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Sherry


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     I just got divorced 111105.  I feel angry and I know I need to let it go.  I even have angry dreams.  I feel, basically, like I got traded for booze.  I tried for 10 years to have a normal life. I didn't realize the magnitude of the problem until I had been married for  a while.  My A came from a family of alcoholics--a long line of them. 


     I realized at age 14 that my dad was an alcoholic.  Maybe I was trying to fix my dad in some way?


     Anyway...I am now divorced, living with my 8 yr old.  My ex husband/A rarely calls our child.  He spent the last 2 weeks out of state with his drinking family.  If anything had happened to my child, I would not have been able to reach him. I just wish someone could say the words to me to make me stop thinking about it, accept it.  I don't want to be angry any more.  I need to make peace with myself.



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Sherry everytime you feel angry look into the beautiful face of your innocent 8 year old child and know you have given her/him a better life.  Luv Leo x

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((((((((((((Sherry)))))))))))))))))))) <---------hugs for you and your child.


This is raw right now, I am sure.  Welcome to Miracles in Progress (MIP).  First of all divorce is like death in many ways and you will experience the 5 stages.  Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and oh so thankfully and finally ACCEPTANCE.  There's just no easy way through this.  I wish I could say there was.  The best way to help yourself and your child is to feel the feelings (in a safe environment), deal with the feelings (talk, talk, talk - talk here on the boards, talk in our chat room and talk to a counselor -- both you and your child) and then heal from the experience.  It will make you stronger.


The chatroom link is:


http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html


Many here can relate to your experience.  Join us anytime.


I am glad you posted, keep coming.  Al Anon is a slow, gentle teacher.


Maria123



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Thanks leo, for the perfect response to sherry. Sherry, I wish you all good things in your new life. Concentrate now on the positive side of this experience. Al Anon can help.

Best of wishes, Diva

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Sherry


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Thanks, so much, for taking the time. Sherry

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WELCOME TO THE MIP FAMILY. KEEP POSTING.

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