Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses the concept of recovery - "Let it Begin With Me". The reading suggests it's easy for us to sit and itemize the defects of our qualifier/others. We can spend hours thinking of the ways others should/could change! Yet, not one time has this mental criticism improved anythi...

Bethany66 · Bethany66

I kept hearing talk of "Gaslighting" and then someone referenced the movie, so I went to the library and got it on DVD to watch. My AH was passed out, so I had uninterrupted time. Now I totally understand the use of that term. And last night, I saw it in action. I went out to dinner with 5 very good women...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading talks about 'all that is Al-Anon'.....what this means is we arrive, and no matter how defeated, broken, crazy or other we are - we are invited back. Many of us are grateful for this love and acceptance, no matter our condition when we arrive. For many, Al-Anon is the last hope. The dis...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

How do we perceive ourselves and how accurate is that perception to others? Is our perception of ourselves always the same as how others perceive us? The alcoholic doesn't think they have a problem, but we all know they do...as far as they're concerned they are one thing, we see them as something comp...

MissM · MissM

What a weekend. Daughter and I went to volunteer at a very large music festival that happens in a town about 40 minutes from home. The idea is, you work for 10 hours and in return they give you an all-access pass for the entire 3 day event. Daughter wasn't required to volunteer in the end because she is too y...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

I'm not really surprised as i once would have been earlier in my recovery but i think a part of me will always be a little baffled in the presence of the disease of addiction .. these past couple weeks i received many calls from my ex addict .. this happens when his life slows .. maybe a comedown moment .. not...

lgnutah · lgnutah

My qualifier tended to phone me after drinking in the evenings. After those calls I had trouble sleeping. I decided I could take control of getting healthy sleep if I turned my ringers off on my phone at 8 pm. It took about a year, but my A finally accepted the phone wouldn't be answered (though she still s...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's reading challenges us to consider every person we encounter as a teacher who offers us a very important lesson to learn...every person, even the ones whose company we struggle to endure. We may witness positive qualities we can adopt, negative traits that remind us of something we are worki...

lgnutah · lgnutah

A few years back I bought a strip of plaid fabric that had just the word "THANKFUL" stitched onto it in large capital letters. I hang it on my front door every November but I love lookjng at it so much I almost hate to take it down when it's time to put up my Christmas wreath.

jocelgp · jocelgp

I asked my husband to leave because I don't deserve to be treated so badly: aiming fist at me and calling me names and demeaning my being a person. I don't know if he drank last friday but he came home later than usual. He keeps on saying bad words while sleeping friday night. Saturday was quiet, I tried...

MissM · MissM

It's been a rough semester. I live approx 2 hours from my university and this semester I was meant to do a lot of contact hours. I negotiated with my child, 2 days a week she would go to the school library at 7:30am (when the staff come on duty) so I could get to school late for an 8am class. We had a deal. When it...

Miss A · Miss A

I'm starting to work on healing my Inner Child, and I was wondering how some of you have done it? I've been struggling with doing this for years and it's holding me back from having a happy and healthy life. I'm nearly 23 and I want to start living. The thing is I don't know how.

TessaB · TessaB

Something I have really been struggling with lately is feeling like I need for my son(adult son) to admit he has been using when he stops by.It's obvious to me that he's high,I already know he is,yet I still call him out on it,even though I already know he's going to deny it. I am causing arguments with him...

John · John

Asking for prayer and help!I have not been interacting on the boards for a good while because of internal and external hardships I am so overwhelmed with and that has reduced my ability to shoot positive energy, inspiration, and hope into the Universe for the benefit of others, when I am so stuck in the...

_bunny_ · _bunny_

I was lucky to have met my AH when he was sober. We had many wonderful years together. Then alcohol came back into his life and my world became explosive. Most of the time the disease has control of him, but sometimes there's little moments when I get a glimpse of the man I used to know. As time goes by those l...

lookingup · lookingup

Spent thanksgiving with my aging father,not in good health ,I and him discussed on what to do with his son age 42 my baby brother after father passes,his huge concern, a/b is disabled physically and mentally ,due to lifetime of alcohol and drug use, ab has always lived with my father,always been depen...

TessaB · TessaB

Hello. I used to be active in Alanon years ago but then,I don't know,I guess I thought I didn't need to work the program anymore.A few days ago,though,I had a total meltdown,ranting and raving at my addicted adult son.After he left,I ranted and raved at my husband,and I got so upset and out of control I k...

Prissykitty · Prissykitty

Ugh. I swear these mood swings, daily physical ailments and just general anger and unavailability is almost harder than it was when he was actively using. Just needed to that off my chest to people that understand.

vvv · vvv

ive read quite a few books as well as writing on here...what exactly is detachmen? The way I see it is that you can still love someone and support, but not run to their aide. I've been working very hard on this and it's even harder because I do not think active alcoholics understand, which makes it even har...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning all- Today's reading is about our slogan 'live and let live'. It seems I cannot have enough reminders about staying in my own business and out of everyone else's! The writer describes a childhood w an active A father, but who felt resentment and anger toward mother for her role in it and he...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi my name is Jim and I'm a grateful member of al-anon. It's been awhile. I'm glad I thought of the fellowship recently. I havn't been to a meeting in months....posted here in maybe a year... I felt it was time for me to grow in a different direction in different areas of my life. It was time to break away fro...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all, The Alanon board is by far the biggest board in the MIP clubhouse. I belong to another group as well, "across the corridor". While in the USA I went to meetings in towns like Sarasota, Rapid City, Atlanta, Lower Manhattan, and Mill Valley Ca. Many places have a clubhouse, started by AA....

_bunny_ · _bunny_

Happy Sunday! I would like to know if anyone has known their A to be above the legal limit and driving. Did you practice loving detachment? Did you call the authorities? Please share your experiences.

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Had a lovely thanksgiving with my boyfriends family. They live about 1 1/2 hours away from here this was the first car trip of that length with the kids .. I wondered how we would all do in a confined space .. LOL. It was a blast! We would be fine .. my poor boyfriend would run for the hills. The kids are re...

Lou Lou · Lou Lou

I'm new to this and need help. Where do I start? Meetings? what to expect. Please help me.

hotrod · hotrod

STEP 7 HAS BEEN POSTED TO THE STEP WORK BOARD. PLEASE JOIN IN AND SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS. earn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! http://stepwork.activeboard...

joker · joker

Listen to an al-anon speaker on u-tube and heard this-WAIT-meaning why am I talking...and WASTE-Why am I still talking... I had to share this..it made me think and go mmm.

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

One saying in AlAnon is that 'No situation is hopeless.' Our reading notes that hope and despair describe only our feelings about a situation, not the situation or our life itself. This is an important distinction, because the only thing separating a hopeless feeling from a hopeful feeling is belie...

madowl86 · madowl86

So, I know an alcoholic is an addict. An addict is an addict. But, I've come to learn my A is not just an alcoholic, but also likes pills. He will tell me he's going to get weed, but I have suspicions that it's more than that. I have found text messages about pills, Facebook messages, and most recently he tol...

Fooled · Fooled

My RAH celebrated 60 days of sobriety yesterday. I am confused as what to do when he shares this with me and that he got a round of applause. I have stuck to, "I am happy for you" Is that the right thing? Does anybody have any experience in acknowledging the accomplishment but staying on your side...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

Now that i have no contact with my XAH, I can see myself. There are some behaviors etc that I dont like in myself. Because of neglect and abandonment issues as a child, i occasionally have a meltdown, when im sick or not up to par. I was berated as a child when i got ill or needed help. So these past few days i ha...

Jage1991 · Jage1991

How long do meetings last? And, I logged into meeting, but looked like I was the only one and it should have been half way through.

lookingup · lookingup

Will I ever learn this, my story backs up to where most already remembers my xabf,I had asked for prayers from y'all,n that I'd fill y'all in later.here it is,my truth....I had my xabf back in my home,I know kickk me,lol,1000000s times,this time was ,not good. running from law,hiding out,53 yo,got ch...

Shel66 · Shel66

I'm new to the board. My 18 year old son is an addict. I carry so much guilt and question everyday where my little boy went and who this young man who shows no emotion is.

Wray · Wray

My Son is an alcoholic, he went thru detox and checked into a rehab facility for a month. He got out 3 days ago and I found a bottle in his bag tonight. He is not a kid. He is 38 years old but still my son. I don't know what to say to him. I want to fix this but he is a grown man and I don't know how to talk to him about th...

Jage1991 · Jage1991

Can I discuss what I have learned this past week with my husband? About alcoholism, al anon, etc even though he has not yet admitted or realized there is a problem?

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for November 27 suggests that as the result of of living with the disease of alcoholism, many of us have developed survivor tools in order to live . The reading points out that we have been through many struggles and that we are more than our struggles, and more than our troubles. We are...

texas yankee · texas yankee

I logged on here to wish everyone a happy Thanksgiving day, and of course, the long list of people and things I'm thankful for started to roll through my brain - there was so much that it was like a 45 RPM record playing on 78 RPM (LOL, who else remembers records??). Usually, when I review my almost endles...

GypsyxJ · GypsyxJ

Hello; Ive never used a forum before to reach out to total strangers and ask for help and guidance. But with no Al-anon meetings in my area i felt i would give it a try. While ill try to keep this somewhat short and to the point- my feelings and emotional turmoil are anything but short and to the point. My par...

vvv · vvv

So my ex abf just got out of jail last night for a DUI that happened on Saturday. Against my better judgment I went and picked him up because after all he's done to me and I've allowed I still wanted to hear what he had to say. He told me he had been going to church and aa while in jail and had a very good plan for hi...

Mcat54 · Mcat54

Hi all, Thanksgiving was a small celebration with just my mom, one sister, AH and his friend. Got to use my al-anon tools and feel much better for it. After dinner, AH got a bottle of scotch and took his friend into the TV room, leaving the three of us without a word. He emerged to tell my mother goodbye wh...

Jage1991 · Jage1991

So, my son just got back from a really big cattle show here in Canada and was really upset about some of the things people said to him. You see, he has attended this show previous years and been very successful, but because of the stress and expense, he didn't take cattle this year and is not even sure he wa...

joker · joker

My abf was on the rage yesterday and saying how bad the world is, corrupt, evil, dirty, selfish, ect..on and on he went. He sounded paranoid almost about the world. My question is what is that about and is that an alcoholic trait to view the world as a bad place...I should say to him today I did not go out and...

MissM · MissM

Nanowrimo is "national novel writers month" and it's basically a cool thing (if you're a massive nerd like me) where writers get into regional groups and have a competition where the objective is for each novelist to write 50,000 words (the minimum to be considered a novel) in November. There are pri...

catlover26 · catlover26

My boyfriend ( sort of feels like more of a friend these days) is an recovering alcoholic 30 yrs. But he has PTSD and depression so I know this affects him but he doesn't seem to work his program. He dwells on the past. Even though he doesn't like holidays I thought I would just go over there tonight (Thanks...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for November 26 speaks about alcoholism being a family disease and that many of us upon entering the program do not feel as if we belong. The readin notes that this disease affects not only the person who drinks but those who care about them from generation to generation. Today we can cl...

Scaredfrightened · Scaredfrightened

I am so scared of losing my wife while she is in 28 day rehab. I am so scared that she will get an emotional attachment to another man or develop sexual feelings. Is this common? Can our relationship survive rehab? I have been by her side through everything. -- Edited by Scaredfrightened on Friday 18th o...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Later than planned today - we have a broken faucet on a major tub so....had to switch my morning things around a little bit!!! Happy Friday to all... Today's reading reminds us of what brought us to the program - a friend or family member drank too much!!! We were unhappy about it and life, but did not rea...

MissM · MissM

Hi guys. I'll be away all weekend and I usually do the C2C reading on Saturday. I dropped the ball last weekend as my internet was misbehaving and Betty picked up the slack as she tends to do, HP love her. Is anyone interested in doing it this weekend? As I've mentioned before, I have volunteered to work at...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

just when i think ive squared away feelings about my XAH, something pops up. discovered that my niece recieved about a yr ago, inappropriate emails,messages from my XAH. she is still a minor. Im so angry..she has had enough trouble in her life including losing her mom at age 6. I could !@$#^(**)___ him...

addictedtolove · addictedtolove

I used this board a lot ten years ago & forgot all about it - seems good for me now, as I just can't seem to get to a meeting. My eyes are swollen, I've cried so hard today, and then was so exhausted, slept........... upon waking I - deleted my ex of two years ago that I still haven't gotten over and all of h...

sarahGee · sarahGee

I went to my first ACOA meeting tonight and WOW was it good!! Every reading, every share just blew me away. So tonight I decided I would share. My whole body tensed. Locked up almost. I was shaking and my voice kept catching. And the icing on the cake, I broke out in hives. I felt sick to my stomach and could...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP Family. Today's reading is about Step 10 and how we can use this step and all others to enrich our spiritual journey. The reading talks about looking at others, and mentally adjusting 'things' about them to improve them. In recovery, using the steps, we are instead asked to let go of...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Evening Everyone Cathy is free!! The drama is finally over. I'm so happy I took the plunge and finally took control of of my life. It wasn't easy but the results are wonderful. Will I get lonely? ...I hope not. One day at a time to make my life better and better. WOW.....I never thought this would...

unbroken13 · unbroken13

sarahGee · sarahGee

One of my A's has gone around trashing me for a long while now. To my own family members even. I have been raised to "protect the secret", so I'm not even sure if any of these people know she's an A. Some of them do, I assume, but most wont. I'm letting it happen. Keeping my mouth shut and trusting that HP wil...

Freetime · Freetime

To all of you on MIP who celebrate the US Thanksgiving tomorrow .... May you have a peaceful and joyous Thanksgiving! Even though my life is much more serene these days, I still find myself triggered by memories of not-so-happy (traumatic!) holidays in the recent past. I am finding it helpful to reme...

sarahGee · sarahGee

My kids have the flu and we are staying home today. That sounds pretty normal, right? It's a huge step for me. I work for the family business. I never took sick days for myself, often covered for everyone else at my own expense. I would also set up a space at work for my kids when they were sick, and make t...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page in One Day at a Time in AlAnon challenges us to try something: Cut fear out of our thoughts for one day, today. How? Remember: 1) What happened yesterday is done. 2) Most of what we dread doesn't happen. 3) Anything that does we can handle with the help of our higher power. This is a new day, we h...

Millydilly · Millydilly

I just wanted to say hi to everybody having just joined. I am a member with Al Anon and am so grateful for support I get in meetings but I don't seem to learn. I still find myself in knots, feeling sick with anxiety over someone elses actions. i want to get rid of my anger, my loneliness, my shame on his behalf...

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	Courage to Change (C2C) 12/2/16 (Preview) Today's reading discusses the concept of recovery - "Let it Begin With Me". The reading suggests it's easy for us to sit and itemize the defects of our qualifier/others. We can spend hours thinking of the ways others should/could change! Yet, not one time has this mental criticism improved anythi...	Iamhere	2	503	Dec 2, 2016 by Enigmatic
	Gaslighting? I get it now! (Preview) I kept hearing talk of "Gaslighting" and then someone referenced the movie, so I went to the library and got it on DVD to watch. My AH was passed out, so I had uninterrupted time. Now I totally understand the use of that term. And last night, I saw it in action. I went out to dinner with 5 very good women...	Bethany66	7	655	Dec 2, 2016 by milkwood
	Courage to Change (C2C) 11/1/16 (Preview) Today's reading talks about 'all that is Al-Anon'.....what this means is we arrive, and no matter how defeated, broken, crazy or other we are - we are invited back. Many of us are grateful for this love and acceptance, no matter our condition when we arrive. For many, Al-Anon is the last hope. The dis...	Iamhere	3	526	Dec 1, 2016 by Iamhere
	Perception (Preview) How do we perceive ourselves and how accurate is that perception to others? Is our perception of ourselves always the same as how others perceive us? The alcoholic doesn't think they have a problem, but we all know they do...as far as they're concerned they are one thing, we see them as something comp...	slogan_jim	7	694	Dec 1, 2016 by slogan_jim
	Better times. (Preview) What a weekend. Daughter and I went to volunteer at a very large music festival that happens in a town about 40 minutes from home. The idea is, you work for 10 hours and in return they give you an all-access pass for the entire 3 day event. Daughter wasn't required to volunteer in the end because she is too y...	MissM	6	647	Dec 1, 2016 by sarahGee
	phonecall(s) from my ex .. (Preview) I'm not really surprised as i once would have been earlier in my recovery but i think a part of me will always be a little baffled in the presence of the disease of addiction .. these past couple weeks i received many calls from my ex addict .. this happens when his life slows .. maybe a comedown moment .. not...	MeTwo2	6	640	Dec 1, 2016 by MeTwo2
	It's hard for me to clearly define my boundary-I just want serenity! (Preview) My qualifier tended to phone me after drinking in the evenings. After those calls I had trouble sleeping. I decided I could take control of getting healthy sleep if I turned my ringers off on my phone at 8 pm. It took about a year, but my A finally accepted the phone wouldn't be answered (though she still s...	lgnutah	4	545	Dec 1, 2016 by Iamhere
	11/30/16 Courage to Change (Preview) Today's reading challenges us to consider every person we encounter as a teacher who offers us a very important lesson to learn...every person, even the ones whose company we struggle to endure. We may witness positive qualities we can adopt, negative traits that remind us of something we are worki...	Enigmatic	8	626	Dec 1, 2016 by Iamhere
	THANKFUL (Preview) A few years back I bought a strip of plaid fabric that had just the word "THANKFUL" stitched onto it in large capital letters. I hang it on my front door every November but I love lookjng at it so much I almost hate to take it down when it's time to put up my Christmas wreath.	lgnutah	2	397	Dec 1, 2016 by Iamhere
	my husband just left me, and it's hurting so much (Preview) I asked my husband to leave because I don't deserve to be treated so badly: aiming fist at me and calling me names and demeaning my being a person. I don't know if he drank last friday but he came home later than usual. He keeps on saying bad words while sleeping friday night. Saturday was quiet, I tried...	jocelgp	20	4069	Dec 1, 2016 by Suburban Denizen
	lady-child (Preview) It's been a rough semester. I live approx 2 hours from my university and this semester I was meant to do a lot of contact hours. I negotiated with my child, 2 days a week she would go to the school library at 7:30am (when the staff come on duty) so I could get to school late for an 8am class. We had a deal. When it...	MissM	2	486	Nov 30, 2016 by lgnutah
	Healing your Inner Child? (Preview) I'm starting to work on healing my Inner Child, and I was wondering how some of you have done it? I've been struggling with doing this for years and it's holding me back from having a happy and healthy life. I'm nearly 23 and I want to start living. The thing is I don't know how.	Miss A	10	994	Nov 30, 2016 by Bethany66
	The Need To Know The Truth (Preview) Something I have really been struggling with lately is feeling like I need for my son(adult son) to admit he has been using when he stops by.It's obvious to me that he's high,I already know he is,yet I still call him out on it,even though I already know he's going to deny it. I am causing arguments with him...	TessaB	16	783	Nov 30, 2016 by KennyFenderjazz
	Asking for prayers and help... (Preview) Asking for prayer and help!I have not been interacting on the boards for a good while because of internal and external hardships I am so overwhelmed with and that has reduced my ability to shoot positive energy, inspiration, and hope into the Universe for the benefit of others, when I am so stuck in the...	John	28	1486	Nov 30, 2016 by MissM
	little moments (Preview) I was lucky to have met my AH when he was sober. We had many wonderful years together. Then alcohol came back into his life and my world became explosive. Most of the time the disease has control of him, but sometimes there's little moments when I get a glimpse of the man I used to know. As time goes by those l...	_bunny_	4	527	Nov 30, 2016 by Iamhere
	What to do with loved ones estate after they pass? (Preview) Spent thanksgiving with my aging father,not in good health ,I and him discussed on what to do with his son age 42 my baby brother after father passes,his huge concern, a/b is disabled physically and mentally ,due to lifetime of alcohol and drug use, ab has always lived with my father,always been depen...	lookingup	11	726	Nov 30, 2016 by Iamhere
	New And Out Of Control (Preview) Hello. I used to be active in Alanon years ago but then,I don't know,I guess I thought I didn't need to work the program anymore.A few days ago,though,I had a total meltdown,ranting and raving at my addicted adult son.After he left,I ranted and raved at my husband,and I got so upset and out of control I k...	TessaB	4	634	Nov 29, 2016 by TessaB
	Harder now that he's sober (Preview) Ugh. I swear these mood swings, daily physical ailments and just general anger and unavailability is almost harder than it was when he was actively using. Just needed to that off my chest to people that understand.	Prissykitty	17	1205	Nov 29, 2016 by Iamhere
	Detachment...what is it really? (Preview) ive read quite a few books as well as writing on here...what exactly is detachmen? The way I see it is that you can still love someone and support, but not run to their aide. I've been working very hard on this and it's even harder because I do not think active alcoholics understand, which makes it even har...	vvv	12	734	Nov 29, 2016 by Jerry F
	Hope for Today Nov 29 (Preview) Good morning all- Today's reading is about our slogan 'live and let live'. It seems I cannot have enough reminders about staying in my own business and out of everyone else's! The writer describes a childhood w an active A father, but who felt resentment and anger toward mother for her role in it and he...	yanksfan51	5	533	Nov 29, 2016 by TessaB
	Welcome back Slogan_Jim (Preview) Hi my name is Jim and I'm a grateful member of al-anon. It's been awhile. I'm glad I thought of the fellowship recently. I havn't been to a meeting in months....posted here in maybe a year... I felt it was time for me to grow in a different direction in different areas of my life. It was time to break away fro...	slogan_jim	5	1350	Nov 29, 2016 by Iamhere
	MIP Intergroup... sometime...? (Preview) Hi y'all, The Alanon board is by far the biggest board in the MIP clubhouse. I belong to another group as well, "across the corridor". While in the USA I went to meetings in towns like Sarasota, Rapid City, Atlanta, Lower Manhattan, and Mill Valley Ca. Many places have a clubhouse, started by AA....	DavidG	7	609	Nov 29, 2016 by el-cee
	Drinking While Driving (Preview) Happy Sunday! I would like to know if anyone has known their A to be above the legal limit and driving. Did you practice loving detachment? Did you call the authorities? Please share your experiences.	_bunny_	12	773	Nov 29, 2016 by el-cee
	Holiday UPdate :) (Preview) Had a lovely thanksgiving with my boyfriends family. They live about 1 1/2 hours away from here this was the first car trip of that length with the kids .. I wondered how we would all do in a confined space .. LOL. It was a blast! We would be fine .. my poor boyfriend would run for the hills. The kids are re...	SerenityRUS	9	576	Nov 29, 2016 by Jen61
	So many questions. Newbie (Preview) I'm new to this and need help. Where do I start? Meetings? what to expect. Please help me.	Lou Lou	8	627	Nov 28, 2016 by Rinn
	STEP 7 (Preview) STEP 7 HAS BEEN POSTED TO THE STEP WORK BOARD. PLEASE JOIN IN AND SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS. earn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! http://stepwork.activeboard...	hotrod	1	758	Nov 28, 2016 by Iamhere
	WAIT (Preview) Listen to an al-anon speaker on u-tube and heard this-WAIT-meaning why am I talking...and WASTE-Why am I still talking... I had to share this..it made me think and go mmm.	joker	4	825	Nov 28, 2016 by Bethany66
	One Day at a Time in AlAnon 11/28/16 (Preview) One saying in AlAnon is that 'No situation is hopeless.' Our reading notes that hope and despair describe only our feelings about a situation, not the situation or our life itself. This is an important distinction, because the only thing separating a hopeless feeling from a hopeful feeling is belie...	Enigmatic	3	624	Nov 28, 2016 by Iamhere
	Do you find your A is much more than an A? (Preview) So, I know an alcoholic is an addict. An addict is an addict. But, I've come to learn my A is not just an alcoholic, but also likes pills. He will tell me he's going to get weed, but I have suspicions that it's more than that. I have found text messages about pills, Facebook messages, and most recently he tol...	madowl86	6	602	Nov 28, 2016 by el-cee
	Esh on Etiguette (Preview) My RAH celebrated 60 days of sobriety yesterday. I am confused as what to do when he shares this with me and that he got a round of applause. I have stuck to, "I am happy for you" Is that the right thing? Does anybody have any experience in acknowledging the accomplishment but staying on your side...	Fooled	15	678	Nov 28, 2016 by Fooled
	SEEING MYSELF (Preview) Now that i have no contact with my XAH, I can see myself. There are some behaviors etc that I dont like in myself. Because of neglect and abandonment issues as a child, i occasionally have a meltdown, when im sick or not up to par. I was berated as a child when i got ill or needed help. So these past few days i ha...	YARNCRAZY	2	529	Nov 27, 2016 by hotrod
	meetings (Preview) How long do meetings last? And, I logged into meeting, but looked like I was the only one and it should have been half way through.	Jage1991	2	434	Nov 27, 2016 by wp
	Will I ever learn the stove is hot (do not touch it) (Preview) Will I ever learn this, my story backs up to where most already remembers my xabf,I had asked for prayers from y'all,n that I'd fill y'all in later.here it is,my truth....I had my xabf back in my home,I know kickk me,lol,1000000s times,this time was ,not good. running from law,hiding out,53 yo,got ch...	lookingup	9	607	Nov 27, 2016 by lookingup
	New to group. I need help! (Preview) I'm new to the board. My 18 year old son is an addict. I carry so much guilt and question everyday where my little boy went and who this young man who shows no emotion is.	Shel66	3	518	Nov 27, 2016 by Iamhere
	Off the wagon (Preview) My Son is an alcoholic, he went thru detox and checked into a rehab facility for a month. He got out 3 days ago and I found a bottle in his bag tonight. He is not a kid. He is 38 years old but still my son. I don't know what to say to him. I want to fix this but he is a grown man and I don't know how to talk to him about th...	Wray	2	576	Nov 27, 2016 by Iamhere
	Discuss findings with AH (Preview) Can I discuss what I have learned this past week with my husband? About alcoholism, al anon, etc even though he has not yet admitted or realized there is a problem?	Jage1991	8	634	Nov 27, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change reading 11-27-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for November 27 suggests that as the result of of living with the disease of alcoholism, many of us have developed survivor tools in order to live . The reading points out that we have been through many struggles and that we are more than our struggles, and more than our troubles. We are...	hotrod	1	639	Nov 27, 2016 by Iamhere
	Gratitude, of course . . . (Preview) I logged on here to wish everyone a happy Thanksgiving day, and of course, the long list of people and things I'm thankful for started to roll through my brain - there was so much that it was like a 45 RPM record playing on 78 RPM (LOL, who else remembers records??). Usually, when I review my almost endles...	texas yankee	8	602	Nov 27, 2016 by texas yankee
	New to Al-Anon and in need of some help al-anon alcoholics support help newcomer (Preview) Hello; Ive never used a forum before to reach out to total strangers and ask for help and guidance. But with no Al-anon meetings in my area i felt i would give it a try. While ill try to keep this somewhat short and to the point- my feelings and emotional turmoil are anything but short and to the point. My par...	GypsyxJ	5	4128	Nov 27, 2016 by Jerry F
	Out of jail after 5 days (Preview) So my ex abf just got out of jail last night for a DUI that happened on Saturday. Against my better judgment I went and picked him up because after all he's done to me and I've allowed I still wanted to hear what he had to say. He told me he had been going to church and aa while in jail and had a very good plan for hi...	vvv	11	623	Nov 26, 2016 by SerenityRUS
	Using tools for better holiday (Preview) Hi all, Thanksgiving was a small celebration with just my mom, one sister, AH and his friend. Got to use my al-anon tools and feel much better for it. After dinner, AH got a bottle of scotch and took his friend into the TV room, leaving the three of us without a word. He emerged to tell my mother goodbye wh...	Mcat54	7	571	Nov 26, 2016 by lookingup
	Advice for a 21 year old son of an A (Preview) So, my son just got back from a really big cattle show here in Canada and was really upset about some of the things people said to him. You see, he has attended this show previous years and been very successful, but because of the stress and expense, he didn't take cattle this year and is not even sure he wa...	Jage1991	2	594	Nov 26, 2016 by Iamhere
	raging at the world (Preview) My abf was on the rage yesterday and saying how bad the world is, corrupt, evil, dirty, selfish, ect..on and on he went. He sounded paranoid almost about the world. My question is what is that about and is that an alcoholic trait to view the world as a bad place...I should say to him today I did not go out and...	joker	9	1169	Nov 26, 2016 by MovieGal
	Nano (Preview) Nanowrimo is "national novel writers month" and it's basically a cool thing (if you're a massive nerd like me) where writers get into regional groups and have a competition where the objective is for each novelist to write 50,000 words (the minimum to be considered a novel) in November. There are pri...	MissM	9	566	Nov 26, 2016 by YARNCRAZY
	Frustrated and hard not to take it personal (Preview) My boyfriend ( sort of feels like more of a friend these days) is an recovering alcoholic 30 yrs. But he has PTSD and depression so I know this affects him but he doesn't seem to work his program. He dwells on the past. Even though he doesn't like holidays I thought I would just go over there tonight (Thanks...	catlover26	5	615	Nov 26, 2016 by Fooled
	Courage to Change reading 11-26-2016 (Preview) The C2C reading for November 26 speaks about alcoholism being a family disease and that many of us upon entering the program do not feel as if we belong. The readin notes that this disease affects not only the person who drinks but those who care about them from generation to generation. Today we can cl...	hotrod	1	521	Nov 26, 2016 by Iamhere
	So scared of losing my wife (Preview) I am so scared of losing my wife while she is in 28 day rehab. I am so scared that she will get an emotional attachment to another man or develop sexual feelings. Is this common? Can our relationship survive rehab? I have been by her side through everything. -- Edited by Scaredfrightened on Friday 18th o...	Scaredfrightened	11	2465	Nov 26, 2016 by vvv
	Courage to Change 11/25/16 (Preview) Later than planned today - we have a broken faucet on a major tub so....had to switch my morning things around a little bit!!! Happy Friday to all... Today's reading reminds us of what brought us to the program - a friend or family member drank too much!!! We were unhappy about it and life, but did not rea...	Iamhere	2	455	Nov 25, 2016 by Iamhere
	Can anyone help? Also a funny. (Preview) Hi guys. I'll be away all weekend and I usually do the C2C reading on Saturday. I dropped the ball last weekend as my internet was misbehaving and Betty picked up the slack as she tends to do, HP love her. Is anyone interested in doing it this weekend? As I've mentioned before, I have volunteered to work at...	MissM	1	478	Nov 25, 2016 by sarahGee
	new news (Preview) just when i think ive squared away feelings about my XAH, something pops up. discovered that my niece recieved about a yr ago, inappropriate emails,messages from my XAH. she is still a minor. Im so angry..she has had enough trouble in her life including losing her mom at age 6. I could !@$#^(**)___ him...	YARNCRAZY	3	450	Nov 25, 2016 by sarahGee
	gotta get back in line (Preview) I used this board a lot ten years ago & forgot all about it - seems good for me now, as I just can't seem to get to a meeting. My eyes are swollen, I've cried so hard today, and then was so exhausted, slept........... upon waking I - deleted my ex of two years ago that I still haven't gotten over and all of h...	addictedtolove	2	534	Nov 25, 2016 by Iamhere
	A physical reaction to sharing (Preview) I went to my first ACOA meeting tonight and WOW was it good!! Every reading, every share just blew me away. So tonight I decided I would share. My whole body tensed. Locked up almost. I was shaking and my voice kept catching. And the icing on the cake, I broke out in hives. I felt sick to my stomach and could...	sarahGee	2	2767	Nov 25, 2016 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change (C2C) 11/24/16 (Preview) Good morning MIP Family. Today's reading is about Step 10 and how we can use this step and all others to enrich our spiritual journey. The reading talks about looking at others, and mentally adjusting 'things' about them to improve them. In recovery, using the steps, we are instead asked to let go of...	Iamhere	4	511	Nov 24, 2016 by Iamhere
	My new life has started (Preview) Good Evening Everyone Cathy is free!! The drama is finally over. I'm so happy I took the plunge and finally took control of of my life. It wasn't easy but the results are wonderful. Will I get lonely? ...I hope not. One day at a time to make my life better and better. WOW.....I never thought this would...	Cathyinaz	21	830	Nov 24, 2016 by Jerry F
	To my MIP Family (Preview)	unbroken13	4	533	Nov 24, 2016 by Jerry F
	Do you stand up for yourself? (Preview) One of my A's has gone around trashing me for a long while now. To my own family members even. I have been raised to "protect the secret", so I'm not even sure if any of these people know she's an A. Some of them do, I assume, but most wont. I'm letting it happen. Keeping my mouth shut and trusting that HP wil...	sarahGee	7	621	Nov 24, 2016 by Mcat54
	Giving thanks (Preview) To all of you on MIP who celebrate the US Thanksgiving tomorrow .... May you have a peaceful and joyous Thanksgiving! Even though my life is much more serene these days, I still find myself triggered by memories of not-so-happy (traumatic!) holidays in the recent past. I am finding it helpful to reme...	Freetime	7	562	Nov 24, 2016 by MeTwo2
	A small step (Preview) My kids have the flu and we are staying home today. That sounds pretty normal, right? It's a huge step for me. I work for the family business. I never took sick days for myself, often covered for everyone else at my own expense. I would also set up a space at work for my kids when they were sick, and make t...	sarahGee	3	514	Nov 23, 2016 by sarahGee
	11/23/16 ODAT Just for Today, No Fear (Preview) Today's page in One Day at a Time in AlAnon challenges us to try something: Cut fear out of our thoughts for one day, today. How? Remember: 1) What happened yesterday is done. 2) Most of what we dread doesn't happen. 3) Anything that does we can handle with the help of our higher power. This is a new day, we h...	Enigmatic	7	574	Nov 23, 2016 by e_i_m
	DETACHING WITH LOVE (Preview) I just wanted to say hi to everybody having just joined. I am a member with Al Anon and am so grateful for support I get in meetings but I don't seem to learn. I still find myself in knots, feeling sick with anxiety over someone elses actions. i want to get rid of my anger, my loneliness, my shame on his behalf...	Millydilly	5	803	Nov 23, 2016 by e_i_m
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