Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi,

Some days I really hate my A. He is sober now almost a year but still very selfish. Now life is all about him getting sober. I really could care less about how hard it is. Like it was easy to live with an A. Does he think it is easy running the house, working, re...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I posted perviously that my "A" had a posibility of going to Alaska and was just waiting on a phone call on Tuesday. Well, I don't have to wait until Tuesday. My "A" had decided not to go! He stopped by my work and said that he was unable to find a reason to go besides the money, and that wasn't good...

confused · confused

does this sound strange to anyone else? My A quit his job after leaving a rehab. His boss had been dealing to him at work and he said that he could not return and stay sober. I was supportive of this decision. Well, he gave up a 20 year career and a million dollars/year in sales to do what , I do not know. I a...

Tammy · Tammy

This has really been a difficult week. I am really struggling to stay above water. I am confused, hurt, dissapointed, and yet my head is clear on what I have to do. I have really been praying this week.. Praying for my God to show me the light. To make everything clear to me . To send me a sign.. Well... >

Kim · Kim

Hello all and many, many (((hugs)))) to you all!!! I would like to thank you all for your wonderful words of support these past few days. My A called today during my work day (whic hi have asked him not to do) to ask me what I am doing "next week". He meant Tues. which is our three yea...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] I've had my 30 day check-in with my caseworker. Lucky I had that list that i'd put up in here with me; she loved it. Now to focus on job search. Only remaining hurdle is vocational rehab on 20th. I'd almost forgot...chiropractor requires fitness tests... standup/sitdown 51 reps u...

Diva · Diva

This morning when my A awoke, the first thing he did was apologize. Haven't we all heard that?????? He had not been attending his meetings lately, and I know that sooner or later when he doesn't attend, he is going to slip. OK I forgave him. I do love this wonderful man with all my heart. He is kind, good, fu...

browneyes · browneyes

Hey there Just wondering how you are doing-last time you posted you were leaving your husband. I was just hoping you were ok, as ok as you can be at a time like this. Please post if you have the time and resources. Love Julie D.

Anttay · Anttay

I am new here and don't even know where to start, all I know is my husbands drinking is making my life miserable, I don't even know if I love him anymore the man I fell in love with is gone, he is always too drunk to carry on a conversation, at this point I feel more like his mother. People think I am pathetic for...

browneyes · browneyes

I do not sleep with my husband. He is awake all night a lot and when he does sleep it is so restless, I get woken up. Or he snores so loud the walls shake. I cannot talk to my husband. He either does not remember things I tell him or he remembers the stuff in his twisted way.&nbs...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, Sorry I have been absent this week, but I know you all understand the insanity that we live in. My 6 year old started school for the first time ever, 1st grade. So now we have homework, lunch to pack, open house, and a little more drama to add to our lives. This is also very exciting, because t...

Mandi · Mandi

When my alcoholic husband walked out on me, i felt like i had lost it all. My step-daughters were gone and my son and I had to adjust to going from a family of 5 to just us. The only thing i had left to work for was my son and our home. Outside of that, I was empty. For years, I have stru...

marmare · marmare

This is day seven of no fighting, arguing, or silence. I told my A last night that it is scary to me that he has come home every night after work and that I am so cautious that the other shoe will drop at any second. He jokingly said that it could and then said no, I want it to be "this way" between u...

chrissy · chrissy

HE WENT TO AA FOR 3WKS DIDNT DRINK. TODAY HIS BOSS CALLED IN SICK AND HE WAS STRESSED SAID HE WAS WORKING LATE.HE WAS GOING TO GO TO THE STORE AND PICK UP SALAD WHEN I SPOKE TO HIM A 10:00PM HE WAS SLURING HIS WORDS AND THEN HE SAID I DONT LOVE HIM AND THEN HE SAID HE WOULD BE HOME IN 5 MIN HE TURNED OFF...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Subject: Meditation: Pain God, if You love me, why must I endure pain? This question preoccupies many believers in their darkest hours of need. While pain comes in different forms and has different durations, suffering always comes with an objective greater than our comfort, pleasure, or persona...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] As things stand now... troublemaking cousin is thankfully not comin up here... social security evaluation is over; this one emphasized drugs, alcohol and anxiety. It took a lot out of me and I'm beat. The local social security office has my file now so that's taken care of as well...

Tammy · Tammy

Last night I told my husband that the kids are I are leaving. I have ask him to leave several times and he wont so I found a place for me and the kids to go. Its temporary but taking it one day at a time is about all I can do for now. This is HUGE, I am not sure my husband believed me at first. Now I am sure, I tol...

njmom · njmom

Thought my A was sober for a year and a half. Went out tonight for a much needed break and left him home with my 3 kids. Came home to find him passed out, naked in one of my kids bed. (Luckily all 3 were asleep). Don't know what to do - Can't threated to leave because I work and can't handl...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hey everyone, talk about a lesson!! boy did i get one i did my post on *levels of forgiveness* and it had my #1, #1, #3, with #3, being the least forgiveable and of COURSE i mentioned the perp in that one... my loving and wise sponser...

Powerless · Powerless

I am so confused. I talked with my therapist and my dad today. I have always depended on my dad to lead me in the right direction. They think that I should not file for a divorce, but a legal separation. My mother-in-law thinks I should give him one last chance. I feel so confuse...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] I have been asked to give my address again, It's Mike Rolfe 111 W. Burnside Portland, OR 97209 I have very bad news...the money I asked for did not come in time and the insurance company will not give me an extension...meaning... As of Friday, I will be an uninsured motorist....

Kim · Kim

Hello all: Finally got my hair done. I made a nice dinner for friends of mine tonight. I enjoy cooking and haven't done much since my A has been gone (we used to cook together). Those were the good things I did for me. I've been sad these past few days thinking about my A and t...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] My cousin made the save and my insurance is okay for now... he and his wife may be coming here for a so-called surprise...this is very very bad for me...i don't need this right now with all the other hassle i'm goin thru! i am cracking under the strain... i've been crying......

Daphyne · Daphyne

Hi, I'm in need of some help here. I'm divorced with two boys and dad is an alcoholic. I'm dealing with a whole bunch of issues that I just don't even know where to start except with the most current I guess. I searched out a message board as my area doesn't offer much. My ex just went t...

carla035 · carla035

Good morning Family~ I visited the board the other day for the first time in along time and wow, it felt so good to be back. I am going through my own emotional journey right now. I have taken some time off this year to do things "my way" and found myself with absolutely no direction and isolat...

search41 · search41

hi again! and yet another issue in my never-ending saga of life! it was one year ago today, the 13th, that my son-in-law took his life. he was 24 yrs old. my daughter had been with him over 4 yrs, they had been married for almost 2, and had a 3 month old, beautiful baby girl when he died...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hello, Came across this in a favorite book of mine. Hope you like it. Prayer is the pathway. Stillness is the temple. Love is the offering we bring. Peace is the gift we are given. Live strong, Karilynn

Powerless · Powerless

On Monday I went to see a divorce attorney to start the process. I was so happy with my decision and felt as if everyone supported the decision I was making. I honestly felt like I was doing what was best for the children and myself. My father even offered to loan me the money to pay for t...

UncleLou · UncleLou

I've allowed myself to ride a rollercoaster for the past year and a half. Divorced last month and last week my ex hits me with "I'm not sure if I did the right thing, I'm so sorry for the way I treated you, I wish I had done things differently, Let's go back to counceling." I'm thinking and hopi...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Hello ((((((((((((roomies)))))))) I am needing to take some time off of chat to think about and regroup about my recovery!!!

I love you all so very much and i am so blessed to be apart of y'alls family!! Thank you all for helping and sharing your ES&H. If you want to chatt with me y...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Subject: Meditation: Forgiveness Does my inability to accept my own failings cause me to see myself as not measuring up? For my own peace of mind, I need to forgive even the most damaging transgressions; but forgiveness of others can only come when I have learned to forgive myself. OA Fo...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - September 14 I was raised by two alcoholics, and I felt angry that I had to attend a support group to deal with this fact. #######ROSIE....yep, mom was a REAL *A*....he drank hard, but was very much in control of when and where he drank....he had a worse...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

SEPTEMBER 13 >Times of Reprogramming > >Recovery is not all tiresome, unrewarded work. There are >times of joy and rest, times when we comfortably practice >what we have learned. There are times of change, times >when we struggle to learn something new or overcome a >partic...

sandie123 · sandie123

I did my first boundry tonight. My A came home drunk again...and went to take a "nap" in the basement. Said he'd like dinner at 7. I said ok. I went to get him up at 6:55 and was unable to get much response. He finally grunted and I told him dinner was in 5 minutes and if he wasn't there I would eat without hi...

Candacem · Candacem

Just when I start feeling like I am doing it, making good choices, and moving forward, then I hear something about my "A", and the rollercoaster starts all over again! The Pastor friend that staged the intervention with me, heard from my "A", via email. He asked for forgivene...

toto12 · toto12

Computer works..thank you, o oz of cyberspace. Don't know who is behind the magic curtain but I appreciate that I can get into chatroom now! toto

search41 · search41

i want to thank everyone for your kind replies to my post "in turmoil" a week ago. your posts were right-on, and, of course, i have decided to stay, and not move back to my home town. my dad had to leave town again last weekend, so i went and stayed with my mom last weekend too. i did a lo...

nycbt · nycbt

The past couple of days have been good. My A hasn't drank anything. He has even taking the medicence the doctor gave him to take. He suffers from anixtey. He sees to be doing better. For me I have started reading the books more and trying not to let my guard down to much. I am hoping that things stay this way b...

cabecka · cabecka

Hi roomies! Much to my disappointment, I will not be able to attend the Wednesday night meeting or fulfill my duties to be "door woman" with my good friend David (aka Elvis)- I have Open House night at school and I doubt if I will be home before 10. If any OP's are available to help him out, I would appreci...

david62 · david62

Hi (((((((everyone!)))))))))) Just a reminder that we will be having our monthly business meeting tonight (Wednesday) in the chat room at 6 p.m. Central (I leave it to you to do that conversion for your respective time zones

) Hope to see you there! David

holly123 · holly123

Hi everyone, Sorry I have been away for so long, I just can't seem to take my recovery seriously or help wanting quick fixes. I totally understand that I have problems that need addressing as well as my a, so I know I can't blame my a for my life o...

Kim · Kim

Hello (((((roomies))))): Last night was the last I heard from my A. He had called to finally give me the VIN# for the car. I ordered the title, and now it's done. He switched over his phone to his name. I am off the hook. whew. The last of the conversation he said that he was goi...

cdb · cdb

Hello alanon friends, Thank you so much for all the support and prayers. I just now read your replies from my other post. Just when you think things couldn't get worse they do. My mom and I came down with the flu and ended up in ER Friday. I could not communicate much with her all night and then in th...

camra · camra

Need some input here please.. Recently a friend of mine became very angery at me for reasons I was unsure of, said some things that were not very nice and it really upset me very badly, I shared my story with someone who told me I am an addict because I let people abuse me. Well I have never heard of this ter...

sandie123 · sandie123

I could use some help with how to set boundries. I am at the point where I know that I need to start setting boundries. I have even started a list of the boundries I want to start setting. I'm just at a loss as to how to start setting them. I know I cant set them when my A has been drinking, and that is every ni...

nycbt · nycbt

On Aug 5 my husband was acting kind of funny. He was talking about wanting to be with his old friends that he wasn't able to see them because they were drinking. He was thinking of smoking pot again and he was thinking of drinking again. He was sober for 6 months at this point. On Aug 6 my husband again was a...

AlaMom · AlaMom

(((((Everyone))))) Well I have not fallen off the face of the earth. Haven't been online much at home due to home projects trying to get accomplished before winter arrives and all my monies will be spent on heating bills (ugh!!). In retrospect however, I think I should have put...

confused · confused

I just read the roller coaster post and wow!! i am certainly not alone. I also read a reply about journaling and remembered that I had said that on the last ride. Perhaps I will start tonight. I am sitting here while my A is "at a meeting" I highly doubt that is the case, as I have that gut feeling that he h...

Tammy · Tammy

Here I sit it is 1am and my A was suppose to be home hours ago. NO phone call nothing. I am sure he is sitting somewhere with his friends drunk.. Just when I think I am making progress, this happens and I realize I am so LOST.. My heart is racing and I cant believe he is doing this AGAIN.. We are sup...

nycbt · nycbt

I am looking forward to a nice relaxing evening. I am hoping that nothing happens, but it any thing does there nothing I can do. I am however going to try and go to a meeting. I am glad this work day is going well talk to you all again.

cdb · cdb

I am so sorry for both your losses that you talked about yesterday in the room. My heart goes out to you as you grieve. I cannot know how it feels to have a loved one die of alcoholism but I can feel a tiny bit of how you must feel. I prayed hard for both of you last night as I could feel some of your pain. I hope my ta...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

SEPTEMBER 12 >Healing > >We should learn not to grow impatient with the slow >healing process of time. We should discipline ourselves >to recognize that there are many steps to be taken along >the highway leading from sorrow to renewed serenity.... > #######ROSIE>&g...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Hi, the post below reminded me of my husband. He would drink Listerine for the alcohol, he would use mouthwash in his truck, breath mints abounded in his truck, pockets. Anything to cover up his drinking (even though I knew). I would get sick at the thought of his drin...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hello, Just thought I'd bring you up to date on the wierd situation. She called me again this morning at work. This was 6am in the morning folks. I made it clear to her that this was totallly unacceptable behavior as was her past behavior. I also made it clear that if she continued to talk to the employ...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Today's message in the ODAT talks about a husband and wife who have this beautiful home with all this great material stuff, but their relationship is wrought with unrelenting bitterness. Neither one of them gives an inch or is willing to compromise their needs, wants, and desires. So i...

kathy570 · kathy570

Good Morning All, Yes, I am still around. I have been having alot of Fybro trouble ans when I am feeling better, I am trying to catch up on house things. When I do my morning readings & prayers, I always include the Serenity Prayer. I have added a little bit to it and though I would lik...

Kim · Kim

Well, he called this morning after asking him to leave me alone. Asked if I had called him (I hadn't). I said "No" and merely stated that while you're on the phone I would be going to the DMV today and needed the info on the car. (VIN# etc). He didn't have it and would call h...

melanieL · melanieL

Feeling quite anxious again. My ex A has gone to Canada for two weeks (we live in the UK) , mostly to visit his girlfriend, but i understand AA has paid for his flights because he will be attending meetings in toronto as a guest speaker. Feel so angry and hurt that he is seeing this women and i w...

gardengal · gardengal

This slogan helps us gain perspective. If we can take the time to think about what really matters to us, we may include such concerns as health, serenity, adequate food and shelter and loving support from others. Each of us is free to determine for ourselves what truly is of value, but most of us agree th...

kerry5 · kerry5

Natural Highs Think about them one at a time BEFORE going on to the next one... 1. Falling in love. 2. Laughing so hard your face hurts. 3. A hot shower. 4. No lines at the supermarket 5. A special glance. 6. Getting mail 7. Taking a drive on a pretty road. 8.. Hearing your favorite song...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	I hate my A (Preview) Hi, Some days I really hate my A. He is sober now almost a year but still very selfish. Now life is all about him getting sober. I really could care less about how hard it is. Like it was easy to live with an A. Does he think it is easy running the house, working, re...	nikkilou	7	678	Sep 17, 2005 by Diva
	He made up his mind (Preview) Hi all, I posted perviously that my "A" had a posibility of going to Alaska and was just waiting on a phone call on Tuesday. Well, I don't have to wait until Tuesday. My "A" had decided not to go! He stopped by my work and said that he was unable to find a reason to go besides the money, and that wasn't good...	Dolphin123	3	500	Sep 17, 2005 by Karilynn
	pinching pennies (Preview) does this sound strange to anyone else? My A quit his job after leaving a rehab. His boss had been dealing to him at work and he said that he could not return and stay sober. I was supportive of this decision. Well, he gave up a 20 year career and a million dollars/year in sales to do what , I do not know. I a...	confused	3	485	Sep 17, 2005 by nikkilou
	Moving Day (Preview) This has really been a difficult week. I am really struggling to stay above water. I am confused, hurt, dissapointed, and yet my head is clear on what I have to do. I have really been praying this week.. Praying for my God to show me the light. To make everything clear to me . To send me a sign.. Well... >	Tammy	5	466	Sep 17, 2005 by mom to 2
	be careful what you wish for (Preview) Hello all and many, many (((hugs)))) to you all!!! I would like to thank you all for your wonderful words of support these past few days. My A called today during my work day (whic hi have asked him not to do) to ask me what I am doing "next week". He meant Tues. which is our three yea...	Kim	7	685	Sep 17, 2005 by chrissy
	haxigonian XXIV (Preview) [[ room ]] I've had my 30 day check-in with my caseworker. Lucky I had that list that i'd put up in here with me; she loved it. Now to focus on job search. Only remaining hurdle is vocational rehab on 20th. I'd almost forgot...chiropractor requires fitness tests... standup/sitdown 51 reps u...	haximon	2	551	Sep 17, 2005 by Anew123
	Thank you all for your kind responses. (Preview) This morning when my A awoke, the first thing he did was apologize. Haven't we all heard that?????? He had not been attending his meetings lately, and I know that sooner or later when he doesn't attend, he is going to slip. OK I forgave him. I do love this wonderful man with all my heart. He is kind, good, fu...	Diva	4	532	Sep 16, 2005 by ditto
	Tammy (Preview) Hey there Just wondering how you are doing-last time you posted you were leaving your husband. I was just hoping you were ok, as ok as you can be at a time like this. Please post if you have the time and resources. Love Julie D.	browneyes	4	624	Sep 16, 2005 by browneyes
	Can't Stand it. (Preview) I am new here and don't even know where to start, all I know is my husbands drinking is making my life miserable, I don't even know if I love him anymore the man I fell in love with is gone, he is always too drunk to carry on a conversation, at this point I feel more like his mother. People think I am pathetic for...	Anttay	3	518	Sep 16, 2005 by Maria123
	Pity Party (Preview) I do not sleep with my husband. He is awake all night a lot and when he does sleep it is so restless, I get woken up. Or he snores so loud the walls shake. I cannot talk to my husband. He either does not remember things I tell him or he remembers the stuff in his twisted way.&nbs...	browneyes	4	436	Sep 16, 2005 by Anttay
	My Crazy Life (Preview) Hello All, Sorry I have been absent this week, but I know you all understand the insanity that we live in. My 6 year old started school for the first time ever, 1st grade. So now we have homework, lunch to pack, open house, and a little more drama to add to our lives. This is also very exciting, because t...	Dolphin123	2	492	Sep 16, 2005 by Karilynn
	I failed.....it's all over now (Preview) When my alcoholic husband walked out on me, i felt like i had lost it all. My step-daughters were gone and my son and I had to adjust to going from a family of 5 to just us. The only thing i had left to work for was my son and our home. Outside of that, I was empty. For years, I have stru...	Mandi	6	758	Sep 16, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Thursday (Preview) This is day seven of no fighting, arguing, or silence. I told my A last night that it is scary to me that he has come home every night after work and that I am so cautious that the other shoe will drop at any second. He jokingly said that it could and then said no, I want it to be "this way" between u...	marmare	3	446	Sep 16, 2005 by canadianguy
	HE BLEW IT AGAIN (Preview) HE WENT TO AA FOR 3WKS DIDNT DRINK. TODAY HIS BOSS CALLED IN SICK AND HE WAS STRESSED SAID HE WAS WORKING LATE.HE WAS GOING TO GO TO THE STORE AND PICK UP SALAD WHEN I SPOKE TO HIM A 10:00PM HE WAS SLURING HIS WORDS AND THEN HE SAID I DONT LOVE HIM AND THEN HE SAID HE WOULD BE HOME IN 5 MIN HE TURNED OFF...	chrissy	8	853	Sep 16, 2005 by canadianguy
	my pain then and now (Preview) Subject: Meditation: Pain God, if You love me, why must I endure pain? This question preoccupies many believers in their darkest hours of need. While pain comes in different forms and has different durations, suffering always comes with an objective greater than our comfort, pleasure, or persona...	rosie light shines	0	512	Sep 16, 2005 by rosie light shines
	haxigonian XXIII (Preview) [[ room ]] As things stand now... troublemaking cousin is thankfully not comin up here... social security evaluation is over; this one emphasized drugs, alcohol and anxiety. It took a lot out of me and I'm beat. The local social security office has my file now so that's taken care of as well...	haximon	6	531	Sep 16, 2005 by browneyes
	A BIG decision.. (Preview) Last night I told my husband that the kids are I are leaving. I have ask him to leave several times and he wont so I found a place for me and the kids to go. Its temporary but taking it one day at a time is about all I can do for now. This is HUGE, I am not sure my husband believed me at first. Now I am sure, I tol...	Tammy	6	566	Sep 15, 2005 by bcanuck
	I want to cry (Preview) Thought my A was sober for a year and a half. Went out tonight for a much needed break and left him home with my 3 kids. Came home to find him passed out, naked in one of my kids bed. (Luckily all 3 were asleep). Don't know what to do - Can't threated to leave because I work and can't handl...	njmom	8	818	Sep 15, 2005 by bcanuck
	hey did YOU all go through this too?? (Preview) hey everyone, talk about a lesson!! boy did i get one i did my post on levels of forgiveness and it had my #1, #1, #3, with #3, being the least forgiveable and of COURSE i mentioned the perp in that one... my loving and wise sponser...	rosie light shines	2	543	Sep 15, 2005 by agatha
	So confused (Preview) I am so confused. I talked with my therapist and my dad today. I have always depended on my dad to lead me in the right direction. They think that I should not file for a divorce, but a legal separation. My mother-in-law thinks I should give him one last chance. I feel so confuse...	Powerless	1	562	Sep 15, 2005 by Diva
	haxigonian XXI (Preview) [[ room ]] I have been asked to give my address again, It's Mike Rolfe 111 W. Burnside Portland, OR 97209 I have very bad news...the money I asked for did not come in time and the insurance company *will not* give me an extension...meaning... As of Friday, I will be an uninsured motorist....	haximon	2	495	Sep 15, 2005 by toto12
	did something nice for me today (Preview) Hello all: Finally got my hair done. I made a nice dinner for friends of mine tonight. I enjoy cooking and haven't done much since my A has been gone (we used to cook together). Those were the good things I did for me. I've been sad these past few days thinking about my A and t...	Kim	5	681	Sep 15, 2005 by bubbles1990
	haxigonian XXII (Preview) [[ room ]] My cousin made the save and my insurance is okay for now... he and his wife may be coming here for a so-called surprise...this is very very bad for me...i don't need this right now with all the other hassle i'm goin thru! i am cracking under the strain... i've been crying......	haximon	4	624	Sep 15, 2005 by bubbles1990
	New here - need some help (Preview) Hi, I'm in need of some help here. I'm divorced with two boys and dad is an alcoholic. I'm dealing with a whole bunch of issues that I just don't even know where to start except with the most current I guess. I searched out a message board as my area doesn't offer much. My ex just went t...	Daphyne	6	533	Sep 15, 2005 by lin0606
	Feeling Feelings....Finally (Preview) Good morning Family~ I visited the board the other day for the first time in along time and wow, it felt so good to be back. I am going through my own emotional journey right now. I have taken some time off this year to do things "my way" and found myself with absolutely no direction and isolat...	carla035	2	477	Sep 14, 2005 by Jill
	son-in-law's suicide 1 yr ago today (Preview) hi again! and yet another issue in my never-ending saga of life! it was one year ago today, the 13th, that my son-in-law took his life. he was 24 yrs old. my daughter had been with him over 4 yrs, they had been married for almost 2, and had a 3 month old, beautiful baby girl when he died...	search41	3	532	Sep 14, 2005 by bubbles1990
	A simple thought (Preview) Hello, Came across this in a favorite book of mine. Hope you like it. Prayer is the pathway. Stillness is the temple. Love is the offering we bring. Peace is the gift we are given. Live strong, Karilynn	Karilynn	1	560	Sep 14, 2005 by bubbles1990
	I feel like crap!!! (Preview) On Monday I went to see a divorce attorney to start the process. I was so happy with my decision and felt as if everyone supported the decision I was making. I honestly felt like I was doing what was best for the children and myself. My father even offered to loan me the money to pay for t...	Powerless	6	659	Sep 14, 2005 by Heather1
	I'm done enabling (Preview) I've allowed myself to ride a rollercoaster for the past year and a half. Divorced last month and last week my ex hits me with "I'm not sure if I did the right thing, I'm so sorry for the way I treated you, I wish I had done things differently, Let's go back to counceling." I'm thinking and hopi...	UncleLou	2	492	Sep 14, 2005 by Karilynn
	Taking some time off..... (Preview) Hello ((((((((((((roomies)))))))) I am needing to take some time off of chat to think about and regroup about my recovery!!! I love you all so very much and i am so blessed to be apart of y'alls family!! Thank you all for helping and sharing your ES&H. If you want to chatt with me y...	bubbles1990	2	540	Sep 14, 2005 by garom
	my "levels" of forgiveness (Preview) Subject: Meditation: Forgiveness Does my inability to accept my own failings cause me to see myself as not measuring up? For my own peace of mind, I need to forgive even the most damaging transgressions; but forgiveness of others can only come when I have learned to forgive myself. OA Fo...	rosie light shines	0	543	Sep 14, 2005 by rosie light shines
	from victim to victory (Preview) Hope for Today - September 14 I was raised by two alcoholics, and I felt angry that I had to attend a support group to deal with this fact. #######ROSIE....yep, mom was a REAL A....he drank hard, but was very much in control of when and where he drank....he had a worse...	rosie light shines	0	646	Sep 14, 2005 by rosie light shines
	reprogramming (Preview) SEPTEMBER 13 >Times of Reprogramming > >Recovery is not all tiresome, unrewarded work. There are >times of joy and rest, times when we comfortably practice >what we have learned. There are times of change, times >when we struggle to learn something new or overcome a >partic...	rosie light shines	0	443	Sep 14, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Boundries - II (Preview) I did my first boundry tonight. My A came home drunk again...and went to take a "nap" in the basement. Said he'd like dinner at 7. I said ok. I went to get him up at 6:55 and was unable to get much response. He finally grunted and I told him dinner was in 5 minutes and if he wasn't there I would eat without hi...	sandie123	4	554	Sep 14, 2005 by marmare
	Up and down, is it normal? (Preview) Just when I start feeling like I am doing it, making good choices, and moving forward, then I hear something about my "A", and the rollercoaster starts all over again! The Pastor friend that staged the intervention with me, heard from my "A", via email. He asked for forgivene...	Candacem	1	489	Sep 14, 2005 by marmare
	Thanks alanon ozoz (Preview) Computer works..thank you, o oz of cyberspace. Don't know who is behind the magic curtain but I appreciate that I can get into chatroom now! toto	toto12	0	420	Sep 14, 2005 by toto12
	Update on my "turmoil" (Preview) i want to thank everyone for your kind replies to my post "in turmoil" a week ago. your posts were right-on, and, of course, i have decided to stay, and not move back to my home town. my dad had to leave town again last weekend, so i went and stayed with my mom last weekend too. i did a lo...	search41	1	525	Sep 14, 2005 by kerry5
	THE PAST COUPLE OF DAYS (Preview) The past couple of days have been good. My A hasn't drank anything. He has even taking the medicence the doctor gave him to take. He suffers from anixtey. He sees to be doing better. For me I have started reading the books more and trying not to let my guard down to much. I am hoping that things stay this way b...	nycbt	0	406	Sep 14, 2005 by nycbt
	Need Alt Chair Wed 9/14 (Preview) Hi roomies! Much to my disappointment, I will not be able to attend the Wednesday night meeting or fulfill my duties to be "door woman" with my good friend David (aka Elvis)- I have Open House night at school and I doubt if I will be home before 10. If any OP's are available to help him out, I would appreci...	cabecka	1	461	Sep 14, 2005 by shimo
	Business Meeting (Preview) Hi (((((((everyone!)))))))))) Just a reminder that we will be having our monthly business meeting tonight (Wednesday) in the chat room at 6 p.m. Central (I leave it to you to do that conversion for your respective time zones ) Hope to see you there! David	david62	0	436	Sep 14, 2005 by david62
	hi all (Preview) Hi everyone, Sorry I have been away for so long, I just can't seem to take my recovery seriously or help wanting quick fixes. I totally understand that I have problems that need addressing as well as my a, so I know I can't blame my a for my life o...	holly123	4	543	Sep 13, 2005 by gardengal
	today has been hard. (Preview) Hello (((((roomies))))): Last night was the last I heard from my A. He had called to finally give me the VIN# for the car. I ordered the title, and now it's done. He switched over his phone to his name. I am off the hook. whew. The last of the conversation he said that he was goi...	Kim	2	491	Sep 13, 2005 by marmare
	Still needing prayers,,,,, (Preview) Hello alanon friends, Thank you so much for all the support and prayers. I just now read your replies from my other post. Just when you think things couldn't get worse they do. My mom and I came down with the flu and ended up in ER Friday. I could not communicate much with her all night and then in th...	cdb	8	529	Sep 13, 2005 by Flora123
	addictive behavour ? (Preview) Need some input here please.. Recently a friend of mine became very angery at me for reasons I was unsure of, said some things that were not very nice and it really upset me very badly, I shared my story with someone who told me I am an addict because I let people abuse me. Well I have never heard of this ter...	camra	4	515	Sep 13, 2005 by camra
	Boundries (Preview) I could use some help with how to set boundries. I am at the point where I know that I need to start setting boundries. I have even started a list of the boundries I want to start setting. I'm just at a loss as to how to start setting them. I know I cant set them when my A has been drinking, and that is every ni...	sandie123	5	642	Sep 13, 2005 by rosie light shines
	MY 1 YR (Preview) On Aug 5 my husband was acting kind of funny. He was talking about wanting to be with his old friends that he wasn't able to see them because they were drinking. He was thinking of smoking pot again and he was thinking of drinking again. He was sober for 6 months at this point. On Aug 6 my husband again was a...	nycbt	3	465	Sep 13, 2005 by marmare
	Cant Pick Our Family (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) Well I have not fallen off the face of the earth. Haven't been online much at home due to home projects trying to get accomplished before winter arrives and all my monies will be spent on heating bills (ugh!!). In retrospect however, I think I should have put...	AlaMom	1	504	Sep 13, 2005 by marmare
	empty promises (Preview) I just read the roller coaster post and wow!! i am certainly not alone. I also read a reply about journaling and remembered that I had said that on the last ride. Perhaps I will start tonight. I am sitting here while my A is "at a meeting" I highly doubt that is the case, as I have that gut feeling that he h...	confused	4	590	Sep 13, 2005 by canadianguy
	Feeling like a FOOL yet AGAIN (Preview) Here I sit it is 1am and my A was suppose to be home hours ago. NO phone call nothing. I am sure he is sitting somewhere with his friends drunk.. Just when I think I am making progress, this happens and I realize I am so LOST.. My heart is racing and I cant believe he is doing this AGAIN.. We are sup...	Tammy	6	514	Sep 13, 2005 by marmare
	Look forward (Preview) I am looking forward to a nice relaxing evening. I am hoping that nothing happens, but it any thing does there nothing I can do. I am however going to try and go to a meeting. I am glad this work day is going well talk to you all again.	nycbt	1	455	Sep 13, 2005 by shimo
	Footprints and Hopefull,,your losses (Preview) I am so sorry for both your losses that you talked about yesterday in the room. My heart goes out to you as you grieve. I cannot know how it feels to have a loved one die of alcoholism but I can feel a tiny bit of how you must feel. I prayed hard for both of you last night as I could feel some of your pain. I hope my ta...	cdb	1	507	Sep 13, 2005 by ednaxray
	trusting in the process of healing (Preview) SEPTEMBER 12 >Healing > >We should learn not to grow impatient with the slow >healing process of time. We should discipline ourselves >to recognize that there are many steps to be taken along >the highway leading from sorrow to renewed serenity.... > #######ROSIE>&g...	rosie light shines	0	460	Sep 13, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Listerine, mouthwash, Mints, pills (Preview) Hi, the post below reminded me of my husband. He would drink Listerine for the alcohol, he would use mouthwash in his truck, breath mints abounded in his truck, pockets. Anything to cover up his drinking (even though I knew). I would get sick at the thought of his drin...	wallsal55	2	644	Sep 13, 2005 by debi
	Wierd update (Preview) Hello, Just thought I'd bring you up to date on the wierd situation. She called me again this morning at work. This was 6am in the morning folks. I made it clear to her that this was totallly unacceptable behavior as was her past behavior. I also made it clear that if she continued to talk to the employ...	Karilynn	4	500	Sep 13, 2005 by jj
	Today's ODAT hits home (Preview) Today's message in the ODAT talks about a husband and wife who have this beautiful home with all this great material stuff, but their relationship is wrought with unrelenting bitterness. Neither one of them gives an inch or is willing to compromise their needs, wants, and desires. So i...	twinmom2	0	470	Sep 13, 2005 by twinmom2
	Both Sides of the Fence Sept.15/05 (Preview) Good Morning All, Yes, I am still around. I have been having alot of Fybro trouble ans when I am feeling better, I am trying to catch up on house things. When I do my morning readings & prayers, I always include the Serenity Prayer. I have added a little bit to it and though I would lik...	kathy570	0	473	Sep 13, 2005 by kathy570
	continuing to stay off the ride (Preview) Well, he called this morning after asking him to leave me alone. Asked if I had called him (I hadn't). I said "No" and merely stated that while you're on the phone I would be going to the DMV today and needed the info on the car. (VIN# etc). He didn't have it and would call h...	Kim	3	501	Sep 13, 2005 by megan
	the pity pot (Preview) Feeling quite anxious again. My ex A has gone to Canada for two weeks (we live in the UK) , mostly to visit his girlfriend, but i understand AA has paid for his flights because he will be attending meetings in toronto as a guest speaker. Feel so angry and hurt that he is seeing this women and i w...	melanieL	0	404	Sep 13, 2005 by melanieL
	HOW IMPORTANT IS IT? (Preview) This slogan helps us gain perspective. If we can take the time to think about what really matters to us, we may include such concerns as health, serenity, adequate food and shelter and loving support from others. Each of us is free to determine for ourselves what truly is of value, but most of us agree th...	gardengal	4	622	Sep 13, 2005 by Anew123
	Natural Highs (Preview) *Natural Highs* Think about them one at a time BEFORE going on to the next one... 1. Falling in love. 2. Laughing so hard your face hurts. 3. A hot shower. 4. No lines at the supermarket 5. A special glance. 6. Getting mail 7. Taking a drive on a pretty road. 8.. Hearing your favorite song...	kerry5	4	479	Sep 13, 2005 by cedarpines
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