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Charlotte22


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Hi Everyone,  I am going to visit my father who is 85 and dying of liver disease in a week with my 13 year old son who seems to like him. I am staying at a hotel and checking for al anon meetings in the area but cannot seem to find any! (Tarrytown New York).  I am feeling extreme anxiety and it will not let up.  I am doing some deep inner work and hoping to work on forgiveness as well and need to know about some good PHONE al anon meetings if anyone know of any.  Please send me prayers and Love. I am going to use the boards while visiting if i cannot find a meeting. THANK YOU!! xx



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Hi Charlotte,

I don't know about phone meetings, but we do have online meetings here,

9 AM Mon-Fri
9 PM Mon-Sat
10 AM Sat & Sun
7 PM EST Sunday

Also, there are quite often people in the chat/meeting room outside of those hours, especially after the evening meeting. You can click here to go to the chat/meeting room.

Hope that helps.

 

Kenny



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Calm Lady


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Sending strength and prayers to you.

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Grateful to put the heavy weight down.

 

 

 
Iamhere


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I am also sending positive vibes and prayers your way.....have a great trip and focus on the good!!

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 
pinkchip


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Positive self talk. Remind yourself he doesn't have power over you like he once did. He is an angry old drunk who also happens to be your father, not the boogeyman.

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I know how you feel. My husband died three years ago with cirrhosis of the liver, due to alcoholic drinking, even though he had been sober for 20 years. The disease of cirrhosis actually affects the mind to the point you don't know who you are talking to. They get angry, miserable, blaming, and critical. Then they can be happy and full of joy. I never knew, minute by minute, how he would be.

I still had some residual anger over his drinking when he drank, but I was overjoyed when he got sober. I thought he would changed 100% immediately, well no, he did change but not 100%. Let's just say he changed a lot and was easier to live with. But unfortunately his liver disease eventually killed him and the last 7 years of his disease was very hard to live with. But yet, I cared for him 24/7 and would do it again if he was alive now. I miss him. But I really don't miss the disease or the crappy attitudes.

I turned everything over to my HP and let HP handle everything that I couldn't.

(((HUGS)))

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Hi Kenny,  I am not sure how to directly ask you a question but you mentioned meetings "here" and I would love to know how to get into these meetings at 9pm mon - sat.  I would gratefully appreciate it. I need HELP!  Thanks,  Sarah 



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Sarah - I am not Kenny, but if you look at the top left of this board, there is the meeting schedule and a link to the meeting chat room (2nd link from top). If you click through that link, it will ask you to enter a nickname. All you do is replace the mib..... with a chosen nickname, and push enter. That will put you into the chat room. You can see if others are present as other nicknames will show up on the right hand side of the chat/meeting room....

If others are there, they will usually say hello unless they too are new and don't think to do so. Meetings have been iffy as summer is so busy for folks, but keep trying - they are great meetings. You can show up late, step away if needed, leave early - there is no judgement at all.

HTH!

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 
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