The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
A husband finally told his A friend that he cant pickup/bring him home every week couple times a week. Husband just twice sank money into his car for repairs. I had been warning him that this would happen for the past few months but he needed to find out on his own. Normally I would have paid these bills off myself but this time I didnt.
Husband has been good w/his drinking for the past wk. Yes I see the bottle (that I havent doctored) going down but he seems to be stopping himself before he gets obliterated!
Went back to a meeting yesterday but didnt share. Its going into my head (again) that I dont need Al-Anon. I dont honestly believe husband's drinking will stay on an even keel. I know if I stop working on myself I'll be running back here. So just want everyone to know Im still out here and for now life is ok.
Now if I can only get my body back in shape from eating too much chocolate cake on Thanksgiving! lol
Barbara you are doing so well. I remember your first posting when you said you were watering down the alcohol. I used to do that too. Everyday you let your A be a little bit more responsible you are taking a bit of the burden off yourself. It is so hard to be patient when we want all the answers and everything fixed straight away. You should be proud of yourself.
I did 1 month of Alanon on my A's first mega binge. Then she was hospitalized and also IOP'd in a MICA unit. Slowly thing got better in a way. Better was just less drinking but old comfortable unhealthy coping skills and relational behavoirs.
By not staying with Alanon I lost the opportunity to have 4 years of recovery under my belt.
In 1 month, alanon helped give me he strength to set healthy boundries. That was enough to impart changes in the household.
All I can tell you is I'm back here in alanon and wish I never took 'time off.'
Bob
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