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Post Info TOPIC: C2C, 8/12


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C2C, 8/12


The reading for Monday, 8/12, proposes that we can feel relief through the sense of surrender when we truly take the 3rd Step.  To turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, we are accepting the limits of our own understanding.  We will not always know what is best for other people and even ourselves.

Reminder:  I am not a rocket scientist, a philosopher, or a wizard.  Even if I were all three, I would still find myself looking off the edge of my understanding into a vast unknown.  As I recognize my own limitations, I am more grateful than ever for a Higher Powere who is free from such restrictions.

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Prior to alanon, I thought I knew what was best for my A and tried to force these solutions.  I thought I also knew what was best for myself.  In both situations, I really didnt have a clue.  Program has taught me its OK not to have the answers I need, and it may take time to find them, and its actually smart and mature to rely on HP and my alanon family for help whenever I need it.  And so I do, Lyne 



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Lyne, thank you for this reading and your service today.

For a long time, when I thought about Step 3, I had a negative feeling: Turning my will and my life over to ... anyone? anything? It didn't feel good. If I am not in control, then who is? And how can I trust them?

Then I noticed the word CARE. Can I turn things over to someone who actually cares about me and my well-being? That seems OK. In my experience, caring people came through for me when I was helpless to care for myself. That's how I got comfortable with the surrender of this step.

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Hello Lyne This is an inspiring topic, prior to program I acted alone without talking my decisions over with anyone--- Thinking that I had all the answers. NOt so-- I make many mistakes and am so glad that i found program and picked up the tools ,including a sponsor where I learned to share and trust
Great reminder Thanks for your service

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THE HIGHEST FORM OF WISDOM IS KINDNESS

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Good morning everyone! Thank you Lyne, for your service!

I personally, LOVE that there isn't a true label put on this concept... many people say "God," but Al-Anon defines it as your HIGHER POWER - however YOU choose to label it. As someone who didn't know they liked control b/c it brought them stability and trust, it is important to know your own limitations in all things. And once you know them, to then ACCEPT them.
I too, also like how Program has taught me that I can be patient with whatever information comes my way... "More will be revealed," is so true! Now I can sit with feelings/thoughts/information and truly examine them without that panicked feeling of having to act (or react). I am confident that the right path will open for me.

The start of a new workweek! I have had a chiropractor visit and now I am ready to face the world! LOL!! I hope you all enjoy this Monday!

& : heart:

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"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness."  Mary Oliver

 

 



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Thank you Lyne for your service and the daily! Thanks to all for the shares and ESH - great topic and absolutely necessary for my forward progress in recovery. I can relate to Betty's share - I felt I knew best for self and those around me and was a right-fighter on every issue, topic, problem, etc. I believed that delaying, talking it over, pondering pros/cons, etc. were signs of 'weakness'....

Step 3 helped me greatly after I owned my insanity in Step 2. I have worked hard to simplify my life and that includes decisions, problem-solving, etc. I am grateful today that I have trusted friends that I can share with, who share with me and a Higher Power who leads me when I am willing to be led.

Recovery has given me a new set of glasses to see what's right in front of me and to focus on the next right thing. (((Hugs))) - it's been a long day - good day but long day!

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 

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Thank you for your service Lyne and perfect topic timing! I've been struggling in a new commitment to myself to change a long-standing unhealthy pattern. I remind myself constantly that I don't know what's best for someone else or myself. Strong ... weak.... right.... wrong.... none of this matters ; what matters is I guard my serenity. What matters is that I let go and don't try and "fix" anything that is not on my side of the street. I know self-care is my next right step, and to leave everything else alone, even though it feels so scary.

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