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I'm new here, but feel like I can ask for your support & prayers. HP helped me find this group a few weeks ago. I've been isolated from my ftf group this summer because, I have no a/c in the car, am disabled and one illness I have is migraines from the heat. I have found you to be as supportive and helpful as my ftf - it seems al-anon or aca are unique individuals yet I feel almost as if I've found a group of new friends or family immediately - no one else speaks our language or really understands. I say all this to say I am grateful for all of you.
I am asking for any support or prayers for these things in my life now: as my daughter moved to live with her dad recently, I have to move from my 2 bedroom to a one bedroom Oct. 31. I'm asking HP for guidance here as my character defects from family of origin & al-anon rear their ugly head especially now - indecision, procrastination, perfectionism, etc. I have asked to transfer to a 1 bedroom in this complex. I feel like the ones by the front office are safer, however, HP knows best. Tonight I heard 8 gunshots & saw people running & cussing & called the police as I was bringing in groceries. These things happen anywhere & everywhere. I thought I was supposed to stay in this complex & put down a transfer fee. Please grant clarity HP.
Indecision, procrastination, & courage to go thru daughter's things in her room. This move also means I have to get rid of her stuff & throw away what she didn't take - which she already understood & took what she wanted. However - it is emotional for me. It means more letting go. I thought I had done most of that - letting go of her - surprise. I see her pointe shoes or a certain article of clothing. I won't be able to have a room for her in my home. For 18 years, I was a single mom with a room for her in my home - I just keep her door shut & procrastinate - but the deadline approaches. Oh God give me strength. I have so much of own stuff to go thru - being the clutter collector I am - ugh.
Then there is my dog - Sadie - 15 yr. Lhasa Apso - old won't live much longer & I have to put down 400 pet dep. to transfer to new apartment. Then if any is refundable on this apt. after I move, they'll refund it later. She's been a blessing and sweet companion. God I'm willling to let go of her in my mind, help me in my heart.
Since I'm disabled, I'll have to pay movers to physically move me - last time it cost me $400. I don't have any of this money.
I put all this out here not to feel sorry for me, but to ask for prayer support. Some of this, I am powerless over and turn over to HP. I'm asking for clarity, guidance, strength, courage, and what HP will is. Being in Alanon now, I do believe in miracles. I have learned much from you all in the short time I've been here.
If any of you made it through my wordy post, bless your heart
I believe your HP brought to us and that there is a plan. Keep an open mind for the answer might different than you think. One thing and one day at a time. Don't try to take it all in at one time. Baby steps. I know you have a deadline looming and that makes this a stressful time. I think you'll have clarity soon.
Do you perhaps attend a church that you could ask for help in moving? Or any organization? Nearby School? Boy Scouts? Even if you don't attend a church, contact them anyway. HP will provide if you do the footwork, but you have to get the word out. People are willing to volunteer, if they are aware you need it. Try to prioritize your projects and let go of the things that have not or may not happen (fears). Concentrate on the tasks at hand and as Megan said, just a few hours at a time. One day at a time, One project at a time.
Take care ((Cedar)) Christy (Cjo)
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Welcome to the board! Sometimes you just have to hunker down and take care of yourself. I am in a similar situation. My husband moved out and our last son went to college. After 22 years of child rearing and 31 years of marriage I find myself all by myself. Yikes!
I am learning what it means to work my program and ask for help. Sometimes friends and family are there and sometimes they are not. I can't bear to clean up my son's room. I walk in there and cry every day. But little by little I have moved a pile or so. Do it when you are ready.
Know that you are not alone. You have yourself, Alanon, and your higher power.
hi welcome!! yep yep yep hp send me here too. I was flat out on my deck sobbing andf thought hmmm alanon online????? Been here over 5 years now.
So so glad ya found us!! You will soon find this place is home.
I am in Oregon, where are you? I am wondering about moving you. Just seems there would be a way to get someones to volunteer I know if it were around here, I would love to help and have a pickup. i have never had anyone do mine for me, so I know it can be done.
Do you have a disabled services where you are? I know they help with certain things.
Ya might call and see if someone could do it for their community service. Not all of them are bad people. My friend has an animal sanctuary and she had people doing this at her place.
You might call the Salvation army and see if they have any ideas, they also might help pay for the moving stuff. They get money from the government to divy out to low income people.
call the humane society about you dog. Talk to a director and see if they have any ideas. Maybe becuz of your being disabled, you can get help there somehow.
Sure does not help to ask. I have a lhasa Apso too, Gretta. She was not socialized and I have an animal sanctuary, and like to take in special needs animals.
She is a doll and feeling more secure all the time. (c: I am just sure she loves the ribbons I put on her poney tails....
She lets me pick her up and we take naps on my bed. After she eats she likes to get on my bed and rub all over my comforters...
She is called a bite dog, but she just needed someone who knows how to "gentle" an animal. I have done it all my life. llamas horses pot bellied pigs, cats....
Anyway oh boy yea, my kids are 29 and 30 and all of a sudden became adults on me
I still have some of their toys lady!!! So I relate. I found a little notebook, I opened int it said MOM GET OUT OF MY BUSINESS!! lol it was from when my son was a teen... hehe
Well darn I wish I could physically help somehow.
Keep coming back, I guarentee you won't be sorry.
Love,debilyn of Potter's Eden http://community.webshots.com/user/gypsygma here is my pic site
Thank you all for the great suggestions & support. Somehow just saying it makes me feel a little better. MMMM an alanon asking for help? what's that? lol I will pick up the heavy phone & make some calls. (how many alanons does it take to pick up the phone & ask for help?) Don't know but that should be a joke and someone could come up with a clever punch line.
Thank you for your support.
Cedarpines - (deep in the heat - I mean heart of TX)
For 18 years, I was a single mom with a room for her in my home - I just keep her door shut & procrastinate - but the deadline approaches. Oh God give me strength. I have so much of own stuff to go thru - being the clutter collector I am - ugh.
