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Happy Saturday MIP family! I have had a busy week and decided to do some googling on self-care, just for me, just for today. I found 'this' and thought it worthy of sharing. As always, take what you like and leave the rest!
Before you read the twelve steps of self-care, first understand the five things you need to quit doing:
1. Trying to please everyone. You will end up being taken advantage of. Instead, teach kindness to the people around you. Have a head on your shoulders.
2. Fearing change. Know that life is rocky and things will happen that you don't like. See, if things didn't happen, life would be dull and boring. So it is good that things do change, for the better. Challenge yourself even through the hard times. Know that life will not fail you, unless you give up on life.
3. Living in the past. Learn to accept things that weren't good for you.
4. Putting yourself down. Look at yourself in the mirror each day and tell yourself all the pretty things you love about yourself.
5. Overthinking. Stop thinking too much. Distract yourself by doing things you like. Communicate with people and make friends. Meditate to reduce anxiety and depression that is caused by overthinking. Sometimes you will overthink, and that is ok. Just try to limit yourself from thinking too much.
Put yourself at the top of your to-do list every single day and the rest will fall into place.
Here are twelve inspirational steps to practice self-care:
1. Perfection is overrated. Being different in "in".
2. Try to never speak badly about yourself. Instead, try to adjust your mind to see and speak of the good within you.
3. Don't be afraid to say 'no'.
4. Don't be afraid to say 'yes'. Especially, when it comes to exciting new adventures.
5. Kindness goes a long way for yourself and others.
6. Let go of what you can't control. Learn to accept things for what they are, even if it is hard.
7. Stay away from drama and most importantly negativity.
8. Trust your instincts and intuition.
9. Let yourself feel.
10. Never give up on yourself and your DREAMS.
11. Stay true to yourself.
12. Love everything and everyone.
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Great list IAH As I read through them, i looked for the alanon tools that would help us use the list and came up with: :Detachment, the Steps, meetings, sponsor , slogans such as: live and let live an dd let go and let god.
thanks for this listing
I read myself in the first 5, and then all the things that I am trying to do in the next twelve!
I think this could be a really good "stickie!" I may just copy it, so that I can refer to it daily, or when I need a boost in my self-care!
Thank you!
Finally the weekend! I have been just itching to get to an art project that I bought all the supplies for last week... so here I go!!! Make it a great weekend MIP!! Love you all!
Namaste!
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Betty - I did the same thing. I was considering what step, slogan or tool aligned best with each point. I do that with most events through out the day and it works so well. It does work when we work it!
Thanks all - I love googling various recovery topics for ideas beyond our tools to add to my toolkit. While there is sometimes wacky results, every now and then, a gem pops up (thanks HP)!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
