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my a just called at 530am


my husband just called said he left his moms already for today. he doent start work until 830am  i heard a radio so i knew he was not home. he said he wants to come home he won't do it again he misses me. the two of us are so torn i am so drained i went to bed so early. i could have slept until 7 but the phone woke me up and i jumped .  he went through his pay last week his excuse was stress. the atm last wek said 100- requested aero - dispenced  he had the recipt it was taken out of the bank it will get fixed so that was one of his excuses i said if you cant handle this litle thing how are you going to handle your life. it kills me that this once strong man is weak.he has no money and pay day is friday he promises me that he will bring me money on friday he wants me to put my child support in the bank so he can eat tonight. thats money that i am using to surrive i am not going to do it. i am going to let god let go. i have ben struggling too. i told him when chicken cutlets we re on sale for 169 lb & he didnt listen. i bought a whole bunch froze some and cooked some and then froze them. how many nights have i eaten waffles ,cereal ,or grill cheese & soup  peanut butter & jelly but he is too good for that please. i am so frustrated  right now . but i am going to let go let god


thanks for letting me vent


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Hi Chrissy and Good morning


 


My A tries to call me late at night and early in the morning sometimes.


I put my cell phone on vibrate and get the sleep I need.


He does not work and is on no schedule  at all.


 


I am proud of you for not putting the money that you need to survive in the account for him to go through.


 


Stay strong,  Megan



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Chrissy,

Good morning to you! You're doing just fine. Stay the course. Keep those boundaries in place. You have your family to think about. They can't be trusted. I hate to say that about someone I love. But it's true.

Remember an addict doesn't think like we do. When they're active, they have no concept of money and other matters. I'm with Megan about the phone. Go get some rest when you can young lady.

Live strong,
Karilynn

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Awesome job, Chrissy!

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Chrissy,


Remember "One Day At A Time"


Ok, now I want to get this straight. He went through his whole paycheck, didn't give you any of it, he is now broke, and wants you to give him some of the little bit you have to live off of? Good for you for thinking of yourself. You need to take care of you. He can take care of himself.


It is hard to watch them sink into the disease. It is hard to watch the person we love slowly lose themselves in the disease.


Focus on you.


Much Love,



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 mandy yes you understood correctly. but i have gotten stronger with the help of all of my friends here and i have my hp beside me. thanks for all your replies with out all of you i don't know how i would have ever survived


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Hi Chrissy!!!!


When I started the "Let Go Let God" it was easy to say it and believe it, the hard part came with trusting my HP would do what is best for me and my A.  Letting go is good though, you are on the right path, taking care of you!  Last year my "lightbulb" moment came when I realized if I don't take care of me who will?  I am no good to my family, my sons, now my grandchildren, or my friends if I am not good to myself.  Do what you think is right, trust yourself, (that is hard to do also)  Hang in there, you have so much support....


Hugs Mary



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