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C2C, 12/10
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The reading for 12/10 speaks about how confused we are when we arrive at Alanon. We have trouble with boundaries and seeing which of our behaviors are appropriate and which are not. The writer's 4th step inventory helped them discover who they were, what their values are, which behaviors they want...
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Step 12 posted to the Step Board
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Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! The 12 th Step has been posted to the Step Board. The link is below . Please join in and share your thoughts on this po...
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Not working a program, but she's trying
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A few months ago, my AD had a "hit bottom" type event. Since that time, I can see she has been working very hard to make some changes, to live a life that she finds more meaningful and rewarding. I listen, try not to tell her what she "should" be doing, thinking or feeling. I am trying to be there for her in...
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step 12_the one where love has no price tag
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When I am Really working the 12th step, I am giving my love...I am giving myself with no price tag..No motive but to help and to give love and hope..to share my story and whether folks comment or not, I hope that I shed some light for at least some souls who read me... In order for me to GET to this step and real...
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Courage to Change, December 7
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Today's reading is about self-care. The writer used to think that being good to herself meant indulging in food, shopping, and "fun" activities. But these habits led to an unsatisfying life. She found more challenging but more satisfying ways to be good to herself, which put serenity first. Now s...
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C2C, 12/3
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The reading for today asks the question: what is meditation? Some of the answers are: spiritual awareness (every action can serve a spiritual purpose), concentrating on breathing while counting, repeating the Serenity Prayer, watching thoughts in the present day, focusing on one thing like...
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Lyne
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First days home from detox
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I am doing ok! I am doing my readings (Bible and al anon materials) and I am truly focusing on my recovery and taking this life with my AH one day at a time. Many times before after a crisis I was overly consumed about keeping my AH from drinking again, but for some reason (so far) I am not fretting about it a...
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mamakat71
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ESH needed
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Hello out there, i would like to ask for some ESH on alienation of affection and stonewalling with the A. My AH is usually the total opposite when drinking but when not drinking there's of course the moody, temperamental, non-communicative and cold side. Your insight and sharing would be greatly app...
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don't have to agree w/everyone!
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I keep realizing that I don't have to agree w/ everyone to get along. People have opinions like me who have their intentions w/o arguing. It seems that my Ah has been talking about arguing since we got married. 19 years! I am so tired of him saying that we are arguing even though I am only stating my opinion...
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Hoot Nanny
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I can handle the past of this disease and
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it helps me to handle the present. I went to a morning AA group to share a spiritual awaking I had when I woke to a reading in one of my daily readers in the Daily Reflection...it was powerful and spiritually stunning and before I left shared it with my Al-Anon member wife. The relationship between my H...
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when you get lemons...
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Make lemonade of course! I am a prime example today because I am facing some serious challenges since the weekend & it hasn't ended today unfortunately. I knew this would be basically the only place where I can really share my frustrations. I am still a work in progress. Being up north here we have p...
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Hoot Nanny
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Dec 06; The Language of Letting Go
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Hi MIP family! Iamhere has asked if I would post the daily in her stead. I am honored to do so. Letting Go of Fear "Picture yourself swimming - floating - peacefully down a gentle stream. All you need to do is breathe, relax, and go with the flow. Suddenly, you become conscience of your situation. Frighte...
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PosiesandPuppies
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Courage to Change December 5
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In today's reading, the author reflects on recognizing the love that exists in their life. The author shares that they used to believe that there was one person out there who would understand their every mood,always have time for them, and bring a smile to their face. Until this person appeared, the...
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04 DEC_Today's gift: AND Mr. Bunny
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You are reading from the book Today's Gift. My true god is always with me. I am learning to trust myself. . . . --Joan Parsons Author talks about what/where we do/go for comfort..What gives us that warm fuzzy feeling when we are feeling down...author mentions a girl who absolutely loved the story abou...
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04 DEC_One Day at a time in Alanon
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Beautiful Betty should be back next week, but I am filling in for this week....Will be gone all day tomorrow so I'm doing the Tuesday , today In this offering Author mentions that many of us come to Al-anon to find out why the alcoholic drinks..We fear its because he/she does't love me any more..OR beca...
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mamalioness
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Love flows only to the open heart
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I was in the animal shelter, today, my "doggie visit" day with pockets full of biscuits and lots of smiles and comforting things to say to the homeless ones... I am going down the rows, "chatting up" with Pitbulls, German Shepherds, Labs, all kinds of lovely and deserving pets..One young fellow was so...
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mamalioness
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Serendipity
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So, I have been part of Alanon about a quarter of a century. In the beginning, I used to attend face-to-face meetings quite regularly. I'm in another fellowship also so I go there frequently. As time passed, life changes came into play. We moved to a new neighbourhood, new jobs, stuff like that. We drif...
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Wolfie55
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Service is a strong part of recovery.
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Yep service is a true gallant part of enabling others to enable themselves to recover. Bring the program to them and help them to understand and work it. I did my morning meeting and there was a newbie there fresh to the room and old timers. He did what I finally learned to do at first...shut up and li...
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JerryF
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Hope for Today Dec 2
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Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the difficulty in making decisions. The writer came to understand that he/she was having trouble making decisions because they were often based on what others expected or wanted. Through program work it was suggested that decisions may be easier i...
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yanksfan51
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Just when I thought it was safe to have hope again
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this stuff sneaks up on me like a drunk driver running a stop sign - yeah, I should have been watching out - my bad.
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ODAT, November 30
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Twelfth Step work is the subject of today's page in One Day At A Time In Al-Anon. It helps our serenity when we are ready to carry the message of recovery to another person who needs it, who may not be aware of how Al-Anon can help. The writer suggests that we should always be aware of a possible need, perha...
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Freetime
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What to do?
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I've described my binge-drinking husband in the past. Last night, he went out with friends, got drunk, and came home late. My 5 year old daughter was in bed with me, and we were sleeping. He was looking for his shirt that he puts over his eyes when he sleeps and couldn't find it (bc he was drunk), and lou...
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Mcgreuder
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anxious about AH release from detox
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I got the call from my AH's therapist today that he will be released from detox tomorrow sometime. A condition for release is for him (me) to remove all guns from the home so we can all be safe. My AH hasn't had a domestic issue (yet) but with the amount of drinking he was doing and some of the behaviors he e...
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I tend to write things down..........
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I tend to write my thoughts down. I have written a letter to my mother when she passed away; a letter to my friend's family when she passed away from Cancer and how I have felt about my husband and his drinking. I ran across this a few days ago and thought I would share it. I am unsure if I have already. If s...
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Grant Me The Serenity
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God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change: AHs: *Sitting in front of the TV all day with little to no motivation for much else *Frequent and lengthy naps *Decreased ability to connect the dots or simple problem solving *Refusing to wear his hearing aids which means shouting to conv...
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Minding my own business ..
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Ohhh that's a hard one for me. I tend to think I know what's best and get to meddling. I did something today that at first gave me a little anxiety and then I realized my motives were pretty clean and I handled it in an appropriate way .. I tried to keep it about me and what my observations are, what my hopes w...
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Back home from Texas...
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Hi y'all... flew in yesterday, after a pretty gruelling journey. Last week the police pulled me over- for driving too slow- in a public car park. When I pulled over I got out of the car to eye-ball the officer. Imediately a back-up car pulled over in front of me. My ideas was to park in the car park-...
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Courage to Change 11/29/18
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Good morning MIP. Today's reading is about how the reader viewed 'adulting' before recovery vs. during/embracing recovery. Before Al-Anon, he/she believed that being an adult was to be in CONTROL - rigid, cool. This might also include looking good on the outside and feeling very different on t...
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Iamhere
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I Swam with Gratitude :)
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Hey Family... Just wanted to Update from my Previous Post, I SURVIVED :) I Fed 25 Peeps, and All seemed Happy to be there, so that was Enough, there was a Few that Couldn't make it, but I Didn't Expect ANY so My Day was Not Ruined by the 10 that Couldn't... It was a Tough one, and Not Just because of My Dad's Bi...
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It all turned out well.
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What a year! It's been hard and started off with depression. Now it's nearly ended and I'm thrilled. "Keep taking the next right step" is what I read here many times over the years, and not to let the everyday business of living drag me down.
I took both of those suggestions especially to heart and am so h...
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Sink or Swim...
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Welp, This Month Marks 10 years since Loosing my Afather to this Dreadful Disease... I Still look back on it and Wonder, (Knowing I Shouldn't) What Could have been... knowing in my Heart, the Results would always be the Same... His Illness didn't allow him much freedom, it was an Everyday all day kind...
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Courage to Change November 28 2018
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Hello MIP! Today's C2C reading is about the 4th step. The author shares that when they started the 4th step, they found that many things they had previously thought of as virtues were actually character defects: taking care of others, worrying about others, sacrificing their own happiness and pro...
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Request for group conscience on site technical improvements
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Please visit the MIP Al-Anon business forum to participate in a group conscience about technical improvements to the MIP Al-Anon site. -- Hidden/Freetime -- Your WebHelper Team -- Edited by WebHelper on Wednesday 28th of November 2018 05:46:53 PM
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Here I am again
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Hello all, Here I am again! I haven't been on for awhile and I haven't been going to meetings because I have fallen back into old ways and patterns thinking "I got this" Well I don't . Everything is a mess! The AH is in detox that he signed into on my birthday (3 days ago) and he is wanting out of there wit...
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mamakat71
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Happy Belated Thanksgiving :)
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It's been a whirlwind of a month is putting it mildly. Nice to be busy however there is such a thing as to busy. I was able to take time off and will go back to work tomorrow. I am so looking forward to enjoying some down time during Christmas as well it won't be as long however it will be a nice break. I thin...
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SerenityRUS
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27 NOV_One day at a time in Alanon
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Beloved Betty is on vaca. so i am filling in for her on the Tuesday daily until she gets back..Hope you are having a great time, Betty On Tuesday's offering, Author talks about the man whose wife is an alcoholic and how he is afraid to seek help in Al-anon because it looks like failure on his part It may be he...
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Newlywed and the honeymoon is already over
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Hello, I'm posting because I really don't know what to do. I got married just over a month ago, and today was my DH's ninth month of sobriety. I stress "was", because today he started drinking again. He text me that he was going to a friend's to watch football with the guys. I had a sliver of concern, but was...
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C2C, 11/26
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The author of today's reading said they never felt like they belonged, a life long problem, but even in Alanon at first. But they learned about alcoholism being a family disease, even affecting the people who cared about the alcoholic. And this disease could be passed from generation to generatio...
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Lyne
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Yes HP does...at least for me.
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My HP was at it again so I have to acknowledge the efforts again and again. At the start of and thru the end of the weekend my spirit made note that I should do another personal "change me" inventory and that made me glad and excited to decide what I needed to change and how I would do it. This one was easy as...
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JerryF
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it's been awhile(short)
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It has been awhile & I don't have much time to write. One thing is for certain my mom is where she needs to be & is very happy where she is. I think for the first time in a long time I am happy for her. Our relationship has been very volatile. Me, I am well. Been thinking about getting on here for awhile....
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Hoot Nanny
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the Guy Up Stairs
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I'm back again. I actually never really left. I might have mentioned I went back to work (in January). That seemed to be going well, but in the end I lost the job. The why is irrelevant. Losing the money sucks but that's the ways the cookies crumble. A few days afterward, I had a conversation with the Guy Up...
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Wolfie55
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New territory
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Hi MIP - looking for ESH for those who have parented with a separated spouse without any recovery path. My XAH as some of you might remember sent me a photo with drugs in the background and it has changed our access plan. I now have control about my daughter seeing AH - how and when. She is about to turn 4 and h...
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VickiR
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Co-dependancy and Jealousy with the recovering addict
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My wife just returned home from rehab. YEAH!! Or so I thought. I am entering a strange emotional state all of a sudden. We have been having some nice chats but it always seems to end with my jealousy regarding some male friends she met there. One in particular. She says it was a total brother sister relati...
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livestrong09
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Hope for Today Nov 25
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Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about accepting what we can control, its about not projecting an issue, its about staying in our own business. The writer describes the period of time when his/her parents were divorced; the difficulty in staying out of the animosity, especially because t...
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yanksfan51
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When your day absolutely sucks!!!!
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my Musings about when your day absolutely sucks!!!! I wrote this on facebook,a while back and got lots of "thank you's" because nobody wants to feel like they are alone and/or being picked on by some entity that "has it in for us" When you're really having a bad day, i.e., Like soon as you get out of bed, yo...
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C2C November 24
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Greeting MIP family. Today's courage to change discusses the recovery work of Step 10: continuing to take a moral inventory and promptly admitting when we are wrong. In C2C, this is explored using the premise of self-focus as opposed to fault finding or criticising others. The author admits to fore...
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a4l
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Never seen this version...
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Saw this on another website, and thought I would share, as I have never seen the "long version.' God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,The courage to change the things I can,And the wisdom to know the difference.Grant me patience with the changes that take time,Appreciatio...
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PosiesandPuppies
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C2C Reading 11-20-2018
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The C2C reading for November 20 speaks about the joy we feel, as children in simply being alive. it points out how very important it is to not tamper with that joy . However when alcoholism enters the home this usually cannot be avoided. and our "spirits become broken as a result. Alanon offers us...
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ODAT, November 23
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Hello everyone! Today's page in One Day At A Time in Al-Anon talks about banishing fear by accepting the protection and guidance of a Higher Power. "What happened yesterday need not trouble me today." I have the power to make today a good one just by the way I think about it. From Today's Reminder: "If I...
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Freetime
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Alanon Annoucement for the chat / meeting room .. 24 Hours of support service sign up
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As the holidays approach, there are often some who could use some additional support. We have made a group decision to provide service for 24 hours beginning this evening Weds Nov 21 and running through Thanksgiving Thursday Nov 22. If anyone is willing to offer their time sharing experience,...
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Happy Thanksgiving...
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to all of you and here is wishing you all the peace of mind and serenity and the presence of your Higher Power as wished. Going to the Thanksgiving annual celebration where my home group has the lead share. Thank you God for this recovery and this MIP Family. ((((hugs))))
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Courage to Change 11/22/18
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Good morning MIP and Happy Thanksgiving to all who celebrate. I am grateful for our founder, John, who created this haven for us to come together and share our recovery. I am grateful for all of you too! Today's reading is about our spiritual program of recovery. The word recovery suggests we are re...
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I mean I have no idea.
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I try not to interfere with things because honestly its none of my business and I feel like its my husbands place to say things because its his parents. Last night we went to go have dinner with his parents and they were babysitting for us so we could go see a movie. My father in law is an alcoholic(the can't...
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Today's hope Nov. 21
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Hello MIP! I'm a bit late this morning, and home sick, so I don't have my C2C handy. SO, today's share is from http://www.todays-hope.com/todays-sharing.html The share today is about grief and loss. The author reflects that many of us have lost so much or experienced so much grief, we try to cling...
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22 NOV_-Keep it simple
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Keep It Simple We are healed of a suffering only be experiencing it in full. ---Marcel Proust Hi everyone!!! Happy Thanksgiving coming up: Author in this daily talks about never should we forget our past...WE need to be mindful of the power our disease has over us and still has...so we can remember h...
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From start to now- in Alanon...
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Hi y'all... A journey begins- with the first step... ...may seem like a cliche... but it is true for me. First meeting- this member stabs the air with her finger... when you are point the finger- there are three pointing right back at you... ... also from the same person- she had a battered ODA...
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The experiences I need to listen to are my own.
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Aloha Family and good morning. Thank you for allowing me to come and sit and listen and participate in our recovery from the affects of alcoholism and drug addiction in our lives. Yesterday morning after our morning meeting which is AA founded by several "doubles...Al-Anon's also in AA recover...
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JerryF
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Getting through another day...
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Oh boy, It was a real long week. Had to fly over here to east Texas when my brother passed... lots of things to do- grieve being one of them. Lots happening... but will take time to process... nice to give feed-back- but not a whole book! Seemed impossible at times......
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DavidG
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This is a day at a time life we have.
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I have been feeling kind of disconnected lately from my higher power- kind of wondering where it was, did he desert me? Along those lines. Three years ago I had a bout with cancer. I was frightened. I really relied on HP to get me through. Amazingly enough (or maybe not so) I got what I needed and got throug...
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C2C, 11/19
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The writer today searched for a label to describe their Alanon goals. There were too many and most missed the mark. The writer realized the goal to strive for was an overall sense of wellness. The writer wanted more than just surviving; they wanted a rich and fulfilling life. The writer believed...
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Lyne
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