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joker · joker

Well, I did it. Today, I took possession of my apartment. I went and done the inspection and I can move in anytime. I came home yesterday, the alcoholic was in bad shape. He had not eaten in 5 days, weak, diarrhea and still drinking. The house looked like a bomb went off. The bathroom was beyond disgusted...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So I heard from the attorney yesterday and what do you know we are almost done. LOL . this time true story. X has finally submitted his paperwork so we will be going forward and dealing with everything sooner than later. Now the question is did X actually read the agreement. He's not going to be a hap...

one heart · one heart

I am reaching out to gain knowledge and in time peace. Until recently my connection with addition was my father. I was young and most of what I remember is the broken promises and fighting with my mother. I dealt with it the only way I knew how and I am pleased to say my father has now been sober for over 36 yea...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about Step 3 - "Made a decision to turn my will and my life over to the care of God as I understood him." - and the profound peace that comes when we commit to this step in our program. The reading shares a story about a relative diagnosed with a brain tumor. The writer was suggesting...

Calm Lady · Calm Lady

Good morning family I am very grateful for my fabulous Al-anon program today. I made the mistake of eating a lot of sugary food yesterday afternoon. I normally eat very healthily. Well my ISM's went into overdrive! Around AH and the world in general. I lost the plot and went nuts and manic for a while....

joker · joker

My emotions are all over the place. I get the keys for my apartment on Friday, but I keep thinking about alcoholic. How will he manage to pay the bills, the mortgage, other bills he has. I know its not my problem but I worry for him as he is not working currently. He is on unemployment insurance and I fear for...

el-cee · el-cee

Im a grateful member of Alanon and ive been thinking about that lesson on expectations and how they can be the root of our unhappiness. We feel disappointed and let down and take it personally when our alcoholic loved ones can't be what we expect them to be or give what we expect them to give. We build up e...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I don't know how y`alls HP likes to mess with you but here is an example of mine. I just went to the VA clinic and my MD told me after reviewing my blood work that my cholesterol was almost off the charts and he was putting me on Statin. I told him I was really into my addiction with sugar and my drug of choi...

el-cee · el-cee

After reading todays ODAT I felt it had a deep meaning and I couldn't just skim over it as I often do if im being honest. It is saying that in any situation we arent happy with we have to find the shortcomings within us that are keeping us trapped or imprisoned in it. Well thats my interpretation of what its s...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about the importance of attending meetings in our Al-Anon program. Not only do we break the isolation many of us experience because of this disease, we usually hear something we need to hear and rarely leave a meeting feeling worse. Life is hard and difficult without the disea...

OptimisticPi · OptimisticPi

I'm coming to realize what 'codependent' truly means, and it resonates so much. I don't suffer with alcohol addiction, like so many of my family and friends (how crazy it all links together!)... But I have an addiction of my own. My mother and I both have always said that we're codependent on one anoth...

Nikkosity · Nikkosity

Hello Everyone, I have a wonderful boyfriend. He takes such good care of me; leaves me sweet notes, supports me with any issues, makes me dinner, and always makes sure I know that I am loved. He wakes up at 5 am everyday, eats a healthy breakfast, goes to the gym for an hour before work, and an hour and a half...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Some say that our clutter desk is a sign of a cluttered mind. Others will say that a clean desk is a sign of sick mind. So which is it? What does my clutter say about my serenity? Perhaps, nothing at all...Todays reading in C2C reminds us that we all do things differently, but what is more important are the r...

a4l · a4l

I am a flake. I don't know when this happened exactly, maybe it doesn't matter, but I dislike it. A very dear friend who I haven't seen for seven years...who wrote me a song when I left our country, well she's having major brain surgery tomorrow morning and her daughter, who grew up with my first sons, is i...

andromeda · andromeda

Hello friends. I am just tired this week. Working extra hours as I've been home alone for the week as my son is traveling and the bf took his kids on a summer trip, as well. I am feeling overwhelmed with worry and fear about my financial situation. I have too much debt from credit cards and a car loan tha...

NteacherJ · NteacherJ

Hi, My girlfriend lives out of state. Well, we actually broke up yesterday and she is apparently drinking all day today. I have been in touch with her friend who has been in touch with her and she told her friend that she has been drinking and can't stop. Her friend was around when she had her first maj...

Rinn · Rinn

I haven't had contact with my alcoholic dad in 6 years or his family. I didn't meet them until I was in my 20's, then flew across the country to meet my aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins several times. I really miss my family. But my dad being the alcoholic, and me with a overworked defense mechani...

jocelgp · jocelgp

Yes, so I am living with two difficult persons. My Al-anon tools has really helped a lot, and the posts I read in this Group. Just a pouring of my heart: I do my best to detach, use the slogans but I guess I just have to live with the sad and lonely feeling. (((Hugs)) to everyone on this journey!

Greenvalleygal · Greenvalleygal

I think I have finally realized that I can no longer deal with my son who lives in our apartment next to our house. He is suppose to pay rent and utilities but has not held a job for more than a week or two in the last six months. I have allowed him to just give me the money for his utilities for the past two mont...

joker · joker

I still have not gone home to the alcoholic. I am staying with my sister and I have talked to the alcoholic and he was somewhat normal yesterday, sick as can be, from a hangover. I just talked briefly with him and hung up. This morning I called him and he was sick as can be. I told him he needs help and I can not d...

winnie1 · winnie1

Please excuse me. I am testing to see if I am registered correctly. Thank you, Winnie1

Overcome · Overcome

RobinKS, long time member here on the message board and in the chat room, lost her husband last Saturday in a boating accident.. I would like to ask for prayer for her and her family, at her request. Anyone that would like to send cards or such can pm me and I can give you an address for her.

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about concept five, -'assuring that the voices of the minority be heard'. The writer goes on to say that the concept had particular importance since he/she suffered with low self esteem and general unworthiness at the hands of the disease. I think that for...

joker · joker

Its been awhile since I posted. I have been doing a lot of detachment from active alcoholic. I went on a holiday with him (wrong idea), for 3 weeks to go home to his hometown, 5 days drive away, across the country. It was hell. I managed to get away from him when it became unbearable. I even slept in my car one...

NSBlue · NSBlue

Hi My name is Melanie, I am a grateful member of Truro Al-Anon Family Group in Nova Scotia. I have been a member since April 5th of this year. I was thrilled when I seen this on-line message board; another recovery tool to work my program. I am blessed to have my local Al-Anon fellowship and now an on-line...

Jerry F · Jerry F

about your ESH because this is a cunning powerful and baffling disease and it will take most every opportunity to prove that too you. I got triggered...big time. It hurt and it got me again. I went to a meeting last evening with a sponsee and it was a speaker meeting though the speaker didn't show up....

jocelgp · jocelgp

hi everyone, it's been a while. Though I've not been posting, I still go and read posts from here. My husband has not been drinking, at least for a while (was that because I told him he could could seek help because I believe he has drinking problem and that he wants to prove that he's not), he denies he'...

Jaclyn · Jaclyn

Hi All, It as been a few months since my last post. I am still extremely physically ill - with no answers. I spend my days in bed, unless I am going from doctor to doctor, holistic practitioner to holistic practitioner. Emotionally, I did a good job of staying away (absolutely no contact) from ex-A fian...

emptysky · emptysky

Hi I'm new here and having a really difficult day. To sum it up I am the daughter of an alcoholic mother and the wife of a recovering alcoholic who has been sober for eight years. I have a major panic disorder, depression, PTSD and I am a grateful breast cancer survivor. I have been miserable and unhap...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

Hello everyone: There may be a few of you here that remember me, but I've seen quite a lot of new names and faces. I am a recovering co-dependent who was in a relationship with an A for several years, up until about 2 1/2 weeks ago. The A's father passed away after a sudden illness 3 weeks ago, and the family w...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for August 7 speaks about Steps 10, 11,12. The reading points out that many consider those maintenance Steps, but we don't want to maintain where we are when we complete step nine. This is no time to stagnate., Instead we should really consider these Step growth Steps. No matter how o...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I just need some prayers .. LOL .. it is so good I have moved so far away. It is now apparent that the XAH's wife is into playing games as he is which is fine .. it's like these people don't get I'm not going away. The kids go back to school on the 22nd .. we have a lot to accomplish between now and then .. kids nee...

Charlotte22 · Charlotte22

Good Morning. I back in program again after 10 years! UG!! I needed it. My father is now 85 and dying of liver disease (lifetime alcoholic) and I 'thought" that we had reached a peaceful place of forgiveness a few years back but in the recent year he has become abusive to me again. He lives in New york...

Doingmybest · Doingmybest

Hello my MIP Friends, i was wondering if anyone would be willing to share some esh on the first two to three years with a RAH. Mine is at the16 month mark this week and we are getting along wonderfully, however, I do find that we still have serious intimacy issues, Many are related to the medical issue he...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I don't know if I should be impressed with myself or scared as all get out. I have a very active schedule at the moment and the magic word seems to be no .. not no thank you .. just NO. LOL! The whole dating thing has been entertaining is putting it mildly .. I'm coming to a point where I feel like I need to take...

Mcat54 · Mcat54

Pinkchip's perspective on boundaries in another post was helpful to me. Makes sense that what we tolerate shows what our true boundaries are and also that what other people do or allow to happen is evidence of their boundaries. My boundary has been to leave the room when my A falls asleep after too ma...

Hopeful2112 · Hopeful2112

Hi, newbie here, been going to Alanon for three short months, long enough for the program to have changed my life, but not long enough for me to understand the difference between my defects and insanity and the reality. My parter is a sober member of AA, dry drunk for most of our relationship, controll...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Today's c2c talks about step 6 and how daunting the prospect of change can be. Many of us find ourselves reluctant to let go of any more of ourselves for fear of "what will be left?" Yet if we consider how far we have come since beginning our journey, we can see how much willingness to change we alreay have....

gabigail · gabigail

I am so lost, confused, guilty, and other emotions I can't describe right now. As many of you know my spouse and I took a "break" this last week and I have been on a meeting marathon working on myself. I had been overwhelmed with the caregiving aspect and not taking care of me. So, now my spouse ended up in th...

lookingup · lookingup

Trying to move forward after all the drama and chaos of dealing with my addict sister isn't as easy as I thought it should be,feeling sad and greiveing the loss of a what use to be tons of years ago a very close sister,as painful as it may be I've got to pick myself up and forget the past so that I can move on......

Iamhere · Iamhere

The Courage to Change reading for today discusses resentments and how poisonous they are to our recovery. Before Al-Anon, many of us spent most of our waking hours poisoned by or obsessing over our resentments. We could hold on to them and keep them burning for day, for years or longer. Many of us nu...

Hopeful2112 · Hopeful2112

Hi everyone, I am so thankful for Alanon and have just recently discovered this program. I have moved from Melbourne to the country for work purposes and gone from one meeting a day ( two sometimes) to not having any meetings for weeks now! I kind of knew how much I had come to depend on meetings but now I R...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for August 6 speaks about the times that we feel as if we are unable to take an action or face the challenges that are within our lives. Even when our position is hopeless and HP is beckoning us to take the risk, we hesitate, hoping for a miracle so that we do not have to act. . We forget th...

cc1960 · cc1960

Hi All, I apologize for jumping right in with a question that would probably be answered if I had started the steps or established a sponsor. I'm in a relationship with an addict. He is highly functioning, very intelligent, and a successful business owner. He recently admitted himself into a rehab p...

OptimisticPi · OptimisticPi

I need some support you guys! I actually posted a long and heartfelt message last night, but it didn't post! Here's take 2.... My boyfriend and I recently broke up. We've been together only for about two months, but he sincerely is one of my best friends and I love him. We went through some difficult stuf...

Serenity75 · Serenity75

I have asked my AH not to talk to me when he is drinking. But I can't get away from him. He follows me around relentlessly. If I leave he calls and texts to no end. It is soooo emotionally draining. I try not to react. I pray to be able to hold on to myself. To maintain a level of respect for him. But sometimes h...

LadyM1 · LadyM1

Talked with my husband's uncle yesterday - he said to call anytime to vent or ask questions. I had a really rough day at work yesterday and was looking forward to the treat of getting my hair cut. When I left the salon AH sent a text - 'kids are awesome, please bring home ginger ale and beer.' I called him...

Calm Lady · Calm Lady

Good morning all Wanting to share my gratitude for our program. I have had a rather long issue with a company that owes me some money. I admit to being rude and sarcastic when dealing with them by phone and email over it quite a few times. I got a mail from them last night that today i need to respond to. With m...

Crau · Crau

After 6 months of watching my exAbf go to treatment, relapse, be sober, relapse again and now having 3 months of sobriety under his belt, we finally are having open conversations about his disease. He will say "it's my disease talking". Maybe it's an excuse maybe it's an explaination but whatever it i...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I had to laugh during the crazy meeting I had with my x and the attorney's, it was brought up that X provided 1 paystub in which I asked my attorney later if that was ok or not. LOL! Of course you are not going to process child support off of 1 paystub. My attorney contacted me back and said she would work on...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I've been processing several things this week and have wanted to write but just was stuck. Stuck in sadness, stuck in uncertainty and perhaps fear. At times, each of these has been worse/stronger than the other but these and possible more feelings have been present. One of my dearest friends who is...

Groo · Groo

So AH started at 8AM, I get home at 6PM and ignore the fact that he has been drunk all day. I was pleasant and we had a fairly decent conversation up until I slipped. I sort of joked about something that was a sensitive subject for him and all hell broke loose. I tried to apologize and leave the room, but he...

gabigail · gabigail

hi everyone- Its a possibility that my A will be coming back home today. I've been very anxious about it, because I've had this freedom the last few days where I'm not constantly being questioned about my coming and my going, asked to do everything for my recovering A and being able to breathe and do stuf...

el-cee · el-cee

This leaflet is from the other side of the family and one of the views is from an alcoholic. Powerful letter, thought Id share. Open Letter from the Alcoholic I am an alcoholic. I need your help.Don't lecture, blame or scold me. You wouldn't be angry with me for having cancer or diabetes. Alcoholism is a...

lookingup · lookingup

As most of you know I've been trying to get my sister out of my home,well it finally happened she left on her own after I called the police she scrammed ,saved me 70 dollars for eviction notice,now I'm got my home back no addicts what so ever living here,it seemed so very strange and awkward all the silence...

ataloss · ataloss

I'm really struggling. Been separated for 3 years. My husband left me for a younger woman who he works with. I know he doesn't deserve me and that I deserve better. He is an alcoholic who is about 90 days sober. I acted like a nut for too long after I found out he was cheating. I was totally blindsided, scare...

Bethany66 · Bethany66

I feel like I am drowning right now. Between pressures at work, guilt feelings for not enough time spent with extended family and dealing with the insanity of active alcoholism in my home, I am ready to run for the hills and hide out. I have a friend who is on holiday in Europe and told me I could stay at th...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I got the job .. I'm so happy. I have been working at a non profit company since March of this year after the whole Justin ordeal and it has been a sheer blessing we well as joy. I get to help families who are in worse off situations than I have been in and it truly feels good to be a part of something bigger tha...

Calm Lady · Calm Lady

Difficult time this morning, AH got it into his head that he wanted me to buy him a car. Just like that. He thought this reasonable and that he is entitled to it. He knows I will NEVER be driven by him. He wanted a car for his amusement. To put it into context, we got rid of his previous car years ago as he is too i...

Kcsnooze · Kcsnooze

My AH has one day left of outpatient therapy and he has relapsed. He called me a couple times today, slurring his words, needing me for mundane things. He has fallen twice since I have gotten home from work. I am working so hard to detach, let him be and focus on me. I go to two F2F meetings a week. I read the li...

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	Got the apartment (Preview) Well, I did it. Today, I took possession of my apartment. I went and done the inspection and I can move in anytime. I came home yesterday, the alcoholic was in bad shape. He had not eaten in 5 days, weak, diarrhea and still drinking. The house looked like a bomb went off. The bathroom was beyond disgusted...	joker	3	337	Aug 13, 2016 by Iamhere
	Attorney News (Preview) So I heard from the attorney yesterday and what do you know we are almost done. LOL . this time true story. X has finally submitted his paperwork so we will be going forward and dealing with everything sooner than later. Now the question is did X actually read the agreement. He's not going to be a hap...	SerenityRUS	2	313	Aug 12, 2016 by OceanTide
	New & Clueless But Hopeful (Preview) I am reaching out to gain knowledge and in time peace. Until recently my connection with addition was my father. I was young and most of what I remember is the broken promises and fighting with my mother. I dealt with it the only way I knew how and I am pleased to say my father has now been sober for over 36 yea...	one heart	2	343	Aug 12, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 8/12/16 (Preview) Today's reading talks about Step 3 - "Made a decision to turn my will and my life over to the care of God as I understood him." - and the profound peace that comes when we commit to this step in our program. The reading shares a story about a relative diagnosed with a brain tumor. The writer was suggesting...	Iamhere	8	373	Aug 12, 2016 by PatG1025
	Overdrive! (Preview) Good morning family I am very grateful for my fabulous Al-anon program today. I made the mistake of eating a lot of sugary food yesterday afternoon. I normally eat very healthily. Well my ISM's went into overdrive! Around AH and the world in general. I lost the plot and went nuts and manic for a while....	Calm Lady	9	387	Aug 12, 2016 by Calm Lady
	moving on (Preview) My emotions are all over the place. I get the keys for my apartment on Friday, but I keep thinking about alcoholic. How will he manage to pay the bills, the mortgage, other bills he has. I know its not my problem but I worry for him as he is not working currently. He is on unemployment insurance and I fear for...	joker	8	564	Aug 12, 2016 by Iamhere
	Don't have it to give (Preview) Im a grateful member of Alanon and ive been thinking about that lesson on expectations and how they can be the root of our unhappiness. We feel disappointed and let down and take it personally when our alcoholic loved ones can't be what we expect them to be or give what we expect them to give. We build up e...	el-cee	12	630	Aug 12, 2016 by Calm Lady
	Blue Bunny (Preview) I don't know how y`alls HP likes to mess with you but here is an example of mine. I just went to the VA clinic and my MD told me after reviewing my blood work that my cholesterol was almost off the charts and he was putting me on Statin. I told him I was really into my addiction with sugar and my drug of choi...	Jerry F	5	333	Aug 11, 2016 by YARNCRAZY
	Today's awareness (Preview) After reading todays ODAT I felt it had a deep meaning and I couldn't just skim over it as I often do if im being honest. It is saying that in any situation we arent happy with we have to find the shortcomings within us that are keeping us trapped or imprisoned in it. Well thats my interpretation of what its s...	el-cee	4	357	Aug 11, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 8/11/16 (Preview) Today's reading talks about the importance of attending meetings in our Al-Anon program. Not only do we break the isolation many of us experience because of this disease, we usually hear something we need to hear and rarely leave a meeting feeling worse. Life is hard and difficult without the disea...	Iamhere	3	364	Aug 11, 2016 by Iamhere
	Ooohhhh.... So that's what it's called (Preview) I'm coming to realize what 'codependent' truly means, and it resonates so much. I don't suffer with alcohol addiction, like so many of my family and friends (how crazy it all links together!)... But I have an addiction of my own. My mother and I both have always said that we're codependent on one anoth...	OptimisticPi	3	487	Aug 11, 2016 by gabigail
	1st time; my boyfriend is trying to quit drinking (Preview) Hello Everyone, I have a wonderful boyfriend. He takes such good care of me; leaves me sweet notes, supports me with any issues, makes me dinner, and always makes sure I know that I am loved. He wakes up at 5 am everyday, eats a healthy breakfast, goes to the gym for an hour before work, and an hour and a half...	Nikkosity	7	468	Aug 11, 2016 by OptimisticPi
	C2C 8/10 What Does Our Clutter Say About Us? (Preview) Some say that our clutter desk is a sign of a cluttered mind. Others will say that a clean desk is a sign of sick mind. So which is it? What does my clutter say about my serenity? Perhaps, nothing at all...Todays reading in C2C reminds us that we all do things differently, but what is more important are the r...	Enigmatic	8	388	Aug 10, 2016 by Enigmatic
	bad friend. (Preview) I am a flake. I don't know when this happened exactly, maybe it doesn't matter, but I dislike it. A very dear friend who I haven't seen for seven years...who wrote me a song when I left our country, well she's having major brain surgery tomorrow morning and her daughter, who grew up with my first sons, is i...	a4l	5	296	Aug 10, 2016 by el-cee
	Overwhelmed, overworked, and just plain tired (Preview) Hello friends. I am just tired this week. Working extra hours as I've been home alone for the week as my son is traveling and the bf took his kids on a summer trip, as well. I am feeling overwhelmed with worry and fear about my financial situation. I have too much debt from credit cards and a car loan tha...	andromeda	25	992	Aug 10, 2016 by andromeda
	emergency question (Preview) Hi, My girlfriend lives out of state. Well, we actually broke up yesterday and she is apparently drinking all day today. I have been in touch with her friend who has been in touch with her and she told her friend that she has been drinking and can't stop. Her friend was around when she had her first maj...	NteacherJ	6	470	Aug 10, 2016 by Jen61
	Hit me with some ALANON magic... (Preview) I haven't had contact with my alcoholic dad in 6 years or his family. I didn't meet them until I was in my 20's, then flew across the country to meet my aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins several times. I really miss my family. But my dad being the alcoholic, and me with a overworked defense mechani...	Rinn	8	647	Aug 9, 2016 by Jen61
	living with AH and a controlling mom (Preview) Yes, so I am living with two difficult persons. My Al-anon tools has really helped a lot, and the posts I read in this Group. Just a pouring of my heart: I do my best to detach, use the slogans but I guess I just have to live with the sad and lonely feeling. (((Hugs)) to everyone on this journey!	jocelgp	2	345	Aug 9, 2016 by jocelgp
	Verbally abusive Adult A son (Preview) I think I have finally realized that I can no longer deal with my son who lives in our apartment next to our house. He is suppose to pay rent and utilities but has not held a job for more than a week or two in the last six months. I have allowed him to just give me the money for his utilities for the past two mont...	Greenvalleygal	10	3074	Aug 9, 2016 by hotrod
	I did it (Preview) I still have not gone home to the alcoholic. I am staying with my sister and I have talked to the alcoholic and he was somewhat normal yesterday, sick as can be, from a hangover. I just talked briefly with him and hung up. This morning I called him and he was sick as can be. I told him he needs help and I can not d...	joker	5	420	Aug 9, 2016 by Mattie
	test (Preview) Please excuse me. I am testing to see if I am registered correctly. Thank you, Winnie1	winnie1	4	471	Aug 9, 2016 by milkwood
	Prayers for RobinKS (Preview) RobinKS, long time member here on the message board and in the chat room, lost her husband last Saturday in a boating accident.. I would like to ask for prayer for her and her family, at her request. Anyone that would like to send cards or such can pm me and I can give you an address for her.	Overcome	17	629	Aug 9, 2016 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Aug 9 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Today's reading is about concept five, -'assuring that the voices of the minority be heard'. The writer goes on to say that the concept had particular importance since he/she suffered with low self esteem and general unworthiness at the hands of the disease. I think that for...	yanksfan51	2	395	Aug 9, 2016 by Iamhere
	a getting worse (Preview) Its been awhile since I posted. I have been doing a lot of detachment from active alcoholic. I went on a holiday with him (wrong idea), for 3 weeks to go home to his hometown, 5 days drive away, across the country. It was hell. I managed to get away from him when it became unbearable. I even slept in my car one...	joker	8	449	Aug 9, 2016 by Thinkngal
	Hello, My name is Melanie (Preview) Hi My name is Melanie, I am a grateful member of Truro Al-Anon Family Group in Nova Scotia. I have been a member since April 5th of this year. I was thrilled when I seen this on-line message board; another recovery tool to work my program. I am blessed to have my local Al-Anon fellowship and now an on-line...	NSBlue	12	2611	Aug 9, 2016 by Jerry F
	Be careful what and how you share (Preview) about your ESH because this is a cunning powerful and baffling disease and it will take most every opportunity to prove that too you. I got triggered...big time. It hurt and it got me again. I went to a meeting last evening with a sponsee and it was a speaker meeting though the speaker didn't show up....	Jerry F	8	609	Aug 9, 2016 by Jerry F
	detached, still denying, couldn't love, lonely (Preview) hi everyone, it's been a while. Though I've not been posting, I still go and read posts from here. My husband has not been drinking, at least for a while (was that because I told him he could could seek help because I believe he has drinking problem and that he wants to prove that he's not), he denies he'...	jocelgp	6	470	Aug 8, 2016 by Bethany66
	Trying Not to Give Up (Preview) Hi All, It as been a few months since my last post. I am still extremely physically ill - with no answers. I spend my days in bed, unless I am going from doctor to doctor, holistic practitioner to holistic practitioner. Emotionally, I did a good job of staying away (absolutely no contact) from ex-A fian...	Jaclyn	35	1353	Aug 8, 2016 by KennyFenderjazz
	Miserable (Preview) Hi I'm new here and having a really difficult day. To sum it up I am the daughter of an alcoholic mother and the wife of a recovering alcoholic who has been sober for eight years. I have a major panic disorder, depression, PTSD and I am a grateful breast cancer survivor. I have been miserable and unhap...	emptysky	12	460	Aug 8, 2016 by Mirandac
	A bitter emptiness (Preview) Hello everyone: There may be a few of you here that remember me, but I've seen quite a lot of new names and faces. I am a recovering co-dependent who was in a relationship with an A for several years, up until about 2 1/2 weeks ago. The A's father passed away after a sudden illness 3 weeks ago, and the family w...	Raven Juniper	10	556	Aug 8, 2016 by Jen61
	Courage to Change 8-7-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for August 7 speaks about Steps 10, 11,12. The reading points out that many consider those maintenance Steps, but we don't want to maintain where we are when we complete step nine. This is no time to stagnate., Instead we should really consider these Step growth Steps. No matter how o...	hotrod	3	424	Aug 7, 2016 by hotrod
	Trying to keep my sense of humor at the moment (Preview) I just need some prayers .. LOL .. it is so good I have moved so far away. It is now apparent that the XAH's wife is into playing games as he is which is fine .. it's like these people don't get I'm not going away. The kids go back to school on the 22nd .. we have a lot to accomplish between now and then .. kids nee...	SerenityRUS	4	308	Aug 7, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	Confused about Self Protection from Rageful Alcoholic Father and How to Forgive From a Distance? (Preview) Good Morning. I back in program again after 10 years! UG!! I needed it. My father is now 85 and dying of liver disease (lifetime alcoholic) and I 'thought" that we had reached a peaceful place of forgiveness a few years back but in the recent year he has become abusive to me again. He lives in New york...	Charlotte22	4	478	Aug 7, 2016 by hotrod
	Question for those who stayed and AH is/was in recovery (or double winners) (Preview) Hello my MIP Friends, i was wondering if anyone would be willing to share some esh on the first two to three years with a RAH. Mine is at the16 month mark this week and we are getting along wonderfully, however, I do find that we still have serious intimacy issues, Many are related to the medical issue he...	Doingmybest	6	452	Aug 7, 2016 by knit2thepoint
	Things I have learned while dating .. (Preview) I don't know if I should be impressed with myself or scared as all get out. I have a very active schedule at the moment and the magic word seems to be no .. not no thank you .. just NO. LOL! The whole dating thing has been entertaining is putting it mildly .. I'm coming to a point where I feel like I need to take...	SerenityRUS	14	697	Aug 7, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	Perspective needed (Preview) Pinkchip's perspective on boundaries in another post was helpful to me. Makes sense that what we tolerate shows what our true boundaries are and also that what other people do or allow to happen is evidence of their boundaries. My boundary has been to leave the room when my A falls asleep after too ma...	Mcat54	4	382	Aug 7, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	Relationships, what's real &I what my illness?? (Preview) Hi, newbie here, been going to Alanon for three short months, long enough for the program to have changed my life, but not long enough for me to understand the difference between my defects and insanity and the reality. My parter is a sober member of AA, dry drunk for most of our relationship, controll...	Hopeful2112	4	467	Aug 7, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to change 8/8 (Preview) Today's c2c talks about step 6 and how daunting the prospect of change can be. Many of us find ourselves reluctant to let go of any more of ourselves for fear of "what will be left?" Yet if we consider how far we have come since beginning our journey, we can see how much willingness to change we alreay have....	missmeliss	1	425	Aug 7, 2016 by hotrod
	Caregiving for sick and sober (Preview) I am so lost, confused, guilty, and other emotions I can't describe right now. As many of you know my spouse and I took a "break" this last week and I have been on a meeting marathon working on myself. I had been overwhelmed with the caregiving aspect and not taking care of me. So, now my spouse ended up in th...	gabigail	10	493	Aug 6, 2016 by missmeliss
	Going forward (Preview) Trying to move forward after all the drama and chaos of dealing with my addict sister isn't as easy as I thought it should be,feeling sad and greiveing the loss of a what use to be tons of years ago a very close sister,as painful as it may be I've got to pick myself up and forget the past so that I can move on......	lookingup	3	345	Aug 6, 2016 by lookingup
	Courage to Change (C2C) 8/5/16 (Preview) The Courage to Change reading for today discusses resentments and how poisonous they are to our recovery. Before Al-Anon, many of us spent most of our waking hours poisoned by or obsessing over our resentments. We could hold on to them and keep them burning for day, for years or longer. Many of us nu...	Iamhere	6	373	Aug 6, 2016 by Iamhere
	Hey all! New and grateful (Preview) Hi everyone, I am so thankful for Alanon and have just recently discovered this program. I have moved from Melbourne to the country for work purposes and gone from one meeting a day ( two sometimes) to not having any meetings for weeks now! I kind of knew how much I had come to depend on meetings but now I R...	Hopeful2112	7	423	Aug 6, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change Reading for 8-6-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for August 6 speaks about the times that we feel as if we are unable to take an action or face the challenges that are within our lives. Even when our position is hopeless and HP is beckoning us to take the risk, we hesitate, hoping for a miracle so that we do not have to act. . We forget th...	hotrod	1	485	Aug 6, 2016 by Iamhere
	Newbie with Question (Preview) Hi All, I apologize for jumping right in with a question that would probably be answered if I had started the steps or established a sponsor. I'm in a relationship with an addict. He is highly functioning, very intelligent, and a successful business owner. He recently admitted himself into a rehab p...	cc1960	11	487	Aug 6, 2016 by milkwood
	Breakup with a new RA breakup with recovering addict addiction support (Preview) I need some support you guys! I actually posted a long and heartfelt message last night, but it didn't post! Here's take 2.... My boyfriend and I recently broke up. We've been together only for about two months, but he sincerely is one of my best friends and I love him. We went through some difficult stuf...	OptimisticPi	4	5559	Aug 5, 2016 by OptimisticPi
	Trying to have boundaries (Preview) I have asked my AH not to talk to me when he is drinking. But I can't get away from him. He follows me around relentlessly. If I leave he calls and texts to no end. It is soooo emotionally draining. I try not to react. I pray to be able to hold on to myself. To maintain a level of respect for him. But sometimes h...	Serenity75	7	618	Aug 5, 2016 by KennyFenderjazz
	Denial (Preview) Talked with my husband's uncle yesterday - he said to call anytime to vent or ask questions. I had a really rough day at work yesterday and was looking forward to the treat of getting my hair cut. When I left the salon AH sent a text - 'kids are awesome, please bring home ginger ale and beer.' I called him...	LadyM1	11	520	Aug 5, 2016 by knit2thepoint
	Gentle (Preview) Good morning all Wanting to share my gratitude for our program. I have had a rather long issue with a company that owes me some money. I admit to being rude and sarcastic when dealing with them by phone and email over it quite a few times. I got a mail from them last night that today i need to respond to. With m...	Calm Lady	4	344	Aug 5, 2016 by Iamhere
	An open and honest conversation... (Preview) After 6 months of watching my exAbf go to treatment, relapse, be sober, relapse again and now having 3 months of sobriety under his belt, we finally are having open conversations about his disease. He will say "it's my disease talking". Maybe it's an excuse maybe it's an explaination but whatever it i...	Crau	3	376	Aug 5, 2016 by Iamhere
	My responses to wared thinking (Preview) I had to laugh during the crazy meeting I had with my x and the attorney's, it was brought up that X provided 1 paystub in which I asked my attorney later if that was ok or not. LOL! Of course you are not going to process child support off of 1 paystub. My attorney contacted me back and said she would work on...	SerenityRUS	0	320	Aug 5, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	Every Body's Got Something.... (Preview) I've been processing several things this week and have wanted to write but just was stuck. Stuck in sadness, stuck in uncertainty and perhaps fear. At times, each of these has been worse/stronger than the other but these and possible more feelings have been present. One of my dearest friends who is...	Iamhere	20	561	Aug 4, 2016 by Iamhere
	Too Old for This (Preview) So AH started at 8AM, I get home at 6PM and ignore the fact that he has been drunk all day. I was pleasant and we had a fairly decent conversation up until I slipped. I sort of joked about something that was a sensitive subject for him and all hell broke loose. I tried to apologize and leave the room, but he...	Groo	15	690	Aug 4, 2016 by IAmStrong
	Setting boundaries and sticking to them (Preview) hi everyone- Its a possibility that my A will be coming back home today. I've been very anxious about it, because I've had this freedom the last few days where I'm not constantly being questioned about my coming and my going, asked to do everything for my recovering A and being able to breathe and do stuf...	gabigail	8	485	Aug 4, 2016 by pinkchip
	3 Views of Al-anon (Preview) This leaflet is from the other side of the family and one of the views is from an alcoholic. Powerful letter, thought Id share. Open Letter from the Alcoholic I am an alcoholic. I need your help.Don't lecture, blame or scold me. You wouldn't be angry with me for having cancer or diabetes. Alcoholism is a...	el-cee	18	3278	Aug 4, 2016 by Calm Lady
	Update (Preview) As most of you know I've been trying to get my sister out of my home,well it finally happened she left on her own after I called the police she scrammed ,saved me 70 dollars for eviction notice,now I'm got my home back no addicts what so ever living here,it seemed so very strange and awkward all the silence...	lookingup	12	458	Aug 4, 2016 by lookingup
	Struggling (Preview) I'm really struggling. Been separated for 3 years. My husband left me for a younger woman who he works with. I know he doesn't deserve me and that I deserve better. He is an alcoholic who is about 90 days sober. I acted like a nut for too long after I found out he was cheating. I was totally blindsided, scare...	ataloss	4	414	Aug 4, 2016 by milkwood
	A packed bag (Preview) I feel like I am drowning right now. Between pressures at work, guilt feelings for not enough time spent with extended family and dealing with the insanity of active alcoholism in my home, I am ready to run for the hills and hide out. I have a friend who is on holiday in Europe and told me I could stay at th...	Bethany66	8	404	Aug 4, 2016 by YARNCRAZY
	Finally .. (Preview) I got the job .. I'm so happy. I have been working at a non profit company since March of this year after the whole Justin ordeal and it has been a sheer blessing we well as joy. I get to help families who are in worse off situations than I have been in and it truly feels good to be a part of something bigger tha...	SerenityRUS	7	515	Aug 4, 2016 by el-cee
	Grateful (Preview) Difficult time this morning, AH got it into his head that he wanted me to buy him a car. Just like that. He thought this reasonable and that he is entitled to it. He knows I will NEVER be driven by him. He wanted a car for his amusement. To put it into context, we got rid of his previous car years ago as he is too i...	Calm Lady	9	433	Aug 4, 2016 by Calm Lady
	He is at it again (Preview) My AH has one day left of outpatient therapy and he has relapsed. He called me a couple times today, slurring his words, needing me for mundane things. He has fallen twice since I have gotten home from work. I am working so hard to detach, let him be and focus on me. I go to two F2F meetings a week. I read the li...	Kcsnooze	12	535	Aug 4, 2016 by Jazzie18
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