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so he just called. Actually he called a few times before I actually answered. All about Tuesday. I asked if he feels that he really has enough time under his belt that he can give me what I want He says yes. A week does not a sober person make in my estimation. All I keep hearing is how depressed he is, how he misses his life and his wife and has difficulty being alone. Who doesn't? Cry me a river. Anytime I bring up the subjects that are currently bothering me.....how you spent probably aboutt $800.00 in the past month on drugs and alcohol, and thought not once of our anniversary, yet now you want me to make a concerted effort to spend that day with you...he gets angry. I'm tired of the anger. Get some f**** humility already. That comes with time and working the program. I said what did you not understand about the two things I said 1) I need time and 2) get sober then we'll talk. He signed up for outpatient treatment and begins on Tuesday. So what...been there done that. You're not sober yet. He's concerned that I'm "moving in the other direction (away from him) and that I;m going to find someone else. Puh-leeze......I'm having enough trouble with me right now...let alone anyone else. It's so sad how much he doesn't get it. Started getting angry and yellign. Well, I ended the conversation. I feel no need for a battle. Fight with yourself, I say. Maybe you'll win.
Funny, how so many of us swear off men for good after a relationship with a A, yet they are so afraid someone else will 'get us'. Guess they see what we will put up with and how another man might appreciate us?? Hang in there and do what is best for YOU, love, TLC
I immaginge when my A is blabbering his crap to me a Duck quacking and then inside I am laughing. He is no longer hurting me with his words because all I here is "quack,quack,quack" nothing he says in thoes times really matters because it through his fog and he can't even really understand what he says to me, so why should I.
Yepp I can just see your ah waddelling around Quacking and instead of feeling like crying I am giggleing.
Just to lighten it up a bit. I do know your pain. Just try to look on the lighter side sometimes can bring me through the rough times.
Hang in there and do what is best for YOU, love, TLC