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Quote for Today
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Thought is the Blossom, Language the Bud, Action the Fruit behind it -- Ralph Waldo Emmerson.
(Ahh, I must trust the alanon process!)
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Faith, Trust, Patience, and Hope
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When our life is not working the way we feel it should be, faith, trust and patience will lead us towards new insights if we allow it. If you can remember not to panic but to be still and "breathe" yes you heard right, I did say breath. Deep slow breaths to calm you down so that you can h...
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Participation
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This was the topic at my face-to-face home group meeting tonight.
I'm ashamed to say that after six and a half years in Alanon I have rarely looked at The Twelve Concepts. But tonight after listening to an excellent chair on the Fourth Concept.... "Participation is the key to ha...
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Some Wise Words
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Hi all, thought I'd pass these wise words along to all of you.
People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered, love them anyway.
If you do good, people may accuse you of selfish motives, do good anyway.
If you are successful, you may win false friends and true enemies, succeed anyway.
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Sharing two 'reply' posts....
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I would like to share two ‘reply’ post with everyone and anyone who might be interested. They kind of reflect where I at with certain things. Thanks in advance for reading them if you do: thanks anyway if you do not. But, Al-anon is well organized. “Organize” is the root word of “organization”. And, Al-...
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need something do not know what
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hello i'm thinking about coming back to meetings. i have not been to a meeting since my husband died the relationship i'm in now is sick but no one has a drinking problem. i'm not sure what to do, i cry often.
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Update/Apprentice show/etc.
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Hello friends,
I got a call from my parents today. My dad is in congestive heart failure and mom has alzheimers. They are packing to move closer to me. They are in AZ and I am in ND. I never did offer to fly there and help them out because I have my own health issues and wouldn't be much of a help anyway :(&nbs...
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”Someone did mention to me tonight at the meeting that I should be greatful that I at least have parents and he is right. That put me back into living one day at a time.” Just my opinion… that crack came from someone whose pain has a long indirect path back to abuse in hers or his childhood and they have a need...
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From One Addiction To Another.....
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Isn't it true that an alcoholic has underlying conditions typically? This being the case, the alcohol only masks the pain of the real issue, which is an issue yet for the alcoholic to be discovered. I would think that when an alcoholic is truly ready to quit drinking it is ONLY when they ar...
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Hello
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Hi Everyone,
I’m Dewi and this is my first time posting. I’m a grateful member of al-anon for almost three years. My 16-year-old daughter’s drug problems brought me to al-anon while she spent time in Rehab; she then attended a loving nurturing therapeutic boarding school for two yea...
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Grief
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Hello all.. Sorry I do not post more.. I have been doing alot of work and trying to work thru some things.. As of now as the topic says i am working on grief.. Not sure how i am doing at this time with it.. I have started writting grief letters.. The first one was to my sister who passed 11 years ago on jan 4th of t...
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Update
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First of all I would like to apologize for not reading everyones posts but I am not upto it these days.
I am feeling a bit better and not thiking so negativly. I am praying all the time for myself and my kids that I will get through this and take from it and turn this in to a positive.
Your support is so help...
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Off the Wall
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Ok, I just might have gone off the wall. My A wife has a drinking and gambling problem. She has been sober for the last three weeks. Apparantly thinking I would condone her playing Bingo if she didn't drink($9000.00 last year) When I didn't she started getting more an...
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Beautiful One-Liners
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Hey all thought you might like these
1. Give God what's best, not what's left.
2. Man's way leads to a hopeless end, HP's way leads to an endless hope.
3. A lot of kneeling will keep you in good standing.
4. He who kneel's before God, can stand before any man.
5. Don't put a question mark where HP p...
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My experience with sickness
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Cancer is a symbol, as most illness is, of something going wrong in the person's life, a warning to us to take another road.
"Love is Letting Go of Fear" author B.Siegel
When we keep all of our emotions inside, and we do not share our hurtful feelings, we could develop cancer, I know, because I did.&n...
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what right does he have
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I guess I just need somewhere to vent - my husband is an a - January of this year he went through a 28 day treatment program, only to start drinking the day he got out. It didn't take long to get back to where we were before. Meanwhile, my hair is falling out, I keep losing weight, my nerves are shot...Then abo...
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Need help with boundaries
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Hi all..new to the group...thanks for being here. I normally go to three Alanon mtgs/wk and one ACoA mtg, but this week was only able to make it to one of the four. I am feeling a bit lost..lol.
I need some support and strength with a boundary issue that I am having with my father.&nb...
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My wife is an alcoholic
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How do I get my wife to stop drinking? I am running out of approaches to try - I am becoming detatched from her. Her promises never last long. (We have two young children).
She refuses to go to AA meetings.
Any suggestions?
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sponsers
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is there such thing as an online sponser. if there isn't why not, i think it would help people who are just starting out, like me.
glad to be here, Amber (keeghan)
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The HP works through people
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Hi to all of my friends,
I had the feeling that what I said, did not count too much, because I have been away from the message board for too long.
I know that God (HP) speaks through the people, and the experiences in our lives. I feel very blessed today, because the answer I...
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Debilyn & all
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Hello Debilyn,
I miss you! (((((((((((((debilyn)))))))))) I can't remember if you know about what is going on with my parents? They are moving here to ND by mothers day! Dad is still in congestive heart failure and mom's alzheimers is worse. They are very happy to be living 2 hours north of me. I am st...
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To Kerry
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I wanted to wait a bit before I posted to you.
You are a very brave woman and you gave your mom the best gift. She saw you at
your best. I am so so proud of you.
I know the hell you went thru. I know how you feel now. Stay in that fog as long as you can and let it heal you.
PLEASE ignore any poisonous re...
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Truly a miracle....
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Guys, guys, guys....thank you so much for your prayers, best wishes, comfort and care, I consider myself well and truly hugged!
My miracle happened this afternoon. My husband called me while I was at work and said he needed to talk to me, my first reaction, oh no what has happened? what have I d...
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Upset here.....:(
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Hello,
I am sorry, but I cannot read any more posts and answer them right now. After reading jj's post below about being scared, I feel just helpless. I just want to ask anyone that reads this to please say prayers for her or do whatever your religion does to send positive healing thoughts to her. She ha...
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GETTING ANGRY AND ANXIOUS
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JUST HAD A CONVERSATION WITH MY EX-A, HE USUALLY HAS THE CHILDREN EVERY OTHER WEEKEND. HE NOW STATES HE IS NOT SURE IF HE CAN HAVE MY 15 YEAR OLD TO STAY AT WEEKENDS NOW, HE SAYS SHE IS MORE THAT HE CAN COPE WITH AND IT WILL HINDER HIS RECOVERY. I KNOW THIS IS IMPORTANT, BUT HOW DO I TELL HER HE DOES...
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Re: Just a Vent
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Sanddie & Abby -
Sanddie - i too knew hp put it in my heart to get back together with my a. i knew it without a doubt. and, the truth is, i have no regrets about that whatsoever. i know i am where i am supposed to be. i guess i just have to get that stupid 'guilt' thing for ventin...
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Thank You Everyone
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I wasn't going to post this. Because i dont like things like this. But i have been sharing about it for the two months my mom was ill. She passed away Saturday very peacefully i was with her. Not a peaceful day with family but mom peaceful none the less and thats all that matters. I want to thank everyone who...
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"Friend of Lois" -Sean- lyrics?
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Hey Sean, I thought I'd let you finish this cause I got stuck, maybe you can put some music to it and get famous!! heehee
You in the mirror, starring back at me,
Cold dark expression, my own worst enemy.
Wallowing in seclusion, I chose to ignore his call,
Failed attemps on my own, fo...
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Alcoholic Speaks to His Family
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The Alcoholic Speaks to His Family
Don't accept my promises. I'll do anything to get off the hook. Nature of my illness prevents me from keeping my promises, even though I mean them at the time. Don't believe everything I tell you. It may be a lie. Denial of Re...
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Working on being good to me!
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Thank you all for your love and support this week. It really made a difference in my life. I haven't been happy in a long long time. Its been a bad year with two major hurricanes hitting our town in Florida, and the usual stuff with my "A" husband. My husband is really con...
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alcoholic son
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I am a newcomer. I have just faced up to the fact that my 21 year old son is an alcoholic. I need serious support and advice. Are there any of you out there who have faced a similar problem?
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Just Saying Hi, And Sharing An Article On Fear.
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Everyone has times when they're afraid of something. Fear has a legitimate function for us because it alerts us to something which could possibly be harmful to us. Usually, we are able to evaluate the situation and see if there is any real danger, then take steps to deal with it. &n...
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scared
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I can't sleep!! I got bad news tonight from my dr. I got a rare reaction from being on this bad anibiotic and after not feeling well and two trips to the hospital my test results came back positive. 3% chance of getting this and I got it.. It can be fatal and I was told flat out that I could die. My heart i...
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Update on my daughter
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As many of you know, my 20 year old alcoholic/drug addicted daughter recently got out of an inpatient treatment program. She is not married, currently living in an apartment (that hubby chose to co-sign) and working what I consider to be a hard labor job to support herself. She attends her AA me...
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prayer request for my son and his two friends
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Thursday night I faced every parents nightmare my son Nicholas 16 was in a terrible car accident. I told Nick he could sleepover a friends house since Friday was a half a day at school I said call me when you get there well after awhile Nick did not call here I called him at his friend Matts house there was no...
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Frustrating disease....
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Today is the first day of the rest of my life and I hope I can make some improvements.......my husband was released from hospital last night after 5 days of intensive testing to establish why he had lost nearly 30 pounds, had nausea and vomiting and did not want to eat. The results....nothing....excep...
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Need LOVE
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Hello activeboard.com peers,
As I read, "This is gonna B a good day," post, I think of something that often crosses my mind: Anyday without bad news, is a good day. Oral Roberts is famous 4 saying, "Something good is going 2 happen 2 U today," and that i...
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Self Esteem and the 12 Steps
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Am a little confused I have heard various things having been in program over 2 yrs. Like, the 4th Step is important in rebuilding self esteem. Or working all the steps. Or working the Action Steps is what restores the self esteem. An...
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THANKS TO ALL, FOR YOUR SUPPORT
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Thank you all for your kind words and support. It is over there will be no trial , thank God. It was overwhelming to say the least , when I walked into that courtroom , sat in front of the judge "alone" while my A had his lawyer next to him. I had exhausted all the means of recieving money t...
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A bit of Eden
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http://community.webshots.com/user/gypsygma
If you want to see who keeps me company, look at the newest members of Potter's Eden.
the feb. 10 new are the newest ones.
I have not had contact with my husband A still. I put all you guys told me together and realized i was just following the...
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Quote for the Day
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"Most true happiness comes from one's inner life, from the inner disposition of the mind and soul. Admittedly, a good inner life is hard to achieve, especially in these trying times. It takes reflection and contemplation and self-discipline." W.L. ...
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Another inspiring story to share
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This is so inspiring I wanted to share it with you all. It's long, but worth the read! Carrot, Egg and Coffee A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggli...
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Learning
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THis was posted on one of the dog forums that I go to and I thought the message was very inspiring so I wanted to share it here also.
Learning
Me and Scooter my 4 month ol' lab have been walking every day for awhile.I was doing this for his benifit surely not mine.But I started to learn somethin...
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Things to be grateful for
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When I am just too caught up in all my "baggage" and issues as I have been the last few days, I always notice how freeing up it is to do a gratitude list. Here is my top ten, just for today:
1) my health 2) that I continue to have a job 3) my kitty, who always brightens my day : )
4) that I continue to have...
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self-care we r worth it!
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Some thots from meeting last week:
What I have been working hardd on are self care tools that I learned here and that I have a new burning need to use.
Living with active disease is so hard to bear and requires so darn much work to stay sane and afloat.
I feel a little victimized by disease too—sinc...
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Rainy day...
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It is a rainy thunderous morning. I cannot go out to my favorite State park to ride my trail bike the eight hilly miles around the beautiful lake and do a mile and a half heart slow down walk. Thus, I am up at my favorite coffee house drinking coffee, looking out the storefront window at the rain, and playin...
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Yosemite Conference Update
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Hi all!!! I spoke with the main man in charge of registration for the November Yosemite CA conference and was told they would be mailing out registation form in mid-July. To be on the mailing list you need to email Jim at ysc@sti.net tell him you would like registation forms when they come...
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I am scared ,going to face this disease , again
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Once again I am to the point of shaking and utter fear. This disease has called me to court for the 4th time, in less than 2 hours. My insides are in tight knots, as I approach this again,,,,and alone. Most of you know what Hell this disease called alcoholism can create,,and this is it at its finest. D...
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dot,,,minutes from business meeting
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Hello dot,
I emailed you my address so I could get the minutes from the last bussiness meeting. Did you get it? Have you sent any out yet? cdb :)
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just a vent
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i feel so stupid and so guilty venting this, since i have chosen to stay with my a, but he is drunk, and i'm trying to be on the comp, and he's ripping me to shreds...
i argued for about a minute, then said, i'm not discussing this with you anymore. you're drunk and unreasonable, and i'm done...
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Leg go and Let God (thoughts) very long
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Hi,
I am having a problem with letting go and letting God.
Don’t get me wrong, I consider myself a very religious person and I love, trust and believe in God with all of my heart.
I guess the part that confuses me is the letting God do part.
I have been raised to believe that God works through me.
I...
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hi sanddie
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((((((((((((((((((sanddie))))))))))))))))))))))))
life is tough for you sanddie and i really feel for you.
it is a struggle to be a single parent. but one thing i learned from that experience is....i had to hang up my cape. no more 'supermom'. when i came to alanon,...
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Freedom machine purchased
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I bought a truck
A red one.
I take the train to the subway to the Bronx in NYC to get it.
I bought it from the dealership where my sister in laws sister works at.
When I went to my local dealer on Saturday he said so you will bring your husband back on Monday to buy it.
then I lost interest in doing bu...
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Step Board
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Steo Eleven is posted on the Step Board.
Please come and share your thoughts on Step Eleven. The board needs your support.
Love in Recovery - Dot -- Edited by dot at 14:07, 2005-04-17
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Unhealthy Relationships Long Term Effect....
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I wanted to address something that has truly bothered me for quite sometime and the stronger I get in maintaing my boundaries, clarifying my needs and pursuing a life for myself that is successful and peaceful all at the same time the more difficult this matter seems to get.
I keep hearing over and ov...
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I Asked For and God Gave.....
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This is one of my favorite...... just wanted to share because I truly believe that when we persist with prayers of what it is we want God gives it to us. However, it isn't always in the form we expect it to happen. All Gods way of helping us grow as individuals.
I Asked F...
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Sooner,,hello :)
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Hello Sooner,
I am so happy to see you on the message board :). I just love this baord. It has helped me so much by posting here. your friend, cdb :)
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newbie post
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Greetings, I've followed a few threads and topics posted. I suppose I wouldn't be on this board unless I wanted to voice my feelings. I've read several posts from people who were affected from Alcoholics and a few from people looking for support to attend a meeting. Recently I've had a friend go to AA an...
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My version of "God Box"
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My approach to a "God Box". I have a shallow planter, basket. I write on a tree leaf my negative that I wish to leave to my HP (such as control, detachment, anger). I place it in my planter, basket. Usually the next day, it has blown away, my HP has taken it away from ...
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Today is going to be a great day, Part II
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Well it happened. Just as I predicted.
Friday was a great day. Saturday too, and Sunday kicked butt as well.
Ok, maybe not quite as I predicted. Friday evening started off pretty scary as my wife and I got into a fairly big argument almost as soon as she got in the door.&nb...
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