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The reading for Monday, 4/1, talks about the 3 As: Awareness, Acceptance, Action. The writer says unless the acceptance occurs, action wont be effective. It is very important to sit still, feel the feelings, and come to some acceptance, instead of jumping from awareness to action.
The reminder says: Moving from awareness to acceptance to action takes time, but the benefits are worth the wait. As I learn to accept my defects, circumstances, and feelings, I learn that I am a worthwhile human being just as I am. With that kind of self-acceptance, I begin to see my options, and slowly I can begin to take action, to change.
Quote from Alateen: Someone suggested I stop concentrating on changing myself and think first about accepting myself. That gave me the boost I needed.
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In the past I was not able to sit still to ponder a situation. If something occurred, I wanted an immediate solution. At times it was painful to not have the answer immediately. To not have a resolution, was very uncomfortable.
The idea about accepting oneself I realize is an important part of this process. By self-acceptance, self-esteem happens, and I have learned that I am worthy of many things. I am allowed to have the patience for myself so I can pause, talk things over, and make good decisions for me. Lyne
Hello Lyne The 3 As are an excellent tool to keep me honest . In the past I jumped from awareness to action without really accepting the truth of a situation Today "acceptance" is crucial to my recovery. I need to stop, think about what I have discovered feel the feelings, examine my motives and then move to action Thanks for your service.
Thank you Lyne for todays reading and your reflection. Before Alanon, I never stopped between awareness and action. Something needed to be done, and I had all the answers! Had I paused long enough to even consider acceptance, it would have saved me a whole lot of action!
Betty, you frequently mention checking ones motives. I have to say, when I actually do that.....I can clearly see or better see why I want to jump into action. Checking my motives can allow me to let something be and accept it. Then I can decide if/how I want to act on it.
This reading is a great reminder of the 3 As!
Happy April! Woke up to a couple inches of snow this morning...pretty typical and know real Spring is on its way.
Ellen
-- Edited by El on Monday 1st of April 2019 06:44:32 AM
Good morning MIP. Thank you Lyne for your service and the daily. Thanks to all above me for your shares & ESH. I also went from awareness to action, fighting acceptance most of the time and trying to impose my will to force solutions. Pausing was not easy for me, as I too wanted immediate outcomes!
I pray for patience each day, and a willingness to remain open. Through practice, and a better understanding of how HP works in my life, I am better with the three A(s) - progress and not perfection.
Happy Monday all - golf and then tacos tonight! Mondays are lovely as I don't cook and impose YOYO for dinner - You're On Your Own! Make it a great day!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Such a great reminder, Lyne! Thank you for your service.
I had to chuckle at El's post... I could've wrote that first line - "I never stopped between awareness and action. Something needed to be done, and I had all the answers!" LOL!
Yuppers. That was me too!
I never fully accepted what was going on right under my nose, and certainly felt like I could bend it to my will! I did not truly understand the beast that is Addiction.
I love the slogan, 'When we know better, we do better.' Each day I begin with Gratitude, I work on Acceptance and staying in my hula hoop, and I check my motives before I act or spout off at the mouth.
Progress not perfection!
Fully entrenched in spring here in SoCal... therefore I am suffering terribly from allergies. But all the colorful flowers on display are magnificent!!
Enjoy your Monday everyone!
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