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sandie123 · sandie123

We'll i made it though the night and here I am today. I am thinking that my HP must be yelling at me by the way I feel. I still feel terrible but have talked to a bunch of poeple, both here and elsewhere. I keep coming up with the notion that my internal pain will go way once I deal with the problem. The problem be...

sg · sg

I went over to the AA db and found this thread...WOW...It spoke volumes to me and I wanted to bring this wonderful post over here (I hope it is okay) Patience is the ability to: Sit back and wait for an expected outcome without experiencing anxiety, tension, or frustration. Let go of your need fo...

kimmie · kimmie

Well things have been going absolutely wonderful. It has been over two weeks and my "A" has not had one drink and he has been in an exceptionally great mood. We have never been closer and we are spending a lot more quality time with eachother and our son. We watch movies every night an...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

ok, you all, i am doing this share and i am astounded what this program has done for me.....i mean i read this share and thought "wow!!! i am only focusing on me/ love/ healing/ good things--- and NONE of the negative" so here goes, i will type as my heart dictates Hope for Tod...

Lani · Lani

Dear Friends, "The best way to forget all your troubles is to wear tight shoes." Just me in love and spirit, Lani Children of Alcoholics http://lanipicard.com/coa.htm

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi all, Came across this when I was cleaning out my closet. I had this up in my office when I was in grad. school. Something to think about: Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not seek the answers, which cannot be given you becau...

cdb · cdb

Hello everyone :) Thanks so much for the prayers for my dad. He is doing well after surgery. The hospital at Minnesota forgot to send the lazer machine today! The doctor gets it twice a month. I decided to think maybe it was my dad's HP taking care of him. The doctor and my dad decided to go ahead with the s...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I am still away from home for two weeks now. My dad is back in the hospital to have surgery tomorrow for the mistake the nurse made when inserting the catheter. I thought it would be a quick recovery surgery but we all were uninformed. He will be unable to drive or do anything at all...

mama · mama

Hi to all, I am a grateful member of alanon for 2 years but I am having the hardest time of letting go. My son is an addict. he is 24 years old and seems to be going on 16. I love him dearly but the saying that they are addicted to drugs and we are addictedd to them...

arp_in_toronto · arp_in_toronto

Hi All I could tell you my story , but its been written here time after time already, sufice to say my wife is my "A" . After losing her job 2 weeks ago ( hardest worker ive ever known never missed a dayu in 5 years ) the booze has completly taken over, she has lost the ability to even try to stop drinking. Sh...

sg · sg

Last night I went to a f2f meeting...ironically it was the first meeting I went to ~9 yrs ago. I remember being in a situation where I was at my wits end w/my ex and how I had this uncomfortable feeling sitting around the table listening to people talk about "being happy whether the alcoholic is drinking o...

Veronica · Veronica

My sober A and I have been separated for a week following a break down in communication generally between us. We have been through a lot over the last year - miscarriage, I lost my job (only bread winner) and suffered from depression. Over the last few months communication between us has become very dif...

dot · dot

Hi - I need to apologize to all of you for not keeping up with my committment to the Step Board. My neck surgery was the same surgery for the second time in 2 1/2 years and guess it took much more out of me than I realized. Thought I'd bounce right back but my body didn't cooperate - was very tired and disinte...

kicky · kicky

I am in-love with my A...as most of you are. I'm trying to live my own life, not paying attention to his disease....taking one day at a time...staying in therapy. But everyday, I face the challenge of feeling hope for his recovery instead of focusing on mine. I don't have to be with this man. I choose to be...

marmare · marmare

I think I have finally got it. About a month or so ago I started working on Letting go and Letting God.....as hard as it has been to trust my HP I have worked especially hard on this, as it is easier to trust my HP to take care of things than for me to worry, worry, worry about my A and my life. This w...

iona54 · iona54

this was sent to me by a friend..i think it is wonderful..hope it helps some of you...hugs iona54 if necessary God of your understanding or Higher Power TEN GUIDELINES FROM GOD. 1. QUIT WORRYING: Life has dealt you a blow and all you do is sit an...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] I will have to make this quick as there is little time left. I got a call today that upset me very much. Some of my cousins are trying to get me back into Kansas City and into "family" control. It's a typical tactic; financial and other types of bullying and shaming are included. W...

Kim · Kim

so he just called. Actually he called a few times before I actually answered. All about Tuesday. I asked if he feels that he really has enough time under his belt that he can give me what I want He says yes. A week does not a sober person make in my estimation. All I keep hea...

sg · sg

Hello everyone. I had taken a lil' hiatus from the board....needed a bit of quiet time for myself. Still working my Program strong and surrounding myself f2f w/those who work Alanon. For those who are married, how in the world to do you handle recovery and a relationship at the same time? Lil'...

bcanuck · bcanuck

Nobody promised being a mother would be easy did they. My 18 year old son who, for all of his life has walked away from situations where there is alcohol, told me that tonight he is going to a co-workers and he likely won't come home... "not gonna chance getting home, if you know what I mean"....

Tammy · Tammy

Yesterday when I came home from work my husband was gone .. Out drinking I was sure of it. Both of my children has plans and so I went to another f2f. I came home around 9:30 and when I pulled up and turned off my lights I noticed my husband staggering around the yard. Then he pulled his pants down and urin...

Diva · Diva

This morning he was drunk before 11 a.m. Here we go again. I think I will make an appointment with an attorney. I don't see any other way. Sadly, Diva

Pegiscats · Pegiscats

Hi I'am a newbie, hope I can ask this question, with out going on & on, sometimes I want to shut myself up. We have been battling with my 28yr. old son about his pot use & his drinking, since he has been 13-14. The man who started him & many other kids in the neighborhood on the pot, was an Disable...

Maria123 · Maria123

Sponsors I have an item for the next business meeting if I am unable to attend. Often newcomers are looking for online sponsors. I was wondering if after the scripts have run before we ask for topics if the Chair could ask by a show of hands "!" if anyone is willing to be a te...

Tammy · Tammy

Last night I was moving while my husband was working ( he was not expected home until 8am this morning ). On the way back from the condo my cell phone rang and it was my house and you guessed it he was there. Wanting to know where we were and when we were coming home. My heart bega...

debilyn · debilyn

One day at a time. i know you hurt, every right too. How old is your step daughter? If you guys are close, believe me she will want to see you. Especially as her teenager from hell comes thru, her mom will love for you to share this wonderful time! In fact the girl may be better for you than mom. ...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] The Multnomah County library computers are down--again--so I'm at my coffeshop haunt on NW 23rd using prepaid net time. I finally got to the Park Blocks farmer's market; the directions I got put me at the wrong end and I drew a tough walk to start the day. the Park Blocks are Por...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

From Paths to Recovery Alanon Book revised for Coda we admitted we were powerless over others - that our lives had become unmanageable. #######ROSIE....i had to accept that LIFE was unmanageable in most respects...not just relationships, but LIFE Do I accept...

Jill · Jill

Hi everyone, just wondering if anyone knows how Isobel is doing. thanks Jill

chrissy · chrissy

i just checked the bank & he took out $60.00 yesterday but today he took out $440.00 tonight it doesnt tell me where he took it from. i searched all over for him today i am wiped and cant take this anymore he left me with no money i had to give my daughter change for lunch money & borrowed money...

Kim · Kim

Hello roomies. Tonight I had a wonderfdul night with my stepdaughter. We went to a movie and stayed up late watching TV. It's so nice to have her in her room and with me. At the same time it just breaks my heart. You see, I know that although I have a good relationship with her mother, things...

afmom03 · afmom03

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hello, I just wanted to thank everyone that responed to my post. I do love my A very much not sure that came across. One thing that was wrote back was Hate is Love Frustrated. Boy did I need that. I am Frustrated. My A is depressed and I can't help him. I'm so frust...

dadrrb1 · dadrrb1

hi boys and girls. I have to go into the hospital on Monday for catarac surgery. I need a fill in alt. for Monday and Tuesday morning meetings. If you can help out on one or both of those mornings, I really would appreciate it. Please contact Senora Bob so she will know. Thanks alot for your help!! da...

Looking4Peace · Looking4Peace

Hi :) This is my first time here, my first time "talking" about this. I feel like an idiot because I don't know. He says everyone drinks this much. My friends and I don't. Sorry this is soooo long but I'm so happy to finally find someplace to ask. I don't even know where to start s...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

SEPTEMBER 16 >Revenge > >No matter how long we ve been recovering, no matter how >solid our spiritual ground, we may still feel an >overwhelming desire at times to punish, or get even, with >another person. > #####ROSIE...oh yeah, i have the tendency to be very vindi...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi,

Some days I really hate my A. He is sober now almost a year but still very selfish. Now life is all about him getting sober. I really could care less about how hard it is. Like it was easy to live with an A. Does he think it is easy running the house, working, re...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I posted perviously that my "A" had a posibility of going to Alaska and was just waiting on a phone call on Tuesday. Well, I don't have to wait until Tuesday. My "A" had decided not to go! He stopped by my work and said that he was unable to find a reason to go besides the money, and that wasn't good...

confused · confused

does this sound strange to anyone else? My A quit his job after leaving a rehab. His boss had been dealing to him at work and he said that he could not return and stay sober. I was supportive of this decision. Well, he gave up a 20 year career and a million dollars/year in sales to do what , I do not know. I a...

Tammy · Tammy

This has really been a difficult week. I am really struggling to stay above water. I am confused, hurt, dissapointed, and yet my head is clear on what I have to do. I have really been praying this week.. Praying for my God to show me the light. To make everything clear to me . To send me a sign.. Well... >

Kim · Kim

Hello all and many, many (((hugs)))) to you all!!! I would like to thank you all for your wonderful words of support these past few days. My A called today during my work day (whic hi have asked him not to do) to ask me what I am doing "next week". He meant Tues. which is our three yea...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] I've had my 30 day check-in with my caseworker. Lucky I had that list that i'd put up in here with me; she loved it. Now to focus on job search. Only remaining hurdle is vocational rehab on 20th. I'd almost forgot...chiropractor requires fitness tests... standup/sitdown 51 reps u...

Diva · Diva

This morning when my A awoke, the first thing he did was apologize. Haven't we all heard that?????? He had not been attending his meetings lately, and I know that sooner or later when he doesn't attend, he is going to slip. OK I forgave him. I do love this wonderful man with all my heart. He is kind, good, fu...

browneyes · browneyes

Hey there Just wondering how you are doing-last time you posted you were leaving your husband. I was just hoping you were ok, as ok as you can be at a time like this. Please post if you have the time and resources. Love Julie D.

Anttay · Anttay

I am new here and don't even know where to start, all I know is my husbands drinking is making my life miserable, I don't even know if I love him anymore the man I fell in love with is gone, he is always too drunk to carry on a conversation, at this point I feel more like his mother. People think I am pathetic for...

browneyes · browneyes

I do not sleep with my husband. He is awake all night a lot and when he does sleep it is so restless, I get woken up. Or he snores so loud the walls shake. I cannot talk to my husband. He either does not remember things I tell him or he remembers the stuff in his twisted way.&nbs...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, Sorry I have been absent this week, but I know you all understand the insanity that we live in. My 6 year old started school for the first time ever, 1st grade. So now we have homework, lunch to pack, open house, and a little more drama to add to our lives. This is also very exciting, because t...

Mandi · Mandi

When my alcoholic husband walked out on me, i felt like i had lost it all. My step-daughters were gone and my son and I had to adjust to going from a family of 5 to just us. The only thing i had left to work for was my son and our home. Outside of that, I was empty. For years, I have stru...

marmare · marmare

This is day seven of no fighting, arguing, or silence. I told my A last night that it is scary to me that he has come home every night after work and that I am so cautious that the other shoe will drop at any second. He jokingly said that it could and then said no, I want it to be "this way" between u...

chrissy · chrissy

HE WENT TO AA FOR 3WKS DIDNT DRINK. TODAY HIS BOSS CALLED IN SICK AND HE WAS STRESSED SAID HE WAS WORKING LATE.HE WAS GOING TO GO TO THE STORE AND PICK UP SALAD WHEN I SPOKE TO HIM A 10:00PM HE WAS SLURING HIS WORDS AND THEN HE SAID I DONT LOVE HIM AND THEN HE SAID HE WOULD BE HOME IN 5 MIN HE TURNED OFF...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Subject: Meditation: Pain God, if You love me, why must I endure pain? This question preoccupies many believers in their darkest hours of need. While pain comes in different forms and has different durations, suffering always comes with an objective greater than our comfort, pleasure, or persona...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] As things stand now... troublemaking cousin is thankfully not comin up here... social security evaluation is over; this one emphasized drugs, alcohol and anxiety. It took a lot out of me and I'm beat. The local social security office has my file now so that's taken care of as well...

Tammy · Tammy

Last night I told my husband that the kids are I are leaving. I have ask him to leave several times and he wont so I found a place for me and the kids to go. Its temporary but taking it one day at a time is about all I can do for now. This is HUGE, I am not sure my husband believed me at first. Now I am sure, I tol...

njmom · njmom

Thought my A was sober for a year and a half. Went out tonight for a much needed break and left him home with my 3 kids. Came home to find him passed out, naked in one of my kids bed. (Luckily all 3 were asleep). Don't know what to do - Can't threated to leave because I work and can't handl...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hey everyone, talk about a lesson!! boy did i get one i did my post on *levels of forgiveness* and it had my #1, #1, #3, with #3, being the least forgiveable and of COURSE i mentioned the perp in that one... my loving and wise sponser...

Powerless · Powerless

I am so confused. I talked with my therapist and my dad today. I have always depended on my dad to lead me in the right direction. They think that I should not file for a divorce, but a legal separation. My mother-in-law thinks I should give him one last chance. I feel so confuse...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] I have been asked to give my address again, It's Mike Rolfe 111 W. Burnside Portland, OR 97209 I have very bad news...the money I asked for did not come in time and the insurance company will not give me an extension...meaning... As of Friday, I will be an uninsured motorist....

Kim · Kim

Hello all: Finally got my hair done. I made a nice dinner for friends of mine tonight. I enjoy cooking and haven't done much since my A has been gone (we used to cook together). Those were the good things I did for me. I've been sad these past few days thinking about my A and t...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] My cousin made the save and my insurance is okay for now... he and his wife may be coming here for a so-called surprise...this is very very bad for me...i don't need this right now with all the other hassle i'm goin thru! i am cracking under the strain... i've been crying......

Daphyne · Daphyne

Hi, I'm in need of some help here. I'm divorced with two boys and dad is an alcoholic. I'm dealing with a whole bunch of issues that I just don't even know where to start except with the most current I guess. I searched out a message board as my area doesn't offer much. My ex just went t...

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	I'm trying :S (Preview) We'll i made it though the night and here I am today. I am thinking that my HP must be yelling at me by the way I feel. I still feel terrible but have talked to a bunch of poeple, both here and elsewhere. I keep coming up with the notion that my internal pain will go way once I deal with the problem. The problem be...	sandie123	3	717	Sep 20, 2005 by debilyn
	Cross over thread on patience (Preview) I went over to the AA db and found this thread...WOW...It spoke volumes to me and I wanted to bring this wonderful post over here (I hope it is okay) Patience is the ability to: Sit back and wait for an expected outcome without experiencing anxiety, tension, or frustration. Let go of your need fo...	sg	1	699	Sep 20, 2005 by Annie
	Update on "A"'s recovery (Preview) Well things have been going absolutely wonderful. It has been over two weeks and my "A" has not had one drink and he has been in an exceptionally great mood. We have never been closer and we are spending a lot more quality time with eachother and our son. We watch movies every night an...	kimmie	3	930	Sep 20, 2005 by Annie
	NEVER thought i would feel this way (Preview) ok, you all, i am doing this share and i am astounded what this program has done for me.....i mean i read this share and thought "wow!!! i am only focusing on me/ love/ healing/ good things--- and NONE of the negative" so here goes, i will type as my heart dictates Hope for Tod...	rosie light shines	2	611	Sep 20, 2005 by TLC2
	Comic Relief for Today (Preview) Dear Friends, "The best way to forget all your troubles is to wear tight shoes." Just me in love and spirit, Lani Children of Alcoholics http://lanipicard.com/coa.htm	Lani	3	673	Sep 20, 2005 by Karilynn
	Be patient (Preview) Hi all, Came across this when I was cleaning out my closet. I had this up in my office when I was in grad. school. Something to think about: Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not seek the answers, which cannot be given you becau...	Karilynn	3	614	Sep 20, 2005 by Karilynn
	Thanks for prayers :) (Preview) Hello everyone :) Thanks so much for the prayers for my dad. He is doing well after surgery. The hospital at Minnesota forgot to send the lazer machine today! The doctor gets it twice a month. I decided to think maybe it was my dad's HP taking care of him. The doctor and my dad decided to go ahead with the s...	cdb	0	614	Sep 20, 2005 by cdb
	Update/dad,surgery,me :) (Preview) Hello friends, I am still away from home for two weeks now. My dad is back in the hospital to have surgery tomorrow for the mistake the nurse made when inserting the catheter. I thought it would be a quick recovery surgery but we all were uninformed. He will be unable to drive or do anything at all...	cdb	9	698	Sep 20, 2005 by lebe27
	Just in need of comfort (Preview) Hi to all, I am a grateful member of alanon for 2 years but I am having the hardest time of letting go. My son is an addict. he is 24 years old and seems to be going on 16. I love him dearly but the saying that they are addicted to drugs and we are addictedd to them...	mama	5	669	Sep 20, 2005 by mama
	My first Post here (Preview) Hi All I could tell you my story , but its been written here time after time already, sufice to say my wife is my "A" . After losing her job 2 weeks ago ( hardest worker ive ever known never missed a dayu in 5 years ) the booze has completly taken over, she has lost the ability to even try to stop drinking. Sh...	arp_in_toronto	11	835	Sep 20, 2005 by nmike
	Deja Vu (Preview) Last night I went to a f2f meeting...ironically it was the first meeting I went to ~9 yrs ago. I remember being in a situation where I was at my wits end w/my ex and how I had this uncomfortable feeling sitting around the table listening to people talk about "being happy whether the alcoholic is drinking o...	sg	1	602	Sep 20, 2005 by marmare
	scared of being left again (Preview) My sober A and I have been separated for a week following a break down in communication generally between us. We have been through a lot over the last year - miscarriage, I lost my job (only bread winner) and suffered from depression. Over the last few months communication between us has become very dif...	Veronica	6	670	Sep 20, 2005 by nmike
	To all (Preview) Hi - I need to apologize to all of you for not keeping up with my committment to the Step Board. My neck surgery was the same surgery for the second time in 2 1/2 years and guess it took much more out of me than I realized. Thought I'd bounce right back but my body didn't cooperate - was very tired and disinte...	dot	3	684	Sep 20, 2005 by DanaAngel
	Nobody's recovered...is that OK? (Preview) I am in-love with my A...as most of you are. I'm trying to live my own life, not paying attention to his disease....taking one day at a time...staying in therapy. But everyday, I face the challenge of feeling hope for his recovery instead of focusing on mine. I don't have to be with this man. I choose to be...	kicky	10	860	Sep 20, 2005 by sg
	A New Day (Preview) I think I have finally got it. About a month or so ago I started working on Letting go and Letting God.....as hard as it has been to trust my HP I have worked especially hard on this, as it is easier to trust my HP to take care of things than for me to worry, worry, worry about my A and my life. This w...	marmare	5	661	Sep 20, 2005 by sg
	10 guidelines (Preview) this was sent to me by a friend..i think it is wonderful..hope it helps some of you...hugs iona54 if necessary God of your understanding or Higher Power TEN GUIDELINES FROM GOD. 1. QUIT WORRYING: Life has dealt you a blow and all you do is sit an...	iona54	5	772	Sep 20, 2005 by sg
	haxigonian XXVI (Preview) [[ room ]] I will have to make this quick as there is little time left. I got a call today that upset me very much. Some of my cousins are trying to get me back into Kansas City and into "family" control. It's a typical tactic; financial and other types of bullying and shaming are included. W...	haximon	6	742	Sep 19, 2005 by Anew123
	and the beat goes on (Preview) so he just called. Actually he called a few times before I actually answered. All about Tuesday. I asked if he feels that he *really* has enough time under his belt that he can give me what I want He says yes. A week does not a sober person make in my estimation. All I keep hea...	Kim	5	717	Sep 19, 2005 by David BD
	Regaining those lost feelings (Preview) Hello everyone. I had taken a lil' hiatus from the board....needed a bit of quiet time for myself. Still working my Program strong and surrounding myself f2f w/those who work Alanon. For those who are married, how in the world to do you handle recovery and a relationship at the same time? Lil'...	sg	14	806	Sep 19, 2005 by sg
	Kick in the gut (Preview) Nobody promised being a mother would be easy did they. My 18 year old son who, for all of his life has walked away from situations where there is alcohol, told me that tonight he is going to a co-workers and he likely won't come home... "not gonna chance getting home, if you know what I mean"....	bcanuck	5	812	Sep 19, 2005 by canadianguy
	Another sign ??? (Preview) Yesterday when I came home from work my husband was gone .. Out drinking I was sure of it. Both of my children has plans and so I went to another f2f. I came home around 9:30 and when I pulled up and turned off my lights I noticed my husband staggering around the yard. Then he pulled his pants down and urin...	Tammy	10	801	Sep 19, 2005 by browneyes
	It's no "one time thing" kiddies. (Preview) This morning he was drunk before 11 a.m. Here we go again. I think I will make an appointment with an attorney. I don't see any other way. Sadly, Diva	Diva	16	1804	Sep 19, 2005 by browneyes
	Why when the A has no home,hes sober? (Preview) Hi I'am a newbie, hope I can ask this question, with out going on & on, sometimes I want to shut myself up. We have been battling with my 28yr. old son about his pot use & his drinking, since he has been 13-14. The man who started him & many other kids in the neighborhood on the pot, was an Disable...	Pegiscats	4	720	Sep 19, 2005 by rosie light shines
	October's Business Meeting Suggestion (Preview) Sponsors I have an item for the next business meeting if I am unable to attend. Often newcomers are looking for online sponsors. I was wondering if after the scripts have run before we ask for topics if the Chair could ask by a show of hands "!" if anyone is willing to be a te...	Maria123	5	697	Sep 19, 2005 by mastiff
	A new beginning ? (Preview) Last night I was moving while my husband was working ( he was not expected home until 8am this morning ). On the way back from the condo my cell phone rang and it was my house and you guessed it he was there. Wanting to know where we were and when we were coming home. My heart bega...	Tammy	10	712	Sep 19, 2005 by Karilynn
	kim (Preview) One day at a time. i know you hurt, every right too. How old is your step daughter? If you guys are close, believe me she will want to see you. Especially as her teenager from hell comes thru, her mom will love for you to share this wonderful time! In fact the girl may be better for you than mom. ...	debilyn	3	655	Sep 18, 2005 by debilyn
	haxigonian XXV (Preview) [[ room ]] The Multnomah County library computers are down--again--so I'm at my coffeshop haunt on NW 23rd using prepaid net time. I finally got to the Park Blocks farmer's market; the directions I got put me at the wrong end and I drew a tough walk to start the day. the Park Blocks are Por...	haximon	5	728	Sep 18, 2005 by Flora123
	LONG step one questionaire (Preview) From Paths to Recovery Alanon Book revised for Coda we admitted we were powerless over others - that our lives had become unmanageable. #######ROSIE....i had to accept that LIFE was unmanageable in most respects...not just relationships, but LIFE Do I accept...	rosie light shines	0	713	Sep 18, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Has anyone heard how Isobel is doing? (Preview) Hi everyone, just wondering if anyone knows how Isobel is doing. thanks Jill	Jill	4	765	Sep 18, 2005 by megan
	he still is not home and no phone call since 10:00 thursday night (Preview) i just checked the bank & he took out $60.00 yesterday but today he took out $440.00 tonight it doesnt tell me where he took it from. i searched all over for him today i am wiped and cant take this anymore he left me with no money i had to give my daughter change for lunch money & borrowed money...	chrissy	7	807	Sep 17, 2005 by Dolphin123
	sad and confused (Preview) Hello roomies. Tonight I had a wonderfdul night with my stepdaughter. We went to a movie and stayed up late watching TV. It's so nice to have her in her room and with me. At the same time it just breaks my heart. You see, I know that although I have a good relationship with her mother, things...	Kim	6	792	Sep 17, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Been Away Too Long!! (Preview)	afmom03	3	728	Sep 17, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Hate is love frustrated (Preview) Hello, I just wanted to thank everyone that responed to my post. I do love my A very much not sure that came across. One thing that was wrote back was Hate is Love Frustrated. Boy did I need that. I am Frustrated. My A is depressed and I can't help him. I'm so frust...	nikkilou	3	783	Sep 17, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Need Alt. for next week (Preview) hi boys and girls. I have to go into the hospital on Monday for catarac surgery. I need a fill in alt. for Monday and Tuesday morning meetings. If you can help out on one or both of those mornings, I really would appreciate it. Please contact Senora Bob so she will know. Thanks alot for your help!! da...	dadrrb1	3	644	Sep 17, 2005 by tea2
	Is he or isn't he? (Preview) Hi :) This is my first time here, my first time "talking" about this. I feel like an idiot because I don't know. He says everyone drinks this much. My friends and I don't. Sorry this is soooo long but I'm so happy to finally find someplace to ask. I don't even know where to start s...	Looking4Peace	8	840	Sep 17, 2005 by Looking4Peace
	letting go the need to get even (Preview) SEPTEMBER 16 >Revenge > >No matter how long we ve been recovering, no matter how >solid our spiritual ground, we may still feel an >overwhelming desire at times to punish, or get even, with >another person. > #####ROSIE...oh yeah, i have the tendency to be very vindi...	rosie light shines	0	615	Sep 17, 2005 by rosie light shines
	I hate my A (Preview) Hi, Some days I really hate my A. He is sober now almost a year but still very selfish. Now life is all about him getting sober. I really could care less about how hard it is. Like it was easy to live with an A. Does he think it is easy running the house, working, re...	nikkilou	7	867	Sep 17, 2005 by Diva
	He made up his mind (Preview) Hi all, I posted perviously that my "A" had a posibility of going to Alaska and was just waiting on a phone call on Tuesday. Well, I don't have to wait until Tuesday. My "A" had decided not to go! He stopped by my work and said that he was unable to find a reason to go besides the money, and that wasn't good...	Dolphin123	3	652	Sep 17, 2005 by Karilynn
	pinching pennies (Preview) does this sound strange to anyone else? My A quit his job after leaving a rehab. His boss had been dealing to him at work and he said that he could not return and stay sober. I was supportive of this decision. Well, he gave up a 20 year career and a million dollars/year in sales to do what , I do not know. I a...	confused	3	677	Sep 17, 2005 by nikkilou
	Moving Day (Preview) This has really been a difficult week. I am really struggling to stay above water. I am confused, hurt, dissapointed, and yet my head is clear on what I have to do. I have really been praying this week.. Praying for my God to show me the light. To make everything clear to me . To send me a sign.. Well... >	Tammy	5	652	Sep 17, 2005 by mom to 2
	be careful what you wish for (Preview) Hello all and many, many (((hugs)))) to you all!!! I would like to thank you all for your wonderful words of support these past few days. My A called today during my work day (whic hi have asked him not to do) to ask me what I am doing "next week". He meant Tues. which is our three yea...	Kim	7	849	Sep 17, 2005 by chrissy
	haxigonian XXIV (Preview) [[ room ]] I've had my 30 day check-in with my caseworker. Lucky I had that list that i'd put up in here with me; she loved it. Now to focus on job search. Only remaining hurdle is vocational rehab on 20th. I'd almost forgot...chiropractor requires fitness tests... standup/sitdown 51 reps u...	haximon	2	705	Sep 17, 2005 by Anew123
	Thank you all for your kind responses. (Preview) This morning when my A awoke, the first thing he did was apologize. Haven't we all heard that?????? He had not been attending his meetings lately, and I know that sooner or later when he doesn't attend, he is going to slip. OK I forgave him. I do love this wonderful man with all my heart. He is kind, good, fu...	Diva	4	682	Sep 16, 2005 by ditto
	Tammy (Preview) Hey there Just wondering how you are doing-last time you posted you were leaving your husband. I was just hoping you were ok, as ok as you can be at a time like this. Please post if you have the time and resources. Love Julie D.	browneyes	4	786	Sep 16, 2005 by browneyes
	Can't Stand it. (Preview) I am new here and don't even know where to start, all I know is my husbands drinking is making my life miserable, I don't even know if I love him anymore the man I fell in love with is gone, he is always too drunk to carry on a conversation, at this point I feel more like his mother. People think I am pathetic for...	Anttay	3	662	Sep 16, 2005 by Maria123
	Pity Party (Preview) I do not sleep with my husband. He is awake all night a lot and when he does sleep it is so restless, I get woken up. Or he snores so loud the walls shake. I cannot talk to my husband. He either does not remember things I tell him or he remembers the stuff in his twisted way.&nbs...	browneyes	4	615	Sep 16, 2005 by Anttay
	My Crazy Life (Preview) Hello All, Sorry I have been absent this week, but I know you all understand the insanity that we live in. My 6 year old started school for the first time ever, 1st grade. So now we have homework, lunch to pack, open house, and a little more drama to add to our lives. This is also very exciting, because t...	Dolphin123	2	678	Sep 16, 2005 by Karilynn
	I failed.....it's all over now (Preview) When my alcoholic husband walked out on me, i felt like i had lost it all. My step-daughters were gone and my son and I had to adjust to going from a family of 5 to just us. The only thing i had left to work for was my son and our home. Outside of that, I was empty. For years, I have stru...	Mandi	6	933	Sep 16, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Thursday (Preview) This is day seven of no fighting, arguing, or silence. I told my A last night that it is scary to me that he has come home every night after work and that I am so cautious that the other shoe will drop at any second. He jokingly said that it could and then said no, I want it to be "this way" between u...	marmare	3	620	Sep 16, 2005 by canadianguy
	HE BLEW IT AGAIN (Preview) HE WENT TO AA FOR 3WKS DIDNT DRINK. TODAY HIS BOSS CALLED IN SICK AND HE WAS STRESSED SAID HE WAS WORKING LATE.HE WAS GOING TO GO TO THE STORE AND PICK UP SALAD WHEN I SPOKE TO HIM A 10:00PM HE WAS SLURING HIS WORDS AND THEN HE SAID I DONT LOVE HIM AND THEN HE SAID HE WOULD BE HOME IN 5 MIN HE TURNED OFF...	chrissy	8	1004	Sep 16, 2005 by canadianguy
	my pain then and now (Preview) Subject: Meditation: Pain God, if You love me, why must I endure pain? This question preoccupies many believers in their darkest hours of need. While pain comes in different forms and has different durations, suffering always comes with an objective greater than our comfort, pleasure, or persona...	rosie light shines	0	697	Sep 16, 2005 by rosie light shines
	haxigonian XXIII (Preview) [[ room ]] As things stand now... troublemaking cousin is thankfully not comin up here... social security evaluation is over; this one emphasized drugs, alcohol and anxiety. It took a lot out of me and I'm beat. The local social security office has my file now so that's taken care of as well...	haximon	6	707	Sep 16, 2005 by browneyes
	A BIG decision.. (Preview) Last night I told my husband that the kids are I are leaving. I have ask him to leave several times and he wont so I found a place for me and the kids to go. Its temporary but taking it one day at a time is about all I can do for now. This is HUGE, I am not sure my husband believed me at first. Now I am sure, I tol...	Tammy	6	741	Sep 15, 2005 by bcanuck
	I want to cry (Preview) Thought my A was sober for a year and a half. Went out tonight for a much needed break and left him home with my 3 kids. Came home to find him passed out, naked in one of my kids bed. (Luckily all 3 were asleep). Don't know what to do - Can't threated to leave because I work and can't handl...	njmom	8	969	Sep 15, 2005 by bcanuck
	hey did YOU all go through this too?? (Preview) hey everyone, talk about a lesson!! boy did i get one i did my post on levels of forgiveness and it had my #1, #1, #3, with #3, being the least forgiveable and of COURSE i mentioned the perp in that one... my loving and wise sponser...	rosie light shines	2	705	Sep 15, 2005 by agatha
	So confused (Preview) I am so confused. I talked with my therapist and my dad today. I have always depended on my dad to lead me in the right direction. They think that I should not file for a divorce, but a legal separation. My mother-in-law thinks I should give him one last chance. I feel so confuse...	Powerless	1	734	Sep 15, 2005 by Diva
	haxigonian XXI (Preview) [[ room ]] I have been asked to give my address again, It's Mike Rolfe 111 W. Burnside Portland, OR 97209 I have very bad news...the money I asked for did not come in time and the insurance company *will not* give me an extension...meaning... As of Friday, I will be an uninsured motorist....	haximon	2	692	Sep 15, 2005 by toto12
	did something nice for me today (Preview) Hello all: Finally got my hair done. I made a nice dinner for friends of mine tonight. I enjoy cooking and haven't done much since my A has been gone (we used to cook together). Those were the good things I did for me. I've been sad these past few days thinking about my A and t...	Kim	5	836	Sep 15, 2005 by bubbles1990
	haxigonian XXII (Preview) [[ room ]] My cousin made the save and my insurance is okay for now... he and his wife may be coming here for a so-called surprise...this is very very bad for me...i don't need this right now with all the other hassle i'm goin thru! i am cracking under the strain... i've been crying......	haximon	4	783	Sep 15, 2005 by bubbles1990
	New here - need some help (Preview) Hi, I'm in need of some help here. I'm divorced with two boys and dad is an alcoholic. I'm dealing with a whole bunch of issues that I just don't even know where to start except with the most current I guess. I searched out a message board as my area doesn't offer much. My ex just went t...	Daphyne	6	714	Sep 15, 2005 by lin0606
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