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Lost and not found · Lost and not found

Hi, Been on the forum for approximately 12 hours and my wife has been on and snooped at the new posts i have put on. I cant really believe that she has done this as i wanted this to be something for just me to share my thoughts and feelings with people who would understand what i was going through. She says tha...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm just saying I don't like it and I want to fight it every step of the way .. it feels uncomfortable. It means I have to do things I don't like, be places I don't want to be, look at things a different way because it means I'm growing .. what a bunch of hogwash. Phhffttt. So I left my house for Christmas whi...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

Ever since my 32 year old daughter relapsed after 3 years of sobriety I have been in panic mode. She told me she relapsed right before she came home for Xmas with her boyfriend. Apparently she had a meltdown at her boyfriend's parents house before coming here. She gets really short and crabby when she dr...

joker · joker

I made a huge mistake and took my abf home with me-9 hour drive to my hometown. The last trip I will ever, ever take with him. We made the drive over two days there and back. He was drunk and it was hell...I mean hell. I just about got into a car accident on the highway as he went ballistic on me, and I was driving...

Tannersmom · Tannersmom

Every year after Christmas my nieces and nephews get together for a cousins night. There are 15 in all ranging in ages from 13-30. Tonight my AS will connect with his family, He hasn't seen his cousins in almost 9 months! My niece is picking him up and he is going to attend. No pressure she told him. I...

Lost and not found · Lost and not found

This is the first time that i have told anyone this and need to get it off my chest to have some opinions on the situation as it is weighing on my mind more and more. My AW went on a "wine night" as she used to call them, which consisted of her, her sister and friends basically getting drunk on a girls night in wh...

Lost and not found · Lost and not found

Hi Everyone, Im new to the forum and just joined today. I have been married to my AW for 10 years and been together for 14 years total. She has been drinking to various levels for at least the past 20 years with the only time that she stopped drinking for longer than a week, whilst she was pregnant with our so...

el-cee · el-cee

Hope everyone had a lovely day. My day was gifted to me by my hp with a stark reminder of the power of this disease. Before 12pm in my home there were tears and tantrums. What did I do? Did what I planned and made the soup. Lol. The power of alanon won though. Family reacted but here's the best bit calm was res...

Brett · Brett

Hi all this is my first time here and was looking for some input. i have been with my girlfriend for over two years, living together the whole time. She's in her 40's and I'm in my 30's. We moved in together as roomates and shortly after realized that we had feelings for each other. Before I knew she had a dri...

Tannersmom · Tannersmom

So Christmas day, my AS called my mom and dad but hung up on them before words were exchanged (I am getting this information from my sister, who was told in confidence).... (My sister is a whole other story). They haven't seen or talked with my AS since last Easter. They are hurting so much and would go t...

Jage1991 · Jage1991

I just want to kick myself. So many of you advised me not to tell him what I had found out here, but the past few days were killing me and I just couldn't sleep without getting it off my chest. The last 3 nights have been horrible. He has drank to the point of staggering and slurring and snoring so loud, we ca...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page considers what we may do when our outcomes are not matching up with our intentions. If we find this happening, it is time to examine what our intentions truly are and how we are going about achieving them. "Let me first be sure what I intend and the reasons for my choice; this will guide my th...

Easy · Easy

I got free from an abusive dysfunctional relationship through alanon. By saying things like 'you might be right' and actually believing that yes from your point of view you might be. Saying ' I'm sorry you feel that way' again, meaning it. I was sorry my alcoholic feels angry and hostile but I was not ta...

shimo · shimo

Al-Anon meeting in the chat room in approximately 45 minutes (9:00 a.m. EST). Come on in and join us! Link to the chat room: https://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html If you come into the room without selecting a nickname for yourself, you would need to type /nick space followed by the nickna...

a4l · a4l

I know I speak for lots of us here when I say, Betty, AKA: Ms. Hotrod, you are one special lady. I wanted to send you extra special Merry Christmas wishes, because you have been this beautiful mother energy and more , to me and many others As a mother, I am inspired by your choice to continue to nurtu...

AnitaJean · AnitaJean

My husband of 27 years died at the age of 58 due to acute alcoholism. I left the year before his death because is drinking had become so extreme that I had reached my breaking point. It was either him or me. We had been down this road before and I had really hoped he would return to AA and get it together. Inste...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about how many of us affected by alcoholsim are quick to take on as many responsibilities as possible-- if something needs to be done- we do it! One of the aspects of the program which is pointed out is that meetings, for example, are about shared responsibil...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Could someone give me a link that getsr back to the mobile site or whatever it is? I used to have but somehow lost it.

Tannersmom · Tannersmom

Well, Christmas is over; I am ever so thankful for the wonderful time with family. I am also thankful that it is over. I held it together most of the time except church; but I made it through without having to walk out.Hope came to me on Christmas morning when I found out that my AS contacted his cousins to s...

LinSC · LinSC

CathyinAz.... Have a great one

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t63049668/alanon-step-9-12-26-2016/

pinkchip · pinkchip

Lyne · Lyne

Happy Holidays to all my dear MIP friends! I only get to the board about once a week, but I know you guys are here for me, have helped me tremendously in the past, I see you as part of my recovery, and I know if I am having a rough time (which is less often now because I have changed), I can count of someone on the...

MissM · MissM

So yesterday (Christmas Eve) I was charged with taking daughter to her fathers so that she could spend Christmas there. My mother and I cooked up a plan where we would visit her first, and have dinner, and then we would drive to drop daughter off at her fathers and I'd catch the train home. All of my sibl...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

We figured out how to stop the problem we were having w our wood stove. It was kind of obvious but we had to get on the roof to clean out the pipe. I am so grateful that things turned out OK. So far no smoke. There is a solution to every problem. The snow was deep but we were determined to get the job done.

Celie7191 · Celie7191

Is it normal for a sponsee to be so dependant upon a Sponsor? The reason why I ask is because my gf keeps saying that her sponsor keeps her sober. Although I am thankful for this I do wonder how healthy it is to rely on someone else for your sobriety. I often feel that the relationship between my gf and her spo...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

One AlAnon member shared this lesson as one of the most important to be learned in the program: The words, thoughts, and actions of others are not in my control, but by my choices I can control my life. Real life application: if I am feeling like I am being walked on by others, I can make the choice to get off...

Merkabah46 · Merkabah46

Hi. I have been in recovery rooms since 2006 in different fellowships. Lately, I have experience serious troubles in my relationships. My former partner of a year has assaulted me. I ended up in hospital. I decided to press charges with the police and he admitted assault to his son too in my home a month...

Sparkle 9403 · Sparkle 9403

Hi, I'm very new to this and need some guidance. Merry Christmas to all. My be of 7 months willingly went to rehab for alcoholism. He left after only 16 days. I thought he drank the first day back but he asked me not to visit as he was tired. I went over Friday and he seemed off but I found no alcohol anywh...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today is Christmas day. We are experiencinga small crisis here. Our wood stove is setting off the smoke detector. I am very anxious just because of the holiday. So you can see that some things are harder when it is this day is not exactly the best day to get something fixed. Hopefully this problem goes aw...

lgnutah · lgnutah

Family togetherness, sending letters to old friends, and visiting with my friends during the holiday season are things I enjoy. I look forward to each of my three adult (all unmarried)children coming home (my 2 sons live 1 and 9 hours away, my daughter 2 hours away). I enjoy cooking lots of food, wrap...

Worried Wife · Worried Wife

Hello friends, So I'm staying in a motel as I told my husband that until he makes an appt for counseling at Kaiser to start a rehab program, I need to be away for a while. I know this is finally what I need to do...but I feel sooo guilty to leave him on Christmas Day.

pinkchip · pinkchip

Going from: To: Stay calm during the Holidays :)

hotrod · hotrod

Merry Christmas to all my MIP FamilyThe C2C reading for December 25 speaks about the slogan. 'Think." The reading points out that before we react to angry outbursts and drunken accusations, we must learn to not react but to hold our tongue when we are tempted to react in anger or to interfere in somet...

John · John

I am trying to buy my 1989 BMW Convertible back. It will cost me 600.00. If you have a means by which you can help me, no matter how little or much you can spare, it would be appropriate it. If you have any pressure washing or painting i can do to earn from, I will likely accept the price you agree to pay to ha...

lookingup · lookingup

My Alanon Family.May all your Wishes come true.

el-cee · el-cee

Mcat54 · Mcat54

A few days after we had a convo about whether a Christmas show was at a theater on xyz road vs. xyz town, my husband got tickets without confirming. So today, we're driving 1.5 hours to xyz town to see the show. With dinner beforehand, the evening round trip will be close to 7 hours I hadn't planned to spen...

Junenine · Junenine

hello, all - wishing you all happy holidays and happy new year. this has overall been a very difficult year for me, so i'm not sorry to see it come to a close. been feeling hectic and bedraggled but now all is done and i can relax. grateful for some quiet and calm. meanwhile, i usually spend christmas wi...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It is time for another holiday. I am in the spirit of the season. I hope that if you celebrate you all have s safe & healthy time. Thanks for being there for me in my successes & mistakes. I don't consider what I've done is a failure. I am still a work in progress.

SDB · SDB

So I was throwing something in the garbage can in our living room this morning before I went off to work and saw a vodka flask in the tiny can. I assumed my husband was out drinking last night (he took out $40 and disappeared for 2 1/2 hours after we got out of couples therapy - I think he may have been drinking...

Tannersmom · Tannersmom

My son is a drug addict. When I type those words my stomach just drops. I know this is Al-Anon but was told that drug addict families are welcome here. Christmas is coming and I am having a hard time believing that this will be the first Christmas in 21 years that I won't be with my son. I don't know where...

MissM · MissM

My mother called me yesterday, and launched into about an hour of why everyone is against her and she hates christmas and she's the one who makes all of the effort for my grandmother and yet she's the one my grandmother picks on (which is actually 100% true), and it's all unfair and no-one can see how unfa...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

There have been a lot of changes recently and I'm just trying to take them all in .. the word of the month has really been boundaries and what they mean to me. I'm getting better about being able to communicate in an effective manner with people closest to me however still have moments of meltdown city .....

El · El

Hello all, and Merry Eve of Christmas Eve! My wish is that you have the best possible holidays and the new year brings some relief from our challenges and greater recovery. Today, I am trying extremely hard to stay on my side of the street. We are hosting a small gathering of immediate family tomorrow...

texas yankee · texas yankee

So, I have about 13 years on the road with Al Anon - a few years ago, after almost ten years of being a master enabler, I found the strength to detach with love from my 30 year old son - alcohol and drug and depression problems - doing that was one of the hardest, most painful things I ever had to do - but I did it,...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses arriving at Al-Anon and just not being sure we belong/fit in. Some arrive because of a current situation, others arrive because of a previous situation and still others come hoping to find the answers or cure for the disease in a friend or family member. No matter how we arr...

Voodoo · Voodoo

Hi, I am new to the group but have been attending local Al-anon meetings for several months. The meetings help a lot and I want to work the steps but my boyfriend has been in AA for twenty years and when I try to be open, what I say inevitably gets back to him. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost f...

LinSC · LinSC

keep your tools handy and sharp for the responses you may need when your qualifiers be it family or friends want to take center stage with their addictions. Instead keep the focus on YOU and what you can do to keep your environment peaceful. Don't let any holiday pressures get to you. Just lay back and le...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi Everyone Life has been peaceful and on track for a great 2017. BUT I have guilt. Guilt because I'm not helping and talking much to my son and guilt because I'm not taking care of my X. Haven't heard from them lately so I don't know what's going on but my fear it's not good. I have quilt I'm not finding...

lookingup · lookingup

I'm in the process of making my amends to ppl including myself and my hp,that I've hurt in someway or another. this isn't a easy process,as I had thought it would be, im ready to do so,I know I got to let go . and trust in the process,I'm grateful today that I'm able and learning to let go of all past and presen...

Jt0506 · Jt0506

I am writing this down as a sort of 'get it all out there' and a 'youve made up your mind now - stick to it!' I am done. I simply will not live this life anymore. There is no reason for me to carry on living with this man who is incapable of getting help and truly accepting his binge drinking problems. You may re...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is all about the tools of our program - the power, portability and presence. When we begin this program, we learn about all kinds of tools that can help us lean into the program way of life. There is our literature, our program friends/phone numbers, our meetings, etc. We often begi...

andromeda · andromeda

I took my licensing exam earlier. I failed. I needed a 72 to pass and I got a 67. I may be out of a job or they may give me another chance. They will be doing an employee evaluation and I will find out more tomorrow. Basically, I think i'm on the edge score wise but I did all the work required, I attended all...

Mikhail · Mikhail

I have not been very good about F2F meeting attendance, but I think this holiday season I will need to do better. To your knowledge, do F2F meetings tend to meet around the holidays? Even on Christmas Day or New Year's Day? I've never attended a meeting when I'm traveling, but I think I'm going to this wee...

_bunny_ · _bunny_

Happy Sunday! So I've been thinking a lot about forgiveness today and how it has allowed me to let go of so much anger and resentment. For me, forgiving is acceptance, then detachment and then compassion. If that makes any sense, I don't know it does in my head anyway. Forgiving myself and others has bee...

ItsAllAboutMeMC · ItsAllAboutMeMC

I am leaving town for a few days to see my family. My addict ex offered to watch my cats when I was out of town. I was so grateful as he loves my cats and would be perfect to do it as long as hes clean. I saw picture that was posted by his cousin the other day online and by the look of him it made me wonder if he was bac...

MissM · MissM

Messages from the ex-he-man flooding in tonight. "I need to talk to you" "I just want to chat for a sec" "I know you're too busy because you're busy being a a braniac and doing braniac things" I know you are too busy for me but wont you...(sends supertramp's "give a little bit") and then, all 3 parts of Stev...

Bethany66 · Bethany66

You know that day when you arent feeling well, like day 6 of the cold and you are tired of blowing your nose and every little thing seems like a big thing and the A is on his bender and wants to still participate in all the holiday activities and you have to go along to chaperone the A because God forbid someth...

Shiba419 · Shiba419

Hello all... this is my first time on here. I went to my first Al-Anon meeting last week. It was great. My husband is an alcoholic and I have never had to deal with alcoholism in my family before so this is all new to me. I have been with my husband for 5 years and married for 9 months. I was hoping and praying fo...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Snooping AW (Preview) Hi, Been on the forum for approximately 12 hours and my wife has been on and snooped at the new posts i have put on. I cant really believe that she has done this as i wanted this to be something for just me to share my thoughts and feelings with people who would understand what i was going through. She says tha...	Lost and not found	10	726	Dec 30, 2016 by sarahGee
	The Whole Adult Thing (Preview) I'm just saying I don't like it and I want to fight it every step of the way .. it feels uncomfortable. It means I have to do things I don't like, be places I don't want to be, look at things a different way because it means I'm growing .. what a bunch of hogwash. Phhffttt. So I left my house for Christmas whi...	SerenityRUS	7	737	Dec 30, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	Holiday blues (Preview) Ever since my 32 year old daughter relapsed after 3 years of sobriety I have been in panic mode. She told me she relapsed right before she came home for Xmas with her boyfriend. Apparently she had a meltdown at her boyfriend's parents house before coming here. She gets really short and crabby when she dr...	Buckeye Girl	3	546	Dec 30, 2016 by Iamhere
	hellish holiday (Preview) I made a huge mistake and took my abf home with me-9 hour drive to my hometown. The last trip I will ever, ever take with him. We made the drive over two days there and back. He was drunk and it was hell...I mean hell. I just about got into a car accident on the highway as he went ballistic on me, and I was driving...	joker	3	587	Dec 30, 2016 by Iamhere
	He's going!! (Preview) Every year after Christmas my nieces and nephews get together for a cousins night. There are 15 in all ranging in ages from 13-30. Tonight my AS will connect with his family, He hasn't seen his cousins in almost 9 months! My niece is picking him up and he is going to attend. No pressure she told him. I...	Tannersmom	1	478	Dec 29, 2016 by hotrod
	opinions please! (Preview) This is the first time that i have told anyone this and need to get it off my chest to have some opinions on the situation as it is weighing on my mind more and more. My AW went on a "wine night" as she used to call them, which consisted of her, her sister and friends basically getting drunk on a girls night in wh...	Lost and not found	5	658	Dec 29, 2016 by Jayla
	Newby (Preview) Hi Everyone, Im new to the forum and just joined today. I have been married to my AW for 10 years and been together for 14 years total. She has been drinking to various levels for at least the past 20 years with the only time that she stopped drinking for longer than a week, whilst she was pregnant with our so...	Lost and not found	9	669	Dec 29, 2016 by Jayla
	Drama with progress (Preview) Hope everyone had a lovely day. My day was gifted to me by my hp with a stark reminder of the power of this disease. Before 12pm in my home there were tears and tantrums. What did I do? Did what I planned and made the soup. Lol. The power of alanon won though. Family reacted but here's the best bit calm was res...	el-cee	5	745	Dec 29, 2016 by Calm Lady
	Hi everyone: first post (Preview) Hi all this is my first time here and was looking for some input. i have been with my girlfriend for over two years, living together the whole time. She's in her 40's and I'm in my 30's. We moved in together as roomates and shortly after realized that we had feelings for each other. Before I knew she had a dri...	Brett	6	697	Dec 29, 2016 by Calm Lady
	Parents (Preview) So Christmas day, my AS called my mom and dad but hung up on them before words were exchanged (I am getting this information from my sister, who was told in confidence).... (My sister is a whole other story). They haven't seen or talked with my AS since last Easter. They are hurting so much and would go t...	Tannersmom	3	597	Dec 29, 2016 by Iamhere
	I was doing so good and then... (Preview) I just want to kick myself. So many of you advised me not to tell him what I had found out here, but the past few days were killing me and I just couldn't sleep without getting it off my chest. The last 3 nights have been horrible. He has drank to the point of staggering and slurring and snoring so loud, we ca...	Jage1991	10	802	Dec 28, 2016 by milkwood
	12/28/16 One Day at a Time (Preview) Today's page considers what we may do when our outcomes are not matching up with our intentions. If we find this happening, it is time to examine what our intentions truly are and how we are going about achieving them. "Let me first be sure what I intend and the reasons for my choice; this will guide my th...	Enigmatic	2	1029	Dec 28, 2016 by hotrod
	Free from dysfunction (Preview) I got free from an abusive dysfunctional relationship through alanon. By saying things like 'you might be right' and actually believing that yes from your point of view you might be. Saying ' I'm sorry you feel that way' again, meaning it. I was sorry my alcoholic feels angry and hostile but I was not ta...	Easy	4	621	Dec 28, 2016 by Iamhere
	WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING, 9:00 A.M. EST (Preview) Al-Anon meeting in the chat room in approximately 45 minutes (9:00 a.m. EST). Come on in and join us! Link to the chat room: https://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html If you come into the room without selecting a nickname for yourself, you would need to type /nick space followed by the nickna...	shimo	1	422	Dec 28, 2016 by hotrod
	Merry Christmas Betty! (Preview) I know I speak for lots of us here when I say, Betty, AKA: Ms. Hotrod, you are one special lady. I wanted to send you extra special Merry Christmas wishes, because you have been this beautiful mother energy and more , to me and many others As a mother, I am inspired by your choice to continue to nurtu...	a4l	7	584	Dec 27, 2016 by hotrod
	Coping With the Death of Alcoholic Spouse (Preview) My husband of 27 years died at the age of 58 due to acute alcoholism. I left the year before his death because is drinking had become so extreme that I had reached my breaking point. It was either him or me. We had been down this road before and I had really hoped he would return to AA and get it together. Inste...	AnitaJean	4	2964	Dec 27, 2016 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Dec 27 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about how many of us affected by alcoholsim are quick to take on as many responsibilities as possible-- if something needs to be done- we do it! One of the aspects of the program which is pointed out is that meetings, for example, are about shared responsibil...	yanksfan51	3	539	Dec 27, 2016 by Iamhere
	need assistance (Preview) Could someone give me a link that getsr back to the mobile site or whatever it is? I used to have but somehow lost it.	Hoot Nanny	0	468	Dec 27, 2016 by Hoot Nanny
	Hope (Preview) Well, Christmas is over; I am ever so thankful for the wonderful time with family. I am also thankful that it is over. I held it together most of the time except church; but I made it through without having to walk out.Hope came to me on Christmas morning when I found out that my AS contacted his cousins to s...	Tannersmom	1	392	Dec 27, 2016 by milkwood
	Happy Birthday (Preview) CathyinAz.... Have a great one	LinSC	5	540	Dec 27, 2016 by Jerry F
	Step 9 Posted on Step Board (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t63049668/alanon-step-9-12-26-2016/	hotrod	0	411	Dec 26, 2016 by hotrod
	Decisions (Preview)	pinkchip	5	719	Dec 26, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	Thanks to all of you! (Preview) Happy Holidays to all my dear MIP friends! I only get to the board about once a week, but I know you guys are here for me, have helped me tremendously in the past, I see you as part of my recovery, and I know if I am having a rough time (which is less often now because I have changed), I can count of someone on the...	Lyne	5	556	Dec 26, 2016 by andromeda
	I'm all alone but at least I smell good. (Preview) So yesterday (Christmas Eve) I was charged with taking daughter to her fathers so that she could spend Christmas there. My mother and I cooked up a plan where we would visit her first, and have dinner, and then we would drive to drop daughter off at her fathers and I'd catch the train home. All of my sibl...	MissM	5	583	Dec 26, 2016 by Jerry F
	Who would have thought? (Preview) We figured out how to stop the problem we were having w our wood stove. It was kind of obvious but we had to get on the roof to clean out the pipe. I am so grateful that things turned out OK. So far no smoke. There is a solution to every problem. The snow was deep but we were determined to get the job done.	Hoot Nanny	1	451	Dec 26, 2016 by Iamhere
	Sponsors (Preview) Is it normal for a sponsee to be so dependant upon a Sponsor? The reason why I ask is because my gf keeps saying that her sponsor keeps her sober. Although I am thankful for this I do wonder how healthy it is to rely on someone else for your sobriety. I often feel that the relationship between my gf and her spo...	Celie7191	3	507	Dec 26, 2016 by MeTwo2
	12-26-16 Courage to Change (Preview) One AlAnon member shared this lesson as one of the most important to be learned in the program: The words, thoughts, and actions of others are not in my control, but by my choices I can control my life. Real life application: if I am feeling like I am being walked on by others, I can make the choice to get off...	Enigmatic	4	636	Dec 26, 2016 by MeTwo2
	New here (Preview) Hi. I have been in recovery rooms since 2006 in different fellowships. Lately, I have experience serious troubles in my relationships. My former partner of a year has assaulted me. I ended up in hospital. I decided to press charges with the police and he admitted assault to his son too in my home a month...	Merkabah46	2	687	Dec 26, 2016 by Jerry F
	Help (Preview) Hi, I'm very new to this and need some guidance. Merry Christmas to all. My be of 7 months willingly went to rehab for alcoholism. He left after only 16 days. I thought he drank the first day back but he asked me not to visit as he was tired. I went over Friday and he seemed off but I found no alcohol anywh...	Sparkle 9403	6	561	Dec 26, 2016 by Jerry F
	smoke in the wood stove (Preview) Today is Christmas day. We are experiencinga small crisis here. Our wood stove is setting off the smoke detector. I am very anxious just because of the holiday. So you can see that some things are harder when it is this day is not exactly the best day to get something fixed. Hopefully this problem goes aw...	Hoot Nanny	3	1923	Dec 26, 2016 by Liz14
	What is going on here? (Preview) Family togetherness, sending letters to old friends, and visiting with my friends during the holiday season are things I enjoy. I look forward to each of my three adult (all unmarried)children coming home (my 2 sons live 1 and 9 hours away, my daughter 2 hours away). I enjoy cooking lots of food, wrap...	lgnutah	4	882	Dec 25, 2016 by lgnutah
	Merry Christmas, but feeling guilt (Preview) Hello friends, So I'm staying in a motel as I told my husband that until he makes an appt for counseling at Kaiser to start a rehab program, I need to be away for a while. I know this is finally what I need to do...but I feel sooo guilty to leave him on Christmas Day.	Worried Wife	2	495	Dec 25, 2016 by Jerry F
	Losing your serenity looks like: (Preview) Going from: To: Stay calm during the Holidays :)	pinkchip	14	739	Dec 25, 2016 by Iamhere
	C2C reading for 12-25-2016 (Preview) Merry Christmas to all my MIP FamilyThe C2C reading for December 25 speaks about the slogan. 'Think." The reading points out that before we react to angry outbursts and drunken accusations, we must learn to not react but to hold our tongue when we are tempted to react in anger or to interfere in somet...	hotrod	5	744	Dec 25, 2016 by Iamhere
	Asking for financial help. Not site relaied. (Preview) I am trying to buy my 1989 BMW Convertible back. It will cost me 600.00. If you have a means by which you can help me, no matter how little or much you can spare, it would be appropriate it. If you have any pressure washing or painting i can do to earn from, I will likely accept the price you agree to pay to ha...	John	0	919	Dec 25, 2016 by John
	Merry Christmas to all (Preview) My Alanon Family.May all your Wishes come true.	lookingup	8	506	Dec 25, 2016 by maryjane
	Merry Christmas (Preview)	el-cee	10	952	Dec 25, 2016 by maryjane
	Accidental and compulsory road trips (Preview) A few days after we had a convo about whether a Christmas show was at a theater on xyz road vs. xyz town, my husband got tickets without confirming. So today, we're driving 1.5 hours to xyz town to see the show. With dinner beforehand, the evening round trip will be close to 7 hours I hadn't planned to spen...	Mcat54	10	682	Dec 25, 2016 by maryjane
	Happy Holidays + Acceptance (Preview) hello, all - wishing you all happy holidays and happy new year. this has overall been a very difficult year for me, so i'm not sorry to see it come to a close. been feeling hectic and bedraggled but now all is done and i can relax. grateful for some quiet and calm. meanwhile, i usually spend christmas wi...	Junenine	8	687	Dec 25, 2016 by Junenine
	happy holidays (Preview) It is time for another holiday. I am in the spirit of the season. I hope that if you celebrate you all have s safe & healthy time. Thanks for being there for me in my successes & mistakes. I don't consider what I've done is a failure. I am still a work in progress.	Hoot Nanny	2	400	Dec 25, 2016 by hotrod
	Found bottle in the garbage. Advice on what to say and do next (Preview) So I was throwing something in the garbage can in our living room this morning before I went off to work and saw a vodka flask in the tiny can. I assumed my husband was out drinking last night (he took out $40 and disappeared for 2 1/2 hours after we got out of couples therapy - I think he may have been drinking...	SDB	22	823	Dec 25, 2016 by Calm Lady
	I'm new (Preview) My son is a drug addict. When I type those words my stomach just drops. I know this is Al-Anon but was told that drug addict families are welcome here. Christmas is coming and I am having a hard time believing that this will be the first Christmas in 21 years that I won't be with my son. I don't know where...	Tannersmom	8	772	Dec 24, 2016 by Iamhere
	Breaking Tradition (Preview) My mother called me yesterday, and launched into about an hour of why everyone is against her and she hates christmas and she's the one who makes all of the effort for my grandmother and yet she's the one my grandmother picks on (which is actually 100% true), and it's all unfair and no-one can see how unfa...	MissM	3	646	Dec 24, 2016 by Jerry F
	Holiday Stress .. (Preview) There have been a lot of changes recently and I'm just trying to take them all in .. the word of the month has really been boundaries and what they mean to me. I'm getting better about being able to communicate in an effective manner with people closest to me however still have moments of meltdown city .....	SerenityRUS	3	441	Dec 24, 2016 by lookingup
	TRYING to stay on my side of the street (Preview) Hello all, and Merry Eve of Christmas Eve! My wish is that you have the best possible holidays and the new year brings some relief from our challenges and greater recovery. Today, I am trying extremely hard to stay on my side of the street. We are hosting a small gathering of immediate family tomorrow...	El	5	635	Dec 23, 2016 by El
	I'm on the right track, right ??? (Preview) So, I have about 13 years on the road with Al Anon - a few years ago, after almost ten years of being a master enabler, I found the strength to detach with love from my 30 year old son - alcohol and drug and depression problems - doing that was one of the hardest, most painful things I ever had to do - but I did it,...	texas yankee	15	726	Dec 23, 2016 by texas yankee
	Courage to Change (C2C) 12/23/16 (Preview) Today's reading discusses arriving at Al-Anon and just not being sure we belong/fit in. Some arrive because of a current situation, others arrive because of a previous situation and still others come hoping to find the answers or cure for the disease in a friend or family member. No matter how we arr...	Iamhere	4	520	Dec 23, 2016 by Iamhere
	Seeking some support (Preview) Hi, I am new to the group but have been attending local Al-anon meetings for several months. The meetings help a lot and I want to work the steps but my boyfriend has been in AA for twenty years and when I try to be open, what I say inevitably gets back to him. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost f...	Voodoo	9	653	Dec 23, 2016 by Voodoo
	Merry Christmas and (Preview) keep your tools handy and sharp for the responses you may need when your qualifiers be it family or friends want to take center stage with their addictions. Instead keep the focus on YOU and what you can do to keep your environment peaceful. Don't let any holiday pressures get to you. Just lay back and le...	LinSC	6	646	Dec 23, 2016 by hotrod
	I feel guilt inside (Preview) Hi Everyone Life has been peaceful and on track for a great 2017. BUT I have guilt. Guilt because I'm not helping and talking much to my son and guilt because I'm not taking care of my X. Haven't heard from them lately so I don't know what's going on but my fear it's not good. I have quilt I'm not finding...	Cathyinaz	10	748	Dec 23, 2016 by Cathyinaz
	Making amends (Preview) I'm in the process of making my amends to ppl including myself and my hp,that I've hurt in someway or another. this isn't a easy process,as I had thought it would be, im ready to do so,I know I got to let go . and trust in the process,I'm grateful today that I'm able and learning to let go of all past and presen...	lookingup	6	654	Dec 23, 2016 by lookingup
	I am leaving (Preview) I am writing this down as a sort of 'get it all out there' and a 'youve made up your mind now - stick to it!' I am done. I simply will not live this life anymore. There is no reason for me to carry on living with this man who is incapable of getting help and truly accepting his binge drinking problems. You may re...	Jt0506	14	1003	Dec 22, 2016 by Green Eyes
	Courage to Change (C2C) 12/22/16 (Preview) Today's reading is all about the tools of our program - the power, portability and presence. When we begin this program, we learn about all kinds of tools that can help us lean into the program way of life. There is our literature, our program friends/phone numbers, our meetings, etc. We often begi...	Iamhere	3	593	Dec 22, 2016 by Enigmatic
	I failed (Preview) I took my licensing exam earlier. I failed. I needed a 72 to pass and I got a 67. I may be out of a job or they may give me another chance. They will be doing an employee evaluation and I will find out more tomorrow. Basically, I think i'm on the edge score wise but I did all the work required, I attended all...	andromeda	11	823	Dec 22, 2016 by hotrod
	F2F meeting question (Preview) I have not been very good about F2F meeting attendance, but I think this holiday season I will need to do better. To your knowledge, do F2F meetings tend to meet around the holidays? Even on Christmas Day or New Year's Day? I've never attended a meeting when I'm traveling, but I think I'm going to this wee...	Mikhail	4	705	Dec 22, 2016 by MeTwo2
	Forgiveness (Preview) Happy Sunday! So I've been thinking a lot about forgiveness today and how it has allowed me to let go of so much anger and resentment. For me, forgiving is acceptance, then detachment and then compassion. If that makes any sense, I don't know it does in my head anyway. Forgiving myself and others has bee...	_bunny_	15	1792	Dec 21, 2016 by Iamhere
	Recognizing the signs and making the right choice (Preview) I am leaving town for a few days to see my family. My addict ex offered to watch my cats when I was out of town. I was so grateful as he loves my cats and would be perfect to do it as long as hes clean. I saw picture that was posted by his cousin the other day online and by the look of him it made me wonder if he was bac...	ItsAllAboutMeMC	3	581	Dec 21, 2016 by Iamhere
	Alright...here we go again..yeheh woho. (Preview) Messages from the ex-he-man flooding in tonight. "I need to talk to you" "I just want to chat for a sec" "I know you're too busy because you're busy being a a braniac and doing braniac things" I know you are too busy for me but wont you...(sends supertramp's "give a little bit") and then, all 3 parts of Stev...	MissM	14	901	Dec 21, 2016 by Jen61
	Feeling the yuck (Preview) You know that day when you arent feeling well, like day 6 of the cold and you are tired of blowing your nose and every little thing seems like a big thing and the A is on his bender and wants to still participate in all the holiday activities and you have to go along to chaperone the A because God forbid someth...	Bethany66	5	584	Dec 21, 2016 by Jerry F
	Newcomer (Preview) Hello all... this is my first time on here. I went to my first Al-Anon meeting last week. It was great. My husband is an alcoholic and I have never had to deal with alcoholism in my family before so this is all new to me. I have been with my husband for 5 years and married for 9 months. I was hoping and praying fo...	Shiba419	4	663	Dec 21, 2016 by Jazzie18
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