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Hoot Nanny


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Being self-aware & remembering to take care of me. I am not selfless or totally selfish. I have to admit that my ah sometimes challenges me. I have to protect myself from becoming too involved in the disease & less in recovery. Recovery is paramount in dealing w difficult people. I have a new awareness of who I am &whose I am. So I struggle but I am no longer in bondage. I am free.

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   smile ... K. ... reaching out with adult to adult conversations with others helped me heaps. Alanon was my first port of call- where I learned to trust and to speak my own truth... aww ... thanks for your share- it all does help wink ...



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(((Kathleen))) - great awareness and I can relate. I try to be mindful each day that I am a person in recovery trying to be the best version of me. My AH and A Sons also challenge me often and I consider myself a 'success' for the moment if I can just respond kindly instead of reacting in kind. I no longer have any concerns with being right, I just want to keep my peace of mind & serenity. (((Hugs))) - you got this!

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Lyne


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HN-I could have written your post. I am also challenged by my A spouse, and through alanon I have found a way to feel free. I resigned from the doormat club! Lyne

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El


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I loved your post, Hoot Nanny.  The challenges are there, but the shackles are off. I feel the same.  Congratulations on your recovery journey!

Ellen



-- Edited by El on Saturday 6th of April 2019 08:39:55 AM

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I also remember saying that early on...."Free at last, Free at last, Thank God I'm Free at last"  Keep coming back Kath.  (((hugs))) aww



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The biggest problem I had with "bondage"...is that I didn't understand, realize, or even know, that I was in it. I didn't know I was a prisoner. I didn't know that I was being held hostage.

Even bigger than that...I didn't know that I volunteered to be all of the above.

My experience, my observations, what I've seen and learned...many, many people...do not realize or even know it either.

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Keep coming back...

God, grant me the serenity...to accept the PEOPLE I cannot change...the courage to change the ONE I can...and the wisdom to know it's ME...

 
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