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DavidG · DavidG

I am more like a grandmother now- not unusual since my mum and grandma and two aunties bought me up, more than anyone. I am not the sort of person who can get a hammer and a chisel out and talk in a gruff voice. I am not the sort of person who comes home from the supermarket with a dozen tinnies. [I some...

JerryF · JerryF

Good morning family...Hope you are all fine and dandy and spiritually happy and in balance. I don't know how many have elected to subscribe to the Forum, our Al-Anon monthly magazine. We do and often it is the rag that polishes my recovery. This morning I reconnected with a lesson my deceased spons...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Prayers continue Betty for a peaceful outcome. Today's reading discusses how comparing ourselves to others can be a distracting character defect in Al-Anon. The reading suggests that each snowflake is different as well as every thumbprint. Each of us, arriving at Al-Anon...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on the ease of detachment with casual friends, where they are not very emotionally involved, compared to how difficult it is to not take on a negative frame of mind if a family member is being critical or grumpy. The author reflects on their o...

Beckon2 · Beckon2

I can't get into the alanon/mip meeting room. I have tried different servers .still can't get in. Thank you for your Help. Silgirl

Beckon2 · Beckon2

Hi all.Miss you. Can't get into the Meeting room. Alanon/mip. beckon

Rocky38 · Rocky38

Dear friends, old and new, I just stopped by to say hello and send my wishes that everyone here is receiving the love and support that I did when I was active on this forum back in 2005-2010 (I can't believe I remember my sign-on and password!) Life has taken its twists and turns, as it does. Still, I hold a s...

DavidG · DavidG

Perfection not progress seemed to be the philosophy of the A. in my life. In my eyes he seldom measured up. But details and stuff used to make him angry- livid- like a three year old. I tailored the programme a bit- so I could embrace all these new ideas. I said: "Expect perfection, but settle for a lit...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 2/10, discusses how important it is to replace negative thinking with positive action. Imagination and creativity are some of the ways we can practice this. Our program says we should acknowledge our achievements and try to live each day fully. Being creative plants us i...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

Is any of the literature available in audio books?

DavidG · DavidG

I made direct amends early on. I surmised- that in the early months of AA new members would "do the steps" as soon as they were de-toxed. To help burn the boats and bridges back to the drinking culture. Today my own amends are more on a Step 10 basis. i had difficulty, initially explaining what Alano...

Aloha · Aloha

https://alanon.activeboard.com/t66257626/group-inventory/

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about leadership and the different forms it can take. The writer describes, through his/her understanding of concept nine, that leadership can come in the form of following program suggestions, inspiring others in that way. For those of us who do not find...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today's reading talks about finding a sense of ourselves. Do I know myself only in the image that others have made for me? "If we lack a sense of ourselves as people changing, on the move, in a process of growth, then it is easy to let ourselves become fixed, defined, static, lifeless. Other people will...

Freetime · Freetime

The C2C reading for February 7 is about making small changes to move our life in a positive direction. The author gives many examples of small steps that can lead to major strides: get some exercise, listen to music, ask someone to be a sponsor, try a different meeting, contact an old friend, fix someth...

DavidG · DavidG

Ah, it pays to look! Alanon has three readers, and ODAT was the first. I loved books, and still do- more or less my teddy bears... ... [https://ecomm.al-anon.org/ItemDetail?iProductCode=B6-50&CATEGORY=BOOKS]

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

I've been reading old posts here lately. Last night I was reading some from 2005 and it kinda surprised me that they weren't really that much different than current ones. When I came here I felt so alone and like my situation is somehow worse or different than others. But reading old posts shows me othe...

Hopeful11 · Hopeful11

I realize in Al-Anon we dont offer advice. However, Im in crisis mode. I havent slept in the last 24 hours. My qualifier went on a bender last night. Fortunately, it appears he has left (drove his car and drunk because the rest of the whiskey is gone). I am praying he doesnt come back tonight so I can have pe...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hi everyone!!!! its been quite a ride since I was last here... just one trial after another and it was starting to make me ill..The stress was eating me up and i was considering helping me outta this world because I am soooo tired and worn out from the unwanted side of life I sat on the couch and I cried about...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading discusses distorted thinking and forcing solutions. The writer tells about arriving at Al-Anon, and hearing to not make any major decisions for at least 6 months. The writer really wanted to hear, leave the bum instead, so was dismayed. After waiting, the wri...

Jozie · Jozie

So in Reading My Daily today, I Chose to Read the New "50th Annv. ODAT" and I'm Gonna Share it with ya's :) Jan 30th... Most of us come to Al-Anon for help as a last resort. We've tried everything else. Perhaps we've seen its effects on others; it seems to have worked like magic, and we want some of that! Th...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Doing well these days. Learning to let go & let God. Sometimes it is very hard to do. Patience is a good tool to deal w the frustration I have lately. I pursue daily to have a conscious contact w my God. I hope I will continue this journey & am able to live in the here & now.

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on the Zen Buddhist saying: "When the student is ready, the teacher appears." This saying reminds the author of Alanon's public relations policy based on attraction, not promotion. The author reflects that, although they learned abo...

DavidG · DavidG

One of the numerous reasons why I am a member here- is that we read from Hope For Today. And I read today, from that book, the reading for the 3rd of February. The reading is about a member who had a soft toy chimpanzee... which she still had. And it gave her reflections- strongly- about her bod...

Jnazarieh · Jnazarieh

I want to start by thanking everyone here for all their kind words of encouragement and hope. My brother is my qualifier and Im at such a lose as to what to do. Hes been struggling for years and been in and out of rehab. Hes Been involved with A.A. for years. Hes done individual therapy, group therapy , out...

hotrod · hotrod

The Courage to Change reading for today speaks about timess when we are sure that God is punishing us. the reading suggests that this is because we lost our image of a loving god. we are reminded ts that when faced with difficult or painful situations our loving God is always available as a...

JerryF · JerryF

The question set my heart aflutter which can be dangerous at my age but I chanced it..."Yes I do...always have and always will" and I sat back and enjoyed the moment and feelings. The question came from one of the most beautiful women in my life...my daughter who I was separated from when she was near...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 2/3, talks about the gifts and meaning of serenity. The author learned that serenity was not curing the A, paying the electric bill, or sitting on a mountain top. Serenity gave the author freedom to live their life as fully and passionately as possible. It tapped into an unl...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

I've been reading about minding my own business. The truth is,I really am not sure what is or isn't my business,not just with the A's in my life but with everything and everyone pretty much. ESH please on how to determine when I need to(or should) stick my nose in or not. I'm sure it's not as simple as if s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

As some of you know: I have been writing my life story. I have been doing it since last summer. I thought I would be done by July but on & on it goes. I am about half way there if that is possible. I am so grateful for the memories that I have compiled & hope that when I share it w/ others it will have some i...

Jozie · Jozie

A Piece from 50th Anniversary ODAT: When I Say to myself that I'm Going to turn all my problems over to God, this does not give me leave to shirk my responsibilities. Todays' Reminder: When I am Desperate enough to ask for help, I will not expect it to come in the form of easy solutions. I must play a part in s...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- The focus of todays reading is how detrimental gossip is for us in recovery. There are several sentences that jumped out at me from todays page: Gossip created a judgmental atmosphere in which I did not feel free to be myself. I have thought (often in hindsight, after having co...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

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Aloha · Aloha

I'm having a big "pat-my-back" moment this morning. Before Al-Anon, I used to always take the temperature of those around me. If you were happy, I was happy. If you were sad, I was sad. If you were grumpy, I'd freak out and think it's my fault, and sometimes I'd even get grumpy and defensive. At the same ti...

Jozie · Jozie

One thing I Seem to Always Go Back to When I'm Ready for a "Poor Me" Moment, I Tend to Run Head First in Shame & Guilt... When things are Good, I tend to Do OK in this Department...I Stay Strong in my Program, and in Balancing things in Life... The Moment that I Get Overwhelmed, the Moment My Feelings ge...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all, I have just been in a deep and intense family situation with my cousins and extended family. I realise that Alanon has taught me good boundaries- "...let there be no gossip or criticism of each other... " ... ... Chinese whispers can kill a family- lies and half truths. Even truths, if...

Freetime · Freetime

In this January 31 reading, the author shares an interpretation of Tradition One to mean that "unity" includes coming to meetings even when life is going well. Unity meant that when the author shared irrational thinking, the people in the room offered a hug instead of telling them to shape up. Ins...

DavidG · DavidG

a space for me... not read by many... like an early meeting, early on the journey... where people sit on the edge of the seat- waiting for their turn to share... and the other stuff seeps in around the edges... ...stimulating the taste-buds for learning... I had to taylor my talks about not bein...

DavidG · DavidG

I have heard it thousands of times, and said it hundreds of time... the regular opening. It is not cast in steel or bronze. Over time it might change- and a lot of things change. Alanon has district assemblies, and right up to WSO. Ideas come forward all the time and they should. Remits can go before co...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how our perceptions influence our feelings. Specifically the writer describes feelings of hurt and anger because of perceptions of the A in his/her life. The writer decided to pray about the anger and asked for a reminder about the spiritual reason f...

DavidG · DavidG

Howdy, y'all... I find journalling to be very healing. I do all of mine on the laptop, really. I am old enough to recall using those dip pens with inkwells- at school. For the first few years ball-point pens were banned. My dream was to complete the 12 steps- and try and do tradition...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's topic includes - One Day at a Time, Easy Does It and Think. The reading suggests that living with alcoholism, we learn that plans could change at any moment as well as the rules. Most of us develop a deep mistrust of everything and everyone as we felt we could count on nothing. Al-Anon shows u...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C Reading for 1- 28 speaks to our motives for attending alanon meetings. The reading suggests that many arrive looking for a " quick fix 'only to find a healrhy way of living, true friends and a supportive. spirituAl network so that is why we keep coming back. Make it a great day

Aloha · Aloha

It is easier to act yourself into a new way of thinking than it is to think yourself into a new way of acting I heard this quote today and really appreciated it. Sometimes, when faced with the enormity of alcoholism, I found it helpful to "act as if". Act as if I trusted God, act as if I'll be okay, act as if oth...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on the value of self-expression. The author suggests that, while many of learn the importance of self-expression in Al-Anon, there is a difference between self-expression and using words to control others. The author helps themselve...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

This is just an update from my last thread about whether I should contact AH's doctor about his prescription abuse... He had a follow up appointment with her. He didn't mention that I had contacted her but it was fairly obvious she had told him. I'm not sure what "really" got said but hubby's version wa...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

When I found AlAnon I was full of anger, resentment, poor speech and actions. I thought I was justified because the A in my life was not able to control their drinking. AlAnon challenged me to consider the thought in today's (1/24) ODAT reading: 'If I have heard and accepted that I and the A are both power...

Aloha · Aloha

I celebrated 12 years in the program this weekend. It's amazing how far I've come, and the love and support Al-Anon gives me is why I keep coming back. During the weekend I was doing some re-organizing on my bookshelf. I keep my old journals on my bookshelf as I often refer back to them while I do step work....

lynn0628tammy · lynn0628tammy

I was married to an abusive (in every way possible) alcoholic for 15 years. It took a very old friend of mine to help me realize that I was worth more than what I had been told for so long. One of my children ended up being an addict, not only because of his bio-dad's genetics but because of my ex-husband be...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 1/27, speaks about alternatives to over-reacting, being a martyr, focusing on being disrespected, and trying to solve everything all at once. The writer talks about learning to take things at face value, and deal with one situation at a time. Reminder: Why do I allow myse...

Debb · Debb

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DavidG · DavidG

I look at my old world- and the pointlessness, and the pain... and some of this i still carry with me. The people who understand me best- are people like me. I needed this guidance, and this company- companionship. I look over the message board here this morning- with pride- and relief. Hope and h...

Debb · Debb

The ODAT for the day speaks about filling the void left when we remove bad or compulsive habitswith the opposite or good habits. The secret is to replace the I Will Not" with "I Will". The reminder, per the ODAT, is that if we are unhappy and critical, that we should seek out what is good and pleasing in o...

Freetime · Freetime

The reading for January 24 is about honesty with ourselves. The author has been tempted in the past to smile, make excuses, cancel plans, not make waves -- all in an attempt to please another person. Now, they dare to be their authentic self They will not pretend about their real feelings or about wh...

lgnutah · lgnutah

Just blocked my "qualifier"'s # for calls and texts. I can't control my qualifier's behavior (sending me repetitice abusive, accusative, blaming texts or calling me when drunk/high) but I can take charge of my sanity by stopping texts from showing up on my phone, and I can keep my qualifiers call...

andromeda · andromeda

Hello everyone! How are you all? I am doing well except for some heart problems I have been having, mainly high blood pressure. I started having this issue about 8-12 weeks ago and then I had an episode of SVT (supra ventricular tacchycardia....SP?) where my pulse rate was at 180 for about 6 hours. M...

Debb · Debb

Been thinking about this behavior and how I had to come to terms with it, in relation to the A's addiction. It was by far one of the more difficult issues, for me, that I had to overcome, because of the demeaning impact it had on my life. I read that ... "It is common for substance abusers to share certai...

Debb · Debb

It was suggested that a group inventory maybe beneficial for MIP by 2HP and so here it is!! I am editing for clarity, that I asked Betty first and she gave her blessings to try this for our membership.The Traditions summarize the Al-Anon principles that have proven to help Al-Anon groups function eff...

Aloha · Aloha

I'll define "martyr" before I move on with my post. The dictionary defines martyr in a couple of ways, but the way I'm interested in is "a person who displays or exaggerates their discomfort or distress in order to obtain sympathy or admiration." I was thinking about martyring the other day after a con...

DavidG · DavidG

Ugh! i know there is a solution here. It feels like our money is just slipping through our hands. We had no retirement savings- so 16 years ago we set up a small business. This has gone well- gives us plenty of activity. It is old stuff for me- to ever having enough as a kid. This struck me most with our co...

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	Mum's famous words... (Preview) I am more like a grandmother now- not unusual since my mum and grandma and two aunties bought me up, more than anyone. I am not the sort of person who can get a hammer and a chisel out and talk in a gruff voice. I am not the sort of person who comes home from the supermarket with a dozen tinnies. [I some...	DavidG	1	636	Feb 14, 2020 by tiredtonite
	The Forum..2/2020 (Preview) Good morning family...Hope you are all fine and dandy and spiritually happy and in balance. I don't know how many have elected to subscribe to the Forum, our Al-Anon monthly magazine. We do and often it is the rag that polishes my recovery. This morning I reconnected with a lesson my deceased spons...	JerryF	3	575	Feb 13, 2020 by Bo
	Courage to Change 2/13 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Prayers continue Betty for a peaceful outcome. Today's reading discusses how comparing ourselves to others can be a distracting character defect in Al-Anon. The reading suggests that each snowflake is different as well as every thumbprint. Each of us, arriving at Al-Anon...	Iamhere	2	572	Feb 13, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change February 12 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on the ease of detachment with casual friends, where they are not very emotionally involved, compared to how difficult it is to not take on a negative frame of mind if a family member is being critical or grumpy. The author reflects on their o...	Skorpi	4	810	Feb 12, 2020 by Beckon2
	RE: MIP meeting room (Preview) I can't get into the alanon/mip meeting room. I have tried different servers .still can't get in. Thank you for your Help. Silgirl	Beckon2	0	677	Feb 12, 2020 by Beckon2
	I can't get into the meeting room.Help! Silgirl (Preview) Hi all.Miss you. Can't get into the Meeting room. Alanon/mip. beckon	Beckon2	0	474	Feb 12, 2020 by Beckon2
	Update on Rocky38 (Preview) Dear friends, old and new, I just stopped by to say hello and send my wishes that everyone here is receiving the love and support that I did when I was active on this forum back in 2005-2010 (I can't believe I remember my sign-on and password!) Life has taken its twists and turns, as it does. Still, I hold a s...	Rocky38	3	518	Feb 12, 2020 by Iamhere
	Perfection... (Preview) Perfection not progress seemed to be the philosophy of the A. in my life. In my eyes he seldom measured up. But details and stuff used to make him angry- livid- like a three year old. I tailored the programme a bit- so I could embrace all these new ideas. I said: "Expect perfection, but settle for a lit...	DavidG	5	748	Feb 11, 2020 by DavidG
	C2C, 2/10 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 2/10, discusses how important it is to replace negative thinking with positive action. Imagination and creativity are some of the ways we can practice this. Our program says we should acknowledge our achievements and try to live each day fully. Being creative plants us i...	Lyne	4	608	Feb 11, 2020 by Jill
	Audio Books (Preview) Is any of the literature available in audio books?	SunnyFrogs	3	499	Feb 10, 2020 by Aloha
	Making amends to kids... (Preview) I made direct amends early on. I surmised- that in the early months of AA new members would "do the steps" as soon as they were de-toxed. To help burn the boats and bridges back to the drinking culture. Today my own amends are more on a Step 10 basis. i had difficulty, initially explaining what Alano...	DavidG	7	571	Feb 10, 2020 by Bo
	Group Inventory discussion has been moved to the business board (Preview) https://alanon.activeboard.com/t66257626/group-inventory/	Aloha	3	604	Feb 10, 2020 by Aloha
	Hope for Today Feb 9 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about leadership and the different forms it can take. The writer describes, through his/her understanding of concept nine, that leadership can come in the form of following program suggestions, inspiring others in that way. For those of us who do not find...	yanksfan51	1	533	Feb 9, 2020 by Iamhere
	Today's Hope 2/8/20 (Preview) Today's reading talks about finding a sense of ourselves. Do I know myself only in the image that others have made for me? "If we lack a sense of ourselves as people changing, on the move, in a process of growth, then it is easy to let ourselves become fixed, defined, static, lifeless. Other people will...	PosiesandPuppies	3	564	Feb 9, 2020 by Lyne
	Courage to Change, February 7 (Preview) The C2C reading for February 7 is about making small changes to move our life in a positive direction. The author gives many examples of small steps that can lead to major strides: get some exercise, listen to music, ask someone to be a sponsor, try a different meeting, contact an old friend, fix someth...	Freetime	6	568	Feb 8, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	A new book...??? One Day At A Time. (Preview) Ah, it pays to look! Alanon has three readers, and ODAT was the first. I loved books, and still do- more or less my teddy bears... ... [https://ecomm.al-anon.org/ItemDetail?iProductCode=B6-50&CATEGORY=BOOKS]	DavidG	4	702	Feb 8, 2020 by Lyne
	Some Things Never Change (Preview) I've been reading old posts here lately. Last night I was reading some from 2005 and it kinda surprised me that they weren't really that much different than current ones. When I came here I felt so alone and like my situation is somehow worse or different than others. But reading old posts shows me othe...	SunnyFrogs	7	660	Feb 7, 2020 by JerryF
	Help (Preview) I realize in Al-Anon we dont offer advice. However, Im in crisis mode. I havent slept in the last 24 hours. My qualifier went on a bender last night. Fortunately, it appears he has left (drove his car and drunk because the rest of the whiskey is gone). I am praying he doesnt come back tonight so I can have pe...	Hopeful11	27	968	Feb 6, 2020 by Hopeful11
	the LAST resort!!! (Preview) Hi everyone!!!! its been quite a ride since I was last here... just one trial after another and it was starting to make me ill..The stress was eating me up and i was considering helping me outta this world because I am soooo tired and worn out from the unwanted side of life I sat on the couch and I cried about...	mamalioness	21	974	Feb 6, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 2/6 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading discusses distorted thinking and forcing solutions. The writer tells about arriving at Al-Anon, and hearing to not make any major decisions for at least 6 months. The writer really wanted to hear, leave the bum instead, so was dismayed. After waiting, the wri...	Iamhere	3	648	Feb 6, 2020 by JerryF
	New ODAT Got Me! (Preview) So in Reading My Daily today, I Chose to Read the New "50th Annv. ODAT" and I'm Gonna Share it with ya's :) Jan 30th... Most of us come to Al-Anon for help as a last resort. We've tried everything else. Perhaps we've seen its effects on others; it seems to have worked like magic, and we want some of that! Th...	Jozie	5	765	Feb 5, 2020 by mamalioness
	Just a few minutes to say hi (Preview) Doing well these days. Learning to let go & let God. Sometimes it is very hard to do. Patience is a good tool to deal w the frustration I have lately. I pursue daily to have a conscious contact w my God. I hope I will continue this journey & am able to live in the here & now.	Hoot Nanny	5	615	Feb 5, 2020 by Jozie
	Courage to Change February 5 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on the Zen Buddhist saying: "When the student is ready, the teacher appears." This saying reminds the author of Alanon's public relations policy based on attraction, not promotion. The author reflects that, although they learned abo...	Skorpi	6	537	Feb 5, 2020 by Maresie888
	Giving ourselves permission to heal... (Preview) One of the numerous reasons why I am a member here- is that we read from Hope For Today. And I read today, from that book, the reading for the 3rd of February. The reading is about a member who had a soft toy chimpanzee... which she still had. And it gave her reflections- strongly- about her bod...	DavidG	6	630	Feb 5, 2020 by DavidG
	Feeling Lost (Preview) I want to start by thanking everyone here for all their kind words of encouragement and hope. My brother is my qualifier and Im at such a lose as to what to do. Hes been struggling for years and been in and out of rehab. Hes Been involved with A.A. for years. Hes done individual therapy, group therapy , out...	Jnazarieh	16	890	Feb 5, 2020 by Maresie888
	C2C Reading 2-4 (Preview) The Courage to Change reading for today speaks about timess when we are sure that God is punishing us. the reading suggests that this is because we lost our image of a loving god. we are reminded ts that when faced with difficult or painful situations our loving God is always available as a...	hotrod	5	512	Feb 5, 2020 by DavidG
	Do you still love me? (Preview) The question set my heart aflutter which can be dangerous at my age but I chanced it..."Yes I do...always have and always will" and I sat back and enjoyed the moment and feelings. The question came from one of the most beautiful women in my life...my daughter who I was separated from when she was near...	JerryF	7	846	Feb 5, 2020 by mamalioness
	C2C, 2/3 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 2/3, talks about the gifts and meaning of serenity. The author learned that serenity was not curing the A, paying the electric bill, or sitting on a mountain top. Serenity gave the author freedom to live their life as fully and passionately as possible. It tapped into an unl...	Lyne	5	511	Feb 5, 2020 by Maresie888
	What Is/Isn't My Business (Preview) I've been reading about minding my own business. The truth is,I really am not sure what is or isn't my business,not just with the A's in my life but with everything and everyone pretty much. ESH please on how to determine when I need to(or should) stick my nose in or not. I'm sure it's not as simple as if s...	SunnyFrogs	7	930	Feb 4, 2020 by SunnyFrogs
	maybe half way through (Preview) As some of you know: I have been writing my life story. I have been doing it since last summer. I thought I would be done by July but on & on it goes. I am about half way there if that is possible. I am so grateful for the memories that I have compiled & hope that when I share it w/ others it will have some i...	Hoot Nanny	5	561	Feb 3, 2020 by DavidG
	New Things are Hard... But I'm Trying (Preview) A Piece from 50th Anniversary ODAT: When I Say to myself that I'm Going to turn all my problems over to God, this does not give me leave to shirk my responsibilities. Todays' Reminder: When I am Desperate enough to ask for help, I will not expect it to come in the form of easy solutions. I must play a part in s...	Jozie	3	552	Feb 3, 2020 by JerryF
	Hope for Today Feb 2 (Preview) Good morning everyone- The focus of todays reading is how detrimental gossip is for us in recovery. There are several sentences that jumped out at me from todays page: Gossip created a judgmental atmosphere in which I did not feel free to be myself. I have thought (often in hindsight, after having co...	yanksfan51	6	2284	Feb 3, 2020 by Jozie
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	You don't have to attend every argument you're invited to. (Preview) I'm having a big "pat-my-back" moment this morning. Before Al-Anon, I used to always take the temperature of those around me. If you were happy, I was happy. If you were sad, I was sad. If you were grumpy, I'd freak out and think it's my fault, and sometimes I'd even get grumpy and defensive. At the same ti...	Aloha	12	818	Feb 2, 2020 by Maresie888
	Struggling in Old Habit that Just Wont Go Away! (Preview) One thing I Seem to Always Go Back to When I'm Ready for a "Poor Me" Moment, I Tend to Run Head First in Shame & Guilt... When things are Good, I tend to Do OK in this Department...I Stay Strong in my Program, and in Balancing things in Life... The Moment that I Get Overwhelmed, the Moment My Feelings ge...	Jozie	15	598	Feb 1, 2020 by SerenityRUS
	Step 12... gossip and criticism... (Preview) Hi y'all, I have just been in a deep and intense family situation with my cousins and extended family. I realise that Alanon has taught me good boundaries- "...let there be no gossip or criticism of each other... " ... ... Chinese whispers can kill a family- lies and half truths. Even truths, if...	DavidG	3	607	Feb 1, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today - January 31 (Preview) In this January 31 reading, the author shares an interpretation of Tradition One to mean that "unity" includes coming to meetings even when life is going well. Unity meant that when the author shared irrational thinking, the people in the room offered a hug instead of telling them to shape up. Ins...	Freetime	4	605	Jan 31, 2020 by Maresie888
	My week... (Preview) a space for me... not read by many... like an early meeting, early on the journey... where people sit on the edge of the seat- waiting for their turn to share... and the other stuff seeps in around the edges... ...stimulating the taste-buds for learning... I had to taylor my talks about not bein...	DavidG	2	506	Jan 31, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	The Alanon opening... (Preview) I have heard it thousands of times, and said it hundreds of time... the regular opening. It is not cast in steel or bronze. Over time it might change- and a lot of things change. Alanon has district assemblies, and right up to WSO. Ideas come forward all the time and they should. Remits can go before co...	DavidG	5	1712	Jan 30, 2020 by DavidG
	Hope for Today Jan 26 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how our perceptions influence our feelings. Specifically the writer describes feelings of hurt and anger because of perceptions of the A in his/her life. The writer decided to pray about the anger and asked for a reminder about the spiritual reason f...	yanksfan51	4	379	Jan 30, 2020 by DavidG
	Progress, or perfection...? (Preview) Howdy, y'all... I find journalling to be very healing. I do all of mine on the laptop, really. I am old enough to recall using those dip pens with inkwells- at school. For the first few years ball-point pens were banned. My dream was to complete the 12 steps- and try and do tradition...	DavidG	5	518	Jan 30, 2020 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 1/30 (Preview) Today's topic includes - One Day at a Time, Easy Does It and Think. The reading suggests that living with alcoholism, we learn that plans could change at any moment as well as the rules. Most of us develop a deep mistrust of everything and everyone as we felt we could count on nothing. Al-Anon shows u...	Iamhere	2	336	Jan 30, 2020 by Lyne
	c2C READING 1-28 (Preview) The C2C Reading for 1- 28 speaks to our motives for attending alanon meetings. The reading suggests that many arrive looking for a " quick fix 'only to find a healrhy way of living, true friends and a supportive. spirituAl network so that is why we keep coming back. Make it a great day	hotrod	3	402	Jan 30, 2020 by DavidG
	It is easier to act yourself into a new way of thinking than it is to think yourself into a new way of acting (Preview) It is easier to act yourself into a new way of thinking than it is to think yourself into a new way of acting I heard this quote today and really appreciated it. Sometimes, when faced with the enormity of alcoholism, I found it helpful to "act as if". Act as if I trusted God, act as if I'll be okay, act as if oth...	Aloha	2	561	Jan 29, 2020 by JerryF
	Courage to Change January 29 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on the value of self-expression. The author suggests that, while many of learn the importance of self-expression in Al-Anon, there is a difference between self-expression and using words to control others. The author helps themselve...	Skorpi	4	424	Jan 29, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	What I Learned From Contacting His Doctor (Preview) This is just an update from my last thread about whether I should contact AH's doctor about his prescription abuse... He had a follow up appointment with her. He didn't mention that I had contacted her but it was fairly obvious she had told him. I'm not sure what "really" got said but hubby's version wa...	SunnyFrogs	22	937	Jan 29, 2020 by Iamhere
	'Why Do I Act as Though He Were Willfully Bad?' (Preview) When I found AlAnon I was full of anger, resentment, poor speech and actions. I thought I was justified because the A in my life was not able to control their drinking. AlAnon challenged me to consider the thought in today's (1/24) ODAT reading: 'If I have heard and accepted that I and the A are both power...	Enigmatic	8	809	Jan 29, 2020 by Enigmatic
	Celebrating 12 years (Preview) I celebrated 12 years in the program this weekend. It's amazing how far I've come, and the love and support Al-Anon gives me is why I keep coming back. During the weekend I was doing some re-organizing on my bookshelf. I keep my old journals on my bookshelf as I often refer back to them while I do step work....	Aloha	10	744	Jan 28, 2020 by Aloha
	Needing support (Preview) I was married to an abusive (in every way possible) alcoholic for 15 years. It took a very old friend of mine to help me realize that I was worth more than what I had been told for so long. One of my children ended up being an addict, not only because of his bio-dad's genetics but because of my ex-husband be...	lynn0628tammy	11	1733	Jan 28, 2020 by Jozie
	C2C, 1/27 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 1/27, speaks about alternatives to over-reacting, being a martyr, focusing on being disrespected, and trying to solve everything all at once. The writer talks about learning to take things at face value, and deal with one situation at a time. Reminder: Why do I allow myse...	Lyne	4	437	Jan 27, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Al Anon Service Tool #6 - Cross-Talk & Loving Interchange (Preview) http://www.alanon.org.za/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/Service-Tool-6-Cros...	Debb	16	3264	Jan 25, 2020 by hotrod
	From help into hope... (Preview) I look at my old world- and the pointlessness, and the pain... and some of this i still carry with me. The people who understand me best- are people like me. I needed this guidance, and this company- companionship. I look over the message board here this morning- with pride- and relief. Hope and h...	DavidG	4	570	Jan 25, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT for 1/25/2020 - (Preview) The ODAT for the day speaks about filling the void left when we remove bad or compulsive habitswith the opposite or good habits. The secret is to replace the I Will Not" with "I Will". The reminder, per the ODAT, is that if we are unhappy and critical, that we should seek out what is good and pleasing in o...	Debb	4	455	Jan 25, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C, January 24 (Preview) The reading for January 24 is about honesty with ourselves. The author has been tempted in the past to smile, make excuses, cancel plans, not make waves -- all in an attempt to please another person. Now, they dare to be their authentic self They will not pretend about their real feelings or about wh...	Freetime	4	546	Jan 24, 2020 by DavidG
	Just did it and what a relief! (Preview) Just blocked my "qualifier"'s # for calls and texts. I can't control my qualifier's behavior (sending me repetitice abusive, accusative, blaming texts or calling me when drunk/high) but I can take charge of my sanity by stopping texts from showing up on my phone, and I can keep my qualifiers call...	lgnutah	9	3001	Jan 24, 2020 by Debb
	So frustrated: having heart and BP issues (Preview) Hello everyone! How are you all? I am doing well except for some heart problems I have been having, mainly high blood pressure. I started having this issue about 8-12 weeks ago and then I had an episode of SVT (supra ventricular tacchycardia....SP?) where my pulse rate was at 180 for about 6 hours. M...	andromeda	7	670	Jan 24, 2020 by Debb
	Grandiosity & Addiction (Preview) Been thinking about this behavior and how I had to come to terms with it, in relation to the A's addiction. It was by far one of the more difficult issues, for me, that I had to overcome, because of the demeaning impact it had on my life. I read that ... "It is common for substance abusers to share certai...	Debb	4	588	Jan 23, 2020 by Debb
	"Group Inventory" and "Traditions" for Group Participation ( 1 2 ) (closed) (Preview) It was suggested that a group inventory maybe beneficial for MIP by 2HP and so here it is!! I am editing for clarity, that I asked Betty first and she gave her blessings to try this for our membership.The Traditions summarize the Al-Anon principles that have proven to help Al-Anon groups function eff...	Debb	41	6858	Jan 23, 2020 by DavidG
	Martyrdom (Preview) I'll define "martyr" before I move on with my post. The dictionary defines martyr in a couple of ways, but the way I'm interested in is "a person who displays or exaggerates their discomfort or distress in order to obtain sympathy or admiration." I was thinking about martyring the other day after a con...	Aloha	8	1844	Jan 23, 2020 by Bo
	Worried about finances... (Preview) Ugh! i know there is a solution here. It feels like our money is just slipping through our hands. We had no retirement savings- so 16 years ago we set up a small business. This has gone well- gives us plenty of activity. It is old stuff for me- to ever having enough as a kid. This struck me most with our co...	DavidG	5	569	Jan 23, 2020 by tiredtonite
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