Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

melanieL · melanieL

Well so much for not arguing.......have really tried not to argue with my ex husband who is an A. He has been trying to provoke me for week and had so far managed to keep my cool and not take the bait. Well yesterday I had just had enough. I dumped his dog on me again to look after for the da...

nmike · nmike

This post is for my sanity. I do go to f2f meetings, read my Alanon books, meditate but the pain just seems to hang in there. My recovering A is moving out on June 1. He has a new job in a different state. He said that he doesn't want to work on the relationship any more after 31 years. He is so negative about me (...

sno · sno

Hello, I am new to this forum. If someone would have told me a week ago that I'd be looking for a group like this, I'd have laughed it off. I am frustrated, angry, deeply hurt, scared...you name it... I am feeling it. I guess what I am looking for right now is validation for my f...

abbyal · abbyal

HELLO JOHN , THIS IS THE PAIN IN THE BUTT AGAIN ,SOMEONE HAS MADE THE PRINT SMALLER IN THE CHAT ROOM AND BOARD AGAIN. CAPS ARE THE ONLY THING I CAN READ. HEHE THANKS LOUISE

Weez · Weez

Hello all! I've been thinking about going to an Alanon meeting for about 12 months, I almost went to one...I pulled into the drive at 7:15pm for a 7:30 meeting and I waited until 7:25 and I chickened out and went home and came to this website! What can I expect? I guess I am afraid of rej...

AlbertaCowboy · AlbertaCowboy

Today is going to be a great day!! I will see my children (I get them every other weekend). I will see my wife's children (haven't seen them in over 2 months since all hell broke loose) My wife will be home and sober. The sun is shining......somewhere. It's payday. It's Friday. I have Al-a...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"There are no shortcuts to anyplace worth going." --Beverly Sills

Jeannie · Jeannie

All of you, Thank you soo much for all of your support. It made me feel so much more at ease. I just got home. I can't believe I spent all day worrying about this. It went very well. The counselor was wonderful, and my husband was not drinking. My husband started out with his list and the counselor p...

Jeannie · Jeannie

My husband called sober on his lunch break, so stuipid me talked to him. According to him I am a wonderful Mother but a lousy Wife. He wants to know what the big deal is? Why can't I just let him drink and enjoy himself, why can't I do the things he asks. He says cleaning and laundry are my jobs as a Wife, he sa...

cah · cah

I am back on that roller coaster again. I am not sure I can handle this for much longer. My h went for a week to AA, and I got my darn hopes up. I have a problem with expectations, and I am working on it. But he has stopped going, and has started drinking heavily again, and I lost it...

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

I have felt the need to start a post on this subject and see what others thoughts are on it. There have been a few times I have been in the chat room and a joke or comment has came across which in my own opinion would be of questionable use in a recovery chatroom. Please be mindful of people in the...

amplext · amplext

Hi all, I know it's been a while since I've been here. I am experiencing problems with the chat room. It allows me to log on but nothing comes up. Just the message "server messages".

Mark S · Mark S

Well its challenge time for me. Have a week trip with the air guard I have to go on and return for two days and have to spend another 3 days in Dallas for my full time job. Typically this is when things such as the DWI, the gambling, drinking and the leaving the kids home alone have generally occurred. I hate t...

odaat · odaat

A few days ago I posted that a friend of mine from work is getting married in May. I wasn't going to go to the wedding for fear of being embarrassed by my husbands drinking and silliness. I want to thank all of you who encouraged me to live my life for me. I decided today that I a...

trumpetchic18 · trumpetchic18

I thought I had it all figured out, I made plans, expected them to come through because I had done everythign that I had thought possible to make them happen. I have one year of school left, and I have to find $3000 somewhere. I was planning on getting a job I had interviewed for on campus that woul...

luna · luna

Hello all. I feel kinda selfish for asking for support my very first time here, but I am suffering, and have nowhere else to go at the moment. This past Tuesday we had to use the Marchman Act to have my 42 year old sister put into rehab. She has gone from the top to the very very bottom in the last three years. I...

megan · megan

taxes They are due. We all know it. My A did them. He said they were ready for my final review and it would be quick. So we went for a bike ride and had a barbeque and then he put a movie on. Then he brought the laptop with the taxes on it out from his office I started reviewing the taxes and became...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

The side effects of alcoholism on us results in Perfectionism, Procrastination and Paralysis. [oooo Ouch for me! Especially the last two!) The three P's came up (that I never heard of before!) at a meeting where we read the topic: Progress, not perfection-...

Mad4stevie · Mad4stevie

I saw the link above to music to listen to while on this site, and it made me wonder, if you listen to music, what types of music or artists do you find to be inspirational in your recovery? About seven years ago, I saw Stevie Nicks with Fleetwood Mac and have been inspired by her heart-felt lyrics...

AlbertaCowboy · AlbertaCowboy

well another day, another change of heart. I am on such an emotional roller coaster. One minute I want her to come home so we can start rebuilding our relationship, the next I want her to stay away for ever and let me move on with my life. She has been away for the past 10 days, barely calls, and wh...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, It is not starting out to be a good day. We have the awaited counseling tonight. My husband told me about it last night. The appointment is for 8PM and he picked one forty minutes away. I am a nervouse wreck. Then I woke with a headache and ended up having a minor accident with the bus this morning. T...

sonador_hermosa · sonador_hermosa

do any of you believe that a person really can recover? from what i read, almost everyone on here believes that all alcoholics are the same and that none of them can ever recover or become healthy again. i think it is a very subjective thing. i think that it totally depends on the pe...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Sitting at your table, desk, wherever... When stressed, grab the upper top of your nose with your thumb and forefinger, right smack dab between the middle of your eyes. (A little pressure with the fingers if you want) Close your eyes, lower your head, perhaps elb...

sonador_hermosa · sonador_hermosa

hi everyone :) i've been lurking around this board for about a week now, and i'm ready to post. it seems like every time i try, my computer crashes, but i'm in a computer lab right now, so hopefully that won't happen...*knock on wood*...hehehe my name's amy, and my fiance' is a recoverin...

AlaMom · AlaMom

to keep my head in the moment. Recently been preapproved to buy a home. Something I have always looked forward to. While I am happy and excited at the prospect - I am finding myself getting far ahead of myself. I'm finding that I am going beyond just doing the legwor...

missyg · missyg

When my husband "decided" he needed rehab one month ago, and he went and admitted himself to a veteran's hospital, I really convinced myself and let him convince me that this would be the end to all of our problems. He spent 20 days there, detoxed his system and got himself clean and sober. ...

search41 · search41

i can't belive this! i just typed this whole share, and when i went to preview it, it disappeard! what i want to share is that my a finally went back to normal driving hours today, after being off work for 4 weeks because of a dui. he went back to work last week from 430 am to 9 am, helping l...

jj · jj

Why is it that I get to a point of feeling great about me and my recovery and then I so easily get sucked into the feeling out of control. My home is my life as I am blessed to stay home and raise my beautiful kids. So I feel invaded I guess you could say why my AH brings this disease home. What I mean by that is he br...

Weez · Weez

Hello! I've just started with Alanon, and it has done wonders for me. However, my family is totally against my "A" they are rude to him, and when I talk about him in front of my family, all I get are negative comments, and things like "You can do so much better" "Why do you put yourself through...

megan · megan

Hello, Does anyone know of a board like MIP where the wife of a sex addict (my sister) can go to for experience, strength, hope? Her husband is "in recovery" but continues to cheat with everyone and anyone including prostitutes. I spoke to her this morning and she has the same sort of c...

khadejah · khadejah

i have been going to f2f meetings for about 3 months now, i read al-anon literature all the time due to limited babysitting etc. I am not always able to go to f2f meetings although i try to make at least one a week. That being said i need a sponsor don't know how to ask who to ask etc. Any suggestions I am in New y...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I do not want to post this because I really think that dad will be fine. But then, I cannot get myself to think the other way. He is such a positive person and everyone is surprised he is still alive and kicking. Well, I found out yesterday that he is in congestive heart failure. He i...

debilyn · debilyn

How does a post disappear? I am curious? I responded and wondered if they responded back and it is gone. I am guessing there may be more to this than I know? I don't need to know what it is, but may I know the criteria if something is missing? love,debilyn

odaat · odaat

I have visited this board, and watched for a long time. I am back and really hope to help myself this time. I am feeling sorry for myself and feel as if I am on a roller coaster to hell with no return ticket. Living with my "A" gets harder by the day. I try to understand the disease,...

odaat · odaat

Today my "A" and I discussed his problem with drinking. I feel he has a major problem with alcohol and he feels that I imagine it all. I expressed my need to call an end to our marriage because he has a right to what he considers happiness and I too have rights. I feel extremely lonely an...

Meth User · Gary

Hello...I am new to Al-Anon so please forgive my ignorance. My problem is my 31 year old divorced daughter who is addicted to Meth. I was told that Al-Anon is for families of any addictions, not just alcoholics, is this true? My wife and I are really searching for some support to dea...

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, Someone sent me this quote and I thought I'd share it. "The future is not some place we are going to, but the one we are creating. The paths are not to be found, but made, and the activity of making them, changes both the maker and the destination." That has really helped me to re...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Well it has been a week and still no counseling. My husband is being a sarcastic jerk telling me he is looking for just the right counselor. Meanwhile my In-Laws are getting edgy. My MIL says she feels like she has lost her son, that he is so bitter and angry over what I am doing to him. She says she underst...

De Anna · De Anna

I need a little help on boundaries. Could someone further explain this? Or tell me if the following would apply. I am not sure of this. I don't have too many things to set boundaries for because he brings home the $; stays home; helps out; is respectful; isn't abusive.&nbs...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Babe Ruth hit more home runs than anyone, but he also struck out more often than anyone." Anonymous

melanieL · melanieL

Horray!!! I finally set a boundary. Sunday i invited my ex-A to dinner, he said he could only come if i looked after his dog for the afternoon while he attended a AA meeting . I knew he was manipulating me , but hey i let it ride. He said he would be back at about 6.30pm so i cooked dinner for then, at about 6.40p...

debilyn · debilyn

NOT you are weird. lol NOW the post is there! I tried to find the post you spoke of but could not find it. There was no private post. Can you email me now? I have been to a few meetings lately. I really love them. We are so fortunate to have this medium. John, bless his pea picken heart, sen...

khadejah · khadejah

hi all feeling extremely overwhelmed since my first post my hubby has been in treatment coming home soon continues to speak to this other woman he has been having an affair with for the last two months . I have so much confusion ny hubby has been struggling with his recovery for awhile now and i have rem...

Busbe · Busbe

Can anyone relate to this my husband and I were having lunch today at this real mexican resturant real mexican people running it it was nothing fancy just good food when all of a sudden this fear emotion came over me and I could not figure out why I was having that emotion and it has came over m...

lin0606 · lin0606

I'm interested in hearing from any of you with some time in the program about dealing with the alcoholic in the life of someone you know. I was recently contacted by the A husband of a friend of mine who is not in the program, but who has been doing some program reading, and thinking seriously about her mar...

abbyal · abbyal

I am just posting this today maybe it will make it real for me. I am focused on the line from our literature that says "What would I be doing right now , if this weren't happening. It has gotten me thru many bad days in the past. Last nite I lost a dear friend, we had just gone to a play in a comunity a f...

Amelda13 · Amelda13

Hi, I'am from the North East and was wondering if anyone had information on Rehabs that will keep someone for more than a day or two. We have a son with Bi-Polar and who is an drug addict but we cannot seem to find anywhere he can go for more than a couple of days. Any information would be greatly appre...

Gault · Gault

Where I live in UK most Alanon members are female. Finding a male sponsor for myself, also male, is proving difficult. Someone told me to try the message board and here I am. I shall welcome all views. I've been in fellowship 5/6 years. Thanks

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, I am writing to tell all of you that there is a conference here in Yosemite, CA in November. I don't have very much info yet, but am working on getting all the info for those of you that might be intersted in attending!!! What better place to meet f2f then at a conference right?&...

pepodwyer · pepodwyer

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AlaMom · AlaMom

Hiya everyone, Just wanted to share my good news today. I mentioned yesteday in the room that I have been working very hard on paying off some big bills and getting out of debt. Well it payed off for me today. As a result of some very hard work, imposing on my mother's hospitality, a...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, This is not about the alcoholic in my life. This is about me. I had a phone call today from the aunt I am not very happy with. That aunt/uncle are the ones that sold the business out from underneath my son recently and my dad too. She first asked if I was still talking to her and the adult that...

cdb · cdb

Hello whitie, Your reply to suntansuzie's post brought tears to my eyes. I felt so bad for that man and his darned insurance. grrrrr I also want to thank you for working in the area you do. I am sure you are a great asset to those poeple. I can tell from your post. :) My dad currently is suffer...

kerry5 · kerry5

Hi,I posted this on a reply on this site and on the family teens site and i thought i would post it for all to read. Theres alot more that has happened to me but this is it in a nutshell lol. I am 32 years old and both my parents were violent alcoholics. I started to realize thier drinking at 8...

gardengal · gardengal

Tomrrow is my pre trial, once again my life has been turned upside down, and my guts inside out. 31 years married and my husband becoming an A and walking out to what I call his "drinking career". This is alcoholism at its finest. I would have never thought in a million years that my life would be as i...

cdb · cdb

Hello debilyn, My email would not send you anything last night so I sent it through the messages here at this message board. You can check it by looking up above where it says Logged in,,debilyn. Then you click after new messages. If you cannot see that you can click on your name and it should show your m...

search41 · search41

abby, thank you for your reply. when you said 'understanding him still isn't the answer', and, 'just know it is the disease' and 'you are never going to understand him', you know what popped into my head? a comment i will never forget that was one of my biggest revelations of 'fai...

jfoy · jfoy

Hello I am new here. My husband has been going to AA since Oct 8. He had been sober since then. Last night March 29 he bought a 24 ounce beer and said he wanted to prove to himself he could stop at one. He did. He said if he could he was not an alcoholic. My concern is he is and he put me thru h*ll before Oct 8th. He wo...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Worry and fear can alter our perceptions until we lose all sense of reality, twisting neutral situations into nightmares. Because most worry focuses on the future, if we can learn to stay in the present, ....we take postive steps toward warding off the effects of fear. ....

worriedmom · worriedmom

hello, i know others have written about detaching and really dont even know what i need to do at this point, so here goes, my daughter has been clean from meth for 6 1/2 mths now- she has been doing fantastic etc. she was living in sober/ recovery for 6 mths and i never worried about her know she has to...

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	Dissappointed in myself (Preview) Well so much for not arguing.......have really tried not to argue with my ex husband who is an A. He has been trying to provoke me for week and had so far managed to keep my cool and not take the bait. Well yesterday I had just had enough. I dumped his dog on me again to look after for the da...	melanieL	4	869	Apr 18, 2005 by wallsal55
	Husband leaving (Preview) This post is for my sanity. I do go to f2f meetings, read my Alanon books, meditate but the pain just seems to hang in there. My recovering A is moving out on June 1. He has a new job in a different state. He said that he doesn't want to work on the relationship any more after 31 years. He is so negative about me (...	nmike	8	985	Apr 18, 2005 by TLC2
	the right place for me?? (Preview) Hello, I am new to this forum. If someone would have told me a week ago that I'd be looking for a group like this, I'd have laughed it off. I am frustrated, angry, deeply hurt, scared...you name it... I am feeling it. I guess what I am looking for right now is validation for my f...	sno	6	1097	Apr 18, 2005 by abbyal
	JOHN HELP!!!!! AGAIN (Preview) HELLO JOHN , THIS IS THE PAIN IN THE BUTT AGAIN ,SOMEONE HAS MADE THE PRINT SMALLER IN THE CHAT ROOM AND BOARD AGAIN. CAPS ARE THE ONLY THING I CAN READ. HEHE THANKS LOUISE	abbyal	2	904	Apr 18, 2005 by abbyal
	What can I expect at face to face meeting? (Preview) Hello all! I've been thinking about going to an Alanon meeting for about 12 months, I almost went to one...I pulled into the drive at 7:15pm for a 7:30 meeting and I waited until 7:25 and I chickened out and went home and came to this website! What can I expect? I guess I am afraid of rej...	Weez	10	1156	Apr 16, 2005 by whitie
	Today Is Going To Be A Great Day (Preview) Today is going to be a great day!! I will see my children (I get them every other weekend). I will see my wife's children (haven't seen them in over 2 months since all hell broke loose) My wife will be home and sober. The sun is shining......somewhere. It's payday. It's Friday. I have Al-a...	AlbertaCowboy	7	896	Apr 16, 2005 by TLC2
	Quote for Today (Preview) "There are no shortcuts to anyplace worth going." --Beverly Sills	wallsal55	2	769	Apr 16, 2005 by AlbertaCowboy
	Counseling (Preview) All of you, Thank you soo much for all of your support. It made me feel so much more at ease. I just got home. I can't believe I spent all day worrying about this. It went very well. The counselor was wonderful, and my husband was not drinking. My husband started out with his list and the counselor p...	Jeannie	14	1195	Apr 16, 2005 by lin0606
	King Husband! (Preview) My husband called sober on his lunch break, so stuipid me talked to him. According to him I am a wonderful Mother but a lousy Wife. He wants to know what the big deal is? Why can't I just let him drink and enjoy himself, why can't I do the things he asks. He says cleaning and laundry are my jobs as a Wife, he sa...	Jeannie	10	1667	Apr 16, 2005 by bonnierose333
	so confused (Preview) I am back on that roller coaster again. I am not sure I can handle this for much longer. My h went for a week to AA, and I got my darn hopes up. I have a problem with expectations, and I am working on it. But he has stopped going, and has started drinking heavily again, and I lost it...	cah	9	739	Apr 16, 2005 by search41
	Appropriate jokes or comments in chat room (Preview) I have felt the need to start a post on this subject and see what others thoughts are on it. There have been a few times I have been in the chat room and a joke or comment has came across which in my own opinion would be of questionable use in a recovery chatroom. Please be mindful of people in the...	DanaAngel	4	3419	Apr 16, 2005 by Gault
	Chat room problems (Preview) Hi all, I know it's been a while since I've been here. I am experiencing problems with the chat room. It allows me to log on but nothing comes up. Just the message "server messages".	amplext	4	778	Apr 16, 2005 by amplext
	challange time for me (Preview) Well its challenge time for me. Have a week trip with the air guard I have to go on and return for two days and have to spend another 3 days in Dallas for my full time job. Typically this is when things such as the DWI, the gambling, drinking and the leaving the kids home alone have generally occurred. I hate t...	Mark S	10	1081	Apr 15, 2005 by jj
	Wedding Problem Solved! (Preview) A few days ago I posted that a friend of mine from work is getting married in May. I wasn't going to go to the wedding for fear of being embarrassed by my husbands drinking and silliness. I want to thank all of you who encouraged me to live my life for me. I decided today that I a...	odaat	5	936	Apr 15, 2005 by abbyal
	just when you think you've got it all figured out (Preview) I thought I had it all figured out, I made plans, expected them to come through because I had done everythign that I had thought possible to make them happen. I have one year of school left, and I have to find $3000 somewhere. I was planning on getting a job I had interviewed for on campus that woul...	trumpetchic18	4	1003	Apr 15, 2005 by nmike
	First Time~Need Some Support (Preview) Hello all. I feel kinda selfish for asking for support my very first time here, but I am suffering, and have nowhere else to go at the moment. This past Tuesday we had to use the Marchman Act to have my 42 year old sister put into rehab. She has gone from the top to the very very bottom in the last three years. I...	luna	8	1108	Apr 15, 2005 by nmike
	procrastination and taxes (Preview) taxes They are due. We all know it. My A did them. He said they were ready for my final review and it would be quick. So we went for a bike ride and had a barbeque and then he put a movie on. Then he brought the laptop with the taxes on it out from his office I started reviewing the taxes and became...	megan	8	1247	Apr 15, 2005 by nmike
	The Three P's ! (Preview) The side effects of alcoholism on us results in Perfectionism, Procrastination and Paralysis. [oooo Ouch for me! Especially the last two!) The three P's came up (that I never heard of before!) at a meeting where we read the topic: Progress, not perfection-...	wallsal55	1	2455	Apr 15, 2005 by megan
	Inspirational Music (Preview) I saw the link above to music to listen to while on this site, and it made me wonder, if you listen to music, what types of music or artists do you find to be inspirational in your recovery? About seven years ago, I saw Stevie Nicks with Fleetwood Mac and have been inspired by her heart-felt lyrics...	Mad4stevie	5	1048	Apr 15, 2005 by AlbertaCowboy
	completely frustrated (Preview) well another day, another change of heart. I am on such an emotional roller coaster. One minute I want her to come home so we can start rebuilding our relationship, the next I want her to stay away for ever and let me move on with my life. She has been away for the past 10 days, barely calls, and wh...	AlbertaCowboy	9	1090	Apr 15, 2005 by AlbertaCowboy
	Bad day. (Preview) Hi, It is not starting out to be a good day. We have the awaited counseling tonight. My husband told me about it last night. The appointment is for 8PM and he picked one forty minutes away. I am a nervouse wreck. Then I woke with a headache and ended up having a minor accident with the bus this morning. T...	Jeannie	12	729	Apr 14, 2005 by jj
	just wonderin' (Preview) do any of you believe that a person really can recover? from what i read, almost everyone on here believes that all alcoholics are the same and that none of them can ever recover or become healthy again. i think it is a very subjective thing. i think that it totally depends on the pe...	sonador_hermosa	7	948	Apr 14, 2005 by lin0606
	Relaxation Technique - This Works! (Preview) Sitting at your table, desk, wherever... When stressed, grab the upper top of your nose with your thumb and forefinger, right smack dab between the middle of your eyes. (A little pressure with the fingers if you want) Close your eyes, lower your head, perhaps elb...	wallsal55	1	941	Apr 14, 2005 by Lanchas
	newbie here (Preview) hi everyone :) i've been lurking around this board for about a week now, and i'm ready to post. it seems like every time i try, my computer crashes, but i'm in a computer lab right now, so hopefully that won't happen...knock on wood...hehehe my name's amy, and my fiance' is a recoverin...	sonador_hermosa	8	1033	Apr 13, 2005 by sonador_hermosa
	Working Hard... (Preview) to keep my head in the moment. Recently been preapproved to buy a home. Something I have always looked forward to. While I am happy and excited at the prospect - I am finding myself getting far ahead of myself. I'm finding that I am going beyond just doing the legwor...	AlaMom	1	660	Apr 13, 2005 by debilyn
	shocked back into reality (Preview) When my husband "decided" he needed rehab one month ago, and he went and admitted himself to a veteran's hospital, I really convinced myself and let him convince me that this would be the end to all of our problems. He spent 20 days there, detoxed his system and got himself clean and sober. ...	missyg	7	1143	Apr 13, 2005 by jo4
	freed from prison! (Preview) i can't belive this! i just typed this whole share, and when i went to preview it, it disappeard! what i want to share is that my a finally went back to normal driving hours today, after being off work for 4 weeks because of a dui. he went back to work last week from 430 am to 9 am, helping l...	search41	4	850	Apr 13, 2005 by Jeannie
	Am I a Door Matt (Preview) Why is it that I get to a point of feeling great about me and my recovery and then I so easily get sucked into the feeling out of control. My home is my life as I am blessed to stay home and raise my beautiful kids. So I feel invaded I guess you could say why my AH brings this disease home. What I mean by that is he br...	jj	12	1195	Apr 13, 2005 by jj
	How can I get my family to accept my "A"? (Preview) Hello! I've just started with Alanon, and it has done wonders for me. However, my family is totally against my "A" they are rude to him, and when I talk about him in front of my family, all I get are negative comments, and things like "You can do so much better" "Why do you put yourself through...	Weez	9	1227	Apr 13, 2005 by De Anna
	Sex addict recovery board (Preview) Hello, Does anyone know of a board like MIP where the wife of a sex addict (my sister) can go to for experience, strength, hope? Her husband is "in recovery" but continues to cheat with everyone and anyone including prostitutes. I spoke to her this morning and she has the same sort of c...	megan	8	1231	Apr 13, 2005 by DanaAngel
	desperate need for a sponsor (Preview) i have been going to f2f meetings for about 3 months now, i read al-anon literature all the time due to limited babysitting etc. I am not always able to go to f2f meetings although i try to make at least one a week. That being said i need a sponsor don't know how to ask who to ask etc. Any suggestions I am in New y...	khadejah	2	778	Apr 13, 2005 by luv123
	Prayer request for my dad.... (Preview) Hello friends, I do not want to post this because I really think that dad will be fine. But then, I cannot get myself to think the other way. He is such a positive person and everyone is surprised he is still alive and kicking. Well, I found out yesterday that he is in congestive heart failure. He i...	cdb	12	1024	Apr 13, 2005 by jj
	What happened to Odaat's post? (Preview) How does a post disappear? I am curious? I responded and wondered if they responded back and it is gone. I am guessing there may be more to this than I know? I don't need to know what it is, but may I know the criteria if something is missing? love,debilyn	debilyn	2	849	Apr 12, 2005 by odaat
	Need to Heal (Preview) I have visited this board, and watched for a long time. I am back and really hope to help myself this time. I am feeling sorry for myself and feel as if I am on a roller coaster to hell with no return ticket. Living with my "A" gets harder by the day. I try to understand the disease,...	odaat	11	1101	Apr 12, 2005 by odaat
	Things are UGLY! (Preview) Today my "A" and I discussed his problem with drinking. I feel he has a major problem with alcohol and he feels that I imagine it all. I expressed my need to call an end to our marriage because he has a right to what he considers happiness and I too have rights. I feel extremely lonely an...	odaat	9	1247	Apr 12, 2005 by odaat
	Meth User (Preview) Hello...I am new to Al-Anon so please forgive my ignorance. My problem is my 31 year old divorced daughter who is addicted to Meth. I was told that Al-Anon is for families of any addictions, not just alcoholics, is this true? My wife and I are really searching for some support to dea...	Gary	9	3447	Apr 12, 2005 by cloud
	a quote (Preview) Hi all, Someone sent me this quote and I thought I'd share it. "The future is not some place we are going to, but the one we are creating. The paths are not to be found, but made, and the activity of making them, changes both the maker and the destination." That has really helped me to re...	mastiff	5	897	Apr 12, 2005 by Smeep61
	Update (Preview) Well it has been a week and still no counseling. My husband is being a sarcastic jerk telling me he is looking for just the right counselor. Meanwhile my In-Laws are getting edgy. My MIL says she feels like she has lost her son, that he is so bitter and angry over what I am doing to him. She says she underst...	Jeannie	7	940	Apr 12, 2005 by bcanuck
	please clarify boundaries.... (Preview) I need a little help on boundaries. Could someone further explain this? Or tell me if the following would apply. I am not sure of this. I don't have too many things to set boundaries for because he brings home the $; stays home; helps out; is respectful; isn't abusive.&nbs...	De Anna	7	983	Apr 12, 2005 by wallsal55
	Quote for Today (Preview) "Babe Ruth hit more home runs than anyone, but he also struck out more often than anyone." Anonymous	wallsal55	3	608	Apr 11, 2005 by De Anna
	i'V STARTED SETTING BOUNDARIES (Preview) Horray!!! I finally set a boundary. Sunday i invited my ex-A to dinner, he said he could only come if i looked after his dog for the afternoon while he attended a AA meeting . I knew he was manipulating me , but hey i let it ride. He said he would be back at about 6.30pm so i cooked dinner for then, at about 6.40p...	melanieL	4	980	Apr 11, 2005 by jj
	cdb/ weird (Preview) NOT you are weird. lol NOW the post is there! I tried to find the post you spoke of but could not find it. There was no private post. Can you email me now? I have been to a few meetings lately. I really love them. We are so fortunate to have this medium. John, bless his pea picken heart, sen...	debilyn	1	817	Apr 11, 2005 by cdb
	feeling overwhelmed (Preview) hi all feeling extremely overwhelmed since my first post my hubby has been in treatment coming home soon continues to speak to this other woman he has been having an affair with for the last two months . I have so much confusion ny hubby has been struggling with his recovery for awhile now and i have rem...	khadejah	5	1070	Apr 11, 2005 by bob6502
	Fears (Preview) Can anyone relate to this my husband and I were having lunch today at this real mexican resturant real mexican people running it it was nothing fancy just good food when all of a sudden this fear emotion came over me and I could not figure out why I was having that emotion and it has came over m...	Busbe	5	895	Apr 11, 2005 by Busbe
	Someone Else's A (Preview) I'm interested in hearing from any of you with some time in the program about dealing with the alcoholic in the life of someone you know. I was recently contacted by the A husband of a friend of mine who is not in the program, but who has been doing some program reading, and thinking seriously about her mar...	lin0606	6	1139	Apr 11, 2005 by lin0606
	Gods gift to us is life (Preview) I am just posting this today maybe it will make it real for me. I am focused on the line from our literature that says "What would I be doing right now , if this weren't happening. It has gotten me thru many bad days in the past. Last nite I lost a dear friend, we had just gone to a play in a comunity a f...	abbyal	13	1165	Apr 10, 2005 by De Anna
	Rehab (Preview) Hi, I'am from the North East and was wondering if anyone had information on Rehabs that will keep someone for more than a day or two. We have a son with Bi-Polar and who is an drug addict but we cannot seem to find anywhere he can go for more than a couple of days. Any information would be greatly appre...	Amelda13	8	995	Apr 10, 2005 by Jeannie
	Sponsor by web (Preview) Where I live in UK most Alanon members are female. Finding a male sponsor for myself, also male, is proving difficult. Someone told me to try the message board and here I am. I shall welcome all views. I've been in fellowship 5/6 years. Thanks	Gault	4	832	Apr 10, 2005 by lildee
	Yosemite Conference (Preview) Hi all, I am writing to tell all of you that there is a conference here in Yosemite, CA in November. I don't have very much info yet, but am working on getting all the info for those of you that might be intersted in attending!!! What better place to meet f2f then at a conference right?&...	mastiff	1	914	Apr 10, 2005 by david62
	Need help (Preview)  I	pepodwyer	4	883	Apr 10, 2005 by pepodwyer
	HP Working Overdrive (Preview) Hiya everyone, Just wanted to share my good news today. I mentioned yesteday in the room that I have been working very hard on paying off some big bills and getting out of debt. Well it payed off for me today. As a result of some very hard work, imposing on my mother's hospitality, a...	AlaMom	7	1006	Apr 10, 2005 by Diva
	Making a difficult phone call... (Preview) Hello friends, This is not about the alcoholic in my life. This is about me. I had a phone call today from the aunt I am not very happy with. That aunt/uncle are the ones that sold the business out from underneath my son recently and my dad too. She first asked if I was still talking to her and the adult that...	cdb	7	1053	Apr 10, 2005 by DanaAngel
	Hey whitie,,, (Preview) Hello whitie, Your reply to suntansuzie's post brought tears to my eyes. I felt so bad for that man and his darned insurance. grrrrr I also want to thank you for working in the area you do. I am sure you are a great asset to those poeple. I can tell from your post. :) My dad currently is suffer...	cdb	1	777	Apr 9, 2005 by whitie
	My Story (Preview) Hi,I posted this on a reply on this site and on the family teens site and i thought i would post it for all to read. Theres alot more that has happened to me but this is it in a nutshell lol. I am 32 years old and both my parents were violent alcoholics. I started to realize thier drinking at 8...	kerry5	3	730	Apr 9, 2005 by cloud
	Encouragement/prayers needed (Preview) Tomrrow is my pre trial, once again my life has been turned upside down, and my guts inside out. 31 years married and my husband becoming an A and walking out to what I call his "drinking career". This is alcoholism at its finest. I would have never thought in a million years that my life would be as i...	gardengal	19	1178	Apr 9, 2005 by cloud
	Debilyn (Preview) Hello debilyn, My email would not send you anything last night so I sent it through the messages here at this message board. You can check it by looking up above where it says Logged in,,debilyn. Then you click after new messages. If you cannot see that you can click on your name and it should show your m...	cdb	0	817	Apr 9, 2005 by cdb
	thanks abby! (Preview) abby, thank you for your reply. when you said 'understanding him still isn't the answer', and, 'just know it is the disease' and 'you are never going to understand him', you know what popped into my head? a comment i will never forget that was one of my biggest revelations of 'fai...	search41	2	836	Apr 9, 2005 by cdb
	Recovering Alcoholic (Preview) Hello I am new here. My husband has been going to AA since Oct 8. He had been sober since then. Last night March 29 he bought a 24 ounce beer and said he wanted to prove to himself he could stop at one. He did. He said if he could he was not an alcoholic. My concern is he is and he put me thru h*ll before Oct 8th. He wo...	jfoy	11	1292	Apr 8, 2005 by Jeannie
	Fear (Preview) "Worry and fear can alter our perceptions until we lose all sense of reality, twisting neutral situations into nightmares. Because most worry focuses on the future, if we can learn to stay in the present, ....we take postive steps toward warding off the effects of fear. ....	wallsal55	2	744	Apr 8, 2005 by Jeannie
	detaching with love? (Preview) hello, i know others have written about detaching and really dont even know what i need to do at this point, so here goes, my daughter has been clean from meth for 6 1/2 mths now- she has been doing fantastic etc. she was living in sober/ recovery for 6 mths and i never worried about her know she has to...	worriedmom	6	1014	Apr 8, 2005 by Jeannie
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