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Twinkies · Twinkies

AH had nothing to drink Tuesday or Wednesday. Tonight instead of the typical case of beer PLUS a six pack that he brings home nearly every other night, he brought home ONLY a six pack and drank only one. Its been at least a year since hes gone this long without getting drunk, aside from during the short vis...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today 3-26 speaks about the basic fact that alcoholism is e diseaseAnd as the first step suggests a disease over which we are powerless. The reading asks what keeps us trying to change this reality by attempting to find solutions.? IT points out that we do have a power der...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/25, talks about initial confusion over what was and was not their responsibility. They list some powerful things like: they are responsible to rid themself of anger and resentment, to be realistic in expectations, to make healthy choices, etc. There is also a list of h...

luv123 · luv123

I heard someone at a meeting say how he felt guilty just sitting at this great meeting absorbing all the good shares. That he felt he "should" say something; so he shared. I had an interesting reaction to this. First I was surprised because healing is purpose of Al-anon and I realized that self care is b...

mamalioness · mamalioness

My A brother and I had the most intense, and very satisfying chat today...I told him about my deeeep and intense step 4 work of late and how I felt about me, my program and my progress and how this program has been my saving grace......and HE jumped in and we kinda did a step 4 together...burned half my cel...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the purpose some of our character defects can serve: as defenses for those of us having lived with alcoholism. As the writer states, I also found step 4 quite difficult as any type of flaw or shortcoming felt like a failure on my part. The first time my s...

ophelia · ophelia

Hi everyone, Grateful to find this group. Thanks for reading. I've been with a wonderful man for just under a year and I love him very much. Hands down the best relationship of my middle-aged life and he felt the same. I knew he had a history of heavy drinking but I was not seeing it until last month. Th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Happy Saturday MIP family! I have had a busy week and decided to do some googling on self-care, just for me, just for today. I found 'this' and thought it worthy of sharing. As always, take what you like and leave the rest!Before you read the twelve steps of self-care, first understand the five thing...

Freetime · Freetime

Worry -- that is the topic of today's reading in our ODAT. Worrying can become a habit where we ruminate on the past and predict that dreadful things will happen in the future. The solution is living one day at a time. Using this manageable amount of time well gives us freedom from yesterday and tomorro...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Happy Thursday to all... Today's topic is about self will vs. God's will. The author is close to the end of a run at a crossroad. The easier, softer way has no view, and is a flatter surface. The challenging route is harder, yet provides a view of the ocean and way better scenery. Th...

lookingup · lookingup

my a brother ( Billy),in a bad way with his using ,now homeless n where to go,praying he can n will see he has got options , ive posted this in more detail on the mip aca board next door,sad situation.......hugs lu,,,all esh welcome.

mamalioness · mamalioness

I wasn't going to share here because it is maybe SOME alanon, lots of ACA, but thought I would share because it is a release for me...a breakthrough for me...You all have read my posts enough to know that my mother from my birth acted as if she didn't want me...I never got hugs..baby pics had my sister and n...

workinprogress · workinprogress

I have a sponsor but as I move through the steps I am becoming unsure my sponsor is right for me. I want to keep growing. I want to keep moving forward, I don't want a sponsor to pander me but I do want to be heard. I want an open conversation, not a one sided one. I am still learning to speak up for myself and ex...

lookingup · lookingup

im grateful to be where im at today in life moving forward, im content with myself,i been managing things pretty well, I plan on enjoying the outside nature again today because I know I can, this desease is insidious, I get a knock on my door every morning from bro,ive been answering ,this am I chose not...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today 3-19 speaks about the basic fact that alcoholism is e disease and a compulsions. The drinker and those interacting with himI have each been affected by the same disease "alcoholism" We believe we know how everyone should behave and try to force our way The reading p...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am trying to get my head back on after at least a week of cloudiness. I am off chocolate for a week. I did it for personal reasons. I might try giving another don't need food abstinence. I realize that this may not have anything to do w/ Program. I am noticing how giving up things have to be filled w/ somethi...

Wndrwmn · Wndrwmn

I started attending AlAnon in 2006 and went to meetings twice a week up until 2014. I moved to a new town far from home for work. I was divorced for a few years and started dating. I could tell it was not a good relationship so I broke it off. I stayed single for a year I found a group it was close to my apt. But I f...

lookingup · lookingup

has anybody here had any problems getting into meeting room,its not letting me in for some reason.....thanks in advance...lu

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading in Courage to Change, the author shares about the fourth step topic of self-worth. The author, while working through Blueprint for Progress, noticed that they had always judged themselves on the basis of their accomplishments or on what other people said about them...

El · El

Hello MIP family! I wish I could remember and give credit to the member here who stated that rather than really focusing on herself(?) she was really just distracting herself from her A. I apologize if I am not stating this correctly. However.....it's had me thinking.... I have found different t...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

I wanted to put this problem out to the group. My daughter has been an alcoholic since she was a teenager, going to multiple rehabs, and having periods of recovery usually lasting about a year or two. She has always had sleeping problems, even as a child, only sleeping 4 or 5 hours a night, and being restl...

Mikael · Mikael

My home groups topic next week is healing. Any thoughts, ideas or pages from COL? Thanks

VickiR · VickiR

Hi MIP, writing to check in with some thoughts I am always struggling with. I have a hard time accepting that I feel relief in the face of my XAH following his standard patterns of being an addict. It actually gives me a sense of calm when he acts in a way that is predictable to me. He has some short lived peri...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

I wanted to put this problem out to the group. My daughter has been an alcoholic since she was a teenager, going to multiple rehabs, and having periods of recovery usually lasting about a year or two. She has always had sleeping problems, even as a child, only sleeping 4 or 5 hours a night, and being restl...

CTKen · CTKen

Hi all, Im new to the group and havent posted before. I dont have a whole lot of people I can talk to about this and felt the need to get it off my chest. I thought this might be an appropriate place to do it.When my wife and I met, we were both heavy drinkers. Wed go out together to the bars just about every night...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/18, talks about ESH. The author says that as alanon members, our own experience, strength, and hope is all we need to help one another recover from the devastating impact of alcoholism. It suggests that the 8th tradition encourages us to help those who really want help, ins...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the magnified sense of responsibility many of us developed who grew up with alcoholism. For us, we became convinced that we were meant to manage it all, fix everything around us, and be focused on everyone around us, rather than our own selves. The writ...

JerryF · JerryF

Keep watch over David G as I just saw the news of an active shooter/ing In New Zealand. David is favorite and blessed MIP Brother and I cannot imagine any harms coming to him and his family. ((((()))))

MellyBobelly · MellyBobelly

Hello people! I didn't intend to post here today so i don't really have a relevant topic to discuss. I popped on to check my messages, and one particularly wonderful MIP member that I chat to asked to see pictures of my new kittens. I don't know how to do that via chat so I shall post them here, because who do...

Freetime · Freetime

The writer of today's page realizes that forgiveness is not the power to judge, condemn, and then bestow forgiveness on someone. It is accepting that we are on an equal footing with every fellow human being. We all have assets and defects. Being self-righteous only separates us from others and mak...

Overcome · Overcome

Come one come all!! Newcomer meeting starting now in meeting room: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topics: Step One: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol; that our lives had become unmanageable. Alcoholism, the family disease and Open topic as it relates to alanon and alc...

mamalioness · mamalioness

this isn't recovery, but its a precious pet I found this horrid wound/scratch on my big dog's left flank and the swelling is huge...I check my pets..dunno HOW or when this happened, but the swelling is so bad I can't take her to vet till Tuesday, and she isn't in pain, just terribly swollen like 6" back fr...

inhealinghands · inhealinghands

Hi again, I don't want to be greedy with all your kind guidance... but I have one very crazy-making issue going on, and I would love some feedback. Basically, I cannot stay calm while waiting for a response to a text message from basically anyone at this point. It doesn't matter who it is, or how low-stak...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's reading is one I love, love, love! It's about a man who sits under a tree on a beautiful day, not realizing it was full of pigeons. In a short while, the pigeons do what pigeons do, and he shouted at them and stormed away resenting the pigeons as well as their 'business'. He then realized tha...

mamalioness · mamalioness

THE KEY IS WILLINGNESSOnce we have placed the key of willingness in the lockand have the door ever so slightly open, we find thatwe can always open it some more.TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 35The willingness to give up my pride and self-will to aPower greater than myself has proved to be the o...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Intimacy"What many have described as love or intimacy before reaching Program was actually codependence or rigid control." Before we came to program, we thought intimacy was that secret word that pertained to sex and making love. We thought it was about taking care of the other person, doing for...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author suggests that step 7 (Humbly asked HP to remove our shortcomings) is a step that we might take with joy and humor. The author shares that, while they have had the experience of working step seven tearfully and on their knees, that is not the only approach to thi...

luv123 · luv123

so i thought I would write myself a program letter for next time the emotional flashbacks come up.... next time i volunteer at the local food bank. It took me a while to realize what it was that was so hard about it. I was berating myself for just being too tired afterward and for being negative rather tha...

inhealinghands · inhealinghands

Hi there all, thank you for being here as a resource. I'm a returning member of about 3 weeks, though I went to a few meetings about 8 years ago when I was with my A partner. Apparently I wasn't in the place to really understand Alanon back then. Now we have been separated for 2 years, and I see that I am not get...

a4l · a4l

It has been a good long while; some of it due to a lack of internet connection. It was probably a good thing, as I find limiting net time difficult. Like the subject line, I'm facing one of those times when everything is going very well so there has to be one obstacle, in the form of another human being. I...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about gratitude lists and an attitude of gratitude. The writer tells of seeking things to put onto a list in the beginning, and how they did not really feel very grateful when finished at the start of the journey. Their mind was still weighted down with the negative thinking that h...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Before alcohol got its grips into my family, my AH and I had managed to build a strong, healthy emotional foundation for ourselves and our children. We were partners in every sense of the word and I never worried about having to hold it all together by myself. Seeing that foundation begin to slowly crum...

Fedora · Fedora

My spirit is so tired of trying hard. Of trying hard not to be angry, trying hard to let go and let consequences fall as they will, trying to pretend to the world that everything is So Great. Yesterday was so hard. I dragged myself into work and fantasized about telling everyone the truth, "I have an AH....

a4l · a4l

I think I saw one of our members mention phone in meetings a few times. I have a voip plan with unlinmited calls to Australia and really need a meeting. PM me please if you can help?

Bo · Bo

While many people don't believe it, and do not embrace it...alanon is a program of change. We learn to change our -- thinking, mindset, actions, reactions, behavior, and so much more. However, I constantly here...change is not easy. I've learned from a great deal of advanced adult education, learn...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the slogan live and let live. The writer describes having some difficulty with this slogan until hearing a speaker at a meeting compare the concept to tending an acre of land. While it is important to tend the land it is equally important not to go be...

joker · joker

I have been feeling drained by others lately. Maybe its because I have been around a dry drunk friend and he sees all things in a negative way. I feel this person is very needy and its draining me. Yes he has medical issues but what am I to do about it? I can fix the medical pain. I can not take it away. I am not a d...

Naomippb · Naomippb

I am lost on what I should be doing. My husband was discharged a week ago from rehab. I went to several meetings while he was there about relapse prevention and felt like I had a general idea on what my part was. Now I am not sure. My husband tells me what he is thinking and then when I give him my thoughts, then...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/11, speaks of the ability to laugh and forgive ourselves, because some of our defects of character are very hard to shake. The author can recall when at an earlier time they hid in shame from their flaws, and beat themself up. The author wants to try to accept more, and let go o...

WebHelper · WebHelper

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el-cee · el-cee

I thought I would share that miracles just keep happening. Ive been praying and letting go and truly letting God maybe for the first time and after the last crisis it seems that God has answered my prayers. My son has reached out for help and his gf has been reading the books and had some peaceful days. I kn...

Freetime · Freetime

The writer of today's page in Courage to Change likes finding out about new ways to work the program. At a meeting, a basket of slogans was passed around, with the idea that each person would take a slogan and try to apply it to their day. The writer got the slogan "Easy Does It." The next day, the writer w...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading is about making positive changes in recovery. The author suggests that watching her son's silkworms helped her to see how transformations can be made from perceived negatives to positives. Silkworms are fat and greedy creatures, yet out of their own substanc...

joker · joker

I am in a grateful place finally. Its been an incredible painful journey but I am finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. My daughter who has serious mental health issues and in hospital currently, is making progress. She had been charged a few years back with assault on a police officer and t...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today 3-5 speaks about the basic alanon tools of the Steps and the Serenity prayer.. The reading points out that these simple tools can be used to face any problem even those not caused b the disease of alcoholism . It is suggested that when we are living by the alanon princi...

JerryF · JerryF

Good Morning MIP Family I got triggered by HP to bring this story to the board because it fits so well within the dialogue HP has with me. You will find the story in the January 2017 "The FORUM" on page 3. The FORUM is our monthly magazine and a real winner for me. I came across this offering by Buddy H., of...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that Al-Anon helped them to realize that no one can know what is in their heart or what their needs are unless they share them with others. In addition, the author shares that they cannot expect any one person to meet ALL of their ne...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Man is in love, and loves what vanishes; what more is there to say?~W. B. YeatsThroughout our lives we repeatedly make attachments and lose them. We are taken with the rich color of leaves in the fall, but we know that this beauty will soon be replaced with stark, empty branches. We give ourselves to ca...

Aloha · Aloha

Hi everyone, I've been silent for a while and away from this board. Still going to meetings and working with my sponsor, but I'm finding that I've managed to jump off a cliff recently so wanted to come in and absorb and also reason things out. I was relating to Pinkchip in his post about needing to find the...

andromeda · andromeda

Hello everyone, So, my ex boyfriends ex wife called me today to tell me that he is getting engaged to his new girlfriend, whom he has only been dating for 5-6 months. A part of me was in shock since he claimed he'd never get married and wasn't interested in it EVER again. But, a part of me was grateful that...

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	I hate not believing (Preview) AH had nothing to drink Tuesday or Wednesday. Tonight instead of the typical case of beer PLUS a six pack that he brings home nearly every other night, he brought home ONLY a six pack and drank only one. Its been at least a year since hes gone this long without getting drunk, aside from during the short vis...	Twinkies	20	5561	Mar 26, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	ODAT REading 3-26 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today 3-26 speaks about the basic fact that alcoholism is e diseaseAnd as the first step suggests a disease over which we are powerless. The reading asks what keeps us trying to change this reality by attempting to find solutions.? IT points out that we do have a power der...	hotrod	5	3905	Mar 26, 2019 by Lyne
	C2C, 3/25 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/25, talks about initial confusion over what was and was not their responsibility. They list some powerful things like: they are responsible to rid themself of anger and resentment, to be realistic in expectations, to make healthy choices, etc. There is also a list of h...	Lyne	5	1476	Mar 25, 2019 by mamalioness
	Learning EMOTIONAL BOUNDARIES (Preview) I heard someone at a meeting say how he felt guilty just sitting at this great meeting absorbing all the good shares. That he felt he "should" say something; so he shared. I had an interesting reaction to this. First I was surprised because healing is purpose of Al-anon and I realized that self care is b...	luv123	5	4792	Mar 25, 2019 by Aloha
	He MIGHT work the steps with me?????? (Preview) My A brother and I had the most intense, and very satisfying chat today...I told him about my deeeep and intense step 4 work of late and how I felt about me, my program and my progress and how this program has been my saving grace......and HE jumped in and we kinda did a step 4 together...burned half my cel...	mamalioness	5	929	Mar 24, 2019 by JerryF
	Hope for Today Mar 24 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the purpose some of our character defects can serve: as defenses for those of us having lived with alcoholism. As the writer states, I also found step 4 quite difficult as any type of flaw or shortcoming felt like a failure on my part. The first time my s...	yanksfan51	9	2617	Mar 24, 2019 by JerryF
	Can't get my head around it (Preview) Hi everyone, Grateful to find this group. Thanks for reading. I've been with a wonderful man for just under a year and I love him very much. Hands down the best relationship of my middle-aged life and he felt the same. I knew he had a history of heavy drinking but I was not seeing it until last month. Th...	ophelia	20	1473	Mar 23, 2019 by JerryF
	Self Care - 12 Inspirational Steps to Consider (Preview) Happy Saturday MIP family! I have had a busy week and decided to do some googling on self-care, just for me, just for today. I found 'this' and thought it worthy of sharing. As always, take what you like and leave the rest!Before you read the twelve steps of self-care, first understand the five thing...	Iamhere	6	2805	Mar 23, 2019 by Iamhere
	ODAT - March 22 (Preview) Worry -- that is the topic of today's reading in our ODAT. Worrying can become a habit where we ruminate on the past and predict that dreadful things will happen in the future. The solution is living one day at a time. Using this manageable amount of time well gives us freedom from yesterday and tomorro...	Freetime	5	1392	Mar 23, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 3/21/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Happy Thursday to all... Today's topic is about self will vs. God's will. The author is close to the end of a run at a crossroad. The easier, softer way has no view, and is a flatter surface. The challenging route is harder, yet provides a view of the ocean and way better scenery. Th...	Iamhere	5	2501	Mar 23, 2019 by mamalioness
	Needing prayers (Preview) my a brother ( Billy),in a bad way with his using ,now homeless n where to go,praying he can n will see he has got options , ive posted this in more detail on the mip aca board next door,sad situation.......hugs lu,,,all esh welcome.	lookingup	22	8344	Mar 23, 2019 by lookingup
	WHEN she was my MOM (Preview) I wasn't going to share here because it is maybe SOME alanon, lots of ACA, but thought I would share because it is a release for me...a breakthrough for me...You all have read my posts enough to know that my mother from my birth acted as if she didn't want me...I never got hugs..baby pics had my sister and n...	mamalioness	11	993	Mar 23, 2019 by luv123
	Sponsorship Questions (Preview) I have a sponsor but as I move through the steps I am becoming unsure my sponsor is right for me. I want to keep growing. I want to keep moving forward, I don't want a sponsor to pander me but I do want to be heard. I want an open conversation, not a one sided one. I am still learning to speak up for myself and ex...	workinprogress	9	5639	Mar 23, 2019 by Iamhere
	GA (Preview) im grateful to be where im at today in life moving forward, im content with myself,i been managing things pretty well, I plan on enjoying the outside nature again today because I know I can, this desease is insidious, I get a knock on my door every morning from bro,ive been answering ,this am I chose not...	lookingup	7	6024	Mar 22, 2019 by Bo
	C2C Reading 3-19 (Preview) The C2C reading for today 3-19 speaks about the basic fact that alcoholism is e disease and a compulsions. The drinker and those interacting with himI have each been affected by the same disease "alcoholism" We believe we know how everyone should behave and try to force our way The reading p...	hotrod	6	2821	Mar 22, 2019 by mamalioness
	why am I here? for recovery of course. (Preview) I am trying to get my head back on after at least a week of cloudiness. I am off chocolate for a week. I did it for personal reasons. I might try giving another don't need food abstinence. I realize that this may not have anything to do w/ Program. I am noticing how giving up things have to be filled w/ somethi...	Hoot Nanny	4	913	Mar 22, 2019 by Bo
	Coming back to Alanon (Preview) I started attending AlAnon in 2006 and went to meetings twice a week up until 2014. I moved to a new town far from home for work. I was divorced for a few years and started dating. I could tell it was not a good relationship so I broke it off. I stayed single for a year I found a group it was close to my apt. But I f...	Wndrwmn	12	3165	Mar 21, 2019 by Iamhere
	meeting room (Preview) has anybody here had any problems getting into meeting room,its not letting me in for some reason.....thanks in advance...lu	lookingup	4	810	Mar 21, 2019 by lookingup
	Courage to Change March 20 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading in Courage to Change, the author shares about the fourth step topic of self-worth. The author, while working through Blueprint for Progress, noticed that they had always judged themselves on the basis of their accomplishments or on what other people said about them...	Skorpi	5	727	Mar 20, 2019 by Iamhere
	Distracting Myself (Preview) Hello MIP family! I wish I could remember and give credit to the member here who stated that rather than really focusing on herself(?) she was really just distracting herself from her A. I apologize if I am not stating this correctly. However.....it's had me thinking.... I have found different t...	El	6	814	Mar 20, 2019 by El
	Sleeping problems (Preview) I wanted to put this problem out to the group. My daughter has been an alcoholic since she was a teenager, going to multiple rehabs, and having periods of recovery usually lasting about a year or two. She has always had sleeping problems, even as a child, only sleeping 4 or 5 hours a night, and being restl...	Buckeye Girl	6	761	Mar 19, 2019 by Bo
	Healing (Preview) My home groups topic next week is healing. Any thoughts, ideas or pages from COL? Thanks	Mikael	8	2796	Mar 18, 2019 by JerryF
	More thoughts and questions (Preview) Hi MIP, writing to check in with some thoughts I am always struggling with. I have a hard time accepting that I feel relief in the face of my XAH following his standard patterns of being an addict. It actually gives me a sense of calm when he acts in a way that is predictable to me. He has some short lived peri...	VickiR	12	2604	Mar 18, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Sleeping issues (Preview) I wanted to put this problem out to the group. My daughter has been an alcoholic since she was a teenager, going to multiple rehabs, and having periods of recovery usually lasting about a year or two. She has always had sleeping problems, even as a child, only sleeping 4 or 5 hours a night, and being restl...	Buckeye Girl	4	748	Mar 18, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hoping for the best... (Preview) Hi all, Im new to the group and havent posted before. I dont have a whole lot of people I can talk to about this and felt the need to get it off my chest. I thought this might be an appropriate place to do it.When my wife and I met, we were both heavy drinkers. Wed go out together to the bars just about every night...	CTKen	7	5271	Mar 18, 2019 by Bo
	C2C, 3/18 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/18, talks about ESH. The author says that as alanon members, our own experience, strength, and hope is all we need to help one another recover from the devastating impact of alcoholism. It suggests that the 8th tradition encourages us to help those who really want help, ins...	Lyne	4	565	Mar 18, 2019 by El
	Hope for Today Mar 17 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the magnified sense of responsibility many of us developed who grew up with alcoholism. For us, we became convinced that we were meant to manage it all, fix everything around us, and be focused on everyone around us, rather than our own selves. The writ...	yanksfan51	4	1341	Mar 18, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Asking my HP to (Preview) Keep watch over David G as I just saw the news of an active shooter/ing In New Zealand. David is favorite and blessed MIP Brother and I cannot imagine any harms coming to him and his family. ((((()))))	JerryF	10	2756	Mar 15, 2019 by Jill
	Hi folks :-) and also, KITTENS! (Preview) Hello people! I didn't intend to post here today so i don't really have a relevant topic to discuss. I popped on to check my messages, and one particularly wonderful MIP member that I chat to asked to see pictures of my new kittens. I don't know how to do that via chat so I shall post them here, because who do...	MellyBobelly	13	1000	Mar 15, 2019 by inhealinghands
	Courage to Change, March 15 (Preview) The writer of today's page realizes that forgiveness is not the power to judge, condemn, and then bestow forgiveness on someone. It is accepting that we are on an equal footing with every fellow human being. We all have assets and defects. Being self-righteous only separates us from others and mak...	Freetime	5	2865	Mar 15, 2019 by Iamhere
	Newcomer meeting starting now! (Preview) Come one come all!! Newcomer meeting starting now in meeting room: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topics: Step One: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol; that our lives had become unmanageable. Alcoholism, the family disease and Open topic as it relates to alanon and alc...	Overcome	2	1602	Mar 15, 2019 by Bo
	SOS_PRAYER needed (Preview) this isn't recovery, but its a precious pet I found this horrid wound/scratch on my big dog's left flank and the swelling is huge...I check my pets..dunno HOW or when this happened, but the swelling is so bad I can't take her to vet till Tuesday, and she isn't in pain, just terribly swollen like 6" back fr...	mamalioness	20	7876	Mar 15, 2019 by mamalioness
	Slogans/ideas for waiting quietly? (Preview) Hi again, I don't want to be greedy with all your kind guidance... but I have one very crazy-making issue going on, and I would love some feedback. Basically, I cannot stay calm while waiting for a response to a text message from basically anyone at this point. It doesn't matter who it is, or how low-stak...	inhealinghands	8	5371	Mar 15, 2019 by milkwood
	Courage to Change 3/14/19 (Preview) Tomorrow's reading is one I love, love, love! It's about a man who sits under a tree on a beautiful day, not realizing it was full of pigeons. In a short while, the pigeons do what pigeons do, and he shouted at them and stormed away resenting the pigeons as well as their 'business'. He then realized tha...	Iamhere	8	588	Mar 14, 2019 by mamalioness
	WILLINGNESS (Preview) THE KEY IS WILLINGNESSOnce we have placed the key of willingness in the lockand have the door ever so slightly open, we find thatwe can always open it some more.TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 35The willingness to give up my pride and self-will to aPower greater than myself has proved to be the o...	mamalioness	16	5638	Mar 14, 2019 by mamalioness
	INTIMACY (Preview) Intimacy"What many have described as love or intimacy before reaching Program was actually codependence or rigid control." Before we came to program, we thought intimacy was that secret word that pertained to sex and making love. We thought it was about taking care of the other person, doing for...	mamalioness	7	7320	Mar 14, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change March 13 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author suggests that step 7 (Humbly asked HP to remove our shortcomings) is a step that we might take with joy and humor. The author shares that, while they have had the experience of working step seven tearfully and on their knees, that is not the only approach to thi...	Skorpi	6	714	Mar 14, 2019 by mamalioness
	Letter to self on emotions (Preview) so i thought I would write myself a program letter for next time the emotional flashbacks come up.... next time i volunteer at the local food bank. It took me a while to realize what it was that was so hard about it. I was berating myself for just being too tired afterward and for being negative rather tha...	luv123	9	2608	Mar 14, 2019 by JerryF
	Pretty new and could use guidance of any kind (Preview) Hi there all, thank you for being here as a resource. I'm a returning member of about 3 weeks, though I went to a few meetings about 8 years ago when I was with my A partner. Apparently I wasn't in the place to really understand Alanon back then. Now we have been separated for 2 years, and I see that I am not get...	inhealinghands	13	2637	Mar 14, 2019 by JerryF
	choosing interpretation of life's challenges (Preview) It has been a good long while; some of it due to a lack of internet connection. It was probably a good thing, as I find limiting net time difficult. Like the subject line, I'm facing one of those times when everything is going very well so there has to be one obstacle, in the form of another human being. I...	a4l	13	5468	Mar 13, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 9/20/18 (Preview) Today's reading is about gratitude lists and an attitude of gratitude. The writer tells of seeking things to put onto a list in the beginning, and how they did not really feel very grateful when finished at the start of the journey. Their mind was still weighted down with the negative thinking that h...	Iamhere	9	729	Mar 13, 2019 by Iamhere
	Shoring up my own foundation (Preview) Before alcohol got its grips into my family, my AH and I had managed to build a strong, healthy emotional foundation for ourselves and our children. We were partners in every sense of the word and I never worried about having to hold it all together by myself. Seeing that foundation begin to slowly crum...	Twinkies	6	845	Mar 13, 2019 by KT2015
	so tired of trying (Preview) My spirit is so tired of trying hard. Of trying hard not to be angry, trying hard to let go and let consequences fall as they will, trying to pretend to the world that everything is So Great. Yesterday was so hard. I dragged myself into work and fantasized about telling everyone the truth, "I have an AH....	Fedora	10	3847	Mar 12, 2019 by luv123
	anyone iin australia know of any phone in meetings? (Preview) I think I saw one of our members mention phone in meetings a few times. I have a voip plan with unlinmited calls to Australia and really need a meeting. PM me please if you can help?	a4l	4	4984	Mar 12, 2019 by Iamhere
	Change... (Preview) While many people don't believe it, and do not embrace it...alanon is a program of change. We learn to change our -- thinking, mindset, actions, reactions, behavior, and so much more. However, I constantly here...change is not easy. I've learned from a great deal of advanced adult education, learn...	Bo	4	5155	Mar 12, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Mar 10 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the slogan live and let live. The writer describes having some difficulty with this slogan until hearing a speaker at a meeting compare the concept to tending an acre of land. While it is important to tend the land it is equally important not to go be...	yanksfan51	5	923	Mar 11, 2019 by DavidG
	Drained (Preview) I have been feeling drained by others lately. Maybe its because I have been around a dry drunk friend and he sees all things in a negative way. I feel this person is very needy and its draining me. Yes he has medical issues but what am I to do about it? I can fix the medical pain. I can not take it away. I am not a d...	joker	6	5270	Mar 11, 2019 by Bo
	My part in the recovery process (Preview) I am lost on what I should be doing. My husband was discharged a week ago from rehab. I went to several meetings while he was there about relapse prevention and felt like I had a general idea on what my part was. Now I am not sure. My husband tells me what he is thinking and then when I give him my thoughts, then...	Naomippb	7	5240	Mar 11, 2019 by Bo
	C2C, 3/11 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/11, speaks of the ability to laugh and forgive ourselves, because some of our defects of character are very hard to shake. The author can recall when at an earlier time they hid in shame from their flaws, and beat themself up. The author wants to try to accept more, and let go o...	Lyne	3	2946	Mar 11, 2019 by El
	Group Conscience Request: Navigation Menu and Web Page Design (Preview) Please visit the MIP Al-Anon business forum to participate in a group conscience about the MIP Al-Anon site navigation menu and page design.-- Hidden/Freetime-- Your WebHelper Team	WebHelper	0	4651	Mar 11, 2019 by WebHelper
	Hope and miracles (Preview) I thought I would share that miracles just keep happening. Ive been praying and letting go and truly letting God maybe for the first time and after the last crisis it seems that God has answered my prayers. My son has reached out for help and his gf has been reading the books and had some peaceful days. I kn...	el-cee	12	4032	Mar 11, 2019 by el-cee
	Courage to Change, March 8 (Preview) The writer of today's page in Courage to Change likes finding out about new ways to work the program. At a meeting, a basket of slogans was passed around, with the idea that each person would take a slogan and try to apply it to their day. The writer got the slogan "Easy Does It." The next day, the writer w...	Freetime	6	930	Mar 9, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 3/7/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading is about making positive changes in recovery. The author suggests that watching her son's silkworms helped her to see how transformations can be made from perceived negatives to positives. Silkworms are fat and greedy creatures, yet out of their own substanc...	Iamhere	3	5895	Mar 7, 2019 by El
	Seeing positive changes (Preview) I am in a grateful place finally. Its been an incredible painful journey but I am finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. My daughter who has serious mental health issues and in hospital currently, is making progress. She had been charged a few years back with assault on a police officer and t...	joker	4	3015	Mar 6, 2019 by luv123
	ODAT REading 3-5 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today 3-5 speaks about the basic alanon tools of the Steps and the Serenity prayer.. The reading points out that these simple tools can be used to face any problem even those not caused b the disease of alcoholism . It is suggested that when we are living by the alanon princi...	hotrod	8	2764	Mar 6, 2019 by luv123
	Sometimes a dirty windshield will do... (Preview) Good Morning MIP Family I got triggered by HP to bring this story to the board because it fits so well within the dialogue HP has with me. You will find the story in the January 2017 "The FORUM" on page 3. The FORUM is our monthly magazine and a real winner for me. I came across this offering by Buddy H., of...	JerryF	7	6656	Mar 6, 2019 by luv123
	Courage to Change March 6 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that Al-Anon helped them to realize that no one can know what is in their heart or what their needs are unless they share them with others. In addition, the author shares that they cannot expect any one person to meet ALL of their ne...	Skorpi	7	1003	Mar 6, 2019 by DavidG
	ATTACHMENTS (Preview) Man is in love, and loves what vanishes; what more is there to say?~W. B. YeatsThroughout our lives we repeatedly make attachments and lose them. We are taken with the rich color of leaves in the fall, but we know that this beauty will soon be replaced with stark, empty branches. We give ourselves to ca...	mamalioness	5	2479	Mar 6, 2019 by mamalioness
	Circling back around (Preview) Hi everyone, I've been silent for a while and away from this board. Still going to meetings and working with my sponsor, but I'm finding that I've managed to jump off a cliff recently so wanted to come in and absorb and also reason things out. I was relating to Pinkchip in his post about needing to find the...	Aloha	13	4140	Mar 6, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	The places our minds take us (Preview) Hello everyone, So, my ex boyfriends ex wife called me today to tell me that he is getting engaged to his new girlfriend, whom he has only been dating for 5-6 months. A part of me was in shock since he claimed he'd never get married and wasn't interested in it EVER again. But, a part of me was grateful that...	andromeda	12	1326	Mar 5, 2019 by tiredtonite
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