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rosie light shines · rosie light shines

SEPTEMBER 13 >Times of Reprogramming > >Recovery is not all tiresome, unrewarded work. There are >times of joy and rest, times when we comfortably practice >what we have learned. There are times of change, times >when we struggle to learn something new or overcome a >partic...

sandie123 · sandie123

I did my first boundry tonight. My A came home drunk again...and went to take a "nap" in the basement. Said he'd like dinner at 7. I said ok. I went to get him up at 6:55 and was unable to get much response. He finally grunted and I told him dinner was in 5 minutes and if he wasn't there I would eat without hi...

Candacem · Candacem

Just when I start feeling like I am doing it, making good choices, and moving forward, then I hear something about my "A", and the rollercoaster starts all over again! The Pastor friend that staged the intervention with me, heard from my "A", via email. He asked for forgivene...

toto12 · toto12

Computer works..thank you, o oz of cyberspace. Don't know who is behind the magic curtain but I appreciate that I can get into chatroom now! toto

search41 · search41

i want to thank everyone for your kind replies to my post "in turmoil" a week ago. your posts were right-on, and, of course, i have decided to stay, and not move back to my home town. my dad had to leave town again last weekend, so i went and stayed with my mom last weekend too. i did a lo...

nycbt · nycbt

The past couple of days have been good. My A hasn't drank anything. He has even taking the medicence the doctor gave him to take. He suffers from anixtey. He sees to be doing better. For me I have started reading the books more and trying not to let my guard down to much. I am hoping that things stay this way b...

cabecka · cabecka

Hi roomies! Much to my disappointment, I will not be able to attend the Wednesday night meeting or fulfill my duties to be "door woman" with my good friend David (aka Elvis)- I have Open House night at school and I doubt if I will be home before 10. If any OP's are available to help him out, I would appreci...

david62 · david62

Hi (((((((everyone!)))))))))) Just a reminder that we will be having our monthly business meeting tonight (Wednesday) in the chat room at 6 p.m. Central (I leave it to you to do that conversion for your respective time zones

) Hope to see you there! David

holly123 · holly123

Hi everyone, Sorry I have been away for so long, I just can't seem to take my recovery seriously or help wanting quick fixes. I totally understand that I have problems that need addressing as well as my a, so I know I can't blame my a for my life o...

Kim · Kim

Hello (((((roomies))))): Last night was the last I heard from my A. He had called to finally give me the VIN# for the car. I ordered the title, and now it's done. He switched over his phone to his name. I am off the hook. whew. The last of the conversation he said that he was goi...

cdb · cdb

Hello alanon friends, Thank you so much for all the support and prayers. I just now read your replies from my other post. Just when you think things couldn't get worse they do. My mom and I came down with the flu and ended up in ER Friday. I could not communicate much with her all night and then in th...

camra · camra

Need some input here please.. Recently a friend of mine became very angery at me for reasons I was unsure of, said some things that were not very nice and it really upset me very badly, I shared my story with someone who told me I am an addict because I let people abuse me. Well I have never heard of this ter...

sandie123 · sandie123

I could use some help with how to set boundries. I am at the point where I know that I need to start setting boundries. I have even started a list of the boundries I want to start setting. I'm just at a loss as to how to start setting them. I know I cant set them when my A has been drinking, and that is every ni...

nycbt · nycbt

On Aug 5 my husband was acting kind of funny. He was talking about wanting to be with his old friends that he wasn't able to see them because they were drinking. He was thinking of smoking pot again and he was thinking of drinking again. He was sober for 6 months at this point. On Aug 6 my husband again was a...

AlaMom · AlaMom

(((((Everyone))))) Well I have not fallen off the face of the earth. Haven't been online much at home due to home projects trying to get accomplished before winter arrives and all my monies will be spent on heating bills (ugh!!). In retrospect however, I think I should have put...

confused · confused

I just read the roller coaster post and wow!! i am certainly not alone. I also read a reply about journaling and remembered that I had said that on the last ride. Perhaps I will start tonight. I am sitting here while my A is "at a meeting" I highly doubt that is the case, as I have that gut feeling that he h...

Tammy · Tammy

Here I sit it is 1am and my A was suppose to be home hours ago. NO phone call nothing. I am sure he is sitting somewhere with his friends drunk.. Just when I think I am making progress, this happens and I realize I am so LOST.. My heart is racing and I cant believe he is doing this AGAIN.. We are sup...

nycbt · nycbt

I am looking forward to a nice relaxing evening. I am hoping that nothing happens, but it any thing does there nothing I can do. I am however going to try and go to a meeting. I am glad this work day is going well talk to you all again.

cdb · cdb

I am so sorry for both your losses that you talked about yesterday in the room. My heart goes out to you as you grieve. I cannot know how it feels to have a loved one die of alcoholism but I can feel a tiny bit of how you must feel. I prayed hard for both of you last night as I could feel some of your pain. I hope my ta...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

SEPTEMBER 12 >Healing > >We should learn not to grow impatient with the slow >healing process of time. We should discipline ourselves >to recognize that there are many steps to be taken along >the highway leading from sorrow to renewed serenity.... > #######ROSIE>&g...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Hi, the post below reminded me of my husband. He would drink Listerine for the alcohol, he would use mouthwash in his truck, breath mints abounded in his truck, pockets. Anything to cover up his drinking (even though I knew). I would get sick at the thought of his drin...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hello, Just thought I'd bring you up to date on the wierd situation. She called me again this morning at work. This was 6am in the morning folks. I made it clear to her that this was totallly unacceptable behavior as was her past behavior. I also made it clear that if she continued to talk to the employ...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Today's message in the ODAT talks about a husband and wife who have this beautiful home with all this great material stuff, but their relationship is wrought with unrelenting bitterness. Neither one of them gives an inch or is willing to compromise their needs, wants, and desires. So i...

kathy570 · kathy570

Good Morning All, Yes, I am still around. I have been having alot of Fybro trouble ans when I am feeling better, I am trying to catch up on house things. When I do my morning readings & prayers, I always include the Serenity Prayer. I have added a little bit to it and though I would lik...

Kim · Kim

Well, he called this morning after asking him to leave me alone. Asked if I had called him (I hadn't). I said "No" and merely stated that while you're on the phone I would be going to the DMV today and needed the info on the car. (VIN# etc). He didn't have it and would call h...

melanieL · melanieL

Feeling quite anxious again. My ex A has gone to Canada for two weeks (we live in the UK) , mostly to visit his girlfriend, but i understand AA has paid for his flights because he will be attending meetings in toronto as a guest speaker. Feel so angry and hurt that he is seeing this women and i w...

gardengal · gardengal

This slogan helps us gain perspective. If we can take the time to think about what really matters to us, we may include such concerns as health, serenity, adequate food and shelter and loving support from others. Each of us is free to determine for ourselves what truly is of value, but most of us agree th...

kerry5 · kerry5

Natural Highs Think about them one at a time BEFORE going on to the next one... 1. Falling in love. 2. Laughing so hard your face hurts. 3. A hot shower. 4. No lines at the supermarket 5. A special glance. 6. Getting mail 7. Taking a drive on a pretty road. 8.. Hearing your favorite song...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] thank you all for putting up with me this last month! I found another healthy obsession this town has...gardening. Someone I knew from a meeting introduced me to the area called Ladd's Addition. There is one main garden, with four subordinate, seperate ones. Roses and rhododendr...

toto12 · toto12

Dear friends, Once again locked out of the chatroom. It says webmaster closed......before it even enters. Is it me? gRRRR: TOTO

JSSuggs · JSSuggs

I don't know if my hubby is a full blown alcolholic or just a problem drink/alcolhol abuser. However, he is 34 years old and acts as if he is still in college. I have asked him to seek help for his drinking but his only answer is "I don't have a problem". He isn't abusive or nasty. He holds a very good job and lo...

Candacem · Candacem

Forgive me, I don't know if I am in the right place to be doing this or not. I feel at the end of my emotional rope here and need to reach out. They don't have Alanon meetings close to me and I am not sure what other resources are available to me. My story, I met and fell in love with a fel...

Kim · Kim

He called back this evening to see how I was doing. "not well" was all I could muster. "me neither" is all he could reply. I said that I think it's better that he leaves me alone for a good while. I hung up the phone. I'm just too tired. The other day mar posted about Fridays and how...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Keep at It Keep practicing your recovery behaviors, even when they feel awkward, even when they haven't quite taken yet, even if you don't get it yet. ######ROSIE>>>>well that is what i am doing...i made an *i love me* tape casette with loving words to me, i love...

Heather1 · Heather1

I filed for divorce in June from my A husband because I couldn't take the turmoil anymore. We have been together 17 years and he's still in the house...won't leave until the judge orders it. I'm not leaving because I want my son with his friends in the neighborhood and I feel emotion...

confused · confused

I a having a REALLY hard time letting go today. My stepdaughter moved out 6 months ago. My husband and I have had custody of her since she was 8 and she is now 17. She moved back with her mother who for most of that time was not in her life at all. Years without contact. We had fought for custody of her for 5 years...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

SEPTEMBER 11 >Conflict and Detachment >------ >In a relationship, there are those wonderful times when >things go smoothly for both people, and neither person >needs to focus too heavily on the concept of detachment. >But there are those challenging times when one person is &...

krislee · krislee

Hello everyone. My name is Kristi and both of my parents are alcoholics and my husband is a drug addict. I want to talk about my husband right now. We have 2 wonderful boys together (my oldest is his stepson). When I met my husband he was 18 and I was 24. I am not exactly sur...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hello roomies, I was going to do this last night, but I guess I was pretty stunned by it to think clearly. I need your help and infinite wisdom here. It's not earth shattering, but strange. There is this woman who is in my A's Home Group. He loves this group and it's the only one he's stuck with this...

ditto · ditto

I talked to him today. I told him that I would like a divorce. I asked if we could keep it civil and not fight as we have not been married that long. I have asked for only what I brought into the marriage. I have told him that what he brought into the marriage is his. He is very angry and up...

mastiff · mastiff

God is good. All four biopsies came back negative for cancer. whhoooow what a relief finding out that news was. I only talked to his M.A. today, tomarrow i will talk to the doc himself and find out what he wants to do with the "pre-cancerous cells that are there. I'm just plum t...

Kim · Kim

It got worse. It kept getting worse. He has threatened me with a lot these last fews days. He has done none of them. He has caused misery beyone belief, and misery I shouldn't allow him to make me feel. But I do, just the same. He has never been this vindictive. But, I guess I never had st...

Jersey · Jersey

My A came to me tonight and apologized for everything I have had to go through with his drinking (This is a first....he always says 'don't apologize if you're if just going to keep doing it'). He said he knew he had to be done drinking and is going to a meeting tomorrow night. The first...

poenacanalis · poenacanalis

I was just browsing the web and I found this website. I'm 20 years old and live with my parents while going to school full-time. I moved out for awhile because I couldn't stand being in the same room with my mother. She drinks every single night and acts completely unaware of what has...

nycbt · nycbt

On Saturday the wedding. We went in after the cermony and it was champane and strawberrys, I said to my self here we go with the alchol right away. Well I said to my self there is nothing I can do to stop him from drinking. But I was very tense over it. I had to trust him or the wedding would become a problem. I kn...

hudsond · hudsond

This is the first thing I have done towards AL-Anon. I'm not sure where to begin. I have been married for 2 1/2 years to an alcoholic/addict. He went to rehab in April. Got out saying how it was going to be hard, but he had changed. He did really good for 3 and 1/2 months.&n...

Jersey · Jersey

I'm so tired of the same games and it makes me angry that I get sucked into it. In a nut shell: He gets drunk, I get emotional (sad, angry, ect.), he passes out, I'm up half the night with anxiety, mulling over the events, our future, ect., in my mind. The next morning he might have a hang over...

browneyes · browneyes

Hi All Hope everyone is doing ok. Just wanted to share some good things that I have been doing for myself and children. After my A took out more than 600 dollars last month for drugs, I was upset to say the least. So I went and opened up savings accounts for me and my children, in cas...

UncleLou · UncleLou

Need to vent some other stuff again. See my last post for some background. Went out to dinner/movie/coffee with my AA sponsor and some others last night. My son calls me several times during the movie so I finally pick up my phone. Says he’s at a friend’s house and wants to know if I can come pick him up wi...

whitie · whitie

I just want to thank you all for sharing your E,S,&H. I decided to journal today. It's been about a year, I know my bad as my son would say! Anyway it's a great way for me to see my progress just when I'm starting to feel stuck, like I haven't grown at all. This program and you people have given me my life ba...

mastiff · mastiff

With all those who lost their lives on this day with the terriorist attack in mind, i was praying for their familys. Today must be a hard day for them. And all the thinking of today got me thinking of tomarrow. I wonder if they would have known there won't be a tomarrow if...

dadrrb1 · dadrrb1

Two Wolves One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between 2 "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy,sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment,...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

SEPTEMBER 10 >Self-Approval > > >Since childhood, some of us have been trying to get >approval, trying to get people to like us and think highly >of us. We may be afraid people will leave us if they >disapprove of our actions. We may look for approval from >peop...

Kim · Kim

Well, he's topped himself. He calls to leave me a message that he's stopped payment on the insurance check and that he checked with the police already and that since we are married there's nothing I can do b/c it's considered marital property. So there you have it...he has become truly evil.&nb...

sunny1 · sunny1

Well hello, this is my first time to your site. have been feeling overwhelmed the past week and to top it off I have missplaced or maybe have even lost my Courage to change book. I missed my meeting this week and it was the first one since I started the program back in May. I fell upon thi...

englishgirl86 · englishgirl86

hi, i'm new. i'm from england as the name suggests. i was just wondering if anyone is in a similar situation to me and could offer any advice. my dad has been drinking heavily for a few years now. he refuses to seek professional help as says he can deal with it on his own; he can't. almost a year has past since...

gottago · gottago

I have been with my husband for 17 years, I have three children, 20, 17 and 15. My older two children are from my first marriage and my 15 year son is from my current marriage. I currently support the entire family as my husband has not had a steady job in two years. My job is very demanding an...

Powerless · Powerless

It is official! I have lost what little was left of my mind. I have gone crazy, completely around the bend. I fell into his crazy-making rollercoaster ride again. He says he can't live with my ten year old son anymore...I actually suggested that my son live with his father for a whil...

Shan · Shan

This is my first time here. I have read some posts and feel I can get some good advice. My boyfriend and I met 2 years ago. One month after being together he told me that he was a cocaine user. He knew that I felt very strongly against it and knew he had to quit if he wanted to be with me.&n...

kimmie · kimmie

Well things are going well, I guess. My "A" seems real happy when he wakes up and all day, and he's been joking around with me and laughing. Which is all great, but he wont talk about recovery. I tried to bring it up again and he gets snappy and doesnt want to talk about it. This wo...

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	reprogramming (Preview) SEPTEMBER 13 >Times of Reprogramming > >Recovery is not all tiresome, unrewarded work. There are >times of joy and rest, times when we comfortably practice >what we have learned. There are times of change, times >when we struggle to learn something new or overcome a >partic...	rosie light shines	0	578	Sep 14, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Boundries - II (Preview) I did my first boundry tonight. My A came home drunk again...and went to take a "nap" in the basement. Said he'd like dinner at 7. I said ok. I went to get him up at 6:55 and was unable to get much response. He finally grunted and I told him dinner was in 5 minutes and if he wasn't there I would eat without hi...	sandie123	4	699	Sep 14, 2005 by marmare
	Up and down, is it normal? (Preview) Just when I start feeling like I am doing it, making good choices, and moving forward, then I hear something about my "A", and the rollercoaster starts all over again! The Pastor friend that staged the intervention with me, heard from my "A", via email. He asked for forgivene...	Candacem	1	615	Sep 14, 2005 by marmare
	Thanks alanon ozoz (Preview) Computer works..thank you, o oz of cyberspace. Don't know who is behind the magic curtain but I appreciate that I can get into chatroom now! toto	toto12	0	556	Sep 14, 2005 by toto12
	Update on my "turmoil" (Preview) i want to thank everyone for your kind replies to my post "in turmoil" a week ago. your posts were right-on, and, of course, i have decided to stay, and not move back to my home town. my dad had to leave town again last weekend, so i went and stayed with my mom last weekend too. i did a lo...	search41	1	743	Sep 14, 2005 by kerry5
	THE PAST COUPLE OF DAYS (Preview) The past couple of days have been good. My A hasn't drank anything. He has even taking the medicence the doctor gave him to take. He suffers from anixtey. He sees to be doing better. For me I have started reading the books more and trying not to let my guard down to much. I am hoping that things stay this way b...	nycbt	0	611	Sep 14, 2005 by nycbt
	Need Alt Chair Wed 9/14 (Preview) Hi roomies! Much to my disappointment, I will not be able to attend the Wednesday night meeting or fulfill my duties to be "door woman" with my good friend David (aka Elvis)- I have Open House night at school and I doubt if I will be home before 10. If any OP's are available to help him out, I would appreci...	cabecka	1	599	Sep 14, 2005 by shimo
	Business Meeting (Preview) Hi (((((((everyone!)))))))))) Just a reminder that we will be having our monthly business meeting tonight (Wednesday) in the chat room at 6 p.m. Central (I leave it to you to do that conversion for your respective time zones ) Hope to see you there! David	david62	0	563	Sep 14, 2005 by david62
	hi all (Preview) Hi everyone, Sorry I have been away for so long, I just can't seem to take my recovery seriously or help wanting quick fixes. I totally understand that I have problems that need addressing as well as my a, so I know I can't blame my a for my life o...	holly123	4	675	Sep 13, 2005 by gardengal
	today has been hard. (Preview) Hello (((((roomies))))): Last night was the last I heard from my A. He had called to finally give me the VIN# for the car. I ordered the title, and now it's done. He switched over his phone to his name. I am off the hook. whew. The last of the conversation he said that he was goi...	Kim	2	630	Sep 13, 2005 by marmare
	Still needing prayers,,,,, (Preview) Hello alanon friends, Thank you so much for all the support and prayers. I just now read your replies from my other post. Just when you think things couldn't get worse they do. My mom and I came down with the flu and ended up in ER Friday. I could not communicate much with her all night and then in th...	cdb	8	702	Sep 13, 2005 by Flora123
	addictive behavour ? (Preview) Need some input here please.. Recently a friend of mine became very angery at me for reasons I was unsure of, said some things that were not very nice and it really upset me very badly, I shared my story with someone who told me I am an addict because I let people abuse me. Well I have never heard of this ter...	camra	4	622	Sep 13, 2005 by camra
	Boundries (Preview) I could use some help with how to set boundries. I am at the point where I know that I need to start setting boundries. I have even started a list of the boundries I want to start setting. I'm just at a loss as to how to start setting them. I know I cant set them when my A has been drinking, and that is every ni...	sandie123	5	780	Sep 13, 2005 by rosie light shines
	MY 1 YR (Preview) On Aug 5 my husband was acting kind of funny. He was talking about wanting to be with his old friends that he wasn't able to see them because they were drinking. He was thinking of smoking pot again and he was thinking of drinking again. He was sober for 6 months at this point. On Aug 6 my husband again was a...	nycbt	3	585	Sep 13, 2005 by marmare
	Cant Pick Our Family (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) Well I have not fallen off the face of the earth. Haven't been online much at home due to home projects trying to get accomplished before winter arrives and all my monies will be spent on heating bills (ugh!!). In retrospect however, I think I should have put...	AlaMom	1	625	Sep 13, 2005 by marmare
	empty promises (Preview) I just read the roller coaster post and wow!! i am certainly not alone. I also read a reply about journaling and remembered that I had said that on the last ride. Perhaps I will start tonight. I am sitting here while my A is "at a meeting" I highly doubt that is the case, as I have that gut feeling that he h...	confused	4	774	Sep 13, 2005 by canadianguy
	Feeling like a FOOL yet AGAIN (Preview) Here I sit it is 1am and my A was suppose to be home hours ago. NO phone call nothing. I am sure he is sitting somewhere with his friends drunk.. Just when I think I am making progress, this happens and I realize I am so LOST.. My heart is racing and I cant believe he is doing this AGAIN.. We are sup...	Tammy	6	637	Sep 13, 2005 by marmare
	Look forward (Preview) I am looking forward to a nice relaxing evening. I am hoping that nothing happens, but it any thing does there nothing I can do. I am however going to try and go to a meeting. I am glad this work day is going well talk to you all again.	nycbt	1	576	Sep 13, 2005 by shimo
	Footprints and Hopefull,,your losses (Preview) I am so sorry for both your losses that you talked about yesterday in the room. My heart goes out to you as you grieve. I cannot know how it feels to have a loved one die of alcoholism but I can feel a tiny bit of how you must feel. I prayed hard for both of you last night as I could feel some of your pain. I hope my ta...	cdb	1	628	Sep 13, 2005 by ednaxray
	trusting in the process of healing (Preview) SEPTEMBER 12 >Healing > >We should learn not to grow impatient with the slow >healing process of time. We should discipline ourselves >to recognize that there are many steps to be taken along >the highway leading from sorrow to renewed serenity.... > #######ROSIE>&g...	rosie light shines	0	597	Sep 13, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Listerine, mouthwash, Mints, pills (Preview) Hi, the post below reminded me of my husband. He would drink Listerine for the alcohol, he would use mouthwash in his truck, breath mints abounded in his truck, pockets. Anything to cover up his drinking (even though I knew). I would get sick at the thought of his drin...	wallsal55	2	802	Sep 13, 2005 by debi
	Wierd update (Preview) Hello, Just thought I'd bring you up to date on the wierd situation. She called me again this morning at work. This was 6am in the morning folks. I made it clear to her that this was totallly unacceptable behavior as was her past behavior. I also made it clear that if she continued to talk to the employ...	Karilynn	4	616	Sep 13, 2005 by jj
	Today's ODAT hits home (Preview) Today's message in the ODAT talks about a husband and wife who have this beautiful home with all this great material stuff, but their relationship is wrought with unrelenting bitterness. Neither one of them gives an inch or is willing to compromise their needs, wants, and desires. So i...	twinmom2	0	619	Sep 13, 2005 by twinmom2
	Both Sides of the Fence Sept.15/05 (Preview) Good Morning All, Yes, I am still around. I have been having alot of Fybro trouble ans when I am feeling better, I am trying to catch up on house things. When I do my morning readings & prayers, I always include the Serenity Prayer. I have added a little bit to it and though I would lik...	kathy570	0	611	Sep 13, 2005 by kathy570
	continuing to stay off the ride (Preview) Well, he called this morning after asking him to leave me alone. Asked if I had called him (I hadn't). I said "No" and merely stated that while you're on the phone I would be going to the DMV today and needed the info on the car. (VIN# etc). He didn't have it and would call h...	Kim	3	666	Sep 13, 2005 by megan
	the pity pot (Preview) Feeling quite anxious again. My ex A has gone to Canada for two weeks (we live in the UK) , mostly to visit his girlfriend, but i understand AA has paid for his flights because he will be attending meetings in toronto as a guest speaker. Feel so angry and hurt that he is seeing this women and i w...	melanieL	0	578	Sep 13, 2005 by melanieL
	HOW IMPORTANT IS IT? (Preview) This slogan helps us gain perspective. If we can take the time to think about what really matters to us, we may include such concerns as health, serenity, adequate food and shelter and loving support from others. Each of us is free to determine for ourselves what truly is of value, but most of us agree th...	gardengal	4	793	Sep 13, 2005 by Anew123
	Natural Highs (Preview) *Natural Highs* Think about them one at a time BEFORE going on to the next one... 1. Falling in love. 2. Laughing so hard your face hurts. 3. A hot shower. 4. No lines at the supermarket 5. A special glance. 6. Getting mail 7. Taking a drive on a pretty road. 8.. Hearing your favorite song...	kerry5	4	681	Sep 13, 2005 by cedarpines
	haxigonian XX (Preview) [[ room ]] *thank you all for putting up with me this last month!* I found another healthy obsession this town has...gardening. Someone I knew from a meeting introduced me to the area called Ladd's Addition. There is one main garden, with four subordinate, seperate ones. Roses and rhododendr...	haximon	3	657	Sep 13, 2005 by Anew123
	what's happening computer?? (Preview) Dear friends, Once again locked out of the chatroom. It says webmaster closed......before it even enters. Is it me? gRRRR: TOTO	toto12	4	602	Sep 12, 2005 by cedarpines
	Hubby advice (Preview) I don't know if my hubby is a full blown alcolholic or just a problem drink/alcolhol abuser. However, he is 34 years old and acts as if he is still in college. I have asked him to seek help for his drinking but his only answer is "I don't have a problem". He isn't abusive or nasty. He holds a very good job and lo...	JSSuggs	4	727	Sep 12, 2005 by abbyal
	Am I in the right place? (Preview) Forgive me, I don't know if I am in the right place to be doing this or not. I feel at the end of my emotional rope here and need to reach out. They don't have Alanon meetings close to me and I am not sure what other resources are available to me. My story, I met and fell in love with a fel...	Candacem	8	1035	Sep 12, 2005 by Candacem
	I got of the coaster for today (Preview) He called back this evening to see how I was doing. "not well" was all I could muster. "me neither" is all he could reply. I said that I think it's better that he leaves me alone for a good while. I hung up the phone. I'm just too tired. The other day mar posted about Fridays and how...	Kim	5	714	Sep 12, 2005 by Maria123
	keeping at it..not giving up (Preview) Keep at It Keep practicing your recovery behaviors, even when they feel awkward, even when they haven't quite taken yet, even if you don't get it yet. ######ROSIE>>>>well that is what i am doing...i made an i love me tape casette with loving words to me, i love...	rosie light shines	0	686	Sep 12, 2005 by rosie light shines
	I'm a Fool (Preview) I filed for divorce in June from my A husband because I couldn't take the turmoil anymore. We have been together 17 years and he's still in the house...won't leave until the judge orders it. I'm not leaving because I want my son with his friends in the neighborhood and I feel emotion...	Heather1	6	718	Sep 12, 2005 by Heather1
	she wants to drop out (Preview) I a having a REALLY hard time letting go today. My stepdaughter moved out 6 months ago. My husband and I have had custody of her since she was 8 and she is now 17. She moved back with her mother who for most of that time was not in her life at all. Years without contact. We had fought for custody of her for 5 years...	confused	2	916	Sep 12, 2005 by confused
	i can DETACH..i can FEEL (Preview) SEPTEMBER 11 >Conflict and Detachment >------ >In a relationship, there are those wonderful times when >things go smoothly for both people, and neither person >needs to focus too heavily on the concept of detachment. >But there are those challenging times when one person is &...	rosie light shines	0	558	Sep 12, 2005 by rosie light shines
	New to this - My story (Preview) Hello everyone. My name is Kristi and both of my parents are alcoholics and my husband is a drug addict. I want to talk about my husband right now. We have 2 wonderful boys together (my oldest is his stepson). When I met my husband he was 18 and I was 24. I am not exactly sur...	krislee	2	646	Sep 12, 2005 by hudsond
	This is wierd, what to do? (Preview) Hello roomies, I was going to do this last night, but I guess I was pretty stunned by it to think clearly. I need your help and infinite wisdom here. It's not earth shattering, but strange. There is this woman who is in my A's Home Group. He loves this group and it's the only one he's stuck with this...	Karilynn	12	1161	Sep 12, 2005 by gardengal
	I asked for a divorce (Preview) I talked to him today. I told him that I would like a divorce. I asked if we could keep it civil and not fight as we have not been married that long. I have asked for only what I brought into the marriage. I have told him that what he brought into the marriage is his. He is very angry and up...	ditto	6	721	Sep 12, 2005 by gardengal
	biopsy report (Preview) God is good. All four biopsies came back negative for cancer. whhoooow what a relief finding out that news was. I only talked to his M.A. today, tomarrow i will talk to the doc himself and find out what he wants to do with the "pre-cancerous cells that are there. I'm just plum t...	mastiff	20	1101	Sep 12, 2005 by liza
	the rollercoaster (Preview) It got worse. It kept getting worse. He has threatened me with a lot these last fews days. He has done none of them. He has caused misery beyone belief, and misery I shouldn't allow him to make me feel. But I do, just the same. He has never been this vindictive. But, I guess I never had st...	Kim	4	675	Sep 12, 2005 by canadianguy
	Getting sober? (Preview) My A came to me tonight and apologized for everything I have had to go through with his drinking (This is a first....he always says 'don't apologize if you're if just going to keep doing it'). He said he knew he had to be done drinking and is going to a meeting tomorrow night. The first...	Jersey	4	692	Sep 12, 2005 by bcanuck
	new here (Preview) I was just browsing the web and I found this website. I'm 20 years old and live with my parents while going to school full-time. I moved out for awhile because I couldn't stand being in the same room with my mother. She drinks every single night and acts completely unaware of what has...	poenacanalis	6	680	Sep 12, 2005 by bcanuck
	i LEARNED (Preview) On Saturday the wedding. We went in after the cermony and it was champane and strawberrys, I said to my self here we go with the alchol right away. Well I said to my self there is nothing I can do to stop him from drinking. But I was very tense over it. I had to trust him or the wedding would become a problem. I kn...	nycbt	1	776	Sep 12, 2005 by gknee
	new to this (Preview) This is the first thing I have done towards AL-Anon. I'm not sure where to begin. I have been married for 2 1/2 years to an alcoholic/addict. He went to rehab in April. Got out saying how it was going to be hard, but he had changed. He did really good for 3 and 1/2 months.&n...	hudsond	8	807	Sep 12, 2005 by hudsond
	sucked in (Preview) I'm so tired of the same games and it makes me angry that I get sucked into it. In a nut shell: He gets drunk, I get emotional (sad, angry, ect.), he passes out, I'm up half the night with anxiety, mulling over the events, our future, ect., in my mind. The next morning he might have a hang over...	Jersey	5	784	Sep 12, 2005 by Jersey
	What do you do? (Preview) Hi All Hope everyone is doing ok. Just wanted to share some good things that I have been doing for myself and children. After my A took out more than 600 dollars last month for drugs, I was upset to say the least. So I went and opened up savings accounts for me and my children, in cas...	browneyes	4	739	Sep 11, 2005 by lin0606
	Does she WANT me to relapse? (Preview) Need to vent some other stuff again. See my last post for some background. Went out to dinner/movie/coffee with my AA sponsor and some others last night. My son calls me several times during the movie so I finally pick up my phone. Says he’s at a friend’s house and wants to know if I can come pick him up wi...	UncleLou	14	1032	Sep 11, 2005 by lin0606
	Thank you (Preview) I just want to thank you all for sharing your E,S,&H. I decided to journal today. It's been about a year, I know my bad as my son would say! Anyway it's a great way for me to see my progress just when I'm starting to feel stuck, like I haven't grown at all. This program and you people have given me my life ba...	whitie	0	516	Sep 11, 2005 by whitie
	in remembrance (Preview) With all those who lost their lives on this day with the terriorist attack in mind, i was praying for their familys. Today must be a hard day for them. And all the thinking of today got me thinking of tomarrow. I wonder if they would have known there won't be a tomarrow if...	mastiff	1	571	Sep 11, 2005 by Karilynn
	Wisdom for the week (Preview) Two Wolves One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between 2 "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy,sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment,...	dadrrb1	4	757	Sep 11, 2005 by englishgirl86
	self approval and blind faith in the process (Preview) SEPTEMBER 10 >Self-Approval > > >Since childhood, some of us have been trying to get >approval, trying to get people to like us and think highly >of us. We may be afraid people will leave us if they >disapprove of our actions. We may look for approval from >peop...	rosie light shines	1	673	Sep 11, 2005 by Powerless
	it only gets worse and he gets nastier (Preview) Well, he's topped himself. He calls to leave me a message that he's stopped payment on the insurance check and that he checked with the police already and that since we are married there's nothing I can do b/c it's considered marital property. So there you have it...he has become truly evil.&nb...	Kim	5	840	Sep 11, 2005 by Diva
	words of courage pls (Preview) Well hello, this is my first time to your site. have been feeling overwhelmed the past week and to top it off I have missplaced or maybe have even lost my Courage to change book. I missed my meeting this week and it was the first one since I started the program back in May. I fell upon thi...	sunny1	5	896	Sep 11, 2005 by lin0606
	anyone got any advice? (Preview) hi, i'm new. i'm from england as the name suggests. i was just wondering if anyone is in a similar situation to me and could offer any advice. my dad has been drinking heavily for a few years now. he refuses to seek professional help as says he can deal with it on his own; he can't. almost a year has past since...	englishgirl86	5	856	Sep 11, 2005 by Karilynn
	I need help (Preview) I have been with my husband for 17 years, I have three children, 20, 17 and 15. My older two children are from my first marriage and my 15 year son is from my current marriage. I currently support the entire family as my husband has not had a steady job in two years. My job is very demanding an...	gottago	4	842	Sep 11, 2005 by Annie
	God save me from my own insanity (Preview) It is official! I have lost what little was left of my mind. I have gone crazy, completely around the bend. I fell into his crazy-making rollercoaster ride again. He says he can't live with my ten year old son anymore...I actually suggested that my son live with his father for a whil...	Powerless	3	872	Sep 11, 2005 by Karilynn
	help me to understand (Preview) This is my first time here. I have read some posts and feel I can get some good advice. My boyfriend and I met 2 years ago. One month after being together he told me that he was a cocaine user. He knew that I felt very strongly against it and knew he had to quit if he wanted to be with me.&n...	Shan	6	891	Sep 10, 2005 by Christy
	Update on husbands recovery... (Preview) Well things are going well, I guess. My "A" seems real happy when he wakes up and all day, and he's been joking around with me and laughing. Which is all great, but he wont talk about recovery. I tried to bring it up again and he gets snappy and doesnt want to talk about it. This wo...	kimmie	2	893	Sep 10, 2005 by canadianguy
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