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rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Giving up is not giving in, nor is it failing. It is no longer needing to be right. --Anonymous When someone tells us a riddle, we may give up if we don't know the answer. We give up because we are tired of trying to get it, or because we are eager to find out what it is. Giving up in other situations, may be...

FreeOfTheBottle · FreeOfTheBottle

Hey there, ya'll. Got this in an email tonight and it really gave me something to think about. It reminded me to quit dwelling on the A being in jail, to quit dwelling on the fact that he wrecked my car and as of Monday I will have no vehicle (insurance company totaled it and are comin...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

I am alone I sit in a room full of people, and still I stare at the wall I have no close friends…all are acquaintances I am scared to trust, for my heart will not survive another hurt I am alone,for nobody understands me They see me as content, full of life, and soo vibrant I am not like...

New Member · Joann54

Hello Everyone, I wanted to share my story with you. I am just starting to realize that I need some support.. I can't deal with my "A" alone anymore. Came here for some guidance on how to start caring for myself. I have been with him for 8 yrs. Some days are wonderful. He is my best f...

new member · Michele

Hello everyone. I signed up here a few weeks ago, but so far I've just been "lurking." I got an email today from someone who asked me to participate. Guess it's time. I've been going to meetings here since June. I cried like a baby at the first meeting and completely embarassed myself, but found so mu...

Barbara · Barbara

Well I finally have a smile on my face today and its all because of chocolate cake! lol Another friend of my husbands just showed up and he brought chocolate cake! yummmmmmmmmmmmmmm Happy Thanksgiving everyone

Barbara · Barbara

Besides having tags for children, our Church is giving us the option to buy for recovering addicts. What would you put in a woman's Christmas present bag?

bobump · bobump

Well we all show up at the church and the door is locked so we head down to the local diner. One our groups spouse was there as he had the day off Friday. He looks down at the diner placemat. Blessing's Auto Service......antique and new cars, towing and recovery, 24hr service with a day and ni...

wille · wille

Hello 2 all, My favorite song is playing - it is calling all angels .My ex brings it to my awareness - those a-s lol he got busted dui - I already told him to walk. To walk was our negotiated when we were out drinking. I was home - he wanted his turn and due to this wonderful space (alanon) I knew to...

New member · jenna

Hi everyone. I'm new to this...I've recently come to terms with the fact that I'm an adult child of alcoholics and unfortunately there is no alanon meetings in my community. So, it's a HUGE relief to find a place to go to share...even if it's online

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Keep It Simple It’s going to be a long hard drag, but we’ll make it. ---Janis Jopin Some people start each day with a groan. They act like staying sober is no fun at all. They may have turned over their illness to their Higher Power. But they haven’t yet turned over their will and their life. They don’t se...

sandy · sandy

Hi , Well, here I am again all distraught and upset. I went for my yearly checkup with the doctor and got a bad report. He said my CA levels were up. Now I've been going for test after test looking for cancer. Of course some of them takes weeks to get in. So far they have...

megan · megan

I attended my first alkathon on Thanksgiving evening with my friend. There was alanon participation. Unfortunately by the time we got there alanon was over and it was just AA. (My brother who did dinner had a broken oven and the turkey was done late) So we stayed for the AA meetings. T...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, I called my sponser tonight, and went and met her for coffee. I don't get to see her as often as I like. Seems I am always running. I told her I would make time during the Holidays to talk with her and she reminded me that I needed to care for me. She said I look tired and frazzled. I brought her up to spee...

Cyn · Cyn

Hi, I cant tell you if you should or shouldnt leave your A but I do know what a little bit of time dealing with mine has done to me over the past two months. About writing him a letter - after reading many of these posts on this site - I agree with alot that is said. The drug is what is controlling...

kitty · kitty

So they say, what's good for the goose is good the for the gander (did I sp that correctly?) I have seen my therapist 3 times - & I went to the lawyer's ofc w/ my mother. They both basically said the same thing... my therapist (wonderful Sicilian woman) sd, "don't throw pearls among...

leo · leo

Hi guys need a bit of strength here yesterday my A came home from work asked for a lift to the shops and to me looked like he had been drinking. I was on my way out and told him that I would drop him off but he needed to remember that I had told him I would not be running him around(he has no licence). He said...

chrissy · chrissy

hi everyone i want to thank you all for all your love and support you are so wonderful you are great friends! i have so much to be thankful for:) i have my family & my friends. i have my family back . my husband is doing great my daughter is back to calling him d...

michimoon · michimoon

hi everyone i have posted before back in august and wouldn't you know it my pc crashed the next day. since then i have a new lease on life. i read so many of your postings and i have to tell you..roller coasters..highs..lows..there is so many out there going through what i go through everyday, that...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I have barely been home a day and when my mom and dad picked me up at the bus station my mom was drunk!

Tonight my mom and dad are drunk and my grandfather is drinking heavily and the situation of him getting back to the hotel may be hellish like last year, which resulted in me b...

TLC2 · TLC2

For the first time in more years than I can remember, I have been getting excited about the coming season, even with the wondering... Just shoved it aside, and went on with my preperations. My daughter and family are coming home, I've even started writing cards.( I haven't done that in a lonnngggg time...

John · John

Turn your speakers on and check me out.. doin' da Al-Anon Wiggle for ya's! John Doin' Da Al-Anon Wiggle for All is friends!

Robinks · Robinks

Just wanted you to know that I love you and support you always. I hope you are doing better soon, it is ok to feel sad. RobinKS

sg · sg

This morning my A. and I sat down and talked. He said he didn't know where he was going to go (since I asked him to leave). We talked about how it isn't necessarily a relapse in drinking that concerns me, it is his attitude and how he treats me and the kids-esp. the 15 yr old. The daughter had to go to baske...

hadit · hadit

Last week he tells me he wants to stop drinking, etc. Not that I totally believed it but theres always that glimmer of hope some of us still hold on to. Yesterday, I spent the day at my daughters for Thanksgiving and had a great time with family and friends. He was not there. As I am leaving my daughters, he c...

Rod A 49 · Rod A 49

Hi All, well, I had a chance to put some Al-anon to the test over the holiday. My roomate and "A" with his incredible timing decided to go on a binge Wednesday evening and he didn't come home. We were supposed to spend the Thanksgiving holiday with his sister. I've only met her...

Diva · Diva

Thanksgiving Day already. Where did the year go???? I hope each of you has made a forward step or two in your recovery program this year. And now that we are at the beginning of the holiday season, I wish each of you a Merry Christmas, Happy Channukah, Delightful Kwanzaa..whatever suits your fancy to ce...

kitty · kitty

This morning my mother out of the blue, picked up a book that has been in her bathroom for nearly 8 months or more cd: Beyond the Influence, Understanding & Defeatting Alcoholism by Katherine Ketcham & Wm. F. Asbury. I have always told her about a "trick" I use with books, as I collect r...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Don't know if anyone remembers the "Potato Chip Dance" story that went around as a forward, but I found it tonight on this website. Good one to read when you are so damn frustrated/mad and do not know what to do. www.dodgenet.com/~tzingale/occaison/frame.htm

(May...

chrissy · chrissy

i had a great day!! my daughter wasn't well enough to go to the parade. it was so cold, so we watched it on tv. but we went to our friends house in the city for dinner. it was very nice. there was wine & beer there which i was shocked because my friend is a recovering a too...

Mars · Mars

bless my partner , he got up and out of bed earliy [ well for him ] to come and view a dead wale that was on the beach near our home . i am so pleased he did this . one because my son and i really really wanted to see it , and i want to build memories that are not to do with booze in any way . also ther was a chance he would b...

liliana · liliana

hi my name is Lil. I am new to the boards. I am not new to Al-anon though. I have gone to meetings since 1996. I stopped going about 3 1/2 years ago because it got alittle too gossipy for me. My husband was active in AA at the time and we split up for about 5 months and there was alot of...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hello everyone, Happy Thanksgiving to my family here. I am greatful for all the love and support you have shown me. Right now my family is snoozing, kitty included. I just got up from a nap. This has been the most blessed, and wondrful day. My A is sober, and he was bouncing around the house this m...

Kim · Kim

I am on a rollercoaster of emotions....I had called a few times. He called back a few times. I had his phone still.....I guess it was my way of controlling him for one last moment. He called for it....I wanted to throw it in the trash as it was the symbol of the betrayal in my eyes. I nstead I drove it to him and...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Roomies, I grew up in an alcoholic home. We had a lot of 12-step/self-help literature around and I read a lot with an eye towards how we could solve our family problems. Quite frequently, I would come up with what I considered a *brilliant* solution to a problem and then be heartbroken when noone else...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

THANKS to all of you who were nice to write me in my time of need......here is the update...it was perfect for this AA thought for today........ A.A. Thought for the Day I no longer refuse to do anything because I cannot do it to perfection. Many of us alcoholics use the excuse of no...

captcodee · captcodee

The alcoholic/addict in my life didn't come home last night. He was too drunk to hit the train. The old me would have hopped in the car at 11:30 at night and gone across the city to get him, fuming and resentful all the way. I would have had a fight with a drunk on the phone, trying to MAKE him f...

twopoodles · twopoodles

Hi everyone, this is my first post and I wanted to post in the form of a dear john letter, I have recently broken up with my partner, who is addicted to narcotics and I am in alot of pain and confused. I hope you don't mind my post. Please bear with me. Dear John, Right now I am feeling very sad, an...

mamareich · mamareich

hi. i just wanted to share this. i have recently gone back to step one and began again after a year and a half. i thought i would start with being honest with myself. so here goes........ Alone. I am sick to God damn death of being alone. I am always alone. Here with you or in a crowded place or on a freew...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i am finally doing the best thing that i could ever do for myself. tonight im having my last cigarette. (i hope) ive never quit before so i hope im one of the lucky ones that only has to do it once. im going on the patch and will wean off that when i am ready. this is a huge step for me. before i never cared to quit b...

sunny1 · sunny1

Good Evening all, It was 2 weeks ago now and I was off to what I thought would be a retreat weekend, Well was I surprised to find out that it was a self awarness course. The course has 4 Steps. That was step 1. Now this weekend is step 2. I think I was able to receive the me...

sallyb · sallyb

Last night we were at home. My a got up and prepared to leave the house at 11:00 p.m. He said he was going to get a beer, did I want anything? Hmm. Um.... no. I didn't want anything. I thanked him for telling me the truth about why he was leaving and to...

whitie · whitie

I'm truly counting my blessings this Thanksgiving. Number 1 on my list is Ala-non and all the supportive people I've come across in the program. Number 2 is the relationship I've built with my HP (thanks to Ala-non). Number 3 are two very close friends that have seen me at my worst over the last couple...

sunny1 · sunny1

Have a great Thanksgiving my fellow friends.... I live in Canada but in honor of all of you, I will remeber to be thankful today aswell. Every single person deserves peace and harmoney. Enjoy your dinners... Love Sunny1

Kim · Kim

Just came back from a crying jag with my therapist. I have reached the inner circle of hell in the past two days...not sleeping, not eating just meandering through a thousand thoughts of "WHY". There is an answer. He is an addict. There is another answer. Because I am co-dependent...

Jeannie · Jeannie

(((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))) Of all the things in my life I am grateful for, at the top of the list is all of you. I wish you all a wonderful thanksgiving. Hopefully a day of peace, goodtimes, family and friends. No matter what tomorrow brings any of us, Friday is another day. ...

Kim · Kim

Hello Roomies: Just wanted to say that today I am thankful that I found this board. I am grateful to all of you for your support. Happy Thanksgiving to all.....may you all have peace and happiness today. Hugs Kim

AlaMom · AlaMom

((((((Everyone)))))) I want to wish each and everyone of you a Happy Thanksgiving. It is so hard for many of us to remember that we have in spite of this disease much to be thankful for. Here are a few things that I thought of this morning and wanted to share. Feel free to add to this l...

Maria123 · Maria123

Hey gang, I can't get into chatroom or even www.12stepforums.net ~ anyone else? or should I just get a Q-tip? lol Maria

ODAT · ODAT

I am so pissed. I was doing the big shop for Thanksgiving this afternoon and my credit card comes up "reported stolen". When I got home I call A at the hospital where he is detoxing and has pneumonia and he says "oops, I cancelled the credit cards when I was drunk last week." Yeah, right... oops. The...

kissers · kissers

I have picked excerpts in the book that seem most important. It would be too much to type everything, so here it goes. Book: How Al-Anon Works for Families & Friends of Alcoholics Becoming Aware We come to Al-Anon seeking change. We want to end our pain, and we tur...

Picowitch · Picowitch

This is actually a joke so please dont get offended - read it all the way down I will seek & find you . . . I shall take you to bed & have my way with you . I will make you ache, shake & sweat until you moan & groan. I will make you beg for mercy, beg for me to stop. I will exh...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I was worried over how to approach my husband about a whole lot of things. Well I din't have to he approached me. We talked for a few hours. More than I think we have talked in a few years. I don't really know how it went. It is amazing, he can still turn things around, but he was being a llot more reasonable t...

sg · sg

First off, my apologizes for my language. So A. comes home happy as a lark talking about starting treatment next wednesday. He will be in out patient treatment for a month. I was downstairs w/him in his office having a smoke and coffee after dinner when he was telling me about how his day went. I listened...

Barbara · Barbara

seems not only will my A husband be here with his A friend but there's a tv marathon on that my son wants to see. There goes my going to the movies to break up the day idea. And no I havent gone to the movies alone yet - Im not going to start on a family holiday! Soooo have a good Thanksgiving everyone - see ya Fr...

Evilynn · Evilynn

And I haven't for the last few days.I spent time with my family and I will be happy to tell you all that my mother is going to 90 meetings in 90 days, well, she is attempting to and has been to meetings twice a day since Friday. I would say I am proud but I don't want to sound like I had something to do with it. She i...

jaja · jaja

Well, my A is still in his motel room but he comes to house every day. Not to stay long but it's funny. He still has not taken any of his possessions or mail with him and when he does come over, he is ever so polite, takes the garbage out. He and our son finish work about 2 hours before I do and he'll stay in...

david62 · david62

Howdy Y'all! Well after a journey which took me through 4 states in 11 days and 4000 miles of driving, I am back home. As some of you know, I too attended the Serenity in Yosemite conference along with other members of this site. Needless to say, I saw so much. What a big beautif...

Barbara · Barbara

The holidays (Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter) finds just husband, son and I hanging out for the day. We may get together to eat but then we all go off and do our own thing. How do you guys handle the holidays?

kitty · kitty

Whatever an addict admits to, when they are "backed into a corner" (& that means, being confronted, not just feely & openly confessing) they are only telling you a third or a 1/4 of the truth. They lie to themselves, they lie to get what they want, the lie to "keep you off their back". You can...

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	giving up is not failure (Preview) *Giving up is not giving in, nor is it failing. It is no longer needing to be right. --Anonymous* When someone tells us a riddle, we may give up if we don't know the answer. We give up because we are tired of trying to get it, or because we are eager to find out what it is. Giving up in other situations, may be...	rosie light shines	2	521	Nov 27, 2005 by megan
	Create This Day (Preview) Hey there, ya'll. Got this in an email tonight and it really gave me something to think about. It reminded me to quit dwelling on the A being in jail, to quit dwelling on the fact that he wrecked my car and as of Monday I will have no vehicle (insurance company totaled it and are comin...	FreeOfTheBottle	5	574	Nov 27, 2005 by megan
	I am afraid...and alone (Preview) I am alone I sit in a room full of people, and still I stare at the wall I have no close friends…all are acquaintances I am scared to trust, for my heart will not survive another hurt I am alone,for nobody understands me They see me as content, full of life, and soo vibrant I am not like...	Lauren ashley	7	709	Nov 27, 2005 by angelinme908
	New Member (Preview) Hello Everyone, I wanted to share my story with you. I am just starting to realize that I need some support.. I can't deal with my "A" alone anymore. Came here for some guidance on how to start caring for myself. I have been with him for 8 yrs. Some days are wonderful. He is my best f...	Joann54	9	499	Nov 27, 2005 by whitie
	new member (Preview) Hello everyone. I signed up here a few weeks ago, but so far I've just been "lurking." I got an email today from someone who asked me to participate. Guess it's time. I've been going to meetings here since June. I cried like a baby at the first meeting and completely embarassed myself, but found so mu...	Michele	6	604	Nov 27, 2005 by marmare
	Thank God for chocolate cake! lol (Preview) Well I finally have a smile on my face today and its all because of chocolate cake! lol Another friend of my husbands just showed up and he brought chocolate cake! yummmmmmmmmmmmmmm Happy Thanksgiving everyone	Barbara	2	668	Nov 26, 2005 by Jeannie
	Christmas giving tree at Church (Preview) Besides having tags for children, our Church is giving us the option to buy for recovering addicts. What would you put in a woman's Christmas present bag?	Barbara	4	591	Nov 26, 2005 by Jeannie
	This made us all laugh at our Friday F2F ... (Preview) Well we all show up at the church and the door is locked so we head down to the local diner. One our groups spouse was there as he had the day off Friday. He looks down at the diner placemat. Blessing's Auto Service......antique and new cars, towing and recovery, 24hr service with a day and ni...	bobump	3	468	Nov 26, 2005 by Jeannie
	spiritual moment (Preview) Hello 2 all, My favorite song is playing - it is calling all angels .My ex brings it to my awareness - those a-s lol he got busted dui - I already told him to walk. To walk was our negotiated when we were out drinking. I was home - he wanted his turn and due to this wonderful space (alanon) I knew to...	wille	3	473	Nov 26, 2005 by Jeannie
	New member (Preview) Hi everyone. I'm new to this...I've recently come to terms with the fact that I'm an adult child of alcoholics and unfortunately there is no alanon meetings in my community. So, it's a HUGE relief to find a place to go to share...even if it's online	jenna	1	431	Nov 26, 2005 by Jeannie
	change IS a long hard drag (Preview) Keep It Simple It’s going to be a long hard drag, but we’ll make it. ---Janis Jopin Some people start each day with a groan. They act like staying sober is no fun at all. They may have turned over their illness to their Higher Power. But they haven’t yet turned over their will and their life. They don’t se...	rosie light shines	0	425	Nov 26, 2005 by rosie light shines
	I can't do this anymore (Preview) Hi , Well, here I am again all distraught and upset. I went for my yearly checkup with the doctor and got a bad report. He said my CA levels were up. Now I've been going for test after test looking for cancer. Of course some of them takes weeks to get in. So far they have...	sandy	9	739	Nov 26, 2005 by KathyS
	Thanksgiving Alkathon (Preview) I attended my first alkathon on Thanksgiving evening with my friend. There was alanon participation. Unfortunately by the time we got there alanon was over and it was just AA. (My brother who did dinner had a broken oven and the turkey was done late) So we stayed for the AA meetings. T...	megan	4	563	Nov 26, 2005 by shimo
	Starting over!!!!!!!!!!! (Preview) Hi, I called my sponser tonight, and went and met her for coffee. I don't get to see her as often as I like. Seems I am always running. I told her I would make time during the Holidays to talk with her and she reminded me that I needed to care for me. She said I look tired and frazzled. I brought her up to spee...	Jeannie	4	624	Nov 26, 2005 by TLC2
	Response to Twopoodles (Preview) Hi, I cant tell you if you should or shouldnt leave your A but I do know what a little bit of time dealing with mine has done to me over the past two months. About writing him a letter - after reading many of these posts on this site - I agree with alot that is said. The drug is what is controlling...	Cyn	2	495	Nov 26, 2005 by Rebecca
	I wear my heart on my sleeve (Preview) So they say, what's good for the goose is good the for the gander (did I sp that correctly?) I have seen my therapist 3 times - & I went to the lawyer's ofc w/ my mother. They both basically said the same thing... my therapist (wonderful Sicilian woman) sd, "don't throw pearls among...	kitty	6	1807	Nov 26, 2005 by WakingUp
	worn out and manipulated (Preview) Hi guys need a bit of strength here yesterday my A came home from work asked for a lift to the shops and to me looked like he had been drinking. I was on my way out and told him that I would drop him off but he needed to remember that I had told him I would not be running him around(he has no licence). He said...	leo	4	558	Nov 26, 2005 by rosie light shines
	happy thanksgiving:) (Preview) hi everyone i want to thank you all for all your love and support you are so wonderful you are great friends! i have so much to be thankful for:) i have my family & my friends. i have my family back . my husband is doing great my daughter is back to calling him d...	chrissy	1	481	Nov 26, 2005 by ESH
	one more time (Preview) hi everyone i have posted before back in august and wouldn't you know it my pc crashed the next day. since then i have a new lease on life. i read so many of your postings and i have to tell you..roller coasters..highs..lows..there is so many out there going through what i go through everyday, that...	michimoon	2	458	Nov 26, 2005 by ESH
	How does one stay calm when surrounded by As? (Preview) I have barely been home a day and when my mom and dad picked me up at the bus station my mom was drunk! Tonight my mom and dad are drunk and my grandfather is drinking heavily and the situation of him getting back to the hotel may be hellish like last year, which resulted in me b...	Lanchas	8	806	Nov 26, 2005 by Lanchas
	As I was sitting on my pitty pot today... (Preview) For the first time in more years than I can remember, I have been getting excited about the coming season, even with the wondering... Just shoved it aside, and went on with my preperations. My daughter and family are coming home, I've even started writing cards.( I haven't done that in a lonnngggg time...	TLC2	2	608	Nov 26, 2005 by Barbara
	John's Al-Anon Wiggle (Preview) Turn your speakers on and check me out.. doin' da Al-Anon Wiggle for ya's! John Doin' Da Al-Anon Wiggle for All is friends!	John	7	621	Nov 26, 2005 by Dolphin123
	TiredTonight (Preview) Just wanted you to know that I love you and support you always. I hope you are doing better soon, it is ok to feel sad. RobinKS	Robinks	0	652	Nov 25, 2005 by tiredtonite
	ask mom (Preview) This morning my A. and I sat down and talked. He said he didn't know where he was going to go (since I asked him to leave). We talked about how it isn't necessarily a relapse in drinking that concerns me, it is his attitude and how he treats me and the kids-esp. the 15 yr old. The daughter had to go to baske...	sg	4	509	Nov 25, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	Starting To Hate Him More Than The Disease (Preview) Last week he tells me he wants to stop drinking, etc. Not that I totally believed it but theres always that glimmer of hope some of us still hold on to. Yesterday, I spent the day at my daughters for Thanksgiving and had a great time with family and friends. He was not there. As I am leaving my daughters, he c...	hadit	5	826	Nov 25, 2005 by iona54
	Thanksgiving (Preview) Hi All, well, I had a chance to put some Al-anon to the test over the holiday. My roomate and "A" with his incredible timing decided to go on a binge Wednesday evening and he didn't come home. We were supposed to spend the Thanksgiving holiday with his sister. I've only met her...	Rod A 49	4	505	Nov 25, 2005 by kitty
	The holiday season (speaking politically correctly) (Preview) Thanksgiving Day already. Where did the year go???? I hope each of you has made a forward step or two in your recovery program this year. And now that we are at the beginning of the holiday season, I wish each of you a Merry Christmas, Happy Channukah, Delightful Kwanzaa..whatever suits your fancy to ce...	Diva	4	574	Nov 25, 2005 by kitty
	love & acceptance - how to help an A (Preview) This morning my mother out of the blue, picked up a book that has been in her bathroom for nearly 8 months or more cd: Beyond the Influence, Understanding & Defeatting Alcoholism by Katherine Ketcham & Wm. F. Asbury. I have always told her about a "trick" I use with books, as I collect r...	kitty	1	633	Nov 25, 2005 by dori
	"Potato Chip Dance" Story site (Preview) Don't know if anyone remembers the "Potato Chip Dance" story that went around as a forward, but I found it tonight on this website. Good one to read when you are so damn frustrated/mad and do not know what to do. www.dodgenet.com/~tzingale/occaison/frame.htm (May...	wallsal55	3	1495	Nov 25, 2005 by chrissy
	i had a great day! (Preview) i had a great day!! my daughter wasn't well enough to go to the parade. it was so cold, so we watched it on tv. but we went to our friends house in the city for dinner. it was very nice. there was wine & beer there which i was shocked because my friend is a recovering a too...	chrissy	4	641	Nov 25, 2005 by chrissy
	As big as a whale (Preview) bless my partner , he got up and out of bed earliy [ well for him ] to come and view a dead wale that was on the beach near our home . i am so pleased he did this . one because my son and i really really wanted to see it , and i want to build memories that are not to do with booze in any way . also ther was a chance he would b...	Mars	2	617	Nov 25, 2005 by kitty
	my a is in a rage lately (Preview) hi my name is Lil. I am new to the boards. I am not new to Al-anon though. I have gone to meetings since 1996. I stopped going about 3 1/2 years ago because it got alittle too gossipy for me. My husband was active in AA at the time and we split up for about 5 months and there was alot of...	liliana	6	622	Nov 25, 2005 by notsonew1111
	A hopeful Thanksgiving (Preview) Hello everyone, Happy Thanksgiving to my family here. I am greatful for all the love and support you have shown me. Right now my family is snoozing, kitty included. I just got up from a nap. This has been the most blessed, and wondrful day. My A is sober, and he was bouncing around the house this m...	Karilynn	2	737	Nov 25, 2005 by marmare
	trying to let go (Preview) I am on a rollercoaster of emotions....I had called a few times. He called back a few times. I had his phone still.....I guess it was my way of controlling him for one last moment. He called for it....I wanted to throw it in the trash as it was the symbol of the betrayal in my eyes. I nstead I drove it to him and...	Kim	4	629	Nov 25, 2005 by jaja
	Sobriety from Fighting. ES&H Needed. (Preview) Roomies, I grew up in an alcoholic home. We had a lot of 12-step/self-help literature around and I read a lot with an eye towards how we could solve our family problems. Quite frequently, I would come up with what I considered a brilliant solution to a problem and then be heartbroken when noone else...	BlueCloud	3	1133	Nov 24, 2005 by nmike
	UPdate on lost doggie (Preview) THANKS to all of you who were nice to write me in my time of need......here is the update...it was perfect for this AA thought for today........ A.A. Thought for the Day I no longer refuse to do anything because I cannot do it to perfection. Many of us alcoholics use the excuse of no...	rosie light shines	2	687	Nov 24, 2005 by Robinks
	I find peace amid the chaos (Preview) The alcoholic/addict in my life didn't come home last night. He was too drunk to hit the train. The old me would have hopped in the car at 11:30 at night and gone across the city to get him, fuming and resentful all the way. I would have had a fight with a drunk on the phone, trying to MAKE him f...	captcodee	3	726	Nov 24, 2005 by bobump
	Dear John (Preview) Hi everyone, this is my first post and I wanted to post in the form of a dear john letter, I have recently broken up with my partner, who is addicted to narcotics and I am in alot of pain and confused. I hope you don't mind my post. Please bear with me. Dear John, Right now I am feeling very sad, an...	twopoodles	5	580	Nov 24, 2005 by twopoodles
	honesty....... (Preview) hi. i just wanted to share this. i have recently gone back to step one and began again after a year and a half. i thought i would start with being honest with myself. so here goes........ Alone. I am sick to God damn death of being alone. I am always alone. Here with you or in a crowded place or on a freew...	mamareich	2	741	Nov 24, 2005 by abbyal
	doing something for me (Preview) i am finally doing the best thing that i could ever do for myself. tonight im having my last cigarette. (i hope) ive never quit before so i hope im one of the lucky ones that only has to do it once. im going on the patch and will wean off that when i am ready. this is a huge step for me. before i never cared to quit b...	notsonew1111	4	743	Nov 24, 2005 by Vermont635a
	step 2 (Preview) Good Evening all, It was 2 weeks ago now and I was off to what I thought would be a retreat weekend, Well was I surprised to find out that it was a self awarness course. The course has 4 Steps. That was step 1. Now this weekend is step 2. I think I was able to receive the me...	sunny1	1	535	Nov 24, 2005 by captcodee
	Getting Easier! (Preview) Last night we were at home. My a got up and prepared to leave the house at 11:00 p.m. He said he was going to get a beer, did I want anything? Hmm. Um.... no. I didn't want anything. I thanked him for telling me the truth about why he was leaving and to...	sallyb	2	626	Nov 24, 2005 by captcodee
	oh so Thankful (Preview) I'm truly counting my blessings this Thanksgiving. Number 1 on my list is Ala-non and all the supportive people I've come across in the program. Number 2 is the relationship I've built with my HP (thanks to Ala-non). Number 3 are two very close friends that have seen me at my worst over the last couple...	whitie	1	721	Nov 24, 2005 by kismetstrand
	US Thanksgiving.... (Preview) Have a great Thanksgiving my fellow friends.... I live in Canada but in honor of all of you, I will remeber to be thankful today aswell. Every single person deserves peace and harmoney. Enjoy your dinners... Love Sunny1	sunny1	2	440	Nov 24, 2005 by browneyes
	Hello all (Preview) Just came back from a crying jag with my therapist. I have reached the inner circle of hell in the past two days...not sleeping, not eating just meandering through a thousand thoughts of "WHY". There is an answer. He is an addict. There is another answer. Because I am co-dependent...	Kim	4	597	Nov 24, 2005 by browneyes
	I wish each and every one of you.... (Preview) (((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))) Of all the things in my life I am grateful for, at the top of the list is all of you. I wish you all a wonderful thanksgiving. Hopefully a day of peace, goodtimes, family and friends. No matter what tomorrow brings any of us, Friday is another day. ...	Jeannie	5	487	Nov 24, 2005 by browneyes
	Happy Thanksgiving (Preview) Hello Roomies: Just wanted to say that today I am thankful that I found this board. I am grateful to all of you for your support. Happy Thanksgiving to all.....may you all have peace and happiness today. Hugs Kim	Kim	1	572	Nov 24, 2005 by browneyes
	It can be a Happy Thanksgiving (Preview) ((((((Everyone)))))) I want to wish each and everyone of you a Happy Thanksgiving. It is so hard for many of us to remember that we have in spite of this disease much to be thankful for. Here are a few things that I thought of this morning and wanted to share. Feel free to add to this l...	AlaMom	5	546	Nov 24, 2005 by browneyes
	chatroom (Preview) Hey gang, I can't get into chatroom or even www.12stepforums.net ~ anyone else? or should I just get a Q-tip? lol Maria	Maria123	5	826	Nov 24, 2005 by John
	My A cancelled the credit cards (Preview) I am so pissed. I was doing the big shop for Thanksgiving this afternoon and my credit card comes up "reported stolen". When I got home I call A at the hospital where he is detoxing and has pneumonia and he says "oops, I cancelled the credit cards when I was drunk last week." Yeah, right... oops. The...	ODAT	5	783	Nov 24, 2005 by WakingUp
	Al-Anon Book Excerpt #2 (Preview) I have picked excerpts in the book that seem most important. It would be too much to type everything, so here it goes. Book: How Al-Anon Works for Families & Friends of Alcoholics Becoming Aware We come to Al-Anon seeking change. We want to end our pain, and we tur...	kissers	3	864	Nov 24, 2005 by leo
	the ultimate seduction! (Preview) This is actually a joke so please dont get offended - read it all the way down I will seek & find you . . . I shall take you to bed & have my way with you . I will make you ache, shake & sweat until you moan & groan. I will make you beg for mercy, beg for me to stop. I will exh...	Picowitch	8	868	Nov 24, 2005 by leo
	Long talk (Preview) I was worried over how to approach my husband about a whole lot of things. Well I din't have to he approached me. We talked for a few hours. More than I think we have talked in a few years. I don't really know how it went. It is amazing, he can still turn things around, but he was being a llot more reasonable t...	Jeannie	3	462	Nov 24, 2005 by leo
	holy xxxx did it hit the fan! (Preview) First off, my apologizes for my language. So A. comes home happy as a lark talking about starting treatment next wednesday. He will be in out patient treatment for a month. I was downstairs w/him in his office having a smoke and coffee after dinner when he was telling me about how his day went. I listened...	sg	6	942	Nov 24, 2005 by leo
	is it Fri morn yet? Im not getting out of bed Thurs (Preview) seems not only will my A husband be here with his A friend but there's a tv marathon on that my son wants to see. There goes my going to the movies to break up the day idea. And no I havent gone to the movies alone yet - Im not going to start on a family holiday! Soooo have a good Thanksgiving everyone - see ya Fr...	Barbara	4	731	Nov 24, 2005 by kitty
	I am not going to complain about him today... (Preview) And I haven't for the last few days.I spent time with my family and I will be happy to tell you all that my mother is going to 90 meetings in 90 days, well, she is attempting to and has been to meetings twice a day since Friday. I would say I am proud but I don't want to sound like I had something to do with it. She i...	Evilynn	2	729	Nov 24, 2005 by kitty
	He's coming to dinner.. (Preview) Well, my A is still in his motel room but he comes to house every day. Not to stay long but it's funny. He still has not taken any of his possessions or mail with him and when he does come over, he is ever so polite, takes the garbage out. He and our son finish work about 2 hours before I do and he'll stay in...	jaja	1	778	Nov 24, 2005 by twopoodles
	I'm Baaaaccckk! (Preview) Howdy Y'all! Well after a journey which took me through 4 states in 11 days and 4000 miles of driving, I am back home. As some of you know, I too attended the Serenity in Yosemite conference along with other members of this site. Needless to say, I saw so much. What a big beautif...	david62	9	949	Nov 23, 2005 by david62
	dreading the holidays - anyone else? (Preview) The holidays (Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter) finds just husband, son and I hanging out for the day. We may get together to eat but then we all go off and do our own thing. How do you guys handle the holidays?	Barbara	11	899	Nov 23, 2005 by jonibaloni21
	an Addict told me this 20 yrs ago (Preview) Whatever an addict admits to, when they are "backed into a corner" (& that means, being confronted, not just feely & openly confessing) they are only telling you a third or a 1/4 of the truth. They lie to themselves, they lie to get what they want, the lie to "keep you off their back". You can...	kitty	4	911	Nov 23, 2005 by Jeannie
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