey to try and help myself after all the problems I have had in dealing with my mother since a young age. I guess I just need to know that I'm not the only one out there dealing with these issues and I'm hoping to be able t...	LaceyD26	4	548	Jan 8, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 1-8-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 8 speaks about the slogan,"Letting Go and Letting God. " It points out that once we finally understand how truly powerless,we are, we can then pick up the slogan and truly let go of our fear, anxiety, and constant need to control by turning it all over to HP and...	hotrod	4	626	Jan 8, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change Reading 1-7-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 7, speaks about the Just For Today pamphlet. . It points out that the suggestion that "Just for today we will have a quiet half hour all by ourselves to relax, is a very important recommendation. The reading acknowledges " How simple it sounds"!!! &quo...	hotrod	6	913	Jan 8, 2016 by 1911A1
	Back Again (Preview) I used to have an account here, but lost the password so I started a new one. My husband is an active functioning alcoholic and we have 3 young children. He has been active with a 2 year stretch of sobriety almost 8 years ago. I call him functioning because no one can tell he's an alcoholic, it is always i...	Hopefully Optimistic	4	670	Jan 8, 2016 by savannah7070
	Over the last year... (Preview) To begin, I have been married for over 20 years to a very serious AH. He had one (dry) period of 6 months several years ago and has been "sober" for the last nine months (working the program for the first time). He and I had become quite the love/hate relationship with a few weeks of half way d...	Doingmybest	5	760	Jan 8, 2016 by Enigmatic
	Secrets (Preview) As I was reading another post today, I saw a statement about having the courage to face the things we have been hiding away. (This is not an exact quote). For me, I find that secrets are like a a slow spreading poison. They damage everyone and I don't do well with them. My biggest issue is that I don't ofte...	Doingmybest	3	1012	Jan 8, 2016 by Doingmybest
	Should I ask him for money ?... (Preview) This is.the most access/time Ive had to post on here and to take in all of the wonderful shares and suggestions. Ive eluded in previous posts that my AH and I are waring over money right now. He's lost several jobs in a very short timespan leaving me to struggle to keep things afloat for our family of 4. He'...	Hopefull15	4	667	Jan 7, 2016 by Hopefull15
	My Qualifier (Preview) Whoever was the focus of my obsessions and frantic dancing to manipulate the outcome does not matter. I arrived at AlAnon completely in the middle of my own maladaptive behavior. My formula was to try harder doing and thinking my ineffectual way. It is I who needed help here. I am my own AlAnon qualifi...	Jill	3	1955	Jan 7, 2016 by Jerry F
	How to detach? (Preview) I posted this on another forum but wanted your ESH as well. This is so hard for me to do! My AH is trying to get sober again (supposedly) and is on day 6 I think. I'm somewhat skeptical obviously but trying to support him. My problem is the jerky behavior is still an issue - another shut-down just happened th...	ChipsAreFalling	7	1132	Jan 7, 2016 by Jerry F
	How time flies when we deal in daily chaos.... (Preview) Just had a revelation....When thinking back on the timeline of just the most recent events of deterioration in my family (not including what has transpired over the years in total)...Im am absolutly blown away at what felt like an eternity was really only events that transpired over a 12 month perio...	Hopefull15	2	404	Jan 7, 2016 by YARNCRAZY
	children divorce ah and infidelity (Preview) So im moving out tomorrow . . My stbexah cheated multiple times over many years. Is begging for forgivenes, bla bla and saying he will change. We are proceeding with the divorce. My 11 yp daughter the love if my life blames me. "why cant you forgive. . What did he do. . ". . Shes knows of his drink...	Theoceancalls	11	898	Jan 7, 2016 by savannah7070
	Relapse (Preview) Hi Everyone, The wife had what I hoped was a slip about a month-and-a-half ago. She bought a vodka bottle at the drugstore, and downed most of it a day later. I caught her in the garage trying to get more in the morning. It scared the daylights out of her, she was on the phone at 3 AM trying to raise her spon...	KennyFenderjazz	29	1023	Jan 7, 2016 by hotrod
	How does the next step work? (Preview) I have been to 5 meetings so far. I know that I am here to stay. Things finally reached the point where I had nowhere to turn but to myself - thank God. I've been working very hard at following the steps and reading the literature and attending the meeting near my home. From what I have learned, a lot of pro...	ShellyM	6	725	Jan 7, 2016 by Taraxacum
	Ready to Explode!!!...My AH is trying really hard to pick a fight (Preview) He keeps coming home (after a full day of drinking) talking sh** and being a jerk. The more I ignore the more he keeps at it with little things like burning my pots trying to cook (for the second time in 24 hrs) Cant call my sponsor right now because I would need to leave the kids home alone with him in order to...	Hopefull15	17	748	Jan 6, 2016 by Hopefull15
	New to forums, and having a tough night (Preview) After six months of increasingly bad drinking and poor responsibility, last month we told my adult son that he could not return to live with us once he had left rehab (his third rehab in 2015). I have a good counselor and a supportive husband and family, but tonight it's late, everyone's asleep, and I'm...	Foothold	6	584	Jan 6, 2016 by Foothold
	I'm Trying - but its getting harder (Preview) My AH has been working to stay sober since April, with a relapse in August. He swears that he hasn't had a drink since I caught him last, in August. I'm trying really hard to believe him. Although, nights like last night is making it very difficult. He will have a night or two each week - usually the sam...	EarlyBird	2	432	Jan 6, 2016 by hotrod
	courage (Preview) I will not let this latest news shatter me. I cried this morning,but now I am determined to help my daughter as much as I can.Her husband is going to prison for molesting my granddaughter,there is proof in his text messages. She is left with a terrible financial burden,she may lose her home,it isn't fai...	mjferg	5	605	Jan 6, 2016 by Iamhere
	Newbie here - scared & angry (Preview) Good morning - my first post here - trying to wrap my head around my situation and not feeling like I'm getting very far. I'm scared and finding it hard to admit he is an AH. I'm angry - really angry that i'm having to deal with any of this. Is that normal? I think I still love my AH but at the same time I feel...	Joy2flow	11	677	Jan 6, 2016 by Taraxacum
	Courage to Change Reading 1-6-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 6 reminds us that in between meetings we must keep in close touch with other Al-Anon members by telephone. Sharing Al-Anon recovery by telephone allows me to reach out to someone else and talk things over ton reason things out. .I must remember that the person I'm talki...	hotrod	2	570	Jan 6, 2016 by Taraxacum
	Taking my luck as it comes... (Preview) I really like the just for today poem. I wrote it out and read it often. The part that really gets me is the part about "just for today I will take my luck as it comes and try to fit myself to it". It gets me because it wss such a forign concept to me. I've been waking up each morning and saying this to m...	KT2015	7	760	Jan 6, 2016 by KennyFenderjazz
	its true (Preview) As I sit here and type I am shaking,my granddaughter is telling the truth, she was molested.The family is coming together to support my daughter and my granddaughter,my heart is aching for my daughter,what a terrible thing to be betrayed like that by her husband,I can't imagine the pain.She is filin...	mjferg	9	711	Jan 6, 2016 by Iamhere
	Partner out of rehab and behaviour appears the same (Preview) My partner has now been out of rehab 3 weeks and I notice his behaviors are very similar as before he went in. He is not attending any meetings or seeing any workers just reading his workbooks he says and making statements he will never drink again as he is now cured of that he is 100% sure. He is going witho...	Carmel 15	6	545	Jan 5, 2016 by hotrod
	New Here and have a simple question (Preview) My GF has been in AA and sober for about 19 days. Is it ok to tell her I am proud of her? Or is there a way to communicate that and be supportive to her?	lounap23	3	407	Jan 5, 2016 by lounap23
	Lonely and Worried (Preview) I'm very concerned with my live in boyfriends drinking and I feel like I'm at the end of my rope. He's 31 and has been drinking every day for the last ten years, most days around 30 drinks. I'm so sad and frustrated and I don't know what to do. I love him so much...I want to help him, but sometimes I don't kn...	redhead805	3	707	Jan 5, 2016 by CoopsMom
	I am devastated!!! (Preview) Just when things seemed to be getting better I get the most shocking news.My granddaughter went to the police and told them her stepfather,my daughter's husband, has been molesting her since she was 10 years old!!!He has been arrested and his statement was released on the news,he said,"It may...	mjferg	14	874	Jan 5, 2016 by KT2015
	I didn't let him eat his noodles. (Preview) Christmas Day, as I mentioned, ended up being an ABF-free affair. I decided I didn't want to spend hours and $$ going to see his family, he felt I'd stopped him from seeing his family (although he could have gotten in the car with his brother...whom he lives with!!) and things were thus kind of strained b...	missmeliss	16	854	Jan 5, 2016 by KT2015
	wondering (Preview) i was sitting in my new but roach ridden apartment tonite and feeling so werid. its like 24 yrs of living with my xah justlike slammed shut,walled up and seems so strange now that im gone from the situation. i dont get any calls from my xah and it feels so unreal or surreal and that is a puzzling and sometime...	YARNCRAZY	3	444	Jan 5, 2016 by Mike B
	Hope for Today Jan 5 (Preview) Good morning everyone- and Happy New Year! I hope 2016 is off to a good start for everybody. Today's reading of a focus on our phrase: "... in Al-Anon we discover that no situation is really hopeless". Like the writer, the first time I heard that spoken at a meeting I thought, 'well of cours...	yanksfan51	2	483	Jan 5, 2016 by Iamhere
	addiction (Preview) Dear MIP i have been off the boards for quite some time, for I discovered the spiritual path that works well for me, and I wanted to be in the present and maybe look into the future, thats why I didn't come back much here to share, for I needed to make peace with the past and be silent about it, i was so happy and...	tortuga	3	605	Jan 4, 2016 by Iamhere
	Flipped out (Preview) I lost it on my AH who has been sober for going on 7 months. Found a nip in his jacket pocket. I know I should have stopped and thought before reacting but it just pissed me off so much and I had to show it to him and ask him what this was. His immediate response was that he had been cleaning out the garage and f...	Jazzie18	6	943	Jan 4, 2016 by Mattie
	I am greatful and felt like sharing my story and happiness!!! I hope it encourages someone. (Preview) Also I have been telling my brother about alanon for years. He has seen this crazy change in me... ( you know peace and a one day at a time attitude.) Anyway he calls for advice sometimes and yesterday I told him you know you just need to accept your relationship (a healthy one, after being in an unhealthy...	Rinn	3	647	Jan 4, 2016 by KennyFenderjazz
	30 years today! (Preview) I started my journey 30 years today! I am blessed to have stuck w/ the program! I don't know how many of you celebrate your recovery dates. I hope this post will make you remember when it was that you started your journey to wellness. This program works. My first meeting was very low-key. I had been to AA me...	Hoot Nanny	4	478	Jan 4, 2016 by KennyFenderjazz
	Gratitude - It's more than a Feeling.... (Preview) Happy New Year to each of you within my MIP family. It's a new day in a new year and I am always grateful to be alive. There is something about a 'new start' that brings peace to me, and I am hoping to hold on to that one moment at a time, one day at a time. So, I thought - what better way to start a new year than a po...	Iamhere	13	643	Jan 4, 2016 by Rinn
	Courage to Change 1-4=2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 4 speaks about the tools of the program and haw simple. they can be. The reading talks about a person first coming into the program.,seeing everyone with some degree of serenity and asking how can I accomplish the same. The answer is; go to meetings, share when you can, work...	hotrod	2	426	Jan 4, 2016 by Debb
	Fiance titration from methadone (Preview) My fiance is titrating off of methadone. He has become very distant and disconnected, depressed and anxious. He seems to just want to do his own thing. I am very supportive but this is really wearing me down. I have been a cushion for him for over a year, never pushing too hard, but lately I'm always upset...	psychszsd	2	1720	Jan 4, 2016 by KennyFenderjazz
	I am new at this and it has been a heck of a New Year so far (Preview) Hi! I am a Pre-K teacher at a Private Center and was working my last day of 2015 on Wednesday, Dec. 29 when my sister called me in hysterics. I am well aware of her issue with alcoholism and how bad it has been for at least 6 weeks. She has had issues with substance abuse in the past and has been in rehab sever...	sunflowers271	4	447	Jan 3, 2016 by Iamhere
	Not feeling welcomed at a face to face meeting (Preview) I have been in and out of Alanon since I was 19 years old. More in than out thank God. Though I had a major relapse 5 years ago but got myself back into the rooms. I had relocated to a new state for a Job and started going back to Alanon face to face meetings and I just didn't feel comfortable at...	justme1900	9	704	Jan 3, 2016 by Iamhere
	Very unsure about the future. (Preview) Hello. I like reading through forums. I feel much similar issues. I am so confused right now, My AH and I have many children together, he comes home almost drunk every night only to finish off till he fall asleep sitting up then wakes between 2-4 am to grab another beer. It is very strong IPA beers that he l...	HopeForJoy	8	684	Jan 3, 2016 by Iamhere
	The craziness that keeps on giving (Preview) I thought by now that I was an old-timer who knows the ropes. I also got off easy in the alcoholism department, if you call any of the insanity and chaos easy. But I mean that my A has always been a binge drinker, so there are periods of non-drinking in between the episodes, sometimes months long. And he'...	Mattie	11	695	Jan 3, 2016 by YARNCRAZY
	Courage to Change 1-3 (Preview) The C2C reading for January 3 suggests that we should take the time to realize that we are writing our life story with every single second of each day. It suggests that if we want to see the movie (of our life) move in a positive direction, maybe we need to make some changes. We can do nothing to chan...	hotrod	2	511	Jan 3, 2016 by Iamhere
	Twitching while sleeping (Preview) I know this is probably a medical question, but I am concerned. Lately my AH is twitching while he sleeps to the point that it keeps me awake. It seems to be shortly after consuming large quantities of alcohol and coming to bed. The tremors last only a second but I watch his body twitch and his hands cle...	Bethany66	7	2071	Jan 3, 2016 by Iamhere
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