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WHY the attraction to other drinkers????
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Hope for Today - November 8
Why am I so attracted to alcoholics? I dwelled on that question for more than five years. Then while listening to an adult child speaker at Al-Anon's First International Convention, I had an unexpected spiritual awakening. It occurred to me that my m...
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im soo sad...
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SO yea..... I hate my xxxx life.....I really do.. I can't wait till im 18... 4 more months and then I am out of this controlling life... seriously i do need a life...I hate myself for being so xxxx stupid sometimes My aunt took my phone.... well my charger that damn bitch*********** she can go to hell f...
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(joke) stealing ideas
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My mom told me this one today:
stealing an idea from one person is called plagarism... stealing ideas from many is called research!
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Humor in recovery...
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I was reminded the other day, of how important it is for us to keep our perspective, for us to be able to see a bit of humor, despite all that is going on around us..... Even in my darkest moments, when I literally thought my world around me was coming to an end, I found some amount of humor (sometimes d...
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boundary and decision
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Tonight I am faced with the consequences of my boundary. Saturday as you all know I had my heart to heart with my A. Setting the boundary for me of non acceptance of anymore drinking in my marriage. My talk with my A was heartfelt about trust issues, loneliness and the fact tha...
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2 days later
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On Sunday I went to my parents house because of things going on in the house with my husband. Then I didn't call him until 3:30 pm the following afternoon. Normal I would be calling him when I first got in the car, when I went to bed, when I woke up the next moring. I didn't do any of that. He had called me twice a...
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new to the site
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I found this site the other day thought i would give it a try. My huband is a drinker and i am feeling realy down and alone. I need someone to talk to for advice how to help my self.
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today is my parent's anniversary
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Today makes 26 years that my parents (My mother & step-father) have been married. I kept saying 27 years... the last 4 months have felt like an entire year.
July 19th, I was told that my step-dad had been cheatting with mistresses & prostitutes for over 15 years. The new...
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Prayers needed.
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Hi roomies,
Okay I just came back from the doctors. Last month I had my annual mamomogram, and the films didn't come out right. They called me back in and did some more pictures and an ultrasound because they saw something. I have to go see a surgeon next week and take it from there.
I know that I ha...
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How does one accomplish this??
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I had the weekend from hell. My A. relapsed on Saturday and after some absolutely unacceptable behavior Saturday night has decided to check himself in rehab again. He made his appointment for an assessment for the 22 of this month and then wants to start an outpatient program.
After this weekend...
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new girl w/?'s
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hello everyone!
I am greatful to be able to ask my questions online, for I do not have a car! So here goes:
I grew up with an alcoholic father. I am now 25, with my own child and husband. I am a recovering alcoholic since 5-11-04. I checked out the brochure for a...
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"Release Me" - song lyrics
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I love this song to go with recovery. You can find the words to it at: www.lyricsdomain.com Click on W.
Then under "Wilson Phillips" Then click on 'Release Me'.
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Boundary Guidelines & sayings
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Everytime I attend an on-line meeting, I get another quote or saying to add to my list that I kkep reprinting & sticking on walls in my condo. I also keep a copy folded up in my prayer book. So far this is what my inspirational page has on it: (& due to the anonymity of our great Program...
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Sick with the flu
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Hi everyone,
Hope all of you are doing well. I have been feeling sick with the flu the past couple days and just can't seem to get on track.
I was laid off from my job about a month ago and not having any luck finding something. I know I can't worry myself sick as that does not h...
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My A is really trying
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I haven't been here in over a week. I'm reading your posts and trying to keep up but have to share about my A. He is going to a counselor and doctor. The doctor has put him on seroquel, thinks he's bipolar. Anyway, I have to give him credit for trying. I wish I had the time to talk to each and every one of you. I as...
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Helping or Crippling?
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Have you ever heard the story of the cocoon and the butterfly?
Basically a man is walking along and sees a cocoon. He stops and looks at it and sees that a butterfly is trying to emerge. He notices that the butterfly is really struggling. It pains the mans heart to see the butterfly struggle, so h...
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I Wish You Enough
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I Wish You Enough
By Author Unknown
At an airport I overheard a father and daughter in their last moments together. They had announced her plane’s departure and standing near the door she said, “Daddy, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you eno...
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HARD TIME NOT TALKING TO HIM
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I am having a hard time not talking to him. I love to hear him talk. But I didn't like the way he was talking to me last night. So for at least the next 15 minutues I will try and stay strong and not call him. My mind set is different now then when I used to do this. When i used to get up here i wo...
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Please read and pass on...
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This is a true story.... Once you read this please email to your friends or your a in hopes of trying to save others..and themselves...
Jennys horrific story
Jenny was so happy about the house they had found.
For once in her life '...
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Hard Work
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Friday evening when my A was on his way home, at 6pm!!!! I know what a shock, he shared how his buddy asked him to go with him on Saturday to look at a couple of snowmobiles. It is such hard work not to read more into things then there is. I immediatly thought..."Oh great, now the two drinking bu...
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new person...
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hey.. just had a mad notion to post my story in this chatroom.
im 24 yrs old and met my recovering alcoholic and drug addict boyf. nearly 2 yrs ago. we were friends for a few weeks then became an item. he told me his background and i accepted his past..as "his past". we got on brilliantly for a y...
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my mom is not in my refridgerator
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Food Is Not Mother
In the mind of a baby, "food" is synonymous with "mother." As the baby grows, the two concepts become differentiated, but perhaps never completely separated. We compulsive overeaters may still be confusing food with mother.Often we feel a great deal of hostility and resentm...
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I DID IT
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Yesterday my husband wanted 2000 and I told him no. I did ask what it was for he told me I don't want to know. So because I said no he was giving me a hard time. So I left and went to my parents house. I took a day off from work as well. I haven't cried or called him. He has called once so far and I hav...
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His friend
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Yesterday when i left I called his sponsor but I didn't leave a message. His sponsor called me back and told me that he goes to meetings all the time. He was upset because my husband doesn't want help and he willing to help him. I know there is nothing I can do and he said the same thing. He told me to tell him to...
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I can do it!
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Last Friday my car overheated, now I don't know alot about cars so I took it to the mechanic, and rushed off to work (late) ,he fixed the problem (A jammed thermostat), I rushed back to the mechanics after work, picked up the car and was about 10 minutes late picking up the chil...
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Believe that you can
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Your quote of the day for November 7, 2005
"Believe that you can do it, under any circumstances. Because if you believe you can, then you really will. That belief just keeps you searching for the answers, then pretty soon you get it."
– Wally "Famous" Amos
Happy Monday all,
Sun...
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Boundaries
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When I first heard about boundaries I completely misused them. A few examples of some of my first attempts at boundaries went along the lines of:
I will not tolerate your drug use whatsoever anymore. If you use you will go immediatly into rehab.
You will attend NA meetings eve...
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SERENITY
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All,
Over the last few days, I've been exploring the meaning of serenity in my own life by asking myself: What does serenity mean to me? What does it look like? What does it feel like?
I've been reading all of the selections on serenity in Courage to Change and Hope for Today and just allowing the ques...
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changing seasons, time for growth
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I bought a mixer today.
A nice kitchen aid one like my mom had and like my wedding present mixer.
My wedding present mixer is with my alcoholic husband who I am divorcing.
When I left him in May I took nothing and bought all new, I was that upset and desperate.
Since I asked him 3 times for the mixer (...
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megan
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A belated 'thank-you'
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I can't thank you enough my good friends for the love and support shown to me and my family following my husband John's death. My dear friend Flora123 [Maggie to me] also passed on your prayers and kind thoughts from friends in the chatroom.
My husband was an alcoholic who sadly n...
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Yes It Really is Groundhog Day
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same shit, diff day....
I guess i will be stuck at learning to become less involved with others & more involved with myself... 38 is 4 months away & I'm just learning to put myself first, love myself first.
God has never left me - I have chosen not to listen in the past... well at...
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to thiNk first
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Ok today I am doing better, I had one of those light bulb moments. Also by me writing this may count as the daily writing I am supposed to do as per my sponsor's request (yes she is a teacher) so I will share and do my homework at the same time.
I know that I grew up in a less then ideal world as a child, I have l...
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thanks for kickin my butt
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Hi all:
I read your responses to my earlier email and thanks for kickin' my butt back into play. It was a very weird feeling I had...I hadn't felt that concerned about whether or not he was using in a while and for some strange reason, it bothered me this time. Not to the point of obsessing, I called two ti...
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Duuh… The Light was Always Here but I still need Help!
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Alright ... I feel so stupid. I know I am not stupid but I haven’t been using what I have learned. Times have gotten tough and I easily fall into all of my old patterns. How simple it is to stop doing what you know is good and right for you and just sink in your little hole. I hadn’t even realized that this is wha...
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Mayonnaise Jar & 2 Cups of Coffee
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Howdy yall!
Got this today and thougth it was worth sharing!
Subject: Mayonnaise Jar and 2 Cups of Coffee >>> When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a >>> day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee. >>&g...
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rehab? now I think that was a con
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So, called my A last night. He was supposed to pick up my stepdaughter and take her to the movies (which I'm sure he did) but now his phone is off (since 11:30 last night when I called) and now I'm wondering if he's had second thoughts about the whole rehab thing and/or he went out on one last binge before.&n...
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doormat
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i dont know what is getting in to me lately. i have let my a and his mother walk all over me and i am just mad at myself for this. i have stopped enabling my a and his mom along time ago. somehow i got tricked into this. first of all my mother in law doesnt work just stays home and lives off other people. a little ov...
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lonely & very sad
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he was doing so good since rehab .i had such a bad feeling last night and my husband swore that he wasn't drinking. anyway we were suppose to see each other today and i havent heard from him since 11pm last night. i called his cell phone (nextel) and i two wayed him 4x and i...
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revenge!!! short term high....long term low
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A.A. Thought for the Day
I have lost many of my resentments. I have found that getting even with people doesn't do any good. When we try to get revenge, instead of making us feel better, it leaves us frustrated and cheated. Instead of punishing our enemies, we've only hurt our own peace of mind. It do...
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please pray for steven
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i was just about to go to sleep an we got a phone call my daughters boyfriend was getting just rushed to the hospital in an ambulance chest pains and tingling in his arms and legs they had to give him oxygyen. he lives across the street so we rushed over. what is going on with the kids the...
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gratitude EVEN for the "pains in the butt"
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Relationships
There is a gift for us in each relationship that comes our way.Sometimes the gift is a behavior we're learning to acquire: detachment, self esteem, becoming confident enough to set a boundary, or owning our power in another way.Some relationships trigger healing in us - healing...
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Could I be manic? Or is this just a pity pot
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I had a good last few days, but today I am mad, and don't know why.
I woke up, and didn't want to get out of bed. My husband needed to go to work, but I freaked out on him first thing, and haven't done a single thing since.
I have been in bed all day.
My daughter is sick, and she stayed with me all day,...
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I read an article....
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First degree relatives of alcoholics are 3-4 times as likely to have alcoholism than first degree relatives of non-alcoholics
20-25% of sons and brothers of alcoholics become alcoholic
5% of daughters and sisters of alcoholich become alcoholic
http://www.familystudies.org/alcoholi...
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Something worth sharing
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This was given to me today and I thought that I'd share with all of my friends here. It applies to me so much in my situations but I know that there are many many more situations out there that could use just a little comfort. Funny how a silly song can bring comfort, but I guess it's just one of t...
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maybe I have learned something!
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Hi boarders-
This morning I had an interesting talk with my A husband-- and noticed some changes in me that I wanted to discuss. He stayed home sick about 2 1/2 days last week. I knew he really didn't have anything physically wrong with him. I was concerned that he was using (there is a pattern with him-...
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self esteem & concept/tradition 11
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Good morning all at this mornings meeting I related to topic of fear today as well as self esteem…
I am very empathetic to all these situaitons I hear in meetings that this disease has caused and all the fear that can come along with it. I know HP will give us all the guidance we need to get thru it
And l...
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BREAKING OUR ISOLATION, AND OPENING UP
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In time, however most of us find it important to talk about the things that trouble us. In alanon , it is often said that "we are only as sick as our secrets". A key to breaking the stranglehold that alcoholism has on our lives is to begin to open up and let those secrets out. Part of the isolation of this dise...
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crissy and leo
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Hi,
I just wanted to thank you for your kind words. I was down yesterday. I think I just took on to much all at once. I started a new job( Same company) and did some side jobs for a friend of mine. The house was a mess and my daughter was acting out. She does not like t...
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he asked me to take him to rehab
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He's waiting on a bed to open and it can happen anytime between tomorrow and Wed. He just called ot ask if i would take him and if he could leave his car here at the house. What do I do? I'm not sure what to make of this. Help!
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moonlight ride
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Jenny horrific story
Jenny was so happy about the house they had found.
For once in her life 'twas on the right side of town.
She unpacked her things with such great ease.
As she watched her new curtains blow in the breeze.
How wonderful it was to have her own room.
School would be st...
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How to be an IDEAL sponsor...
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Taken from "The Forum" June 1992 (which was reprinted from 1980)
~~The Ideal Sponsor~~
From what I've learned in Al-Anon, certain physical attributes would be very helpful to become the ideal sponsor of a newcomer.
Big ears would help us listen, listen, listen to the newcomer. Then st...
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if i were given a change of life
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If I were given a change of life, I'd like to see how it would
be to live as a mere six footer......Wilt Chamberlain
In childhood many of us dreamed of being somebody else, anybody but who we are. As time went on, and we lost touch with our feelings, we also lost who we were. We hung in limbo, not being w...
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HAPPY FRIDAY!
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Happy Friday, I came in to work extremely late today. I am doing really good. I was really stressed about sending my mortgage payment, was short some, we are buying from owner and I have never had to send partial payment before and I wanted a wireless router for my home comps, keep pu...
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amanda's results
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first of all i want to thank all of you for all your prayers and support .
we had such a scare. amanda's heart is fine thank god!she has something thats called musculoskeletal chest pain the cardiologist wants her to take motrin 3 x a day and said the pain can come at an...
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End of your rope....
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Your quote of the day for November 5, 2005
"When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on."
– Franklin Delano Roosevelt
Just wanted to share this with you all, it hit home to me, Hang on for dear life not knowing what might happen if I dare let go. Also makes me thi...
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Thanks so much all of you
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((((Everyone)))))
First please let me say I am sorry for being so off the wall last night. I lost it. I was so hurt and angry, I scared myself.
While at the time I wrote it, I meant every word. I do not wish anyone to die a hirrible death, life is too preciouse to me.
I am going to save what I wrote, to remi...
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So fiull of hate and disgust
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Well I am a full blown horses you know what!
He said if I promised to go to counseling after he went into rehab, he would go. Since I believe I could use counseling to deal with the pure hatred I have for his mother I agreed. He then said he was going in on November 1st and asked if he could please come trick or...
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Attn: Ops/Chairpersons
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I will be sending out an email prior to our Op meeting Wednesday 11/9. If I do not have your email addy, please pm me with it. Thank you!
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Must do it for my kids and me
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I just recently found this website and starting reading and chatting. I am the daughter of alcoholic parents - and they are children of alcoholics. I married a heavy recreational drinker 18 years ago. I have made myself sick - depression - hives, etc. - by trying to change my husba...
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A Prayer @ Beginning of Day
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Higher Power, allow me to greet the coming day in peace. Help me in all things to rely upon Your holy will. In every hour of the day, reveal Your will to me. Teach me to treat all that comes to me throughout the day with peace of soul & with the firm conviction that Your will governs all.
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