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I've made plans for thanksgiving with my dad which lives in next state over from mine,and plans with my son lives down south of me ,son and wife is packing ,getting ready to move into their newly bought home.
so I've obligated myself to both,my dads and told my son I'd just zip on down the hwy to his place to help him pack,he was greatful.
my thinking now is don't let this kid down,omg.ive obligated myself right after leaving my dads helping him,thinking I'm super woman,that I can do anything,not true.ive thought about just simply texting son and makeing it for another day to help with packing whatever needs to be done that I'm gonna need to rest in between .im always good at getting myself into sit.but been good at getting out of sit also,been really lucky a few times ,I can bite off more than I can chew,can't multitask like I use to could,I'm a want to do this this and that kinda person ,in reality I can't,I have sadly let a many ppl down ,with my agreeing then reneging ,or volunteering for something then turn out I can't be there when it's time,so I'm currently trying not to volunteer unless I know I can be there ,or not making any promises anyway.so nobody gets let down,
i know I'm prolly not making any sense at all,just more jumble,just putting my thoughts out here,as it is.any thoughts on it?? So welcome.
LU It sounds as if you might have overbooked your time . Remember you can change your mind so that give it some thought and if you still feel that you need to reschedule, you can give your son a call, explain your position and ask for an alternate date to help .
Sounds like a winner to me,yea I beleive I have very much so overscheduled my time,
Thank you Betty for helping me see that.
With the a I had to do it all to keep everything going.
I think I'm more wanting to people please,and for them to like me is another reason I do these things.
That could be LU Remember that you are learning how to take care of yourself "first" so that you can freely help and support others without any expectations.
This could be good practice in not people pleasing and taking care of yourself. I found examining my motives very helpful when I am interacting with others.
My neighbor fosters two boys one is 3 and one is 10 months. When the 10 month old had to have major surgery I volunteered to keep the 3 year old for a couple of days. I babysit them Wednesday nights for my neighbors work schedule. I ended up having the 3 year old almost 3 weeks. As all but one of my children are adults, it was quite an adjustment on me physically and mentally. I was asked to watch them last week two days and got myself behind in my work. So, when I was asked to watch them over the weekend I had a hard time saying no but I had to. Saying no is so difficult for me. I know my neighbor likes me but the fear of not being able to be dependable and needed is my motive.
,with my agreeing then reneging ,or volunteering for something then turn out I can't be there when it's time,so I'm currently trying not to volunteer unless I know I can be there ,or not making any promises anyway.so nobody gets let down,