Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

a4l · a4l

I've come to realise I'm not a city girl unless I'm free of encumberances such as domesticity and small children. An opportunity has arisen to leave seeedney and its sparkling harbours which I have not managed to enjoy in almost four years of living here. I felt attached to this city the moment I firs...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

Things are still in a tangle here. I let x sis in law help with tax situation and because of XAH's refusal to cooperate, things arent getting done. Werid feeling, having xsis in law describe all his behaviors and all the yelling, drinking and other horrible behavior xah has. Dejavu for me and new for her...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about brutal honesty with ourselves and awareness of reality. So often those of us affected by this disease struggle to 'see' reality as our views, attitudes and values have been distorted by reacting to the disease. The writer discusses the process of realizing that he/sh...

Calm Lady · Calm Lady

Good morning all As I don't have to put my Superwoman outfit on today to run the world, I thought I would take a ride into town. Have a nice little wander about. The sales are on do I might spot a lovely bargain for myself. I am wearing my smart yet comfortable shoes. Love love love comfortable shoes. Having...

jocelgp · jocelgp

I have posted before that my AH and I lives in my 83 year old mom's house. Because of family circumstances I feel I am morally obliged to stay with my aging mom. It has always been that I find myself caught between my AH and my mom's wanting to control some situations in our life. Where I live there is a cult...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Really. My Higher Power loves to bless me...thinks up the times and places and methods and just knows I have lots of gratitude to show for it and then pass it on to others. I was early for the morning meeting and I think it is because I am getting older as the reason and not the I am being manipulated by my...

Spotster · Spotster

As I sit here, my alcoholic husband is out looking at an apartment. He says we no longer have a relationship. This, after 45 years of marriage and one-and-a-half years of sobriety. I was looking for advice when I came across this site and saw James letter about how AA ruined his life and felt compelle...

Desperateinnyc · Desperateinnyc

Hi, I have found enormous support and faith on this board, so I feel comfortable in sharing this..anyway, my fiancé, is an alcoholic, and it's gotten pretty difficult. He knows he needs help, as do I..and we are slowly getting there. Anyway, I have in the past shared with his ex wife, my concerns, and sh...

lookingup · lookingup

This has got to be a tough one , responsibilities, what are my resonsibilities and what belongs to them? And in what ways am I accountible for my recovery program? What is mine and what is not my responsibility? Lots of ?s here that are hard to answer I've always taken on all and everybody else's respo...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's daily reading is about Tradition Six which tells us that "Our Al-Anon Family Groups ought never endorse, finance or lend our name to any outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary spiritual aim. So often, we tend to focus on the steps in reco...

Aerin · Aerin

So, this has happen before. He has been drinking and we just went out to eat. He actually asked for beers while we sat there (almost like mocking me that he can still do what he wants) I didnt say anything and continued eating. He is a mean drunk so he starts bringing up more things. Bashing me about all kind...

Desperateinnyc · Desperateinnyc

hi everyone.. i I feel very scared and alone right now..I cannot handle this anymore. I love this man more then anything in the world..but instead of coming home to me, he sat at a bar, telling me at 7:45 he was leaving soon, at 8:20 he was def leaving..and at 10:00 he came home and I see it right away, and I k...

Ijusttrytobe · Ijusttrytobe

My husband is an alcoholic. I am codependant. He has in the past gotten so deep into his alcoholism that he becomes emotionally and verbally abusive, and even a few times physically abusive. This is of course not to say that I haven't gotten equally abusive when in a horrible argument to defend myself...

Iamhere · Iamhere

My oldest son began his experimenting with substances about 10 years ago. His disease progressed quickly and by 16-17, he was full-blown into H/addiction/alcohol abuse. We had him in 5 treatment centers, 2 mental health facilities and he even went into state custody at one point. I recall a long...

jocelgp · jocelgp

A few days ago after a long night of drinking my husband went home injured, lost his front teeth and thinks he broke his ribs, but he really didn't. He blames me, he said he drank too much because of me, because I wouldn't let him go out and drink with his friends that night and the night before that. Thank...

Lyne · Lyne

Hi~So I am in the process of buying a townhouse and when I retire in the spring, I will be living half time away from my A. I am so excited and I can't believe I am taking this step. Of course it is only through alanon that I gained the strength to do this. But occasionally I have this thought of what if I get ...

Laurynleigh83 · Laurynleigh83

My mom is 58 Years old and was brought to the hospital unresponsive 3 weeks ago by her boyfriend. My mom has Bi-polar disease and had been self medicating with alcohol for years. I am her only child and to say our relationship has been confusing is an understatement. She was a great mother until my parent...

Clara75 · Clara75

I know you don't give advice but does anyone have any experience of this? My parter has been an alcoholic for many years. Over the past 6 months or so there have only been a handful of days she has not drunk. This past run of about 3 weeks has been really bad and I think she is now drinking a litre of vodka a da...

Lyne · Lyne

Hi-Tonight my f2f group is celebrating its 13th year, and I am receiving my 3 year coin. I recall hearing AA folks talk about getting a coin, and I didn't understand it at the time. Now I get it! I can't wait to get my coin this evening and I will cherish it always. I have become a better, happier, health...

seahorselady · seahorselady

Hi all, i have really been digging in to recovery big time since i laid the boundaries down with my AS a week ago along with what we aren't willing to do anymore. no more money,etc. Right at that time, my son was evicted, with no job and about the hit the homeless shelter. i am heartsick over it but know in my s...

jojo8466 · jojo8466

I have come to this site not to be judged or told what an awful person I am. I need support, understanding and guidance. My story is lengthy so bear with me.... 8 years ago I began an affair with a married man who was a recovering alcoholic. He had been sober for over 30 years. He is married to a recoverin...

Vanellope · Vanellope

I have been with my boyfriend for almost five years. Things have gotten worse and worse as time goes on. I know that making him leave wouldnt help him because his mother is an alcoholic as well. I would say that 5 out of 7 days he is asleep when I get home. I get upset because he will not help with any of the hou...

Calm Lady · Calm Lady

So AH gets hammered last night. Cuts his foot and it won't stop bleeding so he gets the washing up bowl and soaks his foot in it. yuck. I only found out when he casually mentioned it. Ok off to buy a new bowl. He thought this all perfectly reasonable. My dad used to urinate in his washing up bowl as well as was...

sheebee · sheebee

Hi im new to the goup, and have been married to a functional alcoholic for 5 years. We recently moved back to the UK so that my partner could be closer to family and although I have a limited support network here, Im struggling. Over the last couple of months, his drinking has increased up to 30 can/bottl...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Our reading notes that, in an attempt to survive in an alcohol affected environment, we may have developed ways to survive that no longer serve us well once away from the alcoholic, or upon learning healthier strategies in AlAnon. Or perhaps we took a well-intended action too far, too often, thus los...

John · John

After many years in both AA and Al-Anon I can say that many marriages or relationships don't survive. Why? Because to start with... neither program is a professional marriage or relationship counseling service. Many times people get sober and realize that they don't like or love their spouse any...

Cooper · Cooper

My son has been clean for close to two years, it's been a true blessing to have that kid back in our lives. Yesterday it crashed down, he lives with his sister and she found him lying on his bedroom floor barely conscious. My daughter was gone all day but knows he came home the night before, my son has no me...

KT2015 · KT2015

Hi All, I just spent a week off with my family. In the past a week away with AH and my daughter and all our family coming on different days to visit would have been a nightmare for me. All the anxiety about his drinking, the monitoring, the need to feel like I had to confront every miss step he made and poin...

gabigail · gabigail

hi everyone- This weekend was interesting and eye-opening to my recovery. I so have a long way to go! I get a call at the hospital from my A that she needs me to come up immediately to the hospital. She's scared and she just needs to see me. This was on Friday and her friend that she's been staying with for t...

Hopeful2112 · Hopeful2112

Hey, sorry for the woe is me post, I thi k I just need a vent. I'm an adult child and kind of struggled my whole life, in my early 20's tried to commit suicide and struggled with self esteem, bad relationships and generally feeling like life is just one hard slog. I coped up till now by keeping my feelings pu...

gabigail · gabigail

Today's topic in Courage to Change is a good one. It talks about remembering to take care of ourselves during times of stress and dont ignore your basic needs. During times of crisis it's probably more important to take time out for a f2f meeting, calling your sponsor or getting a breath of fresh air. Do...

greentomato · greentomato

I feel this is a tricky subject to navigate so I'm hoping to read about some of the experiences others have had in relation to dating within the Al Anon/AA communities. Here's my deal in a nutshell: My ex and I split a few months after he entered recovery (less than a year ago). We remain friends and cowork...

Goatchild · Goatchild

I had read the following quote is conference approved literature in AlAnon, but can't find it in my books. Someone said they read it in C2C. I check all the "worrying" and "fear" pages, but can't find it. I also know I read it somewhere, too. Can anyone help me? I am chairing soon and would like to use it as...

Hope4Healing · Hope4Healing

Hi, everyone, I have been here more quietly as things had calmed down a bit with my alcoholic daughter. She is 27 and lives out of the house. I was mostly reading the twelve steps and working on things myself. But we had a crisis Wednesday, in which my daughter was taking pills and cutting herself in a publ...

joker · joker

I have been reading a lot on detachment here on line and its helping me a lot. I just remembered what the abf said the other day. He went on a bender and I had left him for 5 days and during that time I went and got an apartment for myself, and even went camping for the night with my sister and daughter. I told him...

joker · joker

I am so grateful for my plan B! My own apartment. I have not moved furniture in it but I know its there and can escape to it any time. I feel detached from my ABF. He has been sober now for 5 days and is doing a lot of sleeping and just watching TV. Not my problem. Yesterday, I bought myself pots and pans for the ap...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Today's reading is on the topic of emotions and feelings. Many of us who grew up in an alcoholic home or live/lived with an alcoholic partner have become experts at denying our feelings. For some of us that may mean ignoring feelings and emotions, for others it may be recognizi...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

Just a little sat nite pity party. i have a cough/laryngitus and im so annoyed because i have an interview tuesday. All i want is a small job i can do with an average salary and somehow helping people. the world requires driving,computer skills,lifting or other degrees and other certificates. Im a sma...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Today's c2c speaks about how living in the chaos of alcoholism can bring us to the point where we can't tell the difference between an inconvenience and a crisis; we can tend to react dramatically all the same. The slogan 'how important is it" is suggested to try to regain perspective and bring us back i...

seahorselady · seahorselady

Thank you all for being here = I am finding a lot of intermittent relief from what feels like grief after detaching from my son. I havent heard anything from him in many days and keeping my head in recovery is helping me to keep the focus on me. Going to sleep at night seems to be the hardest for me because the...

lookingup · lookingup

Strange I have feelings of guilt when I'm not the one that committed the crime,xbf is still in jail under a stiff bond,while I'm not knowing when he gets out or if he does,no need in my feeling guilty ,I guess it's because I'm always to blame for everything in my qaulifiers lives,insane but insanity it is...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

I just read a news report today that said that researchers have developed a heroin vaccine. Wouldn't it be awesome if they would to the same for alcohol? What a different world we would all live in. It's okay to dream, right? http://www.10news.com/print/28746862/detail.html -- Edited by Green Ey...

MovieGal · MovieGal

Part of the reading said, "what if he said this, Even if it was meant to hurt, it cannot reach the real me, if I stand guard at the door of my mind." So about standing guard. What does this really mean? I am already tense and alert for those little signs that he might be ready to verbally attack me. I frea...

Geraldine · Geraldine

HI I'm new and for the past four months have been with a new man. He's loving and caring and kind but in the first week I noticed that he smelled of alcohol in the morning and I put it down to maybe a spilled drink on his coat or something. Then when he was staying over he would be up and down all night taking his...

Jen444 · Jen444

and why am I terrified? Hello, I'm new here.. My life is a roller coaster and I'm sick of it! I am not the type to reach out and go to meetings but I feel I need to in my life. I know of a meeting in my area and every Sunday I say I'm going to go.. I don't. My fear takes over me!! I feel like I don't belong.. I grew up i...

seahorselady · seahorselady

Hi everyone, Im new to the board and new to the behavior of not enabling. I am here to learn how to detach with love, let go and let god, learn how to set healthy boundaries and feel ok about doing that. Days ago, I have stopped all enabling with my son who lives hundreds of miles away and all hell and homeless...

birdlady · birdlady

Hi all - I'm new to online and am having trouble finding the online meetings. Are they still active? When I sign into the Meeting/Chat Room at the time when there's supposed to be a meeting, I'm the only one there. Tonight I'm trying to find the 7pm EST Sunday evening meeting, but no one else is signed i...

jocelgp · jocelgp

hello everyone, i heard of "online sponsor" in the online meeting. we have no al-anon in my country thus no f2f meetings. how do i look for an online sponsor, how does it work? thanks

lookingup · lookingup

As most of you know I've had to make my a/sister move from my home,got my peace back in my home so I thought,my sister and xa/bf hook up and start hanging out at my neighbors next door ,also addicts,I lose my billfold the other day thought I'd just misplaced it only to find out later that I'd dropped it in my y...

scareddadof3 · scareddadof3

Hello all, i'm new to al anon in general. I'm a married father of three children. Here's my story. My wife has addiction issues. She was into heroin and oxy's prior to us meeting. She went through rehab, a few times, and was placed on suboxone. She's been on suboxone for 7 years. I'm a graduate student and...

Charlotte22 · Charlotte22

Hi Everyone, I have been separated for 7 months and my ex wants to 'get back together' without going to therapy or program. He comes by and helps cook and clean to see our son and frankly I am feeling so low I am accepting the help for now. My therapist says it is okay for now as we are not intimate. he want...

joker · joker

Well, its day three and abf is still sober. I had left for 5 days and got my own apartment. I am still staying at the house with him since my name is on title but I am still going, he is going to drink any time now that he is over his huge hangover. The pattern is he will and I keep thinking to myself, not your probl...

SueBr · SueBr

How do you set aside worry and regrets?

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

was thinking of waiting til boyfriend was back from his event so he could take me to doctor. BUT i realized, i can go by cab and so took myself to clinic. nothing more serious than a minor virus. I am independent !!! I took care of me. I know some of my pals will understand what that means.. a

123456abcdef · 123456abcdef

I have been working really hard lately at letting go and letting God. And it really has been wonderful. When I start feeling overwhelmed or I begin worrying, I remind myself that it is okay, God is in control and I choose my attitude. I will be okay. With that being said, I have been communicating and loo...

K78333 · K78333

I have finally had it. My daughter, 38 years old and living with my wife and I for 7 months, had come home again intoxicated, middle of the afternoon, despite the warnings and agreement that we had with her when she moved back in. My marriage is stressed because I had not stood by my word from the onset. She...

Calm Lady · Calm Lady

Oh my, I am delighted. Sat with AH watching TV. He has a glass of wine which he just knocked over. Old me would have lept up. Cleaned it all up. A lot went over his phone. I would have fussed about. Then when I had cleaned everywhere, I would have trotted off to refill his glass. Today, in my fabulous Al-anon m...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today speaks about the fact that we have choices. . The reading suggests that we do not have to react, but can stop, look into our heart determine what we want to do according to our principles then make a decision and act in our own best interest. The reading point out that many ti...

Calm Lady · Calm Lady

Oh dear, I notice a trait in myself I want to let go of. Yesterday i was in a large group of ladies. A lovely mix of people. Unfortunately I notice one of them seems to be attracted towards me. Feels like a test. As background, I used to swear a lot. A lot. As i recovered and let my rage go, I realised all the foul...

El · El

I have been praying all morning; tprying to hand over my worries to my HP, but I am still worrying and projecting. Today is my AH's birthday. We are going to a retirement party today at a friend's house. Last night A got into a little dispute with his brother in law and of course he/they will be there. My A h...

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	eureka....city life is not for me yet. (Preview) I've come to realise I'm not a city girl unless I'm free of encumberances such as domesticity and small children. An opportunity has arisen to leave seeedney and its sparkling harbours which I have not managed to enjoy in almost four years of living here. I felt attached to this city the moment I firs...	a4l	4	524	Aug 19, 2016 by hotrod
	Sis in law [XAH's sis} (Preview) Things are still in a tangle here. I let x sis in law help with tax situation and because of XAH's refusal to cooperate, things arent getting done. Werid feeling, having xsis in law describe all his behaviors and all the yelling, drinking and other horrible behavior xah has. Dejavu for me and new for her...	YARNCRAZY	2	469	Aug 19, 2016 by hotrod
	Courage to Change (C2C) 8/19/16 (Preview) Today's reading talks about brutal honesty with ourselves and awareness of reality. So often those of us affected by this disease struggle to 'see' reality as our views, attitudes and values have been distorted by reacting to the disease. The writer discusses the process of realizing that he/sh...	Iamhere	7	550	Aug 19, 2016 by hotrod
	Plans for the day (Preview) Good morning all As I don't have to put my Superwoman outfit on today to run the world, I thought I would take a ride into town. Have a nice little wander about. The sales are on do I might spot a lovely bargain for myself. I am wearing my smart yet comfortable shoes. Love love love comfortable shoes. Having...	Calm Lady	11	879	Aug 19, 2016 by Calm Lady
	AH and my manipulative and controlling mom, how do i deal with this? (Preview) I have posted before that my AH and I lives in my 83 year old mom's house. Because of family circumstances I feel I am morally obliged to stay with my aging mom. It has always been that I find myself caught between my AH and my mom's wanting to control some situations in our life. Where I live there is a cult...	jocelgp	4	2820	Aug 19, 2016 by jocelgp
	Letting my self get blessed... (Preview) Really. My Higher Power loves to bless me...thinks up the times and places and methods and just knows I have lots of gratitude to show for it and then pass it on to others. I was early for the morning meeting and I think it is because I am getting older as the reason and not the I am being manipulated by my...	Jerry F	7	578	Aug 19, 2016 by Iamhere
	AA ruining my family ... has ruined my family (Preview) As I sit here, my alcoholic husband is out looking at an apartment. He says we no longer have a relationship. This, after 45 years of marriage and one-and-a-half years of sobriety. I was looking for advice when I came across this site and saw James letter about how AA ruined his life and felt compelle...	Spotster	36	9009	Aug 19, 2016 by Iamhere
	If anyone can relate, I am dumbfounded (Preview) Hi, I have found enormous support and faith on this board, so I feel comfortable in sharing this..anyway, my fiancé, is an alcoholic, and it's gotten pretty difficult. He knows he needs help, as do I..and we are slowly getting there. Anyway, I have in the past shared with his ex wife, my concerns, and sh...	Desperateinnyc	5	580	Aug 19, 2016 by Iamhere
	Responsibilities (Preview) This has got to be a tough one , responsibilities, what are my resonsibilities and what belongs to them? And in what ways am I accountible for my recovery program? What is mine and what is not my responsibility? Lots of ?s here that are hard to answer I've always taken on all and everybody else's respo...	lookingup	6	568	Aug 18, 2016 by hotrod
	Courage to Change (C2C) 8/18/16 (Preview) Today's daily reading is about Tradition Six which tells us that "Our Al-Anon Family Groups ought never endorse, finance or lend our name to any outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property and prestige divert us from our primary spiritual aim. So often, we tend to focus on the steps in reco...	Iamhere	2	599	Aug 18, 2016 by hotrod
	He just threatened me in restaurant ( 1 2 ) (Preview) So, this has happen before. He has been drinking and we just went out to eat. He actually asked for beers while we sat there (almost like mocking me that he can still do what he wants) I didnt say anything and continued eating. He is a mean drunk so he starts bringing up more things. Bashing me about all kind...	Aerin	51	1568	Aug 18, 2016 by a4l
	This is unbearable..I am beyond feeling capable in this (Preview) hi everyone.. i I feel very scared and alone right now..I cannot handle this anymore. I love this man more then anything in the world..but instead of coming home to me, he sat at a bar, telling me at 7:45 he was leaving soon, at 8:20 he was def leaving..and at 10:00 he came home and I see it right away, and I k...	Desperateinnyc	18	735	Aug 18, 2016 by Desperateinnyc
	I feel numb. Starting to give up and considering moving on. (Preview) My husband is an alcoholic. I am codependant. He has in the past gotten so deep into his alcoholism that he becomes emotionally and verbally abusive, and even a few times physically abusive. This is of course not to say that I haven't gotten equally abusive when in a horrible argument to defend myself...	Ijusttrytobe	15	851	Aug 18, 2016 by Iamhere
	A Bit of Hope I Want to Share! (Preview) My oldest son began his experimenting with substances about 10 years ago. His disease progressed quickly and by 16-17, he was full-blown into H/addiction/alcohol abuse. We had him in 5 treatment centers, 2 mental health facilities and he even went into state custody at one point. I recall a long...	Iamhere	8	671	Aug 18, 2016 by Iamhere
	NO is a complete sentence (Preview) A few days ago after a long night of drinking my husband went home injured, lost his front teeth and thinks he broke his ribs, but he really didn't. He blames me, he said he drank too much because of me, because I wouldn't let him go out and drink with his friends that night and the night before that. Thank...	jocelgp	6	2965	Aug 18, 2016 by Iamhere
	fear of good things (Preview) Hi~So I am in the process of buying a townhouse and when I retire in the spring, I will be living half time away from my A. I am so excited and I can't believe I am taking this step. Of course it is only through alanon that I gained the strength to do this. But occasionally I have this thought of what if I get ...	Lyne	7	593	Aug 18, 2016 by Iamhere
	My mom is going to die from alcoholism... (Preview) My mom is 58 Years old and was brought to the hospital unresponsive 3 weeks ago by her boyfriend. My mom has Bi-polar disease and had been self medicating with alcohol for years. I am her only child and to say our relationship has been confusing is an understatement. She was a great mother until my parent...	Laurynleigh83	10	3082	Aug 18, 2016 by hotrod
	Alcohol and paranoia (Preview) I know you don't give advice but does anyone have any experience of this? My parter has been an alcoholic for many years. Over the past 6 months or so there have only been a handful of days she has not drunk. This past run of about 3 weeks has been really bad and I think she is now drinking a litre of vodka a da...	Clara75	14	3501	Aug 18, 2016 by Clara75
	Anniversaries (Preview) Hi-Tonight my f2f group is celebrating its 13th year, and I am receiving my 3 year coin. I recall hearing AA folks talk about getting a coin, and I didn't understand it at the time. Now I get it! I can't wait to get my coin this evening and I will cherish it always. I have become a better, happier, health...	Lyne	5	527	Aug 18, 2016 by hotrod
	feel the need to DO something (Preview) Hi all, i have really been digging in to recovery big time since i laid the boundaries down with my AS a week ago along with what we aren't willing to do anymore. no more money,etc. Right at that time, my son was evicted, with no job and about the hit the homeless shelter. i am heartsick over it but know in my s...	seahorselady	11	667	Aug 18, 2016 by seahorselady
	Ugh...I need help (Preview) I have come to this site not to be judged or told what an awful person I am. I need support, understanding and guidance. My story is lengthy so bear with me.... 8 years ago I began an affair with a married man who was a recovering alcoholic. He had been sober for over 30 years. He is married to a recoverin...	jojo8466	5	570	Aug 18, 2016 by jojo8466
	Things are hard and i dont know what to do (Preview) I have been with my boyfriend for almost five years. Things have gotten worse and worse as time goes on. I know that making him leave wouldnt help him because his mother is an alcoholic as well. I would say that 5 out of 7 days he is asleep when I get home. I get upset because he will not help with any of the hou...	Vanellope	7	579	Aug 18, 2016 by Aerin
	Yuck! (Preview) So AH gets hammered last night. Cuts his foot and it won't stop bleeding so he gets the washing up bowl and soaks his foot in it. yuck. I only found out when he casually mentioned it. Ok off to buy a new bowl. He thought this all perfectly reasonable. My dad used to urinate in his washing up bowl as well as was...	Calm Lady	6	571	Aug 17, 2016 by Iamhere
	Living with a functional alcoholic (Preview) Hi im new to the goup, and have been married to a functional alcoholic for 5 years. We recently moved back to the UK so that my partner could be closer to family and although I have a limited support network here, Im struggling. Over the last couple of months, his drinking has increased up to 30 can/bottl...	sheebee	5	2337	Aug 17, 2016 by Iamhere
	C2C 8/17 How Might We Frame Our Defects of Character? (Preview) Our reading notes that, in an attempt to survive in an alcohol affected environment, we may have developed ways to survive that no longer serve us well once away from the alcoholic, or upon learning healthier strategies in AlAnon. Or perhaps we took a well-intended action too far, too often, thus los...	Enigmatic	2	513	Aug 17, 2016 by Calm Lady
	AA destroyed our family??? Cult? (Preview) After many years in both AA and Al-Anon I can say that many marriages or relationships don't survive. Why? Because to start with... neither program is a professional marriage or relationship counseling service. Many times people get sober and realize that they don't like or love their spouse any...	John	28	7282	Aug 17, 2016 by Jerry F
	f**k me...back on the merry-go-round (Preview) My son has been clean for close to two years, it's been a true blessing to have that kid back in our lives. Yesterday it crashed down, he lives with his sister and she found him lying on his bedroom floor barely conscious. My daughter was gone all day but knows he came home the night before, my son has no me...	Cooper	16	789	Aug 17, 2016 by lookingup
	Feeling the sanity being restored (Preview) Hi All, I just spent a week off with my family. In the past a week away with AH and my daughter and all our family coming on different days to visit would have been a nightmare for me. All the anxiety about his drinking, the monitoring, the need to feel like I had to confront every miss step he made and poin...	KT2015	14	671	Aug 17, 2016 by el-cee
	My slip up, but more awareness/ teachable moment (Preview) hi everyone- This weekend was interesting and eye-opening to my recovery. I so have a long way to go! I get a call at the hospital from my A that she needs me to come up immediately to the hospital. She's scared and she just needs to see me. This was on Friday and her friend that she's been staying with for t...	gabigail	5	758	Aug 17, 2016 by el-cee
	Sick and tired (Preview) Hey, sorry for the woe is me post, I thi k I just need a vent. I'm an adult child and kind of struggled my whole life, in my early 20's tried to commit suicide and struggled with self esteem, bad relationships and generally feeling like life is just one hard slog. I coped up till now by keeping my feelings pu...	Hopeful2112	1	382	Aug 16, 2016 by Jerry F
	C2C for 8/16 (Preview) Today's topic in Courage to Change is a good one. It talks about remembering to take care of ourselves during times of stress and dont ignore your basic needs. During times of crisis it's probably more important to take time out for a f2f meeting, calling your sponsor or getting a breath of fresh air. Do...	gabigail	1	458	Aug 16, 2016 by Iamhere
	Al Anon, AA and Dating (Preview) I feel this is a tricky subject to navigate so I'm hoping to read about some of the experiences others have had in relation to dating within the Al Anon/AA communities. Here's my deal in a nutshell: My ex and I split a few months after he entered recovery (less than a year ago). We remain friends and cowork...	greentomato	2	743	Aug 16, 2016 by Iamhere
	Worrying is like a rocking chair (Preview) I had read the following quote is conference approved literature in AlAnon, but can't find it in my books. Someone said they read it in C2C. I check all the "worrying" and "fear" pages, but can't find it. I also know I read it somewhere, too. Can anyone help me? I am chairing soon and would like to use it as...	Goatchild	5	534	Aug 16, 2016 by Calm Lady
	Forcing Inpatient Rehab for Adult Child (Preview) Hi, everyone, I have been here more quietly as things had calmed down a bit with my alcoholic daughter. She is 27 and lives out of the house. I was mostly reading the twelve steps and working on things myself. But we had a crisis Wednesday, in which my daughter was taking pills and cutting herself in a publ...	Hope4Healing	8	625	Aug 16, 2016 by Hope4Healing
	Had some laughs today (Preview) I have been reading a lot on detachment here on line and its helping me a lot. I just remembered what the abf said the other day. He went on a bender and I had left him for 5 days and during that time I went and got an apartment for myself, and even went camping for the night with my sister and daughter. I told him...	joker	4	514	Aug 16, 2016 by El
	Plan B (Preview) I am so grateful for my plan B! My own apartment. I have not moved furniture in it but I know its there and can escape to it any time. I feel detached from my ABF. He has been sober now for 5 days and is doing a lot of sleeping and just watching TV. Not my problem. Yesterday, I bought myself pots and pans for the ap...	joker	10	724	Aug 16, 2016 by KT2015
	Hope for Today August 16 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Today's reading is on the topic of emotions and feelings. Many of us who grew up in an alcoholic home or live/lived with an alcoholic partner have become experts at denying our feelings. For some of us that may mean ignoring feelings and emotions, for others it may be recognizi...	yanksfan51	1	561	Aug 16, 2016 by Iamhere
	fEELING BLUE (Preview) Just a little sat nite pity party. i have a cough/laryngitus and im so annoyed because i have an interview tuesday. All i want is a small job i can do with an average salary and somehow helping people. the world requires driving,computer skills,lifting or other degrees and other certificates. Im a sma...	YARNCRAZY	5	620	Aug 16, 2016 by lookingup
	Courage to Change 15/8 (Preview) Today's c2c speaks about how living in the chaos of alcoholism can bring us to the point where we can't tell the difference between an inconvenience and a crisis; we can tend to react dramatically all the same. The slogan 'how important is it" is suggested to try to regain perspective and bring us back i...	missmeliss	4	563	Aug 15, 2016 by a4l
	new here and just need to share (Preview) Thank you all for being here = I am finding a lot of intermittent relief from what feels like grief after detaching from my son. I havent heard anything from him in many days and keeping my head in recovery is helping me to keep the focus on me. Going to sleep at night seems to be the hardest for me because the...	seahorselady	5	605	Aug 15, 2016 by seahorselady
	Feelings of guilt? (Preview) Strange I have feelings of guilt when I'm not the one that committed the crime,xbf is still in jail under a stiff bond,while I'm not knowing when he gets out or if he does,no need in my feeling guilty ,I guess it's because I'm always to blame for everything in my qaulifiers lives,insane but insanity it is...	lookingup	2	484	Aug 15, 2016 by lookingup
	Vaccine for Alcoholism? (Preview) I just read a news report today that said that researchers have developed a heroin vaccine. Wouldn't it be awesome if they would to the same for alcohol? What a different world we would all live in. It's okay to dream, right? http://www.10news.com/print/28746862/detail.html -- Edited by Green Ey...	Green Eyes	8	934	Aug 15, 2016 by Calm Lady
	ODAT 8-13 (Preview) Part of the reading said, "what if he said this, Even if it was meant to hurt, it cannot reach the real me, if I stand guard at the door of my mind." So about standing guard. What does this really mean? I am already tense and alert for those little signs that he might be ready to verbally attack me. I frea...	MovieGal	1	503	Aug 15, 2016 by Iamhere
	Is he an alcoholic? (Preview) HI I'm new and for the past four months have been with a new man. He's loving and caring and kind but in the first week I noticed that he smelled of alcohol in the morning and I put it down to maybe a spilled drink on his coat or something. Then when he was staying over he would be up and down all night taking his...	Geraldine	18	1104	Aug 15, 2016 by Geraldine
	where do I start (Preview) and why am I terrified? Hello, I'm new here.. My life is a roller coaster and I'm sick of it! I am not the type to reach out and go to meetings but I feel I need to in my life. I know of a meeting in my area and every Sunday I say I'm going to go.. I don't. My fear takes over me!! I feel like I don't belong.. I grew up i...	Jen444	5	527	Aug 15, 2016 by Freetime
	new to board (Preview) Hi everyone, Im new to the board and new to the behavior of not enabling. I am here to learn how to detach with love, let go and let god, learn how to set healthy boundaries and feel ok about doing that. Days ago, I have stopped all enabling with my son who lives hundreds of miles away and all hell and homeless...	seahorselady	13	742	Aug 15, 2016 by seahorselady
	Help with Online meetings (Preview) Hi all - I'm new to online and am having trouble finding the online meetings. Are they still active? When I sign into the Meeting/Chat Room at the time when there's supposed to be a meeting, I'm the only one there. Tonight I'm trying to find the 7pm EST Sunday evening meeting, but no one else is signed i...	birdlady	2	424	Aug 15, 2016 by KennyFenderjazz
	help, i think i'm in need of a sponsor (Preview) hello everyone, i heard of "online sponsor" in the online meeting. we have no al-anon in my country thus no f2f meetings. how do i look for an online sponsor, how does it work? thanks	jocelgp	6	578	Aug 14, 2016 by jocelgp
	More drama (Preview) As most of you know I've had to make my a/sister move from my home,got my peace back in my home so I thought,my sister and xa/bf hook up and start hanging out at my neighbors next door ,also addicts,I lose my billfold the other day thought I'd just misplaced it only to find out later that I'd dropped it in my y...	lookingup	10	633	Aug 14, 2016 by lookingup
	Dad worried about wifes addictions (Preview) Hello all, i'm new to al anon in general. I'm a married father of three children. Here's my story. My wife has addiction issues. She was into heroin and oxy's prior to us meeting. She went through rehab, a few times, and was placed on suboxone. She's been on suboxone for 7 years. I'm a graduate student and...	scareddadof3	4	505	Aug 14, 2016 by scareddadof3
	Feeling Super Anxious and Confused about my Ex (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have been separated for 7 months and my ex wants to 'get back together' without going to therapy or program. He comes by and helps cook and clean to see our son and frankly I am feeling so low I am accepting the help for now. My therapist says it is okay for now as we are not intimate. he want...	Charlotte22	1	426	Aug 14, 2016 by Iamhere
	walking on egg shells (Preview) Well, its day three and abf is still sober. I had left for 5 days and got my own apartment. I am still staying at the house with him since my name is on title but I am still going, he is going to drink any time now that he is over his huge hangover. The pattern is he will and I keep thinking to myself, not your probl...	joker	4	543	Aug 14, 2016 by Iamhere
	Stop the worry and regret (Preview) How do you set aside worry and regrets?	SueBr	2	534	Aug 14, 2016 by YARNCRAZY
	Proud of me (Preview) was thinking of waiting til boyfriend was back from his event so he could take me to doctor. BUT i realized, i can go by cab and so took myself to clinic. nothing more serious than a minor virus. I am independent !!! I took care of me. I know some of my pals will understand what that means.. a	YARNCRAZY	2	356	Aug 14, 2016 by Iamhere
	Overthinking with my Higher Power (Preview) I have been working really hard lately at letting go and letting God. And it really has been wonderful. When I start feeling overwhelmed or I begin worrying, I remind myself that it is okay, God is in control and I choose my attitude. I will be okay. With that being said, I have been communicating and loo...	123456abcdef	5	711	Aug 14, 2016 by Iamhere
	Numb! (Preview) I have finally had it. My daughter, 38 years old and living with my wife and I for 7 months, had come home again intoxicated, middle of the afternoon, despite the warnings and agreement that we had with her when she moved back in. My marriage is stressed because I had not stood by my word from the onset. She...	K78333	2	429	Aug 14, 2016 by Iamhere
	Sharing progress (Preview) Oh my, I am delighted. Sat with AH watching TV. He has a glass of wine which he just knocked over. Old me would have lept up. Cleaned it all up. A lot went over his phone. I would have fussed about. Then when I had cleaned everywhere, I would have trotted off to refill his glass. Today, in my fabulous Al-anon m...	Calm Lady	15	627	Aug 14, 2016 by Calm Lady
	Courage to Change Reading 8-14-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for today speaks about the fact that we have choices. . The reading suggests that we do not have to react, but can stop, look into our heart determine what we want to do according to our principles then make a decision and act in our own best interest. The reading point out that many ti...	hotrod	4	613	Aug 14, 2016 by Lyne
	Reinforcing (Preview) Oh dear, I notice a trait in myself I want to let go of. Yesterday i was in a large group of ladies. A lovely mix of people. Unfortunately I notice one of them seems to be attracted towards me. Feels like a test. As background, I used to swear a lot. A lot. As i recovered and let my rage go, I realised all the foul...	Calm Lady	5	547	Aug 14, 2016 by hotrod
	Trying not to project. (Preview) I have been praying all morning; tprying to hand over my worries to my HP, but I am still worrying and projecting. Today is my AH's birthday. We are going to a retirement party today at a friend's house. Last night A got into a little dispute with his brother in law and of course he/they will be there. My A h...	El	6	560	Aug 14, 2016 by Doingmybest
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