Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Applause, Applause to You, yes You posters on this message board. Why? When I am able to POP in, I notice so many responses are: --------------------- T houghtful H elpful I ntelligent N ecessary ind &nbs...

Lanchas · Lanchas

Well my A found out I was on here and was fine with it. I was . I have been searching for literature but haven't bought any yet. I don't have much I want to say yet. I would like feed back on what I do say though but I'm not getting much feed back. That's all I have to say for now. Lanchas

wallsal55 · wallsal55

What you can do, or think you can, begin it.---Johann Wolfgang von Goethe Sept. 6th "During acute depresion,....avoid trying to set your whole life in order at once. If you take on assignments so heavy that you are sure to fail in them at the moment, then you are allowing yourself to be trick...

kathykelly · kathykelly

Need to vent. My daughter has had a lot of help from me over the past year, well actually since she turned 16 and dropped out of school. Well, that's ok, I have been trying to help her get on her feet. Anyway, after she got her DUI almost a year ago, I have had to help her even more. I...

babs · babs

When I realized I was powerless, I wanted to leave him, why stay? It’s not my problem, I can’t fix it, so leave. Then in S4, I looked and saw clearly that I had faults, many faults. I was not, & never would be perfect. Would I want someone to leave me because of my faults?! Without even trying to stand by m...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, It sounds like my daughter may be getting out of the inpatient treatment center this week. We do have a family meeting with her on Tuesday too. She had a home visit today and it went well. She got to see her brother and his girlfriend too since they were here for the weekend. She is activel...

babs · babs

Hi, I've met in my f2f meeting a two people who's blind. They were requesting the following in braille, or tape, or cd. Can anyone offer suggestions? I've looked, but couldn't find. I would like to help them. Babs

Orchid · Orchid

I told my husband that he had to quit smoking pot or I would file for a divorce? He hasn't taken my hint yet; should I try something else? I don't know what to do...

pepodwyer · pepodwyer

babs · babs

Hi, I forgot to mention I was looking for (braille, tapes, cd) One day at a time in al anon Courage to change Hope for today

Beskem · Beskem

Last Sunday after a pretty eventful Saturday night for my A wife. Threatened suicide got hauled off to the Sherriff's for Mental Evaluation, etc. I told her I needed her to stop doing three things in order for me to stay in the marriage, Don't Drink, Don't gamble, Don't sleep with other me...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Our main website page currently has links to 5 different groups; Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-Anon Family Group, Adult Children Anonymous Group, Child Abuse Survivors, and Family Teens Group. The main website page is http://www.12stepforums.net/ For the Teens, I have posted the l...

jj · jj

I meant to wish you good luck before your exam. Sory I didn't get it posted but i want you to know that you were in my thoughts at mom and dads and I hope that you did great on it. JJ

jj · jj

Well I spent the weekend at my parents house for my dads 50th birthday and his supprise party. For the most part it went well and dad was very appreciative. My brother caused some caose and tried to start many fights with a friend of mine and my husband and myself he was right out rude. He suceeded in star...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Anyone nearby interested or traveling. SPRING FLING April 22-24, Historic Galesburg, IL For registration form: Spring Fling, P.O. Box 1772, Galesburg, IL 61042-1772 Dance, banquet, AA, Alanon Speakers, alateen speaker, raffles.

babs · babs

Hi, I'm 3 weeks plus into program. I have read "how al anon works.." I am reading "Paths to recovery". I also have the book One day at a time, and just got the "Courage to change" book. I read & reread. I also go to meetings in face, and online. I am atte...

micheagle · micheagle

My husband is an active drinker and I have a real big problem ignoring him when he comes home drinking or hungover. He says real mean things to me, like my weight and how I should starve myself. He also tells me to leave his house and go find someone else to support me. I have no job and I have fibromyalgia and...

Beskem · Beskem

First, thank you all for your kind words and words of wisdom in my first post. My A wife quit her job today with my support. She felt like a ton of weight was lifted off her shoulders. She was a High School Study Hall aid, all alone with 60 some kids who liked to cause trouble and the admin...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Sometimes, the way is not clear. Our minds get clouded, confused. We aren't certain what our next step should be, what it will look like, what direction we are headed. That is the time to stop, ask for guidance, and rest. That is the time to let go of fear. Wai...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I am 18 years old. I am an only child. My mom drank when I was a little kid, but I didn't know. Then she got help and quit. When I was about 8 years old she got in a relationship with a drinker and started drinking again. She has not stopped. She is still with the guy she got into a relationship with when I was 8. I l...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I am 18 years old. My mom drank when I was a little kid, but I didn't know. Then she got help and quit. When I was about 8 years old she got in a relationship with a drinker and started drinking again. She has not stopped. She is still with the guy she got into a relationship with when I was 8. I love him(I conside...

cdb · cdb

Hello John, Just want to thank you for all the support you have given me. I feel so lucky to be able to use this message board and the chatroom at MIP. You are so good at talking to me in a private secure way and I do appreciate that. I can tell that you are a person that is out for the good of the communit...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

When I first came to Alanon, my thoughts were "it's all the A's fault". I get to Alanon and I'm told "you're just as sick, if not sicker, than the A". That didn't sit well with me. Made me mad. But I kept coming back to listen and learn. Pretty soon I realized, yeah, they'r...

jj · jj

My AH came home tonight and asked... Do you ever ask yourself "why me"? Almost before he finished I answered yes all the time. He had this supprised look on his face like what for?? He never said another word when I could tell he wanted to talk about how hard things are for him and he wanted me to feel sory for...

dori · dori

Good morning guys , I am in a dilema and I dont where to turn.I have been in alanon 2 years now.I am single mom of 2 teens , one is 18 works pt time and goes to college and the other in hs.My ex a is not in our life.I lost my job in octand how we have gotten by I would have to write a book of all the ways God ha...

John · John

The 12 Steps 1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol, - that our lives had become unmanageable. 2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. 3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. 4...

debilyn · debilyn

I have an iBook, every time now when I click on someones post my internet explorer quits. )c: I hate this, any ideas? I depend on this bb so much! love,debilyn

Lucy2 · Lucy2

I come here daily and read posts but rarely post myself. Today, I am in need of experience, strength, and hope from those of you who may have been through these things in the past. My 26 y/o daughter is one of the addicts/mental illness in my life. I got a call from...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I am totally new to this. I don't understand what the different 12 steps are. I would like to know what they are. I was also wondering if religion was a big part of this. I'm not very religious. I hope someone will help me understand all this. Lanchas

estrelladehope · estrelladehope

For some reason I just cannot seem to communicate with my A (husband). He has to constantly ask me a question several times before I actually answer it. I am not sure if I am just being defensive of his questions or as I told him earlier this morning that I decide that his question is not worth...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

...."May I turn myself inside out, air out the depression which has been closeted inside me, replace it with the comfortable feeling that I am cared about by real friends, then pass along that comfort to others, caught in the same despair." Today I Will Remember: "The onlry real despair is lo...

mastiff · mastiff

"Let Go" "As children bring their broken toys-with tears- for us to mend, I brought my broken dreams to Him because He was my friend. But then, instead of leaving Him in peace to work alone, I hung around and tried to help with ways that were my own. At last I snatched them back and cried, "H...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I talked to my dad today and he sounds good. He is surviving the visit with his brother and his wife,,,,the uncle/aunt of mine that screwed over my son and dad by selling the business out from under my son recently. Thanks for the prayers for my dad's health. My son is not a happy camper...

gardengal · gardengal

In all proceedings the World Service Confernece of Alanon shall observe the spirit of the traditions: 1: that only sufficient operating funds, including an ample reserve, be its prudent financial principle. 2: that no conference member shall be place in unqualified authority over other mem...

david62 · david62

Hi everyone! A friend in the chatroom wanted me to post this poem so she could read it. I wrote this poem for my two step sons before I got into the program. I was listening to someone talking about working the steps the other evening in the chat room and remembered the title of the poem.&...

Mark S · Mark S

We are all ready to recognize that our "A" is sick and actively seek their rehabilitation; it doesn't come so easy to see that I may need to change my mindset as well. While I have acknowledged that the "A" in my life has a disease, that doesn’t take rocket science, I am gratified that I was right about “the...

ReneeD · ReneeD

Hello.... My name is Renee and I've been in AA for 10 years, however, I am just starting out in Al-Anon. I work as a Chemical Dependency Counselor and have many family members who are alcoholics and/or addicts. I suppose "my bottom" as far as enabling is concerned, occurr...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, I was reading a post Richard had written and he said "Love does not hurt." It got me thinking, no love shouldn't hurt. Love is pure and good. If we are hurt when someone we loves lets us down, it is not love that is hurting us, but our own expectations. When we hurt becoss of the loss of a loved one, t...

onerugrat · onerugrat

Hi, I need to know how I can support m husband who is trying to quit throug aa. -- Edited by onerugrat at 16:55, 2005-03-10

Lanchas · Lanchas

Hi. I'm new to this. I have alcoholic parents but my mom is the reason I'm here. I'm a little shy right now since I am new to this. I don't know what else to say right now so I'm done with this message. Lanchas

page · page

This place has been a comfort for me. My S/O is now in a wonderful treatment program. It focuses on her. Sure there is a group for us both to attend- "family night". It's great if your A partner doesn't cop out with fear and tears. They are here for her, not me. Angr...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Face your deficiencies and acknowledge them; but do not let them master you. Let them teach you patience, sweetness, insight. --Heller Keller

mjg · mjg

Hello I am a recovery alcholic, I have a spouse who is not an alcholic. Is it unreasonable for me to ask that spouse to not drink anymore? Or not to come home if they had been drinking ie.stay at a friends house? I am confused as to what I am supposed to expect from my spou...

Mark S · Mark S

Ran into a Dale Carnegie graduate that was in a class that I was Grad assisting last fall and while we were talking he mentioned something negative about a mutual acquaintance (another grad) and then stopped and said oops guess I’m not doing very well as I already forgot the 3 C’s (for Carnegie its criti...

jj · jj

Today i am greatful for my loving children Today I am greatful for alanon Today I am greatful that my husband came home so I could go to my f2f meeting Today I am greatful that my husband realized that alanon is good for me Today I am greatful that I have many supportive friends that help me when I am feeling b...

cdb · cdb

Thank you all for your recent prayers. I finally talked to my dad about that situation with my son about the business he was buying and so far dad is doing okay. He is hurt as we all are that my uncle did not at least give my son and dad the courtesy of talking to ...

Beskem · Beskem

I am a newbie, I went with my wife to her first AA meeting Sunday night. She has been drinking, self-medicating for six months, she is 36 yrs old and suffering depression for 3-4 years. She drinks about a fifth a day abuses prescription drugs when they are available&n...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

I remember Love feeling like a great, big, comfy Soft Easy Chair...Ah Hah...Where I could be myself! :)

Mamaklop · Mamaklop

I am so sorry for disappearing tonite...My baby needed me right in the middle of the meeting. It may happen more than I like but as most of you know that have kids...well they come first. I will try again tomorrow night. Thank you so much for being understanding.

kerry5 · kerry5

I was in mip in 2000 for two years. I left cause i was going through to much with a divorce at the time and i didnt know how to handle some things. I am a very intense person, i was angry at some people i thought that abandoned me. I was an op in Alanonchat, acoa c...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Hi...At various alanon meetings, there are flyers given out for Alanon picnics, retreats, spring flings, dances (usually AA combined), rallies, conventions, potlucks. [This year there is a Spring Fling in Galesburg, IL for both Alanon and AA. I can post this in...

debilyn · debilyn

Ok what time is the meeting? I am in Oregon. love, debilyn who for some reason cannot keep her eyes open today...zzzzz

cdb · cdb

Hello everyone, I still haven't got an answer if there will be a vote tonite on whether we can give hugs, smiles, nods or agrees during a meeting. There are people that don't use this board and don't even know about the meeting as someone stated at open chat late last night. I am new here and I have voiced...

holly123 · holly123

Hi Everyone, I needed to just sit here and type. In a way I hate message boards because I can't get an immediate answer. I want it and I want it now. Guess that goes with the whole problems I suffer from huh, lol. Anyway I am so confused.&nbs...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Gosh, went to an alanon retreat. Some of it is still sinking in. A friend of mine tried to remind me when dealing with my A, "No defense, (defensiveness) No retaliation." I guess I think of it as take no offense, no need to retaliate.

holly123 · holly123

Hello Everyone, Let me tell you about myself, I have been in Al-anon for almost a year, I have made great strides and great slides in this program. I have been married to my a for almost 10 years and new him much more than that. I previously had a online sponsor b...

fineline · fineline

I've worked the steps and discovered that I am emotionally immature and needy. I also discovered that I married a really decent man who is emotionally unavailable. (I'll pass on the hardware store theory have heard it plenty of times). What I need to know, is now what? I especially want to hear from any...

dogscribe · dogscribe

Hi everyone. I haven't posted here very often but I do come and read to gain some insight with everyone's experiences. First off I just want to say thank you to everyone for sharing and for willing to listen to my vents. It's weird - there must be different stages with dealing with an A.&n...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, In another thread some one had asked me how Conner was, and how old he is now. Conner is now 15 months old, he is not walking, but he crawls and climbs faster than I can catch him. He is a little joy, laughing and smiling all of the time. He is so content, okay a little spoiled but Mom and Big Brothers...

richard · richard

At times, I say, “I wish I could get younger as I get older.” I say, I wish I could go back to younger years, only take with me what I know today. Only thing is though… if I took back what I know now… I would not do many, most of what I have done. However, if I did not do those things, done other things… I would not...

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	Thank You! And continue to "THINK" (Preview) Applause, Applause to You, yes You posters on this message board. Why? When I am able to POP in, I notice so many responses are: --------------------- T houghtful H elpful I ntelligent N ecessary ind &nbs...	wallsal55	0	572	Mar 16, 2005 by wallsal55
	I'm Here (Preview) Well my A found out I was on here and was fine with it. I was . I have been searching for literature but haven't bought any yet. I don't have much I want to say yet. I would like feed back on what I do say though but I'm not getting much feed back. That's all I have to say for now. Lanchas	Lanchas	13	1064	Mar 16, 2005 by Lanchas
	Quotes for Today/ depression (Preview) What you can do, or think you can, begin it.---Johann Wolfgang von Goethe Sept. 6th "During acute depresion,....avoid trying to set your whole life in order at once. If you take on assignments so heavy that you are sure to fail in them at the moment, then you are allowing yourself to be trick...	wallsal55	2	536	Mar 16, 2005 by TLC2
	Car Repairs (Preview) Need to vent. My daughter has had a lot of help from me over the past year, well actually since she turned 16 and dropped out of school. Well, that's ok, I have been trying to help her get on her feet. Anyway, after she got her DUI almost a year ago, I have had to help her even more. I...	kathykelly	4	926	Mar 16, 2005 by Beskem
	I'm perfect, you're not! so we think.. (Preview) When I realized I was powerless, I wanted to leave him, why stay? It’s not my problem, I can’t fix it, so leave. Then in S4, I looked and saw clearly that I had faults, many faults. I was not, & never would be perfect. Would I want someone to leave me because of my faults?! Without even trying to stand by m...	babs	10	1121	Mar 16, 2005 by Christy
	Daughter getting out of treatment (Preview) Hello friends, It sounds like my daughter may be getting out of the inpatient treatment center this week. We do have a family meeting with her on Tuesday too. She had a home visit today and it went well. She got to see her brother and his girlfriend too since they were here for the weekend. She is activel...	cdb	8	820	Mar 15, 2005 by worriedmom
	where can I find braille, tapes, etc (Preview) Hi, I've met in my f2f meeting a two people who's blind. They were requesting the following in braille, or tape, or cd. Can anyone offer suggestions? I've looked, but couldn't find. I would like to help them. Babs	babs	2	910	Mar 15, 2005 by babs
	pot smoking husband. Any help? (Preview) I told my husband that he had to quit smoking pot or I would file for a divorce? He hasn't taken my hint yet; should I try something else? I don't know what to do...	Orchid	4	947	Mar 15, 2005 by Diva
	Worried about brother (Preview)	pepodwyer	3	921	Mar 14, 2005 by pepodwyer
	looking for braille, tapes, cd (Preview) Hi, I forgot to mention I was looking for (braille, tapes, cd) One day at a time in al anon Courage to change Hope for today	babs	0	743	Mar 14, 2005 by babs
	Painted into a Corner (Preview) Last Sunday after a pretty eventful Saturday night for my A wife. Threatened suicide got hauled off to the Sherriff's for Mental Evaluation, etc. I told her I needed her to stop doing three things in order for me to stay in the marriage, Don't Drink, Don't gamble, Don't sleep with other me...	Beskem	9	1048	Mar 14, 2005 by wille
	Where to find help for Teens (Preview) Our main website page currently has links to 5 different groups; Alcoholics Anonymous, Al-Anon Family Group, Adult Children Anonymous Group, Child Abuse Survivors, and Family Teens Group. The main website page is http://www.12stepforums.net/ For the Teens, I have posted the l...	kismetstrand	0	683	Mar 14, 2005 by kismetstrand
	kis (Preview) I meant to wish you good luck before your exam. Sory I didn't get it posted but i want you to know that you were in my thoughts at mom and dads and I hope that you did great on it. JJ	jj	1	663	Mar 14, 2005 by kismetstrand
	Weekend (Preview) Well I spent the weekend at my parents house for my dads 50th birthday and his supprise party. For the most part it went well and dad was very appreciative. My brother caused some caose and tried to start many fights with a friend of mine and my husband and myself he was right out rude. He suceeded in star...	jj	1	631	Mar 14, 2005 by cdb
	Illinois Spring Fling (Preview) Anyone nearby interested or traveling. SPRING FLING April 22-24, Historic Galesburg, IL For registration form: Spring Fling, P.O. Box 1772, Galesburg, IL 61042-1772 Dance, banquet, AA, Alanon Speakers, alateen speaker, raffles.	wallsal55	0	856	Mar 14, 2005 by wallsal55
	no sponser, who can i do step 4/5 with (Preview) Hi, I'm 3 weeks plus into program. I have read "how al anon works.." I am reading "Paths to recovery". I also have the book One day at a time, and just got the "Courage to change" book. I read & reread. I also go to meetings in face, and online. I am atte...	babs	3	987	Mar 14, 2005 by wallsal55
	Suggestion Needed (Preview) My husband is an active drinker and I have a real big problem ignoring him when he comes home drinking or hungover. He says real mean things to me, like my weight and how I should starve myself. He also tells me to leave his house and go find someone else to support me. I have no job and I have fibromyalgia and...	micheagle	5	785	Mar 14, 2005 by wallsal55
	Job Stress (Preview) First, thank you all for your kind words and words of wisdom in my first post. My A wife quit her job today with my support. She felt like a ton of weight was lifted off her shoulders. She was a High School Study Hall aid, all alone with 60 some kids who liked to cause trouble and the admin...	Beskem	6	935	Mar 14, 2005 by Beskem
	Letting Go of Confusion (Preview) "Sometimes, the way is not clear. Our minds get clouded, confused. We aren't certain what our next step should be, what it will look like, what direction we are headed. That is the time to stop, ask for guidance, and rest. That is the time to let go of fear. Wai...	wallsal55	2	605	Mar 14, 2005 by babs
	Here's My Story Revised (Preview) I am 18 years old. I am an only child. My mom drank when I was a little kid, but I didn't know. Then she got help and quit. When I was about 8 years old she got in a relationship with a drinker and started drinking again. She has not stopped. She is still with the guy she got into a relationship with when I was 8. I l...	Lanchas	2	770	Mar 14, 2005 by babs
	Here's My Story (Preview) I am 18 years old. My mom drank when I was a little kid, but I didn't know. Then she got help and quit. When I was about 8 years old she got in a relationship with a drinker and started drinking again. She has not stopped. She is still with the guy she got into a relationship with when I was 8. I love him(I conside...	Lanchas	3	1012	Mar 13, 2005 by kerry5
	Thank you JOHN/OP (Preview) Hello John, Just want to thank you for all the support you have given me. I feel so lucky to be able to use this message board and the chatroom at MIP. You are so good at talking to me in a private secure way and I do appreciate that. I can tell that you are a person that is out for the good of the communit...	cdb	0	704	Mar 13, 2005 by cdb
	Playing the Martyr/Blame Game (Preview) When I first came to Alanon, my thoughts were "it's all the A's fault". I get to Alanon and I'm told "you're just as sick, if not sicker, than the A". That didn't sit well with me. Made me mad. But I kept coming back to listen and learn. Pretty soon I realized, yeah, they'r...	kismetstrand	5	2941	Mar 13, 2005 by cdb
	Why Me? (Preview) My AH came home tonight and asked... Do you ever ask yourself "why me"? Almost before he finished I answered yes all the time. He had this supprised look on his face like what for?? He never said another word when I could tell he wanted to talk about how hard things are for him and he wanted me to feel sory for...	jj	5	985	Mar 13, 2005 by megan
	when do you give and who do you give up to (Preview) Good morning guys , I am in a dilema and I dont where to turn.I have been in alanon 2 years now.I am single mom of 2 teens , one is 18 works pt time and goes to college and the other in hs.My ex a is not in our life.I lost my job in octand how we have gotten by I would have to write a book of all the ways God ha...	dori	6	928	Mar 12, 2005 by sanddie
	The 12 Steps (Preview) The 12 Steps 1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol, - that our lives had become unmanageable. 2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. 3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. 4...	John	3	728	Mar 12, 2005 by lalarainbow
	need help with mess. board (Preview) I have an iBook, every time now when I click on someones post my internet explorer quits. )c: I hate this, any ideas? I depend on this bb so much! love,debilyn	debilyn	2	583	Mar 12, 2005 by Joat
	A mother's pain (Preview) I come here daily and read posts but rarely post myself. Today, I am in need of experience, strength, and hope from those of you who may have been through these things in the past. My 26 y/o daughter is one of the addicts/mental illness in my life. I got a call from...	Lucy2	5	1079	Mar 12, 2005 by Lucy2
	More about being new to this (Preview) I am totally new to this. I don't understand what the different 12 steps are. I would like to know what they are. I was also wondering if religion was a big part of this. I'm not very religious. I hope someone will help me understand all this. Lanchas	Lanchas	3	886	Mar 12, 2005 by jo4
	Communication (Preview) For some reason I just cannot seem to communicate with my A (husband). He has to constantly ask me a question several times before I actually answer it. I am not sure if I am just being defensive of his questions or as I told him earlier this morning that I decide that his question is not worth...	estrelladehope	3	866	Mar 12, 2005 by wallsal55
	Today I Pray... (Preview) ...."May I turn myself inside out, air out the depression which has been closeted inside me, replace it with the comfortable feeling that I am cared about by real friends, then pass along that comfort to others, caught in the same despair." Today I Will Remember: "The onlry real despair is lo...	wallsal55	1	686	Mar 12, 2005 by Smeep61
	"Let Go" a poem to share with ya (Preview) "Let Go" "As children bring their broken toys-with tears- for us to mend, I brought my broken dreams to Him because He was my friend. But then, instead of leaving Him in peace to work alone, I hung around and tried to help with ways that were my own. At last I snatched them back and cried, "H...	mastiff	6	1834	Mar 12, 2005 by Smeep61
	Update on dad/son/etc. (Preview) Hello friends, I talked to my dad today and he sounds good. He is surviving the visit with his brother and his wife,,,,the uncle/aunt of mine that screwed over my son and dad by selling the business out from under my son recently. Thanks for the prayers for my dad's health. My son is not a happy camper...	cdb	3	814	Mar 12, 2005 by Smeep61
	GENERAL WARRANTIES, FOR THOSE INTERESTED (Preview) In all proceedings the World Service Confernece of Alanon shall observe the spirit of the traditions: 1: that only sufficient operating funds, including an ample reserve, be its prudent financial principle. 2: that no conference member shall be place in unqualified authority over other mem...	gardengal	2	1165	Mar 12, 2005 by Smeep61
	Poem - Steps (Preview) Hi everyone! A friend in the chatroom wanted me to post this poem so she could read it. I wrote this poem for my two step sons before I got into the program. I was listening to someone talking about working the steps the other evening in the chat room and remembered the title of the poem.&...	david62	5	888	Mar 12, 2005 by bob6502
	Choosing life this go (Preview) We are all ready to recognize that our "A" is sick and actively seek their rehabilitation; it doesn't come so easy to see that I may need to change my mindset as well. While I have acknowledged that the "A" in my life has a disease, that doesn’t take rocket science, I am gratified that I was right about “the...	Mark S	5	838	Mar 12, 2005 by jj
	VERY new to Al-Anon.... (Preview) Hello.... My name is Renee and I've been in AA for 10 years, however, I am just starting out in Al-Anon. I work as a Chemical Dependency Counselor and have many family members who are alcoholics and/or addicts. I suppose "my bottom" as far as enabling is concerned, occurr...	ReneeD	5	735	Mar 11, 2005 by jj
	Rambling (Preview) Hi, I was reading a post Richard had written and he said "Love does not hurt." It got me thinking, no love shouldn't hurt. Love is pure and good. If we are hurt when someone we loves lets us down, it is not love that is hurting us, but our own expectations. When we hurt becoss of the loss of a loved one, t...	Jeannie	3	925	Mar 11, 2005 by cdb
	husband drinks and wants to quit (Preview) Hi, I need to know how I can support m husband who is trying to quit throug aa. -- Edited by onerugrat at 16:55, 2005-03-10	onerugrat	4	636	Mar 11, 2005 by cdb
	New To This (Preview) Hi. I'm new to this. I have alcoholic parents but my mom is the reason I'm here. I'm a little shy right now since I am new to this. I don't know what else to say right now so I'm done with this message. Lanchas	Lanchas	2	706	Mar 11, 2005 by jj
	In the middle of AA HELL (Preview) This place has been a comfort for me. My S/O is now in a wonderful treatment program. It focuses on her. Sure there is a group for us both to attend- "family night". It's great if your A partner doesn't cop out with fear and tears. They are here for her, not me. Angr...	page	4	1321	Mar 11, 2005 by KathyS
	Quote for Today - (4th step!) (Preview) "Face your deficiencies and acknowledge them; but do not let them master you. Let them teach you patience, sweetness, insight. --Heller Keller	wallsal55	2	794	Mar 11, 2005 by ReneeD
	Advice Needed (Preview) Hello I am a recovery alcholic, I have a spouse who is not an alcholic. Is it unreasonable for me to ask that spouse to not drink anymore? Or not to come home if they had been drinking ie.stay at a friends house? I am confused as to what I am supposed to expect from my spou...	mjg	6	1017	Mar 10, 2005 by jo4
	Little Progress not Perfection thing I noted today (Preview) Ran into a Dale Carnegie graduate that was in a class that I was Grad assisting last fall and while we were talking he mentioned something negative about a mutual acquaintance (another grad) and then stopped and said oops guess I’m not doing very well as I already forgot the 3 C’s (for Carnegie its criti...	Mark S	2	873	Mar 10, 2005 by cdb
	gratitude (Preview) Today i am greatful for my loving children Today I am greatful for alanon Today I am greatful that my husband came home so I could go to my f2f meeting Today I am greatful that my husband realized that alanon is good for me Today I am greatful that I have many supportive friends that help me when I am feeling b...	jj	5	899	Mar 10, 2005 by babs
	Thanks for the prayers for my family..... (Preview) Thank you all for your recent prayers. I finally talked to my dad about that situation with my son about the business he was buying and so far dad is doing okay. He is hurt as we all are that my uncle did not at least give my son and dad the courtesy of talking to ...	cdb	6	1056	Mar 10, 2005 by lebe27
	Newbie (Preview) I am a newbie, I went with my wife to her first AA meeting Sunday night. She has been drinking, self-medicating for six months, she is 36 yrs old and suffering depression for 3-4 years. She drinks about a fifth a day abuses prescription drugs when they are available&n...	Beskem	6	767	Mar 10, 2005 by Mark S
	Love (Preview) I remember Love feeling like a great, big, comfy Soft Easy Chair...Ah Hah...Where I could be myself! :)	wallsal55	2	597	Mar 10, 2005 by Jeannie
	Apology (Preview) I am so sorry for disappearing tonite...My baby needed me right in the middle of the meeting. It may happen more than I like but as most of you know that have kids...well they come first. I will try again tomorrow night. Thank you so much for being understanding.	Mamaklop	2	615	Mar 10, 2005 by Jeannie
	My Mip Experience (Preview) I was in mip in 2000 for two years. I left cause i was going through to much with a divorce at the time and i didnt know how to handle some things. I am a very intense person, i was angry at some people i thought that abandoned me. I was an op in Alanonchat, acoa c...	kerry5	7	867	Mar 9, 2005 by cabecka
	Alanon Retreats/Spring Flings (Preview) Hi...At various alanon meetings, there are flyers given out for Alanon picnics, retreats, spring flings, dances (usually AA combined), rallies, conventions, potlucks. [This year there is a Spring Fling in Galesburg, IL for both Alanon and AA. I can post this in...	wallsal55	0	784	Mar 9, 2005 by wallsal55
	Meeting? time? (Preview) Ok what time is the meeting? I am in Oregon. love, debilyn who for some reason cannot keep her eyes open today...zzzzz	debilyn	2	630	Mar 9, 2005 by Maria123
	VOTING tonite at meeting (Preview) Hello everyone, I still haven't got an answer if there will be a vote tonite on whether we can give hugs, smiles, nods or agrees during a meeting. There are people that don't use this board and don't even know about the meeting as someone stated at open chat late last night. I am new here and I have voiced...	cdb	3	741	Mar 9, 2005 by kismetstrand
	Need to get it off my chest (Preview) Hi Everyone, I needed to just sit here and type. In a way I hate message boards because I can't get an immediate answer. I want it and I want it now. Guess that goes with the whole problems I suffer from huh, lol. Anyway I am so confused.&nbs...	holly123	4	831	Mar 9, 2005 by megan
	Defensiveness/Retaliation (Preview) Gosh, went to an alanon retreat. Some of it is still sinking in. A friend of mine tried to remind me when dealing with my A, "No defense, (defensiveness) No retaliation." I guess I think of it as take no offense, no need to retaliate.	wallsal55	4	1036	Mar 9, 2005 by nmike
	Looking for a sponsor (Preview) Hello Everyone, Let me tell you about myself, I have been in Al-anon for almost a year, I have made great strides and great slides in this program. I have been married to my a for almost 10 years and new him much more than that. I previously had a online sponsor b...	holly123	1	744	Mar 9, 2005 by debilyn
	Emotionally Unavailable (Preview) I've worked the steps and discovered that I am emotionally immature and needy. I also discovered that I married a really decent man who is emotionally unavailable. (I'll pass on the hardware store theory have heard it plenty of times). What I need to know, is now what? I especially want to hear from any...	fineline	9	738	Mar 9, 2005 by holly123
	Just a shell (Preview) Hi everyone. I haven't posted here very often but I do come and read to gain some insight with everyone's experiences. First off I just want to say thank you to everyone for sharing and for willing to listen to my vents. It's weird - there must be different stages with dealing with an A.&n...	dogscribe	8	704	Mar 9, 2005 by richard
	My children (Preview) Hi, In another thread some one had asked me how Conner was, and how old he is now. Conner is now 15 months old, he is not walking, but he crawls and climbs faster than I can catch him. He is a little joy, laughing and smiling all of the time. He is so content, okay a little spoiled but Mom and Big Brothers...	Jeannie	6	1114	Mar 9, 2005 by richard
	A thought... thanks cdb... all... (Preview) At times, I say, “I wish I could get younger as I get older.” I say, I wish I could go back to younger years, only take with me what I know today. Only thing is though… if I took back what I know now… I would not do many, most of what I have done. However, if I did not do those things, done other things… I would not...	richard	1	801	Mar 9, 2005 by cdb
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