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foriver · foriver

Hi friends, I've gotten to a point where I don't know if what I'm doing/feeling is considered detaching "with love" or just plain I don't care anymore. I've been with my A for 5.5 years and we have a 1.5 year old daughter together. He relapses every few weeks - months. Never sober longer than 11 months...

DavidG · DavidG

Was in the city last week. At a hearing over child care and protection. I had to flick back- and see if I was repeating myself- and I was just about to. Getting into the present moment has been really hard for me. I was so much caught up between the "if only's" and the what if's. And i had a really big d...

Freetime · Freetime

I am posting very early for Friday -- I have a busy couple of days coming up. Today's page in One Day At A Time in Al-Anon reminds us how it feels to be a newcomer, and how we can best support newcomers. The newcomer usually feels alone in a hostile world, drowning in a sea of troubles. We need to guard agai...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It has been 54 years since I came to this planet & I never had it so good! All the blessings & positive thoughts for me are far from evident. I really feel that I deserve them & the friends I have met over the years who have been w/ me almost a life time. I have been so blessed w/ all of you that take m...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

When I met the qualifier I had a lot of goals. I also had a lot of hope that my life would get better. I saw him as a good sign. There were a number of red flags there from the beginning. Then a series of catastrophe's Somewhere along the line my goaks evaporared. Despite the pandemic, despite various ob...

dragonfly04 · dragonfly04

Last night was a rough night. My A bf got fired from his job that he just recently got hired from. He started working overnight 8 pm to 6 am. He came home around 2 am last night he said he had gotten fired. He drank a 4 pack of those mini wine bottles during his lunch break and when he returned got into an argumen...

Dancer66 · Dancer66

So life is crazy. My AH is up and down (and never the pass out kinds of drunk, just enough to be mean and annoying). He holds a job (works from home) and only drinks at night. But the changes that have come from his drinking in his attitude and his ability to interact with me and family (even when not drink...

DavidG · DavidG

... At our local supermarket there is a young woman of 22. My nephew's kid. 10 years ago our mother died- her grandmother... on the same night her dad died as well. They lived in the neighbourhood. After mum died I heard the news about D. and went around there. I stood with this kid- as she was then- a...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's reading talks about finding our sense of humor. Most of us, when we arrived to the rooms rarely cracked a smile and resented others who did. For some, the laughter in the meetings was hard to understand, as our lives felt tragic and serious. While many changes in recovery are awesome and w...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Now & then I really feel the presence of my Higher Power. He leads & guides me through all the good & bad. He listens to my rants & complaints every single day. And, when I fail, he forgives me. I am so blessed. Today I can truly sit here & say I never had it so good! I know some people have...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author quotes the Al-Anon suggested closing (a closing that my home group does not use): "though you may not like all of us, you'll love us in a very special way - the same way we already love you." The author reflects that every Al-Anon meeting is an opportunity to pr...

DavidG · DavidG

I am a leader, in the sense that I have done a lot of the work in Alanon. My goal-set was to be able to be a good example of Alanon recovery. If I don't like the way something is done, I just do it the way I think is most effective. I am liberated enough, and confident enough to do this. I try to be humble. But no l...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I am respecting Marasie's original discussion by moving some unrelated dialogue here. I do welcome any member to offer ESH on this thread, if desired. My post: Bo - I can't control how you choose to interpret my warning. That's up to you. What I will say is you have been asked repeatedly via Private...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So .. LOL .. we have a dog who I thought had a lot of schnauzer in him however apparently has more chuchu in him. Being a responsible doggie mommy and it's been years since I have owned a dog and we were not the covid19 let's get a dog we were the pre covid19 of hey this looks fun let's do it .. I remind myself ove...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I'm at work for the good boss yesetrday and he said he wanted to give me as much work as he could, considering the covid, impacting HIS business, etc., and anyway, while we were chatting Liz, the off. mgr at the A-hole's place texted...."omg rosie, he is being so rude to me, I legit wanted to walk out" I c...

akdono · akdono

Hi, everyone I am a newcomer and this is my first post. Thank you for the time ro read my concerns and answer me truthfully. My husband is an alcoholic new to recovery like sober only for one month. He's been home for about two weeks. I have a gut feeling and strong intuition that he has relapsed and contin...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

A main concept of AlAnon is that our focus need be on our own thoughts, perceptions, and actions rather than those of the alcoholic or others. To the extent that we ignore this concept we experience loss of serenity.One excuse we may use to justify interference in the affairs of the alcoholic and other...

DavidG · DavidG

Time is a bit of an illusion for me. As a kid time seemed to take forever. Then I had strong memories of these times- that other people had forgotten. Today is 2020. I went to meditation this morning. There is an old friend there. We share heaps and heaps afterwards. Her oldest son had a garage business...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 7/20, says the following: Wanting to know why the alcoholic drinks or, when sober, why he does what he does is an itch for which there is no scratch. The reading goes on to say that some of us will never get over trying to figure this out. Instead of becoming frustrated, the writ...

kay123 · kay123

Over the last year there have been several rehab stays, some more successful than others. There have been several overdoses and few too many close calls where the medics fortunately showed up in time. I can't close my eyes with out images of his blue skin, his lifeless body. He is trying but the lies c...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

Some of the people in my building are totally addicted to tobacco. Two years ago the City and the County introduced measures to ban smoking in.the building. They had a meeting where residents stated their rights were being taken away. They were livid. Among them was one charactor #Mel# who was par...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

EASY DOES IT Today's reading speaks about the slogan "Easy Does It." When we first come to Al-Anon, we often come with the philosophy that if something works, it will work even better and faster if we try harder. (emphasis mine).But Al-Anon involves a long-term process of growth and change. Our effor...

DavidG · DavidG

Huh? you might be asking yourself- what does this mean. Somewhere along the line- some of us must have had someone make amends to us! I think, maybe, as family members, this might happen more often? Not sure if it does? Anyway I cannot share any details at all, obviously. I am so very grateful to Alan...

DavidG · DavidG

I am a dreamer, and always shall be... ... One day I would like nominate slogan no. 21- and shepherd through a group conscience, to our district assembly- to GSO- and then to a WSO conference. It might be something like:- "we have the right to be wrong" or maybe "care or cure?" ~sigh~ Anyway- unti...

Freetime · Freetime

Finding peace and contentment whether the alcoholic is still drinking or not -- the author of today's page was able to get to this point by listening to someone who said, "You'll have to learn to make it whether the alcoholics do or not." The author began to separate their own welfare from that of the alc...

Bo · Bo

There's a local meeting here, in the tri-state area, that I attend regularly. Like many, I feel it's an excellent meeting. The meeting, which is one meeting, for 90 minutes is structured the following way: The meeting starts at 730pm. If there is a beginner present, they do a beginner's meeting openi...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

Just when I was feeling settled anther curveball with Covid 19 I am resilient these days but there is no chance of feeling comfortable Maresie

iris52 · iris52

Currently working on step 3.Made the decision. Turned over my will and life. I hear people say that they keep taking back their will. How do you know when you have taken back your will ? My husband (sober 30 years) needs to go into an assisted living/nursing home. He has dementia and it is getting almost...

Iamhere · Iamhere

The reading for tomorrow discusses one of my favorite Al-Anon tools - relaxing! Many of us arrive at recovery living a life full of frenzied activity. School, work, project, obligations, kids, housework, etc. all helped us focus outward. Al-Anon helps us focus inward. While there is nothing w...

brocharoo · brocharoo

Hi, I'm new here but should have joined a few years ago. My husband is in recovery for opioid abuse. Me bought and took prescription oxy for almost 2 years. The majority of this time was behind my back, though I had my suspicions. He is now on suboxone and been off of the pills since January. My question is,...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading from C2C speaks about the pace we progress through the program. The author shares that we each put the Al-Anon program into practice in our own lives the best we can, at the pace that seems right for us individually. The author avoids speaking harshly, or using phrases such...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

AlAnon does not instruct on how to change the alcoholic in order to find our serenity. Instead, it guides us on changing the things we can within ourselves (thinking, perspectives, behavior, possibly circumstances; reliance on a power greater than ourselves). This approach will lead us to peace...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about fear and how it can impede our lives in so many ways. The writer describes how fear has led to trying to control everything, how it has led to not believing he/she is worthy of trusting relationships, and its led to avoiding connections with other people....

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Every morning when I wake up, I have a little ritual I do. I think about the twenty four hours ahead. Before I begin, I ask God to direct my thinking. Then, I read from the ODAAT. I'm in AA also so I read their daily reader. Then, I pick a word from my god-box - this morning it was Depression. Luckily, I don't h...

Crmans · Crmans

Looking for ESH on expectations. I hear/read a lot about not having any. That automatically triggers me to think just be a doormat & take what you get. I expect respect, love, honor, communication & trust, no mental or verbal abuse. How is that possibly not ok? Especially in a marriage? I ha...

Lyne · Lyne

In the reading for Monday, 7/13, the writer reflects upon how many days of their life they have wasted. They state they were preoccupied with the alcoholic. Never did the author think about their right to enjoy the day! One can be completely out of sync with life if their attitude is focused on trage...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

Intrigue and secrecy was and still is huge trigger for me. Today my former roommare sent me an intruguing text message. I am supposed to ask him what it means. However now I am at a stage where I am totally indifferent. I can own that hook now I still have to deal with him on some level but not being #intrig...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

What do I do when my alcoholic husband takes the selfish route? I asked for a favor & got assumptions. Another you always do this or that. You won't be ready when I want you to be. You are being demanding. So now I sit at home w o getting an opportunity to go see a friend. No goodbye & he didn't take his...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today's date had such a beautiful reading from The Language of Letting Go by Melodie Beattie that I felt I just had to share. It is a long one, so I am paraphrasing. Achieving Harmony "When a pianist learns a new piece of music, he/she does not sit down and instantly play it perfectly." She goes on to say th...

Bo · Bo

It was raining here today...tail-end of the storm perhaps...who knows, LOL. I was just relaxing, enjoying the weekend, after a long, busy week...and decided to join the Al-Anon Without Borders...Around The World In 3 Days. What an amazing series of sessions...just amazing. Talk about people who...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today's Reminder: "Feeling our feelings is one important part of the recovery process. Learning how to balance feelings with appropriate action is another." Today's reading talks about dealing with feelings. The author goes on to explain that many of us deal with our anger in inappropriate ways....

Lyne · Lyne

Just a quick share to say that I wish my "acceptance" of my A would just stay in place and I wouldn't have to work so hard to maintain it. I get alcoholism is a disease which I am powerless over and cannot control. I think what pains me is that there is so much excellent help available, and my A isn't interes...

DavidG · DavidG

There are some givens in this world. Life itself is a given. I use the serenity prayer a lot- to figure stuff out. ... I came into Alanon as an adult child. Today i always say that the only qualifier i need is myself. We have a new member in town- and she and i have met and are talking a lot together. My goal...

Freetime · Freetime

The writer of today's page in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon is not a big fan of cheerful optimists. When life is not going well, those optimists don't seem to understand the suffering we are going through -- that we are martyrs! It seems impossible to smile when there is nothing to be happy about. Still, T...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading suggests that in order to recover, heal and find real peace/serenity, we must practice total honesty. Living with alcoholics, many of us coped with an ever-shifting situation in which our sense of reality changed from moment to moment. We often adapted by taki...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

On Tuesday night, I went to one of my home groups. They are still meeting online and a few of the members were waffling about re-opening, having in person metings, they think they should wait, have a little patience, etc etc etc. Personally, I'm an in-person kind of guy and I think they should re-open, j...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading that author reflects on a childhood memory - climbing trees to better observe a nest of baby bird, wondering what it must feel like to fly. Today, our author still has deeply spiritual feelings in nature, and the author believes it is likely because nature surrounds us w...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

If you live in The United States of America, it is our Independence Day. A Holiday... a time to Celebrate. If you do not live here, you can still contemplate the idea of CELEBRATION. Paraphrasing from The Language of Letting Go by Melodie Beattie: Take time to celebrate. Celebrate your success, your g...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

Last night I.met a co.aorker who has a relationship.with his ex wife thst is cery similar to the one I.had with ny qualifier. His health is falling apart, he has stents in his heart, hugh chilesterol, high blood presure. Moreiver he tirned up for work on the wrong day. He does not even kniw what day it i...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 7/6, talks about that it is in giving that we receive. Instead of questioning what life is giving us, we might benefit more by asking what we ourselves can give. When we reach out to help others in a healthy way, we can move beyond our problems and create an opportunity to change...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I live in Canada. Today is our nations birthday so it's a holiday, right. No rest for the wicked or the weary. It's just another working day for me. Oh well, they pay me by the hour and I like money. I would like to be home today because there's a family group meeting at my place tonight. Like most places, the...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus of tradition 7, and the idea of groups being self-supporting. The writer describes first interpreting this as monetary support, that no Alanon groups should be accepting outside donations. After some time the writer realized that it isnt necessa...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Faith isn't faith until it's all you're holding on to.--unknownWho dares to teach must never cease to learn.--John Cotton DanaI have lived in this world just long enough to look carefully the secondtime into things that I am most certain of the first time.--Josh BillingsA lot of growing up takes pla...

dragonfly04 · dragonfly04

This Sunday was pick up of my boyfriend's kids for 30 days. It's been one day and drama already. The 2 children are under 10 years old and the ex-wife bought them phones and sent them with them. She has been calling and texting them like crazy. She asks them questions about everything else but how they are...

NSANMOM24 · NSANMOM24

Hello! I have been looking for support in dealing with my brother's alcoholism. He and I were never close until about a year and a half ago. I was going through a rough time, reached out to him and found out he was going through hell. He has a history of problems with alcohol (I never knew) but had been...

Freetime · Freetime

The author's home Al-Anon group had a standard way of welcoming newcomers, that they had used for many years. One night, the chairperson departed from the usual script. The author was greatly disturbed by this change, and spent the rest of the meeting worrying about the newcomers. What if they di...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Happy Thursday MIP! Sorry for the later than usual post - I took off to golf thinking it was Wednesday...all my days are so similar - ha! Today's reading suggests that Al-Anon helps many of us to identify and change self-destructive behavior. The author mentions procrastination which caused her a...

JerryF · JerryF

for a few days that is as another portion of my life changes and most likely looks like an end. I find out that a possible solution to one of my wife's fears is that we plan and I pack up to go back home to Hawaii. I have to be a different person doing "it" her way or else. Not feeling anything for the moment b...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

This weekend I got a text message from a colleague of mine. I most certainly did not give him my number I gave him a non commital answer to his request to helo him. Then he texted another few times with this sense of entitlement I am one of those people who is #helpful# Now I.am thinking I need not to be s...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... in any group I really like to see feedback. So, the way to get feedback is easy-peasy... I just give it. ... My local meeting now has a zoom meeting- and the numbers have grown. So I found out that there is another member in my home town- a seasoned member from Sydney. I am in no big hurry...

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	How to detach with love...not just completely stop caring... (Preview) Hi friends, I've gotten to a point where I don't know if what I'm doing/feeling is considered detaching "with love" or just plain I don't care anymore. I've been with my A for 5.5 years and we have a 1.5 year old daughter together. He relapses every few weeks - months. Never sober longer than 11 months...	foriver	8	845	Jul 26, 2020 by 2HP
	Good news comes last... sometimes... (Preview) Was in the city last week. At a hearing over child care and protection. I had to flick back- and see if I was repeating myself- and I was just about to. Getting into the present moment has been really hard for me. I was so much caught up between the "if only's" and the what if's. And i had a really big d...	DavidG	0	490	Jul 25, 2020 by DavidG
	ODAAT - July 24 - Welcoming Newcomers (Preview) I am posting very early for Friday -- I have a busy couple of days coming up. Today's page in One Day At A Time in Al-Anon reminds us how it feels to be a newcomer, and how we can best support newcomers. The newcomer usually feels alone in a hostile world, drowning in a sea of troubles. We need to guard agai...	Freetime	8	596	Jul 25, 2020 by mamalioness
	birthday blessings & wishes. (Preview) It has been 54 years since I came to this planet & I never had it so good! All the blessings & positive thoughts for me are far from evident. I really feel that I deserve them & the friends I have met over the years who have been w/ me almost a life time. I have been so blessed w/ all of you that take m...	Hoot Nanny	2	532	Jul 25, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Goals (Preview) When I met the qualifier I had a lot of goals. I also had a lot of hope that my life would get better. I saw him as a good sign. There were a number of red flags there from the beginning. Then a series of catastrophe's Somewhere along the line my goaks evaporared. Despite the pandemic, despite various ob...	Maresie888	5	717	Jul 25, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Learning how to detach (Preview) Last night was a rough night. My A bf got fired from his job that he just recently got hired from. He started working overnight 8 pm to 6 am. He came home around 2 am last night he said he had gotten fired. He drank a 4 pack of those mini wine bottles during his lunch break and when he returned got into an argumen...	dragonfly04	14	818	Jul 24, 2020 by JerryF
	has anyone needed extra help (like medication) while dealing with all this? (Preview) So life is crazy. My AH is up and down (and never the pass out kinds of drunk, just enough to be mean and annoying). He holds a job (works from home) and only drinks at night. But the changes that have come from his drinking in his attitude and his ability to interact with me and family (even when not drink...	Dancer66	14	978	Jul 24, 2020 by Maresie888
	Step 12... stepping out... (Preview) ... At our local supermarket there is a young woman of 22. My nephew's kid. 10 years ago our mother died- her grandmother... on the same night her dad died as well. They lived in the neighbourhood. After mum died I heard the news about D. and went around there. I stood with this kid- as she was then- a...	DavidG	1	561	Jul 24, 2020 by Lyne
	Courage to Change 7/23 (Preview) Tomorrow's reading talks about finding our sense of humor. Most of us, when we arrived to the rooms rarely cracked a smile and resented others who did. For some, the laughter in the meetings was hard to understand, as our lives felt tragic and serious. While many changes in recovery are awesome and w...	Iamhere	4	577	Jul 23, 2020 by serenity47
	God always steps in... (Preview) Now & then I really feel the presence of my Higher Power. He leads & guides me through all the good & bad. He listens to my rants & complaints every single day. And, when I fail, he forgives me. I am so blessed. Today I can truly sit here & say I never had it so good! I know some people have...	Hoot Nanny	5	613	Jul 23, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change July 22 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author quotes the Al-Anon suggested closing (a closing that my home group does not use): "though you may not like all of us, you'll love us in a very special way - the same way we already love you." The author reflects that every Al-Anon meeting is an opportunity to pr...	Skorpi	6	904	Jul 22, 2020 by DavidG
	Tradition 2, for myself... (Preview) I am a leader, in the sense that I have done a lot of the work in Alanon. My goal-set was to be able to be a good example of Alanon recovery. If I don't like the way something is done, I just do it the way I think is most effective. I am liberated enough, and confident enough to do this. I try to be humble. But no l...	DavidG	1	526	Jul 22, 2020 by Temple
	Clarifying - for Bo - Continued Dialogue for Cross-Talk, Quoting, Courtesy (closed) (Preview) I am respecting Marasie's original discussion by moving some unrelated dialogue here. I do welcome any member to offer ESH on this thread, if desired. My post: Bo - I can't control how you choose to interpret my warning. That's up to you. What I will say is you have been asked repeatedly via Private...	Iamhere	30	934	Jul 22, 2020 by Iamhere
	Funny Story ... (Preview) So .. LOL .. we have a dog who I thought had a lot of schnauzer in him however apparently has more chuchu in him. Being a responsible doggie mommy and it's been years since I have owned a dog and we were not the covid19 let's get a dog we were the pre covid19 of hey this looks fun let's do it .. I remind myself ove...	SerenityRUS	6	655	Jul 21, 2020 by mamalioness
	Feedback appreciated (Preview) I'm at work for the good boss yesetrday and he said he wanted to give me as much work as he could, considering the covid, impacting HIS business, etc., and anyway, while we were chatting Liz, the off. mgr at the A-hole's place texted...."omg rosie, he is being so rude to me, I legit wanted to walk out" I c...	mamalioness	31	702	Jul 21, 2020 by mamalioness
	Should I trust my intuition about my husband relapsing (Preview) Hi, everyone I am a newcomer and this is my first post. Thank you for the time ro read my concerns and answer me truthfully. My husband is an alcoholic new to recovery like sober only for one month. He's been home for about two weeks. I have a gut feeling and strong intuition that he has relapsed and contin...	akdono	8	920	Jul 21, 2020 by Bettertomorrow
	C2C 7/21/20 Why We Must Avoid Interfering, Even When Difficult (Preview) A main concept of AlAnon is that our focus need be on our own thoughts, perceptions, and actions rather than those of the alcoholic or others. To the extent that we ignore this concept we experience loss of serenity.One excuse we may use to justify interference in the affairs of the alcoholic and other...	Enigmatic	4	712	Jul 21, 2020 by Maresie888
	Good news looking better... (Preview) Time is a bit of an illusion for me. As a kid time seemed to take forever. Then I had strong memories of these times- that other people had forgotten. Today is 2020. I went to meditation this morning. There is an old friend there. We share heaps and heaps afterwards. Her oldest son had a garage business...	DavidG	0	508	Jul 20, 2020 by DavidG
	ODAT in alanon, 7/20 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 7/20, says the following: Wanting to know why the alcoholic drinks or, when sober, why he does what he does is an itch for which there is no scratch. The reading goes on to say that some of us will never get over trying to figure this out. Instead of becoming frustrated, the writ...	Lyne	3	508	Jul 20, 2020 by Iamhere
	My partner is home from rehab (Preview) Over the last year there have been several rehab stays, some more successful than others. There have been several overdoses and few too many close calls where the medics fortunately showed up in time. I can't close my eyes with out images of his blue skin, his lifeless body. He is trying but the lies c...	kay123	8	621	Jul 20, 2020 by mamalioness
	Addiction (Preview) Some of the people in my building are totally addicted to tobacco. Two years ago the City and the County introduced measures to ban smoking in.the building. They had a meeting where residents stated their rights were being taken away. They were livid. Among them was one charactor #Mel# who was par...	Maresie888	15	800	Jul 19, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 7/18/20 (Preview) EASY DOES IT Today's reading speaks about the slogan "Easy Does It." When we first come to Al-Anon, we often come with the philosophy that if something works, it will work even better and faster if we try harder. (emphasis mine).But Al-Anon involves a long-term process of growth and change. Our effor...	PosiesandPuppies	3	471	Jul 19, 2020 by mamalioness
	Step 9- in reverse... (Preview) Huh? you might be asking yourself- what does this mean. Somewhere along the line- some of us must have had someone make amends to us! I think, maybe, as family members, this might happen more often? Not sure if it does? Anyway I cannot share any details at all, obviously. I am so very grateful to Alan...	DavidG	1	647	Jul 19, 2020 by Bo
	First things first... (Preview) I am a dreamer, and always shall be... ... One day I would like nominate slogan no. 21- and shepherd through a group conscience, to our district assembly- to GSO- and then to a WSO conference. It might be something like:- "we have the right to be wrong" or maybe "care or cure?" ~sigh~ Anyway- unti...	DavidG	7	656	Jul 18, 2020 by Freetime
	Courage to Change - July 17 (Preview) Finding peace and contentment whether the alcoholic is still drinking or not -- the author of today's page was able to get to this point by listening to someone who said, "You'll have to learn to make it whether the alcoholics do or not." The author began to separate their own welfare from that of the alc...	Freetime	3	1252	Jul 17, 2020 by DavidG
	Question about a local meeting... (Preview) There's a local meeting here, in the tri-state area, that I attend regularly. Like many, I feel it's an excellent meeting. The meeting, which is one meeting, for 90 minutes is structured the following way: The meeting starts at 730pm. If there is a beginner present, they do a beginner's meeting openi...	Bo	20	703	Jul 16, 2020 by Freetime
	Another curveball (Preview) Just when I was feeling settled anther curveball with Covid 19 I am resilient these days but there is no chance of feeling comfortable Maresie	Maresie888	7	587	Jul 16, 2020 by Maresie888
	timing and taking back your will (Preview) Currently working on step 3.Made the decision. Turned over my will and life. I hear people say that they keep taking back their will. How do you know when you have taken back your will ? My husband (sober 30 years) needs to go into an assisted living/nursing home. He has dementia and it is getting almost...	iris52	15	876	Jul 16, 2020 by 2HP
	Courage to Change 7/16 (Preview) The reading for tomorrow discusses one of my favorite Al-Anon tools - relaxing! Many of us arrive at recovery living a life full of frenzied activity. School, work, project, obligations, kids, housework, etc. all helped us focus outward. Al-Anon helps us focus inward. While there is nothing w...	Iamhere	2	476	Jul 16, 2020 by Freetime
	From on drug to another? (Preview) Hi, I'm new here but should have joined a few years ago. My husband is in recovery for opioid abuse. Me bought and took prescription oxy for almost 2 years. The majority of this time was behind my back, though I had my suspicions. He is now on suboxone and been off of the pills since January. My question is,...	brocharoo	7	649	Jul 15, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change July 15 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading from C2C speaks about the pace we progress through the program. The author shares that we each put the Al-Anon program into practice in our own lives the best we can, at the pace that seems right for us individually. The author avoids speaking harshly, or using phrases such...	Skorpi	5	509	Jul 15, 2020 by Iamhere
	ODAT 7/14 - Less is More (Preview) AlAnon does not instruct on how to change the alcoholic in order to find our serenity. Instead, it guides us on changing the things we can within ourselves (thinking, perspectives, behavior, possibly circumstances; reliance on a power greater than ourselves). This approach will lead us to peace...	Enigmatic	4	580	Jul 14, 2020 by Enigmatic
	Hope for Today July 12 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about fear and how it can impede our lives in so many ways. The writer describes how fear has led to trying to control everything, how it has led to not believing he/she is worthy of trusting relationships, and its led to avoiding connections with other people....	yanksfan51	6	622	Jul 14, 2020 by andromeda
	Depression (Preview) Every morning when I wake up, I have a little ritual I do. I think about the twenty four hours ahead. Before I begin, I ask God to direct my thinking. Then, I read from the ODAAT. I'm in AA also so I read their daily reader. Then, I pick a word from my god-box - this morning it was Depression. Luckily, I don't h...	Wolfie55	5	655	Jul 14, 2020 by Iamhere
	Expectations (Preview) Looking for ESH on expectations. I hear/read a lot about not having any. That automatically triggers me to think just be a doormat & take what you get. I expect respect, love, honor, communication & trust, no mental or verbal abuse. How is that possibly not ok? Especially in a marriage? I ha...	Crmans	10	1289	Jul 13, 2020 by Maresie888
	C2C, 7/13, no more wasted days (Preview) In the reading for Monday, 7/13, the writer reflects upon how many days of their life they have wasted. They state they were preoccupied with the alcoholic. Never did the author think about their right to enjoy the day! One can be completely out of sync with life if their attitude is focused on trage...	Lyne	1	544	Jul 13, 2020 by Iamhere
	Intrigue (Preview) Intrigue and secrecy was and still is huge trigger for me. Today my former roommare sent me an intruguing text message. I am supposed to ask him what it means. However now I am at a stage where I am totally indifferent. I can own that hook now I still have to deal with him on some level but not being #intrig...	Maresie888	3	644	Jul 13, 2020 by Maresie888
	Selfishness(complaint) (Preview) What do I do when my alcoholic husband takes the selfish route? I asked for a favor & got assumptions. Another you always do this or that. You won't be ready when I want you to be. You are being demanding. So now I sit at home w o getting an opportunity to go see a friend. No goodbye & he didn't take his...	Hoot Nanny	8	588	Jul 13, 2020 by Bo
	Saturday's Daily for 06/27/20 (Preview) Today's date had such a beautiful reading from The Language of Letting Go by Melodie Beattie that I felt I just had to share. It is a long one, so I am paraphrasing. Achieving Harmony "When a pianist learns a new piece of music, he/she does not sit down and instantly play it perfectly." She goes on to say th...	PosiesandPuppies	10	714	Jul 12, 2020 by WendyP
	Al-Anon Without Borders (via Zoom)...today...South Africa, New Zealand, and Australia (Preview) It was raining here today...tail-end of the storm perhaps...who knows, LOL. I was just relaxing, enjoying the weekend, after a long, busy week...and decided to join the Al-Anon Without Borders...Around The World In 3 Days. What an amazing series of sessions...just amazing. Talk about people who...	Bo	1	1130	Jul 12, 2020 by Bo
	Courage to Change 07/11/20 (Preview) Today's Reminder: *"Feeling our feelings is one important part of the recovery process. Learning how to balance feelings with appropriate* action is another."** Today's reading talks about dealing with feelings. The author goes on to explain that many of us deal with our anger in inappropriate ways....	PosiesandPuppies	2	682	Jul 12, 2020 by Lyne
	need patience for my A (Preview) Just a quick share to say that I wish my "acceptance" of my A would just stay in place and I wouldn't have to work so hard to maintain it. I get alcoholism is a disease which I am powerless over and cannot control. I think what pains me is that there is so much excellent help available, and my A isn't interes...	Lyne	16	961	Jul 11, 2020 by Iamhere
	Givens... (Preview) There are some givens in this world. Life itself is a given. I use the serenity prayer a lot- to figure stuff out. ... I came into Alanon as an adult child. Today i always say that the only qualifier i need is myself. We have a new member in town- and she and i have met and are talking a lot together. My goal...	DavidG	3	601	Jul 11, 2020 by Lyne
	ODAAT, July 10 (Preview) The writer of today's page in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon is not a big fan of cheerful optimists. When life is not going well, those optimists don't seem to understand the suffering we are going through -- that we are martyrs! It seems impossible to smile when there is nothing to be happy about. Still, T...	Freetime	5	552	Jul 10, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 7/9 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading suggests that in order to recover, heal and find real peace/serenity, we must practice total honesty. Living with alcoholics, many of us coped with an ever-shifting situation in which our sense of reality changed from moment to moment. We often adapted by taki...	Iamhere	5	567	Jul 10, 2020 by Maresie888
	If You Want God to Laugh, Tell Him Your Plans (Preview) On Tuesday night, I went to one of my home groups. They are still meeting online and a few of the members were waffling about re-opening, having in person metings, they think they should wait, have a little patience, etc etc etc. Personally, I'm an in-person kind of guy and I think they should re-open, j...	Wolfie55	1	590	Jul 9, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change July 8 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading that author reflects on a childhood memory - climbing trees to better observe a nest of baby bird, wondering what it must feel like to fly. Today, our author still has deeply spiritual feelings in nature, and the author believes it is likely because nature surrounds us w...	Skorpi	5	605	Jul 8, 2020 by DavidG
	Saturday 7/4/2020 (Preview) If you live in The United States of America, it is our Independence Day. A Holiday... a time to Celebrate. If you do not live here, you can still contemplate the idea of CELEBRATION. Paraphrasing from The Language of Letting Go by Melodie Beattie: Take time to celebrate. Celebrate your success, your g...	PosiesandPuppies	4	663	Jul 7, 2020 by DavidG
	Another view point (Preview) Last night I.met a co.aorker who has a relationship.with his ex wife thst is cery similar to the one I.had with ny qualifier. His health is falling apart, he has stents in his heart, hugh chilesterol, high blood presure. Moreiver he tirned up for work on the wrong day. He does not even kniw what day it i...	Maresie888	6	724	Jul 7, 2020 by Maresie888
	C2C, 7/6, a way to change ourselves (Preview) The reading for Monday, 7/6, talks about that it is in giving that we receive. Instead of questioning what life is giving us, we might benefit more by asking what we ourselves can give. When we reach out to help others in a healthy way, we can move beyond our problems and create an opportunity to change...	Lyne	2	626	Jul 6, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	The Meeting You Miss Might Be The One You Need (Preview) I live in Canada. Today is our nations birthday so it's a holiday, right. No rest for the wicked or the weary. It's just another working day for me. Oh well, they pay me by the hour and I like money. I would like to be home today because there's a family group meeting at my place tonight. Like most places, the...	Wolfie55	11	724	Jul 6, 2020 by 2HP
	Hope for Today July 5 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus of tradition 7, and the idea of groups being self-supporting. The writer describes first interpreting this as monetary support, that no Alanon groups should be accepting outside donations. After some time the writer realized that it isnt necessa...	yanksfan51	3	600	Jul 5, 2020 by Iamhere
	TID BITS OF WISDOM_SATURDAY (Preview) Faith isn't faith until it's all you're holding on to.--unknownWho dares to teach must never cease to learn.--John Cotton DanaI have lived in this world just long enough to look carefully the secondtime into things that I am most certain of the first time.--Josh BillingsA lot of growing up takes pla...	mamalioness	2	543	Jul 4, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Dealing with the alcoholics in my life (Preview) This Sunday was pick up of my boyfriend's kids for 30 days. It's been one day and drama already. The 2 children are under 10 years old and the ex-wife bought them phones and sent them with them. She has been calling and texting them like crazy. She asks them questions about everything else but how they are...	dragonfly04	13	681	Jul 4, 2020 by Iamhere
	New here : What can I do, how can I help best... (Preview) Hello! I have been looking for support in dealing with my brother's alcoholism. He and I were never close until about a year and a half ago. I was going through a rough time, reached out to him and found out he was going through hell. He has a history of problems with alcohol (I never knew) but had been...	NSANMOM24	6	755	Jul 3, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change 7/3 (Preview) The author's home Al-Anon group had a standard way of welcoming newcomers, that they had used for many years. One night, the chairperson departed from the usual script. The author was greatly disturbed by this change, and spent the rest of the meeting worrying about the newcomers. What if they di...	Freetime	4	628	Jul 3, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 7/2 (Preview) Happy Thursday MIP! Sorry for the later than usual post - I took off to golf thinking it was Wednesday...all my days are so similar - ha! Today's reading suggests that Al-Anon helps many of us to identify and change self-destructive behavior. The author mentions procrastination which caused her a...	Iamhere	2	666	Jul 3, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Going quiet for a while... (Preview) for a few days that is as another portion of my life changes and most likely looks like an end. I find out that a possible solution to one of my wife's fears is that we plan and I pack up to go back home to Hawaii. I have to be a different person doing "it" her way or else. Not feeling anything for the moment b...	JerryF	12	729	Jul 3, 2020 by Bettertomorrow
	Being helpful (Preview) This weekend I got a text message from a colleague of mine. I most certainly did not give him my number I gave him a non commital answer to his request to helo him. Then he texted another few times with this sense of entitlement I am one of those people who is #helpful# Now I.am thinking I need not to be s...	Maresie888	20	878	Jul 2, 2020 by Maresie888
	Update- just a quiet share... (Preview) Hi y'all... in any group I really like to see feedback. So, the way to get feedback is easy-peasy... I just give it. ... My local meeting now has a zoom meeting- and the numbers have grown. So I found out that there is another member in my home town- a seasoned member from Sydney. I am in no big hurry...	DavidG	2	568	Jul 2, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
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