I am back to HATRED, god help me - Al-Anon Family Group

kitty · ~*Service Worker*~

I am back to HATRED, god help me

megan · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Kitty

(((((((Kitty)))))

I am so sorry that he is being so horrible.

Deep breath, step back, deep breath.

Focus on you.

What can YOU do to make yourself feel better?

In support

megan

Dolphin123 · ~*Service Worker*~

((((((((((((Kitty)))))))))),

Sending you lots of love, because I have no idea what else to say.

Sorry you are going through all this. I think I would feel the same if I were in your shoes.

Much Love,

nycbt · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi It is good for you that he is out of town. It is a shame that he can't just have one girl. I hate one men are like that. They think they are guys gift to women. Well there not.

kitty · ~*Service Worker*~

oh megan, I know you're having a hard day too cyber hugs (((((((((((((((megan)))))))))))))

captcodee · Senior Member

(((((((((((((((((((Kitty)))))))))))))))))))))

I would be feeling the same way. I hate it when my father disrespects my mother in even the simplest things. I feel that my mom deserves respect, and get very protective about her.

I have learned tho, that my mom has choices. I know she doesn't like the way she gets treated from my dad sometimes, but she chooses to remain with him.

It is okay to feel angry. It IS your mom. However, it sounds like things that are out of your control are dominating your day.

May God grant you the SERENITY to accept the things you can not change,

The COURAGE to change the things you can,

And the WISDOM to know the difference.

Aron

kitty · ~*Service Worker*~

> big deep out breaths, just posting helped it get out of my heart....

But seriously, I do not want to see him! I think as long as I don't see him, I will be able to maintain my own serenity.

Thanks everybody & believe me, choices continue to be made, seeds are being planted... the man is just giving rope. I suppose beyond prayers, the fool needs to be pitied.

bubbles1990 · Senior Member

(((((((((((((((((((((kitty)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) don't be so hard on your self and keep the focus on your self.... I am so sorry he is treating you like this and you are going through this awful mess my heart goes out to you!!!

Your in my prayers for comfort and peace... You deserve to be happy!!!

Love ya ((((((kitty)))))

bubbles123

kissers · Senior Member

I was in a relationship like this myself not so long ago. My Sponsor told me to keep reading a book called, "What Smart Women Know" along with reading Alanon literature and working my 12 steps. My self-esteem improved and I no longer felt I needed to be punished. I know I deserve to be loved in a healthy way and there are men who are not able to do this, but when I am ready my HP/God will send him my way. I work on myself now and not anybody else. Love yourself FIRST. You are reflecting what he feels about himself. He hates himself and he will take you down with him until you start taking care of you. Take all that anger and do something nice for yourself(manicure, pedicure, walk, make a new friend, workout). Your anger is not going to change him...it's only going to hurt you(mentally, physically, emotionally). Is he really worth destroying yourself over? Also, try reading "He's just not that into you". It works for me everytime I get angry or sad...changes my perspective and attitude instantly.

Diane43 · Senior Member

Hi Kitty,

sorry to hear that you are going through all this...Hugs and prayers to you! Keep the focus on you girl...enjoy your evening..

Diane

nmike · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Kitty,

Famous last words of the A, my A too, "this is who and what I am". As if this excuses poor behavior. I too cut my husband's hair for 30 years or more and he left in June. It is just not about us but about the disease!

Take care of yourself. You have a lot of support here.

Nancy

rosie light shines · ~*Service Worker*~

(((kitty)))) bless Ur heart!!!! i know how you feel , my friend, it sucks!!! sometime i get sick of just being with good ole me, but what the hell, i am nice to me, and me/ hp is all i got, really, so i do my best......

i have had people say "oh you shouldn't hate so and so, it isn't good" but if i FEEL it, i am gonna allow my feelings, THAN i do my self talk, and tell me that "lets fill my heart up with love for me, rather than hate for whom ever it is i am hating"

hope this made sense, its bedtime..............love n hugs/ rosie

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