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Courage to Change 9/5
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Tomorrow's reading discusses Step 7 and the author's experience. When arriving at this step, the writer identified an extensive list of feelings as shortcomings. They humbly asked God to remove their anger, fear and guilt, looking forward to the day when this would happen. Needless to say, the...
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Courage to Change Sept. 4
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Hello MIP! Today's Reading from C2C is about learning to ask for help. The author shares that they, sometimes, when sitting in meetings, don't know how to ask for help. They get stuck inside their pain, and hope that if they don't do anything, the pain will go away. Instead, it grows. The author's fear...
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ODAT reading 9-3
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The ODAT reading forTtuesday- 9-3- speaks about keeping the focus on ourselves and then suggests that we embrace the tools of the program so as we can look to ourselves to see exactly what we may be doing that might increase our pain and anxiety By following the basic principles of program we so...
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Hope for Today Sept1
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus on self care: what it means to us, the importance of it, and how our idea of what it is may change as we practice recovery in the program. The sentence that stands out to me from this page is: The more I work my program, the more I come to understand that I am re...
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yanksfan51
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when it rains... it pours... lost my job
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Oh boy, when it rains it pours. I had finished paying the final payments for the wedding this morning and this evening I heard that the state shut down the place of business where I work. I don't yet know why. I will not be receiving my paycheck from the past few weeks for work completed. I did not hear word f...
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C2C, 9/2
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For the Monday reading, 9/2, the writer reflects upon Step 1-thinking about it and feeling about it too. The feeling about it is described in one word: grief. The author has memories of the damage done to family, friends, and themself. And there are many lost years grappling with the disease. Rem...
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Lyne
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Monday morning Meeting
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Monday morning Meeting Topics: God of my understanding, Boundaries and Excuses Come join us in the Al-Anon chat room. Meeting lasts approximately one hour.
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Overcome
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Relapse!! Don't ever doubt
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Yes relapse...I was with family untreated from within the center of this disease and against my will what could I expect even attending "newbie meetings" several times a week. I needed the elders' voices along with the voice of my Higher Power and didn't get what I needed...I got insane. I was abl...
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Step 9
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https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65852773/alanon-step-9/
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hotrod
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Just need to say it
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I am new. Last week I finally said the words out loud, my husband is an alcoholic. I am so mad at myself and so tired. It's like I'm in shock. Turns out I wasn't overreacting all those times and I wasn't being dramatic. The drinking really was getting out of hand. And lately the frequency has increase...
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Newbie. Need advice
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My husband and i have been married 15 years this year. We're 34 &36. He has been drinking since he was a teenager and vodka daily since 2006. Over the past couple of years he drinks a half of 1.75 liters every night. I have no one to talk to because we live in a small town and he's a cop. He use to be fun and sp...
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I am new...embarrassed, and lost.
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Hi, I am txbabe1964. I am new here and just lost. I have a great husband. For 32 years my bf. we had to start raising 4 grandkids 6 years ago. Do to our daughter having ptsd and getting on drugs from it. I lost my mom out of the blue, and so goes our life. Because of this, according to him, he now drinks Every nigh...
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Txbabe1964
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Overnight company
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Hi MIP! OK....I could use some ESH on this topic. My brother and his live in girlfriend (who I have only met once) are coming in next weekend for our mother's birthday. In the past he has stayed with us most visits....occasionally staying in a hotel so he could work remotely more easily from a business...
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My short term memory about not engaging with an alcoholic needs work
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This has been a "half step forward, three steps back" week for me. Started out feeling pretty solid in my desire to stay focused on ME. Even made some peace with myself that all the money I poured into saving our house from foreclosure is gone, and, in my effort to "save us", have ensured that we are on even...
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C2C - August 30 - Reframing
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The author of today's reading was complaining about a situation, and their sponsor suggested -- instead of a gratitude list -- that they list all the things they were UNhappy about. Later, when the author was having a good day, the sponsor suggested writing a gratitude list. It turned out that the t...
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Freetime
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Hello, new, am I on the right track?
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Summary: My 24yo stepson has been an addict since he was 15. He's lived with his Mom until the past year where she tricked him into coming to our state, and then told us he can't come back to her. We agreed to let him stay with us and get clean. He continued to use and my husband pretty much turned a blind e...
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Courage to Change 8/29
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Happy Thursday! Today's reading from C2C is about Step 8. The author had a long standing issue with guilt for words and actions against others and was able to release herself from the guilt through Step 8. Step 8 suggests we make a list of all people we have harmed and become willing to make amends to th...
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Iamhere
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My Morning Routine Ruins My Day
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This morning I sat here drinking my coffee like I always do.I was listening to the police scanner,checking the arrest reports online,seeing when certain people were last on messenger or made FB posts.And I also checked the court websites to see if they have any new charges or court dates. That's bee...
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SunnyFrogs
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Step 12- taking the message to the world...
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Hi y'all, I was talking "furlough" but needed up with 'tour of duty'. Hard to explain why I do this... I took my holiday time- three weeks before and chose to get out there. I can sing old Methodist hymns in Fijian... old family connections. I spent two weeks with Melanesian subsistence farme...
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DavidG
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Courage to Change August 28
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Hello MIP! Today's reading in C2C is about sponsorship and re-developing self-worth. The author shares that they had never dared to trust anyone the way they trusted their first Al-Anon sponsor. The author felt like a mess, unworthy of saving. When they asked, the author was surprised that their n...
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Hope for Today Aug 25
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Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about how some of us who grew up with alcoholism learned to care for ourselves, but at the expense of our scope of awareness. In order to care for ourselves, we limited our awareness to the immediate and what was in front of us. The writer describes how coming in...
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yanksfan51
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And it continues ..
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You know I'm so grateful for this program and all that it offers. I have been caught in a terrible spin since Sunday pretty much although I slowed down yesterday and have slowed down further today. I am grateful. I am grateful that while I still spin I know when my thoughts are whirling what I can and ca...
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Feeling rage
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Posted on the hope to change aug 25tg, on holiday, feeling trapped, lonely and starting to feel rage. Had real visceral images of absolutely smashing and trashing the house, the car, with a crowbar. I'm sat by the pool practising my mental steps and trying to calm the churn that is my mind. I'v...
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jitsuka
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C2 C READING FOR 8-27
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The C2C reading for today 8- 27 speaks about attending our first Al-Anon meeting. It points out that many are disappointed that they are not given a do's and don't list BUT instead are handed the steps and traditions and asked to believe in the concept of a higher power.The suggestion asks that w...
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hotrod
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things are calming down...
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Things are finally calming down. My last post was awhile ago because I didn't want to temp fate. My former MSW was in a car accident that killed his son & left him pretty banged up. So, the thing is that I cried the Friday after it happened & was sure that he wouldn't make it. He seems to be doing OK. I...
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Hope for Today Aug 18
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how many of us who have lived with alcoholism have experienced shame and guilt. Shame being more about our inner selves (thoughts and feelings) and guilt having to do with our outer selves (words and actions). This page not only acknowledges how com...
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C2C, 8/26
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The reading for today discusses how we could not have known what was happening. Denial is a major symptom of this disease, and one possibility is to just blame the A. We invent ways to survive the constant crises, broken promises, lost hopes, and embarrassments. Sometimes we deny the unpleasant,...
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Lyne
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Courage to Change 8/22
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Greetings all. Today's reading in courage is about what motivates our choices and our discovery process of authenticity in recovery. The writer comes to understand that fear ruled their life - Fear of saying No, Fear of showing hurt/anger, fear of being confused - and more - all held deep inside wh...
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Iamhere
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New direction ..
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So my XAH will not email me back, I literally sent one line about Follow up - Can I get an update, surgeries, child support and so on. Thanks. What I wanted to say was a whole different issue .. LOL. I have a very sneaking suspicion that the whole coming out discussion was not what my son shared .. he's ve...
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SerenityRUS
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Hope for Today, August 23 - Sponsorship
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Today's reading is about sponsorship. The author finds joy and recovery in being a sponsor. It is a privilege to hear what a sponsee shares and to see their growth, which is a reminder of the author's progress too. The sponsee's difficulties also provide an opportunity for the sponsor to do some se...
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Freetime
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The power of our literature
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I did my practice of reading the pages of the day and taking my time with it rather than just scan and run. As I have often been I am impressed with this tool of recovery in my life!! I have often felt that we have an army of gifted mentally and spiritually endowed family members right at my elbow to re-enf...
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JerryF
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Newbie Here - Adult Child Alcoholic
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Hello, I am new to this forum. I am at a loss. I have an adult daughter who drinks nearly daily and doesnt stop until she passes out every time. This has been going on for years and the past year she physically gets sick from drinking, but that doesnt make her stop. Ive helped her financially, emotionally,...
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Today's Hope August 21
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Hello MIP! Today's Reading in Today's Hope is about un-abling. The author shares that it is not helping their child if they do things for him or her that he or she can and should do for themself. By diminishing expectations for the child, the author is diminishing the child's capabilities. Un-ablin...
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And more is revealed ..
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So .. it's been determined that my X is still in crazy land and keeps sending that train to come pick me up .. I'm very grateful for this program that I do not have to pick up the rope. I'm not sad to have missed the train, it places in me in a very weird position of observer to this. There are so many dynamics t...
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Tools for my daughter's wedding needed
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HA! Who knew that I would need a tool kit for my daughter's wedding in a few weeks! It has been a year of "stuff" from her future in-laws that she tried so hard to dump on me. It has been a year of growth for me and quite a bit of growing pains as I bloom more into my authenticity. ... as I say "no" if something do...
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ODAT Reading 8-20
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The ODAT reading for today 8- 20 speaks about minding our own business and keeping the focus on ourselves. It talks about a member whose hubby joined AA who then assigned herself the task OF attending meetings with him. The reading suggests that at this point it does seem like a child thinking t...
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hotrod
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Good focus, good boundaries
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My A believes she no longer needs help and that includes our couples' counseling with an addiction-trained therapist. In the past I have insisted her getting help is a condition of our staying together. Today I told her it is her decision. This is huge progress for me, thanks to program. I do not ha...
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Lyne
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Newbie here!
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Hi there, I am obviously new here and to the whole idea of Al-anon. I went to a local group (6 people) just over a year ago and attended one meeting. Decided it wasn't for me as it felt like they were implying my friend (It's complicated) was bad and needed to not be in my life (impossible). I felt uncomforta...
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C2C, 8/19
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The reading for Monday, 8/19, talks about not be able to trust the one you love. It caused the author disappointment of broken promises, contradictions, and outright lies. But they began to realize that most of the heartache came from their own refusal to accept reality. The author started learn...
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Lyne
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Update :)
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Still tired and still adjusting to what's going on. My youngest went back to school and unfortunately I behaved like a responsible adult and not that it's bad that I did that however he heard no and that didn't go over well. That child hears no and OMG you would think the world would end big time. The bi...
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To my dearest Al-Anon Family....
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Been gone 2 months with only my wife's laptop to check into the group and not being able to let you all know I was doing it almost daily and often multiple times daily. I would not dismiss the ESH I get here so I did the best I could with what I had which resulted in me lurking and??? Now I am home late at night...
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JerryF
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Today's Daily 08/15/19
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I am subbing today for Iamhere. Thank you for allowing me to be of service. Today's Daily is from "The Language of Letting Go," by Melody Beattie and discusses Leaving Room for Feelings: "We need to allow enough room for others and ourselves to have and work through our feelings. We are people, not robo...
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PosiesandPuppies
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Courage to Change, 8/16 -- Self Care!
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Today's page talks about the importance of self-care, especially when we are in a crisis and think we do not have time for it. In times of crisis we need to be at our best. That is why we have to strengthen ourselves with good food, sleep, exercise, spiritual contact, emotional support. Reminder: "I am...
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ESH on boundaries.
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Ok lovely family. I don't know how familiar this is so I'd like to put it out there for some help. I am at a stage now where I excitedly feel like I've reached the middle ground between all or nothing. And accordingly I want to try and put the pieces of my puzzle together. Because this is both new and old, I am a...
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Courage to Change August 14
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Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that, since coming to AlAnon, they have become aware of choices that they never knew they had. The author now realizes that if the are uncomfortable with something, they don't necessarily HAVE to do it! Of course, the author ref...
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The end of a 21 year relationship with an "a"
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Yesterday was Easter a day of Celebration for Christians however, I cried so much yesterday that today my eyes will barely open. You see, my husband walked out after 21 years together. He says he doesnt want to fight any more. Yet we werent fighting. He says that he is working on staying sober and I am...
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i'm sooo tired ..
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I think I'm more tired today than I was yesterday we are done with the yearly trek until next year I hope. My X is absolutely in rare form and I am over it. I am trying to stay in my own hula hoop and mind my business I won't lie .. I did break out the bedazzled horns and adjusted them to make sure they still fit .....
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Did something for me :-)
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For years I've been wanting two things: a massage and excercise.
I've snuck in jogs here and there, did a lot of walking with the kids etc.
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a4l
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Still human still capable of biting.
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Good morning all!
I have chosen to embark on a pathway to positivity. Choosing not to dwell on the past, not to always look at the half empty glass, but to focus on the positives and keep looking up.
At the same time, to allow myself to remain positive, boundaries and good people around me are so very nec...
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ODAT Reading 8-13
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the ODAT reading for Tuesday 8-13 speaks about dwelling on the past. It suggests that by so doing, we are thereby reopening old wounds. The reading challenges us to slowly examine all that is troubling us today to determine if they have any true validity and suggests using alanon tools to help us...
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hotrod
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C2C, 8/12
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The reading for Monday, 8/12, proposes that we can feel relief through the sense of surrender when we truly take the 3rd Step. To turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, we are accepting the limits of our own understanding. We will not always know what is best for other people and even oursel...
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Lyne
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Group Name
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Good evening, I am new here but not new to the program. I'm starting a new group in my town and looking for suggestions on a group name that is appealing and follows the guidelines set out. Thanks in advance for any suggestions!
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mamajo70
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How much to tell children?
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I have two kids, 9 and 12. I have not had a discussion with them about AH's drinking. My counselor (whom I have not seen in over a year now as she was in a different location) told me that "children see and know all". While I don't doubt that, I have not found the guts to come out and talk to them about dad's beh...
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Hope for Today Aug 11
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Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the unique support of alanon. Alcoholism is an isolating disease, so realizing that there is a place where people come together to share their stories is a comfort. There is a sentence on this page that describes the 12 steps as something which, when ta...
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yanksfan51
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God grant me....
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God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.... Some days are really hard accepting my A...and today is one of those days, Lyne
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Lyne
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Out of the blue . . . .
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I guess I'm one of those "fair weather friends" here, cause when things are going well for me (regarding my adult son), I'm pretty carefree - I've offered a few thoughts here to others dealing with stuff, and I go to FTF meetings, but I forgot that this Al Anon preparedness stuff is like exercise - if ya st...
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I feel so sick!
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I am feeling so sick to my stomach! I have to learn that you don't mix certain things together one after the other! I need to practice more self-care. I am not doing things the a way I had been when I reached my goal weight. I had 30 or so lbs. to goal. It was so hard but I tried to use the program & my common se...
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Hoot Nanny
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C2C, August 9 -- Being Myself
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Has the author of today's page been spying on my life? Like me, they always felt they could not be their true self when around other people. Tried to be what others thought they should be, in fear that people would not accept them as they truly are. In Al-Anon they saw that many others shared the same prob...
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Courage to Change 8/8
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Good morning MIP family! Better late than never.....Today's Courage to Change discusses Step Six. This step suggests our lives will undergo great change, and many of us fear nothing will be left if we shed our characteristics that helped us cope. Many have fear of the unknown, yet if we've worked...
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Iamhere
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update just an ordinary day!
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I could not ask for a day like today w/o praising my God! I am so grateful. Ordinary fits on a day where there is no pressure! I thought the day would be so difficult because of the nature of my involvement on a particular study. The topic was anger. One of the 12steppers was of the group. It wasn't Al anon at a...
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Hoot Nanny
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