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Think out loud
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Hello Roomies,
Just when you think that your alcoholic is as bad as they can get, they get worse.
My "A" has gone up to Alaska twice to crab and was planning on leaving in a few weeks to go again. We made huge plans for the money he was going to be bringing home. We were going to...
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From Work
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On different days there are different tasks at work for me.(I work as a secretary at an out-patient treatment center)..funny how when just when I need it, a counselor will bring me something they need re-typed or prepared for group sessions....two months I received this. Hope it will help som...
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Not filling the gaps
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Well, I think I may be on the verge of major spiritual growth in my program and as a person...
As many of you recall, I hit my bottom about 1.5 years ago when I left my A because she had a longterm affair. Since then, I have had a very high level of willingness to work this program not only to get over he...
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NEED input--toxic brother attacks AGAIN
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my toxic brother wrote this HORRIBLE letter......ok, some history!!! he is executor of my dead child offender father's estate!!!! he KNOWS the freak incested me, and WHY i changed my name to a clean name and i sent him the court papers which showed on t...
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Nieve
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I'm feeling really stupid tonight. I've had a wonderful week since I began talking to Alanon's. Things at home are better because I'm not always on my A's case, he has been more open with me and I have felt more joyful and free than in six months. He went two nights without drinking an...
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My story.
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Here is my story. My husband is an alcoholic, and so is his mother and his grandfather (who is deceased). Anyhow, we married in 2002 and alcohol never seemed to be a problem for my husband. We were 30 when we got married, and went out occasionally and got drunk, but nothing out of the ordinary, and c...
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Another Funny to share
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I was reading something and I saw this:
Gasoline prices have gotten so high that women who want to run over their cheating husbands have started car pooling.
Hope you get a giggle.
Much Love,
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I feel like such a fool
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I posted here several weeks ago about leaving my a husband and how he of course has turned this all around on me. According to him everything going wrong with our marriage is my fault. Well I have been gone for 5 weeks now and I miss him terribly and I have been second guessing my decision to le...
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The Time is Now
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Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they
haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know
it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine.
I got to thinking one day about all those women on the Titanic who
pas...
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I'm Mad
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HI all,
I'm sitting here just mad at my A. He has mood swings from hell. Then I walk aroumd on egg shells. I ask is every thing O.k. Just to get some wise remark. I know getting sober is hard but I just don't like this. I use to walk on eggshells when he was drinking now agai...
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haxigonian XVIII
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[[ room ]]
I thought the holiday weekend was going to be dull...wrong!
I needed to get a Clackamas County library card, which is the last of the four available around here. They only give 30 minutes net time, but it's better than nothing. The nearest branch is an hour away by transit. As I have no...
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haximon
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VERY long story about my mom and me
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this is a LONG story of my mother's and my * sorta step 8/9 * together....sorry it is so long..
Hope for Today - September 8 After coming to Al-Anon, I have finally found peace. My father's alcoholism and my mother's reactions to it caused much pain in my childhood.&...
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A Promise
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Labor Day weekend was pretty bad. We worked on Saturday and when we came home he retired to our darkened bedroom, lay down on the bed and gave in to depression. He accused me of not treating him kindly. He refused to go out with our friends that night unless I promised to treat him better. Sin...
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Hi
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I'm FormalWare, but you can call me Bud. I'm part-time enabler/caretaker/doormat, part-time rageaholic control freak.
Alcoholism ran rampant over my childhood. I'm happy to say a 12-Step program (akin to ACOA, but with some John Bradshaw philosophy added) was instrumen...
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Words
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Just expressing frustration
Words, they cut like a knifeCut into my lifeI don't want to hear your wordsThey always attackPlease take them all backIf they're yours I don't want anymore
You think you're so smartYou try to manipulate meYou try to humiliate with your wordsYou think you're s...
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camra
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thanks megan
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Thank you Megan for helping me through this.
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nycbt
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New
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Nevermind. -- Edited by furball at 00:34, 2005-09-07
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some step ten stuff i share
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The Good in Step Ten
Step Ten says: "Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it." It does not suggest that we ignore what is right in our life. It says we continue to take a personal inventory and keep a focus on ourselves.
#####ROSIE.....yes, and funny i hav...
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My A has returned home again
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Hello, my A has returned this morning very drunk. He had been staying with a co-worker who spent 4 days providing him with alcohol, weed and new clothes and shoes. I feel really bad for her because I warned her when he stayed a couple of days last weekend that he was using her and that he had come home and cal...
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delicate topic
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Hello. I am newcomer to alanon and this board. I have a question about my newly sober boyfriend. I do not know how to broach it with him. What is anyone experience with sex and a newly sober partner? My boyfriend seems totally uninterested which is a big change. I am try...
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understanding
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Hello all,
I have been dating a man for two years. He is a recovering alcoholic, sober 1 1/2 years. It has not been easy, and I have no friends who is in this situation, so I come to you. The emotional rollercaoster sometimes is more than a soul can handle-but I have stuck it ou...
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to make you smile
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Hi roomies,
I look at this web page everyday and though some of you would like it
http://wonderofitall.com/
I hope you enjoy this.
NIKKILOU
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nikkilou
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To A special roomie
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cloud
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Looking at getting together with MIP roomies while in Arizona
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Hey there roomies,
I will be in Arizona Oct and was wondering if you all would like to get to gether while I am there!!
If you would please privatly e-mail me! thanks!!
I would love to meet al the roomies that i chat with I think it would be cool!!!
Thanks Bubbles123 
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yesterday was good
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Yesterday was a good night. That is sad that I have to say that. I hate having to worry that each day he might be drinking and giving me a hard time. He said yesterday that he is going to go to a meeting, but today when I see it I will believe it. I am trying to have faith but unless he walks in the door of the aa meet...
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nycbt
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learned a HUGE lesson
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hey all, called my sponser this am and she said that she could see the hate/anger too, but THIS time i was in control of it...(read my post about my attacking brother).
i thought about that and i realized... ....after ALL i went through, i may...
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decided to turn this over to my HP
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hey everyone i went to bed last night, and basically did a step 1,2,3, on this thing with my "oh so loving brother" you know its funny-- i don't CARE if he wants to love the perp....just don't get in MY face about my wanting to change my name, et al......like i am willing to let him do whatever he wants..he is...
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AGAIN
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My husband has been sober for about 6 months. Then I have noticed things that were different. Some of his behavior reminded me of things that he just to be like. The way he would talk. Some of the comments he makes. But I try not to think to much into it. I thought that maybe that the way he is now even though he...
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Chair needed 9/8 pm meeting
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I am going out of town and will not be available to chair the Thursday night meeting. Tradition 3 is scheduled to be discussed that night. Would appreciate if someone could cover this meeting. Thanks!
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Keep on Keepin' on
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Happiness keeps You Sweet,
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Peggy7
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Weekend...
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Some people have wonderful 3 day weekends as for me I had drunkenness and drama, crisis at my house. My A called Friday and was on his way home at 8:30pm, around 11 or so I called him, of course he doesn't answer his phone blah blah blah....then at 1:30am he calls to say he is stay...
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Detachment
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I have been lurking for a week or so and had a question for anyone who might be kind enough to respond.
My wife is an "A". She was in rehap this spring and went to some AA meetings for a while but we are back to the former person for now, no restraint. I have been refusing to do some activi...
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In turmoil
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hi everyone.
i haven't posted here in ages, but this past week i have been reading the board. i think i have backed off of coming here because i feel the things i deal with and go thru are so redundant, that i finally just decided to quit repeating myself and just deal with the life i have chosen and...
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search41
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Business Mtg....Postponed
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Hi everyone,
Tomorrow's business meeting has been rescheduled for next Wednesday the 14th. Please try to attend if you are available.
Thanks all!
David
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david62
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Canada trip
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http://www4.deltahotels.com/hotels/hotels.php?hotelId=30
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megan
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Only One LIfe
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With several of us experiencing ill health ourselves, or that of loved ones, and with the events down in the Southern US, I think this is a good time to remember that life can be taken from us at any time.
I don't know what comes after but I do know that we have this life, and it may be all we get. Do we want to s...
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lin0606
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what to do?
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Hello roomies:
I know that this group is not for advice, but I'm in a weird place and need some help. As you know from previous posts my A and I are currently separated while we both attempt to work through our own issues. We had not seen each other in some time and Saturday night was the first night...
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Kim
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Need advice, my ex may have hit bottom
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Need some advice. I’m an alcoholic with two solid years of recovery. Wife filed for divorce last summer, just finalized 2 weeks ago. We have 2 kids 14 and 12. Our house had been for sale since last spring, no offers yet (It’s overbuilt for the neighborhood, but when I built it 4 years ago, I had no intent...
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UncleLou
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Overwhelmed
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Hi everyone,
I'm new here, but feel like I can ask for your support & prayers. HP helped me find this group a few weeks ago. I've been isolated from my ftf group this summer because, I have no a/c in the car, am disabled and one illness I have is migraines from the heat.&nb...
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cedarpines
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Moving Day
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Dear Friends,
I am moving this week (I hope) and my internet will be shut off on Tuesday, September 6th. It won't be turned back on until Saturday, September 10th. Need to get a group conscious on whether I can postpone the business meeting set up for Wednesday. I am the groups bus...
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bob6502
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This is a really good story!!
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princess433
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Live strong.
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Hello all!
Just wanted to share this with you. We all know the yellow Live Strong bracelets. I wear mine in honor of some relatives who have lost their battle with cancer. I'm also a big biking enthusiast. Having said that, if you have never been to the Lance Armstorong Foundation website, do so:
ww...
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Karilynn
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Who are these people?
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Have you ever looked at your family and wondered what planet they came from? And how they are possibly related to you. Well I just came from another family get together, we have a lot of those. I have a big family and we all live near eachother, so we get together for every reason known...
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kimmie
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Thanks from the newbie!
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To everyone who replied to my first posting:
From the bottom of my heart: THANK YOU!
The first weekend we had together went great! He stayed completely sober, and for the first time I wasn't afraid to come home. Piper (the cat) was estatic that Dad was home. Despite the craziness of the weekend at wo...
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Karilynn
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Do you like this poem????
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Confused-
My knees start to shake, When your in sight. My mid filles with wonder, My heart with fright/
When will this feeling stop? When did it start? How can I listen to my mind. Without breaking my heat? I'm so confused. What should I do? I can't think of anything, Except you.
Should I ignore yuo...
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princess433
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How do I work this thing
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I am new to the online site and I can't figure out--do I need to set up a sigon on for every site? Like if I want to use the 12 step work board, do I need to register there again? Is it that way on all the different sites? Thanks for help and getting me familiar with the way things work.
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horsemaven
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Checking In
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I just wanted to check in and let everyone know I am doing okay. I have been having a difficult time dealing with my ten year old son who is severly mentally ill. We celebrated his birthday on Saturday along with the baby who just turned two today. I had to be especially careful not to l...
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is it my job?
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I have been trying very hard to let go of things that are not my responsibililty to handle however today I find myself in quite a hard place.
I carry the medical insurance for our family, as my coverage has always been better than that offered at my A's job. Fortuanately I have always been able to main...
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confused
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learning to live ONE day at a time
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Hope for Today - September 5 The first slogans I heard were "Just for Today" and "One Day at a Time." I thought they applied to other people, not to me. It took Step Three work and faith in my Higher Power to become honest.
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Prayer request for Isabela
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I am asking for prayers for Isabela.
She was in the cardiac intensive care unit earlier in the week.
her blood pressure was so high they had to get a special machine to read it, it was off the charts, She could also have had a stroke the doctor said. Her blood pressure was so hi...
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megan
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Biopsy didn't go well- prayers needed please
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(((((roomies)))))
I went to have my biopsy today on my cervix...I was sat down before hand and told the severty of my abnormal pap. I was informed that the level of abnormality is the highest grade... Before i was told that this doesn't mean i have cancer... today i...
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sad
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hi all....
i am seriously stressed.
my husband is in the process of losing his job...don't know when. my mom is showing signs of dementia. my job is starting again and i feel like i don't know what i'm doing. only my second year in this specialty and i feel stressed and inadequat...
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jo4
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haxigonian XVII
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[[ room ]]
I did visit the Beaverton farmer's market Saturday and it was as large as I had been told. it is possible to eat like a king for $1 (salmon jerky) with all the varied produce samples around. It's stone fruit season here and the peaches are wonderful, as are the pluots. Pears are goo...
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haximon
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my favorite prayer
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When ever I begin to doubt that God is not helping me this brings me back to reality.
AS CHILDREN BRING THEIR BROKEN TOYS WITH TEARS FOR US TO FIX
I BROUGHT MY BROKEN DREAMS TO GOD BECAUSE HE WAS MY FRIEND
BUT INSTEAD OF LEAVING HIM IN PEACE TO WORK ALONE
I HUNG AROUND AND TRIED TO HELP WITH W...
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abbyal
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Katrina "refugees"
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Today San Antonio is to receive up to 30,000 refugees from New Orleans. I feel sorry for these people, but I admit I am not looking forward to these new residents' arrival. We have all read about the lawlessness in post-hurricane New Orleans: Looting, raping, murdering, fighting, rioting, hijackin...
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friends
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to all my friends here at mip.
my computer blew up last week, and i lost everything..so if you have previously emailed me, and wouldnt mind can you send me a mail with your addy on it..so i can get you back in my book? if anyone has kept the recipie for that pumpkin "stuff" please send it..its gone t...
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Praying for a Sign
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Hi Friends,
As many of you know from listening to me whine in the chat room, I am at a crossroads in my marriage right now.
I have been with my A husband nearly 10 years, married for six years. Our marriage has been one of escalating abuse and violence and, thanks to this program, I had finally go...
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Butterfly
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WHAT SHOULD I DO?
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IF YOU HAVE READ MY OTHER POSTS, YOU KNOW THAT MY A HAS TAKEN OFF ON ONE OF HIS WEEKEND DRUNKS. I SUSPECTED THAT HE WAS STAYING WITH A CO-WORKER WHO IS LETTING HIM DRINK THERE ALL WEEKEND. A LITTLE WHILE AGO, I PICKED UP THE PHONE AND LOOKED AT THE CALLER ID AND REALIZED THAT HE HAD CALLED ME LAST NIGHT FROM THE...
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melissajill
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Why stay with a practicing alcoholic?
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I know we each have to answer the question, "why stay?" for ourselves, but I was just wondering about this topic. We're supposed to detach from the behavior of the alcoholic, but if alcoholic behavior is 95% of what we get from a spouse--what is the point? A future of more of the same...
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FoggyMac
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haxigonian XVI/WACO
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[[ room ]]
As Monday is a US holiday, I may not be online at all that day.
The bronchitis is still hangin around and probably will al weekend; must be the early morning chill.
I did talk with my mother yesterday, and her meds were indeed mixed up. Trouble is mum is legally blind and some of the pil...
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haximon
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