My abf is still sober, 3 months and not working a program as he works in camp and all he does is work and sleep for up to 3 weeks at a time and then off work for 3 days and then back at work again. Since he got sober, its been a roller coaster. One day he has this plan, next day its this plan, and this plan. It constantly changes and I feel I am on a roller coaster ride. He was back from work on Tuesday and there was a noticeable distance between us. Its been like this for awhile since he went back to work in November. Well, we had the "TALK: and he shared that he can not see a future with me and he is moving back to his home hometown next year. He says he is being honest and he feels he can not trust me and I told him of my feelings as well, I did not trust him either. He had an affair with his ex-wife this past summer, while I went home to my hometown. He says he was drunk and I was not serious. He met up with his ex-wife on Wednesday to deal with some paperwork so he can access his pension (he is now 55 years old) and he wants to get out of debt ASAP. He says he needs to be with his family and he is tried of working and not having a life. He says we will deal with the house as mature adults he says-I have title to house, and he will give me back my share of what I put in and he is going home. He says I care about you and your daughter (she is disabled and living with me) but I do not love you. I am off work myself and on sick leave too and he is gone a lot so I am home with my daughter, keeping the house going while he works. I have been absolutely devastated since yesterday. I realized I fell in love with this man and just like that he is kicking me to the curb. I feel cheated on, angry, hurt, mad. I had done all I can to help this an get his life together and now this, just like that.  He has money and he is very focused on his life now and moving back across the country. He says the house price has gone down and if he looses is job, he is an electrician and these jobs could end anytime due to the economy and he is not able to get another job, he will sell the house and move before next year. He even said he is going home this summer for 2 months and getting things ready to move back there permanently. He says he has no family here (which is true) and he needs to be with his family. He says I have nothing here and need to move back, and right now I am focused on paying off my bills and saving money. We had bought wedding rings and I had bought a wedding gown and had plans to get married. This is all out the door now. I have taken off my engagement ring and told him yesterday by text I have and would suggest he takes off the ring I gave him too and return it to me. I also told him I am returning the wedding rings we bought back to the store. I got some advice and was told to get a lawyer so that I am protected with the house. I have documented when he was home and when not, to prove I have maintained the house. I cried and cried yesterday non stop and cried myself to sleep. I have no idea what has gotten into me, crying non stop. I feel absolutely crushed. I am hurting because I feel used by him, to support him to get his life together and now just like that, he is leaving, its like he used me to get what he wants. He has changed so much and I so how selfish this man is..its all about him, him, him. He had mentioned at one time, he still loves his first wife very much and wants to get back together with her. She lives in his home town and is single. He says I am now 55 years old and I want to be home, not way across the county, alone. I have my own money thank god, and do not depend on him. I have decided that I will no longer help him with anything. I will instead just use him to buy me things-he did suggest if I wanted a new cell phone, as if that will make things better. He pays for bills around the house so I plan to just use up all the electricity and water and what ever I can get out of him. I have had enough of helping and being there for him. I am angry and so hurt. I know there was a distance between us before and we managed to get back on track, but this time, its different, he is sober and coming to his senses. I know I need to just grieve now and let the feelings pass and get myself on track. It just hurts a lot as I really care for his man. Yesterday, he hugged me after we talked and I fell part crying. Reality sucks and I know I have to start focusing on me and get myself ready for a battle over the house. I plan to see a lawyer next week and get things in order, just to be prepared. I will not let this selfish ashole take me for a ride anymore. I am so, so angry. I believed we were working on something, a future together and that is why I had put so much energy to help him with getting his life together, and this, just like that. I am angry, angry. I want to hurt him so bad, the way I am hurting now. I have the next 18 days to get myself back on track and start preparing what I must do. I know the first step is for me to get a lawyer. I am devastated and so, so hurt right now. I have no idea what the day holds today, just know that I am hurting. The other thing is I have been doing a lot of writing again, I wrote 31 pages of memories of my childhood down and thinking of how to make this into a book, and I have been other writings as well, just to keep myself busy. This pain feels so awful, I feel dumped like used garbage. I need help...thanks for listening!