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Today's reading on anger
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(One Day at a Time)
...."If I remember the kind person I want to be, I won't forget myself and yield to an angry surge of temper.....quiet always sets the stage for calm."
Anger is a scarey thing for me. I know what I am capable of. Growing up w/an angry mother, I absorbed a lot of her unhealthiness...
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jrtJosey,,,,needs prayers
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Josey gave me permission to ask all of you to pray for her. She needs prayers for Strength for her to make some major decisions now based on her Higher Power's Guidance. Please keep her in your thoughts and prayers. cdb
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help with letting go
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HI guys. I have a request to make of everyone. a couple weeks ago I asked you guys to pray for me about my relationship with HP and surrendering and it really helped put me in contact and get me started on healing my realtionship with my spirituality. thank you thankyou SO much everyone and anyone who offe...
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Why do I want to go back to my A
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I am trying to figure out why I am wanting to go back to my alcoholic husband. I left three weeks ago and now I am finding it hard to stay away. My husband has now turned this around on me and says "Things aren't going to work out between us Julie". Now I am left feeling rejected when I was t...
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bad day
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hi everyone.
Yesterday my A called upset about the fact that I had told my stepdaughter's mother that he had spent all of her savings ($500) which was her communion money. I asked him about it a few days before and he told me he had spent it a while ago when we were in Florida, which to me was no excus...
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as one gets to their wits end...
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Hi all,
I hope this finds everyone well.
Most recently a friend commits
suicide, so I want to post this
phone number here, if that will
fly.
1.800.suicide
It is a suicide prevention hotline.
It is a twentyfour hour line.
Y'all take care, eh?
Oceans of love,
\/\/ille
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Sad, lonely and frustrated
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I've never posted before but I just don't know where to go. I fairly new to alanon and have gone to a few f2f meetings and have spent quite a few hours at the chat room. I have talked to some great people who have made me feel a lot better.
But these past few days have been tough. I'm not sure if it just my fru...
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Love Him/Hate Disease
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Started my new job last Monday...still in training and will be for another week. Is t is going well...just some overload with new information. I am having a hard time finding extra time on this board. When I do though, it is healing, comforting, calming.
I am really struggling b...
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Rejection and Loss
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My daughter, 40, single, lived for a while with a woman friend she adored. Drinking led to conflict and eventually ejection from this woman's home. I provided a roof over Caroline's head. She is sensitive with low self-esteem. Her drinking is pretty well constant, she drives me...
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oh dolphin...
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Wait a minute, will you send me that thing private. Becuz i loved it. I too think
different than most. Learned just how much when I went to college in my late 40's
I saw it as a person who is more mature in her own personal journey.
I saw my A big time. I know he has changed since i have seen thru the ma...
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Wanted to share with everyone....
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For those of you dealing with adult alcoholics, whether it be your adult child, spouse, parents, grandparents.... any addict who is an adult in your life in which you struggle to allow them to deal with their consequences.
I feel your pain, as I have a 17-year old daughter who...
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who the heck AM i????
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Hi!! i am rosie, codependent and ACOA...below are MY shares on the "hope for today" and "days of healing" daily messeges...look for me after my ######## Hope for Today - August 28 Before Al-Anon, I had a false sense of self.Because of their diseases, my alcoholic father and my mother weren't ableto he...
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Abuse Survivors / Medical Aid
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National Coalition Against Domestic Violence
NCADV Cosmetic & Reconstructive Support (CRS) Program
PO Box 18749, Denver, CO 80218-0749
Phone 303-839-1852 ext 102/ Fax 303-831-9351 / Website www.ncadv.org
The Cosm...
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Thank You
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Alcoholism, A Merry-Go-Round Named Denial
Someone in the Chat Room Recommended an Al-Anon literature pamphlet. I did not know I was missing this -thought I already had all the reading materials that my face to face meetings offered. At last weeks meeting I requ...
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Wrong Perspective, sorry
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Hello roomies,
Perspective is a wonderful thing, but at times it can be any enemy, it all depends on how it is used.
When ever I come across something that moves me, I am excited to share it with the group. I am so excited to pass along what I have been given.
In my haste to share something I found in my "...
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I HAVE to share this small feat w/you guys! :O)
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This past July my bankruptcy was discharged...an after effect of something I had to do when I left my ex. For 7 yrs I have been trying to rebuild my credit but it is hard. I have always had to rely on someone to cosign.
I have done what I can to keep my finances in order...knocking down my 3 credit cards to...
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Please Hear what I am not saying
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(((((((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))))))),
I had a post here, but I guess it wasn't as beautiful as I thought it was. I don't want to post anything that makes anyone feel uneasy. I would not feel comfortable knowing that I posted somehing that is maybe harmful, and not good. In the future I will be mo...
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Finances
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Well, I don't know what to think or what to do. I have been married to him less than a year and I find out more and more things that upset me and scare me. He is secretive. I have found bills that are in his name that are not being paid. Generally we keep our finances seperately.&nb...
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Wallsal
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Thank you Wallsal for admitting to searching. I talk a with a big Al Anon voice on the subject of searching, but I haven't convinced myself I wouldn't do it again. And your "reasoning" is "reasonable" as it can be. I like to know what I am having to deal with at all times. The TRUTH, which I know I am not going...
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enabling
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My A has been after me to sign the lease on HIS apt where I lived until may
So he tried to bribe me
he gave me a nice coach handbag, to sign the lease
Well after that was a check for $2000 to sign the lease.
I took the pocketbook and the check and REFUSED to sign the lease.
I said that the lease signin...
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Helpful Sight to Meditate, (topic anger)
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www.inspiringthots.net  
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How confusing
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So my A has a safety luncheon or something at work yesterday, told me it was at 1:30 but he may be running late after work. I was leaving work, called him to see if he would be the one home to order pizza for pizza night. Oh he answers and says he is leaving the "local" (where he hangs out on Friday...
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All who responded to my message
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Thanks you guys, loved your responses!!!
Diva wow that is true huh? oops....never thought about the floor not holding her!
I have an old wood cook stove I am putting in here. someone reminded me I wouls need
to reinforce the floor! oops.
David YES I saw that movie! they ended up together...
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I need your opinion
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Hi everyone! This is my first post. I've been reading the boards for awhile and it has really helped to know I'm not alone. To read the details people talk about and to know that these are the same details I live with -- it is comforting to know I'm not alone and I'm not crazy.
Forgive me if I don't have the l...
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haxigonian XII
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[[ room ]]
The money crunch is temporarily over...thank you!!
The postal service has been too slow getting it to me...
In the meantime, i have been learning the town. I may have a place to park and sleep that i will check out tonight. If it pans out it will save a LOT of gasoline. A woman on the tra...
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Sitting here alone..... well sorta
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Well that is kinda a lie since there are eight dogs, a few cats and a pot bellied pig
asleep in here...
Day started "normal", here is my Eden post today:
Ok I wake up and Sauveur, my huge Great Pyrenees,has me crammed into the wall with Sparky kitten sorta between us, lost in his fur. I feel somet...
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Who monitors the Reading material advertised?
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Does anyone know who puts up and maintains the reading material advertised next to the where the chatroom goes up? There is a "questionable" book on there which clearly does not belong on a recovery site. Please remove it. Thank you.
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I don't know what happened
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(((((((((((((Roomies)))))))))))))))))),
Wow what a night last night was! 
My "A" calls me before he got home from work. He wanted $20. He wanted to call his connection and buy some pot. I so badly wanted to argue, fight, and once again be the wounded party. I said I will g...
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Sick and tired
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I have some sort of respiratory virus. Maybe it lies in wait perpetually for times when i am exhausted and can't handle it. Whatever my meds i guess are helping me still. Yet I still am wheezing a bit. But with how hard i have been coughing i guess it will take time for my throat t...
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We need a new Friday am meeting chairperson please
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Hi all, i regrete to say that I wont be able to chair on friday am's anymore. The reason being is that my oldest son is back in school, so trying to get all 3 of the baby's breakfast and ready is hard enough; but the main reason is that my oldest son's bus schedule has...
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i feel better and better about me
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sorry this is long, but wow!!! this program REALLY REALLY works....
Willing to Make Amends > >The Eighth Step is talking about a change of heart, a healing >change. > >
######ROSIE..yeah step eight was the REAL "clean up part" ...
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log in ?-s
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Hi all,
I hope this finds all well : )
Does anyone know what this means?
Java(TM) Plug-in: Version 1.4.2
Using JRE version 1.4.2 Java HotSpot(TM) Client VM
User home directory = C:\Documents and Settings\mr hankey
Proxy Configuration: Browser Proxy Configuration
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wille
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Snapping
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To quote a song..."Oops! I did it again!" and I think I might be a bit mad at myself. Woke up to find my 15 year old had missed the bus, had not tried to wake me to take him to school, had not asked any of the other 3 "adult?" children here to drive him (they all have cars and were home), and doggone-...
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I she cheating-weird relationships with other women
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My A has been sober for 45 days now and in counseling and meetings everynight. After checking his cell phone one day(i wanted to see if he lied to me about calling a guy about some $ he was owed from a job he did). I came across womens names and numbers abd starteddoing a phone records search etc. Comes out he...
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The time has come...
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that my babies are growing up. In ten days I will bring my oldest child to college. A week after that my youngest will be starting kindergarten. As the days dwindle I ask myself what happened to the last 18 years. I remember all the things that my oldest has witnessed - the figh...
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Message for Angel
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Hi, sorry I can't remember you full nickname, but you know who you are LOL. The Angel with all the grandchildren, who makes wonderful "wedding cakes".
Just to say, haven't caught up with you in chatroom for a little while, and wondered how you are getting on.
Thinking of you,
Please post b...
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relapse again
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Hello all.
It's been a while since I posted, and alot has gone on since. I left for vacation last Saturday knowing full well that my husband would get high while I was gone. I was anxiety ridden the entire week before I left, however, I went. I was going to console my best frie...
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Anyone have a copy of Alanon's Personal Bill of Rights ?
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I have the acoa one.....but I want the one we read at meetings and a copy of the JUST FOR TODAY....if ya have it.... thanks.
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The awakening
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I was browsing through an AA sites and found this writing, It is true for us too and thought I would share it with the board.
THE AWAKENING
-The Moment of Clarity-
by Denise M. "Sonny" Carroll ©
A time comes in your life when you finally get it. . . when, in the midst of all your fears and insanit...
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Christy
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haxigonian XIII
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[[ room ]]
a further update...
I checked out Portland State University to see if I could do the professional student thing...no go for fall quarter as I made too much money in '04. It may be possible for winter; will have to see.
Obtained Portland State public use internet acco...
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I want to scream!!!!
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I am freaking out. I just looked at our joint account and he took out more money, so in the past two weeks he has spent 620.00 on meth!!!!! What the heck, he could have paid his speeding ticket, and our son's daycare and, and, and and I am so pissed!!! I called him at work and he t...
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The Final Inspection
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THE FINAL INSPECTION
(dedicated to Mr.Blue's brother )
The soldier stood and faced God,
Which must always come to pass.
He hoped his shoes were shining,
Just as brightly as his brass.
"Step forward now, you soldier,
How shall I deal with you?
Have you always turned the othe...
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healing by poetry
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the way that i deal with my emotions is through poetry. It seems to help me get theings in perspective as well as letting my feelings out. I was asked to post this Poem on here. It is one I wrote the night i decided i needed help. Last night...
My Anger
My anger Swells
As I think of my Life
Tim...
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Fears for the weekend
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My A. comes home tomorrow night after working out of town. I'm not afraid of him drinking (if he does, he does)...here's what I am afraid of.
It took so much courage inside of me to go thru what I have the past week. To put my foot down and take care of myself. One of the reasons I left this past weekend aft...
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I meant-Is HE cheating, not Is She.
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sorry, my previous email was whether or not my A(husband) is cheating but i accidentally typed "She".
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Women are Like Apples
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Hello all,
I received another funny at work today and wanted to share it with ya, it is cute! But not always true:
Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. Most men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they jus...
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My story
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When i first met my husband 8 years ago I thought "wow he's a really fun guy". We partied together and had a really fun time. 2 years later we moved into a house together and within 6 months we were married. I got pregnant right away and that was when my eyes were opened. That was when i realized - he can't stop...
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My "A" is insane
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Hello Roomies-Hugs to all,
OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH MYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY GOSHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!
My "A" is nuts!
I posted a yesterday that he did not come home the night before, same old story ran into someone who had some meth. (Duh! when your co-workers wife is a dope c...
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Kids amaze me sometimes
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Well, we went to the Seahawks game Monday night. All in all we had a great time. There are some things my A does that just irritate me but I have to tell myself to...to let go.
We got home from the game, he arrived home about 15 minutes before me, I pulled up in the drive way and can hear him scre...
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" Both Sides of the Fence " Aug. 25
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Hello (((((All)))))
Since I haven't posted for abit and there are many new members (((((Welcome, you're in a great place ))))), I thought that I should give a brief introduction of myself.
I am a recovering Alcoholic since Oct. 15, 2001 and my husband is a very active Alcoholic, and I found...
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I must be an awful person..
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We took our kids to the doctor this morning, and my a stepped on one of the scales. He weighed 20lbs more at the doctor than he did at work. He got so depressed over it. I mean we're both over weight. I've been a symptomatic over eater since I was a child. We have not been act...
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Trust & relationships
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As I've been reading my realtionship books I have been thinking about what role trust plays in this whole deal. One of the books I've been reading is called "His Needs, Her Needs" and is about how men and women each have a set of basic needs that has to be met by their partner in order to have a satisfying, fu...
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perspectives and step 8
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Hope for Today - August 25 I grew up in an alcoholic home where I felt no one was caring for me, so I decided I had to do so myself. Soon my vision became shortsighted. It took all my energy just to protect myself or figure out the bare necessities I needed to survive...
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Going back?
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Wow, it's been a while since I posted. Some of you may remember my loooong post from a couple of months ago concerning leaving my husband who drank and smoked marijuana excessively. Well, I did it. I left with the boys and I've been gone now for almost 2 months. We have been through hell and back but luckil...
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gratitude for friends
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I love people. Always have, always will. Even though I do keep to myself at times, I am a people person. I selectively chose to have as close friends in my life and they mean the world to me. Now I realize just how important having selective people in my life means.
Lately I have begun to realize just ho...
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I am so annoyed...
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Lately, even talking to a drunk person is real annoying to me. Do they know how stupid they look and sound? And do they realize that when they are talking to someone, the person listening is probably so preoccupied with how drunk they are that they arent even listening. My dad calls...
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venting out the pain
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i have learned something about my experience. When i learned to detach it took many'
times for me to get it. same with really knowing it is a disease.
It was one thing knowing but it took practice and really using the skills to get it into
my heart and it becam part of me.
now i am learning not to...
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debilyn
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Tough nite
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I went to visit my brother and his wife.
I brought dinner (gourmet Italian from their favorite restaurant). I had also brought local corn from the farmer by my new place.
I went to my sister-in laws mothers condo.
My brother was there, upstairs with his MIL.
She is dying, has...
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megan
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My "A" didn't come home last night
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----------- Last night we made plane to go out after work. We were going to go out to eat, his choice, and just have a family night. He called me from the road and said 30 minutes, and told me he ahd to drop the work van off and then he had a ride home. I didn't like the sound of that, because the guy...
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HEY..i wanted to share my breakthrough with you
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Hope for Today - August 24 Holding on to anger, resentment, and a "poor me" attitude is not an option for me today. Growing up with two alcoholic parents created many painful memories. However, until I was able to let go of my past by forgiving my parents, I was u...
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